3 Things Narcissists Fear The Most (& Don't Want You to Know 🤫)

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

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[@jadeblues357]

I can’t get back the things they took the biggest mistake I made was trusting family their greed the only reason they got away with it is because by the time I recognized it it was too difficult for me to get out only because I’m wheelchair-bound and I was born disabled but I got out! and yes I am truly alone! I’m OK with that. i’m letting you know this because there areSituation that might be worse than divorce.

[@SW-kp5zc]

I am scared and I am hurting physically and I have not let my spinal fusions heal with a bone stimulator and other surgeries and getting hit buy a car crossing on a cross walk and now I am in soooooo much pain and his birthday is coming up along with my son and my brother and my father is today and I can’t literally do anything right or whatever… whatever I say is wrong, or do… I care way way too much but I Also help in this AMOUNT OF PAIN INTERNALLY AND OMG I CAN DO THIS ANY MORE I AM SO DONE I WISH I WAS NEVER BORN!!! I HAD MY OWN APARTMENT WITH MY SON AND DEF CAT AND I DID IT WITH EVERY LAST DIME I HAD WITH NO CAR!!!! And he took it away from me!!!!

[@SW-kp5zc]

No I want to go!!! Because I am getting worse and worse and I can’t do this over 7 years!!!!! He forced me to marry him because he needed a bankruptcy and omg I had no idea I literally just had two sipinal surgeries in one year 4 all together and a gallbladder surgery and HIS MOTHER AND HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS SAID IN THE BEGINNING……. OMG I DO NOT TRUST HIM AS FAR AS I CAN THROW HIM! His mother went to every surgery and got me when I was fresh out of a MAJOR SURGERY… and drilled me!!! And she and his family and friends say omg you are the only one he has been with for over a month!! He screwed a woman got her pregnant and left her and not even 6 months another one Was pregnant and he had two kids and he was court mandated to see on of them because of his drug dealing and doing them and his daughter was living with him omg and people were coming in and of of that place!!! He should be locked up in prison forever because I have more then this!!! He is a narcissistic intelligent sociopath!!!!

[@SW-kp5zc]

His mother always said to me please please don’t keep cleaning and stuff that house or whatever is GOING TO BE THERE LONG AFTER YOU!!! Hint hint and I never got it until like over a year ago and my stuff is getting stolen and my wedding ring is gone and he go the money back from it and I can’t read the taxes before I sign anything omg omg omg he has me DEEP and I AM AFRAID AND EXTREMELY SICK!!! I can’t goto the hospital because it’s not convenient for him omg it’s horrible I AM IN HELL

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

@@adamsapple5355 absolutely zero reason to look at star signs for prevalence of narcissism. Focus on behaviour not diagnosis or whether they are a Gemini

[@yathome5596]

Accountability is NON EXISTENT AT ALL. It’s insane how they refuse to accept their behaviors.

[@SweeetAction]

They will pretend to accept accountability but it’s totally fake and later will try and justify it or go back on any ownership they previously took.

[@1010QUEEN7]

Never he ruined my life

[@taraarrington2285]

Yes I have a whole team of these creatures after me like a hundred against one is ethical or fair in the first place but then they try to twist your mind all up and everything else it is gaslighting on steroids and then they want you to own their horribleness to you

[@natphillips5109]

Totally agree my ex keeps doing it then runs off blocks mr when I call him out

[@AprilPettiford81]

Exactly!!!!

[@clarevela8181]

I feel like they are demons manifested in human form

[@lastjob2011]

Absolutely! For at their heart, narcissists are evil. They are calculating, inconsiderate, selfish, deceitful. I thank God I did not have children! Thus after the divorce, no need to interact with my former husband. I haven't seen or talked to him since September 2016!

[@beneiseoleinmheart5614]

IS...!!!

[@adamsapple5355]

I agree whole HEARTEDLY. I can actually see them every time one takes over. How? Looking in her eyes cause each one has a different stare.

