16 Lessons From 2024 - Chris Bumstead, Elon Musk & Alex Hormozi

[@ChrisWillx]

Hello you savages. Get my free End Of Year Review Template here - chriswillx.com/review/ Here's the timestamps: 00:00 The Insecure Overachiever Mindset 06:27 There Are No Solutions, Only Trade-Offs 07:49 Setting Time for Gratitude 09:18 Men Are Seen as the Problem 15:49 The Backlash to Ozempic 24:04 Don’t Be Ashamed of Your Effort 26:14 An Unexpected Sign of Success 27:39 Don’t Aim for Mediocre 31:39 The Quiet Work Behind the Achievements 34:00 What It’s Really Like to Be a CEO 37:59 The World Belongs to Optimists 44:09 Does Belief or Action Come First? 50:53 How Much Should You Care About Things? 54:50 Being Mean Doesn’t Change People’s Minds 56:58 Men Have to Earn the Right to Talk About Their Emotions 1:00:19 The Real Reason Behind Divorce

[@UltimateTechHub]

Thanks Chris! Great video as usual!

[@Yu_Arfa_Kingdom]

bro i have a clubbed foot but played 3 sports and was a captain in 2, dad died when i was 11 in 99, mom was laid up in bed from 94 to 2002, gf was in a coma with 10% chance to live in 05, kicked out in 07 for smoking weed, lost license in 05 for driving 140 on the highway while high and still dont have one, started a business that made 3500 a week but my business partner embezzled all the $, i was kicked out at 19 in 07 because i smoked weed but now i have an effing medical card... im a millionaire now. if i can do it with everything stacked against me and a broken body and death surrounding me... you can too. you can probably go further if you actually tried. im not special im just not a quitter. go get it and dont let anything stand in your way. (note i pay too much for employees to mow lawns at 25$ a lawn in areas where 50$ a lawn is standard, i pay my guys extra for going above and beyond and getting more than their quotas done for the day, we charge market price for other services) so im not some greedy ceo either, thats not the only path. find ways to make peoples goals align with yours and find mutually beneficial situations for your business and your customers and everyone wins. we werent profitable mowing lawns until we had 25 accounts but i found that in my own neighborhood before i had to hire a driver and buy a truck so my overhead was nothing. i simply mowed lawns for myself instead of a middle man. take agency in your life and youll find youve lost everyone to blame but yourself, and thats a heavy motivator to get you off your own ass. embrace challenge as an opportunity to prove yourself, not as a woe is me situation where you feel sorry for yourself. push the limits and youll be amazed at what you can achieve Edit: my mom was in a car accident in 1994 and herniated 3 disks in her back, she ended up having 13 back surgeries because the doctor kept suggesting she have them, our settlement covered the first 3. she tried to sue the doctor but was 6 months late on the statute of limitations, this cost us 8 million dollars after my father was working 18 hr days that ended up killing him. my clubbed foot is pretty severe, doctors told my parents i wouldnt be able to walk but they didnt tell me that until i made my first allstar team in baseball. our travel team that year came in 2nd place in all of northern illinois and i was starting shortstop.

[@santathegreat-k7k]

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊8

[@Macc2356]

I realised when listening to the men being a problem section that Chris is one of the few people filling the void of male role models in such a profound and productive way and i’m so grateful for it, thank you mate

[@WillTheWalker]

Divorce was the wake-up call that caused my people pleasing natured self to start making decisions that felt selfish but were really just making me and my life better. I've since moved across the country, tripled my income as an entrepreneur, remarried, and have a 1mo old child. I learned how to be alone, enjoy my own company, and say no. I still feel the urge to avoid conflict but instead make a conscious decision to speak truth in love with the same kindness I learned to show myself. It's possible to make real progress in your life guys!! Took me about 4 years to get here and I'm about to turn 30. I thank God for His favor every day.

