(3/3) Inappropriate Questions to ask a Trans Person

[@OhHiItsMegan]

I started watching a few of these Gender transformation videos - or whatever you want to call them for research but now I am so amazed I can't stop watching! I am sure you inspire more than you know. You are a very attractive and lovely guy any woman (or man for that matter) would be lucky to have you.

[@ustekinumab-n5h]

This was an excellent series. As a man of an older generation, I need to know these things. While I don't personally know any trans people (yet), I want to know what is appropriate. Many of the questions you presented were just rude if someone would ask them; others were just curious. This concept of "triggering" is new to me; while I can certainly understand it in context of a gender transition, it seems to me that way too many young people are throwing this concept of "triggering" in all sorts of contexts. I see in some universities they have to label certain courses or certain reading materials in case they might "trigger" something in someone. And I think too many people are being babies about this "trigger" stuff. I do not mean trans people, but I mean there has to be a point when people man up and stop worrying that some comment might "trigger" something. That said, if I were to meet a trans person and I had questions, I would first ask if he/she was comfortable if I asked a few questions. I would never ask rude questions about genitalia or scars.

[@HaiThereItsNadia]

These videos have been very informative for me, thank you for making them Skylar!

[@vocaloid4ever]

This was actually really informative, given that some of these questions I may have asked my self if i happened to meet a trans person (mainly the "you don't look trans") just in an attempt to make them feel comfortable, but in contrary actually making them feel uncomfortable :O thanks a lot

[@KleineKassiopeia]

I even approach it like you do when I'm »revealing« that I'm trans to somebody. Usually I first state, that if they wanna know something they can ask me anything, but if I don't wanna answer something I'm just gonna say that, and that I won't be offended by it. But that is only for when I feel I can trust them, or that they should now that about me. For all other instances, the »Guidline« you posted is deffinetly something to at least keep in mind. Thanks for that video :)

[@jamesfelix]

thank you for making these videos so i don’t always have to have these conversations with people. i didn’t feel like explaining why some random person at the bar hurt my feelings & sending them this video was so much easier lol

[@icesplitter99]

Hope people will follow your "advise", it's really very informative and true. Most trans. people, either FtM or MtF are very uncomfortable with their transition and don't even want to bring it up, once they've gone through most surgeries and such. They want to forget every having been in the "wrong" body, so it's very...untactfull to remind them of it.

[@chrishansen724]

Thanks--this was really illuminating. I wonder if there's a way of publicising your video more widely, as lots of people who would benefit from hearing this won't hear it. I try not to ask such questions, and when someone asks me (gay cismale) questions like "Who's the daddy and who's the mommy?" I do my best not to kick them but after many years of this stuff I have decided that I'm not the Gay Educator-General. I tell 'em to Google it.

[@nevergiveup11912]

I find you to be very informative and highly intelligent. I learn something new every time I watch one of your videos and I wish you luck in however you chose to pursue your life.

[@Erikur17]

I'm shocked that someone would ask anyone such personal questions of strangers.

[@MaisieMcintyre1]

I learned a lot , thank you ! You never know how something feels like untill you put yourself in their shoes!

[@jessiereyy]

Definitely a great little series, I think your way of approaching it is really well thought out :)

[@abcxyzita]

EVERYONE SHOULD WATCH THIS VIDEO. I had a well-intentioned friend get mad at me the other day because I was trying too hard to be "politically correct" with regards to asking questions and I think this sort of video is really helpful. THANKS SKY!

[@LeahLela]

Saying "you don't looks trans" is like saying "you don't look gay" what exactly does a trans or gay person look like? I hate ignorant people. Great video Sky, keep it up :)

[@skylarkeleven]

Good point! Right? "You don't look gay" …. as if you'd be able to see it floating around me, rainbows and unicorns hovering over my head or something ;) So silly!

[@StlyDutch]

Personally I just always tell my friends to feel free to ask anything they want, because I'm not easily offended at all, and if I'm ever uncomfortable answering a question I just won't and we move on.

[@guienqp]

You are such a wonderful person. Hi from El Salvador. Don't change who you are, keep sharing your positive energy.

[@CupcakeRollerblades]

You are a true inspiration, and I really admire you.

