20. What to do if your ex reaches out! (The Love Chat)

[@UNDOSTREIS]

She just reached out...7months. Thought I’d never hear from her...it happened...unexpected

[@spiritualrituals9603]

So what is the conclusion. Please share with us. I mean are you back or what ever please tell us.

[@UNDOSTREIS]

Seyed.H 2 meeting up in a couple weeks.

[@spiritualrituals9603]

@@UNDOSTREIS I'm so happy for you. And I hope it works out.

[@TheElizabethjoanna]

I got call from a ex after 10years plus .... unexpected from private number I thought it's a doctor .. I didn't recognize his voice He said he don't believe I do not know who it's speaking ... When I ask him why he is calling me now ? He said he just miss my voice My response on 1.57 I did hung up My head burning from guestion why after so many years...but this world is imperfect and we have imperfect people who make imperfect decisions and those imperfect decisions have a impact not only on them self but as well on us ...

[@jeffreyexposito3803]

@@TheElizabethjoanna So you rejected him? Why? Are you still hurting from the break up?

[@hgrgrnd1206]

This information is fantastic. But let’s consider, (and i’m certainly guilty of this myself) why do we want our exes back. If they left us, they broke our trust. They’re not people we want as our teammate. And If you’re in no contact to heal and they reach out but have no interest in reconciliation, than they are being totally selfish. More reason to not want them back. It’s about power, believe me. It’s not about love. My gf left me over the holidays. Yeah I made mistakes, but at the end of the day, I can look back and say, I was a fucking amazing partner!! I know there’s so many people out there blaming themselves. Felling bad about not showing up perfect. Let me tell you, none of us are perfect. We all have frailties, it’s part of being human. Know that the right person will embrace this part of you and choose to walk with you and not away from you. Just my two cents worth. I know my ex is going to break and contact me. But anything other than acknowledging what she did and wanting to work things out, (which will probably be too late anyway) will be ignored.

[@solidn6]

@Roman Kralovic I couldn't agree more. When they left they broke the trust and bond we had. It's just our minds that's addicted to that person and is looking for any excuse to fulfill that addiction by letting them back into our life. Now that I think about it, my ex blamed everything on me, but I was just sticking up for my boundaries and not doing things I wasn't comfortable with. She tried to make me feel guilty about that and left me. She never loved me. I can't wait to get over her.

[@silentmx79]

That's because of attachment issues. Not everybody have a healthy attachment style, nor even know they are anxious. It's pretty difficult to see things objetive when you're in a mind-fogging anxiety.

[@plusultra5735]

Just curious, did she reach out?

[@topgunner1962]

Great post. Would like to know if she did reach out too

[@limitedsource6218]

Good mentality, hope you will stay strong.

[@ArchAngelMikhael91]

They left, their loss. Move on and stay focused on yourself.You could never go wrong when you invest in yourself than to anyone else.People come and go in our lives.

[@mariacure9956]

meisha gurskaya #FACTS

[@1kmilez]

true

[@M_elliote34]

Not everyone has the strength to incorporate that winsome. Yes some people can be completely fine after getting dumped and move forward with ease, but some of us take it a little harder, especially if we have that type of attachment style.

[@peach816]

Thanks.

[@gregclark9733]

Thats what I did hell yeah

[@M_elliote34]

I don’t necessarily want my ex back. I just want to make him regret his choice 😏

[@michellefalco9773]

you can not MAKE anyone feel or want anything-move on if u don't want him back-that's just your ego talking-

[@margaritam.9118]

Michelle Falco No one says they pressured their ex to feel guilty, stop making up people’s presumed actions ffs. They said they wish ex would regret their decision during no contact.

[@angelastewart7327]

U have to let it go... I used to want revenge and it's not good.

[@lordsith952]

Deranged Titan 😏

[@rdsieben]

When your Ex reaches out, the ball is now in your court.

[@TasosJoker]

She reached out 1,5 years, I almost forgot her existence.

[@sofiandi6117]

Hey, what did she say? What happened? Did you reconcile?

[@crafciti4081]

Yess what did she say?? Update please!

[@sofiandi6117]

@@crafciti4081 no respond, most probably nothing as usual, it's not like the first time:(

[@sofiandi6117]

@Daddy Luis why?

[@ConfidencePT]

If they take that long to reach out, I would have forgotten they existed too.

[@jaredcahill1291]

The reassurance you give at the end of every video is so comforting. I don't feel like I can be loved a lot of the time, or that I'm worth anything. Having a stranger on the internet validate me just for being... Feels really nice. Thank you as always.

[@Kymv8382]

Wait what? An hour? Im waiting at LEAST two whole days if that chick contacts me . We havent talked in weeks, i dont even respond to my mom in an hour lmao

[@ladynerfertitti1710]

Hahah I was thinking the same thing, an hour???!!!!

[@tawahmanda4586]

😂😂😂😂🙌🙌

[@truffleflowers]

That totally took me by surprise too 😂😂😂😂 I'm like, if this asshole takes weeks or even months to reach out, his ass better wait. I need a lot more than an hour or even two for myself, to process😊

[@bubblebass1902]

I feel u

[@arsjth]

i dont think some here have dealt with their anger. I dont know that the reconnect from the no contact will go well if you have that pain.

