3 Best-Kept Narcissistic Secrets That Will Make Everything Clear

[@user-nh7ll3qp2o]

1. narcissists will not appreciate anything you do to please them 2. they know exactly how to reel you in 3. silent treatments work best

[@kisigma1102]

Facts

[@philipschuster6557]

Trust your gut. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable, just walk away.

[@gmatinky3965]

philip schuster Amen

[@lannyslough8684]

philip schuster Amen! I agree you. 100 %

[@sarahjohnson8514]

philip schuster Yes. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable and confused, listen!!!

[@chrispapa2782]

This is a good advise for the already healthy individuals. But for the individuals that have sealed with narcicistic parents all their lives quite ironically they feel comfortable and familiar and feel capable to handle the abuse.

[@cdgs7793]

I'm raised by a Narc mother and I've never felt safe as a child and as an adult, as a wife and mother, a friend, collegae etc, never. I was diagnosed with PTSD when I was 33 years old and I didn't know why I felt so unsafe, so scared all the time. I've got therapie for 4 years and my psychiatrists knew very fast what happened to me. I was mentally abused, broken. I'very had to learn to say NO to anyone, because I've always pleased everybody and to get to know ME. I didn't even know who I was. I was my mother iso me/myself and I. I never get used to these ppl, the Narcs. I'm not seeing her anymore after again a silent treatment. I immidiatly said to mysekf, it is enough. I'm NOT going to call her, not going to visit her because years ago, I was told what happened to me and I choose to not to believe that. My eyes war finally open. I'm a grandmother now. I love my husband, son, grandchildren and now, I can relax because I AM FREE for almost two years now. So, I feel very comfortable now with ME MYSELF and I. I had to learn that. I deserve happy Ness and love too, not only critics, angry looks, never being good enough, manipulated, lyed to etc etc.

[@Dreamweaver777]

Life begins at no contact...so true...went no contact ten years ago...not soon enough.

[@GriBlanco]

Waking Up With Lee Catalano how do I go no contact if I have a son with him? Man, I wish he could disappear out of our lives for good!

[@hassanally8751]

Grisel Blanco I chose to go no contact even if we have a daughter together since he doesn't do much for us anyways... Then he started dating my neighbor so now I see him all the time with his new supply...at first it wasn't easy but then I remembered what I had to go through and I wish her luck.she has no idea what's coming.

[@33ladyRAM]

Hassan Ally - he started to date your neighbor...what a tool, just sad

[@triplekids3]

I went no contact 4 months ago I’m finally finding peace, freedom, and healing I was in a 33 year marriage it was pure hell

[@robertholmes8917]

Incredible. Im 41 yo man. Over the last year I woke up. I was with a narcissistic partner. I thought I was losing my mind. You have described my ex. Thankgod for your channel. You are a very sound place to visit for help and healing. God bless you. This video completely put things into perspective. Thank you. Maybe this did happen to free me from my past. Over the last 6 months I have begun to rebuild my life. You are right about narcissistic people being sadistic. Why ruin a good heart? There is absolutely no benefit. Humans are odd. But I am determined to love again. And to trust. Dont let the narcissist win. My advice stop turn around and walk away as fast as possible. Once you wake up you will find freedom. They sing you to sleep and slap you across the face. I stayed. It was hypnotic. As a man of faith I am certain the cruelty in my partners eyes seemed off world. Devils play little games. Remember who you are before

[@MyJubilation]

Can I quote you? "They sing you to sleep and slap you across the face." Awesome description of what the narcissist does.

[@CC-mm3bl]

Just the fact you had to live with a narcissist as a partner makes me cringe, so sorry you had to go through that. Can't even begin to imagine what that'd be like.

[@camilleperena2377]

I agree. Self love. As for my case,I discovered two Narcissists in my life-my boss of 2 years and my partner of 10 years. My boss was the aggressive narcissist and my then ex was a covert narcissist. 2016-2018. They used all that was good in me until I have nothing more to offer. Walked away from my job and my relationship.AND LIVING A NEW LIFE.tougher and more educated. Nowadays,once I see one redflag,BYE FELICIA.

[@CC-mm3bl]

@@camilleperena2377 In certain ways, the covert narc is worse. At least the aggressive one is easier to call out.

[@paulbarrett635]

Robert H , I agree they are hypnotic. It's hard to believe that we stay to endure more, while knowing how disrespectful and abusive they are. It's like they reduce all of your experience and knowledge to nothing.

[@itchyscratch6328]

If someone doesn't help you grow or make you glow, they're not good for you! They make you feel on top of the world in the love-bombing stage but after that, once you're hooked, they change for the worse.

[@robertswift6101]

yep and they cause serious damage to people who are empaths

[@Honey-vz1qq]

They take your goodness and kindness for weakness. Their manta is "by any means necessary."

[@StarfieldRailway]

It makes my blood boil when kindness is punished.

[@lannyslough8684]

Honey327 The more I hear is that they are really hate filled & always eager to make our lives miserable and in chaos. I knew it on my end but hearing of others in the same situation is almost identical. It does feel better knowing that I’m not alone but it is still gets to me when I hear others like us going through the same situation.

[@lannyslough8684]

Honey327 Hello, Angie and the wonderful tribe of Survivor. Are the narcs risk takers and/ or do you think “they” may be able to get away with anything or for the most part.? Because the one I was with seems to think they’re will be no consequences for their actions and words.

[@Angles007]

I am dealing with one for 9 years it destroyed me.

[@hleek2003]

yep Honey327 to bad cannt find away to crush there ego

[@pamelaborst6272]

I know now I wasn't a bad person who couldn't do anything right, it was him all along! Playing my weakness because I told him all my insecurities early on and he used that to almost kill me!!

[@sydneylove8646]

Your like a psychiatrist I don't have to pay for. I'm thankful for this information. 😊

[@RelationshipRefuge]

Glad to be of help, Red 35! :)

[@JN-kg7jx]

A psychologist is even better, no pills.

[@josephholdman1037]

Thanks! for the schollarship!

[@shirleyakpelu1831]

Thanks for this information. Once you realize the narc can never be pleased, you stop trying and that is the beginning of the end of the relationship, at least for me it was. I began to observe his actions and words more carefully. I knew something was wrong, but could not put my finger on it. I shed many tears realizing this was all fake and a dictatorship, not a marriage relationship. So the detachment began--it took many years, because I was on the hamster wheel of abuse--but the light bulb came on and things started to change for the better for me. Once I believed who he was when he showed me--things started to change for good. HalleluYah.

[@joeldwest]

Shirley Akpelu More men are abusive.

[@johnmoses9618]

Yes, once You stop they move on to new supply and in my case was on to new supply before I was discarded . It takes 2 years to fully understand it after ending it . Good luck with Your healing. It's 50 /50 on women & men that have the disorder .

