2558.06.21 Dealing with negativity by Ajahn Jayasaro

'Dealing with negativity' Dhamma Talk in English arranged by Little Bangkok Sangha at Bahn Boon, Pak Chong, Nakorn Ratchasima, Thailand, 21 June 2015

[@regather59]

Ajahn Jayasaro evaporates my decades of confusion with his simple kind wisdom.

[@benfurman318]

This is the kind of Dhamma talk where you hit the pause button a lot and let it sink in. Venerable speaks so much from the heart and with such integrity that everything he says is worthy of reflection. It's a high internal bar and feeling the depth of what practice can bring shows me how far away from it I am. There's gratitude of course, but also a feeling of responsibility and remorse for the life that's been wasted blaming everything but my own unskillful efforts.

[@fingerprint5511]

Its the conditioning, this is why Buddhism is retraining the mind also why Metta practice is vital. The Buddha before awakening was full of defilements and fear 🙏🏻

[@michellekc13]

Very true every word uttered❤

[@ahdumbs1161]

Ben, my brother in the Dhamma, 2 years separated across time and I have that same feeling of feeling like I’ve wasted time up until now, but we just have to be grateful to have found the Dhamma at all and continue to share it with others ❤

[@1kckc1]

25:48 every time we act upon an angry impulse, we strengthen the tendency to be angry in the future; this is the Law of Karma. Every time we let go of the volition to act, speak with anger, that anger is deprived of nourishment, it withers.

[@veeecos]

One of the most underrated videos out there.

[@thrylos32]

Diamonds are forever. It will be appreciated

[@dollyandtoffee]

Indeed it's hard not to fall in to instincts,unless often listening to dharma. Sadhu for pointing the ways.

[@zanzagossu433]

Very useful advice about anger and other negative emotions. Thank you so much!

[@allanb52]

This guy is very coherent. Excellent video.

[@skrrskrr99]

Ahhh I knew this was gonna be relevant and applicable to my life in so many ways. Saved it ❤️.

[@chaiyaasuriyapornpan179]

เป็นความโชคดีของชาวโลก.

[@yingwang9965]

I feel i was living for many years in a condition and perception that I created, which made me upset and angry at times. Although I did not express it, it was still there every time I perceive the same trigger. It seems I couldn't change the outside condition while couldn't really change my own perception either. So I felt stuck. The same perception of my situation by others only feed into my perception and made me think how right I was in feeling that way. Only after I removed myself out of the situation, I could see more clearly how I was caught up in my own perception.

[@hecate6432]

Excellent talk. Clear, to the point common sense.I like your direct attitude. Thank you Ajahn Jayasaro. Many blessings.

[@jacktanyahope6416]

Thank you for English version, we do believe in Buddha and do as Buddha's teaching.

[@bgs3512]

Thank you Ajahn Jayasaro. Thank you uploader.

[@cleonagretelgodinho2881]

Best video I’ve ever watched ❤️❤️❤️

[@ngakaed1429]

Very helpful video, thanks so much for your great effort.

[@poetryjones7946]

Thank you Ajahn Jayasaro 🌹🙏🏼🌹

[@malikadon4475]

Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Ajahn Jayasaro!!!!

[@Cryo837]

I need this. I have anger and negativity....and I want neither.

[@weemeiling]

I’ve benefited so much from this .. such an analytical n wise approach.. deeply grateful, Ajahn 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@Parivattita]

Thank you for this very revealing analysis........much metta to you Bhante!

[@olga.klimova]

Thank you, Ajahn! This is very helpful!

[@sovannyem]

This is a very nice video.Thank you, Ajahn. You explain really well.

[@Skyelement84K]

Alles wunderbar, sardu @53 minutes xtra wow

[@KEISHINZAN]

ありがとうございます！

[@tanchengchui191]

Sadhu! Sadhu! Sadhu! Bhante.

[@JenS-oz2mo]

Thank you Ajahn Jayasaro. Thanks.

[@S_alva]

Absolutely amazing talk!

[@deesticco1719]

Great discussion on mindfulness benefits. Yes, let’s not be hard on our selves as humanly built out of one’s experiences since the journey, up to Arhat you experience the emotion of anger but with mindfulness could tame it or any ego arisen habits! It is gratifying of your practice when we recognize the rising of ego and letting go and equanimity out of the inner insight of mindfulness! Thank you, Venerable Jayasaro. 🙏🏽

[@braebeen6502]

Superb teaching

[@someoneelse6618]

Sadhu sadhu Thank you!

[@dollyandtoffee]

From what I understand is that Buddha has both laymen and monks in his mind. For monks, he has monastic orders and lots of principles for laymen. He understands that people are evolved differently. He taught relative and ultimate truth.

