Dating Scams: 7 Warning Signs and How to Protect Yourself!

[@ChattinBoxingWYB]

If the person never wants to video chat or phone call and only wants to communicate with you via text. That's another Red Flag.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yup

[@xavcuttinoakatheinspiratio4353]

You even have to watch that because through What’s App you video chat

[@NoMoreTears64]

Not necessarily true. I like to text for awhile before moving it to giving out my personal phone number or messenger information. It's safer that way and I can weed out a lot of non suitable matches.

[@ChattinBoxingWYB]

@@NoMoreTears64 I said if the person never what’s to call u then it’s likely a scam. I 💯 believe if the person is never happy to show their face on camera to u then it’s definitely a scam.

[@johnballard6725]

If they have excuses why they cant video chat that to me is the reddist of red flags.

[@bcg3166]

Don't give your heart away all because you feel lonely.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

A heart does you no good if you just keep it tucked away and never open it up to new experiences

[@hollyprincipato3287]

​@@CoffeewithCarey I read you answer to me. Thank you for responding. But chalk one up for the Holl-ster. I was texting a man a few months ago who tried to scam me."BABY I have to pay for a part on my rig that broke. Can you help me? I answered him....LOOK I TOLD YOU I AM ON SSI. cuter I pay my bills I am broke! O I don't have it and No I am not sending you jack s**t. Goodbye!" and never contacted him again. Oh he tried to keep contact. I ignored his notification. He finally got that he will not do that to me. All I remember is his first name....Lucas. Puke ass I call him!

[@Cheeky-FE-Kerry]

The only ONE warning sign you really need to remember: if the person asks you for money, no matter what the purpose or amount, they ARE a scammer. Block them immediately! Xxx

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yes but I think you can nip it in the bud even sooner if they cannot meet you within a week. Meet then or delete them -within a week! that’s my rule.

[@valeriehawkins5481]

Google gift card

[@be748]

Now they will say they want to teach you, guide you to buy bitcoins. At that point I had already blocked them and report them. I believe they will lure you to buy on certain website, or DApps that they can take your money.

[@mikehellton9370]

Or if the man is younger than you. All worthwhile men under 50 are dating women under. 45, they’re not interested in 50 + year old women.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Worthwhile. So insulting.

[@dargeo1406]

Great advice, thank you! Also, before you even go on a date, always run a background check. You’d be surprised how many narcissists/ con artists have criminal history. I wish I knew this years ago… And BEWARE of picture tell-tell signs. If someone has a single picture of himself staring in the mirror, you’re likely dealing with a narcissist. I dated someone whose profile had one (bathroom) picture and he also lied about where he lived- over an HOUR away! He lied about so many things, it took me awhile to unravel it… Never trust anybody until they EARN your trust. If you don’t feel safe next to someone, that’s probably a sign to run before it’s too late. Take care and keep your standards high! We all deserve the best! ❤🙏💯🌹

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Trust is earned, yes!

[@MindyChia1]

These scammers work in teams so as to reach women living in different time zones and is why they are available 24 hours.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yup. It’s a very lucrative if not cruel business.

[@josielopez8312]

True I encountered lot of scammers they said job is doctor or military doctor

[@GAIALIFE842]

That is completely true I was talking with this guy at 3 AM

[@worsethanhitlerpt.2539]

Damn I thought is was just 1 person taking huge amounts of amphetamines

[@reneelacedra8519]

I'm back out in this dating world after 35 years. So much has changed. I stumbled across your videos and thank you for your information. So helpful.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Glad to be of help, Renee! Nice to meet you.

[@lynnjudd9036]

Same here. Enjoyed your info.

[@dyamondcrawford6439]

@@CoffeewithCarey thanks for explaining this to me because listen. I thinknive been scammed by a romance scammer before claiming to be one of my celebrity crushes and he's not! He messaged me on Instagram in my dm last year and we it off from there and I was telling people about our relationship and they were telling me that he's probably a catfish and he was scamming me and I didnt want to believe them at first but now I do and I wish I hadn't spoken to him and I wish that I hadn't met him 😤

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You DIDN’T meet him. That was the problem! If it seems too good to be true… It is.

[@FreeSpirit47]

@@dyamondcrawford6439 Sweetheart, you never met your crush in person, not even the one scamming you Did you speak with the scammer on a video call or a phone call? Typing on a keyboard is just as much of a relationship as checking your bank balance online.

[@s1234pro]

The instant they ask you for money it's a scam.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

The foolproof telltale sign! ☺️👍

[@chopper1lady]

Yes, but they can harm you before asking for money. I had a freak who found all my family on Facebook, based on the pronunciation of my exotic surname.

[@KayNovember26]

Or call you "baby" and declare their love for you almost instantly! These guys are always widowed with one child. Yes, that's how the story goes...

[@garryjohnson9918]

@@KayNovember26 that’s creepy! I’ve had women on social media(that I don’t know) call me baby or ask me for money-I’m thinking, I’m definitely NOT your baby and you’re not getting a dime from me, so you might as well leave me alone

[@GAIALIFE842]

I need to right it down and print it all in my room and a tattoo

[@sondossoliman9658]

The one that they’re ALWAYS Available to talk and chat is litterly SPOT ON because you ARE their job😫😫😫

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Indeed.

