2 New Romance Scams | Be on the Lookout!

[@Tracey-NZ]

Meet or DELETE in a week - excellent advice 👏👏

[@CoffeewithCarey]

That’s all you need! Problem solved. *brushes off hands* 😎😆

[@suekennedy4716]

Don't agree, others say this means you are a spammer, you ladies need to decide what the rules really are

[@kevincasey3219]

@@Tracey-NZ I block her and got a new number it was a night mare I wish did it I lost so much money

[@Rick-if5zb]

What if you have no transportation and neither do they? There are always exceptions and extenuating circumstances that happen.

[@thecatatemyhomework]

There have been teenagers who committed suicide because the scammers said they would send the compromising photos to their parents, their classmates, their school principal, their friends, etcetera.😢

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yep. They are not good people. They do that to older people as well, btw.

[@joannevanbelleghem1435]

Great video! The scammers are everywhere these days! You look good in green!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

thank you! I was having a green moment this week. ;-)

[@barbc7698]

I’m big on Social Catfish! I can spot fake profile a mile away

[@michelebartlett3921]

I love that show

[@CoffeewithCarey]

it all seems pretty redundant after a while, doesn’t it?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@TP-vu3tc I am not really understanding your question. But if I were to make a guess… I think only you can answer that question based on who you are meeting and connecting with.

[@TP-vu3tc]

@CoffeewithCarey A girl on Instagram who has the same views about having God in our life to get us to no each other better. In other words, using God, faith, praying, topics replacing sex topics, financial topics, etc. I go hand in hand with her religious thinking

[@TP-vu3tc]

First time listening to you. I can't wait to watch them all. I did subscribe and will recommend your site to others. Thanks for your time, Carey

[@TheRjb2010]

The line that I always use when they ask for money is, "If you want money, you have to come and get it." That usually shuts them down.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Why are you letting it get to that point?

[@TheresaWebster-rz5ny]

Hey I did that .

[@omekamary]

You might as well use your naked body to lure scammers in your town! Be on video not pictures

[@omekamary]

If scammers blackmailed you, find naked beach, colony and/or Resort!

[@kaleidoscopesthirdeyevizions]

If someone starts asking you for any kind of money that's a scam no reason to send money to someone you meet online real or not because falling in love shouldn't cost you anything ❤️

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Just follow my rule and you don’t have to think about any of this

[@kevincasey3219]

@@kaleidoscopesthirdeyevizions I agree with you I sould stop it 5 months ago

[@kevincasey3219]

my brother said I could lose my house and be on the street my house very important to me I have a cat to

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@kevincasey3219 I’m sorry.

[@kevincasey3219]

@@kaleidoscopesthirdeyevizions it is so hard who you can trust

[@michelebartlett3921]

I never take or send nude photos. I have more sense than that

[@CoffeewithCarey]

keep up the good work!! 😆

[@MarionBradford-o8e]

My niece laughingly told her daughter, if you send a picture never include your face. 👍🏽

[@omekamary]

I would find naked people in Miami and video myself with someone I love and say goodbye to the scammer's

[@omekamary]

I would find naked people in Miami and video myself with someone I love and say goodbye to the scammer's

[@themaxandlucyshow7590]

What on Earth would ever possess someone to send compromising photos of themselves to somebody they don't know?

[@arfriedman4577]

First time I see you. Glad you're exposing scams. I hope a lot of people see this. Much success and health to all.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

thank you. And I appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment.

[@patriciamcdermott9589]

good advice, wish every person on the planet would see this.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

That’s interesting to ponder. 🤔 that would be a lot of eyes. But if I had to pick an episode that everyone watched, this would probably not be the one. Now I have to think about which one would… Thanks for the comment!🤎👍

[@hump1953]

I really liked this video.... I read a story about a young man who was threatened with sextortion and he subsequently committed suicide...😢

[@CoffeewithCarey]

oh nooo. horrible. 😞 trust me, you would all be seeing naked pictures of my chubby body all over and everywhere before I even thought about offing myself from this fabulous life!