[@seekerofthemutablebalance5228]

" and yet they so often mistake my kindness for weakness " Good stuff bro

[@RuslanKD]

Man you spoke into my soul this morning. Thanks for sharing this. Appreciate you

[@DrBrianKeating]

Take a drink every time Chris says ‘derogate’!😂congratulations Chris!🎉🎉

[@westcoastkidd17]

34:00, quote about being a ceo or running a startup. I really like Marc Andreessen's quote, "The best thing about startups is you only ever experience two emotions: euphoria and terror. And I find that lack of sleep enhances both of them".

[@Rogerllowery82]

I am one of those who found you this year…haven’t stopped listening yet. Thank you I have gained some momentum in my personal development journey and a considerable amount of that has been solely due to your own. I love it man!

[@jeanbaynham6698]

So happy you said Happy Christmas !

[@Enidable]

I like the balance in the lessons between a more merciful approach and a motivational pull. It’s also nice to realize how much more common it is for people to struggle with these aspects than the impression I get from those around me. Since you quoted Goethe, there’s another quote I really like, probably the most famous one in German: "Zwei Seelen wohnen, ach! in meiner Brust," which translates to "Alas, two souls dwell within my breast!" This line reflects Faust’s internal struggle between “the artist and the scientist.” This sentiment feels like a common background theme in many of your episodes. Thanks for the lessons Chris! :)

[@henrycollins2478]

18:21 finally taking my physical health seriously. I’m down 6 pounds since the start of December. I’m feeling amazing

[@andrewmullins5169]

If no one else tells you. Good job. Keep going! I’m doing the same as well

[@Junotekh]

Great work man! Keep it up. The process of weight loss can be tough, but 1-2 years from now you'll look back and be forever grateful for your choices.

[@gregnak07]

Keep pushin. Whenever anyone tries to downplay their weight loss, I always tell them to go to the meat section at the grocery store and pick up 1 pound of meat. Then pick up a few more. 1 pound is a lot for real. 6 is like a sack of potatoes. You should be very proud

[@zygimantas5461]

Thanks for this year of uploading a wisdom to our minds

[@Litboy_skiddit]

I’m one of the new 66% of people listening this year. You’re very interspective and it’s been a pleasure

[@andreidumitrescu9375]

Chris, it's been a pleasure hearing multiple lessons from you and everybody you had on this year. You are doing great, bringing some much knowlegde to so many people around the globe. Keep it up, keep the focus and energy. See you next year mate! 💪

[@Merritt2323]

Someone at work yesterday went on and on about how working out was the most insecure thing you could do and that’s why he’d never do it. At first I was annoyed that he had an option that was opposite to mine, but then I got happy… keep thinking that and loving your conveniently placed excuses while I just keep getting better every day. Stay in comfort forever, it’s okay I’ll never see you again. Just a different way of accepting the negativity that’s in this world today. You have no control over anything but yourself so don’t give it any energy.

[@avvocatodellacity9044]

Working out insecure? haha. so eating deliveroo while scrolling on your phone getting fat and soft: does that give you security? leave him alone. Not worth it

[@Mr_Penguins_Pet_Human]

I agree. We can't control others, but we can choose our external and internal reactions. Since few people have influence over my life, I also choose to ignore what they think or do and just smile to myself and move on. And if someones rude or overly negative, I remind myself that they have to live with that mindset everyday, and how miserable it must be for them. Unfortunately, as another post mentioned, consider the average person - half of humanity falls below that standard!

[@SimmerFerdon221]

My main concern is how to survive all of these financial and political crisis, especially in light of the US political power scuffle. The government has really called things more difficult for its citizens, and we can't sit back and bear all the consequences of the bad governance.

[@Johnny.503]

I think investors should always put their cash to work, especially In 2025, we'll start to see more market diversification. I'm hoping to invest about $350k of my savings in stocks against next year. Hope to make millions in 2025.

