2 months since my cancer diagnosis, have not seen an oncologist yet. Update.

[@AftonHH]

None of this is okay, Jess. You are right to advocate for yourself. And of course any symptom is going to trigger you because now you’re experiencing hyper vigilance. You are seen, you are supported by us, and know that you are in our prayers. Love to you, friend. Wish I could give you a big hug.

[@ruthgoff3540]

This is UNACCEPTABLE mam. Im 67, i was diagnosed with breast cancer stage 2 in nov of 2022, then cervical cancer stage 4 in Dec. Of 2022. I had external and internal radiation for the most aggressive stage 4 cervical cancer. Im still to have my breast surgery soon and its now 2024. The cervical pain was excruciating. Im so blessed to have had the most amazing team of specialist in the Nashville, TN area. YOU MUST be your own best advocate! Speak up, say something! This is your life honey. Ill be praying for you.

[@dianegiulioni9890]

In case cancer itself wasn’t unfair enough you’ve had an extra helping with the utter insanity of this broken system. Wishing you a visit filled with care, compassion, insight and meaningful progress tomorrow. ❤❤ sending hugs always!

[@dermlover1]

system isn't broken at all. I know multiple people who got cancer diagnoses and were seen immediately. Her experience is the exception, not the rule.The healthcare system in the US is leaps and bounds better than socialist countries, just ask someone in England or Canada. Mind you, I know people born and raised in both places, and they say how frustrating socialized medicine is and how long it takes to get referrals and see specialist. We're talking years in some cases, unless you go private and pay out of pocket, which defeats the whole purpose of paying a sh*t ton of taxes into the system.

[@BeSchmenda]

One of the best things we did when dealing with cancer in my family was getting a referral to MD Anderson in Houston. It took significant financial resources for all the traveling for appointments but the scheduling of appointments and tests was very on the ball. Do not stop advocating for yourself! You are doing great.

[@davisholman8149]

Jessica - I live in Arizona & we have an MD Anderson satellite clinic here. It is a ten minute drive from my home. I have guest rooms you would be welcome to stay in should you want a second opinion.🏨

[@UPDT8243]

Hi Jessica!! I am going to add my 2 cents to that. My husband had been waiting since July of 2023 to be seen by a doctor at a very well known cancer hospital here in Texas, we have good insurance ,and they've had taken testing and appointments very slow. So far 8 months has passed and he is going to start radiation later this month. We drive 71/2 hrs one way, and we are not the only ones. We met a very nice man and drives all the way from Arkansas, he's like us , in the same boat, we pay for gasoline, hotels, food and the excessive parking fees. And I agree, this health system is a joke.

[@susanmonty791]

The healthcare system is overrun with ppl crossing the border bringing sickness and diseases and won’t get better till they close it.

[@roncougar1]

Such a strong woman! This a so frustrating for me to watch this and I’m 56 yr old father of two adult children. This system is a sham, the last designed incident 3 1/2 years ago has purged many professional staff in many important areas causing a devastating void In especially the medical field. The people still in this system unfortunately were complicit or remain due to duress. My prayers are for all humanity, especially the children, I hope the evil of this world face the consequences for their malice actions.🙏

[@vballprincess814]

You are so brave going through this and telling your story. It’s wrong on so many levels how you have been treated and I hope going forward you get the respect that you need and deserve. You are in my prayers!

[@karmaleenash2841]

I no longer see a local gastroenterologist, and instead travel almost five hours to see my team at Duke. This is after multiple trips to local gastros, trips to Mayo, Johns Hopkins, USC, etc. I finally have a team at Duke who now see me every three months, or sooner if I need them. Advocating for yourself is so important. Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself, what you need. Sending you a bunch of healing hugs! 🙏

[@ga6589]

I'm sorry you're having these problems. My husband has been a stage 4 cancer patient (in remission) with the Mayo Clinic-Rochester for the past 2 1/2 years. We switched to them after a frustrating experience with a cancer center in our community. While Mayo is a 2 hour drive for us, it's worth it to receive stellar care and customer service. With his initial appointment, he was seen by an oncologist within a week of our call and this was in the thick of COVID. We drove down and had two days of appointments with consultations, scans and bloodwork. From there, they had a plan. The place is so efficient and they've never disappointed us.