[@Kommentar999]

She reached out today. 1.5 months

[@dreams.of.dyeing]

I erased her number from my phone.. To make sure that I dont contact her... Ughh , it's so hard.

[@Cfresh84]

Cj varron Same but I’m blocked

[@RichardColwell1]

Any updates ?

[@dreams.of.dyeing]

We have been back amd forth for the past year.. So im right back here

[@arnoldw9112]

@@dreams.of.dyeing just deleted her number, she broke up with me 18 okt.. havent heard from here since so im cutting ties

[@taniawilliams14]

Cj varron delete and don’t reply. Empower yourself rather than filling their void

[@LadyChar9]

My ex reached out after 7-1/2 months , we linking up when I return from Thailand next week ! It happens when you least expect it ! Just live your best life and watch what happens 👌🏽

[@nicolewinters]

Seems like 7/1.2 months is the number

[@yeuruuerueeheue]

update

[@erikaeyasvergara6175]

No contact does worked wonders. I'm grateful everyday. Im stronger and even if I had a son with my ex narc , i am okay now.

[@fangdrag]

This video is literally saving my life right now. Not even holidays.

[@AlenaAleczandra]

He texted me “Happy Christmas😊😘” after a week of no contact and i replied 20 minutes later, i wished the same to him. Now i m again in nc .

[@grjabalpuriya1039]

As corey wayne says nagotiate own your terms, the relationship failed because you were unhappy that you aren't getting something that make you not to put your best foot forward. So if an ex reaches out. Don't be in rush there is a very good chance you will breakup again so this time think before you interact i know it's hard. But next time it'll hurt more so be care full.

[@s2h995]

GRJabalpuriya sometimes thats the case ,but for myself.. i overdid things, got needy, insecure, andmissed all the signs she really liked me..fix yourself can possibly prevent future break ups.

[@thisgustin]

Think before you interact? Well then what?

[@bigd8973]

True happened to me. Be careful what you wish for fellas

[@sallyjo7119]

Game playing is no way to establish a healthy relationship.

[@cherrybacon3319]

What I want to know is do messages like "I love you", "I miss you" or anything that doesn't exactly refer to sorting the relationship out constitute a response. They can say they love or miss you but those words themselves aren't saying "I want to sort the relationship out". 🍒

[@tiffanypr.9448]

No contact worked 3 times with me (even after 5 months)! Work on yourself, glow tf up, find new hobbies, be happy on your own and you'll be surprised lol even when you think all hope is lost haha

[@PrinceKumar-oj9db]

Is it 3rd time with the same person? How long was your relationship? How long it took person to come back 1st and 2nd time?

[@tiffanypr.9448]

@@PrinceKumar-oj9db Yes I was talking about the same person! First time was 5 months, 1 months then 5 months. The relationship was ld and 4 years :) The funny thing is, no contact worked also on previous guys I have dated (that dumped me), they usually came back after 1-2 months but my interest level wasn't even that high to begin with so doesn't really count. So honestly, TRUST NO CONTACT, I did it naturally because it felt the right thing to do. What I did to calm my anxiety was to tell myself that they will come back, in the mean time I focus on myself (and watch videos lol). Funny thing is, before you know time heals everything and you won't care about the outcome anymore!

[@yadhaider807]

She reached out after just 18 days even though I got blocked before for begging and pleading with her and thought she'd never talk to me again :/

[@jwilcollective816]

@@kurdonoid Dude mines literally parked right next to me at the gas station yesterday, and just stared at me until she caught my attention, because I didn't notice her pull up. I went over and we had a quick chat. Later that night (2am) she drunk dials me. Going on and on about the break up and how angry she is at me. Funny thing is, we've been broken up close to a month and a half, roughly. And yesterday was my first day finally feeling free and over it. The trick is always confidence.

[@thebeard6334]

Any Update

[@elliejohns8895]

Guys "No Contact" definitely works i've done it and in less than a month my ex reached out saying that he wants to meet up. I told him i didn't want to and he gone mad lol and kept asking when am i gonna be free, so i told him not to talk to me anymore n i want him outta my life yay me i got what i wanted Revenge and now he depressed and shit lol now we on the same level. Stupid exes think that they have the power to end and start things huh

[@niallwalters8201]

Okay they actually reached out after 3 months of NC. I’m so grateful for your advice coach!! 😀

[@niallwalters8201]

Just an update - I didn’t want them back as they just clearly didn’t change. Life goes on and I’m a better person for it and have moved on!

[@Hstphobia]

@@niallwalters8201 Kinda late, but I'm really glad for you! Hope you're doing well

[@x16]

Stay positive!!! I was absolutely devastated after my ex broke up with me. She left me out of no where. Turned cold and I couldn’t believe it. I DID NOT chase or beg her. I never thought she would reach out to me since she was so cold. Well, 42 days later of STRICT NO CONTACT she called me telling me she missed me and apologized to me. We’re meeting up for drinks and to catch up. I honestly took the time of no contact to work on myself and to rebuild myself on all aspects of life, spiritual, physically, mentally and most of all emotionally. I do miss her and love her but I don’t need her. I’m at peace knowing that I will be okay, regardless if we get back together or not. Remain strong to everyone who’s going through a tough breakup, & eventually if they do realize your worth. They will reach out! Thank you Rory!! Best of luck to everyone!