[@livingfree7153]

Shirley Akpelu congratulations! 🙏🏻😇💙

[@anitarogers2877]

Shirley Akpelu : Yes, I did the same. Internally our 'pilot' light never goes out: still gently shining our way forward. One day when we have had more than enough, that light within emblazons like a fiery torch, giving us the momentum to strive forwards on our path out of the toxic relationship, 'burning' the narc out of our Heart, way, and our life. Much Love and Hugs, Anita xxxx

[@Canaday291]

Same thing happened to me with a horrible abusive malignant narcissist He’s truly sadistic and evil

[@foxyfifty59]

these videos have literally brought me out of the dark of always thinking "what's wrong with me" I'm doing everything to make this person happy and the more I do the less it's appreciated. I'm so grateful to have confirmation that I'm not crazy but dealing with the personalty type that will make you feel that way. I'm in the midst of the NO CONTACT and it's not a easy walk acknowledging that I was involved with just such a person and detangling from it emotionally. But Kim's videos are making it so much easier to understand and realizing I'm doing the right thing for ME.

[@gradyblack138]

They will tell you that they want "us" to look like the perfect most happiest couple when around relatives & friends. Just the opposite of what goes on behind closed doors...

[@MS-vw3zv]

So very true!!!

[@Tokolos]

If I may sum up the energy and symptoms that I experienced with them: anxiousness, uncertainty , longing, self-doubt, extreme lethargy at times, as well as insomnia. Of course each relationship is unique, within itself, but the dire effects that such negative energy can manifest in one's life should not be ignored.

[@amandalynch8482]

I have been in a relationship for 22yrs with a narc. Finally waking up and making moves to get out. The symptoms u listed...are exactly what i have. He even uses the fact that sleep all the time ...is why he was pushed to have afairs. I am thankful to finally understand i was never the problem.ty

[@walterwhite751]

they give no love or affection or kindness. they are negative and vile yet complain u dont do enough altho all u do is give and they take

[@powerpraiseonpointletswors6892]

So true

[@SyMoane75]

Mine told me, once, that I never do what I say I'll do. I did EVERYTHING I said I would. He is the one who didn't do anything he said he would.

[@joeldwest]

Did she beat or strangle you? No, I thought not. You see that’s the difference.

[@l.m.f.g.6015]

Be careful!!! They want money..as much as possible!! They are good planners! And the only real plan is steal your good money with lots of promises!!! Be careful with your money!!

[@JN-kg7jx]

EXACTLY

[@ichdieLivi]

"before long you are doing the work of 3 people, yet not acknoledged for it." - this is SO TRUE. me now://

[@kellystone1535]

idL Do they even know the words 'Thank You'?

[@ichdieLivi]

yeah, then they SHAME you for being"nothing but" lazy (although it's not true). Kelly, no, not at all :/

[@ichdieLivi]

haha, the "funny" thing about that is, I remember very clearly when I was a little child still she, in her very strict, mean way, told me that I HAVE TO say thank you to everyone always because that's the most important thing (forgetting it is like the worst thing that could ever happen in the world), but at the same time SHE, the queen of everything, of course NEVER has to say thank you to anyone, because OF COURSE the world has to do like she pleases… crazy, when you think about it..

[@lovelystorm891]

idL married & DIVORCED My Narcopath husband of Only 7mths. And yes! He used Me as a SlAVE , Always working for Nothing! How he musta laughed watching Me clean his rat infested dump Only to move in a new clean place with his gfs Ha! Now their cleaning his shit!

[@lannyslough8684]

idL Maybe but narc’s very rarely use this word. I guess it’s not in their vocabulary. But...if “they)do they don’t mean it or doing it to their own advantage. They always want something from us. So we’re empathetic (usually). And forgot and forgive easily but they want something if the actually do apologize. If the narcopath in my life would have said he was sorry. Then I would say... Yep I already knew that (creep)!!! I honestly never backed down with him but still kept letting him come back around. Even though he made my skin crawl & couldn’t stand him even touching me. I don’t know it’s messed up. Always has always will❗️I wish the best to all of us survivors and ones still in the narcissists lives. It just won’t work.

[@carlasouthwell7422]

I'M NOT THE CRAZY ONE

[@lindareynolds659]

Carla Southwell me neither 🙌🏻😁

[@angelanicholson951]

Carla Southwell Amen!

[@lannyslough8684]

Agreed!

[@lover087]

Carla Southwell I'M NOT THE CRAZY ONE!

[@leavesofdistinction1679]

Exactly!

[@mrs.kathleenantuna7701]

they love to isolate people

[@ysabellabrave]

Don't they?

[@bungalowmo]

You bet! After we split, I realized his main reason for targeting me was the fact that I lived alone. I just wish he didn't live 3 houses away!! REALLY hard to move on....

[@claudiacardoza1107]

Reginald Dove , so true. they are like annoying helicopters hoovering over you all the time. you can't give them an inch cause they will stay and abuse their stay. you try to be civil but, such thing wouldn't work with them. I finally got a restraining order. But I know it's not over.

[@lovelystorm891]

Kathleen Periera ohh last X Narcopath kept Me isolated for at least 10mths outta 12. He was, a marine & I thought then , this is A military tactic! I felt like I was in a pow camp! When I left with My child it wasn't a normal split, he wouldn't let Me leave! We had to excape! Thank God I had been keeping in touch with 2 psychologists who knew everything that was going on who knew about narcissism sociopaths and psychopaths I was very blessed and fortunate for them they told me to get the hell out of there!! I showed certain authorities the Tex s and private Facebook messages he had sent over a span of almost 2 years. They said he's a NUT & get a PO. Told them he's hiding

[@lovelystorm891]

Ohh yes, during this time I met a Very Nice & Hamdsome young Sheriff & we're Now dating for almost A year! 1 evil door CLOSED & 1 Awesome Door OPENED Made narc Easy to forget... 🕊

[@itsnotthesamething]

This was excellent! Although my narc wasn't my husband. It was his brother's wife. I have minimal contact, but will have to see her once in a while, because she is part of the family. The wonderful thing is, I have a lifelong friend, whom I had semi lost touch with, due to moving hundreds of miles away. When my narc had me mentally beaten down to a pulp, and she got wind of it, she came running! We regularly talk on the phone now. And she comes to visit, and I go to visit. She always had so much positive energy, and I always loved her. But I never realized that she would be so quick to come to the rescue of an old friend. I thank God for her.

[@rohithreddy75]

Very good to hear that you have such a caring friend

[@DavidJasonLegon]

Dated a guy for 2 yrs who was like this...i felt insane during the whole relationship....it was so bad i had to end the relationship...it was the 1st relationship i have ever ended. Thanks for making me feel human with this info.

[@shawnatravis3288]

They are truly Evil.. Run as fast as you can. Saying this from a 5yr relationship. I thank God, I was able to escape.