[@skylarkeleven]

Thank you so much Milly - I hope your journeys in life are beautiful

[@Alexandra.mp3]

It's horrible that a person should have to get questions like these .. I feel sad and can only try to imagine how it feels

[@alaninnh]

This was very well done Sky. I like you very much and have a deep respect for you. I'm sure many people will find this video helpful. You did a wonderful job of getting your point across without being inflammatory.

[@the94jazzy]

Hey, these videos were pretty cool. It's really nice to see someone approach this without a really angsty tone which I suppose comes with age. Also, the time you are spending in the gym is really paying off!

[@skylarkeleven]

Thank you so much! I think it comes with age and experience too - it's taken me a while to get here. And thanks as well - I'm glad its paying off as it's killing me heh ;) (in all the good sorts of ways!)

[@lisaj5769]

Very educational video. Thank you. Maybe you can also do a similar informative video on what things to be careful about when dating a transgender person. We need more information like this available for the public to be informed.

[@sjturneronthecorner]

Thank you Sky for educating me(a cisgender female in one of the most conservative parts of California where no one I know of can explain this to me)

[@skylarkeleven]

Anytime :)

[@McRichardz]

I'm glad I found you through Arielle, your videos have really helped me learn a lot about those who are transgender and the transgender community, I really appreciate that! :)

[@skylarkeleven]

I'm really glad as well! Keep exploring the youtube trans community, as it's super diverse and there are so many stories and lives and experiences :)

[@skullgirrl757]

Hey I'm new to your channel and I just wanted to say thank you so much you are such a great person and have inspire me a lot. As someone who has struggled with their gender and sexuality for years it's great to hear another person actually taking the time to talk about it. I totally feel you as a gender queer person when you talk about how frustrating it is to have people say "well you don't look _______" because I've been struggling with that a lot lately being a rather busty genetic female, trying to explain to my friends when they say I'm cis female and just really wanna go "actually not quite". So you gave me a lot of help with how to deal with these situations so thank you!!! Sorry this was kinda lengthy.

[@Zigzipy]

This is really helpful, thanks for sharing. I think its so important to be considerate and sensitive to people especially if the topics may be triggering. I love how you are so easy going and understanding; people should definetly look to your way of engaging conversation about issues that may be sensitive. This video shows how important it is to be respectful and open to the other person, and to let them know they have the freedom to say "I don't feel comfortable answering that." I hope more people take these tips on board. :)

[@skylarkeleven]

I appreciate that :) I definitely think sometimes its hard to… really talk about these questions when one is hurting from them, if that makes sense. For example, it took me quite a while of growing to be able to tackle this video and these questions in a mature way - because when I was younger, hearing these questions hurt loads. First coming out, unsure of myself, insecure, feeling watched by my peers and unaccepted at times - I may have lashed out at some for asking these questions because I was in a more negative and overall, sensitive spot. I'm happy I've grown and become more mature and able to handle things better, but I definitely totally get that sometimes, it's pretty impossible to be cool and collected when in the face of something that appears to be personally attacking or personally offending someone. Hence the advice about asking questions :)

[@Zigzipy]

I 'm so, so glad to hear that you are happy, more confident and more mature, thats so important for yourself and for other people. I am close with a guy who is trans and he really wants to transition but can't at the moment, he is so unhappy right now and all I can say to him is it will get better, things will change and he will be happy. I think its great that you are here on the internet because you are showing people that being happy is possible, even if at one point in your life you think 'I'm never getting through this.'

[@exodusforseti]

These videos are really great Sky, thanks for sharing :) ~

[@alexanderschults9571]

Sky I love your videos. You're so thoughtful and positive. Also, I love the shirt you're wearing in these 3 videos.

[@minanyeli]

Thank you for sharing with us the things not to say to anyone who are trans, really some of these I have thought of saying BUT never did. Thanks so much really.

[@unicornsification]

This was very informative, it's really dumb to make assumptions about all trans men as experiences can vary so greatly. And gosh, boundaries. Gotta keep in mind that maybe disclosing that their trans is as far as they want to go with the topic. Thanks.

[@skylarkeleven]

Great to bring up - even just disclosing one's trans status is a huge feat (and honor to those who they disclose it to!)