[@nxbxxha_1764]

Aww well, baby the thing here is that he's different...Cause, he doesn't beg! And you know what's more funny? He can DEEPLY love me with all his heart, miss me like crazy, CRAVE me which he DOES! He stalks me everyday to see on whom posts I comment ect...But, still he's never going to text first, beg or whatsoever! Idk what's his problem lmao he doesn't wanna lose me, yet he doesn't talk to open up or say anything, I wish there was a different method for him :)

[@Ashtonishing1812]

update?

[@x16]

@@Ashtonishing1812 I ended up not returning to her. No contact really showed me that I deserved better and it made me come to my senses and it opened my eyes. I knew she was no good for me but I was blinded by lust and what I considered “love” she was very manipulative and had narcissistic characteristics. Now I have met someone new who I consider a better woman than my ex. Moral of the story, life goes on and I hope those who are going through heartache find peace. Best of luck to everyone struggling with heartbreak, I know it sucks but when you stop trying to force love into your life and focus on yourself and really love yourself that’s when you find what you’re looking for.

[@Ashtonishing1812]

@@x16 glad you got your closure. My ex is actually a genuinely good woman. I've dated mentally unstable women for comparison and this is what makes the breakup hard. Knowing her beauty and strength and being out the other side. Man I have regrets. We will see what the future holds. I know she still loves me.

[@x16]

@@Ashtonishing1812 stay strong brother, focus on you, and the women will too.

[@RareGem369]

Do NOT under any circumstance ask your ex who broke up with you to meet up with you. If they really want to see you again they will ask you to. But asking them to meet with you after they left you just screams desperation.

[@v.b6028]

Yeah, I agree with this. Mine was long distance and we ended it because he moved and I went into NC thinking I had no hope especially because of the long distance. When he reached out, I kept it very brief until he said that he wanted to meet up. There was no way I was gonna ask to meet up with him. He dumped me so I made sure he did to do the ground work & heavy lifting Not me. And it worked.

[@gritNglitter301]

NC for 6 weeks, ex reaches out. Prior to NC I discovered my ex was seeing his ex again. My ex lied and decieved me.He won't own his lies or cheating. that's when I went into NC. Since there was no closure, my ex tried to "friend zone" as is nothing happened. When I rejected it, he begins blaming me for the break up. We disagreed about the break up and blamed each other. I'm starting NC with him again. This time forever

[@ricknelson4721]

I was the dumpee, but when I saw her a month later, she put out her arms for a hug and I offered my hand for a handshake. It was many years later when I saw her again, and she pretended she did not even know me. I found someone 1000 times better and we have been married for over 30 years.

[@JustATrini]

My ex reached out 19 days into no contact, thought she never would.

[@crafciti4081]

Music/Forever Are you still together?

[@angel-pp5gj]

wow

[@taylorknight5186]

Never thought I would hear from my ex again but the moment he found out I went on a girls trip with my friends, I got a text from him.

[@CeeP211]

The end of this video really brought me to tears. Thanks for the positive and inspiring message.

[@spiderdog23]

As soon as I completely let go, yep, she emailed later that day. Edit: I wanted to wait a few days before I replied, but she started texting me before I was ready to send. Wait it out y’all... she will call unless you REALLY f’d up...

[@tajcool13]

She reached out finally i was completely blindsided never thought she would. She told me how much she missed me and wants to meet up this weekend it’s been 3 months

[@Skywalker20000]

WOW VODS and Things my ex reacted out after 6 months She just disrespected me asking to meet up while she is sleeping around I told her it was done the day you left and don’t contact me anymore All wanted her to know how it feels to reach and fall

[@blackreign8933]

Update

[@cannoncrazy225]

what if its long distance and you cannot just meet up?

[@v.b6028]

Sorry, a late response but I had a relationship that ended because he wanted to move interstate. he wanted to put me in a friends zone and I said no. I told him to call me if things change and left it at that. Then he reached out and we slowly started talking and I went over and met up with him for dinner. But I pretended that I went for work. I needed to suss out how this was going to go. We are taking a very slowly but texting and calling when we can. Long distance makes it hard but not impossible. He still need to be in NC & respond when they contact you if you want them back. And perhaps if you can, one of you meet up with the other. Face-to-face always helps alleviate any anxiety about where to go when you come out of NC but take it slow.

[@prazad001]

Just don’t go back to your ex if she was sleeping around with every guy she met.

[@Genos0589]

true

[@Jordantzd]

She’s been a promiscuous person and she has slept with 2 lads consecutively day after day less than 2 weeks after the breakup. I’m not sure man... it’s who she is but she’s been absolutely faithful during the time with me

[@tonydadog1]

@@Jordantzd 2 WEEKS 2 GUYS ? fuck it. its too much.