[@YoungWillow36]

I suggest that hiring a portfolio coach is a smart move and that in this case, patience is your best friend. I make a lot of investments and cannot afford to take the risk of doing it alone. Instead, since the rona outbreak began in late 2019, my portfolio has been maintained by a qualified advisor. I only need about $86k more to reach my one million dollar ROI goal

[@EnocksonFerrall]

Yes true, I have been in touch with a brokerage Advisor. With an initial starting reserve of $75k, my advisor chooses the entry and exit commands for my portfolio, which has grown to approximately $550k.

[@ClassicFantastic5028]

The way to survive is to unplug.

[@hunterwildes3646]

I am part of the 66% that started watching this year. You have quickly become my favorite podcaster. Not just because of the guests, but because of quality of your show. Love the questions you ask and the effort you put into giving the listener actually useful wisdom. Big fan

[@michellemorales5522]

Thank you for “win-ziping” it for us ! ❤

[@Slaman5150]

Thank you so much man! U have helped me make changes I could not possibly explain here. I am a Navy Veteran who has gone thru 2.5 years of rehab and ptsd groups and all the rest. I am happy to report I am over 14 months clean and sober and btwn you and two handfulls of your friends have helped me thru the slog and now have the inspiration to be successful. Thank God it's okay to be obsessive!

[@INAMOSHPIT]

Chris is literally saving many people. Appreciate it!

[@Dank_Lulu]

You're like the friend I never had when I was getting bullied in school. And it's helping me mend the issues that were unfixed since then. Mostly, getting my sense of self back and realizing the bully is no better than me. Not just because my ego would like that but because the reason I listened to the bully was because I wanted to make the better choice. So those that made me feel broken and gave me a solution used me at my expense and made me feel horrible and selfish for wanting anything for myself in my own life-experience. You're also like the mage scholar that gave me the spells to battle the ghost of Karl Marx that lives in my mind. Thanks, Chris. I hope you skillfully follow your own advice and have a lot of fun during the holidays! ❤💪

[@JayBucks46s]

absolutely killed this, chris. please keep that same energy for next year whilst pushing out this stellar content. everyone’s got their struggles. it’s amazing to see how you can put out such exquisite information that can be directly correlated to a vast majority of your listener’s livelihoods. 10/10 - will be sharing with immediate friends and family 🤙🏼

[@FiddleSticks800]

It’s as if you this message were customized for me today. Thank you. I really enjoy your genuine thought provoking content.

[@oliviaoxley]

Your way of explaining things always fascinates me. You’re an incredible speaker and storyteller. Love the way your brain works ❤

[@scottlangdon1469]

Saving this video 🙌 Need to watch this like 10+ times, so good!

[@manletsoup]

This is one of the most important channels on KZbin

[@charlesdickerson601]

Appreciate this recap and reflection. Overall there is a level, logically driven narrative of embracing optimism in how we view ourselves and the more voices that successfully deliver that message, the better.

[@TakeElite]

10:02 : I had a HUGE FEELING OF VOID AND SOLITUDE : I took a walk this week, because I'm working on in important thing and I was totally absorbed, I didn't went out for 3 days...I have the tendency to brainstorm at loud, and I did it outside, then I put earphone in ears as is I have a phone conversation, to not look like as the fool speaking to himself ...and then I realized Nobody care about me, and not just about this conversation, I reviewed my Text, and I have only message from people demanding me things, asking for me help...nobody ever asks me how I am, how what I'm doing progress, or just chit chatting....

[@FilteredInc]

Thank you Chris! Meet Christmas!

[@emmmalmgren]

Absolutely spot on with everything thank you for taking the time to put this together as you have. Excited for 2025

[@rsn9394]

What a video! Interesting insights!!

[@MikeRenouf]

33:10 Interesting. Quotes are like martial arts kata. They contain the principles of a system, not every application or technique within it.