[@hump1953]

@@CoffeewithCarey 😜

[@ssiegreen5292]

@@CoffeewithCarey It was a kid - 17 yrs old - with a life waiting for him to live... Very sad!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@ssiegreen5292 beyond.

[@patriciamcdermott9589]

lots and lots of people have. i had a friend that killed himself over a romance scam.

[@AdamCarter30]

Good advice, I do a lot of scam baiting, and I'm glad to see more people on here spread some awareness of these scams.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

happy to help!!!

[@t-point7569]

@@CoffeewithCarey which dating app do they use for this crime.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@t-point7569 All dating apps, AND all social media! Be safe out there and make sure sure you follow my rule!

[@bettywinn8296]

Thank you for addressing this horrible issue. Was caught in a few, myself, but since I was aware did not ever send 💲💲& at the end, confronted the person & told them I was aware of what they were doing. One guy, really got mad. I deleted him from contact list. (They also use other profiles as their own.) They use professions as : military, oil rigs and a lot of them say they are widowed. One guy even went on the diabetic line I was on & pretended to be "prediabetic." So, they are not just on social media altho I have received many msgs from guys on FB. Agree you look nice in green.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Sadly, you are reiterating what everybody knows if they have been contacted by a scammer! Glad you never lost 💰 So predictable but glad that my one rule will keep everyone from ever being scammed again!

[@mildredpierce4506]

This is the first time I’m watching one of your videos and I give you two thumbs up. I follow people who communicate with scammers of various types on purpose. They engage with scammers, and you can hear firsthand how scammers treat the victims. The manipulation, the control, the belittling, etc. A lot of people know about romance scams, but they do not know how evil the scammers can be with their victims. They can be so vicious.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Oh yeah. They get mean!

[@shirlainewilliams152]

fantastic great info ,if a person cannot meet you within that week then end it make no excuses

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yes!!! cheers to quick learning.. ☕️☕️

[@CoffeewithCarey]

but a quick reminder that if they were just traveling and they’re back in town in two weeks…, you’re starting from scratch again. 🤎👍

[@carlel121]

@@CoffeewithCareyyeah I met a guy in match, we connected quick, we were back and forth texting then he asked me for my phone, we chatted and talked on the phone a lot, he sent me pictures of him often and wanted pictures of me, I sent only a well dressed picture and no more, he was overseas and arranged a meeting in a restaurant as soon as he came back, he kept the conversation alive and he asked me if I have WhatsApp, We met in person as soon as he arrived here, we met in a nice restaurant and the conversation was kind of awkward, he tried to be sexual and I tried to have a normal conversation, he then started telling me about his horrible childhood which I got concern, but I didn’t feel attracted to him, next day he wrote me that he liked me but he didn’t feel reciprocated, clearly I don’t because I didn’t even gave a proper kiss good night when I left 🙄 I gave a hug 🤷‍♀️, we didn’t see each other anymore! and I’m happy, I’m not interested in men looking for intimacy right away!!

[@julialednicky7542]

Stunning in green❤️ thank you for the information!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

and thank you for the comment and compliment, Julia. 🤎👍

[@DebraFlower]

Always helpful

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Glad you think so!

[@pamquinlan8912]

Fun, informative and gosh, green is a great color for you. Namaste.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

so glad it was both informative AND enjoyable. Thanks for the compliment, Pam. I AM green, so I rarely wear green lol. must be the color adjustments in my editing! hahah

[@cherriegains1367]

I send The song from the 50s called get a job

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🤣🤣

[@heathersmiliekiwi8528]

NEVER SEND COMPROMISING PHOTOS TO ANYONE ! They may be trustworthy now …. But who knows what will happen in the future.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

thank you for agreeing with me

[@FranSanTeeth90]

Even with a trustworthy person. They can still be lost, stolen, or misplaced.

[@beverleymiller1035]

Never send nude pictures

[@Rick-if5zb]

What if compromising photos are sent to you? And it's disgusting that the majority of these "scammer" videos are mostly about guys who scam women. Well, I mean to tell you that men get scammed by women too. And they can be even more convincing than the guys.

[@katsybo]

Good advice.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

thanks, Kathleen!