[@Kingdom_of_God777]

That’s the truth 100%

[@danilaroche1156]

They are definitely being used by demons. This is biblical. Jesus cast out these evil spirits. Steer clear of these demonized people because unless they repent...DANGER.

[@lastjob2011]

I recommend the movie Gaslight. There are two versions. The one I recommend is from the 40s starring Ingrid Bergman. It really opened my eyes to what my husband had systematically been doing over the years. Narcissists are truly evil people. They are always calculating, always trying to work an angle to get the upper hand. No empathy or concern for others, master manipulators, and liars.

[@denisemcdaid5892]

The Puppetmaster on Netflix is true story that hasn't ended to date

[@rosalindhayes1363]

Yes my husband is the same way divorcing him soon. I can not wait. Right as we speak he is with another woman right now on my birthday. After I celebrated his. SMH but he wants half of my retirement.

[@anonlarson2875]

2 Timothy 3 people

[@pyarkaaloo]

💯💯💯💯

[@ND-or5so]

They blame us and abuse us for either what they didn't or for what somebody else did.

[@-SleepyNurse-]

17 years with a narcissist and I barely know how to think for myself anymore. Thanks for the video

[@rebeccaredhead7144]

Hope you heal soon so you can enjoy the rest of your life 🥰🥰🌷🌷

[@-SleepyNurse-]

@@rebeccaredhead7144 thank you

[@aurielford2958]

Sending healing vibes and prayers to see you through

[@laura53ize]

I’m trying to leave,Lord help me.

[@-SleepyNurse-]

@@laura53ize you can do it. It takes such a long time

[@magicallymalicious01]

My narcissistic ex didn't understand that no matter how much love I had for the Good side of him I was never afraid to lose him because there was no way I was going to stick around and let him take me down.

[@quietstorm6488]

I had to leave my congregation or risk losing my relationship with my God. I could not pretend to not know the things that were going on right in front of my eyes. It was one of the hardest things I had to do in my life. I felt so alone. On August 3rd God gave me the opportunity AND the strength to physically move. HE made a way! I still get scared when I think about the depths of narcissism. I especially feel anxious when I notice strangers (A.K.A 'flying monkeys') attempting to keep daily tabs on me. But I pray (even cry) about it. And I'm remembering more to calmly hold my breath for ( 5) Mississippi's. I also switch up my routines. But mostly, I CONTINUE smiling...SHOULDERS BACK! That's what my coach, Jessie Cabrera taught me. And guess what? It WORKS!😄 Thank you as well Ms. Caroline. I see that I can learn much from YOU too. 💐

[@LightofLucifer-m8q]

Did God happen to give you any special dreams beforehand?

[@lovestolaugh]

My husband of two months is showing many signs of narcissism. I am mortified and dont know what to do! This is horrible! He also does something like trauma based dependency stuff too like constantly having our house in turmoil and chaos, like our physical belongings...and he is the answer. He (thinks) he is. He throws away stuff of mine because he knows it upsets me. He's super clingy and always has to hug or hold me and tells me he loves me like 50 times a day sometimes, but he doesn't SHOW me he loves me. He does the opposite. But on the outside looking in, no one can see it but me. This is gonna be a tough road for me. We didn't know each other long before getting married, and now I'm regretting not dating for longer. But honestly, I don't think I would have known any of these things about him if we didnt live together first....so it's all good. I pray that God will give me the answer and path to take, cause I know that the only way out of a narcissistic relationship is a miracle from God cause a narcissist will never change. UPDATE: He is gone and we are done. I broke it off with him and we got a divorce. I think a lot of you are missing that in my comments here. So let's celebrate FREEDOM FROM NARCISSISTS! Invest in yourselves!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@okeyyyy2191]

Run run run

[@CF-wn2ce]

Mine went 4 years before the next aggressive outburst. This is just the beginning.

[@susieq8008]

People rarely if ever change...they ALWAYS revert back to the way they really are.

[@savewaterdrinkwine3802]

Please leave now while you are young and can start again. After 30yrs he left me because I fought back once, now it's all my fault!!!!! They will never change for long, please believe me ❤

[@negativeaffirmations69]

Sounds like borderline-ish

[@Babyxoxo813]

Watching this with tears in my eyes. I’m so tired.