[@lisi79]

I love this video! Some People ask so many offensive questions to minority groups without even realising. I think sometimes they assume because you want to be accepted then that means you automatically must be open about yourself to everyone in order for them to accept you? It's a bizarre mentality. I can kind of relate to the "how do you have sex?" Question. as a gay man the amount of people who have asked "so who is the top and the bottom out of you two?". First of all its sexist because it kind of implies the 'bottom' is the 'woman' and thus inferior. Second of all its totally intrusive. I would never say to someone "so do you prefer doggy or missionary?" who I'm not BFFs with, so why do they feel its ok to ask me about my sex life? IMO its dehumanising and it kind of makes me feel like an animal in a zoo. Excellent video though!

[@katedutchie]

Love your videos! I hope more updates/blogs etc soon. Thank you for educating us a bit on what is and isn't inappropriate. :)

[@skylarkeleven]

anytime Kathy! I'm glad you are here :)

[@Brooksicles]

Am I the only one who is literally in love with sky or nah

[@TnDon]

Great videos. I'm not trans but I watch you because you're an effective communicater and I always seek information regarding what I consider one of the greatest life changes that a person could chose to make. I also appreciate the upbeat general attitude. So thanks for taking the time to make these and all your other videos. I've watched for about 4 years and find every video most informative.

[@skylarkeleven]

Thanks for being with me for 4 years :)

[@brandimunguia]

What if I'm a trams male and I'm wanting to get top surgery, is it ok to ask to see your scars to get a point of reference as to what to expect? Or if I'm a cis female and I'm going to get a mastectomy for any reason and I want to see your scars for the same reason, would that still be offensive?

[@sarahjanebatty6305]

I never knew some off these questions wpuld be triggering I am just learning how to ask my transfriends questions and I have slipped up a few times but videos have help me very much thank you xx

[@RandiJoeWileman]

This was very much how I feel too, it's not rocket science that's for sure. This is very helpful to pass along to help others understand.

[@luTheBrave]

Hey Skylar, i would really appreciate it if you could look at these questions and maybe answer them if you're comfortable to do so: Questions: 1. are there any things you miss out of being in a female body? like pregnancy pranks or stupid shit like that :) 2. did your Adam apple grew because of T treatment? 3. do you have some girly habits? i mean, a lot of men have, but it seems like a transgender wouldn't feel comfortable with them , so he would hide it. and if you do, do you hide it? 4. when you were in a female body, have you been to a gynecologist? if you have, did you check the already existing amount of testosterone, and if you did, was it balanced, or was it bigger than average? thanks anyway, you're amazing!

[@Brooksicles]

Do you know how triggering this is maybe think before you type in future

[@Brooksicles]

Second of all 'a transgender' we are not a species we are humans like everyone else

[@jobastianstarcruiser3472]

I first saw these 3 videos in the frontpage of KZbin and it actually looked like you where doing some funky dance :) Anyways awesome videos as always.

[@Wimboify]

How old were you when u started HRT? Like, I'm so worried that I'll be all gone and done with puberty before I start E :L Fml

[@emzxcily]

These videos were so great, thanks so much for speaking up and giving your opinion.

[@kirstielawrence1590]

I love your opinions! Totally agree with everything you've said!

[@alexrosas4262]

Hey Sky. So I was wondering if you could give me some advice. I've come out to my mom, one of my sisters, and a few friends about being ftm. But my mom and sister treat me like a girl. When it came time to dress for a funeral, ( great grandpa, 97), a couple days ago, they kept insisting I wear a dress. When I confronted them, askoing why they don't make my brother wear a dress,their reply was, 'because he is a boy', which really ticked me off. I got away with wearing a blazer a striped button shirt with slacks. My mom always answers my why questions with,'because you're a girl'. And my sister just makes un of me for it. A few of which I think she tries to pass off as jokes. Sister: (Voice cracks) Me: *laugh* You sound like a teenage boy Sister: You wish you were a teenage boy. I'm still 13, so IT have a few years to convince my mom to get over it, ( and ask for hormones). What should I do Sky? (By the way, you're hot)

[@mudkipjuice]

If I could offer some advice in the meantime: I understand how you feel. My experience was similar when I was 13 and came out to my family. You can't expect them to 'get over it'. It's not something anyone 'gets over'. In their own way, they also have to go through a transition WITH you. Right now, they're just starting while you've got a 13 year head-start. You need to step back and help them, not expect them to catch up right away because it is difficult for everyone, not just you. You're also not going to get hormones and surgery and everything as soon as you may think, it's been five years and I'm only now starting hormones next month and only started packing and binding last year. First of all, these things are expensive, second, your family, like I said, needs to go through the process with you, third, it involves tons of medical appointments which are not only difficult to make time for, it might be difficult to find an appropriate doctor for your transition. I'd suggest try educating in small steps, just here and there, where you can. Also, maybe suggest seeing a gender therapist or a psychiatrist that works with the lgbt+ community, or, if your school has a guidance counselor or social worker, speak to them about it and ask them to talk to your mom about it for you. It takes a long time for people to catch up to you, but it can only happen if you help.

