3 Things: Bachelors unwanted as tenants, Husband has a dating profile, "All girls wanna be sexy"

[@leslie5435]

I had a rental manager once tell me she would only rent to women or gay men if she could. She said gay men always get their deposits back.

[@susiebear3316]

Absolutely 💯

[@VendieSolde]

Those feminine qualities saving the day!!

[@thekameru6058]

Don’t blame them really.

[@unicorn73212]

You think it wouldn't be like that if men supposedly built everything around us why destroy it? I've even seen some structure that these men abandoned and they never actually finished building it so it's not Always wise to put there gender on everything because some of those structures look like crap and there not worth the price there asking it to be they just enjoy ripping people off and over charging people.

[@fdm2155]

I can believe that! 😂

[@Blech-h9z]

The only man who looks for another man's shoes under his bed is one who has been under another's bed. Accusing the other person of doing what you're doing. Classic.

[@nikki1400]

Yep. I had a bf who was SO paranoid I would cheat on him and it was incredibly distressing because that was NEVER even a passing thought. I loved him so much and was amazing to him. Well, guess who cheated? It wasn't me.

[@TeaSea13]

The married men are the most single on those apps. I swear they make up more statistically speaking, than single men on them.

[@user-kpkxgtj]

💯 This has certainly been my experience, though I suspect it is also heavily age related considering the range I was screening for. Older men are more likely to be married or in long term relationships, so if they are on a dating site they are most likely cheating.

[@toomuchinformation]

Research shows that 43% of men on dating apps are married or in an ltr.

[@Sunnybunnypi]

More so for 35+. Most Americans in their 20s aren’t married

[@MelaniaRose]

Trust me it’s horrible in military towns 😅

[@Ourown311]

But men refuse to blame each other for ruining the dating pool for each other

[@CharlieApples]

A relationship where one person feels like they have to wear something humiliating and uncomfortable to please their partner is not “love-filled”. It is coercion-filled and cruel.

[@seabreeze4559]

dehumanisation any of that like a doll stuff

[@TOFFEETASTICC]

Yup. Like Kanye 😕

[@BlackRaven000]

​@@paralegalkche didn't, he knew what he wanted to make her do.

[@Christine_Findlay]

I don’t blame them for not letting the xy in their property. In old age, if I outlast my hubby, my home will be womenfolk only dwelling similar to Golden Girl setup. Absolutely no xys permitted AT ALL

[@FireSilver25]

Same! Eventually I want to do a boarding house type situation and it’ll be for women and girls only.

[@egblund]

Same!

[@masixchell]

🎯

[@fdm2155]

My sister and I are planning to live together eventually.

[@abrandnewday3581]

This is what my bestie and I are planning for our 70s! We are both so done with the men folk and we are loving our peace!

[@constancemercedes701]

I think that some men cannot fathom that not every heterosexual woman wants male attention. I think that some men think that a woman will simply fall over themselves if a man looked in their direction. I think that for most women, getting attention is so common place that it doesn't even matter.

[@karenmiles4431]

They want the world to be a brothel, with every female a sex worker. Preferably with a quota so the women proposition THEM and get into bidding wars.

[@laurah2831]

It’s actually quite freeing when you become ‘invisible’. If you’ve always been invisible or getting sedual attention has been your whole identity, then I can see how that is more upsetting

[@crptnite]

​@@laurah2831the best is when you finally realize that you're only being seen as a sex object anyhow, so you take that out of the equation and become "less attractive" but feel more Beautiful and Seen than ever before 🥰🌻

[@Gabytron]

Not all attention is good attention.

[@aaabbb8812]

Absolutely! Women never have had to be desperate about male attention- we always have it anyway. We have no need to seem sexy to men. We already are.

[@Hebe-ek1ul]

I'm a woman and prefer female neighbours. Women are just easier to live with.

[@darkmage4648]

I'm an Indian woman and honestly, you're the only person I find who really is able to address the patriarchy of my own country. Thank you! It's like you understand!! Thank you.

[@karenmassey8354]

Speaking of coddling boys, I saw a post on insta the other day where a mom was talking about how she puts her 8 year old son in a stroller at Disney. Another mom chimed in and said she’ll keep her child in a stroller until they’re 12. MOTHERS, you have to STOP this. You are severely handicapping your children, particularly your sons. STOP IT.

[@t.shepherd8630]

As a mom of 4 boys one who is 9, girl she tripping ain’t no way 😂🤦🏾‍♀️that’s embarrassing the child for one…

[@legslikewhoa]

Those kids are going to be out of control with resentment when they hit their teens. She’ll regret it.

[@br3669]

how do you even get a 12yo in there?!?!😮 I have a friend who does indeed have a stroller for her 7yo but that's because he has severe cerebral palsy and while he can walk, he NEEDS frequent breaks. They had to buy a specific model that supports the weight of a child that age, and they'll soon have to switch to a wheelchair instead.

[@karenmassey8354]

@@br3669 This is understandable though. I went to the lady’s profile and she had a completely functioning, normal, and typical 8 year old. I was flabbergasted and honestly think mental illness was at play there on the mom’s part.

[@planningandpowerlifting]

I think that my kids stopped riding in strollers around age 3-4. Kids usually want to walk around by themselves unless they have mobility issues. And people with mobility issues usually want to have as much independence as possible.

[@thereasajohnson5540]

Wasting more time with this man (30 years married) should be scarier than any other alternative. Get rid of him. I was married 24 years when I initiated my divorce. I was 48, divorce finalized at 49. Eff that noise.