[@keithstewart7514]

May God be with you.

[@rebelbelle62]

My God, I can relate to you. I'm too am so weary.

[@sydnaecollyn3867]

Same ❤

[@nikkicastelline]

Me too 😢

[@enchantedwoodsacademy8132]

I'm so sorry so many of us feel so tired and weary. Hopeless. Life shouldn't be so hard. Why is it so hard to leave.....

[@racso1160]

Never again will i throw everyrhing i have in a relationshipp ..Im healing and getting stronger ..’it takes time .. Dont think about the good times .. remember how much time and energy that vampire sucked out of you .. In arguments and lies … i used that pain to grow .. Ive been taking my rage and pain out in training on a daily base . Since septembre 2021 .. Im living my teenage dreams at 40 to be in shape and have a 6 pack .. Best shape of my life .. and started my own construction company .. Dont waste your time looking and searching for answers .. You will keep poisoning your brain .. I know the struggle .. ive been there .. i know more about cluster B ´s than i know myself … Even doe you miss them or you think your in love with them after they treated you worst tham shiit and left you for dead.. Deep down you know It aint right … Respect that feeling ! Respect yourself .. those people are so broken and ugly inside they lie to themselves .. to make it true everysingle day .. If you have been with a narcissit its because you are beautiful inside .. you see good in bad .. you give your trust to everyone .. you want the best for everyone .. you project yourself into others .. just like a narcissit does opposite sides … thats a gift ! Learn how to give it to the right person …

[@kimmorton9398]

Thank you 😊

[@ah5589]

Thank you do much. I needed this so bad. I’m in so much pain living with him 😞

[@clarevela8181]

Your comment gave me chills! Thank you for this message. I’ll hold It dear and near To my heart.

[@cocoamiller3992]

Perfectly said and so true ❤️

[@donnaharrison8028]

❤️

[@ND-or5so]

My husband is a Covert Narcissist and he will switch blame in seconds if he feels a threat that he did any wrong when it is constructive criticism he doesn't know the difference and he gets angry and goes to his bedroom and slams his door and takes a tantrum. This has been very difficult for me over the years and I'm glad I'm leaving him.

[@dianepedroza6232]

Omg that's my husband as well. I am forever busting him out and he turns the story around. Literally right this minute I told him what he is

[@angelawilliams3361]

Same here... 1 yr out thank God

[@Angilian]

I’m currently with a narcissist and he says I changed and he wishes I go back to my old self from when we first met … he doesn’t even realize that the only reason I’ve changed is because of him. It’s So frustrating when the person that’s causing you pain can look you in your face and ask you why you are the way that you are.

[@smf427]

Facts!!

[@winegyalfitness5757]

That’s exactly what I’m being told !!!

[@deehoffman1623]

They are asking you to go back to when they thought they knew who you were. Now that they see the real you it doesn’t suit their agenda.

[@winegyalfitness5757]

@@deehoffman1623 his behavior has caused havoc in her life and she didn’t change he just began to stop pretending who he originally said he was.

[@mindysmith3683]

I want to talk , bs we cant

[@Forthis123]

I recently left my narcissistic BF because I did my own healing work. It feels wonderful to be free to be me again! There is hope-choose YOU! ❤

[@mariegarrard5216]