[@MultiPopculture]

Yes, relative truth is Hinayana. Absolute truth is Mahayana.

[@aprilk4705]

dollyandtoffee

[@clairejohnston2461]

Lotus Sutra Both paths work brilliantly, depending on one’s sensibilities. I have a Theravada teacher who is wonderful, but I also go to a Zen temple. I prefer Theravada, but enjoy learning the Zen tradition, too.

[@lordbyron3603]

This gift of safety and security is not easily given here in my home between the people I live with.

[@allthereis8634]

Very nice and helpful talk, thank you

[@victomOFtheLIGHT]

Maybe one day I will overcome this world and have lasting peace

[@y9w1]

May we all, find peace. Here and now 🙏♥️

[@user-si7gw7zi6m]

in future everybody got die

[@wasanapanarin5454]

กราบสาธุ สาธุ สาธุเจ้าค่ะ

[@jilk2174]

ENDLESS~GOODNESS to the AWE~ALL . THANKS FOR SHARING . (8)

[@aprilk4705]

IT IS

[@dromgarvan]

Thank you.

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[@happylucky5076]

ฟังออกหรอ

[@VASHON-ve6ki]

Thank you Ajahn 😂

[@vinodkumarjaiswal4533]

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[@dunner079]

He speaking about Sankaras. When we act and react upon anger or any other defilement we spread it across our mind and pollinate new seeds. The new ones come back stronger than the ones before. When they aren't reacted to they lose their energy

[@dahampasala4734]

❤️🇱🇰🙏

[@nakkamolwaranon7258]

I share to friend thank you so much Sathu

[@user-si7gw7zi6m]

คนไทยหรอครับ ชื่อไทยมากๆ

[@hkbobo6230]

I hope Ajahn will use simpler English for those who are not speaking English as native language. Thank you very much!

[@newbiesobnixus8881]

Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Anumotami.

[@marufkhan4174]

Wonderful talk. I been listening for long time. I only wish I could hear the questioners questions . When is question and answer time after the talk 🙏

[@ramthian]

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[@JoyceChor]

Sadhu sadhu sadhu

[@deesticco1719]

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[@tuiratdecha5185]

Sathu krab!

[@traceler]

Om Mani Peme Hung.

[@TheArrogantMonk]

Please, where can I find the ambient audio during the first 20 seconds of this video? It’s perfect

[@leepeterhyde7755]

Would “healthy concern” function as a workable alternative to fear?

[@KF1]

Sounds good. In my experience, fear is prone to poor judgement but concern is likely to be clearer. That said, it's the ajahn's talk, not either of ours. Semantics and tangents aside, this was a very good presentation of practical thinking.

[@seamusdebuitleir20]

Great talk! Where is that Temple in Bangkok?Does any one know?Thank you!

[@psikhyobar]

He doesn't speak at temple. He is retired. He normally gives talks on English once a month. Check out Little Bangkok Sangha. They provide travel when he speaks in English. Sadhu.

[@seamusdebuitleir20]

Thank you John

[@pordeeguy5780]

He live in Pakchong city , 140 kilometers in northeastern of Thailand.

[@scheibermartin738]

He lives in a private area. It's not possible to visit him without a appointment.

[@dollyandtoffee]

May be only Nivarna is the only way. May the Merit of all Angels helping us. (i know only your can do)..

[@psikhyobar]

I rarely get angry. Do one on depression please.

[@CallMeTommy1]

John, I don't want to teach you because I'm not far enough in my meditation. But I want to help. So, as far as I can understand this: Anger and negativity is in the same family. So spoken the Ajahn said: there are different forms of dealing with it. "when this negativity is expressed in certain personality types is more likely to turn into depression". Some people do this..., "other people fold in upon them self and become depressed". So depression is a form of negativity and anger. But how we deal with it? Do we express it? Do we swallow and accumulate it? Actually the root is the same. It's "the unwillingness to accept" the phenomena we have to face. So please consider "our suffering can never be solely the result" of other or external conditions. So my chosen example for this is this: if you're a homeless person who has to sleep on the street and begging for food. Everybody looks down too you and you can barely survive. The condition (and I think most people will agree) make it really likely to become depressed. But as soon as we are 'okay' with the situation, we could maybe even enjoy this life without a lot of burden and responsibilities. Depression is based on "negative experiences as well as negative expectations about our future" so if you try to enjoy the present moment instead of thinking forward backward its supportive. And another Idea would be: just replace the word "anger" in the talk with depression. This might not fit to 100% but about 80%. Maybe it will be easier to follow in case of your question. I wish you to be happy.