[@belinalug6928]

Some narcs are good at complimenting you so they can manipulate you

[@laurenm9563]

Mine stopped making compliments about me and I asked him why he never said anything nice about me His response was "I don't want you 2 get a big head about yourself." He never wanted me 2 feel good. Lol

[@Ayan_Ali.3]

Accept Love bombing phase...

[@cjsampson6456]

One of the very first things that they do to try to hook you, is using flattery. Most Narcissists will give you so many compliments in the early part of your relationship that you begin to feel that they night be up to something. There is just no way that this person can think you are that great. They compliment you to ingratiate themselves to you and make you feel like they really think you are great. This is one of the first red flags.

[@oklahomaisok]

Flattery raises a red flag for me when certain people do it.

[@jennifermaxine2453]

The covert narcissist is more problematic, just ignore them when they need validation or spew ignorance

[@rtp1968]

Catherine Gold :SNAKE they are!!!!

[@useoleon4852]

Yes,this method is the best solution,cutting them out of your life is the only way to free and save yourself.People who have been through Narcissistic abuse should go for therapy,mostly because the effects of the abuse still linger.

[@jamesluallen3550]

Covert narcissist are the most insidious I agree. They are so delusional it's maddening. Lucky I was able to do the one thing they can't deal with. I called out her insane behavior and well got discarded very quickly. There isn't one thing that I could have done to reach her. Her beliefs and actions are in such conflict within her. My empathy for her is still there, but I know who I am and what I'm worth. It's like narcissist repellent. She knew I'd not break and play the game. So she ghosted me through a text message. Zero contact since, and I'll make sure it stays that way. To all who have been targeted like I was. It isn't us, we aren't to blame. Loving people is good, it starts with loving yourself.

[@jennifermaxine2453]

@@jamesluallen3550 I just got out of a relationship with a covert...he was wearing a mask the entire time...ended up telling me that hes a police informant & a pedophile in the most psychopathic way...they are psychopaths, so I'd reconsider your empathy for her she is a wolf in sheeps clothing. He wasn't the person I thought he was (in other words) PSYCHOPATHS

[@jennifermaxine2453]

You're still on social media trying to figure out her psychology though....you dont understand how sick they are...covert narcs are known for incest & pedophilia...the one I just left kept trying to come back for predatory reasons...actually a murderer & pedophile...so, kill your empathy for people like that..they will kill you with no remorse...only self absorbed toxic shame...never underestimate a Narcissist, they would kill you & never feel anything. Best thing you can do is hate their fucking guts like there's no tomorrow & block them completely.

[@jennwilder6679]

I laughed when he told me not to wear a certain t-shirt, i told him I'm wearing whatever i want --and left. divorce papers delivered to his work to him embarrass him. i can see right thru him and and in court, i got EVERYTHING! it was great ...good day, and it taught to be very careful with men.

[@jackiebeckford8136]

Good - a narcissistic injury he'll never forget !

[@besuperhappynow]

It’s that part when you can finally see right through them, their true colors, that you realize that you can never go back and it’s time to move on no matter what.

[@janeyd5280]

Jenn Wilder well done girl.xxxxx

[@karanfield4229]

Very clear, straight to the point info. I wonder how many people you've saved from a life of hell. Certainly helped me. Every relationship I've ever had, the man in it has been a narc. Thank you so much for caring enough to share yr wisdom.

[@antoinette8519]

Thank you so very much @ Kim Saeed. Your video is very much on point as to how narcissists behave. My ex husband malignant narc used the silent treatment as his favorite weapon. My adult son malignant narcissist has also used the silent treatment on me for three months at a time even though he was living within three hours driving time from where I live. I used to feel like my heart had been ripped apart when my son would do that. The last time he did that to me was right before he deployed with the military. I decided to not contact him and I starting taking night classes in Brazilian Portuguese. It was a wonderful way to keep my mind occupied so I would not be obsessing about my narc son's cruel behavior towards me. I loved my classes and continued taking the classes even after my narc son decided to come around again. However, I was busy with my full time job plus the classes and he did not like that at all!! He accused me of neglecting him due to my full time and my night classes!! Thank goodness I chose to ignore his ridiculous comments. I am so grateful to be healing for narcissistic abuse and i thank you again for all you do.

[@RelationshipRefuge]

Glad you're making progress, Healing Strong. And good on you for doing something for yourself :)

[@jwm4ever]

I've had to finally admit my adult daughter is a narc, just like her dad. She has been telling me for years she is more in sync, more in common with her dad, and me and my son are alike. But I always made every excuse I could for her nasty behavior, because she has an autoimmune disease since 16yr old, and then became pregnant at 18, and not married. I was extra caring for her because of all the added struggles and stress, I just wanted to help her at every chance. Her behavior became irrational after she moved out and she began to treat mne horrible. What I found out years later, was she and her dad began smoking pot together, and partying with his alcoholic friends. Her dad was supplying her with money. I was not only around to use for child care, but she didn't want a relationship with me, regardless of how much love or devotion I gave her. She could be very verbal abusive with her 2 children, which she was never verbally or physically abused by me is her father. Any attempts to reason with her to stop abusing her 2 children, now 8 & 10, would result in her hanging up the phone, or telling me to leave, and stopping contact. Now just 2 weeks ago, she abused my Grandchildren and my 10 yr old Grandsons friend witnessed some of it, saw hand prints and scratches on his neck, so he went to the school counsoler to report it. They interviews my Grandson, but didn't report it. My Grandchildren told me and my ex husband they were scared of her, and wanted us to talk to her to stop! Well, my ex husband narcissist told her of our planned meeting, and she went off! She told me we will never have a relationship because "Our Love Languages are different" and we don't "Vibe well". She has used my Grandchildren as pawns to hurt me, and it hurts them as well, being kept away from each other. They have no way to contact me without her knowing. I got my mentally abusive narc husband out of my life 10 yes ago, only to have him replaced with my daughters abuse, who I love with everything in me. I know its information on how to have no contact with a narc, but how do you disown your own baby girl, you love, unconventional? And then the added torment of knowing how mentally abused my Grandchildren are being treated. I'm at a complete loss at what to do!

[@jwm4ever]

*Unconditional*

[@angelanicholson951]

Healing Strong Well done! Keep healing. Grow stronger!

[@lindakayesalsberg8037]

Julie Trump LPPl

[@apgx6032]

Once you realise what you are actually married to it's important to set boundaries but be warned...... Hell has no fury like a narcissist denied!

[@sandraweinhardt9203]

A frustrated narcissist is like a very angry rattlesnake. People must be aware of the hell that a frustrated narcissist will try to put you through. I think people need at least one strong friend (or professional psychologist) to build you back up when you break contact. I wish I had known......

[@lesliebean4594]

APG X lol no truer words spoken !

[@alwayzblessed25]

Mine took everything from me and made my children and I homeless. He blamed me for every malicious thing he did to me

[@wanderingfree149]

They cannot stand to be ignored and insignificant.