[@danielbobberson9849]

Same here good old highway 52. This would not happen at Mayo or any hospital in our area.

[@ga6589]

@@danielbobberson9849 I know that stretch of road like the back of my hand!

[@ashleywall9886]

I don’t have a lot of friends so I have relied heavily, I mean HEAVILY, on you, your content, and your whole circle of community. My husband and I have been talking and praying about your situation and I feel so terrible that you have been going through all of this unnecessary run around. I hope that your appointment went well and I am thinking about you every day.

[@tinajohnson5685]

Oh honey. I can’t imagine how frustrating and scary this has been for you. It is ridiculous that you have had to go through all of this just to be seen! You are in my prayers ❤🙏🏻

[@leahm.324]

So proud of you. Praying for your appointment and I know God has this whole thing in His hand. ❤❤

[@Debilee16]

My god ,how horrendous, feel so bad for you , i got Breast cancer and within 2 weeks from diagnosis to start targeted therapy, im in UK ,i cant believe they just left you waiting, longer its left the more chance it will spread, Really hope it will be a good outcome for you now x

[@sunkissed26]

Oh Jess. This is so incredibly hard and frustrating. The amount of medical gaslighting you’ve experienced over the last 2 months is mind boggling. Everything you feel is valid. You are loved and appreciated and we are all hoping for the best for you ♥️

[@brittanyfreeman9101]

I wish I could reach through the screen and just give you a big hug Jess. You are doing amazing considering what all insurance and healthcare systems have out you through. Praying for the best case scenario for you. Sending lots of love to you and your family.

[@kaypash1454]

I’ve been a silent watcher for years now and my heart truly goes out to you Jess. I cannot believe all that you’ve been through and I can only imagine how scared and discouraged you must feel not feeling like anyone is on your side after giving you a big scary diagnosis. You are not alone in this. We all love you and are praying for justice and healing for you and believe that will come. ❤

[@DorisStrope]

I SO UNDERSTAND that fear when diagnosed with cancer. I would be working and just stop and say “I have cancer” and I felt so betrayed by my body. It was doing something on its own and nothing I could do would stop it. I ended up having a full hysterectomy and then had to wait for a follow up meeting with the doctor (a couple weeks later) to let me know the stage I had and that I didn’t need chemo or radiation. Thank you God but it is so very difficult, scary and lonely when this word “CANCER” is referring to yourself. My prayers are with you for healing, strength and a great outcome🙏🏻.

[@JayDee-ut5yg]

I'm so sorry you are going through all of this!!! I thought it was just my city and doctors but since Covid I think the whole world is just an ugly place now. So many do not care about jobs, being good people, humanity or anything!!! Really sad!! I'm glad you are going to finally get the help you need!!!

[@kdknice888]

Jess I hope you get better. My Nana had cancer and now she is cancer free after all the fighting and kemo and radiation. Just know you got this, don’t worry, live your best life, and Never Give up.💪🏽 And Have a Happy New Year. 🎆

[@jessicalisska8883]

I know we don’t know each other at all, but just know I’m praying for you, and I think about you almost every day. You’ve brought me so much comfort in what you have to say about motherhood, and I just want the very best for you. Hugs mama.

[@lizbellamy7501]

Oh Jess, seeing you cry made me cry. This is so tough. I am so sorry you're going through this and sorry that it has been such a horrible, dehumanizing process to just freaking see a doctor. I'm sending so, so many good thoughts your way for tomorrow. Lots of love.

[@marylockett8724]

I’m so sorry you’ve been treated this way. None of that is fine. All of that is hard and how incredibly kind and compassionate that where your heart goes is to others and how this experience may be hard for them. You don’t deserve for that to be your experience either. Praying for you.

[@tashawoody4013]

I am praying for you today, sweet girl. so thankful that you are finally having your appt and hopefully getting some information that is specific to YOU.

[@darleneczaja9364]

You deserve better. I had breast cancer this year and I also had to wait a long time for appointments. You need to stand up for yourself or find a new oncologist. I am scheduled for reconstruction surgery next Friday and so excited to get to this point. I will pray for you. I hope your doctors are vigilant, kind and caring. You deserve nothing less. Don’t be afraid to rely on friends and family to help you through your journey. It’s okay to cry. You can do this.