[@AdamOutdoors1]

The zero-sum empathy concept is great

[@kamliaganeva8620]

I work in the mental health field, and although more men are seeking help lately, there’s still a stigma preventing many from reaching out. I wish that wasn’t the case and that they realized taking care of their mental health doesn’t make them weak - it can only make them healthier.

[@mitsuman5555]

Insecure overachiever here, with low self-belief and high standards. Closing out a year of frustration, dead ends, and unmet goals. MW content leans aspirational and feels geared towards folks who have found success and only need to loosen their grip and enjoy the ride (which I appreciate). But there are those of us who aren't "in orbit" at the moment, and sometimes all you manage to do is blow up on the launch pad. Over and over and over. If that's you, you're not alone. We'll make it happen next year.

[@yashtapase3821]

Thx sir😊

[@FordesBreakingNews]

As long as you keep trying to send launches up, you're gonna be fine ... no matter how often they fail..

[@gregnak07]

I imagine there are many of us bro. All that matters is what put in the effort and don’t give up

[@goblinsquirt]

These are my favourite type of videos you make. I appreciate the interviews, but these direct and personal reflections are so cathartic for me. The frequency of their uploads are also perfect.

[@user-lp9qk4zr2j]

Thanks!

[@MonicaMoveMIRealty]

Keep making KZbin great!!

[@sacrilegiousheathen1071]

I am a leftist and appreciate your videos as an alternate perspective to my own, because I learned this year I need to do a better job of trying to understand the other side. It's interesting to me hearing you idolize demonstrably awful, exploitative wealthy people, one of whom you had on the other day regarding the Mangione case, but most of the time I learn something new from you and appreciate it. I wish more people cared to do a little introspection and stop simply feeding on the stuff the algorithm feeds them.

[@TakeElite]

I'm not a lefty per se because I totally embrace liberalism but if I have to label myself I lean more towards this side. -first the Left leaders gentrified, in French we use the expression GAUCHE CAVIAR (literally left-caviar) I live in Paris, and the Mayor is on the left-side...ok but the most decisions and law she passes are against poor people, and she doesn't do it on purpose but it's the result! She is against cars and practically banned them from paris except brand-new ones( who can pass the pollution threshold) or electrics cars...only rich people can afford that type of cars...the expression for that is Punitive-ecology. -Another huge flaw among others I identified on the left side is "unity of struggles" (this how we call it in French do know it is universal) which means they will defend WORKER AND emigrant AND women AND LGBT...etc it can seems a good thing at first glance BUT in fact it just blur the all message ( if I want to have a pizza I don't go to a chinese restaurant) and even be counterproductive and mostly because working-class has the impression of being abandoned by the left in favor of LGBT ....and don't me wrong I'm pro liberty, anyone can do anything they want BUT they're a NICHE and putting that kind of speech up front, give the impression that they are just fighting for the right of this fraction of people And fort the last argument I can only recommend you the video of @JimmyTheGiant How The Left FAILED Young Men...basically the right convoy the idea of being ALPHA MALE and the left are pussies ( his words 😁)

[@Superdisco199]

Yeah, part of the dating process is working out if you have a functional dispute resolution process. Being able to resolve problems is a much better indicator of how long the relationship will last, more so than how much you like them or how much fun you have.

[@larsmaehler1]

sheesh, the amount of quotable gold in this is insane! ❤

[@maisonvenkov]

I'll play this to my child one day.

[@stargazer440]

Oh no. What I feared has come to fruition. Big Derogate has gotten to Chris and compromised him. Much love, brother. I’m very pleased at your increasing success. You deserve it. You are making the world a better place.

[@landontownsend4715]

You talk about trying to enjoy yourself by letting go a bit and not trying to take everything so seriously. But what if I enjoy taking everything seriously? What if I enjoy trying to maximize my pickleball game. Because for me, I enjoy that time even during the game where I’m strategizing on how to win and locking the fuck in on something that doesn’t matter. I see where you’re coming from as you definitely don’t need to take everything so seriously, but I enjoy that seriousness.