[@se4109]

Silent treatment... Brutally effective. 😕

[@lizryan6289]

Suzanne Dixon Yes and no contact is best for me, the victim. At times I am lonely, but I am better off. I concentrate on making myself whole again.

[@torystrending7285]

Liz Ryan I will go no contact with my abusive parents once I move out of the house. Therefore, giving me the the time that I need to heal.

[@m.f.richardson1602]

Liz Ryan no contact works very well for me. I made the BIG mistake of reconnecting after 17 years. I still did not know what was going on. I always thought it was ME. At 62 I started my journey. Doing so much Better now and on my 5th year of no contact.

[@mbborylo599]

S E both ways! Use it !!

[@pamelaborst6272]

Couldn't be in contact enough with me ! All of a sudden only when he said so and I listened to him and didnt get mad or wonder why it was different all of a sudden he'd tell me I'm punished he wanted nothing to do with me for 2 weeks if I called him without his okay, omg I was so sad I really loved this guy and gave him my all! Thank you for your channel and letting me and others know the truth that we are not crazy! Omg thank you so much!!

[@sunbeam9222]

Once I was sure he was one. I vanished. He went ballistic. I'm a pretty open and upfront person, never shied away from explaining my point and give a peaceful goodbye and take care before. But this one was of another species. I made an exception. Reclaimed my power, sanity, self esteem, freedom and ciao ciao ciao.Bumped into him a year later. He was as charming as ever, and then just like that started screaming and blaming world's ill on me.. felt so lucky to never have to deal with that person ever again.Glad for the lesson tho. Boundaries boundaries boundaries. I think it taught me to love myself as I am, no conditions. If someone starts picking on my soft spots now I feel strong enough to laugh and walk in a dash.I never considered myself a victim. Took full responsibility for involving in this and I think it s important to assess that each plays their part. They can only take as much power as we give. I am talkin about adult relationship ofc not parent/ children etc.

[@KoloaKane]

Good for you Sunbeam. I've known lots of girls that have fallen for "the One" right off the bat. Of course the first thing they do is sleep with him and expect the dude to love her and want to get married. It's kind of disgusting because the girl usually already has a boyfriend (or husband) that really loves her but he just didn't measure up to the new guy. She ends up either getting dumped or used and cries poor me. She takes up with the old boyfriend or some new sympathetic sucker and the cycle starts all over again. Everybody wants to call the guy the girl dumps her boyfriend for a narcissist but I think most of the time it is just girls looking to "Move Up". I believe there'd be a whole lot less of these "narcissist" videos if girls acted the way you did.

[@ninak8506]

Yes I find everything said to be so true. It just makes me sad. The breaking away from the narc is so hard & scary. But it has been so rewarding. I'm happy, have found purpose, self worth and it's so much better.

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

I feel very lucky, Kim, to have come upon your awareness today. I have just stepped into a completely brand new place where I have let go of my narcissist (My Mom), as my mother. While she passed almost a year ago today I have declared her a person who played the role of a mother, but she was never my true mother. I no longer have to feel sorry for having had to have dumped her all alone because in reality she is no longer alive (physically, and now I am realizing emotionally), and hasn't been there for herself or me since the age of four. I realize, since to feel sorry for a narcissist is an oxymoron, the feeling sorry for someone has been me feeling sorry for myself which I no longer need. I hope this makes sense to people reading because it really is real for me. FREEDOM IS POSSIBLE form narcissist, and I am living proof!

[@tanyastevens9553]

Yes, this makes sense. I feel as if you feel, your mother is no longer a threat to your existence, a constant reminder of who you are, a battlefield in your head.

[@JN-kg7jx]

Thats the HARDEST one to break away from. Mother.

[@sandraweinhardt9203]

@@tanyastevens9553 It is helpful to know the narcissist is no longer on the planet with us. I hadn't thought of that. Remembering the misery isn't helpful; we should try to replace bad memories with happier thoughts. Imagine a red traffic light going on in our heads when we dwell on past unhappiness, and go to an imaginary playground in our minds!

[@sandraweinhardt9203]

@@JN-kg7jx AB-SO-LU-TIVELY!! They had a LOT of years to drill our "faults" into our impressional minds. And they had a lot of years to tell us how grateful we should be to have them to "correct" our attitude.

[@johnc321]

Thank you Kim for my awareness of Narcissists you have enlightened me further and the North Korean war tactics on American soldiers was an eye opener .I was unaware that these people existed, but there were evil souls in this world

[@karanfield4229]

Once I gave my narc a beautiful candlestick. Early days. I said I thought it was lovely even though it's not crystal. His reply?! " Yes, I noticed!! " said with a look of disgust. I could never ever react that way to being given a gift. I was so blown away by his reaction, I could't say a word, but I do see the light now. Lol. Many many similar stories followed.

[@karanfield4229]

Lol I'm being given the silent treatment as I write this. Now I'm not so bothered by it. Lol

[@gerger5670]

Be strong!

[@melissahanna6456]

Karan Field me too, I’ve been married for 21 years and last five years he’s decided to not come home whenever I’ve confronted him or he has to use drugs have affairs he’s been gone now for four months. Didn’t come home one night and he won’t answer any of my calls texts. Part of me is bothered then I know I just have to file for divorce

[@robinjohnson8149]

I've been ghosted for over a month now. It's making going no contact really easy for me. Thank you Lord.

[@daniellehall9679]

I work for a large retailer. The management there never tells you that you are doing a good job. Instead, they often confront you and accuse you of not giving 110% effort. The harder you work, the harder they expect you to work. I found out a customer had written the CEO of the company a letter of appreciation for my work. Management had withheld this information--they don't want me to know I'm doing a good job. it's corporate narcissim at it's vicious worst.

[@karagraham9764]

Danielle Hall It’s very tough bc you have to work with your balance and if that suddenly isn’t enough, you work harder but only 2-3 months. More then that then they are exploitative

[@lesliebean4594]

Walmart I'm guessing? I worked for them. They'd tell you you did a good job, and give you a coke. Sometimes a 25 cent raise. But, there is darkness and deception within that company. All they truly care about is their bottom line.

[@joanbaczek2575]

how come my narc would constantly tell me "nothing i do is good enough for you." "you have no idea how lonely i am." "all i have is you to talk too and now i don't even have that." when he would kick me out of my bedroom and lock im self in for some unknown infraction and i would get pissed off and yell his only answer was " you don't see how hurt i was that i would lock my self in a room"

[@mukttamahajan524]

joan baczek my husband behaved same way

[@lzlz21213]

joan baczek oh god, run.

[@oneprettycookie7446]

Going through that now.

[@SyMoane75]

He did that because he knew you'd feel sorry for him. That's what mine did. It's very effective.

[@stephena1196]

@@SyMoane75 Yes, a plea for sympathy was the favourite ploy of one I knew when he felt he'd "overplayed his hand".