[@rhayes1391]

Great advice as usual!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you

[@martybritton267]

Unfortunately I fell for this and if he/she won't give you their phone number run this woman went as far as to give me an address but not her number when I finally did a background check on her I did not find that address connected to her

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Isn’t it wonderful to know that you don’t have to do a background check on anyone anymore? You just follow my one rule. “Meet them or delete them!” Within a week.

[@Plysdyret1]

I often get a mail where the sender claims that I have watched p***movies and, at the same time, been satisfying myself. He says that he has recorded me while I was doing this, ( with my own webcam), and he will share these videos if I don't pay a certain amount of money. I can't be the naked man in the videos he has sent me to try and prove this, as I am a woman of 45 with no camera on my computer. 😄

[@CoffeewithCarey]

hahaha

[@user370Z]

I have received the same. In Australia here. Just delete.

[@donnahilton471]

You need to turn that person in!

[@donnahilton471]

All investments online are frauds! If they are making that much money, they're not on Facebook!😉

[@themaxandlucyshow7590]

I get those all the time too. I report them to Microsoft as phishing scams

[@stargazer1313]

Great info!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

glad you think so! 🤎👍

[@connieevans3321]

Thank you. Great info.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

thank you for leaving a comment to let me know you think so!🤎

[@garygodwin1509]

Me too mate

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🥺

[@lindaandreula2724]

If they ask for money it is a scam Block him or her!!!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Lol

[@simonheming2842]

Hi where would be the safe place to meet someone from online do you need a ID check first ?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Any public place for a drink or a walk?

[@simonheming2842]

@@CoffeewithCarey thanks

[@makashihakayusa8318]

Thanks for sharing... lots of scammers from africa, india, indonesia and Philippines.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

yes!

[@makashihakayusa8318]

@@CoffeewithCarey and also combodia i forgot.

[@debithackston9976]

It"s not being stupid ,, It"s just some of us just want love in there life. But 1st of all no real man that's also looking for love the real love is ever going to ask you for money.. thank you for sharing this

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🤎👍

[@dougallred6341]

Truth

[@cleovernebaptiste2747]

A guy tried to scam me with the crypto scam I call him out and block him

[@CoffeewithCarey]

good job. 👍

[@Sunflowergirl-b9b]

I would never

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🤎

[@brianjohnson7367]

They have a new rebranded one. They actually have a real person that will vid chat with you to gain your confidence. Then they move to investing. It was pretty sophisticated operation. I'm thinking they have a call center. I have all the images and chats. I did the social catfish which was okay but you need all the features.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Wow. Thanks for sharing Brian. I’ll look into this! Fortunately, my rule still works! Meet them or delete them -within a week!

[@whytewabbit]

I fell for it; i lost some money. Everything checked out, a real legit person with real profile, highly educated and everything including the platform was a real copy of the legit except it was recently hosted.

[@bobcabana9506]

Thats happen to me right now. She had a verify profile on tinder. An i been video chating with her too.

[@GirlyParaggua-qk6jv]

I got scammed by a man using a US ARMY picture, I have video call that profile who scammed me and I found out that man on profile and on video call were the same but after 5 seconds of video call he ended the call and he only answered audio call. He kept telling me that he's not a scammer but until now he haven't give my money back. He used that same profile to scammed other woman but same like he blocked us on messenger. IS THERE ANY POSSIBILITIES TO TRACK DOWN THE SCAMMER? Thank you.

[@autumnbrooke1721]

I’m trying to get my mom out of one where she met him on words with friends . He’s supposedly and Italian native who lives in California but he’s working as a logger (project manager ) in Norway . Can’t send a copy of Id or passport as he’s in the woods . He told her that he could do better and gave supposedly real banking info . He didn’t ask her for money but wanted her to do transfers . She has stage 4 breast cancer and he said that his ex wife died from that .. that he has a 13 year old daughter in boarding school in England … she lost her husband in February and I’m worried sick

[@CoffeewithCarey]

oh no!! you should be. show her some videos of actual people on the “Catfished” channel. stream it on tv if you can. Preview a couple stories and find one that is similar to hers. youtube.com/@CatfishedOnline?si=9C9772mhD_K06wGZ

[@autumnbrooke1721]

Yes . She’s not ready to watch but I’m going to send them tomorrow. He asked today for her to buy 2k worth of bitcoin to then send him so that he can fly out of Norway (he can’t use his bank card bc it will be flagged for fraud ; ironically) . Thank you for what you’re doing to help everyone .