[@elipotter369]

A lot of scammers say they live in a city near you, then once you're interested and about to meet, they have to go overseas for five days....YEARS later, you still haven't met, they're "coming home" tomorrow, and you've been stripped of all your money and assets because you've paid for equipment, hospital bills, fines....and they'll pay you back and provide you with a lavish lifestyle in your happy ever after. The channel Catfished has it all.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Wow. All this can be avoided if you’re meeting for a cup of coffee or a glass of wine within 3 to 5 days… or calling it quits.🤦🏻‍♀️

[@kimberlyjfurey4699]

The compliments thing: my immediate red flag. I don't respond to strangers' calling me 'baby', 'beautiful', etc ~ that's for established familiarity. Also the out of the country deal! I often wonder if these people, who are supposedly trying to tailor their profiles for a specific type, even *read* my blurb, which explicitly refuses non-locals.... good thing I have no money.

[@gilleskaske5148]

I know this is geared towards women but I am a guy and was sucked in.Girl isn't a Nigerian scammer but has been on Facebook for years.She indicated she had kids and needed money for daily needs,Turns out her kids didn't even live with her and every conversation was how broke she is.After 3grand I realized she had other men she was working as well. Sad as I didn't mind assisting with the kids and pissed finding out she had no custody of her kids.Girl was partying nightly. Took some months to get over it. I am now thankfully

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thanks so much for sharing. You are definitely not alone. Men are a huge part of this problem and targeted very very often. A lot of the same signs and definitely the same rule: meet her or delete her!

[@miladelosreyes8479]

That’s good you don’t deserve that kind of girl allcc bc she wants you is money , remember when is involved that’s not love that’s scam

[@roserpalarea5968]

Bien mon ami, maintenant tu sais que jamais il faut croire quelqun des réseaux..Il faut connaitre en personne. ❤

[@kathybrem880]

You’re a nice guy-don’t let anyone play on your good nature

[@veracruzpressonline]

Cuánto lo siento. Todos estamos expuestos. Es el mal que está presente en la humanidad ,Satanás es el Padre de la mentira.

[@Tim.Weaver]

This is a great summary. Sadly, too many people are still unaware of this type of scam, and only start researching this topic AFTER they've lost their money - and their heart - to a professional criminal.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Well then let’s keep talking about it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@candacedawn357]

It's happened to me twice and I'm in my early 40's. I was smart enough to know something was wrong.

[@robertyoung9582]

Sound advice all round. The most important thing is for people to ask for a phone/video call as soon as possible, and cut off contact if they refuse. Many people, once they've been messaging for a while, become invested in the illusion that the scammer is genuine. Then they're so caught up in it all that they refuse to believe they're being conned, even when confronted with overwhelming evidence.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Nice summary.

[@roserpalarea5968]

C'est ainsi.. il faut fermer ces scammers, on ne connait pas une personne aux réseaux. Il faut les mettre en prison. Tous!!!,

[@BericeGamerGuy]

I believe I'm being scammed right now sadly. The girl I talk to sends me nude pics and videos but doesnt have proof of license no car says cant call phone doesnt work. No mailbox but send me a address in seattle. Asks.for money. No video chat. But she send me a pic one time that has a peice of paper says I love you mr.brown. i dont believe Its photo edited but all the other signs feel it's a scam.

[@thekatarnalchemist]

Follow your gut. For me, the nudes would have been the first warning sign.

[@lucillepiodos103]

Maybe perhaps Im in the same situation right now and I do hope so Im totally wrong and just overthinking.. But what else we can do, lets not be embarrased of the experience itself but to accept it as a lesson. Just don't give any amount of money to anyone specially on Dapps etc.

[@markust7709]

I am not over 50 and I am not even a woman and I never used dating apps but I absolutely loved this video. I was searching for tips how to avoid online shopping scams and your video popped as a suggestion. Thank you. Your self-presentation and your speech made me watch until the very last second of it.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

What a nice compliment! Thank you for letting me know, and I’m glad you found it enjoyable and helpful! ❤️👍

[@tonyhudson8698]

Yes , the Men can also be taken in by scamming People.

[@branypoo]

I have unintentionally sent new connections away, due to my severe anxiety surrounding phone and video calls. (This is what I think happened, anyway.) People’s “rules” regarding “top red flags for catfishers and scammers” makes my already debilitating anxiety, worse. I wish more people would talk about this, because there are those of us on the fringe who are genuine, but also terrified of speaking to new people on the phone/via video call. My besties all understand my fear, and we do chat on phone/video when possible. Us worried folks out here deserve love too!! 😢❤

[@CoffeewithCarey]

So I’m imagining you are not meeting these people in person and exchanging numbers. So you are meeting them online and then unable to switch to communication off the apps or dating sites?

[@branypoo]

@@CoffeewithCareyYes, exactly that. 😢 Like, it always successfully advances to the stage of exchanging phone numbers, but we just continue texting until it ends with me being ghosted ‘cause I took too long to communicate any other way. I’m just fearful, ‘cause some guys out there can be really strange. I’m always afraid they will get weird on the phone, or on video call. I also just prefer to sus people out for a bit, to get an idea if advancing to a phone call, video call, or in-person meeting even seems like a good idea. A week just feels way too fast for me, because I think, “What if they are a maniac?” I realize when I hold off like this, that I’m only giving potential dates the same exact thoughts about me 😂 It’s difficult, damned if you do damned if you don’t, but I’m trying to work through it. I appreciate your response ❤ I guess online dating just isn’t for me 😢

[@CoffeewithCarey]

@@branypoo you have to do what makes you comfortable, but I recommend clients get off the apps immediately. You can really only learn about this person through a phone call and video chat. Lol. You can always block the phone number and we always meet people in a public place and don’t leave with them. Plus, my rule is you are meeting these people within a week so you’re already appearing to only be looking for a pen pal. Perhaps you should try making plans after a few back and forth text messages to meet for that beverage or walk. And you can skip the phone or video call!