[@tvelicia]

If you feel comfortable and so inclined, I'm sure your story would be of interest for a BurbnBougie video ❤

[@ralphandleosmom9075]

I had a Jamaican male house cleaner once many years ago. He left my house sparkling. He saved money cleaning houses to get an education. There’s no excuse for anyone (unless they have a physical impairment) to be able to clean.

[@seabreeze4559]

since men have more upper body strength they should be better at cleaning

[@rosethorne9155]

Yep. Speaking as somebody who sometimes has sensory trouble with textures and smells, I bought myself nice cleaning gloves and cleaning agents with scents I like. It's not hard to learn to clean. I'm always floored and then annoyed when guys who are either in college or even have careers say stupid things like, "But I don't know how! Can't you just do it?" Because they CAN and WILL spend hours researching how to install a new computer part, or car part, or how to play a guitar riff, or whatever...

[@vangu2918]

Too many mothers never made sure that their sons could take care of themselves.

[@annectialee3965]

West Indian people are typically very clean. My dad is from Grenada and was always cleaner than my Canadian born mom. Unfortunately, there are some cultures that are dirtier than others. I own a cleaning company and can attest to this.

[@vrichards4363]

Jamaican men are build different when it comes to cleaning and cooking. I've never met a sloppy Jamaican man.

[@nothereyetlost]

😂😂😂😂😂 1:19 remember when they said WOMEN couldn’t get apartments because men were better? Turns out women are better

[@jayogee913]

I've been to single men's houses/apartments over the years. Some of the younger guys seem to be betting better at keeping their places clean, and being better neighbors. But back in the day? I've been in some bachelor's places where I wouldn't sit on the furniture, use the bathroom, or even brush against the wall! I guess their mommy wasn't coming around cleaning the place up! 😆😆🤢🤢

[@daughterofsekhmet81]

@@jayogee913 My ex's apartment was foul. He only cleaned the litterbox once every week or two and you could smell it the second you walked in the door. The floors had never seen a vacuum and there was always a sink full of dirty dishes. I'd go to bake us a pizza and find last week's leftovers in the oven covered with mold. He always asked why I kept my shoes on whenever I came over, and back then I was still trying to be "nice" so I told him oh I just have sensory issues with walking barefoot. But really it was because I didn't want to get all the cat litter that was scattered all over the carpets on my bare feet. He walked barefoot and tracked the litter into the bed too 🤮 The only time his sheets(and most of his clothes) ever got washed is when I did his laundry. And of course he was very _sensitive_ so I had to pretend I was an OCD neat freak who had to obsessively clean to quiet my crazy brain so he wouldn't think I was _judging him_ and get offended. Ugh I don't know how I put up with that crap for almost 3 years. I'm actually not even a clean freak, I'm perfectly fine with basic cleanliness but I've only met two men whose houses I didn't feel the need to wear shoes in- my best friend and my now-husband.

[@Strawberry.Letter23]

I would create a fake profile, try to match him, agree to meet him and then show up and serve him divorce papers.

[@msongy7]

😂😂😂

[@ButterflyBree]

Anyone who would disregard and disrespect their spouse of ten or more years, has already tapped TF out. She needs to be strategic and exit stage left, before he completely betrays her. He's probably been sneaking around for a while.

[@Blech-h9z]

Move in the shadows. They think we're plotters and schemers, let's do it.

[@TiannaEss]

There’s like up to 10 Indian men that live in the house across the street from me. They’re always fighting, blasting their music late at night and are constantly a disturbance on the street.

[@MelaniaRose]

Not surprised 😂 they seem to do this everywhere they go

[@1108-g1q]

India is a big country with many races languages and religions. When you see large groups of men as roommates it's usually because they found each other while looking for a place to live. They aren't from the same group. That also causes more problems. It may be unpleasant to hear Tamil movie songs blasting while you are trying to sleep if you are a Tamilan, but frustration increases when you speak some other Indian lang with no mutual intelligibility. Quiet and courtesty is the order of the day when living in a large number of mixed groups. I lived in an all-ladies boarding house in India during university and it was OK. Edit: I can't remember if it is legal in India to discriminate based on gender but in practice it happens all the time. One of the requirements for job applicants is to attach a recent headshot photo along with details of caste, marital status, and parents and both maternal and paternal sides of grandparents' addresses even if they are not alive. This is done for bg check. It also helps to verify caste. I once saw an ad for a job that stated "no Hindus". He caught media heat but explained that as a Hindu himself with all-Hindu workforce he needed some ppl of other religions who would be willing to work Hindu holidays. Things are different there.

[@daughterofsekhmet81]

Reminds me of that social experiment with children where they put 10 girls together in one house and 10 boys in another then left them alone for 5 days. The girls made chore charts, cooked, cleaned, did group activities, and counseled each other. The boys destroyed the house, lived off cereal and soda, singled out one boy to bully, and had divided into two gangs by the end of the experiment.

[@kimleemoon]

Yeap, the only neighbors I have that are noisy are xy with their music playing loud, revving their motorcycles & car engines. 🙄

[@kimleemoon]

@@daughterofsekhmet81 yeah, I watched that too. The experiment was conducted in England.

[@catbaloo22]

Search for the video “Social Experiment: Boys vs Girls Living Alone - What Happens.” It is very telling as to why landlords are reluctant to rent to bachelors. Parents of the boys must take on the task of properly training their boys lest they grow up to become men with these same terrible behaviors when left unsupervised by adults (i.e. wives, girlfriends or mothers).