[@jacqueshowell5931]

@@Jordantzd I'm pretty sure you've been a good source of supply she needs to feed your spirit if not nothing changed and you will be placed in the back burner until she gets tired of sleeping around once she's bored she will come back to abuse you again. Be strong we are dealing with the devil face to face.

[@MrRux11]

Just as I was reading your book... I checked my email....she messaged me....52 days into no contact....she is stubborn btw....lol..I never dreamed that would happen. We have been technically broken up 15 months ..this is the first time she I initiated. Thank u

[@YousifAlh]

just as I am watching this vid she fk contacted me?!

[@seropserop]

I am talking to myself update?

[@mr.c.lvoiceofreasonwyrd4054]

Same here, today she just reached out to me. The first sign however was that she changed her profile cover to a photo of high spiritual and sentimental value between us just two days ago.

[@YousifAlh]

@@seropserop nääh she has bf but I dont care anymore

[@katrinacastro4126]

I know this video is 2 years old, but it is still relevant and very informative. I greatly appreciate your advice & genuine concern. ❤️

[@vic1111189]

Lol 2 years is just recent. Its not like a 3000 year old advice.

[@brandonodnarb730]

She just reached out. We broke up 4 months ago, then 2 months of hot and cold behavior. After getting myself back with 2 months no contact, she reached out we met up, hooked up, and spent the night together.

[@trevorpalic6216]

So are you satisfied? I'm just the eleventh day in no contact.

[@SxCR4WR]

Trevor Palič how are you doing so far? I’m 7 days in 😕

[@Micho55]

Had a longer episode of bargaining with him that ended on a tedious "no". Two weeks later he hits me up with "I'm sorry if it's bad to contact you, but I was just wondering how you were doing". I tried to play it cool and detached after a friend convinced me to respond at all, but I don't think I should have. And then after his "I'm sorry I just had a need to know", I ended up writing a way too emotional string of messages saying it's better if we don't talk at all right now, because he couldn't have done what I wished for. Maybe I fucked it up, but I'm way too vulnerable for breadcrumbs right now. I already went through this, now I need to focus on myself. If he's worth it, he'll reach out some other time.

[@kungfukenny1540]

Update

[@adk2347]

i blew it up like an immature idiot...went 32 days of no contact and she out of the blue said "im not mad at you anymore"...we hung out and had a great time...didn't say much about our past...after that she texted me saying i miss you, i wish we could cuddle...i didn't overeact , i just said ive missed you too and now i give her space...space is everything but it's tough to give

[@Haru-uj7hk]

My ex reached out yesterday around 5am in the morning after three months with no contact. I was not expecting to receive a message from him. My phone was off for the whole day, I got read it around 5pm in the afternoon. He sent me 5 messages and 4 of them got deleted. Lol. We talked nerdy stuff like we always do when we were together, he told me he misses me and the things we did when we were together. I mean when he said sweet things, I didn't reciprocate that sweetness, I just talk to him casually because honestly, I don't know what to feel but one thing is for sure-my attchement to him is long gone. It feels like we're two strangers texting again. He sent me a picture of GTA this morning, because he is playing it now, replied this afternoon and that's it. I can say now that he is not that person that I adore sooooo much. My attachment is gone and I can live without him in my life.

[@yeuruuerueeheue]

update

[@Haru-uj7hk]

@@yeuruuerueeheue It didn't workout and I have a new boyfriend now. :)

[@meteorjunk9670]

The fact that people are sitting around, waiting for their Ex’s to reach out after being broken up with and put on no-contact for months on end, boggles my mind. Here’s my story. After a year and a half relationship, that happened to me. She wanted one month of no contact. Well two months later she messages me “I was worried about you, I expected to hear from you after 1 month.” I told her if someone wants to walk out of your life, let them go. She said I had left a sports jacket in her closet so I still had to see her one last time. I told her I didn’t even know it was missing and that she could donate it. It astonished me that people just want to meet up and pretend like nothing happened. Where is the self respect? Where is the dignity?

[@spenkibba]

Rory, you're totally right. My ex reached out after 3mo of strict NC (I had even hidden my IG stories from him) unexpectedly. We met twice and agreed on meeting again this week. I am hoping for reconciliation although he seems to be quite certain of the opposite, but who knows. I'm just going to keep these dates/meetups fun and lighthearted and maybe he'll revisit the idea without me pushing for it. I wanted to ask you if you could make a video on reconciling if you're long-distance, as he'll be moving to another country in 1 month.

[@yeuruuerueeheue]

update?

[@nawaffahad2692]

My ex reached out after 2 years, today 01/11/2022. I’m commenting because I owe you one Rori.

[@TheLoveChat]

Congratulations my friend. Remember to keep yourself as the focus!!