Was married to one. Took me years to realise. He ended his 25 year friendship with his best friend because he said he was not putting him first. I explained that your best friend works 45 hours a week, is married with a baby and toddler, so of course he is not going to put you first. Was watching the news about soldiers who had died in a bombing being bought back from overseas in coffins. My then husband said "that could have been me" When I asked what he meant? He repeated himself, Confused. I said what are you on about? He said well that could have been me. I tried to explain that he is not a soldier, because he never wanted to join the armed forces, plus would never travel to such as dangerous place like these soldiers have been sent to. He really could not understand where I was coming from. When I got cancer he charged me petrol money to take me to some of my apps I was unable to take myself to. He refused to look after me and when I asked why? He said because "I'm not the one getting the attention". He was very tight with money, but not on himself. I asked once to borrow £10. But was asked so many questions about how long would it take me to pay it back and what do I want to spend it on etc? I said don't bother. Since the divorce he has taken me to court several times. I have read this is quite common as a way to try and get back at you, even control you. He has now brainwashed our only child. Courts are now involved and the report made confirmed my belief that he is alienating our child, not only against me, my side of the family. Again I have read this is quite common with a narcissist. My family believe because I have coped well since the divorce, bought a house, car and seem happy (because I'm free) I don't ask about him, because I don't think about it, therefore I show no interest in him and this is what is driving him mad, Sorry for the long message, but if any of this sounds like what you are going through with a partner who only thinks things from their point of view and really can not understand yours or anyone else's and do selfish things, do what they want etc... Yet criticises you or others for doing the same, but can not understand the fact they are being a hypocrite, then you will never get them to see, because I honestly believe they are born like that and their minds work differently and therefore just don't have the capacity to see what non narcissistic people can. Of course there are different levels or narcissism, but something can make it worse. Like having parent/parents who think you can never do/be wrong. Doing well at their job, giving them a big ego, getting lots of attention which they find flattering, so many things can sett off their dormant narcissistic traits or make them even worse. If you are involved with a narcissist. Don't bother to argue with them. Because they are never wrong, blame failings on other factors, will never say sorry, show little to no empathy and don't like to compromise. Just walk away and say "WHATEVER" They can't stand it. Again sorry for the long message. I hope it may help?

[@ashtree8898]

I find your message really enlightening, Marie, so don’t worry about it being long! I particularly relate to the narcissist alienating a child from one side of the family as this happened to me in childhood. The narcissist also tried alienating me from my friends. I had no idea what was happening at the time. Now that I am an ‘older’ adult I finally know it was shameful and I need to rid myself of the resentful feelings I have about it because it affected my life decisions and my daily life. I am really sorry you continue to go through so much but it is marvellous you are now free of your ex’s daily influence. Thank you again.

[@mariegarrard5216]

@@ashtree8898 Thank you that is so sweet of you to take the time to read and reply. The problem is we don't always see what is happening right in front of us. Hence the gas lighting. But it does make you aware of the behaviour, so know what to look out for in the future. There is a difference between being selfish and narcissistic and many people will use that word in the wrong context. We can all be selfish at times and there are even times we have to be. But to try and destroy or get back at someone using another person in the process in inexcusable. If you can let your feelings of resentment go and be kind to yourself you are on the right path. You did nothing wrong. Stay strong x. When things get to much I just try and watch or listen to something that will make me happy or laugh. I don't overthink it because you will never fully understand a narcissists mind as it will change in order to suit their own agenda, even if that means they are hypocrite, but of course for them they are not being a hypocrite as they are never wrong and have a sense of entitlement.

[@christinedennison7770]

You summed up exactly how they behave. I think his mother made him worse, always over praising him and never seeing his faults.

[@nicolabradley2828]

This is so true. I left my ex narcissist 15 months ago. At first I it felt awful but now my life is so much better. Like you I feel free again , no money can make you feel as good as having freedom. Onwards and upwards , never again will I put up with that again. Too intense for me xx

[@emilybakerjones9881]

I stupidly went bk to him...must have been insane...lol. now almost a Yr later, nothing changed, he promises anything & everything. Kids can see how he is etc...they can't believe it either. Trying to make plans to get out of here....finances...🙄 Trying to save up but its difficult.

[@isanunez9400]

I’m moving out tomorrow! I’m so scared but proud at the same time I’m glad I found this video today !!!

[@mommovesherbabies2384]

I was the perfect prey for my narcissists… completely loving and non judgmental

[@karrynlipsett5187]

So true, thank you. It's always good to be reminded that I did the right thing. There is no pleasing, helping or changing them. I left. Covid gave me my freedom back & I've spent the last 2 & a half years learning about the human psychy & behaviours & healing, finding, working on myself & recovering from narcissistic & sociopathic abuse.

