298 ‒ The impact of emotional health on longevity, self-audit strategies, & improving well-being

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@PeterAttiaMD 5 ай бұрын

In this episode, we discuss: 0:00:54-The importance of prioritizing emotional health as we age 0:05:53-The impact of emotional health on healthspan & how to foster a proactive approach to emotional well-being 0:12:21-The discrepancy between outward success & inner fulfillment, & the importance of a healthy “generative drive” for genuine well-being 0:23:42-A deeper dive into generative drive: impact on human behavior, resilience, purpose 0:29:57-Evaluating one’s inner self: introspection, self-awareness, challenging societal norms, & returning to the basics of physical & emotional well-being 0:43:34-Self-auditing tools: introspection, curiosity, & exploring underlying reasons for unwanted behaviors 0:53:15-Breaking free from destructive cycles by understanding the continuum of self-care & addictive behaviors 1:03:57-Critical self talk: the malleability of one’s inner dialogue & the potential for transformative change with perseverance & self-compassion 1:13:45-Slowing the anger response & gaining insights into the underlying triggers to achieve lasting change & self-understanding 1:26:44-Foster gratitude & humility by achieving balance between the three drives-assertion, pleasure, & generative 1:30:39-The conflict between intellectual understanding & emotional feelings, problematic comparison frameworks, & the importance of living in the present with intentionality 1:42:14-How making peace with our mortality can foster a sense of hope, purpose & well-being 1:52:22-Advice for finding a compatible therapist 2:07:01-The key components of therapeutic progress 2:16:43-The caricatures of four common patient phenotypes, & how to get through to them 2:27:51-How Paul manages his own well-being & the emotional challenges with his line of work

@Mansell5Senna8 5 ай бұрын

Well im fucked then, lost my wife to another man 8yrs ago, kids went with her, then couple years later lost my mum, and 4 months ago lost my dad, struggling is an understatement as still struggling to process losing the wife and kids to another man, let alone my parents as well... I should look at it that there are people in worse situations than me and be grateful that I am still here, but it is difficult. Logically I know it all, but emotionally it doesn't take much at times to trigger an emotional reaction.

@loulew07 5 ай бұрын

Mansell yes there are people who have it worse or better. Before I share my story remember this . We can only change or control ourselves. 2 will being sad or mad or frustrated change those other people , ex , adult kids, friends ? So we say NO! to being those 3 things as quickly as possible . First of all anyone who who bashes you, well that is easy but they do not live in your shoes, or under the same roof . So whatever you share or live through its never the full picture. Reason why men like my dad in WW2 would never share their war stories with those who were not there . I lost 4 kids to my ex . Each story of the 4 is gut punches over a 25 yr period . So not possible to type 25yrs worth of stories , would be like picking each leave off or a tree , instead of looking at the root of each single tree of the 4. Control your emotions, limit how low you get . And how high you get. Be like still water , calm and balanced. The higher you get the farther you will fall, the lower you get , the farther you have to climb . And emotions are a extension of our thoughts , so limit the lows of those emotions , remember you being sad or mad at those who have turned their hearts against you will not turn their hearts to you . Can only help those who help themselves . Find some hobby pour your heart into it. Remember in this crowded world we are never truly alone . My dad has been gone since 1996 , sure miss him daily , but how I live not when life is easy , but hard is a reflection of what he taught me . Carry your mum and dad with you daily in how you life . Here always , Lew

@Mansell5Senna8 5 ай бұрын

@@loulew07 thanks.for thar, appreciated

@immers2410 5 ай бұрын

I lost my penis in a terrible workplace accident. I’d rather be you

@jjuniper274 5 ай бұрын

I'm not sure if this helps. It's only another human's story. You'll get through it by making good decisions for yourself. Sometimes you make mistakes, and sometimes there is a home run. Most of life is a Hail Mary pass. My closest Auntie always said, "This too shall pass," and assured me that life can and will get better. She lived to be 90. My mantra is, shit happens, get it together and stop beating yourself up. Conquer your inner bitch. Not very Christian, I know, but sometimes you need a voice to propel you forward. As for me? My husband died young, left me to raise 3 young children alone. The next 5 years I lost both my parents, that wonderful Auntie and a dear cousin, and me and my family were in a massive car accident where my neck was broken and required surgery. The bright side? At least I know when the weather will change. It's been 11 years of this, but a slow walk to get to a life that is damn good now. Wish you luck and faith that it will all work out.

@Mansell5Senna8 5 ай бұрын

@@jjuniper274 thanks, your situation makes mine looks like a walk in the park, but your right, shit happens, stop beating yourself up... its good to have a reminder every so often that yeah it's shit but life goes on, things will get better, one day at a time.