[@lynda90909]

years before i left my ex i stopped cooking cleaning and would refuse to even make him a coffee

[@lutaushia1]

Lydia Morai giiirrrlllll 👌

[@lovelight2919]

The best! Only do that when your married

[@connymathews9389]

Lydia Morai at his place I would cook for us because my daughter and I wanted to eat but for the rest I would fill in crosswords and watch television 😂🤣

[@trishg151]

I don't know if you would have been able go get away with that if he was a real Narc

[@primsandwhims7533]

@@trishg151 yes you would. As long as they have a free home and don't have to pay rent. Some squatter narcs don't care

[@chrispapa2782]

Anything is better after you leave the narcicist ! Hahahah after I did I flourished and became rich. I still suffer from the wounds But I am a lot better and I would never have him back. Not in a million years. I feel sorry for his next naive victim ! But ! Some of us have to learn.

[@madinventor1323]

Thank you for this. I worked for this man for 15 years, and had no idea that his bullying was premeditated. I though I was just too slow for his needs. No one else ever had this complaint with me. I have physical pain when I think about doing my work now, and rage attacks.

[@EverydayBadHairDay]

I wish I had discovered this channel sooner. Thank you so much for your amazing video, I haven't felt this validated, this supported, in a long time. It's as if each video is helping me solve the puzzle. Thank you x

[@Christhegogetta]

This is amazing information. This is helping me on my journey to a healthier life and better relationships. Thank you Kim!

[@MegaFiona9]

I left the narc 4 years ago (I moved out of state) but in my infinite wisdom. I contacted him in 2016 and visited him a few times. He hadn't changed but I still continued texting him and talking to him. I stopped all contact about 2 months ago. He texted me that I had mail and did I still have my PO box. I didn't respond but I blocked him. Somehow he got through the block and called me. I changed my phone number 2 weeks ago. I asked my sister to contact him and have the mail sent to her. He was upset and said he was going to throw my mail away. I don't care and I no longer feel any love for him at all. Thank you for your videos. They keep me strong.😀

[@gustavomendez3816]

I want to say how grateful i feel that you started saving my life today. I have been destroying my health and life for 2 years after my Ex departed from our "relationship". There is not one minute in my days of life i don't think of this cancerous person. I can never figure out how the other men she has temporary been with after me (which are quit a few) don't go thru what i still do after she leaves them and says that it just didnt work out. I am always in mental pain over the hyper thoughts i go everyday about this woman. I want to scream but all i get from people is to man up,what is wrong with you? Right now other then being focused on my finals, i am watching videos looking to hear advice from the horses mouth of how to overcome this mental problem that should be categorized as a disease. It has helped a lot though,but i know i am still not healed. I could go on for long paragraph of all i have put myself thru over the past 4 years. This is a serious mental syndrome that today i found that in my own details there are others as well experiencing it. Thank you for your great help and care for people that are going thru this mind exhausting problem.

[@FEARLESS-nb3hh]

WOW! I am healing through this as well. I guess I have clarity and see all the signs I missed. Don't love him just mad at myself because I allowed it. Just think of they already took enough from you already don't give them more. Trust me I have learned so much through these videos, I was looking for answers and found them. Unless you knew about people like this you wouldn't have a clue. They are really evil and good actors, manipulators and liars. You have a good heart...Love yourself more:)

[@stefjeangodfrey6057]

Gustavo Mendez ... There is absolutely nothing wrong with you my dear!! There are many of us suffering and still stuck in this state of misery. Your an empathic soul "blessing" still trying to make sense. The cognitive dissonance the crazy making brings. Allow some gentleness and take the time to learn, situate,re order your reality after this traumatic experienc. Your never going to be the same as you hopefully allow yourself to be spiritually weaken and start to be comfortable with the way you realize and trust that our world is just not as it seems. Your one of the great ones, hold comfort in this, you WIN IN THE END, Peaceful ETERNITY. THESE TRUSPASER WILL NEVER GIND PEACE, forever in HELL IS THEIR EXISTENCE. YOU'LL GET THERE MY FRIEND, love yourself!! HUGS😘

[@nryane]

High levels of all the positive traits! YES! Chosen for them! (Then devalued for them.) Silent treatment became golden! I eventually loved it! Even better, I've left the relationship and am almost fully No Contact - some financial payments still require "low" email contact with minimal word exchange. One more payment coming and it's a "done deal"!

[@RelationshipRefuge]

Woo Hoo! Congratulations!

[@judithaddison169]

Nettonya Ryane

[@sagrammyfour]

Nettonya Ryane: I love how you said "Silent treatment became golden!" It's true. After you get over a bit of initial anxiety over the silent treatment, it's like a little mini vacation.

[@JN-kg7jx]

Celebrate "you."

[@JesusLebtUndRettet]

:D @@sagrammyfour

[@geminitheenchantress8193]

If someone never takes blame for anything....., and takes pleasure in the pain of other's, stay far away.

[@teresacampbell570]

I am so thankful for this Channel I wasted four years of my life with the narcissist and till I finally felt as if I was about to lose my mind and knew I had to let go thank you for sharing this info with me and I plan to keep watching and keep learning

[@ladybird8375]

I believe there is a spectrum with this disorder. I think this narcissistic behaviour relates more to a malignant evil narcissist.

[@erinvaughn3739]

This explains why I have given up on everything !😩

[@lorettanericcio-bohlman567]

Not yourself I hope

[@lesliebean4594]

I know this feeling too. Two years later, I hope you've found peace and fulfillment.

[@Pilgrim06]

Very very wise; I discovered this talk after I walked away from a narcissist...how lucky I was! Thank you for sharing this knowledge, best wishes to you.

[@fav5677]

silent treatment works the other way round too.....give silent treatment to narcissist....he will show all his trics nd cards.....nd you never react....u win!

[@Ioana-un7ue]

Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️ After 10 years of being with my extremely narcissistic husband , I have finally managed to break free and to recognize all abuse tools you acknowledged ,

[@Divinescalling888]

When they sense you are Happy,you are in trouble.

[@jamiebalut-metzger1542]

the 15 narcs disliked the video

[@amyp2063]

thewhiz1 That's because we figured out what evil bastards they are.

[@BrownSugar-hk2zs]

Jamie Lynn Balut-Metzger lol so true

[@lucygoose6237]

Or perhaps their codependent partners who are still living in either denial or ignorance

[@thislife5326]

Two hundred and tweenty five of the fckers to date june 2019.A plague of them.😐😆

[@genesismccray5458]

Right

[@musiclover0334]

I'm so thankful for the women whose been through this who are willing to do these videos. I read where it's better to seek help from someone whose actually been through this even over a psychologist who hasn't. I feel so much better knowing who I'm "talking" to truly gets it. So many in my life hasn't & it has made me feel victimized over & over again as I'm constantly told to "just get over it" when it's nothing like a normal relationship. I can & have gotten over normal breakups, this is way different.