[@lucillepiodos103]

Big and virtual hugs. We've got this. ❤❤❤ These topics should be maximized in media for information drive and awareness for all people in general. After all, we all deserve genuine Love ❤

[@dremawoody5567]

I am so glad you made this video. I am going through a scam right now. I wish I had found you sooner. This video is so valuable to me now. Thank you

[@CoffeewithCarey]

So glad you are finding it helpful!!

[@sophiakim8642]

I am so sorry for your experience you head and it hurts me that is from our country mostly.

[@arfriedman4577]

Social catfish has tools to use. Check out the site.

[@roserpalarea5968]

Ferme déja ton réseau de cet scammer.. je regrette que tu sois angoissée..Mais rejette cet homme la et aller a la Police. ❤

[@NonniMcMac]

A couple things I've noticed is they use two first names, like Johnathan David or Timothy Scott. They have very "GQ" looking photos. They'll claim to be from, say, the Netherlands, are currently living in America, but working overseas. It's really easy to pick them out because they use this routine so much.

[@johnballard6725]

As soon as someone says they are working overseas cut off all contact.

[@KayNovember26]

Yes, a lot of these idiots get confused between what is supposed to be the first name and what is supposed to be the second name. And then the bad English will follow. Oh, and the love declaration... 💘

[@MRSAJUAREZ123]

True! Happened to me too. Handsome man from Tender lives in USA but from NorWay. Working on oil rig as an independent contractor. Needs $ to fix equipment. Asked me to purchase “Vanilla Visa” cards. He put $ into my account and as soon as bought the Visa’s, money was gone from my account and Visa’s were at .00🤦‍♀️ 5 Visa’s @ $500 each. I have to pay since I purchased them even though I confirmed $ in my account with CapitalOne before buying the cards😡

[@naomisavaro5345]

@@johnballard6725 absolutely. First thing I ask is if they are located in the city listed. If they say yes, but working in Canada, on an oil rig, etc. - bye bye! I don't even respond back.

[@ivanaandric5703]

So true!!! Plus, they use terms of endermant as QUEEN - apsolutly most often used, Babe etc ..

[@MamaStoobs]

Carey, thank you for sharing.. this is helpful for everyone everywhere. 55 in a new city & ready to meet new friends.. it's SCARY. Thank you for your videos!!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Doesnt need to be scary. It can be exciting! ;)

[@MamaStoobs]

@@CoffeewithCarey thank you.. Eyes wide open and looking forward to this new adventure, now with your guidance in tow!

[@milicas.4534]

There is no honest man on any dating site lady's don't waste time or money..love you. Because you are complete gift from universal blessings your man and love will find you.

[@KayNovember26]

I have met a couple of great guys online! Not drop dead gorgeous or rich by any means. Just regular,good guys! But they make up less than 2% of my responses. I'm not bad looking (or overweight) by any means. Just a regular girl. Hang in there!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Certain types of social media perhaps. The lesson here may be to choose a more positive, accurate and helpful curation of the social media you ingest. There are no low value and high value human beings first of all. We all have equal value so that conversation/theory alone that is found in corners on the Internet is not helping anybody.

[@dracojensei1141]

Same can be said for women also

[@gregm7362]

You're an idiot. All guys aren't scammers!

[@worsethanhitlerpt.2539]

I was gonna say the same about girls online

[@searchbug]

I agree with all of these! Suspicious profile, love bombing, money matters, demanding for your time, and lure you off the dating site are only a few red flags that your date is indeed a scammer. Run away from it, and save yourself from heartbreak.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Meet them or delete them!

[@searchbug]

@@CoffeewithCarey Totally!

[@dorothyponder4345]

You are so right. I just let them talk and I just tell the that I don't believe what they say. When they start asking for something. I tell them I can't do that and I don't work. Then they start back romancing me lol. Then I just block them.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

The quicker the better! Meet them or delete them!

[@yamunajolicoeur2807]

EVERYONE SHOULD WATCH THIS BEFORE INTERNET DATING OMG THIS INFO IS GOLD THANK YOU ❣❣❣❣❣❣❣❣❣💯

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Glad you found it so helpful!

[@ivanaandric5703]

Everyone already knows this. This stuff is for ppl 50< !

[@Four2Tour]

I’m 33. Your advice is valued! Thanks

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Isn’t that funny how it doesn’t matter whether you’re 33 or 53; dating seems to be the same for everyone. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@jameskiffin502]

glad to help

[@js5787]

The dating sites do NOT care about your settings, I get men from out of state. Meet people through friends.

[@KayNovember26]

True. No matter how much filters you apply, 80% of responses are of those guys you wish NOT to meet! Age, geographics, religion etc is kind of important. Now you get messages from guys your son's age in South Asia. Really?!