[@AIBot929]

Doing some math. she's been with this man since 19 😬 oh girl

[@Petunia3001]

“All women want this:” not me running around all day every day with no makeup and flip flops 😆 wanting my own happiness and self-fulfillment.

[@jayogee913]

I'm on the other end of the spectrum. I love makeup, cute clothes, I dress nicely, wear jewelry, because I enjoy all that stuff. And I love the look on a dude's face when he tries to talk to me and I just roll my eyes and tell him I don't get involved with men anymore because it's too dangerous and it's not worth the risk! Some of them are like "whaaaa.....?"

[@InnerPower4me]

@@jayogee913you still like interacting with them

[@jayogee913]

@@InnerPower4me Honestly, they kind of make my skin crawl at this point. I have male friends and relatives whom I believe to be good, decent respectable people. They speak out against abuse, mysogyny, hate, all that. I really try to believe that they are good people and so far, I think they are. There certainly are good men. But I mean the men who just...make eyes at you and think you'll melt because they're just talking to you and compliment you? It's either guys who have pretty eyes (overrated, no thanks byeee 🤢) or some guy flashing wealth who assumes you are for sale. No. Totally turned off by all that in general. But I'm an old Barbie girl. I love pink, lace, fluff, all that. LOVE IT! I like what I like, and I'm not going to reject the things I think are pretty just because it fits a certain paradigm or stereotype. But it is very interesting to observe men who think you "want" male attention when because you look a certain way, only to find out that no, I'm grossed out, too!

[@TheePrincessBrat]

I mentioned this previously, but there are about as many married men on dating apps as there are single men. No joke. The closer their age is to 30+, the more likely they’re cheating. She says they’ve experienced rough patches, and I’m willing to bet she’s the one doing all the emotional and mental labor to pull them out of those hard times. Meanwhile, he’s running off trying to fill voids with dating apps. Too much of a coward to speak up. Please tell me how cheating will improve his mental health 🙄. 30yrs down the drain, I can’t stand men. They got married really young, now that I’ve done the math. I doubt this is the first time, he’s stepped out or toyed with the idea. Never carry a relationship or give into the sunk cost fallacy. She should plan her exit now. He seems like the type to randomly request a divorce once he settles on a mistress. And I agree with the Redditor that said he would probably abandon her in sickness.

[@73cidalia]

I'd be concerned about those voids he's filling. 😂 Risking also bring STIs home..

[@ann3923]

One of my moms tenants (single dude) cut a hole in a bathroom door for his cat. Didn't ask, nothing. Not even a normal cat door, just a hole. Was so confused when my mom didn't like it and demanded payment for damages. Another one (also single dude) was like an ideal tenant. Then one day he just disappeared. Took all his things and just left without paying for like two months. Abandoned his cat tho. Just left her locked in an empty flat. No food, no water, nothing. Didn't even tell us he's leaving. Just left her there. So it's only couples and single women now.

[@gstrathmore194]

As a woman landlord, and as a half-South Asian, I understand the no bachelor policy. Just like a lot of these places, I didn't use to have that policy, but after a series of men tenants who were filthy to the point of allowing vermin infestation and/or destructive or dangerous to the structure of the home (breaking doors or windows out of recklessness, storing explosive material in the house), I switched to women-only. Female tenants are not without their own issues. For example, some of them from pampered backgrounds (all whyte) expect me, a half-Black half-South Asian, to be their servant woman. I have had a couple of stellar men tenants, but unfortunately bad men tenants can cause so much damage. By the way, some of the filthiest apartments I've been in -- with the exception of those of drug addicts -- have been those of young South Asian men. I know very few South Asian men who clean up after themselves. If their house is clean, they almost certainly have a woman doing it -- either a maid, a wife, or their mother.

[@seabreeze4559]

shared a kitchen with some, they literally piled old plates in the sink and had to be threatened after it had been like that for MONTHS, it was attracting things

[@blkberrymolasses]

​@@seabreeze4559....ugh that's gross

[@Sunnybunnypi]

I’m shook by the women who expect you to act like a maid?? Is this an ultra wealthy thing? I’m American of mixed descent and a landlord, and the worst ive gotten is tenants who don’t know how to unclog a drain or toilet properly and want a handyman for everything. The only time I’ve heard of landlords doing anything like cleaning or cooking is in Sherlock fkin Holmes, a book from the 19th century

[@gstrathmore194]

​@@Sunnybunnypi Not exactly ultra-wealthy but it primarily caters to students who attend an expensive university. There are rarely impoverished students, but the backgrounds can vary. Some are from very pampered backgrounds. Some are from "regular" upper middle-class backgrounds.

[@toomuchinformation]

@@gstrathmore194 Are you from the States?

[@pishtash88]

I lived in my home for years in a nice, peaceful neighborhood. Never any issues. I let my 2 nephews move in and suddenly I'm getting texts and calls at work from my neighbors that my nephews are outside fighting or they have friends over being loud. I had to put a lock box on the thermostat because my bill would be so high. When I finally moved, I had holes in the wall, closet door broken, filthy carpet and bb's everywhere from them shooting bb gums. So I totally understand not wanting to rent to bachelors.

[@betsywilliamsonasmr]

Also, this whole thing about all women. I am asexual and most certainly do not want to be sexy for them. I had an ex partner who bought me lingerie for my birthday. I made him return it. I told him he bought that for himself and not me.