[@skylarkeleven]

Hey my friend - I'm sorry to hear that you aren't feeling very accepted at home. How recently have you come out to your family? If you'd like - feel free to shoot me an email (it's my same username on here but @gmail.com) and maybe we can figure out some ways for you to explain how you are feeling with your family and what's important to you.

[@aawillma]

A lot of these questions would be considered ridiculously rude in any context (would you ask someone who used to be morbidly obese if they had THE surgery, to see pictures of them naked, or from when they were fat?). Why do people think it's ok to direct these towards trans people? I think it's because of the way the general public perceives them. Like a sideshow act, they think trans people's "trans-ness" is something that is on display and therefore open to unrestricted discussion and assessment. It's pretty disgusting and hopefully with the increase in exposure and education, it will stop.

[@TheShiaishi]

Thanks for these vids dear..really inspirational Im about to transition as well :) some people at my workplace looked down on me ..question me so many innaproprite things and made me feel so bad and useless :(

[@farrey22]

I'm pretty sure this isn't an inappropriate question, but could you explain why (mostly on tumblr) I see trans written with a * at then end? What does that mean? Is trans* something different than trans?

[@skylarkeleven]

Hey Farren - totally not inappropriate - as far as I know, the * in trans is to be inclusive of those who do not identify as specifically transMEN or transWOMEN, but could be transgender, and possibly agender, genderqueer, two spirit, gender fluid.. the wide range of non-binary (so not men or women) options that someone can feel and identify as. The * has been pushed primarily by FAAB persons (female assigned at birth) and I've seen on tumblr a lot of new thoughts on how the * in trans* actually silences transwomen to a certain degree (I haven't read everything there is on this subject, but my thoughts upon reading a few articles was that due to the alarming rate of harassment against transwomen, many transwomen are not physically safe living in-between or outside of the binary - being a woman is hard enough when one is MAAB (male assigned at birth), trying to be gender-fluid or anything else can be really dangerous and is not a privilege many transwomen feel they have, thus the * is more of a transman push/privilege.) But I'm uncertain - I would check out on tumblr what others have written on it (maybe by searching the trans* tag.)

[@loveleighjones5915]

You're awesome! Love watching your videos! Keep it up!

[@chynechrystal]

Thanks Sky for making this video, Honestly I had no idea that some of those questions would have been taken wrongly. I am glad you shared this, it was very informative. :) Also, would it be taken as offensive if say i were to come up to you or anyone trans and ask them if they plan on having surgery or not, rather than just asking "when", so it doesnt seem like its expected? I have a friend who recently came out as trans and would definitely not want to offend them.

[@snow7cat11]

This is super helpful! Thanks! P.S. You are super attractive, like oh my god.

[@felixccaa]

I totally get the point of being comfortable to tell something by oneself and making the choice over telling it or not - but doesn't this also aply if somebody is asking sonething? You still choose, either to answer or not to, right? Nobody can force an answer, if I wouldn't want to give it. I also very much get the point of inappropriate questions - as there were some of which You presented, that I never would ask any person no matter what. On the other hand - as You stated somehow - it seems arbitrary, which would be ok and which would be not. But please consider: not everybody has gotten a high standard education - so they might just ask the way they are able to - as long as they show some sort of respect, maybe it is something not to blame them - but as I said, I allways find it very ok to answer: "Well, that is my personal concern, a very private matter and I prefer not to answer it." But as I know how very much lacking of respect ppl are, I found all three videos very good. THX 4 that.

[@TheREALMaximan]

Your so inspirational skylar!

[@MamaKnoesEverything]

Love these videos! Very good topics

[@TheYYellowmamba]

ur actly kinda buff, r u on a superphisiological amount of test or are you working out?