@kellymaestri5359 5 ай бұрын

Life changing Sharing with my kids Wish I had hear this when I was younger Thank you ❤

@innuendo4469 5 ай бұрын

"I don't want fun-house-mirrors around me when I try to see what's going on, I want clarity"

@crystalng7064 5 ай бұрын

This kind of conversation is really never frequent enough. I had been fat since I was a kid until two years ago when my friend forced me to work with a personal trainer. I went from 130 to 95 kg by walking on a treadmill an hour every day and eating only chicken and rice, along with some weight training. Of course looking back I am grateful for both of them and exercise has got me motivated to do harder things in all aspects of life. But my sugar craving and food craving in general never go away and I still occasionally try to hide the fact that I have a donut/brownie/cheesecake besides the chicken. That's why I was very excited to learn about the GLP-1 probiotics discussed back in ep. 283 and tried one out myself before hearing your blood test results. However, conversations like this reminds me that instead of "give me the supplements", the only way of dealing with complex problems of trauma and addiction is through internal dialogue with oneself. I am surprised to learn that even you being so obsessed with all kinds of biomarkers have the issue of over-eating. But thank you for all the effort of sharing the message and methods of taking care of yourself.

@marshad.9149 5 ай бұрын

When I listen to Paul Conti, I feel there’s hope for me. And hope for the ones I love, if I listen to Paul. Thank you both for sharing this interview.

@Rositasparks 5 ай бұрын

I love Paul Contti. Thank you for this interview, it is so helpful! ❤

@kristaporthomassian1736 5 ай бұрын

The most important podcast EVER Thank you Peter ❤

@evab6330 5 ай бұрын

i just love Paul Conti's insights! How he shows us the layers and complexity of our emotions. And Peter's openness about his own struggles - it surprised me in his book and, again, here. So inspiring!

@traceybutler5420 5 ай бұрын

I could listen to Dr Conti speak for days. He's helped me so much. Thanks!

@nickolasbochkarev9624 5 ай бұрын

I'm amazed that the best podcasts for that Peter has done were both psychology related. This one and the one about DBT was especially helpful. Even though I myself have a psych degree I was always sceptical of Psych industry because of not only the lack of evidence of their services but also because of the evidence of some the harms they cause. Basically I threw the baby out with the bath water.

@michelle4688 5 ай бұрын

26mins in and amazing. gonna need to re-listen a few times to juice all the goodies out. than you gentlement!

@jjuniper274 5 ай бұрын

After my husband died when we were in our 40s, I had to have faith that what I was doing for me and our kids was the right path. I no longer had a partner to bounce ideas off of, and get feedback. I had to have full faith in myself, and I did have to put that faith into God's hands or fate's hands. There was no other way. That was just one of a series of difficult situations to navigate. You may be agnostic, but when push comes to shove, having a level of faith, for me it was Christian, was a benefit that got me thru dark times.

@carolr.556 3 ай бұрын

These issues are very important to discuss. I am deeply concerned that it appears to me that society today is in a state of denial. People appear so fractured and dissatisfied and yet disconnected from one another. We need to restore vulnerable conversations like this because healing happens only by exposure of issues that have caused pain in life. Maybe it was the pandemic that caused so much of this protectiveness because of the fear it produced which fostered an unfortunate lack of trust..

@tuesdaymalone 4 ай бұрын

Love Paul Conti. Always blows me away how we keeps his arms/hands completely still and hidden for hours.

@juliehernandez7022 13 күн бұрын

I agree! I noticed the same thing! His voice is so calming too.

@cidinaragon 5 ай бұрын

You should invite Dr. K Psychiatric it'll be a great conversation.. Thank you for everything you do❤

@timothykowalewski3943 5 ай бұрын

Rather unrelated, but I would love to see you sit down with David Sinclair again since your views on health/longevity are now so contrasting from his since you two last spoke. Would be fascinating.

@SpaseRistov 5 ай бұрын

Is David still a valid source when it comes to advice for longevity?

@jimmybaker4821 5 ай бұрын

Sinclair has unfortunately been proven to not be very scientific.

@wmp3346 5 ай бұрын

@@jimmybaker4821 I don't know about that. Still works at Harvard.

@darkclownKellen 5 ай бұрын

Is this the man that discovered "the Sinclair method" for alcohol recovery?

@zzc8505 5 ай бұрын

Sinclair peddles “plant”-“anti meat” agenda and it’s no use talking to him because he won’t admit that he’s wrong and anti-meat propaganda is harmful. There’s absolutely nothing “fascinating” about that kind of conversation. If you’re looking for a controversy/useless argument, it may be a good idea to look for that some place else. If you are looking for more info on the importance of complete quality protein, Dr. Layman shared here more than enough, and you can always look up the research he cites as well as other researches in that field.

@Linda-kc7qs 5 ай бұрын

Great episode with you both. Seeing unresolved trauma now gaining rapid attention, my question is what happens to those people who have unresolved trauma and never sought any type of therapy to work through mental health issues as they develop dementia, Alzheimer's? Particularly things like psychosis, paranoia, delusion. Is someone with trauma, depression, victim mentality, suspicious of people... more likely to experience those things more severely? How do those mental health issues impact the brain / dementia brain?