[@nawaffahad2692]

@@TheLoveChat you were right, you were always right, I just never believed it would actually happen. You were right about a couple of things, maybe you can even talk about it in a future video: 1-no contact is not a trick to get them back, it’s to get YOU back. 2-no contact will never work if you’re waiting around for them to contact you. It will happen. 3-once they DO come back, it would be because of the dumbest excuse. (Her reason: “I felt I might die soon, and I wanted to apologize to you and tell you why I ghosted you”) 4-you’d be surprised (and for my case, I’m literally shocked) that YOU might not even want them! After all of the pain and begging and pleading! YOU MIGHT NOT WANT THEM BACK! 5-she’s not special, love fools you. 6-work on yourself, work on yourself, work on yourself, there’s no better remedy. 7-Lastly… and it really pains me to say this… A day will come, where you look straight into your ex’s eyes… and feel nothing.

[@dlingatong]

My ex gf for 7 years greeted me on NYs Eve after 3 weeks of NC, I replied an hour later then she replied back with 💓💓💓💓 emoji, but I didn’t reply anymore, did I do the right thing?

[@RichardColwell1]

dlingatong yes

[@melissajohnson7252]

Ha! So my ex reached out to me last week and we haven’t had any contact in about 2 years. He popped up at my job so I had to face him. He came with flowers and a card! His excuse was he thought I deserved closure so he kept apologizing for everything and breaking my heart. Now he’s asking we meet up in person and talk. He insisted right away and I told him no let me think about it. I was EXTREMELY heartbroken and depressed over this breakup so I’m think it might not be a good idea to open that old scar. Any advise?

[@Sali_B]

U do realise that the main reason he is back after 2 YEARS is the fact that whatever he was doing didn't work out for him.( the grass was not greener) So he thought man where is that girl who loved me and wanted to be with me . Since this one is no longer working. If u are going to give him a chance. which i don't advice u on doing. And especially after 2 years. unfortunately what ever excuses he is giving u. He is doing so just t get what he want. So if u still want give him a chance . U have to Make him work for it .make him work. Treat him like someone who is trying t earn ut trust . Trust is not given . This time u are the boss . B careful this guy may leave again. All the best.

[@melissajohnson7252]

deiyaa islam ha! Yes! Everything you said was accurate. He’s now upset because I’m not interested in even revisiting anything

[@Sali_B]

@@melissajohnson7252 first thing first You owe him nothing . What did he espect? He can look for an ego boost somewhere else. 2 years is way two long. U are looking for trust and respect befor anything else . All the best.

[@sofiandi6117]

@@Sali_B brilliantly stated!

[@lexxi626]

Same happened to me but not after 2 years like 2-3 months he left me to see if the grass was greener as well, we broke up over disrespect but he got with girl too quick.. I always still thought of him and he im assuming drunk texted me and I replied in the morning and he didn’t respond but we have the same group of friends and they say hes having problems with his relationship

[@spearsy7614]

Hey Rory would it be possible you do a video on signs it’s time to move on for good and no longer entertain the possibility of future reconciliation with your ex? Even if they reach out or just want to be “just friends”. Love your videos and thank you.

[@nikstar1313]

I think he won't either! No contact hasn't worked for me so far.. trying not to hope... My ego just misses him from my childhood attachment issues .. positive vibes to all xx

[@noeperez5495]

My wife reached out to me, we spoke for over an hour. I waited for a little while and we had a good conversation. After all the conversation she sent me a text saying it was good to speak to you.

[@budgetrebelgoals]

I really need to relearn how to control my emotions with men I really want. I have an ex that I used to date over 20 years ago. he is still open for a commitment but I don't want it,I'm over it. I met a man in 2016 that I am really smitten with, we broke up,reconnected,broke up again but honestly we never had a true relationship,we were in the building stage It's been a week since we reconnected and I told him I want to be together etc etc(he said dont call,or text him again).I hope a little distance and time apart will bring him back again ready to take it further.

[@theladdersoflife2244]

Great video. I heard once that you should wait one hour for every month you've been apart to respond to their text. I suppose then, if it was recent, then maybe wait one hour for every week.

[@lieslikelove]

My ex just reached out after like 4/5 years of no contact! So crazy! I kinda forgot all about her.

[@sofiandi6117]

Really? My God...after 4 years? Hey are you kidding?:))))and what happened?

[@Luminous.Dynamics]

Clap her cheeks consecutively for a couple weeks then bounce 👋🏼

[@lovingme6896]

Alejandro Alvarez lmfaoooo

[@Luminous.Dynamics]

@@lovingme6896 💀💀😂 It's the least he could do. 4-5 years is a long ass time after the break-up smh

[@renzjacob7380]

Give up the hope, detached and live your life, Let go and let God

[@CorporateQueen]

Mine reached out. I was not expecting it.

[@priyankachauhan3443]

My ex just texted me after 2 months, I'm shocked 😱😱😱 i don't know what to text him back though

[@loriemmanuel636]

Its been almost 2 months of no contact And he called last night very late

[@TheLoveChat]

Nice job trusting the process! Reach out if you need help!

[@alexanderstevens145]

Booty call nothing more

[@Genes1s___]

Rory, my ex has reached out after 31 days of no contact! It was 3 in the morning too! We have mutuals and I guess she found out I got my wisdom teeth taken out (Indirect direct contact). She said she was “hurting for me” & “has more she wants to say”. Is it logical for me to bring up a “meet up” right away? or should it be her idea? Thankyou so much and I appreciate the response back! Much love!

