3 Sure Fire Ways to Never be Manipulated Again. (3 Biblical Tips!) + LIVE Q&A

[@jeffschultz732]

I am almost 60 years old. I have always been a people pleaser and always seem to be a magnet for manipulators, narcissists, and toxic people. Obviously, it is long overdue for me to set boundaries, guard my heart, and realize that it is ok to say, "no"!

[@bonnieblue7118]

I just turned 75 and recognized three toxic relationships in my life and ended two of them and just told a younger sister that I'm taking "time out" and will pray for her. She completely drains me with her drama and poor me attitude and since this has been going on for decades and I've done a LOT of healing in the past 2 years and have gotten discernment by God's grace but was at a loss of how to handle the situation I'm the oldest of 4 & was "the little mother" since age of 5...completely codependent in every way. You have helped me so much Kris!!!! I just want to say to the commenter, SIXTY IS A GREAT PLACE TO BE!!! That's when my journey of healing and learning my part and what to do differently next time. This was a fantastic video because I saw what I do and feel to attract these types of people. Now that I know I can pray with God's help not to have that vulnerability. More healing...

[@ArleneBrant]

Same with me.I stopped caring ,and spend more time on my own with God Galatians 1:10.helped me I am going to post it all over the house...Good love to dear friend.

[@charlestew8792]

Jeff, I’m 66 and was a single Dad. Son’s mother ran off 25 years ago and really warped my prodigal son’s mind to the point that he married a girl just like dear old mom. Had to cut him off and they retaliated by not allowing me to even see a picture of my grandson for over 2 years now. Set your boundaries and follow God. It’s better that they go to Hell without you. Put God first and let God deal with the manipulation and you move on to serve and glorify God. Listen to the doc

[@jeffschultz732]

@charlestew8792 I have 2 kids in my life. Not by blood, but by divine appointment and providence. I love them as my own, with my whole heart. They unfortunately are currently part of the problem. Letting them go and my taking a smaller footprint in their lives is a must at this time. Thank you for responding and sharing your story. I included you in my morning prayers this morning. God bless you, brother!

[@jeffschultz732]

@@ArleneBrant I have really enjoyed my morning time alone with God each morning. I wake up around 1:30-2:00 am and spend time in the word and a lot of time in prayer. It has been liberating these past 9 months. God bless you!!

[@ultratrish]

When you tell a narcissist how you ‘feel’ they just gaslight you that you’re ridiculous.

[@Flo07109]

Yes yes yes!!!! 😢

[@sephorapierre-louis8533]

Exact. My NPD EHusband told me one day, you have been very happy lately, I said yes.. He responded.. really.. ok.. but in a way as I am going to deal with that happiness to make it go away, don't worry! Terrible.

[@revddtunivesralbroadcaststash]

so true

[@cindythomason7218]

3 siblings won’t help take care of our mother... who has dementia…in fact I am married and raising a granddaughter since she was a baby. 14 now..I’ve moved in with my mom years now had to leave my home can only go home about 8 or less hours a month. Can’t see my grown children or my 5 grandchildren and have missed out on all kinds of things. It’s unreal what my siblings use for excuses. Live in the same town! My dad died in 2015 and I worked full time and raising my granddaughter. Retired a little earlier. You know what they said, well mom helped you! Like she didn’t help them. They just say sorry! I have so much resentment. I love and care about their lives I want the best of happiness for them but I am really looking forward to boundaries and I want to walk away really. It really messes me up. I am a Christian. I sure am struggling emotionally and physically and my husband and I take care of my mom financially. Help me?

[@cindythomason7218]

3 siblings won’t help take care of our mother... who has dementia…in fact I am married and raising a granddaughter since she was a baby. 14 now..I’ve moved in with my mom years now had to leave my home can only go home about 8 or less hours a month. Can’t see my grown children or my 5 grandchildren and have missed out on all kinds of things. It’s unreal what my siblings use for excuses. Live in the same town! My dad died in 2015 and I worked full time and raising my granddaughter. Retired a little earlier. You know what they said, well mom helped you! Like she didn’t help them. They just say sorry! I have so much resentment. I love and care about their lives I want the best of happiness for them but I am really looking forward to boundaries and I want to walk away really. It really messes me up. I am a Christian. I sure am struggling emotionally and physically and my husband and I take care of my mom financially. ?Help me???

[@sheiladay-od2me]

Dear father, thank you for leading me to this woman this morning. I asked you a few minutes ago to help me with this situation and here I am! You never fail me.

[@BL-no7jp]

Ditto!

[@ferrero_rocher_]

Gus bless you and give you wisdom

[@clarityofyah]

Amen same here glory to God

[@eunicemwanza2200]

Thanks again for the wisdom

[@marilynmurray1712]

My pray to 🙏 it’s hard but just have to trust God at his word 🙏

[@anschendup]

Live-in children also manipulate. What shocked me is the truth of "they think all that you have is also theirs"

[@Nelikaful]

Well, for chidren that's a phase, growing up. They need you to be "the bigger person", literally. They need strong grown-ups to overcome the narc-phase and develop empathy. That's called parenting. Knowing that not many people "parent" anymore. 😊

[@sherrigrey8131]

Ill never forget when a family member asked me to baby sit during my cancer, I said one word "No!" They looked at me with shock, for the first time I put "me first." I gave no explanition! Never did that person take me for granted again! Bible was right! Let your Yes mean Yes & your No mean No! 😊

[@sephorapierre-louis8533]

Amen.

[@e.1766]

I'm really glad NO worked! Sometimes saying No, or asking for help may get you hit or verbally berrated. For Some, our NO is NO contact❤️👍🏼

[@hollyl4425]

By your stripes Lord Jesus, heal my co-dependency. Help me to not be dependent on the feelings and reactions of others. I do not need to please people, but only you Lord.

[@cathykardara-jl9jj]

Thank you. Love these words.

[@ohbee159]

❤🙏❤️

[@1948rambo]

TRUTH!!!! 💪💪💪

[@jamimccormack9220]

Yes… me too, Lord!

[@susanmanby8055]

Amen

[@fridanjiru]

With toxic people whom you can't get away from,my first assignment is to identify them, minimize interactions, don't expect healthy conversation with them, pray for protection from God upon yourself and pray for Gods intervention upon them.

[@charvankerck9617]

thank you

[@valeriesmith9031]

Amen

[@faithfulservant592]

Thank you. Bless you. 36 years with a childish ..selfish person whom I am not afraid of anymore after the shock factor of his behavior.. For the first 30 yrs. I get it. Praying constantly. 🙏

[@LoAnnCook]

"Don't expect a healthy conversation" that's profound...

[@Allison_Antonia]

Thank you!