[@awakensoul82]

hippiechic I completely understand you. I am in the fight of my life. I feel so alone and hopeless. I just want to feel good again.

[@garyr1934]

Thanks to the 3 of you for making this public Thank you Richard for your superb sense of humor

[@MHLivestreams]

I would like to comment that 'relationships' are not necessary, and by validating oneself, inner peace is possible. Why bother dealing with other people's problems? Why run the risk of inviting it into your lives?

[@romanarefos9317]

AGREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@flamingsword777]

Totally wish id had this mindset 30 years ago....

[@mightyeggo1379]

These videos are beautiful! your voice is calming, real,- sincere, this is helping me a bunch, i had no idea i was even around narcs, starting to seem a lot more VISIBLE. Thank you thank you! for these videos! and everyone out there stay STRONG. Because you are! they just try make us think we're not, YOU ARE LOVED, LOVE YALL

[@1RevMatt]

yes, I am totally isolated, trapped, and spiritually dying!

[@CTKGr]

RevCrossbones Don't die. Don't give up! God's grave is sufficient! Keep praying and let God do HIS work.

[@mparkes1290]

RevCrossbones:Be strong leave immediately. Have no contact. Phone the police lf in danger.

[@sandyg1039]

Yep, I know I'm all the way in Hawaii and leaving in 3 days!!! I feel the same way! He wouldn't change, so I'm making changes! It's like a spell has been lifted from me! Keep praying Yahuah will help you !

[@theresadurso1113]

Its a horrible feeling. 7 years a hell. Get out. Trust me u won't believe how much life has to offer. Please get away as fast as u can

[@WOLFanddBEAR]

How are you now? Im currently in this situation.

[@catherinerhea6336]

I have been researching narcs for 5 yrs now, perplexed that one actually decided to target me in a deviant, extremely covert manner... As an INTJ, I HAD to figure out how & why... INTJs are introverted masterminds; we SOLVE situations BEFORE they become problems. We are methodical creatures of habit, overall withdrawn from social pinning (I actively avoid them.), and could care even less what others think... I live in my head, always analyzing at least 3 different topics at any given time, far removed from the illogical underpinnings that drive the "outside" world. That said, it was my introverted desire to be included, that the narc weaponized against me, cleverly manipulating that weakness into the "circus of illogical convolutions" that became their smear campaign, exploding it into full-on gaslighting when their "circus" failed to garner results. Their chimp Brigades guzzled the kool-aide like crack addicts, all lined up with their popcorn, drooling at the prospect of the "nuclear take-down" show the narc had sold them on... Lawyers shielded me while I struggled to recover from the depth of shock I found myself drowning in, directly following the narc's series of "cluster-bomb explosions".... How did this happen??? ...the answer was money- that was the narc's target from the onset. Every time they attempted a "heist," I completely shut them down. During those years, I dealt with their tantrums & demands like a parent constrains a temperamental child, ignoring their sullen sarcasm, & creating a "legal shell game" with my assets, effectively securing them far out of reach. In turn, they resorted to criminal means to thwart my lawyers, a pathetic miscalculation that resulted in severe series of "narcissistic injuries" to them, & I couldn't actually nail them legally for the attempts as they NEVER accomplished their thefts. Years of this back & forth became the fuse they finally detonated... Each failure drove them further into the criminal mindset. Once I became aware of what had been going on behind my back, while I was running my business & developing my 501c3 Wildlife Hospital, my first move became watching them; up to that point, all their attempts had failed... They had become explosive, violent, accusatory, radical.... That translated in my mind to "big mistakes coming" & I positioned myself to exploit every one of them. I became stealth, moving in silence, moving assets, deleting access to anything, filing legal paperwork, changing accounts, passwords, moving accounts out of state to other legal managers. I used my extensive knowledge of how the legal & court systems actually operate to completely derail the narc... *It pays to be a law-abiding, straight-forward, "walking in a Good Way" citizen when you find yourself confronted with a mess like I slammed headlong into...* that helped turn the tables on the narc in severely damaging ways; there was zero evidence to validate any of their screaming or charges- the courts threw it all out. I won every battle & the war... So... PAY ATTENTION to what the narc says & does...because ALL OF IT leads to their secret agenda, their hidden targets, their driving force. Realize that they are predators with zero respect for anything, including themselves, and everything becomes the "lying carpet" they intend to run you over with.... NOTHING is off limits if they decide you owe them. Their jealousy of everything you are becomes the fuel they use to justify every lie, projection, theft, devalue, public shaming, accusation, and discard. I always paid attention to the big picture, swatting down their garbage like an annoying mosquito, & never saw their mosquito swarm till it surrounded me. I understand fully, now, how the narc weasled their way into my life, what they saw as a weakness to exploit, and how to now seal that avenue off. I have withdrawn even further from social interaction... My interactions now are solely focused on business activities... Done with anything else... Safety & my sanity are more important than acceptance.💜

[@MA-yv8dw]

Narcissist are "evil and toxic in ALL WAYS" they have been neglected, mistreated, violated in "all ways". Just stay away from them... yes, I get some are married but if you dont get out now you'll regret it later. I know and seen the outcome😢

[@frankierose356]

Yes thank you thank you thank you. I'm healing so nicely thanks to you and your videos 😎💖🙏🏽👏🏽

[@RelationshipRefuge]

Yay! So happy to know that, Frankie Rose! :)

[@eclecticcaduceator]

so glad to kno im not crazy, ty, i survived 5 years of narc abuse, rebuilding my life now, everything was destroyed, thankful to be free, ty

[@Tsunshinegal]

Court you ( honeymoon period) Detach you ( using silent treatment & other verbal abuses ) Discard you ( total isolation) Best remedy : no contact. Love Yourself. Connect with your friends & family. Find spiritual comfort in the Lord Jesus Pray and cut off every cores of ungodly emotional & soul ties btw you & the narcissist - in the name of Jesus ! Esp cut off Every jezebelic spirits of control / manipulation / seduction. You are unique & a survivor ! Blessings 🌿🌹

[@awakensoul82]

Tsunshine gal Thank you

[@sueb3289]

My narcissistic ex did make me feel like I was running around trying to please him. I felt he was judging me against other women. He often said I was pretty but a female friend oozes sex appeal, I was prettier but she had a good body. He had many female friends and exs around. He 'helped' them out when they needed him and he thought nothing of visiting them in their own homes. He didn't understand why I didn't like it and when I cried about his behaviour (especially when he compared me to other women) he said he thinks i have BPD! I often said I didn't feel anymore special than the others and he said I was but I felt no emotional support. He did once say he can't stop being friends with one ex because she looks after his dog when he goes on holiday. One female friend let him live with her for a year when he had nowhere to go. He uses people but he does do a lot back i must admit. He never hit me or shouted but I could tell he got really frustrated when I ended our relationship and 10 months on still contacts me a lot. He's stalked other exs, he's cheated on them many times, he lies and I know he is very sexually orientated. Can you tell me what type he sounds like. His Mum was extremely narcissistic and I wonder if it can be genetic or just learned behaviour? I feel sad as I think if she was a good mum he wouldn't be like it. He does seem proud though that many women have tried to change him but failed. He'd often say I was the one to change him. He was good to me but had a bad side to unfortunately. One weird thing that stood out was on the first date he said I was a difficult one to read and said he noticed me looking at another man in the bar (which I didn't ) should have run there and then! I would appreciate any helpful comments :) x