[@shivmc4466]

Well done when you spend time alone the light bulb goes on and you feel like escaping and you push for that freedom 💪🏼 I got rid of a narcissistic friend I am now seeing through her but I am winning...

[@beneiseoleinmheart5614]

Good for you. God's Word says , " In your weakness; i an made strong." II Corinthians 12:9.

[@1010QUEEN7]

@EXPOSED. Algerian satanic narcissist. Bilal lakama me too 🎯🎯🎯

[@crystalinabacteria3430]

Well done all you can do is cut them out of your life!

[@WendyHannan-pt7ez]

⁠@@shivmc4466My narcissistic friend got rid of me, I was just about to pull the plug. It’s the best thing she ever did for me, when a narcissist kicks you to the curb, think yourself very lucky. 😊

[@straightcashhomey1261]

My ex flat out lied to me about her cheating. No accountability. I left her and she was devastated with abandonment. Rejection. She has been stalking me in the most bizarre ways. She can’t stand that I’ve moved on

[@juliebristow3340]

I put up from this for years but thank God I believe he removed me from this and now I feel so free. Don't give up people you are so loved 🥰🥰🥰

[@Liberty208]

Which is why my ex threatened me with a long lascerated knife .because i was questioning his behaviour and just wanted to calmly talk about what was going on .nut he saw this as a threat i guess ,and the fear of having to own up to the behaviour is something he didn't appreciate. Well i am happy to say i am no longer married to him .freedom for me and my children is just bliss.

[@beneiseoleinmheart5614]

Please stay free. Don't look back. He will never change or admit any of his wrong doings.

[@newname3235]

It’s really exhausting and traumatizing when you finally get out!

[@patriciaking7892]

New Name, so true. My narcissist ex divorced me 25 yrs ago, but living in the same location is sometimes overwhelming. I can't afford to relocate so I do my best to ignore unimportant things.

[@NativeBliss]

Very exhausting

[@JadedAnon]

I stayed calm when the person threw tantrums. ✋️ I allow them to view the beauty in my life, and I express and I have a abundance of gratitude. I now have love in my life, and value the people in my life, cultivating healthy relationships, and staying physically fit, and emotionally as well as spiritually grounded. Leave them behind. Unfortunately they do however find others who are insecure who feel needy, or even worse, they find a gentle kind soul who helps others. Thats why the narc love those who are carers. I dropped my narcissist so fast he had no time to react. So he thought getting another, would make me feel something, but I didnt feel a thing at all. Saw him coming a mile away. ♥️ The key is that if it hurts its not love.

[@lauragoffi1291]

Wow, just wow. So I just left a narcissist. We had been together for 10yrs. I spent most of those years in complete confusion, fear and guilt. I couldn’t do enough for this man yet, day by day, I realize now, he was cruelly sucking the life right out of me. The 3 fears you describe is this man to a T. He did exactly that. Finally, in December, I had had enough and I don’t even know where I found the courage but, to his dismay, I packed up and moved from Canada to a beautiful island in Italy. Here I started to heal. Being part of these support groups helps tremendously. Big hug to all.

[@momtube2888]

Your videos make me feel like I’m not alone in this ❤️

[@yvonnedaniel1053]

God bless you! Today, I found a letter on my deceased husband’s laptop that made me realize how toxic our relationship was for me and how I had been manipulated by him. Then the algorithm sends me this video. I will do what you say, I will make a better life for myself, I will believe in my worth, I will be happy. You’re an angel sent to me when I needed it most ❤️

[@viktoriahernandez2729]

I recently found a video on this topic the man stated that when the devil can’t get to you it sends a narcissistic And that sounds about right God bless everyone dealing with one 🙏🏽🫶🏽

[@sweetgirly8492]

Don’t want to know about their weaknesses, abandon them, low-esteem

[@LeeChrissy]

Yesss!! 🙌 This was perfect. He got me right in the middle of me healing and beginning to glow up in my businesses. Anytime I confronted him on something, I always somehow ended up being the one apologizing. 🤣 Like what?! Now I am glowing up and my confidence is like no other and the last time I confronted him he tried gaslighting and manipulating me expecting me to fall to his feet. I immediately cut him off. He reached out and I was short and sharp. He completely shut down. After about a month and a half, I blocked him on everything. We were longtime friends/acquaintances before this and one thing he knows about me is that I'm extremely sensitive and loving but all it takes is ONE thing to get cut out of my life.