[@worsethanhitlerpt.2539]

Good idea but my friends never introduce me to women even if they owe me $$

[@naomisavaro5345]

Thank you! I have had everyone of these experiences at one point or another - such good information that all people on dating sites need to hear. I was just talking to someone but the excuses started on why he can't meet face to face - and used COVID as the reason. Like who's going to argue with that one? But we had been talking on phone for 3 days and not once did he sound sick (coughing, raspy voice) - then after 7 days, he claimed to test again and it was still showing positive (with no symptoms). He gets demanding for wanting "full body photos" - um, NOT, not in this lifetime!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Exactly trust your gut. Nobody is worth ignoring it

[@JoshPennCPTSD]

@Dancing Daisies That's a good one! Ask them for money, see how fast they scatter! I worked with a guy who would scam women and saw his system. He used the same flowerily letter for all the girls and he would just change the eye color in the letter based on her photo she posted. He would then take a bunch of pictures of her with a nice camera, like he was a photographer. now I am thinking that he probably got her in compromising photos and maybe blackmailed? But I don't work with him anymore, but I wouldn;t be surprised if he was blackmailing

[@djstockt326]

It’s not just dating apps, it’s also apps like Instagram and Facebook. I can’t even count on one hand how many times these romance scams have attempted to target me on Instagram; I’m a 30 year old man.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Wow. Just scammers DMing you?

[@djstockt326]

@@CoffeewithCarey Yeah! I try to report them but they just come in wave after wave.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Those are likely not scammers probably they are bots

[@BettyBamBam]

@@CoffeewithCarey I found lot of "bots" on this video alone. Bots trying to get you to a place to scam you, aren't scammers?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I don’t think I understand what you are saying. How are they reaching out to you and how do you know from what video they are approaching? I’ve never experienced a bot or scammer on KZbin. I’ve only encountered bots on Instagram and dating apps. My 30 yo son confirmed. Only on Tinder, Instagram and in email, he said (for him).

[@whateverchannel22]

Real talk, Carey. This is a good, concise roundup for people who might fall victim.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thanks!

[@BrianLG100]

Im.glad more people are waking up to scammers. Soon they could be outta business.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I hope the universe heard you say that! Let’s hope that people get wise quickly!

[@BrianLG100]

@@CoffeewithCarey And victims who lost something will gain it back someway somehow

[@mrnt1257]

Oh, there will be no end to scammers or victims.

[@BrianLG100]

@@mrnt1257 Yep, it's only wishful thinking. Scammers never give up no matter how much they proven that they are not who they say when the person they attempt to fool already know every thing. As far as future victims, let's just hope they don't lose alot.

[@KayNovember26]

As long as there is desperate women, these guys will florish! Sad but true.

[@agnessmith780]

Excellent and helpful information. Thanks so much!!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you, Agnes!

[@lloydmaliakal6256]

Im glad I am brave and not afraid to report the scammer.

[@midlifecurious]

Thank you so much for making this video. I work in the Financial Crimes space and the degree of scamming happening these days is terrible. Far too many women (and men) are un-informed and vulnerable.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you for the thank you. We’ve gotta just keep talking about it!

[@hollyprincipato3287]

Some people trust these scammers to be legit. When you try to make them see they are being scammed they get angry with you. Well, if they are enjoying being played a fool I don't want to know when they get their heart broke. They want to act like they don't have any sense I don't want to know!

[@roserpalarea5968]

On doit dire par tout les réseaux, tv., radio, tw. facebook, etc. Qu'il y a beaucoup de scammer dans le monde. Dans tous les pays. Attention!! C'est trés grave!!!!

[@CarmenZepeda-yu5no]

Please set a channel about it. You will help a lot of people. Men and women.

[@CarmenZepeda-yu5no]

Please set a channel about it. You will help a lot of people. Men and women.

[@lovelyyoua3754]

Carey, thank you so much for your advice and tips in this video! Your channel and video isn't just for 50 years old and over, I'm 34 and I too needed to hear this. Its true these romance scammers exist and will do everything to charm their way in just to scam people. Thank you so much. New subscriber to your channel and I look forward to watching more of your helpful videos!❤️❤️❤️

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Welcome Youa! Thanks for subscribing and I hope you find more episodes that help you out. Ps. You are not alone. 25% of my viewers are between 25 and 35. ;-)

[@nanbenton9850]

Back in the days of just newspaper ads, these guys would prey on “lonely hearts”. They still are!

[@georgewhaley8951]

Your information and insight was most helpful in making me more aware, thank you

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You are very welcome, George. Meet them or delete them. Within a week.

[@hollyprincipato3287]

I think I will re-wat h this video and save to favorites. A woman has to protect herself now. Women please be careful. I'm,d rather stay alone and lonely than to fall for it again.

[@kristenp5835]

I’m 50 in two months. I would love to find a genuine relationship but I’m afraid to even try to date anymore.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You’re still young, Kristen. If you would ‘love to’ then be bold, be brave, and just be smart.

[@johndonald9260]

Me too

[@natividadnazario1381]

Go to cafes Sunday morning Breakfast Go alone You see they see you Eventually The will say hello Or you will say hello Do not eat on your desk daily Go out at noon on Thursdays and Fridays

[@knowbodiesfull5768]

Don't feel bad, Kristen. The single life is not as bad as it seems. I'm 57 and single. Enjoy the single life to the fullest! When you're ready to marry, that's your choice! BTW, I have a niece named Kristen, and she's exactly half your age! (7/11/2021)

[@jimmykulinski8219]

Hey I'll go out on a date with you but I will keep it professional and just make you laugh and enjoy a dinner at a steakhouse restaurant and just maybe become great friends first before anything get serious

[@analizatabinas4833]

Very nice explanation..

