20180924恩典365 - 說話的藝術 - 最重要的是愛 : 帶著愛去與人溝通

[@bojiawang9008]

感谢耶稣

[@jesd8074]

Amen。说话的艺术，不能太直白了，让圣灵带领我说对人有意处的话，不伤害人的话，给别人带来喜乐！鼓励！感谢赞美主！

[@fangyaru]

感謝神

[@inspireyounow365]

在信望爱里面最大的就是爱。我们的爱，来自一颗清洁的心，无伪的信心。那么我们所说出来的东西才有信服力，别人会感觉我们是爱他是关心他的。

[@nawlydia3226]

Amen 🙏

[@francesweimingsoong5654]

Amen ! Love is the only motive to win others to Christ .Speak the truth in love. Yes, we need to confront error, but we need to do it with the intention of gaining trust from our listener. Our motivation should be not to win, but for Christ to win. Sometime that means that we fall on our sword for issues that we realize are not that important. It may mean that you lay down your agenda for the good of a brother/sister, or of the church. Not that we are people-pleasers, forsaking truth, but that we are peacemakers, loving the errant back to or for the first time to the great treasure of Christ. We may have authority, but we are all under authority. We don’t have to exert it initially. What we do now echoes in eternity. The true test of any action lies in its motive. Sometimes in a conflict all we can do when the confrontation filter takes over is to protect ourselves--to, in all honesty, put ourselves first. Nobody likes being wrong, misunderstood, or accused of fault. But this is pride and pride only hurts situations and destroys relationships. When you’re dealing with a difficult person, be willing to own your part and to be the first to offer a gentle word. Our pride makes it so hard but it’s very necessary when working with people.The duty of a Christian is to do God's will, in God's way, with the right heart motive. Somebody might foolishly say, “As long as the job gets done, I don't really care how it was done ! ” It's a common saying right ? No , not to me not the least . Do the job and do it right ! That common phrase certainly is not the Lord! - God is more concern about the reason of why we are doing things especially for Him. At all times we must strive to serve God with a pure heart-with no hidden or self-serving motives. The hardest person to examine is that person you see in the mirror. Like King David we all seem to see clearly the sin of the hypothetical sheep stealer, and see cloudily the deep and destructive sin plaguing our own lives. In better days David's heart sought the inspection and cleansing of God's Spirit. “Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me” Not with eye service, as men pleaser; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart . I’ve made my fair share of mistakes in how I’ve responded to the difficult people I’ve encountered. The church is filled with real people with real problems. I’m not saying a bad attitude is okay but we all have to remember that people make mistakes and at the end of the day, we are called to grace. Human relationships and interactions inevitably create challenges but there’s a way to foster harmony in any encounter you might face. We are just recipient of God’s grace.When Christian does something out of love to glorify God, he is doing something which by definition not with self-centered, but God centered.Christians who realize what God has done for them in Christ may be motivated by deep gratitude to respond to a cold and unkind remark. Those who fully realize how much they have been forgiven will respond in expressions of love and gratitude. They have put on God's glasses and see full well where the person who hurt us comes from .Gratitude is a result of grace. God has put in my heart the understanding of having an effective communication with people of challenging characters. I am reminded that they speak with such tharsh and hurting manner simply because they are likely broken and hurting. That they are probably struggling with something that overflows into their life. Truth is, hurt people hurt people. If you can remember their hurt, you’re more likely to respond from a place of grace. Take the high road and be a fountain of kindness that saturates the moment with the positive rather than the negative. Hopefully, the other person will soften and respond the same way. I’m one of those people who is better fit for conflict with a small break. If you’re the type of person who needs to gather thoughts or cool down before speaking, don’t be afraid to briefly walk away from the situation and come back collected.If you have a problem with someone, don’t go tell other people. You may feel you have the purest motives in telling an outside party, but that’s not biblical and it’s wrong. Would you want someone going to others and saying negative things about you? Probably not. We need to go to the Lord in prayer. Prayer has this incredible ability of softening our hearts towards others. If you’re at odds with someone, one of the best ways of responding in a healthy and godly way is by praying for them. It’s hard to be mad at someone you are praying for. I constantly put up with this struggle but God refocus my thought and reminded me : The aim of my charge is love that person from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith instead of harboring anger and grudges. I must be motivated by love-love for the Master, love for the message of life, love for the people of God. The object of touching someone's heart with love will be evident by the manner in which I respond to error. I trust that the principles and values I hold on affect my behavior and speech.What I believe influences the way I communicate with people. In short, beliefs matter. If I fill my mind with thoughts of rebellion and anger, I will likely be an angry person who can never be content with what I have or with who I am. If I feed my mind on self righteousness and how superior I am , I will disrespect others and set myself at the centre of life. If I expand my energies on acquiring things, I will value possessions more than relationships. Jesus warned of precisely such danger . The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness- Matthew 6: 19-23. What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person . Christ’s love marks those who belong to Him. Self-love marks those who have never known Him. It's impossible to love someone who has hurt you deeply right. But God says, " Attempts at the Impossible " . ..there is always the first step to take to love . Let our motive be pure and fill with love ..just one goal to bring sinner back to God.

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