[@itzymidzy6904]

Sir I have a question. For how many years you will need to take T shots? Thanks if you will answer my question.😊

[@astroscvm]

I think, but I may be mistaken, it's something you need to do for the rest of your life. Otherwise the lack of testosterone in your body after taking it for a long time could drastically affect you and your hormones could go crazy. It also would reverse the changes that testosterone made already to your body such as hair, muscle or fat tissue in areas, etc. I am just going based off of other videos and knowledge I've heard before so if I'm wrong, anyone feel free to correct me. But I'm pretty sure it's a forever thing. Hope this answered your question. :)

[@itzymidzy6904]

+Amanda Salinas thanks! :)

[@sissisarante9017]

woah. I just saw your vid on comparison of u starting on T and its just an awesome transition and your so attractive, lol.

[@RANDOMWICKED]

I was wondering, if you were to go over seas, say to Italy for a month or so, does airport security make it difficult in some ways? of course if you haven't experienced this then you can't quite know, but it's just something that popped into my head.

[@jaredcarver8902]

Europe I wouldn't really worry, but when I was working in Iraq and Afghanistan, it made me really nervous going through the airports in the UAE and Turkey because of the intolerance for LGBT in Muslim countries...but as long as I didn't bring it up I was ok and I only got asked about it twice out of the 30 or so times I had to fly through...luckily without incident

[@skylarkeleven]

Jared Carver That's super informative Jared! Thanks for sharing that! I 've never had trouble flying, but before I was on T, I was detained and questioned after going in and out of security three times (due to flights changing) for appearing like a "boy" but having my passport still say F.

[@RANDOMWICKED]

ahh, I see. Thank-you very much guys :)

[@kriscowin8485]

You are so amazing! I admire you! Do you have an instagram for fans to follow?

[@Joyk95]

Wish I'd seen your videos before my speech on legislation to allow students to choose bathrooms and sports based on the gender they identify with.

[@erickgonzalez3150]

so basically... dont talk about it... thats what i just learn... my boyfriend's BFF is Trans and im going to meet him soon i truly feel that if he tells me "hey ask away" im probably going to be like "naaaaa im good..." cuz what if i way the wrong noun what if i ask something the wrong technically/proper way? i feel like in a Engl class... like you said "why did u want to become a male?" well "WANT" is implying blablabla... is this philosophy class? you know what i mean i didn't mean anything bad by it come onnnn... frustrating to feel like a bad guy for not being careful enough to please whoever... too much drama lets just not ask anything and be friends...

[@dsarahdprincess]

skylar was actually the name i was gonna use for my transition too!

[@TheScydeFX]

I think your points are all well made, but it's a self fulfilling prophecy these questions will come due to the rarity of transgenders - people have no idea how to approach them and will want to seem interested and supportive, and these questions (some of them anyway) seem like appropriate things to anyone who doesn't think it through.

[@skylarkeleven]

I understand where you are coming from, but at the same time, it's important not to just sit back and accept these questions. I can accept them now, react to them in a perfectly fine way - they don't affect me anymore since I've heard them so much. But when I was 14/15, hearing these questions made me feel like an animal, unnatural, and wildly uncomfortable. I could spiral into weeks of depression just over a stupid question that someone "didn't think it through." So it's important to think it through, and it isn't my fault for being transgender and them not knowing anything about it. Google is magical!

[@TheScydeFX]

skylarkeleven Don't get me wrong - those questions are not to be accepted. My point is, ignorance shouldn't upset you, it's neither friendly nor mean-spirited, just lack of knowledge. How relevant this is depends on how well they know you and the situation, strangers should not be asking at all, friends should know better, but I think meeting people who will be part of your life (work colleagues for example) can be forgiven a little clumsiness? I think the attitude behind the words is far more important in general, though I understand how it can make you feel.

[@monicarivera6869]

I have admire you for the last 5 years.

[@willardmcmorris9702]

Sky 30 years ago, i was 'the token gay' I was invited to parties so the Host could 'show off' his GAY freind. I had a study partner who I invited to supper prior to studing, for some reason he wanted to take a shower??? I was studing when he came out of the bathroom naked no towel, What are you doing. "I ask?" "I wanted to prove I am not uncomfortable around GAY people" please get dressed | I feel your discomfort/ pain/ anger Sky. very good video- content and editting. Thanks

[@skylarkeleven]

I'm sorry that happened to you Will! I think many can relate to feeling like they are the token 'gay' or 'trans' friend - it really feels awful to be objectified like that, and I truly hope that the times are changing due to education and awareness!