[@TheLoveChat]

Set a date!

[@Genes1s___]

The Love Chat small talk then set a date right?

[@TheLoveChat]

@@Genes1s___ Yep. Keep it fun! Best of luck

[@Genes1s___]

The Love Chat **Update** Coach, I feel I played my cards wrong here. We had a little back and forth convo which spiraled down to revisiting the break up. In which she sent a paragraph saying that during the whole time apart she was depressed/hurt so on so on... What confuses me is that she said she feels she made the right decision, but still cares for my well being?... Will update ASAP! Stay strong guys!

[@CaseySchneider]

Genesis_ B update?!

[@alexabacay6187]

What if your ex reached out and you’re long distance? How can you strike while the iron is hot, so to speak, when you cant ask them out bec you’re countries apart?

[@rhack10]

Skype or zoom chat

[@kamil4197]

That exacly what happened! I found that video by coincidence. Or maybe there are no such thing and universe works in mysterious ways to help us...

[@kamil4197]

But i just said " you too" and she seen it but didnt write anything else. Im in my place right now where i dont give a duck about relationship i want to improve my career and as a person, maybe live in a diffrent countryfor a little bit, learn language just expandand live life while im young and healthy. Woman drains me from energy and focus and and i need to keep it elswhere and doubtful she would want to submit

[@Lahb9]

I never thought my ex was going to reach out after I called her out her name and she broke up with me and filled in a void with her own toxic other ex but i did no contact and after two weeks she hit me up, but now i kinda dont know what to do at this point that's why im here lol

[@jimmynguyen935]

up date?

[@ConfidencePT]

My ex texted me Happy Birthday. I responded 4 hours late with, "Thank you 😊.' I got You're Welcome about 5 hours later. I haven't said anything more because I wanted to workout whether she was just being nice.

[@danielwilliamson7158]

My ex is a Narc she wont be back till her Supply Runs out 😂🤣 Even if she does reach out im healing its tough but each day im moving forward. Iv had no closure or a sorry from the narc in over 3 weeks

[@Luminous.Dynamics]

Why not just block her forever and change your number/make new social media accts? There's no point in proving anything to those kind of people because their brains are completely different, youd be wasting your time. Find a new female man

[@oberynmartell4673]

Hi Rory and happy new year, I am on the 140th day of NC, I no longer need or want my ex girlfriend back, but deep down I still want that she reaches out to me only to say that she is sorry. I don't want her back because I am even better than the period before the breakup, but I just want that she apologizes. I will be very grateful if you make a video about this topic ❤️. It could be there grammatical mistakes in my comment because English is not my native language.

[@tl7101]

To get them to earn my attention, I will only mirror their dialog. I won't ask them questions, because that will put the ball in their court. They can decide to answer or not and that would heighten my anxiety again.

[@bilwmedia]

TL the person asking questions is in control of a conversation. Also asking them questions but only I giving shorts answers to theirs increases attraction because they remain curious about you. Women are more attracted to men who’s feelings are unclear, don’t let them know you want them but be polite and keep your conversations short and positive.

[@bilwmedia]

However this is after they have reached out to you during no contact (which should be permanent most times, let them be ready and come to you when they are ready). The phone is for setting dates, if somebody contacts you during no contact, assume they miss you and want to see you so say “Hey it’s great to hear from you, I’d love to see you, when are you free to get together?” If they won’t set a date you say “okay let me know if you change your mind” or if they’re busy say “okay let me know when your schedule is free and we’ll do it another time” or something similar. Listen to Coach Corey Wayne and read his book.

[@dhempress]

What if it's a long distance relationship as far as asking about "meeting up"? Different countries :/ be open to face time?

[@AlbaHistory]

My ex just reached out after 6 months and I was shocked that's why I watched this video trust me listen to this guy he knows what he's talking about. if anyone had asked me if I thought she would reach out I would have said no but I would had been wrong.

[@mr.sudsdoctor8323]

Be careful. Mine married sometime and she reached out to me after 1 year. I had ignored her for 6 months or so but finally gave in. Long story short she got back with me behind his back and got a place with me. Only to go back to him last Christmas eve. Now she has been calling me for the last 9 months and I will never talk to her again. Make sure your ex is not a narcissist

[@donniesdesertcannabis9246]

Holy Hell!! I've been in NC for about a week and she texted me letting me know that she came by the house to let the dogs out and hope that i had a good week so far. I waiting a little over an hour to respond and i did exactly what you said and she responded immediately. We're meeting for dinner on Sunday. Who knows what she's thinking but i like to strike when the irons hot!

[@donniesdesertcannabis9246]

I'm thinking about canceling Sunday, i think it might be too soon. A little background, we have been together for 9 years and she's 23 years younger than me. She's lived with me the whole time and when she broke up, one of her reasons was that she never lived alone, she went from her parents house to mine. She recently said that she misses the stability but she feels happy being free. Please give me your thoughts Rory.