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@autumnbrooke1721 it’s so sad and obvious to the rest of us. Hopefully you can convince her that this is exactly what they do to so many people -and most especially lonely seniors. if she sees it with along with all the details, he is throwing at her. perhaps you can get through to her. It’s like Stockholm syndrome

[@debmccafferty1007]

Sounds like the oil rig scammer I ran into on FB Dating. He FAILED.

[@themaxandlucyshow7590]

SCAM..... get your mother off the internet and block and delete this guy.

[@nerdout8639]

I'm watching this because I've just lost all my money to a romantic scammer

[@CoffeewithCarey]

☹️

[@nerdout8639]

​@CoffeewithCarey that was before watching your video I've feel for a lot of different romantic scams each one different from the last. For context I'm a 26 year old disabled male with cerebral palsy I can't walk im in a wheelchair my disability makes it very hard for me to find a relationship and this in turn makes my depression worse so yes your right I really crave connection and them evill people exploit that for there own personal gane and then eventually I get even more sad lonely and depressed because I realise I've been scammed out of a lot of money and sometimes because they promise a way I can make good money I send them what they want and then end up Not getting the money I was promised hope this small overview of my bad experiences at least helps someone

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@nerdout8639 “Meet them within a week or delete them!” my basic rule holds. Nobody’s falling madly in love with people that they haven’t met in person.

[@wendymaseko554]

Sorry 😔

[@ElizabethLangham-h3z]

Imposdibke to mert in a week if they live mles away may be in few mths​@@CoffeewithCarey

[@christinamarti4441]

Thank you

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You’re welcome Christina. 🤎

[@prettynitter]

The most unbelievable part is these clowns know they are doing something illegal and when you SWING NOTCH catch them at it, they go off on a tirade and make threats.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Brazen is the word you’re looking for! 🤎👍

[@sallyclay1974]

I can tell when a romance scammer is lurking around

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Not at all difficult once you know what you’re looking for, right?! 😎👍

[@tinap7007]

Omg Cathy I need a lot of help I have been a in a catfished for two years almost three. I never have met anyone on line before he told me that he was in the military in Syria, on a special mission working for the UN United Nations. Ladies his name is Nelson Marsh he sent me some pictures there all tooo good to be true o yeah he also says he’s a single parent of a daughter. Yes he has asked me for money to A lot of it . Any way Cathy the 7 things you say not to do I have done, but I don’t know how to get any of my money back. All of your things your putting on the net is really helping me TY keep up the good work

[@CoffeewithCarey]

it’s Carey , and I’m sorry that happened to you. You might want to call the authorities that’s the only way you would ever get money back back.

[@mildredpierce4506]

I love social catfish/catfished. I’ve been subscribed for at least a year or two by now.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

They do good work. I’m always yelling at the screen though, because I feel they don’t do enough to tell or stress that the person in the pictures is not the scammer and that you are likely talking to a whole other person in another country. They’re good with their thumbnails to grab me every once in a while for a new episode but I sort of walk away feeling you’ve seen 10 you’ve seen them all. 😉

[@arnoldgomez9545]

I’ve tried that method of searching somebody and I don’t get nothing back

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Well, then, just follow my one rule and don’t worry about it so much.

[@terimcgibney4930]

Very good information but it was so hard for me to listen with the music.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

☕️☕️👍

[@twhite3850]

What do you think about trying to "play" them. If I'm bored, I may give them a fake name, AI photo and fake address.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Really? You have nothing better to do with your time?

[@twhite3850]

@@CoffeewithCarey I am actually busy doing many better things...Harsh reply to someone who supports what you are doing...

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@twhite3850 you might be reading my tone incorrectly. Wasn’t harsh at all.