[@Genie519]

I’m so sorry you are on this hard journey. I had a scare a few years ago and it was crushing because of my kids being so little. I was so worried and my heart goes out to you. Lean on your family and the Lord as much as you can. Sending you love, light and hope during this time❤️

[@fireflys1999]

Sending all my love and prayers ❤️ I’m so glad you’re speaking about your experience! The system is so backwards. I wish the best for you and your fam

[@peacefulminimalist2028]

I'm in Scandinavia and was diagnosed with breastcancer last year. I got all my scans done rapidly during the first week of my diagnosis and then started treatment 2 days after the last scan. This sounds wild to me, it must have been a very scary situation to be waiting for that long. Wish you all the best ❤❤

[@countrygirl366]

First off i wanna say hello 👋 and i just was reccomended your channel and of course i subbed. ❤❤❤ Next i want to say that im so glad that your sharing your story with us all. Your life. Real life ❤❤❤❤sending prayers & lots of love & hugs from ohio. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@Medhead24]

I can’t believe they treated you like that. You’re in my prayers luv ❤❤❤

[@melissa_ann_p]

I’m so very sorry you are going through this ! I’m keeping you and my family in my prayers! Our healthcare system is ridiculous and not acceptable. I can’t even imagine going through this with with little ones as well. However you are gonna beat this shine through it all like the beautiful star that you are and with all the grace you always show. Warmest hugs to you from sunny Florida 🥰🥰🥰

[@emmaclouse4693]

I’m so heartbroken for you and your family. The situation you’re in is impossible and you seem to be handling it with such grace and strength. I can understand being the care giver and wanting to watch out for others in those type of appointments. I’ve been through similar with close family members and I would really recommend asking to record the sessions if you do end up going to future appointments alone. There can be lots of information to try and track. Having the recording to reference was so helpful for my family. I hope you’re finally on track to get the care you’ve deserved from the beginning.

[@hayleybell_tx]

Praying so hard for you. I am so sorry you’re going through this.

[@singingpuffin]

Thinking of you so much, hope your care and recovery is now speedy and excellent. I'm sorry it's been so much more awful and scary than it should have been - hope that part is behind you and that you are now in great hands. You are a lovely soul, best wishes.

[@marybethbarner1145]

Praying for peace, clear answers and that you are able to come out of the appointment with a treatment plan!

[@natalygraterol3835]

I am so sorry you are going tru this! Sending you love and good energy for tomorrow!

[@hconf]

I am so sorry, Jess. Sending you love and hugs and strength and badassery

[@DariaKalm]

I hope you find a great medical team and wish you a complete healing!! ❤️‍🩹

[@briannacarreras7262]

You are so beautiful and brave and I'll be praying so hard for you ❤🙏

[@melbaashley5706]

This is SO sad ..... a cancer diagnosis is scary enough without someone not following through .... good luck on your appointment ... and prayers for you ....

[@erikagoncalves3948]

Wishing you all the best! It’s sad how this healthcare system works most just want the insurance money and do not care about the patient you shouldn’t have to be chasing them down they should be contacting you this is a serious matter

[@juliapallante1815]

2 years ago I stumbled upon one of your videos when I was searching how I was having a hard time being a first time mom to my newborn baby. I instantly loved your attitude, tone and how pretty you are haha. Now 2 years later, I stumbled upon your 2 under 2 video because I had another little one 2 months ago. Since then your videos have popped up and I’ve watched your journey with cancer. I’m sending you all the positive vibes. You will be ok- and just know that I admire your attitude going through this. You’re doing great

[@supermarissa]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I just wanted to hug you in the middle of the video. Stay strong Jess!! ❤❤

[@hemidancer64]

Good luck tomorrow, Jess. Hoping all goes well and the news is good.

[@Sam-qt5ff]

I would do anything to give you a hug! You’re such a strong woman you’ve got this. Sending so so so much love from a mama of 3 from canada ❤️

[@sabrina22471]

Sending you the biggest hugs and positive vibes for your appointment tomorrow ❤️

[@johnq5307]

Praying for you! God speed and good luck!