[@fukaerima3737]

@@donniesdesertcannabis9246 holly hell, how old are you???

[@donniesdesertcannabis9246]

fuka erima I’m 50 and totally over her now. It’s been almost a year and I’ve never been happier

[@fukaerima3737]

@@donniesdesertcannabis9246 thats great too hear! hope you feel better than ever

[@ertwro]

She reached out. 1 month after my last text. A long "I loved you, you made me happy, best wishes" text. I invited her to a date. She agreed but tried to change the date venue that day. I refused and told her to check her schedule and contact me when she's free. Now I wait.

[@Lu-ml3qf]

What about if your ex reaches out To you, long distance, After no contact? Love this channel it has helped me so much.

[@exo.1414]

lualbert Albert did your ex reach oit

[@jagsfan1344]

Begged for a month and a half. Left the state to attend graduate school. Now it's been 7 months and I still haven't heard a peep. Still hurts man.

[@jagsfan1344]

She texted me good luck when I started school, but that was 5 months ago now. I feel like I might've blown it.

[@musicandlaughter_]

any updates?

[@chrisk6779]

When she reached out to me I didnt make a move to meet up because I didnt want to look like i was too eager and so i just played it cool and short. its been over 3 weeks since then. you think she will reach out again?

[@rebeccajohnson5658]

I reached out to my one ex and he responded back. He unblocked me and we talked nicely.

[@nothingabout3525]

No contact ,works after two years haha.. she contacted mi by chatting in my messager but i just ignored her hahah

[@nahtanish]

Today was day 25 of no contact.. didn't watch/like any of her social media stories during the entire time. And guess who just reached out right now!!! Wish me luck guys 🙏🏻

[@Toulousegatito]

After one month my ex reached out.. sent a msg saying Thanks for the nice Birthday present but i know is expensive i want to pay for it.. i answered very polite and said its your present.. asked how was he he answered and suddenly said how his day was and anither msg if i would like to meet him sometime... i said should be nice to catch up.. now what?? We will meet in three days.. What should I do?? Btw he broke up because he said he wanst in love with me... Thanks

[@Joycelang2495]

God bless you sir you are right in every video even though it hurts I will,never chase anyone and let them break my spirit if this person reaches out I will not I mean not respond immediately maybe the next day or 2 days I'm not playing I will,not let anyone take me,for granted I can do bad by myself .🎁🎁🎁💝💝💝🎓

[@asfandabid5056]

She reached out but full of hate and saying we don't fit together and she can't continue with me, it's over! I was surprised she reached out finally after 1 month of no contact but shocked as well that she is still holding past bs in her mind, no contact forever from now.

[@jenny01317]

Probably did you a favour there, b**** crazy!

[@ganggirls2578]

I love your videos. So much.

[@essuazo8643]

What if my ex reach out then reject to meet up? All i did was told her "if you change your mind just let me know" then i went no contact again. Need help here.

[@reactiveiffi5053]

Yes , remember , if you want them as lover partner again , otherwise you just fresh your wound to meet them , don't do this mistake I did , and loose my mind , careful , and just they reach out once , if you lost or did any mistake you done , best move on and try to find better partner so if even they reject you , you don't care

[@bubblebass1902]

I’m not ever really eager to respond, I literally make her wait hours lol

[@portiaplankton]

Shouldn't my ex ask to see me first?

[@JMF1992]

He reached out before it was right to 'ask him out,' so I let it drop after a couple of humorous texts.

[@maxdanielstrauss7735]

What if you are long distance? Should I go directly for an in-person meeting or FaceTime? Once we are on FaceTime, should I then ask to schedule a meetup in person? What if she says no? Do I want to cut the conversation short right then?

[@yeuruuerueeheue]

goddamn this comment is five years old lol but what ended up happening?

[@maxdanielstrauss7735]

@@yeuruuerueeheue realized in time that all what I was doing is acting from scarcity. Best thing I did is said fuck it… as hard as it was. All these gimmicks and tricks mean shit once a woman has her mind set. Once I started meeting other girls, got distracted and everything fell into place. That experience completely reshaped my idea about women, relationships and my worth in any type of relationship. Seems as if we men have to go through a little bit of suffering to actually see how pathetic we are, how irrelevant all these tactics are, and truly, how much value you have as a man.

[@yeuruuerueeheue]

@@maxdanielstrauss7735 thats amazing you realized your self worth!! i can relate but im a woman so i dont really think its a gender thing

[@adammcrae6788]

Me and my wife are in divorce process that I initiated after constant disrespect, and her refusing to move in after 7 months of marriage. It is currently day 28 of no contact and she reached out today only to ask me what I paid for the wedding ring I gave her. I am remaining no contact. If she wants to know its value to sell she can get that from literally anywhere

[@thatpoeticthug]

I never thought she would reach out to me on the 2nd day of no contact. On SC. Idk what to do. I was already beating into my head to get over her.

[@TheLoveChat]

That was fast!

[@thatpoeticthug]

@@TheLoveChat yea but idk what to do now. She hasn't reach out to me today. Should I reach out or just keep going no contact?