[@psikhyobar]

Tommy Kludaß Thank you for the well thought response. I agree with substitution of the word anger with depression. I think they both stem from delusion and have a similar quality. My father recently had triple bypass surgery and I was not told beforehand until a day or two before. The resulted in my own thoughts about the future and the past, while in the present moment I began to withdraw and didn't go to work for two days. I started back with meditation and increased my medication (a requisite). I called my father -who lives in the US- I am in Thailand- the surgery went well and I got back to work. My thought is on how much of the suffering is from external vs. internal. I do not think they are at equilibrium in humans, whereas dhammas are- in the sense that they way they are processed through perception leads to people "seeing" emotions, rather than being able separate the two because it is happening too quickly. Through meditation and Dhamma, the Buddha can be realized as nothing more or less than our "self" which what consider to be actively involved in this external world and worthy of blame and condemnation- whether it be another person or our conventional self. When do not understand what is happening, we can even know there is an ending to suffering, but our desire for it to end in the present moment leads us to suffer more, which is what we may accept as being necessary. In fact, we are ignorant of the truth of the situation and simply learning how to deal with the world we live in. That suffering exists, but thinking that, rather than understanding it is not sufficient for it to cease. For example, if one is hungry and desires food, the craving increases. If one is starving to death he will experience all of symptoms until he either eats or dies, but how he perceives his condition determines his feelings. It is difficult to keep all of this in mind when circumstances happen so quickly.

[@CallMeTommy1]

It seems that you solved the issue on your own. And for sure, the more close we are to a person (and what could be closer than father and mother) the more difficult it is to get these emotional distance, by that does not mean someone has to have a cold heart. I'm happy for you and for your father.

[@aprilk4705]

Tommy Kludaß z

[@user-si7gw7zi6m]

You don't think about angry

[@mystyle43]

Sadhu

[@differenceispreadin]

Optapa - I wonder if the world word "concern" would be good term?

[@buddhamagictv]

Satu

[@MultiPopculture]

The only hope for Mappo is the Lotus Sutra - NAM MYOHO RENGE KYO!!!!

[@Insignificant1]

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[@danniedee1]

Ajahn Jayasaro, very important information. Thank you. One comment please: consider not "fiddling" with the rug - it's distracting.

[@colinellesmere]

Maybe it's a teaching for you?

[@sunyatasunyata2489]

monks and nuns (bhikku and bhikkuni), You live a life like a king while other beings are suffering and starving to death!!! You respect and honour only golden Buddha statues and Gautama Buddhas words, but you don't really respect and honour other beings (plants, animals and ordinary human beings). Why does your body always NEED getting respects and honour??? Is the true self only in your own body??? You take advantage of the Buddha's teachings to make yourself higher than the ordinary people. You take advantage of the realization to make yourself superior than the others beings! You use the buddhist robes to dislegard other ordinary people!!! You NEED the buddhist robes to get respects and wealth. How pathetic!! The buddhist robes won't protect you from your own extremely bad Karma!!! SUNYATA

[@MultiPopculture]

Hinayana monks are all theory. I appreciate his speech for sure but it has no relevance in the real world. In Mahayana, you live in the real world and do not need to be a monk. Mahayana is for everyone, Hinayana is only for monks who run away from the real world. But someday this man may become wise enough to uphold the only true word of the Lord our God -- the Lotus Sutra.

[@burachaisonthayanon4113]

I am a layman who practices Hinayana Buddhism and I definitely am a witness of the real fruitful result of practice. So, no, Hinayana is real practical Buddhism, not just theory. Mahayana has some points that are in line with Hinayana and I think it is best to ignore the differences.

[@narren3729]

Ninja Warrior All about theory??? You don't know what you are talking about. It all about practice!

[@pinetsriyotha57]

Posttest at the end of the lesson, ey? Thanks teacher!

[@colinellesmere]

Just pay attention to the actions and in most cases you will find that Hiniyana and Mahayana are just two words for the same thing. Cat and Gatos but in both cases the sound is miaow.

[@colinellesmere]

For the majority of us there is no distinction between Hinayana or Mahayana. Most us can't keep the precepts week well. Let alone distinguish our practice as one to save all living beings along with ourself. Until I become at least a steam entrant I don't think I will concern myself with the distinction. And when and if I attain stream entry I doubt very much that there would be any need to distinguish Hinayana and Mahayana. Yes there is a difference. But is it really important. I doubt it for the serious practitioner.

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25:45 - Linguistic determinism describes a similar notion of reinforcement theory through how our words effect our personalities.

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