[@sarahjewel04]

Feel all the feelings. We’re praying for you! Gods got you.

[@sunshine037gv]

Thank you for sharing. I'm sending you all the energy to fight this and big hugs over the Internet. You're amazing and strong! ❤

[@nathalieethier6552]

Sending you lots of good energy for tomorrow and a big hug! 🌺... from me in Montreal Canada 🇨🇦, endometrial adenocarcinoma survivor, that was dealth with by surgery, 7 years ago. You got this girl! 🧡🩷

[@misschris28]

I know I haven’t met you, but I just want to hug you 🤗. So glad you finally got your appointment and please keep us posted! Sending prayers.

[@SoulClaireity]

Awwww babe!! I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal so long without any answers. That must be so scary. 😢 no matter how big or small the journey in front of you, I really intuitively feel you will soar through the healing process and use it in your work with women to connect deeper. Thanks for being so open with us and praying for you, sweet Mama!!

[@maripilymenendez]

Jess you are a strong woman ❤, I send you blessings and strenght during these challenging times, and you’ll be in my prayers 🙌🏼 so sorry you’re going through this.

[@Ray-pt5bi]

Oh sweetie. I get it. I do. It sucks so much to have to be this kind of strong. 😢 Love to you and the family❤

[@Scott_From_Canada]

I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with this process being so long and drawn out. You deserve better and I’m sorry you’ve not received that. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family right now and I hope you get some positive news tomorrow and you can get the ball rolling on treatment! ❤

[@cozmarine7771]

You poor poor lady.Dont be afraid to be damn assertive. Love from Brighton. Sussex ❤❤❤❤

[@staceyhutton5995]

I’m so sorry Jessica ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I can only imagine how much your imagination can run away when everything is such an unknown! I’m so sorry this has been such a horrible, delayed, frustrating, upsetting experience. I’m sending alllll of the virtual hugs and love to you. I will be thinking of you and your appointment. I so hope the next update is the best case update from the oncologist. Even though you don’t need to hear this from a stranger, I hope you know that everything you are feeling is completely valid and understandable and even what I would expect in your situation xxxx sending love to you and your family always

[@monicahuerta6206]

Hope all goes well tomorrow keeping you in my prayers 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@cathyvitale3670]

Good luck tomorrow! Terrible how you have been treated, it's just not acceptable! Prayers to a quick and speedy recovery!

[@damaris2085]

Wow Im so sorry! I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer on January 31,2024. I have had all my test and pre ops done every week since that day. I will start chemo next week and surgery right after its done. I live in Los Angeles and go to Cedars sinai if that helps anyone. I am very grateful because everything has been done with so much urgency ❤

[@itscool770]

Look into dr Holmes work. He’s in Glendale ca. he is a breast surgeon but he also specializes in cryoablation. He’s a pioneer in the industry and an amazing doctor.

[@katiesimko]

Jessica, you are my hero! You have so much courage. Thank you for sharing this journey with us. You are going to gain so much wisdom from this experience. Your wisdom will allow you to be an even better teacher (which is what you are). ❤

[@m_ish7]

❤ My heart is with you during this challenging time

[@SarayEcheverri-w9w]

Oh my goodness!!!! I'm a random person who was thinking this week about you and praying for you. I cannot imagine how you are feeling. I'm so sorry! Jesus be with you!!!!

[@asc9415]

Jessica, I'm so sorry you're going through such a difficult time. In spite of all these hardships you remain an inspiration for many of us. You are so brave!! I hope you will somehow get some reassuring news at your appointment and that you will be well taken care of. Sending you lots of energy!

[@megjansen5371]

Love you, hope your appointment goes well Jess xx

[@PaulVetter-g2r]

That was a smart decision to go to the cancer center in person. Please let us know what you learn during the appointment.

[@danielbobberson9849]

no cancer patient should have to do this.

[@TheTravelingSwiss]

You used one word here that was spot on for me "unjust" - nothing about this situation is just, my heart is breaking for you, but I'm continually grateful that you are sharing your energy with us on youtube.