[@MountainwithaView]

I'm 57 ... 2 daughters (33 & 28).... they're both manipulative & I didn’t realize this until recently.... they both constantly mock my beliefs... herbal remedies, my learning to become an herbalist, my being a school bus driver 35 plus years, my beliefs in Christ.... thank you, I will concentrate on my walk with Christ & pray for my daughters 🙏

[@MountainwithaView]

​@MsShawnDriver-ml7uw thank you 🙏

[@dorisowusu-dq1cm]

Amen

[@dorisowusu-dq1cm]

Amen

[@annettegriffin3947]

That's Hard

[@annettegriffin3947]

Don't feel obligated to give from You're heart yes especially when God puts it in you're heart

[@tirsamazariegos4867]

Sinners change when sinning hurts. When hurting others, hurts. When they feel the kind of shame that leads them to genuine repentance.

[@DeeBullock1836]

Yeah well that wasn’t my mother, or brother, or ex-husband, who all turned my kids and their families against me…..they have no remorse, or feelings whatsoever….they look at me with evil delight every time they see me like they’re so proud of themselves for hurting me….even at my mothers funeral two weeks ago…and she even badmouthed me in a letter written to be read at her graveside in front of everyone…she literally badmouthed me to her graveside…..there no remorse in these people….. I’m happy to be by myself, I worship God and God alone, and very very selective of who I let close to me….i stand my ground more than ever….I’m worth more to God than any person on earth and I only want His Love and approval🙏🏻✝️❤️

[@MQCKBA]

"Their's is their's and yours is theirs too" that is exactly how narcs perceive life. Well said! That is how they disrespect your boundaries.

[@lololollaughatlife1431]

They’ll never be ready to discuss anything rationally and respectfully. Truth.

[@lorenaperrodin8210]

Wow, I needed your comment. My sister in law has telling people lie and not to listen to me. I asked her what lies I was telling so I can not repeat lies. She blatantly denied what I was told. Not knowing how to handle the lie, I stated, oh, that means the person who told me this was telling me the untruth . She proceed to plan a birthday party for me. AWKWARD.

[@WalkswithJESUS777]

I had no idea i was codependent 😢. Now i see how my alcoholic husband is a manipulator. I am sitting here with my jaw to the floor...Thank you Holy Spirit for leading me to this wonderful lady. Thank you, Kris. You have opened my eyes. Now i just have to work on not being manipulated. The LORD is definitely working on me. Thank you Jesus

[@jennihubby2877]

“That sweet little smile, that high pitched voice they use”. That was my mother…

[@andi879]

You have tremendously blessed me with bringing to light my co-dependency and my role as an empath to the toxic behavior from my covert narcissistic husband. I didn’t know what a narcissist was until just a few years ago. I am 62, married for 39 years and have been “blamed” by my husband for every failure in our marriage and also for the strained relationships I now have with my three adult daughters (even estranged from one for 13 years, along with her 3 children). My husband told me 3 weeks ago not to speak to him unless it was about finances. He has abandoned me emotionally and physically, staying outdoors in his shop for 8-12 hours a day. He has told me countless times that no one can stand being around me. I cannot have a conversation with him without deflection, projection and rejection. I am now wondering if my husband has been grooming my daughters over the years so that I would shoulder the blame as the toxic parent. The only hope I have left is my strong faith in Jesus, my Savior. My guilt, my regret, my anxiety, my failures, my anger, my insecurities, my low self-esteem - all of those burdens placed on me by Satan - are all evaporating with hearing and digesting the awesome revelations I have received through your ministry. I have learned how to begin to heal since listening to you, just over the last month. I know my worth as a daughter of the King, my true bridegroom and my perfect Savior, rescuing me from disappointment, depression and despair. I cannot express my appreciation to you and for you. I have little to give back, but my prayers for your blessing and my thankfulness to the Lord for you is and will always be lifted up to Him, to His throne of grace. The Lord bless you and keep you always, in all ways. Thank you!

[@Kris_Reece]

Thank you so much for sharing your heart Andi. I'm so sorry to hear of what you're enduring, but I pray that you stay close to the Throne of Grace to receive all that you need. May God bless you and keep you my friend.

[@gloriacoleman7012]

Please get out Andi you are worth more, and you have a lot to offer get legal advice also some backup from women's aid your social services, but do it quietly do not give anything away to your husband or those who know him or even your children.

[@mightymouse1005]

Perhaps, if you don't work outside the house, you can volunteer or work part time to make friends. My work friends are my refuge and ONE lady is in a similar situation so we talk. Since narcissist project everything, I would say HE is the one noone likes. I would be so busy that I wouldn't even want to talk to my husband. It's sad but that's what I do. I work, read, have animals, kids and friends...

[@michelleellis5194]

Oh my goodness you story is almost identical to mine. I’m 62 too, and have been married to a narc for 42 years and have three adult daughters. My middle daughter sided with my husband but the other two see my side, but are still sad that we are going to get a divorce. But my husband use to stay in his shop all day too! He is now love bombing me to get me to stay. At least I’m not the only one who stayed with someone who always put him self first for so long. If feel like the truth always comes out in Gods timing.

[@kennethjmurphy3364]

Thank you for sharing, I'm 62 and grew up in a house with a narcissistic father. I didn't know what was happening until this year. My brother has taken up the mental for Satan since my parents are gone.

[@joanray1552]

It's a little tricky dealing with manipulative landlords, to keep from being homeless until you find a new place,

[@POS3278]

🙏

[@Alexandra-ek6bb]

or manipulative bosses

[@mefougner]

Get everything in writing

[@shellylamb2986]

My older sister is constantly quoting the bible and projecting this image of being a completely devote follower of God to the public eye. However her actions are the most manipulative, godless manifestations of evil and greed. The most recent manifestation of her behavior was when she left my mother in a convalescent home while she attempted to pursue a lawsuit against it, my mothers health declined rapidly. I was able to bring my mom home with me, it's really hard to care for her, but her health has improved as has her quality of life. The point I am making, is that my sister's behavior and hypocritical behavior has made me skeptical of religion even though I know many genuine followers of Christianity. I feel fortunate to have found this channel and your content is really resonating with me. Thank you.

[@Nelikaful]

Jubilate! Same with me, I had to deconstruct what I believed and keep away from church for some time. But I never kept away from prayer, enjoying the words of the bible, feeling that Jesus is my brother and always with me. For a very long time, I had the feeling, that I first have to get better, before I can connect again. There is SO much manipulation and hirarchy and judgement in church. We need to overcome this, find brother- and sisterhood, to heal and to be the true body of Christ again. ❤️‍🩹 I hope you can connect to many of us, through this beautiful ministries, be blessed and recover! Love to you 😊❤

[@samanthap1389]

Not everyone who is being manipulated (or abused) is a codependent or people-pleaser. We may just be in a very vulnerable situation we do not have the means to escape from.

[@thanksmuch8547]

you can always say Jesus save me out of this. So Jesus put power in my legs and told me to keep walking.

[@leannemidili2457]

You're absolutely right

[@jon8230]

Or you could try being accountable for yourself and not dependent on a man. That’s what all this is about anyways after all.