[@virginiaczarnecki1478]

Thanks have run into all the types of scammers you delineated. Adjusting my profile. Thanks.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

My pleasure. Glad you found something useful, Virginia.

[@virginiaczarnecki1478]

Are you taking on new clients? Are you in Chicago?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I am in Chicago. And I am taking on new clients… But I have clients all over the country since we work together virtually. ☺️ If you’re thinking coaching might be helpful to you may I suggest browsing around my website a bit? If you think we might be a good fit after reading about what I offer there is a link to schedule a free chat. 💖👍 www.CoffeewithCarey.com

[@power4things]

I'm not sure the "pen pal" is always so bad or a waste of time. Sometimes this can turn into meeting someone nice. You should be friends before you're anything else. Having said that, Carey's other advice is spot-on. Particularly the money, urgent help or asking for revealing photos. Instant red flags and immediate block.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

no, I don’t think you should be “friends before anything else”. Not if unless you’re looking to be in the friend zone forever.

[@elizabethakinyi3843]

I wanna meet someone serious,I am tired of scammers

[@kathyevans757]

What would you do in the olden days to meet someone if there wasn't social media?

[@marshahanson5870]

@@kathyevans757 flirt, primp and cross our fingers.

[@kathyevans757]

@@marshahanson5870 Good one 🥰

[@prettyeyes1752]

me to and many are in African Nigeria

[@twilfits]

That's your name?

[@armanparsi5649]

Good informations, base on my own experiences there is no long distance relationship it never works.. Long distance relationship is the only open platform for scammers please don't go there.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

In my advice don’t dismiss the fact that you are doing all video conversations

[@armanparsi5649]

thank you, love yo too.

[@dreahayes2119]

@@CoffeewithCarey can you please explain this to me?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

If you meet someone online, and you aren’t looking for a pen pal… have a video chat asap to determine if you want to go meet within the week for a drink or lunch or coffee etc.

[@johnbyerlein6682]

Just discovered you randomly and find your presentation outstanding. I readily delete any FB friend requests if I did not originate the connection or if I don't know who you are.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you for the compliment. And I do the same with my personal Instagram account. That’s why I have a public account for Coffee with Carey. ;-). Welcome!

[@lindaohia6938]

You are spot on with this video. They are out there by the thousands 😢

[@CoffeewithCarey]

😏

[@emmajones8590]

Good tips. Especially that you shouldn't waste your time with people who are too far away to meet, if you want a serious relationship. And you don't want someone with all sorts of money problems, even if they actually are genuine.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

They are most likely not.

[@emmajones8590]

@@CoffeewithCarey Oh believe me, I have met and had relationships with some real men who couldn't or wouldn't manage their money. Always wanting financial help. Poor dears were always having problems, causing them to run out of money. Or having a reason why I had to buy them a car. I don't even have a driver's license. Always a reason why they couldn't pay back any loans. Would take the rent money and spend it on some luxury for themselves etc etc. That kind of behaviour. It's as much of a pain in the @rse in its own way, as having a begging scammer. But at least you are on the spot and can keep an eye on things a lot better.

[@gienoriega9607]

Thank you Miss Carrey for the tips on how to determine a true friend in a Facebook. Stay safe

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Is that what you got out of the episode? Very interesting. Well I’m glad you found it helpful! 💖👍

[@adrianafayad6774]

They are always abroad, widowers or they were cheated on by their wives (so you will feel bad for them and they get your simpathy), pour a lot of compliments and love declarations in a too short time after the first talking, usually parents already deceased and no kids or if one of them is living in another country, they have a military career, they are engineer or a doctor. They have large texts creating a bio and make you questions that make you feel like you are in a job interview. To me, the bottom line is: somebody I only know on line and never met, will never mean more to me than an acquaintance, tops. Not even a friend I would call them, let alone boyfriend. In order to progress in the relationship I need to meet in person. Thank you for the important content, we need to help each other.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Except that whole first paragraph you just typed out is not true at all. They are 50 men sitting in a call center, texting women in the United States and pretending to be one person, instead of a whole shift crew.

[@adrianafayad6774]

@@CoffeewithCarey Yes, I know it works as a call center, I was mentioning the stories they try us to believe as their bios. It's really a despicable work, if it's possible to call it like that such a shameful ocupation...

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yes and this life of crime is not a victimless

[@knowbodiesfull5768]

I wonder "y" so many people believe "sympathy" is spelled with an "I"! (12/31/2021)

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Bwahaha. ;)

[@debbiewilley9428]

Ever since I changed my Facebook status from married to widowed, I get 1-2 requests to be "friended" daily from guys. Some are such obvious fakes it's laughable. I only friend people I already know, so I'm not worried. The last thing I need is another battle to fight!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Remove the status altogether? Save yourself aggravation and getting on their list for other places.

[@morpheusartstudio4666]

Awesome information girl! Thumbs up 👍

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Well aren’t you the sweetest! Thanks for leaving the encouragement- glad to know you enjoyed!

[@lovelynice7751]

I recently scam,both them working in the middle of the sea,thank you so much for your advice I learn a lot!I just join in the dating com,s many fake people

[@CoffeewithCarey]

If they can’t meet you within the week delete them asap!