[@WTHPOPL]

So grateful for your podcast sir, and all the work that you put in along the years. It has been absolutely amazing to follow your journey. Thank you for your time and expertise in sifting out the valuable information from the amazing guests. Have a blessed and beautiful day sir.

[@ChasingPerfection]

Ozempic, just like any fat loss surgery, doesn't fix the root problem. If the individual doesn't make better choices using their own free will, they will just fall back into the old, unhealthy habit. However, Ozempic users loose muscle along with fat. So when they stop taking or fall off the wagon, they gain fat back. Which puts them in a worse spot then prior. Weight loss surgeries are a glorified eating disorder which is exactly what ozempic is, minus the vomiting from eating too much from having a stomach stapled. My wife's mother had weight loss surgery and she is as big or bigger then she was before. But now she vomits if she eats too much of certain things. The system is broken. Lets prescribe X drug or X surgery rather then fixing the root cause. The person's diet...

[@seekerofthemutablebalance5228]

They did a study and found that fat cells have a memory so fat people are more likely to gain the weight back easier cuz their cells are now programed for it. very unfortunate and I don't tell fat people this

[@dazzadance]

Thank you for this episode. Some things in here I really needed to hear at this moment in my life. Many thanks.

[@JohnPretty1]

One of the 66%. One of the best podcasts out there IMO.

[@benjaminniemi3455]

Couldn't agree more

[@HrissW]

3:45! 4:06 just feel the moment 3:29! F anxiety

[@Top10-i1x2m]

I am glad you do this Chris, your conversations have had a massive impact on how I look at the world and every time I click your video, I walk out 0.2% smarter with questions I would reflect on Can’t wait for your book, whenever that happens

[@beatb1969]

Adored that Chris and discovered you via the Jimmy Carr interview. Absolutely wowderful work you produce with these shows. Your shows give me braingasms. So mind expanding. Thanks and take care x

[@ElijahMedinaVids]

Thanks for all your hard work Chris this podcast was the friend I needed in my corner, many high and many low moments for me this year but I didn’t feel so lonely knowing I could listen to a good conversation and learn something along the way, you have my gratitude. 🙏🏽

[@Lightknight1991]

Hello Chris! Hello all! Merry Christmas and a blessed and prosperous new year 💙 thanks for the wisdom! 🎉

[@Carpe-Diem-gg1hg]

Wow "modern wisdom" this is real modern wisdom. Whether it feels like a self fulfilling prophecy or the other way around, this channel has truly done it.

[@happysad12321]

Absolute tank thanks Chris

[@michaelnoname1518]

Fantastic Chris! Have a great festive season (and hurry back! 😀).

[@scottvandenberg9161]

Typically brilliant - appreciate all your content.

[@trishul_bawankar]

Much needed, Thank you!

[@mitchellblodget239]

You da man! Watched every episode since the last six months. Keep up the good work.

[@7week161]

i just wanna say that you and your podcasts has been a great inspiration for me.....(and i just wanna say this so that i can look back on this and say that i made it happen, one day ill meet ya, when im better, when im different from my current self and be proud of who i became throughout this journey that i go through)

[@shahintabibzadeh1525]

Great podcast. Keep it up.

[@FarmTraveler]

Chris, you're the GOAT, So happy to see your growth!

[@rebekahelliott5297]

A virtuous act is virtuous. Doing a virtuous thing is doing something virtuous. But does doing a virtuous act make YOU virtuous if it's a compulsion? No, the act is still virtuous but you aren't necessarily. Yet failing to act virtuously isnt going to make you a virtuous person either. Don't work on changing the act because that part is already good. Work on your cumpulsions cuz thats where the problem is. At least that's my equation.

[@benstanfill363]

I only found this channel maybe a month ago. It had been recommended many times over the last year, maybe more, but I already listened to so much I figured I didn’t need more, but then I saw an episode with Mike Isratel and immediately became obsessed. I listen to at least one and sometimes 2 or 3 a day at work.