[@blazinds12]

I feel like the "You dont look transgender" question in some cases is kinda meant as a "Damn you're hot as a (insert identity here)." Almost as if I were to do drag. Lord knows I'd make an ugly woman but if someone told me "I'd never guess you were a dude" then you'd best believe I'd work that shit! Different cases obviously but probably meant to be less offensive than people intend. Other than that, your northerner (or if you're Italian) nature shows by all the hand motions =p

[@skylarkeleven]

Totally - I don't think it's intended to be offensive at all and is intended as a compliment, but I think it's important to know how that can be perceived by a person as well as the assumptions it entails :) I'm not Italian, but I do live in VT!? :)

[@blazinds12]

Theres just a ton of things that people need to think about for all others. Race, sexual identity, sexual preference, anything really. Had someone say something offensive yesterday about being gay. I just looked at them and they apparently didnt realize exactly what they said or why it wasnt cute. But thats just people for ya. Anyway, I remember you saying how one of your parents is from Maine, like me =p I'm a gesture talker myself. Adds drama to the conversation in my opinion

[@IIBlasianII]

Why did you make it three different parts?

[@skylarkeleven]

Because otherwise it was a 13 minute long video - and through reading my KZbin "analytics" for the first time, and realizing most viewers only watch about 2-3 minutes, I wanted to make sure folks watched the whole thing, as the ending is just as important as the beginning! So this allows folks to watch it in parts when they have time.

[@IIBlasianII]

Oh okay, that makes sense. I love all of your videos, I don't know why anyone wouldn't watch till the end.

[@samuelMarx73]

Respect each other. It's not hard people.

[@RodentRiley]

Y'know... I'm pretty sure I've watched all of your videos and I don't believe I've ever heard your birth name. xD I've been wanting to ask for ages, but knew it could be considered inappropriate so never did.

[@ThePragmatist839]

Hi ;) I Really love your videos and I have learned a lot about the full spectrum of human identity from them. These question videos were really informative. However, as someone who doesn't interact a lot with the trans community, I know (and sometimes) ask those questions you talk about. As much as I can see (now :)) how they can be offensive and misunderstood, I think no one really intends that. Obviously asking someone about their body parts is inappropriate, but for example wondering about whether someone takes hormones or not is never intended as an insult. Mostly people are just curious because they want to educate themselves and not be judgemental. By answering some "uncomfortable" questions, you have done a lot to erase false ideas in peoples' minds about a topic that is often stigmatized and ignored. Hence, I guess i think that it's better for people to ask (even if sometimes inappropriately) than stand in a corner and spread hate. I worry that sometimes out of fear of offending someone, potentially life-changing conversations don't happen. And that is to be avoided because we do not want a world of close-minded dorks. Lots of love ;)

[@skylarkeleven]

Oh absolutely! I agree with everything you have written here :) It's all about intent for me - which is why I am more likely to educate than to get upset whenever asked these questions. I don't think folks intend to hurt folks when asking questions - but I know that when I was younger, it did hurt to hear these a lot as I couldn't handle it well back then/explain myself/my body. I definitely think it is better to ask questions than to assume :)

[@darkbunglex]

People ask to see your scars?!! Fucking hell that is rude! I am shocked people ask that! Wow. "But you don't look trans", I don't think I would say that but I might have say "I would never have known if you didn't tell me" when someone tells me they are trans. I haven't before and I will make a note now but I don't think anyone should be offended by "I wouldn't have known" Oh that reminds me, I was getting chatted up by an attractive trans woman at a pub when visiting my mum years ago. My mum introduced me to her and other people at the local pub/diner. I couldn't tell and when my mum came and saw her flirting my mum took me aside to tell me she was trans because apparently she often took guys home without telling them and she was pre-op and as you can imagine it had caused some problems! But I gotta say, she must of had some success with this technique at times because she risked getting punched out by doing it. Apparently she would play dumb and say she thought the guy knew but she looked so feminine no one would be able to tell.

[@TheOrigionalTurtle]

I said to a Trans* guy once "I never would have guessed that you were born female" and he took it as a compliment. I didn't go into his past or anything like that. It was kind of just a statement really. But with my wording could that have been taken as offensive to other Tans* men? Because I know you put in the video "You don't look trans*" but that wasn't exactly what I was saying.