[@lovelynice7751]

@@CoffeewithCarey thank you so much, but 10days he make me in love his sweet words until I ask him to send me his identity then he prefer to I block him, but I feel so bad I send something not too, I block him right away when he say if he miss me he look my photos in video so scarry, but I got lesson to learn

[@JayMaverick]

About getting scammed, it can happen to anyone. The sooner you realize that, the better you can defend yourself. It's not a question of being stupid or naive. These people are professional manipulators and they will lure you in.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Not if you follow the one rule.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Again this is about you. Lots of people do loan money to their family and friends. I think it’s great that you are sharing your opinions but I think you need to realize that everybody is not exactly like you.. This is why sweeping generalizations (assuming everyone is just like us or share our opinions) are not as helpful or well received, as just sharing your thoughts as your own opinion.

[@dreahayes2119]

@@CoffeewithCarey I agree victim blaming is evil if you ask me.

[@MrRowley5]

Only stupid people will fall for a scam 😅 No brain cells ,that is the problem. 😂

[@kathybrem880]

Nope, not me, I don’t want a partner, I’m a very, Merry Widow!!

[@blueskies00]

FANTASTIC ADVICE Thank you soooo much for helping people. So sad that people really think these people are Real and that this keeps happening. Hoping people will stop giving them money. Hopefully scammers will stop or at least slow wayyy down.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Spread the word!! 🤎🤞

[@TorontoKaraokeClub]

An EX boyfriend of Ten Years just turned FULL time scammer probably with a team as well. So ladies, careful, careful who you date. I'm glad he disappeared and I let it happen back than.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Once you know how to protect yourself head over and find out how to bring good people and good energy into your dating life! kzbin.info/www/bejne/rqqsiWaNZp58Y6s

[@hallieadams4225]

My scammer was so good at it. We fought more than anything but I really fell for him. I had never heard of catfishing or dating scams before it was too late. We don't look it up if we don't know it exists.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I’m sorry that happened to you. You are not alone. 😞 And that’s why I keep talking about it!

[@jaxjaxvang4910]

Thanks so much for sharing these wonderful and helpful tips🙏❤️

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You are very welcome!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Once you know how to protect yourself check out my thought on First Date Conversation: 7 Thing to NOT Talk About on a First Date! kzbin.info/www/bejne/p2qYpmailtOmgtE

[@thestreamoflife1124]

Best to listen to this advice. On line dating is very risky

[@CoffeewithCarey]

But it does not have to be. Just being aware decreases your chances of a negative experience by probably 90%.

[@shawnrichards8865]

@@CoffeewithCarey great video advice Carey we all love ❤️ your advice

[@CoffeewithCarey]

So sweet.

[@elisabeth2959]

This information was helpful...thank you

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I’m so glad and thank you for leaving a comment, Elizabeth.

[@alicebrzoza7671]

Very informative, thanks for sharing. Keep up the good work👍

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you. There is a new episode up on Romance scams and dating scammers that went up last week, if you’re interested.

[@lorraineswanson2161]

This helped more than you know. THANK YOU!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

so glad!!

[@rickreigert8305]

Awesome job ❗️🙌 Guys need to hear it as well❗️

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yup

[@sheronb1515]

Thank you for sharing ! Great information Carey! So helpful.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

So glad you found it useful, Sheron!

[@XxGuNsLiNgErxX123]

Thanks for the info!! This just happened to a t all the warnings you said. glad I caught the red-flag person tried to get bank info from me lol

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Oh maaan. Crazy stuff. I don’t know why people think they can fall in love through the inter-webs without meeting somebody in person. How many dates where you’ve had absolutely zero chemistry would you have to have to remember that the odds are so slim that true love can happen without face-to-face contact?

[@XxGuNsLiNgErxX123]

@@CoffeewithCarey I'm doing face to face for hear on out lol not taking that chance anymore

[@clarissahoward1901]

Wow, if only I had seen this a month ago. Thank you for sharing!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

It’s never too late to start making good decisions.. Live and learn…

[@clarissahoward1901]

@@CoffeewithCarey I got myself out of the situation right after seeing your message. I blocked all contacts. I am out of $150 but it’s okay, it could be more. Thank you for sharing.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Oh my God, Clarissa I am so glad you found your way to this episode!! Stay alert girlfriend! 💖

[@clarissahoward1901]

@@CoffeewithCarey absolutely!

[@easy4steve]

thanks great video yeap and so right with all these signs .

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You are welcome. :-)

[@margaritacasiao9723]

That’s true, they asked you to go to Hang out or what’s Up that they can disappear easy at anytime after they got money from you..they say they have big amount of money but they don’t have access to their account cause they are in a war Zone, they say they will return back with interest or they plan to buy you a home so you could be together, don’t have good food to eat, always have reason for you to send money.,

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Tale as old as time! … at least time since having the Internet. 😡

[@that_ocd_guy]

Very helpful information. Thank you soo much

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You are very welcome, Tushar!

[@AnnLaustsen87]

I was talking about how these days, lots of people try to anthropomorphize their pets. After a certain point, I don't think it's good for mental health. I do want someone to come home to in the evening and talk to. Someone that I can depend on. But with all the scams, ugly men, and married men... it looks like the only option I have are two cats.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

A lot of people with partners and whole families in the home treat their pets like full family members, so not sure it’s part of the same loneliness problem. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Ps. Scams are so easy to avoid. You’ll be fine. 👍

[@robhatesyoutube]

tip #1 don't send strangers money!!