[@andrewthompson6893]

Thanks for that, it was fantastic, as always!

[@Croowelli]

18:00 Some people simply do not want the society to degenerate to living unhealthy and rely on drugs. Being slim due to drugs use does not mean being physicaly and mentaly healthy. Pushing drugs instead of healthy lifestyle as a solution for improved health of people seems like such a naive and short-sighted view of the issue.

[@vVCRUSHVv]

Thanks for sharing true modern wisdom with the world. The work is appreciated.

[@clarissezamba1583]

I first discovered your videos from the 15 lessons in 2023. Thank you for all your hard work-it’s been great being a subscriber. 🙏🏿✨

[@pieterdreyer7539]

Love you man! Keep on keeping on!😂😂😂

[@PacoDoesThings]

I was one of the 66%, I can’t even remember what guest you had in but what I enjoyed so much about your content was your curiosity. And it’s some I’d forgotten about myself, so I just wanted to say thank you for that.

[@fnhclub]

Wow thank you for this!

[@GE0attack]

Please get Naval On your podcast please 🙏

[@anikaarrington5614]

On the Ozempic front- take a look at Dr. Heather Heying's substack from last week. Serious heart muscle damage might be on the horizon for long term users. Having taken it for a short stint myself, I can tell you I lost so much muscle that I am still trying to get back.

[@peter_schomus]

God, I love the way Chris thinks and treats every topic with humility and deep thought. Inspiring. Your brain works so well. Lol

[@joshua_meyers]

@ChrisWillx Your kindness default is your strength. Keep it embrace it. Reinforce the opposite - danger responses. My response would be upregulate your threat response systems, and verify your faith in your circle as to weed out enemies. Simple Test Divide a chocolate unevenly, and let your friend first choose the bigger or smaller piece. If you receive the big piece - divide again and re offer.

[@endgamefond]

Did you get an email from Luigi Mangoine? I noticed he sent emails to like-minded people. He also sent emails to Tim Urban.

[@albertlevins9191]

My mother always told me: "Hope for the best, but plan for the worst." That is how I take it. Unfortunately that comes with a lot of worry built in. I am trying to separate the 2 now. Maybe I don't need to worry so much.

[@umagite1516]

Explain your Daily routine in detail

[@jrapny]

I second this.

[@MiniPantel]

Third this. For real, would love to see this

[@trevorcook4439]

Why? It’s actually pretty personal. I don’t mean a personal question but personal goals and how you achieve those goals. We aren’t robots.

[@darraghdifiore]

Let’s hear yours 😂

[@ar7774]

No. You.

[@MrViper1330]

Im excited for the new year

[@Sigh554]

Bro LEVELED up ⬆

[@JamieKelly-l5y]

9:43 ‘Male suicide accounts for as many deaths as breast cancer’ Unless I am miss interpreting this, If he’s saying that more men die from suicide than women die from breast cancer, It’s not correct. Going off UK statistics here: Approximately, there was around 4,500 male suicides in 2023. Around 11,400 female breast cancer deaths in 2023. This is in no way critical of Chris or the show. I am a massive fan. Been to his live show in the UK. But when I heard this, I had to take a look for myself. The stats I found are from Cancer research UK and Office for National Statistics.

[@PlsDontDisastar]

Please do a show with Eminem. I know it's basically asking for the impossible, but who else could do it proper...? Thanks for a great year Chris. Have a great end of the year

[@zensvlognotapro]

I' m also a fan of quotes😊 . I read something about quote : a meaningful short quote is better than a long essay . When I was in college quote become my map , my motivation and inspiration . I bought an old magazine MOD in the first page I found there different quotes that makes me inspired. I bought the old magazines because it was 70 percent cheaper than the new one ☺. Also there's a quote on Reader's Digest that I saw from the bookshelves of hubby's uncle . He encouraged people to read . I also read The Wisdom of the Wise is preserved through quote.