[@AlluminaOnyxia]

I always thought that I would one day find interest in having lingerie as a part of my one day I would fall in love fantasy. The fact that the bar is so low for men makes it impossible to develop attraction in the way where lingerie would make sense to me. That would be for the relationship that has not occurred. I've been asked by exes to dress more salacious for them. I just told them that I'm not into that. They didn't excite me to do things exclusively for their interests. For a guy to get himself a gift for your birthday... 🙃

[@daughterofsekhmet81]

I will die on the hill that lingerie is the #1 worst, most selfish, thoughtless gift ever. It's no different than Homer buying Marge a bowling ball. I told my husband I will pick out pieces I feel comfortable in and wear them for him sometimes, but I better not _ever_ receive lingerie on birthdays and Christmas instead of real gifts.

[@OO9O9]

​@@daughterofsekhmet81but the thing is do these males wear lingerie for their wives? Why is it always women are the ones who need to perform?

[@mafp22w]

Asexual is correct. Woman above says heterosexual with no interest in men. Did not make sense.

[@oblivionslight1346]

Growing up with family who had somewhat of a purity culture mindset, that last post threw me for a loop. I got so used to hearing, that all women naturally want to be modest and submit to a “provider/protector.” Then this mofo says all women want to be sexy. 🥴 You can’t win with these dudes, so don’t even try.

[@seabreeze4559]

they're speaking it into existence, it's witchcraft

[@nothereyetlost]

That’s because whatever benefits them and other men in the present is the only truth they recognize

[@jayogee913]

They're mistaken. Plenty of women did/still do say that they want to submit to a PROVIDER means they want a rich dude who pays for all their ish! 🤣🤣🤣 I mean yeah, anyone (male or female) would LOVE to land a rich partner. The problem with a lot of these manosphere guys is that they think trad women want to submit to ANY man! No, as shown by that Butker football guy, it's the rich dudes who do well under patriarchy, while all the rest of the regular men get left in the dust! And they aren't going to realize that until it's too late.

[@briskettacos]

If something "came naturally" to women we would see it in every culture with no coercion or social or religious reinforcement.

[@BLKfootIndian]

😂what provider? Men ain never been providers! Church, welfare office and social security subsidized subpar Males 😂

[@akiram6609]

I bet they would have no problems renting to bears. Bears are probably cleaner. 😂😂

[@beingilluminous]

I absolutely admit one of the reasons I was willing to overlook many of my partners aspects that would be a challenge was because he had cleaning supplies, his own nice apartment, have been living alone for five years and welcomed me and my design in. He couldn’t understand why I was over the moon to meet a man who had a Costco membership and cleaning supplies in bulk. He couldn’t understand why I was thrilled that he cleans up the bathroom and his kitchen each evening. He couldn’t understand why I said I felt like I won the lottery when he thanked me for a meal and cleaned up after I made it. That being said, I am so grateful that we are shifting from the perspective that learning how to take care of ourselves is to be outsourced. This gives me a lot of inspiration to believe the world has a chance to shift globally rather than in pockets, fighting itself.

[@Greenplanet949]

I remember when I found my late husband’s dating profile and that he “was looking for adventure.” Yes, they are such worthless, character free zones.

[@ladywolfwolf]

During my time online (so far) I have made a collage of dikpiks, 6' high and 9' wide. Every pic is from a different man. I finally got fed up with this. When they asked me for a pic, I sent them one. Of a used tampon.

[@risitascositas1699]

😲😳🤯 Brilliant!!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🥰

[@seabreeze4559]

nah just make it known you'll post any unwanted pics online on a gay site, and possibly to their mother

[@blkberrymolasses]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@vangu2918]

😂

[@rtphotos4691]

A friend of mine used to send them back photos of a cheese grater. 😂

[@Ojhfdxhhgg]

I have been a landlord and i tell real estate agents i would not allow single male tenants to o rent my House due to their inability to maintain the house...they literally destroy it...from Australia

[@snippetx1632]

Can a man please define "love" and "emotional connection/intimacy" for me? Im think that's what im having such a hard time wrapping my head around. I do NOT understand why lingerie would add to the "love" component of sex. Sexy? Yes. Desire? Yes. Adventurous? Sure. Fun? Absolutely. Love??? Not seeing what that has to do with love.

[@seabreeze4559]

your humiliation for them is proof of love for them

[@toomuchinformation]

Men define "love" and especially "unconditional love" as a woman having no boundaries, being self sacrificing and a martyr.

[@abba9265]

The last guy coerced his ex into wearing something she didn’t like for his own enjoyment. Who wants to bet the sex was only good for him?

[@MissBrri]

As an Airbnb host, I can also agree that men are more troublesome to house. All of my worst guests were men. Damaged items, extra dirty, checked out late, and left a lot of stuff behind. I had an older male who thought that because the listing has a washer & dryer available to use that I was going to wash, iron, and fold his clothes for him. 😂 Hotels don't even do that, especally not for $30 a night stays.

[@jessicanorris3614]

Lime green gee string sounds hideous. Sometimes I'm reminded of what awful taste nem have and why their opinions about us are so inconsequential

[@raecarter8285]

Makes me laugh as this isn't the first story I heard involving a man in a lime green speedo 😂🤦🏿‍♀️ The story for me came from an ex who was in a military field exercise, one of the men was changing right in the middle of the tent and everybody basically saw him in nothing but the green speedo. Ex came home all traumatized 😂😂

[@sunidaze]

Landlords over in India are just allowed the say thr quiet part out loud. For example: Not my experience, but I read in landlord forums about how some in the US proudly refuse to rent to single moms because they say we all have knuckle head 'baby daddies', and they try to disqualify you or just ghost you.