[@leannemidili2457]

Ur absolutely right I have a severe illness I'm suffering from no family or friends ...I've always been independent

[@AB-ComeLordJesus]

​@@jon8230Christians are to obey God's word period, and if we are married the only out is if there is infidelity (or if physical abuse a separation needs to happen for safety reasons). The Bible doesn't say divorce if your husband is mean and manipulative, it says even if they don't obey the word by a wife's conduct she can win him over, that is the hope. However, it is also a matter of sanctification. That difficult marriage mirrors Jacob and Leah or Abigail and Nabal, we have an example of how God deals on our behalf. He may deliver us like in Abigail's case or we simply remain in it but our suffering leads to greater dependence on God rather than that man like in the case of Leah or Hannah. This information is useful because we can understand the thinking of such a manipulative person and we can train ourselves to think and respond appropriately.

[@Cantbuyathrill]

"Your response is your responsibility" Those are the wisest words I've heard in a long while.

[@florencenzioki3915]

Thanks for this information. Wow!

[@spirituallysafe]

@asshatslovejohnnydeppjohnn8377Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life; no-one comes to God except through Me (John 14:6). Jesus wants you to to cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Only by repenting of sin and trusting in Jesus to guide your life are you spiritually safe for all eternity. I encourage you to prayerfully read The Holy Bible.

[@Kittiesinclair5]

IE be very careful to avoid giving any demons fodder for their use against us.

[@AB-ComeLordJesus]

I wrote that one down. I need to take responsibility and become aware to my own tendencies to use manipulation. Do unto others....

[@MystiqueHawkins]

People pleasing, over explaining, freezing in the face of abuse, all of these and more I have struggled with throughout my life. Your words are so validating. The pure Gold of wisdom

[@nancybrantley9694]

I freeze in the face of abuse but I have never been able to explain it like you did.

[@corirodriquez2889]

Your very articulate in your descriptions of response to the narcissist manipulation. I have the same responses, thank you for such a helpful comment ❤

[@Godblessed2]

My Christian husband is a kind manipulator. When I call him out, he laughs 🙄 Lord, help ME not to be a manipulator. Help me to overcome my codependency. Amen

[@scuba6797]

Be more specific!

[@annelim1784]

I truly love how you combine faith and Psychology.. A BIG THANK YOU!!!

[@MystiqueHawkins]

I agree . This Lady is really On Point , in a good way !

[@carriewallace-ng4bn]

I agree ❤

[@johnkrywicki]

Yes! We as Christians need to find christian therapists/counselors that can rightly divide the word of truth with psychology based of Gods way of healing are mind by his word and spirit!

[@AB-ComeLordJesus]

Psychology is dealing with the soul, there shouldn't be a disconnect

[@pwm485]

The way these narcissists hijack conversations has DEFINITELY happened to me more than once - SOOOO frustrating! You're right - they ABSOLUTELY will not allow you speak for fear that you'll show individuality

[@raccoondon488]

You could ask them point blank….”why don’t you allow me to speak ?” Another tactic would be to deliberately just quietly in the middle of a “lecture” just get up and walk away. When they ask why you do that then tell them you like two way conversations instead of lectures. Another option would be “push those people out of your life”. If you can’t do that then spend far less time around them. Some people are extremely frustrating and I understand what you are saying….it’s like a “social disease” on their part”. A pandemic of social ignorance or stupidity.

[@tional5266]

Or they go into accusations that you’re hateful etc, my husband tells his family when I say no to yet another ‘family party’ that it’s because I don’t like them , nothing could be farther from the truth but he’s triangulating

[@tional5266]

@@raccoondon488ya I ask my husband before I respond’are you talking to me or at me?’ Because I need not expend my words to respond when he’s talking at me which is almost constantly

[@christinemilham2847]

Every conversation seems like a competition for speaking time (aka power over the moment). When other people are in the room, you wonder what they could be thinking while witnessing it.

[@donaldmidtling9502]

​@@tional5266at ,I saw❤😂

[@MaileyMcAslan]

“Are you my mother?” was so sad to me as a kid, because I felt like that little bird. Even though I had a mother, something very essential was missing in that relationship.

[@julieanna8495]

Me too. I specifically being about four years old and sitting on my bed and crying, thinking “why don’t I have a mother”? A REAL Mother that loved me, would let me sit in her lap and read a book to me, would who ask me a question just to see what the answer would be, who would hug me or show affection. I knew as early as that , that this was not normal. The first time my Mother ever hugged me was when I got married. Of course all my other relatives were hugging me after the wedding as I was about to leave with my new Husband. She came to hug me for the first time. I was so shocked I couldn’t hug her back. It felt awkward and wrong. Been married for over 35 years now, and she has never initiated a hug from me since. It’s ok now. I have grown children who I hugged Every Single Day. I became the Mother that I needed. 👏🏼🙌💕💖😃. I had to break that chain. And I did.🥰

[@MaileyMcAslan]

@@julieanna8495 wow! Congratulations on breaking that chain.

[@4gma59]

@@julieanna8495

[@justice8563]

I know exactly what you mean about that book. 😔

[@VivienChan-k8g]

Yes! She is my mom!!!!!☹️☹️☹️☹️

[@ladyesther]

"You need to accept responsibility that you're giving in." I keep repeating that so I can remember it. Good stuff. I can relate to all of it.

[@DeniseHoover-s2i]

??? I'm so thankful to God for the night I stumbled on Kris and her teaching. I have a very manipulative father, who is also a narcissist..I am learning about boundaries and that I am a co dependent person, who needs God's healing. Thank you

[@LM-ip5yw]

They even flip into RAGE if you try to show them how they are wrong in any way. Anything to shut you up and take eyes off them. It makes me sick to my stomach living with a manipulative person still even tho I know they are toxic. I'm glad to have inspiration to move on so thank you.

[@katepenk3401]

God opened the cage door so that I was able to leave, and I most gratefully did.

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Same. They suck so damn much. Like im telling you what's wrong. But you don't care to change. I hate my manipulator.

[@marien8276]

I only want peace in my home. My health is so compromised that I am afraid of my heart failing. Ive already had 2 heart attacks and multiple procedures but it doesn’t make a bit of difference. Bipolar and narcissism his disease along with alcoholic addictions. I just want him to leave. Im tired of trying to be “supportive”. It’s making me frustrated and unable to think clearly.

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Children in adult body

[@TheoMosher]

This is Theo. You are renewing my mind Ms. Reece. My dad was a And very toxic. My mom wss codependent. I'm a empath. I was never tought how to set healthy boundaries and self worth. I really enjoy and needed you videos. It also brings me closer to Christ. I've prayed and prayed for God to give me this information and than one of your videos popped up and I've been learning from you ever since. Please you have a gift and there's many more young adults and kid's that need to know this information. It should be tought in school.