[@mygoat0604]

Hope what I'm gonna say would sound like a genuine compliment and wouldn't make you uncomfortable in any way. You're such a cute guy.

[@skylarkeleven]

Thanks my friend :) Not offended at all, don't even worry for a moment! It's all about intent for me, and you being genuine is all that matters on my end :)

[@PUBNave]

What a great video! :)

[@Mcgturtle3]

I like these videos. But I don't think curiosity is a bad thing. How can we answer all the questions of the world without wondering first? Then again, that doesn't really fit in with wondering what someones genitals look like. But wondering how those different surgeries work is informative and helps people gain knowledge

[@SpaghettiiPie]

i love your banksy tattoo

[@mariahwatson1769]

@skylarkeleven Dude.........you are really freaking attractive. Thaaat being said :p You're really inspiring and I definitely respect all the shit I'm sure you went/still go through. I'd wanna be friends without a second to think about it:) P.S. Is that a The Used tattoo on your right arm??=O If yes, that's awesome, they're my favorite band! If not, well, just disregard that xD

[@hilarybennett5756]

Sky what are your plans for this summer?

[@skylarkeleven]

I'm going to be moving July 1st to Boston, but in mid-June I'm vacationing down to Philly for the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference :)

[@hilarybennett5756]

Sounds great to me. I hope you have a fantastic summer! And good luck with the move x

[@autumnathena5257]

Skylar you are amazing and adorable as ever!:)

[@nojokeorpokemon]

just got your t-shirt in the mail yesterday! ((((:

[@skylarkeleven]

huzzah!! do you like it?! :D

[@nojokeorpokemon]

i adore it!

[@ahStarwok]

You are very intelligent in your answers i must say, sky.

[@katedutchie]

*vlogs

[@charliebaleno]

Sky would u mind emailing me?

[@skylarkeleven]

Not sure how to find your email, but mine is [e-mail]:) I get on there at least once or twice a week to read and answer messages!

[@iTheStalker]

I'd like to point out that you completely missed the point of saying "you don't look trans/ I could never have known" It means you are passing. That's it. Not everyone is pan-sexual. So obviously not everyone is attracted to non-passing trans. Some people like women who look like women, and men who look like men. In your case, you are a man that looks like a man; aka people can't tell. And it's not so much a compliment. It's more of an observation. It's also not a question. Most trans people WISH they could pass :)

[@BronzehorseN]

Where do you see yourself in 10-20 years? Life is tough....what are your career plans?

[@skylarkeleven]

I hope to get my masters in social work to work with LGBT youth, I'd love to work at an after school program, or traveling and educating. Ultimately, as I near retirement, I want to be a clinical counselor - especially with gender counseling and gender therapy :)

[@BronzehorseN]

skylarkeleven I wish you the best :-)

[@chantalwentling2512]

I have family that is transgengerd and I know how you feel and don't listen them if there mean love you

[@owenpridgen4406]

I been told are my kids my own bio kids , when will you have The surgery ? How do you have kids ? I been told I couldn’t tell you were born female ,

[@callummercado1981]

ugh I love him so muchh

[@johnathanfeldhouse3956]

Ha. The Custom Ink Logo in the corner

[@CoolTrainerMason]

you look like daniel from the janoskians haha

[@skylarkeleven]

hmmmm let me check this out :)

[@cloroxbleach3838]

This is old but Holy shit that's what I thought too! Lol. Oh and you also reminded me of young christofer drew when you started out on your transition. Idk why :3

[@EnigmaKash]

wow...some people are ridiculous. No one should have to deal with personal invasion like that. Just ignore the ignorant people, if they really want to know tell them to google this crap.

[@Thisisace]

Sky, are we still allowed to ask why you're so handsome? ;-)

[@transguywithmultiplesclero5406]

Nice explanation of "you don't look trans*"

[@ncis599]

Amen.

[@Shan-et5bs]

As if people ask you or anyone these questions. It's just generally rude to ask such things.

[@Shan-et5bs]

Unless you're really close to that individual or its for educational purposes e.g they are trans themselves

[@zazazakii]

You look and sound like Evan Peters a lot, omg

[@charliebaleno]

Just sent an email

[@MrJason300]

Thank you for ending your video like that =]

[@dylanmurphy3359]

Thank you for doing this series. I hope you know what your videos mean to me and others.