[@marXmon]

This is hilarious. I say "yes" to all requests knowing they're scams. This one invited me to WhatsApp, of which I was curious why... I decided I wanted to turn it into a documentary song, so I set up to record everything on whatsapp lololpl and now I see that person is going to be recording me... This is funny, because I'm a super gentleman and had no plans of going lude, because I'm a super gentleman, but also of course it's a scam. Thank you.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I would argue that you should say no to all requests that you recognize as scams, because these men are keeping you from meeting women you would want to date. But then I also, like you, realize you’re keeping them from scamming somebody else. 🤷‍♀️

[@marXmon]

@@CoffeewithCarey I appreciate the reply Carey. I'm making an adjustment to my thinking. I dropped out of the scam last night after I realized everything from there on out needs to rhyme so I can put it in a song. When I had that realization I wrote way to many bars, disguised them as a normal paragraph, but if you knew when you read it, it would rhyme in proper bar structure. I then realized it would be better to go in with this advance thinking, and be prepped, knowing they are going to say one word answers I can have my premeditated bars to fit easily. So I'm going to take my time and go in prepped making a Catfish:Docu-musical. I'll send it your way whenever I get around to it. You'll be impressed. Anywho, I subscribed and look forward to watching more of your advice. Thanks!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@marXmon I’ll look forward to hearing it!

[@twhite3850]

LOL, I had one invite me to Whatsapp as well... I kept making excuses until they just gave up. I play with them sometimes. One time, I just asked "her" whether she was a Nigerian man trying to scam me... Of course, they profusely denied it.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@twhite3850 You don’t have time for playing. That person is keeping you from talking to somebody who might actually meet you within a week.

[@MuzicTunes-lk6np]

Someone made a sweet comment on Facebook about a song I really loved. She said that we had the same taste in music, even though she was much younger. All of a sudden, she sent me a nude photo of herself(WHAT?), which I never asked her to do. Then she told me to send her a nude photo of myself. I told her that's not going to happen. I think she got my trust with music, I think her intentions were to blackmail me if that was even her in the first place. 🤔

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thats the scam. She is not a she. She is a man who hijacked an innocent woman’s photos. Delete and move on. Sorry.

[@arfriedman4577]

My parents said you talk to strangers by talking about the weather.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Can’t say I agree with us, but they were not talking about the Internet, your folks.

[@dianaberry2961]

I need to find out how to get someone help that just cannot give up the attention that they get and now they like the drama and now he's lying about everything to your face because he's sending the scammer everything he's got in money wise I need to help him and I don't know what to do or where to turn

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Ugh. So horrible. Maybe force him to watch an episode or two of Catfished. Where they show real life people discovering they are being scammed.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXrEZ5Kpr7CFeMUsi=qx4aMShpOJ59NLhk

[@kristallmenschkristallwolf1969]

yes if the Persons in same Town or Country but Country the be far aways then be careful but there is no other way

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Meet them or delete them. No other countries!

[@nickandrei51]

Hi. Where is the social catfish tool for reverse images in the description?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I think I removed it when I realized they were now charging and we could do it on our own with just Google searches. But you can certainly Google those terms together and pay for their services if you are so inclined. My thought on this, just so you know, is that if you are feeling you have to double check in this way… you already have your answer. 🤎

[@ionlyemergeafterdark]

The second scam is called “Pig Butchering”, I believe.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🐽

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🐽

[@BobMillington]

islam?

[@ryanmalone2681]

Yes, “there are people are are just more trusting”. The term you’re looking for is ‘gullible’.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yes!!

[@kevindavis4709]

Yup some of them will share their personal problems etc. etc. to a person behind a screen they hadn’t met. My counter with a friendship scammer she told me things about her family how they can’t get alone with her. She doesn’t have a social life her friends don’t wanna hangout with her. After a year of being her friend she asked if I can send her some money she said I’ll pay you back. I got a yellow envelope put 40$ in a card mailed it to her mailing address she doesn’t know I did some checking behind her before then gave her the benefit of the doubt because she seemed legit. Anyway month later she told me we can’t be friends anymore we can still talk on email so I blocked her from my KZbin channel blocked her number and email. You know I wondered why out of all the people on KZbin why she single me out? Wasn’t looking for a date nor a friend I was just posting videos.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

you must read as a kind person is my only guess. Not a bad thing.