[@lisadunn4730]

For the past two weeks, I’ve been writing and putting Galatians 1:10 in my journal and memorizing it in my heart. It’s no mistake that I’ve been directed to these videos. “What others think of me, is none of my business” - anonymous quote

[@lisaosbourne-eden4576]

The narcissist, I know and have not been around for a year used to say everything she wanted to say in the conversation then, when it was my turn, would either hang up the phone say she can’t talk or say this makes no sense. Later on, I realized, and I told her I’m gonna listen to what you say, but I’m not gonna speak because every time you say what you want to then you interrupt me or you hang up the phone it’s not a dialogue it’s a monologue. I was respectful because she’s my elder, but I felt good to tell her in a respectful way that I was not gonna tolerate it. Now I have gotten no contact with her for over a year, at first it was hard, but I feel good not being around her that I’m not hurt. But I’ve I said it to myself from the entire family because she’s the center of the family.please pray for me, thanks for your awesome videos

[@BelieveInJesus77774]

I prayed to God to help you and support you

[@jennihubby2877]

Thank you putting your focus on godly truth and on your viewers and what we can do improve ourselves. Many channels focus on the narcissist and their traits and blah blah blah… I’m done putting the focus on the narcissistic.

[@09dawnie]

As a Christian Psychologist, can I just say a huge THANK YOU! I've been struggling with balancing the two in my life and career, feeling like somehow being vocal about my beliefs may '"undermine" my professional qualifications. It's so good to watch you demonstrate how to be both!

[@boernooi40]

36 years. God slowly showed me how to set boundaries. How to not care what he does or say. I never thought he was a narcissist. I just knew that he lives in a world of one and cannot love anyone else.

[@Katarina4567]

THE LORD is everything to me....He helps us out of these difficult situations....The narcissist makes you physically sick....We must distance ourselves from them.😊

[@jshelley4592]

​@@Katarina4567you are so right !!!

[@usatodaywife]

Mine not only outright lied, but he also enjoyed using omission to just not say a thing. I made decisions based on lack-o-information that was never provided and should have been provided. His belief is if he didn't say anything, he didn't lie.

[@georgiehughes4858]

Amen…. Yes, my deceased covert narc (Christian) hubby did the same! Wouldn’t commit nor outright agree to do things. He would play with words.

[@sandyschneider6792]

Been there!

[@angeleye4253]

Never make a decision based on anything they say. Most of their info is skewed, they are deceived on almost every front!

[@JeanneBQ]

This is awesome information! I’m learning how to say NO to a christian covert manipulator who has ignored my boundaries over and over. I’ve been direct and less direct. It’s been difficult, as she has alot of oppression and my heart goes out to her, but her emotional manipulation has run its course...I’m too exhausted. Holy Spirit told me to stop making excuses for her, it’s just enabling her. I don’t need to please others.

[@Vixinaful]

They laugh at boundaries. No point, ignore them completely.

[@denisemanley8968]

Christian narcissist is a contradiction of terms… one of those two words is invalid.

[@pamelawhitehurst4496]

I like what she said about boundaries and you need to believe if you say no, they will find an easier mark

[@blahblahblah4544]

Yeah, when I was people pleasing, I felt like a dog :( It sucked. I decided whatever I'm doing I'm going to admit to the Lord first. Anyone else can have their opinion of me. It freed me from those bonds of expectations.

[@tubesurf17]

Oh boy, if uguys only knew . The Lords timing . He lovse this sinner . I bow my Lord!

[@kikit0732]

People-pleasing is somewhat egotistical, like other selfish behaviors. When we let others repeatedly look to us to help them with their problems, we risk putting ourselves in the place of God. We try to prove we are good through our actions more than through our faith. It’s best to stay out of God’s chair as much as we can.

[@VReyesMusic]

Yes, this has happened to me. My manipulator interrupts me constantly and then throws a fit if I ever interject or interrupt.

[@dianeditonno3569]

Hope your not with him any longer.

[@christie883]

The interruptions drives you crazy! 3 words in u get interrupted over and over again, these goes on for HOURS on end, if you try to defy theme,its torture to never be able to say anything so they wont rage or silent treat you. The narcissist breaks down youre health totally,the immune health system breaks Down, and also the heart and breathing suffers, until you are finally to weak to leave the nightmare of narcissistic abuse. Why the good Lord allows this evil to destroy the lives of so many i dont understand

[@kimparke6653]

Exit.

[@mexicola8866]

Me too

[@debbraus6068]

Me too

[@lynettecaballero1660]

Thank you! Time to dust my feet from evil covert narcisstic People choosing to follow Satan's path,flesh,ego over God's ways

[@elsh332]

My husband is very controlling. His manipulation escalated within less than 2 months from when we got married into literally so controlling that i had to call the police. Before the wedding, it was so subtle that i did not realise what was happening. But my emotions were so disregulated and were trying to warn me. I always felt like i needed time to myself, yet i could never seem to get it. Now i know that if I'd had the space from him to think straight then i would have been able to see what was happening. Your descriptions are spot on! And boundaries are so important. Thank you ❤

[@AkaniMakhubila]

I fill u My boyfriend does the same thing

[@elsh332]

@@AkaniMakhubila im so sorry you are going through that. Please consider that, if he won't do the work getting himself sort out, you may need to leave. Don't make my mistake and marry someone who doesn't treat you right 🙏 please!

[@Frank_42]

The frog in the pot of water that gradually boils is the issue I have. I get hypnotized into inaction, and by then it's too late. They got under my skin. They got me in a good mood and tricked me....etc. For that matter I have never experienced god having any vengeance on anyone that harmed me. They always seem to be rewarded.

[@Kathysvlogchannel]

You are such a gift for me today! I am a Christian woman with four children; and have been married 34 years. We were separated twice and still on this roller coaster. I recently read The Excellent Wife and is has been a saving grace in helping me deal and keep peace in my marriage. I have listened to several of your videos this morning and you are helping me in my recent circumstance.

[@Kloops]

46:00 huh, near the end of my marriage, I would explain my feelings and I would say “I feel…” then the argument became that I was accusing him of making me feel upset and I didn’t say that. He only heard what he wanted to hear. And that showed me that our marriage was fine as long as I didn’t share my feelings. Even my good feelings were used against me.

[@chamomiletea5424]

Same! Take care, God bless

[@doorpakor5813]

My parents taught me nothing. Nothing about how to live. I am 54 and still learning basic skills of life. They destroyed my self esteem so everything in life was difficult. I will NOT ALLOW them to destroy me. !!

[@JesusistheLivingGod.777]

My dear God is with you!