[@mpgrace1]

What if the break up is long distance and there is no chance to meet since we are in different continents?

[@s2h995]

MG Santillan there isnt any women where u live? Thats waaaaay to far.

[@DarknessIsThePath]

Hasn't that much to do with distance but the person you get to know, yes distance creates another layer but if both want to they can succeed if they are both transparent with one another @@s2h995

[@reactiveiffi5053]

My story (

[@nightmarenewbedfordenterta9851]

have a great holiday roray if i don't hear from u thanks for the advices.

[@channeloflove9332]

I went no contact. She texted me yesterday and today. I'm watching this video to know, how to respond. I'm waiting to text back to build attraction and anxiety

[@johndoe5715]

how long did you go nc? and did you reconcile?

[@Chillrend.]

3 months no contact and she reached out. Haven’t replied yet, giving myself the night to process and also check my expectations, but I never thought I’d hear from her again. Even if she wanted a new relationship, is that something that I want anymore? I know I had some faults but I was a really good partner and so how do I know that she will be like that for me, especially after not being a good partner and leaving

[@yswen828]

Rory, He just reached out saying “I’m planning to be back in CA for the Christmas holidays.

[@yeuruuerueeheue]

so what happened

[@user-ud8mt6fj1m]

Ex reached out after 7 weeks right before I was getting ready for a date. Haven’t called back yet as I’m super busy but I will in a day or 2. I went radio silent and basically disappeared. I don’t use Instagram and I didn’t even hangout with friends he follows so he doesn’t get to see me. He has an anxious personality type so I knew he would. He called and texted me yesterday asking to call back. I’ll try and find time maybe Sunday or something FYI: I did not chase, beg or plead. After my last apology text the day after he broke up I went radio silent ✨ Also, I think he did a fake break up cause he was mad at me and wanted me to beg and pleas and react and show my emotions. I didn’t do any of those He chased me a lot since the beginning of our relationship. He treated me like a celebrity so I treat him like a fan 😏

[@totf6359]

My response ends at Merry Christmas (or whatever the occasion) to you too. Any thing further such as how are you doing, etc. will be left to them to initiate, especially if they were the reason it ended.

[@SanderJanssenBSc]

it's week 4 of no contact and I feel like she will never reach out! Yesterday was my birthday and she congratulated my twin sister but not me...

[@cherilbanuelos5200]

After a month or weeks he will always message saying he is still praying for me and my kids , hope your still praying for me because I’ve been with you for many years . What should I do every time I received a message like this ? I told him that I don’t know what to say, but thank you, pray for those people who’s important for you know!

[@gordonr1975]

Omg I love every videos you made. It helped me growing. And I literally just hit like after you laughed saying oh why don’t they respond what did I do, oh yeah that’s what I did lol loved it. Anyways thank you so much for these great videos! I’m currently in nc and I’m even thinking is my ex good enough to date me again if he came back haha. But in another part of me just be thinking oh but I want he to come back so I’m moving on to a better version of me yet confused too but it’s ok :D I love myself and life is great! :D

[@jc5193]

Thank you for your great coaching..but...what if your ex lives 500 miles away and seeing them or meeting with them is not a option...but he does reach out even .after two years ?

[@Beatlemaniac1983]

Ok, I have a question - what if I don't want to be light and funny and charming? What if what she did was so hurtful that unless she goes back in time and undo it as the first act of the conversation, and then apologizes the world over, I am not interested in being nice to her at all? She doesn't deserve me playing it cool.

[@larapires5272]

Yep

[@youtubesucks2755]

You're being light hearted not to get her back but to show her you have moved on.

[@ismaelbuenrostro4696]

Hey Roy, I hope you saw the comments I left on another video which I cannot recall which one was it. But my ex reached out to me on my bday which was this past Sunday. Yes, I shocked, and I waited maybe 15 minutes to reply. I said, "hey great hearing from you, and thank you!!!" I saw this video barely today and obviously she never replied back. I hope you one of the comments I wrote in another video to understand the situation

[@PianoMan4Life1982]

We broke up about a month ago. We didn't have an exclusive relationship but were together for 3 years. She ended up lining up another guy while still talking to me. I was in day 24 of no contact. I just posted pictures of my newly remodeled condo and she instantly sent me a text saying she was wondering how the remodel was going and how good the condo looked. I waited about 4 hours and then simply said "thanks." About 20 minutes later she said "YW". Not sure what it means but I am going to continue no contact.

[@Ty-fz3ue]

What if you’re 12 hrs apart from each other? You can’t really just meet up for a date? What should you do?

[@nygeriunprence]

Ty Exactly. I gave up on her ass and moved back home, can't exactly do the meetup thing. If she wants me she can fly or drive here I don't give a fuck. Lots of nice girls here anyways 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@mamoud6648]

@@nygeriunprence Try face timing first, work your way up to the visit.

[@andreaandric4273]

My ex called me after 9 days of NC asking me if I have a number of some mutual friend. Should I consider it reaching out cause he misses me or that he really needed that number?

[@buek14]

Well, my ex reached out after 8,5 months but she's still with her rebound while I'm with someone new recently, lol.