[@TheresaWebster-rz5ny]

So yes be very careful they move fast in love and need cards $$$$. I told one one time he have to talk to my financial investor before he would release but needed to talk to him face to face wanted forms . A contract. We never made it any farther he blocked.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Or you could’ve just followed my one rule…

[@gpower689]

How can I have a true dating chat

[@CoffeewithCarey]

this is the wrong episode to answer that question.

[@marknewton6984]

You can't. Real men don't date online. 😮

[@jodyknowlton6775]

Do you know what the bottom line is somebody ask you for money you say no

[@CoffeewithCarey]

no, no and no way!

[@jodyknowlton6775]

@@CoffeewithCarey no no no n hell no

[@simonsswinglee6039]

There is no doubt that a scamer is unable to prove the true identity beyond online. Ring her or make a video call, and you can get a sense that another man responds you...holy shit!.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@simonsswinglee6039 wasting time. if you feel the need to have someone prove their identity just delete the conversation. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@jodyknowlton6775]

@@simonsswinglee6039 yeah 🤣🤣

[@MsSMoxleyBarnett]

David Caruso romance scam got me. 😢💔💔

[@CoffeewithCarey]

ugh. sorry i was too late.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

honestly, he is the most uncharismatic actor ever, in my book. He could be standing in front of me and I couldn’t be more disinterested.

[@MsSMoxleyBarnett]

@@CoffeewithCarey I've been enamored with him for years. That's me though

[@terriwhalen3618]

Amen

[@JohnniewHarveyjr]

I been through this black mailed for me and my family a billionaire used me for his own happiness Robert stolle was his name used me for his own ex military helped him cover his own AZZ while I looked like a dumb asz

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I’m sorry to hear that if you watch a couple other episodes on this subject, and elsewhere, I’m sure you would come to realize it wasn’t an actual billionaire and that definitely wasn’t his name … and he wasn’t really military. It’s a sad situation these scammers.😡

[@JohnniewHarveyjr]

@@CoffeewithCarey yes he was a billionaire like I said none of you believe in me besides he knows what he did and what the military did believe in me or not he will deal with God in time I know how real my situation is I can prove it still none of you believe in me

[@kevincasey3219]

i was a victim i met a girl on TikTok i fell in love with her she ask me to give her so much money I don't what I was thinking i was so stupid to to that

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Aw shoot. I guess you just weren’t.

[@kevincasey3219]

@@CoffeewithCarey I don't get your message

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@kevincasey3219 thinking. You weren’t thinking. You were just feeling.

[@kevincasey3219]

@@CoffeewithCarey you are right I've been looking at alot of youtube on scams I should watch this frist before gave away si much money

[@kevincasey3219]

what did people think about my measge

[@FaithHopeLove-88]

Meet or delete in a week ? Then how international people will have a relationship? Not everyone have a cash and chance to meet in a week..

[@CoffeewithCarey]

youre talking about the .01% of people who don’t even care about meeting someone who is even somewhat geographically desirable? 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@miladelosreyes8479]

When money is involved that’s it blocked it and if something is too good to be true that’s red light 😂

[@CoffeewithCarey]

👍

[@t-point7569]

Which websites or dating apps do they use

[@CoffeewithCarey]

All of them. And all the social media sites! Make sure you follow my one rule, and stay safe out there!

[@TheresaWebster-rz5ny]

Yea i know i shouldnt do this but oh well they get nothing out of me and they dont realize i in cobtrol not them

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You’re just letting them suck energy out of you in the dating world where you could be putting it towards meeting somebody real. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@ianWoolf-y3m]

How can I find out who is texting me.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🤷🏻‍♀️

[@LauraSchendel-ko1qk]

Within a couple of days of texting someone, I casually mention that I hold several Federal Security Clearances with the FBI (because I do). That sends the scammers running for cover! LOL! I’m not suggesting that you lie, but in the very beginning you could say that your father is a policeman. That will work too. If things work out for you two, you can later explain that you say that as part of your vetting process. Either he will understand or you will never hear from that scammer again! LOL!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

That’s funny. Hahhaha. 🤎 But also unnecessary if you just follow my one simple rule. ;)

[@njs-655]

Can spot them a mile away . 👍

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Marked safe. ☺️

[@njs-655]

@@CoffeewithCarey well I wouldn’t trust it I live in uk , and that’s what came back about it . But hay each to there own .