[@loriann7117]

I can relate. My parents never taught me me life skills… heck they almost never even ALLOWED ME TO LEARN life skills as a child, under the banner of “oh no no you just focus on your studies and we will carry you on a tray so you don’t have to worry about other things”. Mollycoddling basically. I guess they have proper intentions but are just so blissfully ignorant about these other things

[@jenniferwyatt1749]

I want to say Thank You for this message. My Heavenly Father knew I needed this. I have been dealing with this for many years.I am so thankful I stumbled across your website. What a breath of fresh air. I feel now there is hope! May God continue to bless you. 🙌

[@77ulrike]

Same! I just discovered this podcast today and I also have been struggling with codependency! Thank you!!! I needed that prayer as well.

[@brendapearce8473]

This is just the beginning.. 😑 Tread lightly. They don't think like we do. Have your boundaries and consequences but don't speak to them about this new revelation. Have your plan and keep it to yourself. Prayer and diligence. Stay in peace and love 💕

[@jenniferwyatt1749]

@@brendapearce8473 thank you 😊 God bless you.

[@kathytucker8947]

Me too

[@mariloevanniekerk9348]

Thank you so much, the Lord is so using you as an instrument....You wll be BleSsed *

[@mendedandwhole]

You are such a blessing! You have put language to the chaos and brought clarity and order! Can’t deal w these demons without God in our midst. We must walk in humility and truth.

[@annettegriffin3947]

Great truth here

[@TheMrTopman]

God did so much for everyone from creating everything such as the Earth, air, the trees and so on. God also provided us the freedom to choose.

[@sonyaPsalm27]

It's important to include that the underlying drive of codependency is controlling others' behavior to maintain a facade of having it all together. Codependents can be manipulative too. They're not always the victims we make them.

[@sonyaPsalm27]

Forgot to add that I enjoyed this talk.

[@Kris_Reece]

Oh, that is so true. Great point Sonya

[@racheltoner1906]

Amen 🙏🏻 this is a great teaching I will save and listen to it again and again 🙏🏻

[@MsKenTexiana]

Thanks for this information.

[@anar3954]

Yes, I did that and got fired from my job that I worked in for almost 5 years. And I see now that I am too nice to people. And I got stuck again with a person who took my kindness for their benefit. I am again without a job but I did say no that’s day and this video did encourage me to trust the Lord and stop being so nice to people. Thanks for your advice 🙏🏻👍

[@lanctermann7261]

I've been around a lot of manipulators. Some close to me. Learning is a slow process

[@annamaria3502]

It is so deep and long process of healing and dealing with narcisstic personalities. And you Kris are helping to see the patterns, in others and myself. I can be healed, I find from what to repent, I feel stronger, and more and more free. Be blessed. Thanks be to Jesus for this tool.

[@terribarney8183]

I am 66 years old and finally learning something that could have saved me and my daughter so much pain

[@racheltoner1906]

The direct yes and the direct no is something I am going to work on.

[@gotagape173]

Tricky words...NWO is KZbin, FB, INSTAGRAM, TIK TOK, PATRION.. SUBSCRIBERS ARE UNDER CONTROL OF THE WITCHES. All you need is the Holy Spirit and kjv Holy Bible, NOT KZbinRS who are flashing hand signals and asking us to "like and subscribe." Jesus said "follow me.' Please don't put KZbinRS before Christ, no matter how much they sound right. "BUY MY STUFF" is LOVE OF MONEY SORCERERS OF REVELATION OF JESUS CHRIST. WITCHCRAFT MOVES: 1. Subtle Hand signals (Genesis 3 serpent) 2, Hit the "like and subscribe button" 3. Buy something or support my channel 4. A little truth with Lies to manipulate your to follow them instead of Jesus 5. Supporting other serpent's channels

[@mykelmedeiros1528]

Amen

[@tional5266]

You described every time I have a conversation with my husband and he’s far worse after a couple beers, my saving grace is I’m more intelligent and can see it I definitely feel used and manipulated, he plays innocent a lot

[@brightpage1020]

I think how we overcome co-dependency is to take full responsibility for ourself, for our actions and behavior, and for our feelings. If this person gives me a chilling feeling, it's not my responsibility to force them to change - it's my responsibility to distance myself and put up social protection layers until I feel safe. That feeling isn't a signal to control the other person or their behavior, it's a signal that I might require space.

[@MsKenTexiana]

My sentiments exactly. Good for you. You got out of harms way--mentally and physically. They can become violent and harm someone. The sad thing is that psychiatrists say the only peace one will have with a narcissist is to put distance between you and them. Narcissists will not stay in therapy. They feel they are right always.

[@kathymunsee6468]

Kris Reece is a Rescue from NARCISSISTs God! Kris Reece gers revelation from above & she knows what she's talking about. ❤

[@2mckeans]

The manipulator I live with uts me off EVERY time I speak umless Im feeding their ego or benefiting them in some way...then ac cuses me of never letting them finish. I point this out, when it occurs and they deny it. Its pretty unbelievable.

[@denabredwick-tq4eg]

This is exactly what I have been going through for over 3 years now. I AM SO VERY THANKFUL FOR YOU BEING A WATCH WOMAN ON THE WALL. GOD BLESS 🙏

[@jennadanielescobar4440]

Wow when you said they use your weaknesses against you. I was like wow okay i know what you mean xyz.

[@deksper]

"Rebuke (towards the manipulator) is better than secret love"

[@2016_SavedbyJesusGrace]

I am guarding my heart. I’m doing just like the word tells me to do. I believe that some people will take your kindness as form of weakness. I’m not a weak woman. But the joy of the Lord is my strength. Nehemiah 8:16

[@nicholerudyk1526]

Amen . Thank you !! I’m 5 years free of my narcissistic ex husband . He trampled on my pearls I finally got my life back . God is good and loves us . I actually feel sorry for him . Crazy huh ? He needs the Holy Spirit because I feel his destiny bleak.

[@cassified1378]

I can’t mention my feelings to my husband because his response is that’s a feeling not a fact! This is every bit my husband!

[@theresadavo7966]

Wow! So much explained and now makes sense. I'm not crazy after all. Thank you for your Biblical response to this toxic, awful behavior. It's been almost 30 years of pain and suffering. It's time now to be set free!! God is good 😭🙏❤

[@karenthomas1279]

Amen 🙏🏼 I wish I could have listened to this 50 years ago!! It could have saved me a lot of heartaches and me feeling like I’ve gone completely crazy!! The way you described codependent helped me see it and understand it completely different from what I thought it meant! There are several narcissist people in my family and I’ve spent my life seeking approval that I never got and my children seen this and my youngest daughter learned at an early age to beat me down and keep me chasing my tail to get what she wanted and the family would reward her. What a monster she’s became and I’ve been feeling sorry for her thinking if I could only help her see thing’s. I see things now. I’m so done with all these crazy behaviors and I’m not a bad mom for saying no more!! Thank you for opening my eyes and my heart

[@AnthonyManzio]

I've been mobbed and gaslighting at work for over 12 years till present. Full of NPD cowards at work and will end up exposing themselves.. I'm a top worker, jealous of me big time and of my money and condo too. Defamation of character. Saying I'm a stalker, I drink, I'm crazy. All bs. Managers are scared of the bullies, they do nothing, union, police are all totally useless too. Toxic workplace in healthcare. Been working 38 years and never been suspended. Action speaks louder than words. But this crap never ends trying to scare the women at work, all the insecure and toxic women. I will never quit due to these lazy bums with no life. These 2 guys should be locked up and have the manager fired.