[@jennifervaughn1541]

The problem is they don’t seem like strangers

[@rhemaluckie5300]

Thank you ma'am, your information is very helpful, much appreciated.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

M pleasure. And welcome!

[@inspiredinthedark23]

A lot of these techniques the scammers use are the same ones that are employed by psychopaths / sociopaths. Having dated one years ago, I'm more aware of these tactics. I only recently joined tinder, and within a few days I had already encountered three different crypto scammers. Something just didn't feel right. The way they answered questions. The way the would slide mentions of crypto into conversations. Moving the conversation to another chat app too fast. But, I trust my instincts, and if it doesn't feel right, something is up. I called one of them on his obvious scam too, and he freaked out! lol!!! Started insulting me, etc. Whatever. Block, delete, moved on. :)

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Well if you have watched my scammer episodes it will not take you long to recognize That someone is not interested in hearing about you Or trying to make plans with you immediately.

[@oo-ps6nt]

Thank you for the warning ⚠️, God Bless 🙏

[@noreenryan7487]

Thank you for your wise advice. Cheers.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

You’re welcome, and thank you Noreen!

[@akryszcz]

Thank you for interesting information. I would like to broaden a bit your perspective and talk about my country. In Poland (Central or Eastern Europe) there a lot of poor or disabled people who are searching for friends or love, therefore we share sometimes our hardships from the begining of the conversation to help each other in the time of the pandemic and energy crisis in Europe. It is not always a red flag in my culture. This attitude towards the success vary according to the culture. Being a good partner does not always go along with being rich or financially stable in Poland. Two people with small money can support each other and survive together. Moreover, looking for penpals should not be called as "less dangerous" than scamming for money because penpalling is not dangerous at all. Also, somebody from different country does not have to be necessarily a scammer. I have a penpal from a different continent for years and it works well. To sum up, the most valid point of your video is about not sending money to unknown online strangers.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

My point was that if you are looking for someone to date, not have a long distance relationship with, you are going to want to connect with someone you can meet. Working with all of my matchmaking clients there are some who have the ability to fly wherever I need a Match, but many people are looking for someone to have dinner with this weekend and if that person is a plane ride away that’s just not what they are looking for. And of course there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a penpal. But that is typically a friend.

[@akryszcz]

@@CoffeewithCarey thank you very much for your response ❤️

[@shirlainewilliams152]

i do not put photos of me on the media i only use 1 photo for everything .also when they continue to ask what have you eaten its because they want to know if you eat out a lot or if you eat steak or hot dogs ,steak is exspensive ,so watch out for the small things ,like what time do you finnish work call me ,they are trying to find out about your day ,how you sleep they wanna know what time you wake up again they say call me when you wake up ,they want to control you ,you advice is brilliant ,your right about the research ,my scammers look at mine and tell me i have not got any updated photos lol lol lol ,thanks again

[@richardw3470]

They're snakes at getting revealing info; burrowing in to your slightest comment (evidently).

[@cecioliva2638]

Thanks for your advice. It is very good.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you, Ceci.

[@omegaman1409]

The internet is a scary place. I tried searching someone’s name and knew where they went to school and even a whole resume. This was a decade ago. My father never uses a picture of himself and I resorted the same. Try not to even use your last name. Privacy is at risk.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

For some people being invisible on the Internet is impossible we have had careers and appearances and publications. It’s an equal playing field for most of us you can find anybody anywhere and at any time. It’s just the world we live in at this point. But if you are kind and you treat people fairly I don’t think it’s quite as scary as some people believe

[@chadgross6331]

a very great, good video how to teacher us about scamming ♥️♥️💯🤷🏽‍♂️

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you, Chad.

[@chadgross6331]

@@CoffeewithCarey you are so welcome♥️♥️♥️

[@cherriegrant5024]

Good information Really appreciate you putting this out there

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🤎

[@ramonagrays4541]

Thank you for all the good advice.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Glad it connected for you, Ramona!

[@knowbodiesfull5768]

I had a couple of scammers contact me (I have since blocked them) and say they lost their jobs because of COVID-19. That's another sign. (6/21/2021)

[@lindabarker9694]

Ihavetblockedthem

[@Svartalf14]

I don't know the 'oil rig' scam, but the pattern, (I have lots of money but need help and front change to get it) is a variation of what we French people call the Nigerian Pirnce scam (because so many scammere were from Nigeria), and that one happens without the need of being attached to a romance scam. Listen to the lady, if anybody tells you 'please help me get my money, you'll get you advance back and tons more', flee, and if possible, signal the scammer to competent authorities.

[@brandyhuffman8672]

Thank you

[@MrsCaranAmy]

There are so many scammers. Some are criminals and imposters. Thank you. Have a blessed day. Namaste 🙏 ✨️❤️🌺

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🤎

[@cheyennest]

A little too late for me, unfortunately! The feelings of guilt and shame are very intense!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Ugh. I’m sorry. Hopefully you’ll be able to turn those feelings into something positive by helping other people avoid the same situation.

[@cheyennest]

Thank you so much! It will take time for me to come back to my senses! Its still very raw, I just found out! I would gladly help spread awareness at some point!

[@Fred-on7bz]

Informative and useful tips. Brilliant 👍. Thanks. You are gorgeous and impressive 😊

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Glad you found it useful, Fred! Thank you also.