[@donnahilton471]

They are getting younger and more are trying.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

It’s one of the most lucrative jobs in some countries.

[@miladelosreyes8479]

Or it’s better no social media I di t have that coz too much scammers 😊

[@CoffeewithCarey]

No reason to throw out the baby with the bathwater. These scams are easy to avoid with with my simple rule.

[@MissMarceline-wp6oq]

​​@@CoffeewithCareyTired of weeding out scammers as there are so many of them. Better off alone .

[@rangerannie5636]

The last scammer I interacted with was demanding numerous photos from the beginning of the conversation. There's a red flag! 🚩

[@CoffeewithCarey]

If they were G rated pics requested then that’s pretty common amongst men in general. They think they’re more visual than women. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@rangerannie5636]

@CoffeewithCarey They weren't specific as to the "rating". I've never had anyone but a scammer demand pic after pic in the first conversation.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@rangerannie5636 The “rating”. Lol. Well if they’re not looking for somebody to blackmail or extort I’m not sure the purpose.

[@rangerannie5636]

@@CoffeewithCarey I'm not sure what they were up to either unless they were just working up to "X rated" pics. I kept sending him pics of Trisha Yearwood, lol, and they finally gave up. LOL! 🤣

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@rangerannie5636 Hahhaha

[@arfriedman4577]

Charles schwabb

[@CoffeewithCarey]

meet them or delete them!

[@arfriedman4577]

Charles Schwabbis a legitimate place to invest with

[@rdorris724]

no,it's not trust,it's delusion and fantasy

[@miladelosreyes8479]

Or asked gift card

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Delete

[@arfriedman4577]

Who takes money advice from a complete stranger. You go to a reputable financial company such as Charles scrabble, vanguard, fidelity.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

trusting people.

[@nata3467]

Seriously I very much struggle with the victims in the situations I don't care how swept the way you are common sense would tell you these are scams.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

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[@twhite3850]

Why do they always use the pet-names "babe" and "sweetie?"

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Lovebombing

[@annbet3684]

I don't meet them forget it

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I don’t know what that means but when I first read it, I thought you were making a play on my phrase “meet them or delete them”, and you were saying “meet them and forget them”. Lol

[@JCcanU]

I been talking with a nice lady for over a month , Her facebook photos go back to 2021 , she got a home in Missouri I think its a real house and it was a video sale . but she been refusing to meet, right now she is very sick allergies . but she will spend 10 hours on the phone. she refusing to send me photos of her body only her face and will not facetime . she has a dog and a bird as pets . i hear them and she has photos of her bird and dog . I did google map her address its a real home just no way to tell who lives there , she has sent me a few photos showing me junk left behind by the last owner lot of what she tells me is true but I still think there is reason she will not meet up other than her being sick . Married ? or looking to gain something out of me lol I have nothing I live 110 miles away been thinking of going by but im not a crazy stalker. If I did drive by I feel i be invading her space . i have my guard up i have nothing to lose other than my time , no one wants to date they all want a pen pal at 50 to 70 .

[@CoffeewithCarey]

“Meet them (within a week) or delete them!” Why have you signed up for a penpal or phone buddy, when you’re looking for someone to date/a relationship. This is called Catfishing.

[@JCcanU]

@@CoffeewithCarey What do they have to gain by catfishing ? age 60 plus it gets hard to find a women or a women looking for a man . I have meet 7 women since Oct 2023 they say its crazy out there . I know its crazy 80% fake profiles than get the pen pal .

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I’m sure they have different goals some hope to get money down the road but some might just be getting out of it what you are. Somebody to talk to, or a pretend relationship.