[@brendab1614]

My heart goes out to you!

[@kayoss2306]

Sending you all the love Jessica ❤❤❤

[@kayleighbowser4786]

Good luck to you at your first appointment ❤ I hope things start getting better

[@carolinavaidez3949]

Hi Jessica! My wish is for you to be treated with respect and kindness at your appointment and throughout any procedure and treatment you may go through. 💐

[@emilydempsey2817]

I have been watching your videos for years and I admire you so much. I’m so sorry for how this whole process has been for you. What a scary thing to be going through and then to be brushed off by so many people is disheartening. You are a wonderful, strong woman and you can do this! You are in my prayers. Thank you for all the ways you have helped in my parenting/ life journey this far ❤

[@noramalik9348]

I love you. My heart is with you.

[@gildamolinar5155]

Ever since Covid everything has changed. Almost impossible to get a Dr’s appointment in a timely manner.

[@tayshavargas4547]

I am so hurt. I am hurting with you. But you have NO idea how much of the encouragement you have been for me. I have followed you since Spain. When I was going through the worst postpartum anxiety and depression I felt encourage by your videos and your testimony with postpartum depression. Now I feel heard because even though I have no cancer I am struggling with hard thing physically , mentally and financially. As in order to be well physically we need resources and I don’t have much of that right now as a stay at home mom. Honestly feel unfair that this is happening to you, but at the same time, we can look at Job in the Bible and think WOW that was devastating… I think God allow those who he loves go through hard seasons because we never grow in life as much as when we go through something very traumatic and painful. I trust the good Lord will heal you and you will use this testimony to bring others to him! I also pray for strength to while walking in the valley. You are amazing! And you are not alone

[@justbrowsing6121]

Feeling for you, and wishing you all the best

[@melb.6617]

Two months is not ok! You are so positive and just an inspiration. You’re going to kick this!

[@susanmonty791]

Since Covid there has been a severe staffing shortage and it hasnt improved much the last few years. You have to be pushy with your health and you’re your own advocate. Nobody else is responsible and not very many care. I wish you good health in the year to come. Stay positive girl friend.

[@pattyborden5400]

My sister was diagnosed with stage 4 cervical cancer 9 years ago, and is still alive. Her oncologist has told her that there is a new drug trial now that just requires taking a pill, and it is another miracle drug. Since immunotherapy came on the scene a few years back, they have made great strides and "stage 4" cancers are not as scary as they used to be. Praying that you will be able to get excellent treatment and hear the "cure" word. The oncologists are incredibly busy now, and I am constantly hearing of people I know being diagnosed with various cancers, but hang in there and once you are in they system, it will be much easier.

[@GodisInYourJobSearch]

Praying for you sweet girl. Come out of agreement with “cancer” God is holding you and you are healed!!!! In Jesus name!!

[@Bbuzzin5]

That is ridiculous! 2 months? I can't say it surprises me anymore, but it is not right. I cannot even imagine how you were able to think of anything else during that time. Keep up the good work being your own advocate!

[@hilaryb1993]

Wrapping you in the biggest hug, Jess. 💕

[@AnnHelenaSchlueter]

Oh how sad that your Rich Los Angeles cute Sweet Family life got a Little shaken

[@Plsbringtea]

Praying for you Jess

[@molinaofiana3569]

Praying for you right now!

[@Truth1561]

I am appalled at this delay. I was diagnosed in April, had surgery under 3 weeks later and started chemo/radiotherapy 6 weeks after my surgery. This was in 2015.

[@dorisschmeichel2949]

How awful this is. Our medical system is so broke. It’s bad enough going through all the steps, but then not even getting a response. I pray it all goes better. Offices should realize that the added stress is not healthy.

[@PAHGirly]

I am not a mom, a proud aunt to many, but I found your content some years back in my first pregnancy and then ttc journey after that loss. I stopped watching because abuse I received a medical diagnosis that took away my option for naturally bearing my own children, thus aunt life. But even though I can’t relate to the very good mothers club, I relate to the illness sucks club and I am so proud of you demanding to be heard and seen and advocating for your self.