[@magicalsimmy]

There was an apartment building across from my house that had a landlord who only had female tenants. He said he found men to be problematic, that they always brought drama or problems (violence, yelling, parties, property damage, etc), whereas his female tenants did not. There was a dude in my old apartment building who deliberately caused thousands of dollars worth of damage - he cut the wiring to the stove, the thermostat and the fridge - when he was asked to leave after a DV incident with his GF. My friend’s house was TRASHED by her male tenant, who originally moved in with his wife and daughter. He was abusive and crazy, so the wife left with the child. The dude squatted on my friend’s property for a year and a half (she was in the courts trying to get him evicted, but there was backlog from COVID). After he was finally escorted out by cops, he came BACK that night, kicked down the door and trashed the house even more. She had to sell her home for a fraction of its value due to the damage this asshole left behind.

[@ShineOnBenevolentSun]

I got stepsons who hadn't been taught and balked at being made to. I told them they'd never lack for a paying job if they knew how to cook and clean; there's always hungry people and their isht to deal with.

[@seabreeze4559]

"made to" like they are owed a slave?

[@rtphotos4691]

When I was in the army, I was in my medical training AFTER basic, as in after the time the army forces you to clean the barracks with non-stop inspections, and one of the instructors made an announcement to our unit "remember to FLUSH the toilet." He was talking about the male barracks. He even gave some free advice to them by telling them to carry some chewing gum with them because their breath stank. 😂😂

[@daysoftheboo]

A lot of rooms for rent will not take men either, if you look on newspaper ads or ads for rooms for rent a lot and say females only, but who can blame them who wants a stranger man in their home

[@robbbaseee5081]

There’s this show on Netflix called worst roommate and the first season has several examples of women renting a room to a male and almost being murdered by him. One of them k*led the woman’s cat. It was insane.

[@daysoftheboo]

@@robbbaseee5081 I don't have cable or Netflix but I know from personal experience my ex is a perfect example of why nobody should ever rent a room to a male men like him are the reason why men cannot be trusted for renting a room and beyond

[@seabreeze4559]

illegal in england so smart landlords insist on person to person interviews

[@toomuchinformation]

​@@robbbaseee5081I used to rent out my spare room to foreign students (there was a college not far from me). I only ever took in women. NO WAY would I rent to ANY male.

[@pishtash88]

My male coworker has his home listed for rent. He even said he doesn't want to rent to men.

[@Alex-mc5yn]

My relative has worked as a realtor, this is not uncommon in my part of the world (Eastern Europe) to not want to rent to bachelors. The landlord would ask the realtor privately, so that there will be no claims of discrimination, no threats, etc. Men do tend to leave the apartments they used to rent in a bad state. Not all of them, but enough for it to be a stereotype. Most landlords want to rent to women, and often women with kids. We actually have a law that makes it insanely hard to evict a tenant with a kid unless they did something really extreme. And still, most women with kids don't take advantage of that, don't wreck the place, don't refuse to leave, etc. And kid in the eyes of landlord is a guarantee that the tenant would stay for a little longer because kids need stability and parents prefer to live near their kids' school and such.

[@brandy4530]

The tenant issue is crazy to me. I have three kids, and when we travel I try my best to leave the place reasonably clean, but with kids, it just is what it is. We put the garbage in the trash can, and all of the towels piled in the same spot, and I feel like that is basic behavior. How is it possible that these men are dirtier than a family of five? It sounds like these guys are getting drunk and damaging property, and not just leaving their food trash everywhere. I find that to be extremely bad behavior, not just filthy.

[@rosethorne9155]

You would probably be horrified to see what apartments shared by multiple guys look like, a lot of the time. Look up Male Living Situation. Some of them are just severely spartan, but others are horror show sets that people just happen to inhabit in real life. 😵‍💫🤢

[@user-kpkxgtj]

The thing about imposing costs for misbehavior may work when it comes to property damages, but how would they impose costs when the misbehavior is towards other tenants?

[@childfreescallywag]

EXACTLY!!! I’ve had issues with stalking and harassment from male tenants and maintenance men when I lived in apartment buildings and nothing was done about it.

[@seabreeze4559]

@@childfreescallywag workers case the joint and are notorious for "offering" to buy various stuff despite how THIS ISNT A SHOP SIR. sometimes they try to steal said item if you don't watch it.

[@user-kpkxgtj]

@@childfreescallywag that's exactly the type of thing I had in mind, and I'm sorry you've experienced that. I've had neighbors at 2 different properties playing music loud enough to keep me awake, leaving me groggy at work the next day. Had a neighbor at one property throw his trash on the communal stairwell because it wasn't collected on garbage day as he had refused to pay the dues. Had a different neighbor bang on my door threatening to beat me up because I opened the compound gate to allow 2 girls he was beating up to escape. The same guy is a messy tenant even to the landlord due to delayed rent payments and refusal to pay his water and electricity bills, but the landlord won't do anything about it, it's weird. Then there's the dudes sharing a house who beat up a utility company worker who had come to take a meter reading... Just writing this comment I've realised that every messy neighbor I have ever had with the exception of one has been a single XY, or a group of 2 / 3 single XYs sharing a house. How would one impose a cost for this kind of mess?

[@twocents8355]

I had a landlord who refused to rent to single men. He was upfront about it, and he didn't care about housing discrimination laws. He'd been burned bad by men who destroyed property, including one man who butchered a deer in an apartment, leaving congealed blood throughout the kitchen and living room when he left. (This was in Florida, so ...) At another building, I made a case for a break on the rent, pointing to my gender (female) and age (old) to persuade the landlord I was a good bet for respecting the property and being a stable tenant. I got the break! I suggest other single ladies unencumbered by men try this.