[@JosephGaney-v8v]

I can't tell you how much your podcasts have helped us deal with our toxic maniputlative son. It is an answer to prayer that we have found your podcasts!! Thank you so much !

[@elizabethf9096]

My sister use to tell me all the time no one likes you and even my own daughter can’t stand u I finally found out about her narcissism and see it all so clearly now

[@---wu3qj]

Many of us don’t say “no” because we do not have the emotional or physical strength to suffer the consequences of saying no. We only have a limited amount of strength, so we choose our battles carefully! A comment on point # 1.

[@neriahamponsah2279]

Very true💯 I often anticipate what the person’s response would be

[@Redeemed1983]

In churches that teach that love = unity among believers and contention is taught against, that kind of church FEEDS acceptance of narcissistic abuse.

[@kalieluca]

The “are you my mother” book. He fell out of the nest and didn’t know who he was, so he thought the bus, the forklift etc. trying to find his mother. Sweet kids book.yet a parable.

[@christinestephensoncleveleys]

Hi i can resonate with all your stories mine was 20 years. I left last january and things just fell into place for me just trust in the process. Found out after i left him how much no one else had liked him. I got a flat and got a goid job even though im not trained in anything. Id told him i didnt want to sell the house knowing he would. He put it on the market without telling me so i didnt let him know i was leaving. He rang me up at 11 pm to say what time you coming back i said im not. Id got my stuff out bit by bit. Ive never been happier i just love tge peace and love living my own life how i want it not living his life anymore. Just leave them and trust the process yo work out. I wish you all the best go and live your own life instead of theirs.

[@sweeterthanhoney.]

We need this to protect Jesus' ministry.

[@straight.outta.humantraffi3504]

Let's talk Co-dependancy. Who's stalking who? Who can't "let go"? Narcs need you more than you need them ..and they know it.

[@debbieeads9151]

I'm a Christian and this video is really helpful. I see myself in what you are describing.

[@WeCanHearYouNowwithPeggiMerkey]

Thank you for your wise counsel and for including God & the Bible in your videos! Blessings to you for such great & needed info‼️

[@keshiawilson530]

24:5 that’s what discernment will do. I had this feeling of uneasiness with someone close to me in my family two weeks ago. I felt this so strong. I’m glad the Holy Spirit led me to turn down an invite to be around people who are not safe to be around mentally and emotionally. Thank you Jesus

[@mightyobserver12]

Narcissistic siblings. I've been rumenating for months I couldn't focus on my bar exams and I couldn't sleep. Plus my father is having dementia

[@SendItForward]

My personal experience with the narcissist concerning "I feel ______ when YOU say/do ______" is their reply being "You should not feel that way", and they tell others that I have a problem and cannot tolerate others if they do not say/act in the way I want them to. It is a complete reversal. You can play around with the verbage all you want to but for me these people are not worth anything more than my yes or no and "because I don't want to". That's it.

[@deborahlim4523]

Thank you so much Kris for always speaking to such a difficult topic in a biblical and balanced way that still acknowledges how ugly this can be in real life. It is hard to find people who can speak so clearly and be led by God in this area. Really appreciate you and your ministry.

[@lloydpowlett4365]

Amen

[@karinadsouza4929]

Absolutely

[@shannamathias4176]

I’m so thankful that this is being talked about for what it is, a Christian perspective. Co dependency is so often framed as Uber spiritual and what it actually is, is an idol. Thank you.

[@taracannonllc]

Yup!

[@sallylara1102]

💯🎯

[@lynndurbin9476]

I know a woman I grew up with where her parents/ mother had weeks of silent treatment and now in her relationship with her husband she does the same. When I talked to her about this tactic vs. speaking truth with her husband she said it was normal. I of course responded it is not normal. Just another form of generational abuse which her now grown up daughter suffered through during her childhood.

[@karinadsouza4929]

I'm giving the 'silent treatment' to my narc husband. I've tried reasoning with him, but he always lies his way out. I've realized, through this ministry, there's no point in reasoning with him. He doesn't care. I've only realized this two weeks ago though, which is when I've started the silent treatment. I know I am a child of Yahweh. I know He's got my back. Let's see what He has on store for me. This ministry is teaching me. I know Yahweh led me here

[@elverdad6805]

You're so right! I saw this pattern with our family narc, and then saw it in the workplace. If bullying didn't work (due to boundaries), then they would resort to tears. If tears didn't work, then they would make it about money. If that didn't work, then the smear campaign and triangulation were enforced. I finally distanced myself from the family narc, but over a decade later, I needed a legal document from her. The day she would have received my polite letter (via a mail forwarding service), I received an email from someone saying they were my long-lost half-brother. However, this "half-brother" (who used an encrypted email service) proceeded to reinforce everything the narc had ever said. It turns out my daughter, who had started behaving like the narc over the past decade, and who was now irritated with me because I set some boundaries, had reconnected with the narc and given her my email address. Meanwhile the narc refused to send the document I needed. So, you're right. If one manipulation doesn't work, they'll keep trying new ways to manipulate and control. Thank you so much for your channel!

[@psarmijo5256]

Yes, I was manipulated by my mother for fifty years, then my ex-boyfriend. I'm now alone & at Peace with myself. No longer want or need either mother or ex-boyfriend of ten years!

[@Jenoveryonder]

My pastor/husband has attacked me before the leadership in the church. I have nowhere to go….they all answer to him. I’m walking on eggshells at home and feel like the ant under the magnifier at church. He’s not accountable to anybody and worse yet, he’s so full of nasty pride that feels comfortable in punishing under the guise of lack of submission.

[@gailrosenberg48]

I pray you will find a way to remove yourself from this ungodly man (a wolf in sheep's clothing) and his enablers (the rest of the church) God sees you just like He sees all injustice. Your husband is already guilty when measured against the Word of God. He and his fan club will all have to answer to God on the Great Day of the Lord. You, dear sister, are worth saving. Lord, please rescue your daughter from abuse. Make a way for her just as you did for me. Her life and wellbeing are in Your hands, God and I ask you to make a way of escape from the snare of the fowler. Help her, dear God, to see the demonic attacks against her for what they really are and that no matter how godly a wife she is, the tyranny of pride in her husband will not be broken until he is convicted of his sin and repents fully. May You, God, get the glory from this situation and bring freedom and healing to my sister. Amen?

[@adelerodgers2229]

Lost church leaders are the epitomy of evil in my opinion. They love to beat down God loving women with false interpretations of the word. Just for their selfish purposes. Get out! Run! Find a true church. God bless you!