[@Bloem777]

8 weeks seems a bit to long (?) So-called guidelines/rules in the Netherlands/Europe; (SONCOS) standards for cancer waiting times: The first outpatient visit means: the first visit to the medical specialist. The time between the first outpatient visit and the diagnosis is a maximum of 3 weeks. The time between the first outpatient visit and the start of treatment is a maximum of 6 weeks.

[@sharonjackson6784]

I was diagnosed with lung cancer in April and didn’t have surgery until July.

[@dgator3599]

So sorry you were treated this way. I'd switch doctors, quick if at all possible. I have a general practitioner at Mayo Clinic and just to see her it is a 4 month wait. (and she canceled 3 of my appts last year for her personal reasons). For that reason, I use a local GP in my small town for immediate care. I can get in to see him next day or at least within the week. If I can't get in quick enough to see him, I go to a care center/urgent care where I just have to pay my co-pay....anything to stay out of the ER. The only reason I keep the GP at Mayo is because if something big is wrong, I can use Mayo Clinic hospital and have priority since one of their doctors is my GP.

[@gildamolinar5155]

I’m having surgery and I had to physically go to the doctors office to ask why they hadn’t given me medical clearance after the doctor said she would send them over to the doctor who’s doing the surgery. I too made many many calls and would not receive a call back. It’s very frustrating.

[@luv2learn995]

They need to change the term medical care to just medical. There is no care anymore in this field. I’m so sorry this scary journey has been so awful.

[@davidkellymitchell4747]

I've had two cancers so far, AML leukemia and prostate cancer. That was all 14 years ago in 2009. Had a bone marrow transplant to cure leukemia. Been cancer free for 14 years now. Cancer is a scary word but an interstate highway should be a lot more scary since that's where most people die. I always keep cancer patients in my prayers because it's a tough experience even for the survivors. You'll be seeing doctors more than the grocery store but it's all worth it. Remember that.

[@kates8841]

Praying for you

[@nenaronan8679]

I will pray for you. I hope the Lord Jesus heal and bless you❤

[@nann1804]

After a million calls to them I was done.I had to ask to speak with a manager or higher up and file so many complaints before I finally got an appointment. This is not right at all. Not fair at all. Exactly my point for the people who can't advocate for themselves. 😢😢😢

[@truthsocial7338]

2 months referral from med insurance is criminal. HMO insurance sucks !!

[@janinecarlson6118]

Jessica, i dont know you but i did see you on Say Yes To The Dress. I was so upset that you passed out. This journey that you are on is a scary one. I would think. I want you to know i am thinking of you ad am praying for you slso. I wish you Gods blessings in a quick and speedy recovery. You are do sweet and beautiful and incredibly strong. Even if you do cry, you are just getting rid of rhe stress. I dont know if i have said the righr things to you but you are in my heart and prayers. 🙏🏻✝️🩷

[@Vaytra]

Never be afraid to advocate for yourself, and if you feel you can't, put someone you trust in charge to do so for you. You always need an advocate in a healthcare setting, and sometimes we aren't well-enough or equipped to do it ourselves. Ask questions, write it all down, and ask more questions. Do research and follow up, if they don't call you. Call and call and call, like you did. It might be annoying to them, but the squeaky wheel gets the grease. Get second opinions when you need to. Do what you have to, cause this is your life. Being ill with a critical illness is hard enough without having to navigate the healthcare setting, having to do that too can make it super hard, but you have family that loves you - and that support is crucial. Lean on them! You've got this! Hugs and love!!! I hope the rest of the experience is better than you have had so far!

[@johannaadams4703]

I had a similar thing happen to me. I found a lump in my breast in January of 2023. Called my GP right away. He made an appt for me in 4 days. Took a month to get an ultra sound and mammogram. When the results came back it was cancer.The day I saw my GP he said call this surgeon to make an appt. So I did. I had to wait 6 weeks to see the surgeon. When I got there he asked me 3 times why i was there. I told him 3 times I had a cancerous tumor in my breast. Finally he said, but I don't do breasts.I lost it. I was crying and asked him if he got the results from my tests and he said yes. I told him so you knew why I was coming and I feel like I have a ticking time bomb inside of me and you let me wait 6 weeks and I am back to square one. He told me it's in God's Hands.