[@RelationshipRefuge]

Hi Sue, thank you for visiting my channel. To answer your question, he sounds somewhat somatic, but I generally don't get caught up in labels. I can say for certain that he has many of the red flags of being narcissistic and emotionally unavailable. Based on what you've shared here, nothing good can come from staying in a relationship with him...for you or anyone else. Narcissism can be genetic, but it's mostly learned behavior that forms in early childhood. I can relate to your feeling sorry for him, but your sympathy and compassion is literally lost on him. He will only use your sympathy to his advantage. Hope that helps clear some things up for you. Kim

[@mifnp8887]

I just found out my mother is a North Korean prison guard. Ten years of very, very, very low contact and I still am pouring healing balm on all my heart wounds.

[@arturodiaz1063]

Narcissists know very well a following detail. Suppose their victim is a highly evolved and intelligent imdividual. And yet that bright individual believed in love and fell for a snake in the grass. In the devaluation stage the narc will say to his victim something as follows, "You know why are you reacting this way? I'm sorry if I can't intellectualize it!" They have placed you on their level (which is zero) and are now in the position to knock you down for it. Once they have made such a statement just exit from such a loser.

[@MonirKhan-vt3ru]

bless you Kim for all the good work. wish I knew these decades earlier

[@paulbarrett635]

This video is so accurate and so important to watch and take it all in. It's a very true summary of narcissism. The information and advice is of the most useful kind ! Thank you It is all accurate, and section three really resonates with me at the moment. The tactic of withdrawing all emotional support and critism is exactly what is happening. Yet the narcissist is still expecting more support! If it wasn't for information like you are providing Kim Saeed, then I might just think that I am going crazy and give up. Then give in to this madness. Thank you. There is hope ! 😀

[@petrinap6005]

Thank you for all your supportive videos HUGS!!! :)

[@RelationshipRefuge]

Hugs back :)

[@uttum87]

This described many behaviours my mother had towards me. Thanks for explaining them and therefore bringing some release from them.

[@jgc7952]

Just left my perfect narcissist woman. The days already. Any support is really welcome. Info about forums, internet workshops, .... I'm 55 and crying is my only weapon till now. Thank you for your videos, they release pressure

[@jb8405]

You will recover, it's about you now, the narc does not care they want to know they hurt you, but you need to realize you are the one with the power, my narc admitted he hated I looked him in the eyes because I saw threw him, my narc didn't have to do all that to keep me, it was no need, I know his secrets, why would I ever want to talk to someone who just used me because they could not be honest with themselves, they need you, they are obsessed with you, mine told me I was miserable after I got off 3 times the night before, ahhhh you will wake up and when you do, you will just loose respect, see them for who they are, wish them well, never let them infiltrate you and have you hate them, they want you to hate them just so you are thinking about them, mine messed up when he tried to make me think I was a victim, no better men than him tried to kill me and I'm still here, you will wake up one day and you just won't care, poof, trust me

[@kellyj.mistretta2717]

Wow. Thank you so much for clarifying this further. If I could take the many lessons of things I have learned back, and rewind the last 2 years! I can only imagine. But move foward at a high speed, and never look back.. Keep Toxic people away!!!

[@justynadominiak7631]

This is so TRUE...They are TOXIC and...👹😱 They are EMPTY AND WEAK 😈👿WE have to cut them off 💪💪💪...Thank you so much for your help &support and good advice😇...GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY 🕊❤👼🙇

[@stclairkaleb]

I really needed to hear this kim and thank you for all the positive encouragement- I love the narrators voice its so soothing and comforting ...

[@RelationshipRefuge]

Thank you, Kaleb! I'm glad to know our videos are helping you. Yes, Eva has a lovely voice...and we are going to start doing guided meditations in the near future :)

[@aaliyahp3885]

Fantastic video Thanks explains so much and answers most of my confusion

[@christobolweil8250]

I love that title!! you guys are great thank you from the deep reaches of my heart

[@steveblackbird]

Thank You...... from the deepest depths of my broken, alcoholic destroyed heart... one thing... I gave up smoking cigarettes...5 months now.... HATE being an empath... Tough existence...

[@kerirhinehart6346]

lots of ah-ha moments... thank you so very much!!!!

[@StarfieldRailway]

This is excellent. The person who made this video really understands what goes on. Everything said in the video is true.

[@kelliewiese5911]

Thank u Kim I have been dealing with one four 7 years and he destroyed my life. I fear going out as I never gave him a chance to respond in anyway. no contact at all but he uses my friends my dog to try and I still won't have any contact he was told by a girlfriend of mine I wanted no contact and I would call the police. I never really knew what I was dealing with now I do. Thank u. I make sure I'm not alone when I go out. He has people watching me. What a jurk. Now I'm just pissed but still no contact. No contact is great but now he's best buddies with my brother and has seemed to buy his friendship. So sad. So thank u for letting me know what I'm in for and how to handle it.

[@basbizar2889]

Jesus sets you free and knows how to confronts a narcissist/Jezebel spirit.

[@jotiqueharlee194]

Yes He does because He had helped me catch my husband in a lie

[@bibliophile6068]

Please pray for me.I am the only believer in my family.Both my parents,my brother and my ex husband are narcissists.My life has been completely ruined.My bank account is empty helping them as I had never realized that they have narcissistic symptoms.But Jesus opened my eyes recently.Please pray that Jesus blesses me with a good,God fearing life partner and may Jesus teach me how to deal with my narcissistic parents and my brother when they phone me or come to stay with me and torture me.They have tarnished my image at church and have isolated me to break me emotionally,my friends at church have believed all the lies spoken against me by my own family members and these friends blame me falsely that I am torturing my parents,not knowing that actually my own parents and my brother are the victimizers and I am the victim of narcissistic abuse since my childhood.I have stopped going to church for three years.I have fallen very sick,am jobless for three years,am sad,helpless,feel weak,my mother and brother keep hoovering,trying to contact me on phone and misbehave with me,I want to go 'No contact' with my family members but I do not know how to do it.My story is like that of Joseph's story and Job's story in the Bible.May Jesus strengthen me and restore all my losses as I have been deceived by the demonic spirits working against me through my parents and my brother,they have taken undue advantage of my compassion and humbleness.Please pray for my healing,financial breakthrough and deliverance.May Jesus send a Godly man as my life partner into my life to take care of me and help me in working for God's Kingdom.Jesus knows my pain,may He turn my mourning into joy so that I can testify.I wonder if Narcissists can ever repent and accept Jesus as their Saviour and be saved! May Jesus bless my narcissistic parents and my brother with His Salvation,I completely surrender before the Throne of Jesus.Please pray for me.Thanks,God bless you.Meeta from India.Please do pray for my financial miracle,I am really helpless without any support from anywhere! May Jesus reveal His plans for me and help me to hear His voice and to obey Him.Thankyou Jesus!Your loving sister in Christ,Meeta Mukerjee,from India

[@joeldwest]

Feck off with the religious pablum

[@joeldwest]

Meeta Mukerjee Never give a man money. They are already spoiled and overprivileged.