[@Pleasantgreenhelplinee]

Honestly I can’t thank him enough this is all I could do.. the name above ☝️👆🏻 helped recover my scammed funds.. he’s the best scam hunter

[@krismurray304]

Two men found me on FB telling me "thank you for answering friend request". Hhmm I never received a request. Suspicious, I blocked both. How did he find me. I never gave out my phone number or address.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Good response on your part! You don’t need no more stinking online friends! ;-)

[@cheryljones2009]

I was searching for more information on "online dating scams" & found this video.... Good advice, you explained everything very clearly! I know this happens often, but what specific website are women "targeted" on most often? 🤔

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Dating apps! 🤣 Don’t let your guard down and do your due diligence to confirm that people are who they say they are. Google is your friend and gullibility/wishful thinking must be avoided. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@shawnrichards8865]

@@CoffeewithCarey I love you. I’m curious for when people won’t feel sorry for them they don’t need help they know it’s wrong to use people and To not ask for personal information that is a crime and they will go to jail for that sooner or later right?

[@CoffeewithCarey]

It’s not always a person. It’s a whole group of people! And it’s hard to catch them. So we have to protect ourselves. Do not talk to anybody who doesn’t live nearby and won’t meet you within a week.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

And now I read they are targeting Facebook and Instagram. Just Don’t bother talking to anybody who won’t meet you for coffee within a week!

[@Voyagerwreford]

I wish you a happy life🧡🧡🧡

[@zztop8592]

Thanks for a good video, and good advice!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thanks for the comment and you are welcome!💖👍

[@zztop8592]

@@CoffeewithCarey You're welcome!

[@thestreamoflife1124]

It's a crisis. Do not be on any social platforms.....better stay alone

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Or... just be aware and be smart about it. Most of us date just fine using apps and websites and most marriages these days are between people meeting online. It’s not very complicated. In fact two rules for yourself and no worries at all. 💖👍

[@LetsTravelThisYear]

Good video. Great advice.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you!

[@starholistic]

Thank you so much for this great video information really appreciate it

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you back at you, Maureen!

[@johnjeannineball1335]

I had a lot of this, from women. Very similar to what you just said. I lost Jeannine, in 20120.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I’m sorry, John. 💖

[@marigoldcarter5995]

Thank you for this. Yes he was wonderful and love bombed me every day. He's a contractor in Dubai and will be in US soon. He didn't ask for money. Just asked to move in. He said I was sabotaging the relationship because I wanted to chat on the phone, not just text and email. But the emails were fabulous LOL. In the end, I feel so foolish. Yes, I was lonely. But now I feel just plain stupid to spend so much time with such a loser.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I’m sorry this person took so much of your time. If I were you I would try to find gratitude in the situation and perhaps be thankful that while you did seem to waste time you were enjoying it while it was happening and at least you did not give away your life savings. It could’ve been worse, Merigold. Thanks for sharing your story 💕👍

[@jennifervaughn1541]

Mine told me the same. It would ruin his career because of his celebrity status. It was against the entertainment company rules. It could cause scandal. Then when I refused to send money to help him with military leave to come be with me then I was damaging our relationship and him because it’s not safe where he is

[@marigoldcarter5995]

@@jennifervaughn1541 it's great that women are speaking out and warning each other about this. These guys spend a ridiculous amount of time creating poems and love letters to trick lonely women. I told him go write a romance novel since he's so good at creating fantasies! Don't give up!

[@jeffrey63031]

Sounds like the same laser I had!!!!

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Often these are teams of men and women who are scamming both men and women. They are using scripts and sharing photo shopped documents. Don’t let yourself get sucked into thinking that you are talking to one person or gender. these are often coworkers, sometimes working the same person on different shifts.

[@christopherthornton3291]

I caught a scammer red handed and I roasted the crap out of them

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Check out this week’s new episode!

[@barniaburton1205]

If caught several of them .i new they were trying to scam me.so I let them think I was crazy about them .Then when they ask for money I lowered the boom on them .Boy did they get mad .one told me I never expected that out of you.i said i know you though you had me tied around you little fingers .How’s it feel .He called me a bitch. I just laughter .

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I guess if you have you have time for that. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@KayNovember26]

I play along for a while... and then it's roasting time! I have a whole collection of angry "African gods" faces! I think those were supposed to scare me. Not sure?!

[@KayNovember26]

@@barniaburton1205 Send them my way when you're done with them. I'll roast them all over again!

[@teresaniumata2742]

Thank you for sharing.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

🙏

[@rosanacandia399]

Thank you for your advice

[@kathywalsh6024]

This is why you interrogate and dont trust at first sight. I had someone viciously bully troll and still wont take NO for an answer.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

I’m sorry. I know how horrible that is. 😕

[@lehoadang9993]

So true all the tips.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Glad we are on the same page!

[@lucillepiodos103]

New subs here. Thank you Ms. Carey of the tips. Would be of greatest help for women and men waiting for the right one. ❤

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Thank you and welcome, Lucille!

[@arjundevrawat915]

when you know ur virtual partner scamming you its hurts lot more then get scammed

[@CoffeewithCarey]

you consider this person/scammer a partner? hmmm

[@princessmarlena1359]

Be careful even dating someone in person, there are scammers, users, baby-trappers, and other unsavory types out there.

[@CoffeewithCarey]

Yikes!