[@LuvsTruth-fs5nd]

1st part: It’s my opinion that when it comes to subjects like this men are clueless. All they know is their own behavior and they will project that onto other men as is evidenced by the comments in the video. They need to understand that if you don’t discuss a subject with others, then they have no clue how anyone else behaves. 2nd part: 30 years is long enough in a marriage to someone looking/cheating behind your back. And, there is a chance of getting part of his retirement in a divorce. So, I say divorce him and move on living your best life.

[@thekameru6058]

I’d call that hot girl post almost cute, if it came from the angle of ‘bathe your woman in compliments and affection and you might both be surprised how she blooms’ but it really fucking isn’t about that is it. It can never be about that.

[@AlluminaOnyxia]

🫠 NEVER...

[@briskettacos]

If she's from a socially conservative culture, he could threaten to send her explicit photos to her family and friends in order to blackmail or coerce her. Women from India and Islamic countries have been killed for this.

[@OO9O9]

Doing humaiging things for males is blooming?

[@catchingamuse3857]

Sadly, it doesn't surprise me. When I bought my place, it was between me and some guy. My elderly neighbors (2 women, 1 man) were all glad that I was able to buy it. From the conversations with the handymen, it seemed that a lot of the bachelor's and elderly (unfortunately) don't have a tidy home to the point of it being a fire hazard.

[@BinaBecker]

On #2 specifically: Cheating men tend to accuse their women of cheating on them. This guy's red flag is inching its way up the pole, and it's only a matter of time before he's flying it openly.

[@DoctorJaneDoe]

Indian scenario : My uncle a landlord was called by his neighbors as his college going tenants were having a drunken brawl at 2:00am . He kicked them out next day. As a former tenant, l was able to get rental acvomodation easily with following rules - not cooking non veg, no alcohol, no smoking, no boys, not coming back after 11 pm, paying extra for water/ electricity if a guest stays more than 3 days., Clean the house myself or hire someone to do that . and pay for any maintenance work (AC) etc . My male colleague was rejected by the same landlord .

[@FS-qk5uq]

You got scammed Not sure if you're in America but some of the things you listed are illegal, I wouldn't be bragging in your position.

[@DoctorJaneDoe]

@@FS-qk5uq Iam in India, private property , their rules. The rules l followed are quite the norm here for women tenants. Iam not bragging, lam just stating the rules. On my side the only rule was that only his wife would communicate with me, right from showing the house to everything later. Also they lived in the same property. Later on the landlady “Aunty” brought me food when l was sick, and her son fixed up my laptop for free. Previous to that house, the ones l had seen had beer bottles and cigarettes butts thrown in the corridor. It was a mixed residential complex, both males and females living on that building. I don’t think l could have adjusted there, also l would not have been able to invite my family to visit. Men and women living relationship is still a taboo topic for old people, and also openly smoking and alcohol. My family would have been scandalized, and would have pushed me to move to another place or to come home. Mind you, lam an MD, with my own money and still follow family rules. Also let me tell you about the time when l took PG (paid guests)acvomodation when l was doing a yoga course, they asked ( PG landlord , not the yoga school ) and confirmed my caste before assigning me my Roomate ( as the Roomate’s family requested for a similar caste/class/ background. I was new to that city, and without much options accepted their rules.

[@weaveandwelfaretookblackme]

I'm confused you can't cook meat and you have a curfew wtf . You renting from your parents?

[@ccannon1]

For story 1: I think they should bring back boarding houses. The house provides boarding, utilities, cleaning and some meals and the tenet basically rents a room weekly/monthly. Basically like a dorm for adults, but it doesn’t solve the behavioral problems though

[@seabreeze4559]

apparently they had lots of stealing and such

[@Indyawillis85]

There are still tons of room and board houses out here. My family runs 2 of them. We only rent to people who get SSI or Social Security though.

[@BlackRaven000]

There are plenty of privately owned and run hostels apart from college/univ accommodations in India, most are gender specific. It's the dudes who want to rent alone who may encounter people scared to rent to single men.

[@Jac527]

Unfortunately this bachelors also applies to my brother and father. My mother refused to get him a abnb or the house rent because she know my father doesn’t clean after himself. He always did the husbandonment to her and yet claims that my mother told him she “loves” cleaning. I learnt from them that 4B is the better lifestyle for me.

[@paperorpaper]

“Husbandonment” I love it!

[@TititoDeBologay]

The economy, property manager, errrbody is telling them to sort their shit out. Yet they expect women to do it for them.

[@Sleipnirseight]

Story 2 - they've been together since they were 19? People grow and CHANGE _so much_ in those early 20's. I'm never surprised when people who get married young, before they have life experience and have figured out who they are as an INDIVIDUAL, don't work out.

[@abisolaabisola7357]

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[@LammyHowl]

Men: "Girls all want to have good nookie" Me: *cringes in asexual*

[@DianaPrinceitiswhatitis]

1. Good more places globally will do the same, but frame it under guise as something else. 2. Divorce him now. Retain an attorney. He’s playing in her face. He would leave her if she got sick or needed care after surgery. He’s been looking or has been cheating that’s why he’s accused her of her having one. Protect your finances and quietly leave then have him served with divorce papers. 3. He swears women think how he claims women think. This is why women have opted out. That’s why women that do OF are running these menz pockets.😂😂😂

[@toscadonna]

In ‘99 when I was at EOBC, one of the other lieutenants was routinely eating so much food then backing up the toilet in his apartment that the Army had to threaten to evict him before he’d stop the nonsense. There were maids in the building, and they’d be treated to sewage soaked carpets in his room (along with all of his other trash) at least once per week. I cannot even compute WTF he was thinking to be such a slob.