[@siboyproductions1820]

Amen

[@jrindiana2443]

The one I married would disappear for weeks at a time. I would plead for him not to trying to convey the serious anxiety it caused. Now I realize it was all about. Thank you for this information.

[@im1who84u]

I wish I could check the like button more than once.

[@tigertrophy1805]

It can be easy to enable the narcissist. Labeling the character trait and listening to this outlandish truth is helpful

[@ysabellabrave]

Thank you so much for this! Really helpful and informative, beautiful voice as well, cheers!

[@angelafalsetta4309]

KIM!!! This hit home and if I can stay on track with t while in the presence of my multiple narcs.....Yes, my mother incorporated surrogates.....And remember how to turn it around....I will survive!! TY!!!

[@bodge6886]

I was married to one for 16 years and she appreciated nothing but would take everything anyway. She slowly got worse until she was almost certainly BPD . It took a couple of years of self healing and hard work to put my head in a better place, I have not remarried and likely never will again.

[@conwaycat5112]

This explains it all perfectly. No need to watch any other videos but this one.

[@ndumi-light]

QUESTION: Why do people stay /remain in these disfunctional relationships with narcissistics? the best thing is to walk away and end the relationship altogether, don't you think?

[@lacrossslounge5403]

Ndumi Hadebe yes forever

[@FEARLESS-nb3hh]

I can only speak for myself, I thought it was love and never thought the person I spent over 20 years would be this person. I didn't have a clue people like this existed...naive. They are excellent actors. Now since I know and my mind is clears I see all the signs I missed.

[@gryl.4030]

Ndumi Hadebe: It csn be very difficult when there's children involved.

[@OfftoShambala]

Ndumi Hadebe this question is valid if u don't have children with them... the children become pawns and decades of sickness occurs, even if the relationship ends ... u literally cannot go no contact

[@starmoon1590]

Ndumi Hadebe - because at first they are charming and supportive...then slowly the insults begin...and if you defend yourself in any way...they attack... naturally we feel wrong.. because we feel the sweetness went away because we are flawed

[@jenbooth75]

This type is a pattern for me. My step-mom, my ex-husband of 10 years and now my current partner. They can see empathic people coming from a mile away!

[@alanasims2981]

I do have a personality trait where i believe i can be a narcissist because i dont like competing for other peoples attention in front of a crowd. Like, ive done it and been successful at it. But its so draining and usually when a whole table of people are talking, or im in group counseling, i sit uncomfortably silent and unhappy that im not getting pulled into the convo, most the time. Or if theres a question being asked in group, i wait until i’m called on to give my answer because i do feel like if i volunteer my opinion first, its just not impactful and i also feel like i’m trying to seek out attention in that way too. I feel damned if i do, and damned if i dont. Unfortunately, the looks on my face and body language give away all my feelings and i just cant hide or fake my emotions

[@George121able]

My ex partner put me thru this for more than 2 years. He also used violence to which, he is face trial on 3rd Jan 2019. He walked out leaving a trail of debt, emotional damage and left Scotland to go live in Benidorm in Spain with a partner that he already had on the back burner whilst living with me. I'm currently in counselling and have been for coming up a year now. He is currently on a cruise with his current partner with not a care in the world. With the aid of councillor help and you tube video I'm now not a victim but a survivor.

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

ps i like this narrator voice, i find it soothing.

[@ev5341]

this tactic does not work for me....ive become emotionally detached from my narcissistic partner and yet he still wants us to work things out ....ive tried everything and he still doesn't leave me and my kids alone. I feel like he needs the sense of approval of some kind. Idk im just frustrated with the situation

[@FEARLESS-nb3hh]

Break away fast...they don't care.

[@JN-kg7jx]

Replace him, then he'll leave.

[@NightFireXD]

Okay...all of this explains why i found myself alone without support. Thank you for this upload. Trying to learn all i can. Namaste.

[@terriergal]

Regarding 'isolation from family, friends, etc' I have seen families of narcissists who actually do gang up on spouses of the children and harangue them to death for every misstep, (and often they were valid criticisms) and so basically the spouses are arguing not just with their spouse but all the siblings and the spouse's parents too and having everything twisted against them. But if the beleaguered spouse suggests they move away to get away from this dysfunction and control freakiness, then they become the problem and the dysfunctional family accuses him/her of trying to 'isolate' them. I watched a pastor and wife do this to their son and now he's doing it to his daughter. 2 of 2 children's marriages destroyed so far.

[@Ambrosha385]

As soon as I read about gaslighting, I knew that had happened to me and everything made sense

[@SuperBlakes2]

That was awesome. Thank you. I think it is the most concise, clear, powerful and yet hopeful video I have seen on this subject. Thank you.

[@bibliophile6068]

Dear Sister Kim Saeed,my prayers are with you.Your videos are indeed very nice! God is using your life beautifully to guide and restore lives of millions of narcissistic abuse survivors all throughout the world.Dear Sister Kim,you are God's special child,His chosen one, to be a light to the people living in darkness,in pain and distress due to narcissistic abuse.Keep it up! With love and prayers,your loving sister Meeta, from India.Please pray for my healing,financial breakthrough, deliverance and for God to bless me with a new life.I do not know in which direction to move after years of narcissistic abuse since my childhood,I have no idea how to start my life again from zero level,especially when I have no source of income,I am jobless for three years,the job market is very poor here,my talents are going waste,I have fallen very sick due to mental stress,fatigue,as my soul has been crushed completely due to narcissistic abuse,I am trying to search for a positive environment but am not able to find one,feel imprisoned at home,need prayers for my deliverance from satanic bondage not allowing me to progress in life.I need divine intervention! Thanks dear Sister Kim.God bless you abundantly! ☺️

[@idraculaa]

Some narcs wear a much kinder / more loving mask. I find them to be the most insidious ones because their love and kindness in itself is a form of gaslighting when you know it’s not the real them. My ex was one and used to cheat on me regularly, but would deny it vehemently. I ended up half mad by the end of the relationship because I felt like I didn’t know what was real anymore. How could anybody be so ‘sweet as pie’ to me but then pathologically cheating / lying / denying it all. Narcissists are human by biology alone. Their nature / psychology is not that of a human being but rather a force of pure destruction.