[@devilsadvocacy]

I’d like to see someone deconstruct the most common of all romance scams, the foodie call. Specifically, how can men avoid getting scammed into paying for expensive dates and such when the woman is only feigning interest? Perhaps a topic for a new video

[@CoffeewithCarey]

first dates should never be expensive… or for dinner. problem solved. 🤎👍

[@janepurcell6747]

Try a coffee date. If it's awful, you've only paid for an overpriced cappucino. If it's fantastic, then you can both go for lunch.

[@FranSanTeeth90]

Hey, that scam is almost as prevalent as the "I want something serious" scam When men pretend to want a relationship until they get the sex they really wanted....

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@FranSanTeeth90 just an FYI that women also perpetrate that same scam. And a reminder to everyone to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. #honestyplease

[@FranSanTeeth90]

@@CoffeewithCarey Fo shiz women pretend that they love men to get access to sex all the time. Yes, let's be VERY honest.

[@michaeldowney7614]

I worked out a way to test scammers, apart from their bad spelling and punctuation, one thought after a bit of talk and they want to get to know you better,I say something like am I talking to a genuine person or a bot. I then say I'm going to send you a code number, and you write it down straight away ona piece of paper, hold it up under your neck, for me to read, within 5 minutes, and I will do the same. Well what do know, the they come back, what crap is this, F__ck off, mostly in perfect english Works every time, if the lady is the actual person, she will do its I will, Cheers

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I could Photoshop that within five minutes. 🤷🏻‍♀️ So I believe my suggestions still stand. Meet them or delete them within a week and we don’t talk to people. We don’t know on the Internet unless we’re making plans to get acquainted or having a video chat before the in-person date.

[@altheamurphy427]

You’re a professional person but you said, ain’t ?? “The Internet ain’t no place….” What?! How UNprofessional!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You know it is an actual word in the English language, right? And you can choose to use it if you feel it might help you make a point. Its often used it in a friendly/playful context it adds a flavor of friendliness

[@ExcitedDragonflies-ro5rm]

This happened to me last Friday I been sexton they recorded my private part I saw real women she was topless she black mail me they wanted money but I block her

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Be careful out there!

[@malcolmorton-o7g]

why do women? keep asking questions she has seen your profile you have seen hers, ok so meet you can always say no. in Instead its, questions, questions, questions, questions, questions, questions, questions, questions, questions,

[@CoffeewithCarey]

To find out if you are normal beyond what you or somebody else wrote on your profile. And her first questions are to start a conversation with something, hopefully, that they picked up on in your profile. I think you need to watch some of my episodes on creating a dating profile maybe. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@josebrivera1716]

Crypto is not real money. Why do people use it?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Because it works, I guess. I don’t know.

[@juliebarks3195]

Had to give up listening. Loud and distracting background music.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Turn down your volume. Then it’s just distracting. 🙃👍

[@twhite3850]

If they have a Nigerian accent, then don't engage with them!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Or just follow my ONE RULE

[@kalvinlabuik3366]

Do you think the rise of online dating scam is because today’s poor economy ?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

No. Whose economy? Scammers are most often located in Africa and India. And this has been a problem for a long, long time.

[@hamayoonshah1990]

A lady is having a discussion with me for the past two weeks. I thought she is real but now she wants me to invest in US stocks and she would help me in that.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

SCAM!!!! delete!!!

[@DanielSalgado-f3c]

My fellow Americans a woman by the name of Alice Chen from Boston just give me out of 10 grand. I fell for that get rich Bitcoin scam. That let's reach half a million dollar goal. It is a scam

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Sorry that happened to you, Daniel. Another reminder for everyone. 🙁

[@a0983492165]

Love your work sister. you have a gift and great talent to counter successful recovery, i got €149,000 i also love the fact that *GRIND TECHIEI* stand up for these old people who have been vulnerable

[@CoffeewithCarey]

thanks. 👍

[@deedeejoseph9311]

You’re so beautiful, I can’t even pay attention to what you’re saying 😊

[@CoffeewithCarey]

well, aren’t you the loveliest of complement givers?! ☺️🤎

[@Johnson-mt9cs]

Thank you for spending time and resources on trying to do this. SWINGNOTCH The world needs more people like you!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

😂