[@GracieDontPlayDat]

He is accountable to The Word of God. Does he not listen when you point out specific verses verbatim? Showing may work over telling??

[@misskaren4723]

You have to leave. You can not win while in this situation. He will not change. If he hasn't already, he will turn the congregation against you. You will have no support from anyone associated with the church. This will only reinforce his behavior. He is not going to change for the better. Therefore, you must not share your plans on leaving with anyone who also knows your husband. They will only betray you. He will not change. The abuse is only going to get worse and your strength will dissipate if you stay. Give up any hope you have of him changing, and get present in the situation so that you can see the relationship for what it is, and not what it could be if only ... (fill in the blank). Your optimistic view of what can be will not come to pass. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of this fantasy. He will not change. He has no motivation to change. Deal with what is, not what could be. You must protect yourself and any children you have. You will have to leave and go no contact with him and anyone in the congregation who is friends with him. He will not change. In fact, he is more than likely to up the ante and make things even worse for you. I know this will be difficult to accept but once you do accept the reality of the situation, your heart will be at peace knowing that you are on a path to freedom from the hurt and craziness. I am so sorry you are in this awful situation. You must extract yourself from it because it will only get worse. Please know that you are not alone and there are many of us who are here to support you and guide you on this journey. Peace be with you.

[@annettegriffin3947]

I'm.so sorry you are going g thro this it's not Godlty behaviour youre so blessedcto be on here get help private counselling sounds like it's out of Control Gid Bless you God Is with you but not with the him

[@bigblockperformance3400]

Yes I remember the book “are you my mother”. I felt like that duck when I lost my mother to cancer. Currently healed from codependency praise God!

[@shyannebarnett8498]

Yes now I see what you are saying, and that I need to be more prayerful in my response so that I don’t get manipulated.

[@tehguybro]

Good video. Thank you. Context: I give effective communication and negotiation training for a living. Some people use silence as a means of manipulating. They pull away with an avoiding conflict management style, but then use unspoken emotional tensions within the atmosphere as a means to emotionally manipulate their targets, especially if the target is verbally expressive. Other than that, thank you for mentioning the 'dark side' of manipulation awareness training. We ALL can be vulnerable to become manipulators and that should help us have grace when confronting people who consistently manipulate others.

[@robinluich6626]

God has given me great discernment. What a gift.

[@shelleyd9910]

When I finally stopped begging him to stop the silent treatment and said “I don’t like it when you storm off and refuse to talk about it. I want to discuss this with you when you’ve calmed down.” he just came out the next day as if nothing had happened. When I said, “Can we talk about it now?” he said “No!” Then I would ask “When do you think we can discuss this?” he said “Never!” Please be aware this kind of conversation can escalate to violence and have your safety plan ready.

[@IAMinfiniteandfree.]

The only safety plan you should make is get out of the relationship.

[@LiveforHim73]

You stated this perfectly. They will not let you discuss anything at any time! When they do this for decades you let them go. The whole family has had personal rejection encounters with him. He’s is the only person that has the true religion. He’s in authority and and demands it especially if you are a woman. We girls can’t pray without him or a man. He texted it to us. In the past two years getting close to him in the same room, there’s an oppressive dark chill in the air. I’ve had to get out and get away from him. It like when I stepped on a curled up rattle snake in the milk barn after I open up the door. I didn’t look down. I knew the second I stepped on it what it was. Thankfully I stepped on it head first. He could not bite me but then how do you jump off without getting bit! My legs turned to pure rubber bands after the escape! I think of this every time I have to encounter my brother. Its not if I will get bit? It’s when! And it’s poisonous! We have rattlesnakes at our farm that’s 93 mile north to our city home. Amazing We would rather live at the farm than deal with toxic humans. Snakes are protecting themselves. A toxic person wants to poison you for their own internal hurts. Mentality is: I need to take you down with me in my selfish created cultish religion. It’s a sad situation! Our mom is 93. When she leaves us, I think this relationship will cease. But, God can do amazing things in us! Seen so many miracles, it gives me hope for healing!

[@danab3160]

OH MY GOODNESS 😢where was this awesome woman years ago.?? 🤦🏻‍♀️ Oh how I wish I could make people hear and understand what she is saying and truly believe and HEED the WARNING. I swear it would save so much hurt not only for yourself but those you love. get dragged along as well.

[@deborahjones4085]

Amen!💯 & ThankU Kris🫶 Keep On Ministering... Bc We All Need this Wisdom☝️

[@tinatots4801]

So neat how God always comes in at the nick of time to help me. Thank you for being God's instrument. I really needed this right now at this moment. If you only knew.. I know God does. I'm going through so much right now. I ask everyone to continue to pray for me. Thank you. Love you! Appreciate your message today. I just found you not by coincidence but by divine

[@Isagiallo]

KRIS YOU ARE AMAZING!!!! You say exactly what I need to hear! So much wisdom! I needed this! 🙏🏼❤️💕

[@CassieHouseman]

God and I have been doing lots of work in me from trauma since toddlerhood and today I asked hid yo share something with me that I can listen too as I work that would be revealing or helpful for my mind. I knew this was from God right away. Like I said we have been doing work. Hd in me and my allowance. I knew that co- dependency was one issue that needed healing in my mind. When you spoke of the book "are you my mother" I was like God you are so amazing to lead us to freedom but also let us know the whole way! I am doing a work in you! You are my creation and and I want you whole. My mother (who is now praising Abba in heaven) read that book to me as a child. When you mentioned this book I just felt God say hey let's work on this together to make you whole as he is tenderly smiling at me❤️

[@tonyrobbins1665]

Bless you sister in Christ ! It's like you were a fly on my wall ! I see everything you described. And that laziness is so true. To the point that they don't like to clean up after themselves.

[@katielung6515]

Exactly- it won’t even lift a finger. The filth is something I’ve never seen in my life / laziness is an understatement- these people are ville I have to say

[@MNE327]

Thanks so much for teaching me this. I ve been struggling to please him and do only what he wants and desires... Even against what God wishes many times😢

[@ecay]