@endlesshybrids 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for making this interview available. To hear Conti speak is a remarkable, thought provoking tool for reflecting on my own mental health. I've read his book on trauma, but he conveys so much more in the way he speaks than in the book.

@thelionsam 5 ай бұрын

I think Peter, steeped as he is in objective standards, maybe doesn't realise that even physical health should be measured relative to changing standards as we age? I'm excited to get physically old, my health is improving as I age in a real sense because I'm speaking from my personal changing perspective i'm a more healthy 50 year old than I was as a 20 year old, the standards are different! Yes, my numbers are going down in an absolute sense, but Absolutism does me no good and doesn't interest me. I aim to be a great 60 year old in 10 years, not a 60 year old who is a half-good 30 year old... My physical reference point is moving as I age.... my perspective is changing, the word 'decline' only applies if my anchor is still in my 20's.

@samfox1312 5 ай бұрын

Really appreciated this!!! Thank you for everything you do. Am grateful. Also seriously loved listening to Paul. Thank you for doing these!

@77777jetta 5 ай бұрын

What a great podcast!!! I have learned so much from both of you! Thank you for your knowledge, and most of all, sharing it with so many people who need this knowledge! Love my Attia!!!

@endgamefond 5 ай бұрын

Dr, Paul was correct about biomarkers on your emotions. I wake up and feeling afraid like I told myself many times "jesus, this is not cancer, what are you so afraid about making this decision." idk if i should trust my fear and not do it or i should not listen to it and make a change for myself even i dont wanna do it.

@Cathy-xi8cb 5 ай бұрын

My aunt was a monster. Messed up, angry, unfulfilled. Lived to 96 because she had no vices and took care of her health.

@jimmybaker4821 5 ай бұрын

What's the point of living long if it's in misery

@kenadams5504 5 ай бұрын

@@jimmybaker4821karma less recognised , perhaps.

@zzc8505 5 ай бұрын

sounds like she was just sucking everyone's energy by being a monster and that kept her going

@CA-lf7jt 2 ай бұрын

You know I used to believe this . Sometimes it’s true- then sometimes people who are truly happy get dementia cancer, multiple cancers( my mom). My best friend cancer. They all were happy and took good care of mental and physical health. Died way too young

@barbaralegate4188 5 ай бұрын

Great BUT the comment about being born able to be that person- forgets the reality of the intrapartum period - the stressed single mom bathing her fetus in cortisol, for example, those too poor to eat properly or uninitiated in your good information! Would be great to do a segment on antenatal health and getting one’s body ready to carry a fetus, then carry the fetus, then recover from pregnancy. Sooo many subjects to cover! And it’s all about where health, longevity begin!

@robertthompson5501 5 ай бұрын

Have been taking Colagen and eating Protein snack at bedtime. Both seemed to do me well. I am validated despite the "gurus " advice against. Oldest geezer under the barbell at YMCA 🏋‍♂️

@bigr0075 2 ай бұрын

Sleep apnea, get checked as it's extremely prevalent and under diagnosed... Could be the root of your troubles

@traceybutler5420 5 ай бұрын

I love this! Dr Conti has taught me so much. Great episode!

@sa3laaa 5 ай бұрын

Jordan Peterson's Doppelganger! Hit like if you agree.

@ThotCrimes84 5 ай бұрын

If Peterson had a good, and much wiser twin, sure.

@LynnMcAllister 5 ай бұрын

I thought it was Peterson too at first 😅

@olivierkreitner1587 5 ай бұрын

jordan peterson disguised as ben shapiro

@rp011051 5 ай бұрын

They ignore the work & wisdom of enorional intelligence.. From west & east. To me shows the blinders and prejudices

@sianikolaou5440 5 ай бұрын

You both have such a great rapport and take the conversation of important topics into interesting directions. Thank you for sharing it with us!

@ATCagil 5 ай бұрын

I win powerball and I’m definitely happier

@FieldBonnie-p9q 20 күн бұрын

Hall Michelle Young David Harris Michelle

@Gingersnaps50 5 ай бұрын

🤍Love this conversation so much and very curious about Dr Conti’s thoughts on IFS therapy…

@handiable 5 ай бұрын

Love your content Peter Attia MD. Always informative and valuable. 💖

@musiloko787 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this fantastic episode. The insight Paul shared is so valuable.

@talloolahmoon 5 ай бұрын

The only voice I hear is the hate throughout the world

@elsamatos2581 5 ай бұрын

There is a lot of love throughout the word, tune to it. You have a choice, use it wisely, don’t get seduced by hate, which is louder but not stronger.

@rrai- 5 ай бұрын

Wym

@makeadifference4all 5 ай бұрын

Those are some impressive, Martin Scorsese-worthy eyebrows!

@Anita-wh4vr 5 ай бұрын

To come in contact with our emotion, we need to re-conect with our body, where there are the information about this emotions. Take a look inside by paying attention to the feelings in the body, specifically neck, chest and abdomen. There you find the responses.

@darkclownKellen 5 ай бұрын

You sound like a mystic