[@betsywilliamsonasmr]

I am American and have lived in India. I am not surprised that in Mumbai they don’t want sloppy single men moving in. Additionally, some of these spaces are turning down upwardly mobile men. These men would have to income to pay someone to cook and clean for them. (Mumbai is one of the most expensive cities in the world to live in and property is expensive there.) Additionally, it is common for men from rural areas to go to larger cities for work. Often times their wives and kids stay behind at least temporarily. If a man works in a restaurant or hotel (maybe not 5 star) they actually live on the property. These men do know how to cook and clean. Whether or not they do at home with their families, I can’t say.

[@Alexcatchh]

My family owns many houses they don't rent out for men

[@Alicia-rn8bg]

Cheaters always project their guilty conscience into others

[@t.f.6297]

About the man wanting refund, he does not realize that her time was the gift. The menz are doing a wonderful job of keeping men single. This is why in medieval times only nobles had wives, the male serfs were either servants or forced to go to war or enuchs. 😅

[@Indyawillis85]

I manage my family's room and board in CA and we always prefer female renters. They're safer to rent to in many ways.

[@kcourtney6826]

The last op is low key talking about “under age girls” not women imo there has been this push to normalize being a predator.

[@rellie_90]

*3rd story:* He’s a whole wacko 😒

[@seabreeze4559]

it's a trafficking thing, a lot of romantic overtures are control moves, even voodoo

[@baileeturner3041]

Thanks!

[@JanelleC]

@4:13 “men need to learn how to stop expecting others to mother them” is PRECISELY why the famous song “Bread and Roses” had its one line rewritten… from- “As we come marching, marching, we battle too for men for they are women's children and we mother them again” to- “As we come marching, marching, we battle too for men, for they are in the struggle and together we shall win”

[@ashassassin]

Story 1. It isn't discrimination. If they allow married men they are following the laws. They're not discriminating based on gender or sex they are basing it on marital status

[@glamour89]

Yep, when I was still with my ex husband, our landlord liked me because I was the only one who was dealing with reporting any maintenances, look after the house, make sure the bins outside were kept clean and not overflowing with rubbish. The moment, I left him and that flat. I found out that our landlord kicked them out due to complaints, overflowing rubbishes and the awful stated that house has been left!

[@Lysistrata2025]

Creepy night is aptly named

[@julesb2415]

I wish renters would do this in the states. All of the loudest, most inconsiderate, dirties neighbors I had while living in college apartments were men.

[@V.Hansen.]

I keep having the thought of requiring weekly maid service to be paid for, but those that don’t need it don’t get it added to their bill if the maid goes in and finds it clean. Also, eyes inside once a week keeps anything from getting out of hand.

[@carolynmerritt7100]

Being raised to do these things is no longer an excuse. As an adult it is your responsibility to learn how to do it; ask someone, ask KZbin, google. No reason to be a jerk in this day and time.

[@OACole]

Sounds like the House for Bachelors will soon be akin to the homes for orphans and the sickly 😮

[@timarigirl32]

I feel that men like that in the last part of the video should do humanity a favor and stay single the rest of their life. I notice that rarely does a man like that change those behaviors and thoughts. Society as a whole does a lot better without them. They are not fit to be a good husband to a wife or a good father to children. Sounds a lot like they took in plenty of redpill theory…. That type of thinking doesn’t work for me.

[@locsoluv94]

Third thing: I kinda see what he's coming from (*strong* kinda), but he's going about it all wrong. I once saw a quote that said that if men didn't exist, then women would dress sexier. Because we wouldn't have to deal with sexual harassment as much. I'm willing to bet that many women form how we dress around "modesty." If we didn't have to worry about modesty, then we would dress more for comfort and self-expression and leave it at that. Now he's still going about it all wrong. I know that I *could* have an OF and make good money on it, but I don't want to do that kind of work. I also *could* go to medical school and become a doctor and make good money, but I don't want to do that kind of work.

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

This more so an issue with young bachelors under 30. It's a problem in East Africa too. As a landlord, my preference is couples or single moms.

[@rtphotos4691]

18:45 "he thinks he dropped the mike." 😂😂😂😂😂

[@eveharris30]

A gallon of urine under the bed in a jug of course.

[@seitanbeatsyourmeat666]

We had military guys in Afghanistan that would head home and not just leave their rooms a disaster (trash, old clothes, literal dirt, old food) but plastic bottles full of urine. One guy had dozens and dozens What is wrong with these guys? It stinks and is 100% weird

[@seabreeze4559]

in the olden days in London of no dogs no irish signs, women were preferred tenants, either single or widowed so go ahead guys, make discrimination okay again?

[@toomuchinformation]

Don't forget "No Blacks".

[@r3dwulf922]

I watch a lot of gym influencers, and I've noticed the ones that are males while they travel, they can't get air bnbs because they're don't rent to younger men because they trash the home. This is in America already in its own way

[@user-ii3vn8tn3q]

Women gentrify. We sweep, hang curtains, plant gardens. That's why landlords like women tenants. We take care of things and make HOMES

[@fawnmalone410]

One can live a lifetime with someone and not really know them...!

[@veronicamunoz31]

My sister once rented one room in her house for this two guys because they were struggling and she wanted to help. There was cockroaches after like a week.

[@BurbNBougie]

Oh my gawd. How long did she let them stay?