[@Sergio-ds3sq]

Thanks for this.

[@roar1149]

What you said about trying to enjoy the process really resonates with me. I stress over the outcome greatly at work and the other day was in a meeting with a very successful man who was enjoying the day, present, and his personality was welcoming and warm. Trusting ourselves and believing that we'll get to the finish line safely is key.

[@Backwardsmule]

This 2024 Lesson cast is your best yet, gj dude!

[@ForbesHydraulics]

Your content has made me a better man. I appreciate all that you do.

[@matiaschaparro823]

Been waiting for this one since I saw it on the newsletter

[@PontusOzzyA]

I think you are good for the world Chris, thank tou.

[@IanFergusonRealtor]

“All the usual stuff” 🤣 🤣

[@POVLA]

Thanks for this episode. It’s nice to take a moment, look back, reflect, and review what we learned.

[@christianbaxter_yt]

Thank you Chris. Sincerely, Christian Baxter

[@Aguyandsometools]

Excellent message. God bless you and your work thank you!

[@UltimateTechHub]

Saw the Thumbnail and thought, Yep I gotta watch it! Love all 3 of those guys!

[@hardstyle8184]

ELON? OMG WHAT A FANBOY... POOFTAS

[@UltimateTechHub]

@hardstyle8184 Lol!

[@TheAndreszone]

Glad I discovered Chris this year, amazing podcast & wish you an amazing 2025! 🙏

[@Brett757]

This is great

[@stacyliddell5038]

Chris, there are no solutions, just trade-offs. So what are the trade-offs of Ozempic? It can't be all upside.

[@OhHa-jh9py]

I like your timely mention of obscure anecdotes-I.e., Darwin’s opinion of marriage. Another great podcast.

[@hypnotechno]

740 the cost of doing business that was really helpful

[@theprotestantreset]

Interesting insight about Ozempic and I agree with your premise! Don't want to take away but I want to add on top. I believe the reason those who enjoy getting in shape has come from both internal and external benefits. Not only how you look but the person you become in the process. It's an external marker of those who are building internal qualities. Jealousy might be an aspect of it, but I do desire others to feel that same progression that I have felt as I've become a better version of myself. So slowly taking away everything that challenges or builds up a human scares me for the future. We see that the less our society is challenged, the more self-sabotaging we become. We need elements of this life to build our character through struggle and perseverance. Does that have to be exercise only? No, I guess not. But the questions is if we slowly take away these things, where do we find them.

[@absurdpixie]

56:58 - about men having to earn the right to talk about their emotions: I’ve thought about this one a lot. Maybe it’s because I have a great relationship with my (very masculine) dad and older brother, but this just doesn’t quite ring true for me (not that there’s no double standard against men, but I don’t think this is the explanation for it). To me, this theory feels more true on social media than in real life. I think people’s “ick” towards “emotional” men comes more from what they perceive as a disproportional response to the given situation, than him having a lack of “man points”. It’s not attractive to watch any adult human being throw a temper tantrum, or wallow in self pity. It’s true that society’s sense of what amounts to an “overreaction” is skewed against men, allowing them less leeway to display strong vulnerable emotions- I’d say that’s definitely true. But it’s not like people are leaving derisive comments under videos of fathers crying when their military son comes home for Christmas, or when a victim of a crime/traumatic event is recounting his experiences, etc. I see this happening more when the audience perceives the subject of the man’s distress as not justifiable. For example, third-wave feminists and misandrists telling men to “stop crying” because they don’t have any real problems because ~patriarchy~ (despite the absolutely tragic suicide/mental health stats Chris shared). They simply don’t have any empathy for the struggles being endured by the men they’re talking about. It’s less about “man points” and more about the perceived justifiableness of the emotions in relationship to the situation. Anyway, thanks for a very enlightening and relatable year of podcasts, Chris!! Can’t wait til you bring the tour to Arizona.