To the question that was asked, can a child learn to get out of or deal with a manipulative parent? Yes first of all I want to say something here. I loved my mom and I loved my grandmother. My mom was very manipulative and I believe she learned that from my grandmother who was also very manipulative. But when I was in my early 20s I recognized some things were not right. I couldn't put my finger on it and I hadn't realized my mom was being manipulative or that my grandmother was manipulative. But I realized that there was something going on between my mom's relationship with me and my relationship with my mom. It wasn't quite right and it wasn't just mine. It was also the relationships it was going on between my brother and sister and my mom. I was the oldest so and I was the one that was working so I think I was the one that was manipulated more and it took me a few years to understand what I was seeing. My mother was working. She was a project manager for a project that was going on in another country. She was one of many project managers but she was a project manager. When that project ended they laid off a bunch of people in. She was one of those that were many of those people that relate off. She was hired for that project and that project was over so they let her go after that was over with and I'm not talking about months. I'm talking days later she was too sick to go to work but yet she was quite all right to go everywhere else to the store to the the comedy club over the friend's houses. Go to stores. Spend days or hours at the stores but she was too sick to go to work and she couldn't find a job that she was. A project manager had been one for years so she put on me. It was my duty. I was the oldest to pay the bills. I was working two full-time jobs and sometimes I was working enough hours to classify the third job as a full-time job. And yes I realize how many hours it was. And yes sometimes I didn't go to sleep for 3 days but it was something that I did and I did it for 6 years. Catch up to the story where I started making a change. I had a not a new car but it was a couple years old, had AC it had heat. It was a small car but it could gas mileage. My mom's car was a 1979 Chrysler LeBaron and this was in the early '90s so it was a few years old. Yasey hadn't worked in years. I don't think I had my car 3 months and she started in on her cars. Too much for her. She needs AC. The heat doesn't work in her car. If she's getting sick driving her car she needs my car and she took it. I didn't know any better supposed to take care of your parents right? So here I am driving her old car that when she gets mad at me she would take it away but she still needed my car there would be times I felt like I didn't have a car. I couldn't drive her car. She took it away or I wasn't allowed to drive it to go places because it was would be wearing out her car but she was driving mine all over the place. That kind of thing I finally put my foot down and I said you know I'm paying for that car but it's time for me to drive it. I want my car and the guilt trip started in you just going to want me to be sick. I'm going to be sick. I can't do. I can't drive my car but I took my car back and she got very mad at me even said well I'll just never drive another one of your cars again. I'm 23 years old and I'm looking at her going and that's supposed to be a punishment but okay and she'll throw that at me several times over her life. Then she'll never drive it. Another one of my cars again. But that was her punishment not mine another thing I had insurance on my car and her car and I got tired of paying for insurance on her car so I told her I said she needed to get a job, get insurance and pay for her own insurance and they go trip started in on that that she raised me she could I get at least pay for her insurance. Well I went ahead and let that slide because it wasn't reading my insurance. I'm very much at all but later on I understood how bad that was and I shouldn't have done it. I should have made her get her on insurance later on. I informed her that I was making enough money. I would be moving out and getting my own place. Her response to that was getting furious and saying well I'll just sell everything and move on the street. That's where you want me to live anyway. Well I didn't get my own place. I did take my car back and I did let her drive it occasionally when the temperature was really hot and I didn't need it or if it was really cold and I didn't need it and it wasn't but in a year later she was moving about 40 miles away and tried to talk me into moving with her but I wouldn't go. I use that as my opportunity to stay and I said well. My job is here. Your job is down there. She did get a job and supposedly part of that pay for that job was having her a house. She didn't pay rent for it. Well she moved down there. I helped remove and I use that as an opportunity to stay in Tulsa and move out and that it was the biggest improvement to my life to that point. My brother and sister are my sister moved with her. My brother had moved out long before that because he was tired of the manipulation too. But she made that my fault years later because of an injury I had. I had to move back in. Basically I broke my hip and the manipulation started again it was different but time it passed and things were different. I was able to get moved out of that and later on and towards the end of her life she moved and with me or it was a nursing home one of the two but it was the last 2 years of her life. I didn't know that's how long I had left with her but that's what it ended up being and I'm glad I got to spend it with her first two three months that she was living with me. She was trying to be manipulative and saying well. You guys just don't like me you doing to do this to me. That and all that's kind of. I told her to stop it and told her what she was doing called her out on it and she actually stopped. So the last 2 years was actually really nice. Wonderful relationship with my mom and the manipulation had ended and for the few people that are going to wonder where my dad was and all this my dad passed away. He wasn't part of any of this. He had been gone for a few years by the time this has started

[@shelleyemond1293]

Amazing. Youve hit the nail on the head ! The need to "people please". Yes! Im seeking the approval of God and not man AMEN 🙏

[@cathietonkin5577]

Is this why they insult me, use me, pick on me, belittle me, laugh at me? Maybe it’s a good thing they have dropped me after I gave them all I had. Oh and I’ve been blamed for their dropping me! 😭😭😭. I just as soon they stay away. It hurts don’t get me wrong, I gave them everything I had and I found out they lied and I stated I’d never give to them again! Outcome was being dropped! God bless you and thank you!!!

[@amymcmillan3796]

THANK YOU for your ministry. I am recovering from a long 7 yr situation of 2 people coming into my husband and my life and just about destroying a 35 yr marriage. God has opened my eyes to our weaknesses and the tactics of these manipulative people. After a complete deviation in finances and a ruined reputation, the Lord helped me to see (in hindsight) the warning signs. This video sums up, in a nutshell, the 7 yrs I learned... the hardest hurdle to overcome was learning that "I am not a BAD person because I say NO!" The good news is God restores what the locus and cankerworm eateth... Blessings

[@janeteddddd]

Something similar happened to me. It opened my eyes . Now I'm very careful who I allow in my life and in my home.

[@lynnehood2198]

The same thing happened to me and ended horrifically ! I am in my 9th year recovering from that life changing experience. NOW...I am very careful who I allow into my life and into my house. To be truthful I am openly mean to people I suspect are up to evil, especially gossip. If manipulators come close I let them know in a very frank way- "stay the hell away from me."

[@frannybkranny8760]

As a survivor of an emotionally abusive mother (almost worse than physical abuse IMO), this video was very informative. Thank you so much. And God bless you.

[@JJones-nr2pl]

I had a manipulative narc mother too. At home, she was a sneaky control freak or if angered became a monster. In public she acted like the "wonderful woman". I was treated like a king at home; Rodney King!!!!!!

[@TheBlondiekitten]

Oh me too. Blessings to you both. ❤❤❤

[@TheBlondiekitten]

Controlling people can’t control you if you don’t let them 🥰❤️❤️❤️👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@frannybkranny8760]

@@TheBlondiekitten As a child growing up you don't have much choice. I'm talking about when I was growing up and even into young adulthood.

[@mightymouse1005]

Literally EVERYTIME I have a emotion, need or want I get either silent or a fight that's EVERYTHING I MY fault always. Of I say I'm feel sad or unheard, I get told I have NO right to that feeling because it's stupid. What I have started doing 6 months ago. Instead of hating myself and defending myself. I have begun LEARNING, reading and listening to videos. The silent treatment can be the best thing for you. Now, I don't try or care about talking to him...

[@carolhartman4384]

You covered all the situations n how to respond in a healthy Godly way leaving us guilt free; with power n hope for a better life; regardless of the toxic person. God Bless you. ❤

[@mariacristinaaguzzi5408]

Thank you Ms.Kris Reece,God has showed me your channel,I praise God for your life,He will give you more blessings,Amen❤