[@veronicamunoz31]

@@BurbNBougie Two months. My sister is cool so she asked them to clean first, after the first month she told them they had one month to find another place. I still don't understand why they didn't just clean (?) like just clean your room at least. Two men couldn't clean one room (sorry for broken English)

[@IsThisRealLif]

That first one is concerning cuz could he have been stepping out on her? Like he can bring home diseases or something! She needs to be careful! In many ways.

[@vrichards4363]

7:12 he wanted her to see that. She needs to leave.

[@sistergoodstuff]

Scary, gross, pathetic, weird….

[@TrueOrigins1618]

I found every way to legally discriminate and decline single straight men, unless the were in the military. I also decline families with more than 2 kids & preferred single woman retirees 🤷🏾‍♀️.

[@justhereforagoodtime88]

Id like to know how these landlords avoid getting sued for discrimination. Its illegal to deny leases based on gender, sexuality, race, religion etc. i moved into a female only floor and it changed within a year to allow men because they cant discriminate

[@BurbNBougie]

They're not in the US

[@twocents8355]

I doubt a single guy would sue over being denied housing. Men know how they are.

[@min_tea_]

😂😂 “weenie pics” 😂😂😂

[@crismcdonough2804]

For the woman who found info in her man's phone. Smash it that will get your point across

[@dr_ltorres8289]

In the U.S, the Fair Housing Act protects renters from discrimination based on Race, Sex ( including gender identity) Color, National Origin, Religion or Disability. So, landlords in the US can’t ‘ do whatever they want.’

[@BurbNBougie]

I'm unsure of the point you're making since this is India

[@kellyroyds5040]

​@@BurbNBougieMost likely responding to the guy that said in an earlier comment that in the US you can do whatever you want as a landlord.

[@Christine_Findlay]

@@kellyroyds5040You can do whatever you want… can they prove they were discriminated against? Unless you have evidence, good luck in court. 😂😂

[@kellyroyds5040]

@@Christine_Findlay Obviously you think that discrimination is funny. Hopefully you'll be lucky enough to experience it one day.

[@carolynmerritt7100]

Lingeries 😂 pronunciation is laan-zhr-ay. I used to say lingerie too 😂

[@BurbNBougie]

I'm joking. I know how to pronounce the word.

[@gleebybooer]

5:04 I really want to agree but we really need to be careful with that kind of logic. That can easily be twisted around for certain minorities to be deemed “undesireable”. I understand preventing men and transgenders for safety reasons, but this could also hurt real minorities and women. edited - this comment is not meant to be transphobic I am trans

[@Christine_Findlay]

The logic is fine. Perhaps instead of being over reliant on other groups, the minorities that you are highlighting should position themselves to be landlords or own property. Your comment is that of someone with a poverty outlook.

[@gleebybooer]

@@Christine_Findlay so if someone has a business that says “no blacks allowed” it’s black peoples fault for not owning more businesses in the first place? What the h*ll are you on about?

[@Cynophileandavianenthusiast]

Umm... Christine's comment....😡

[@gleebybooer]

@@Cynophileandavianenthusiast yeah😳 like girl there are laws against that looool

[@mrdesperado3003]

@@Cynophileandavianenthusiast yeah her comment was very ignorant 😮 “poverty mindset” ? Come onnnnn

[@zedmak]

Maid and man servants are cheap in India I don’t understand how they can leave the place a mess.

[@arayaheaven6165]

15:00, Now Burb, why would you pronounce lingerie like det?? 😭😂😂

[@BurbNBougie]

Bc I'm silly 😜

[@honeybabylove13]

Wow that's why most roommate situations say female only. My gutter mind thought it was something freaky lol l. Men are just that dirty 😅

[@Orb-w3aver]

🧡

[@IsThisRealLif]

I think that last guy meant to be positive but came out all wrong lol.. he was saying all girls can be sexy and I think that's nice but what the eff is he talking about with the only fans?! I don't think it's just women, I think most people want to be attractive, in general... That doesn't mean they want an OF or even want to be the hottest, people just care about their looks in general.. sexlife he's talking about just seems like how people should be when they are in a relationship together.. the sex of the couple depend on the couple...... Just because they dress plainly in public doesn't mean they don't like being sexy w their S.O, so that shouldn't be a surprise really... Did he expect people to walk around in like a rubber suit or lingerie 😂

[@onycagayle4485]

❤

[@esemusic8294]

It's lon-jer-ae= Lingerie, sis ❤

[@BurbNBougie]

Lol 😂 I know.

[@esemusic8294]

@BurbNBougie Okay! Not trying to offend you at all ❤️

[@BurbNBougie]

I'm just being silly sometimes

[@esemusic8294]

@@BurbNBougie 🤣👌

[@plinko84]

"Ling-gurr-ree" or "Victoria's Secretions" - Wanda (In Living Color)

[@4BWVan]

Lingerie is pronounced "lahn-zjer-ay"

[@BurbNBougie]

I know. I'm not being serious.

[@roccafille]

It is really not ok to ban a group from getting a place to live. Doesn't matter what group it is. That is discriminating. If they will do it to another group they will do it to you. It is really dissapointing to see this message supported.

[@BurbNBougie]

You can be disappointed. Not my problem that these people have been such terrible tenants that their demographic is discriminated against.

[@MN-hv5xv]

If you’re a filth trap you should live in a dump!!

[@BurbNBougie]

That's a great comment, cat. Very fleshed out. Thanks

[@crismcdonough2804]

You will change your mind once you own a rental property that's been trashed.