[@bethpowell8680]

It’s amazing how Narcissis don’t even know how sick they really are mentally, that’s what I don’t understand

[@queensophiab.9990]

So true! Your success and happiness....kills them! The carrot dangling to reel you back in then discard you....is real.. much love & light to you as you help to heal xx

[@Leothingss333]

Omg it just hit me . I have to go. This will not work. My kids want to leave . I’m scared. I’m sad. I’m nervous. I can’t cry as much as my heart wants I have a knot on my throat. I feel so much pressure but I know I need to open the door and walk out I’m so scared . But it’s what I want. What I need what my kids deserve and for a better life. But how and when. God give me a date give me a time give me a sign I need it !! I prey you guide me threw this you know my heart and you know what’s best I trust you will allow my guides to heal and guide me threw this for the best version of me and my children

[@Corabelle_lane]

I recently uncovered the new supply before the final discard. I simply sent him the pictures and have not spoke to him since. Prior to learning about this I started bringing up the family dynamic red flags and the impact it had in his life. It’s been really quiet and I’m healing from a 5 year illusion that I thought was a relationship

[@beneiseoleinmheart5614]

That's what it is with narcissist an "ÌLLUSION" of a ŘEAL relationship that you had hoped for.

[@lorianne4608]

The time they make us waste is ridiculous

[@-SleepyNurse-]

Yes honey. 17 years here. Like a knot in my stomach.

[@sarahstrong7174]

It is as if they do not see their own behaviour at all. They tell you not to do certain things, that those things are bad but then repeatedly do those things themselves & apparently do not notice at all. They say "I would never......... .......... ........ ...........". You see them doing whatever they have said they would never never do & feel like you are going crazy, trying to make sense of it all.

[@teresaahart1365]

I'm always at fault according to my partner

[@np7678]

Stay strong and be you because you are worth it🙏🌹

[@audreylucero6881]

Girl 🏃‍♀️ Run

[@niccole8530]

Yup me too

[@abdulwahid616]

Leave him

[@CF-wn2ce]

Hes no "partner"

[@shivmc4466]

Thank you my situation was with a clingy narcissistic friend I am growing well and facing this horrible women.

[@SpongeAddict-gw6mo]

I’ve seen my mom cry and tears and after she was done smile and flick it off like nothing!

[@patsymccarthy7053]

Exactly what I have experienced. I left my ex husband in 1976 but am still not free of his hate. He wrote to me I will see you in the gutter. I have been very near it. He has been instrumental in me being denied seeing my grandchildren now ten years. My daughter is so like him. I am now 76 years old and have no family but I am still here. They have succeeded in me losing my house but I now rent and it's ok. Maybe one day I will see my grandchildren again now 20 and 16. I have no idea where they live. Narcissists must be very unhappy people to behave as they do. Let us all be kinder to each other. They will not ruin what is left of my life. Thank you.

[@garyburchgb]

Wow! What a marvellous opportunity the presenter has had to learn about how narcissists think and behave. It sounds as though she is grateful for the experiences and the consequences of the subject. She learnt that the narcissist is only happy when he or she can control someone as near to 100% as possible. She has gained so much life experience and is able to inform and help others. Fantastic!

[@Toad.iamtoad]

I appreciate this video so much! I feel like I’m going insane with all the gaslighting and manipulation. This validation feels like finally getting water after a drought. Thank you! ❤

[@sharonparis8916]

Thank you.Awesome “accountability,rejection,you healing”

[@yathome5596]

Rejection is their biggest fear. I dumped the Narc and he already had a side chick. However for the next 6 years even if we were done, his calling continued. He married the girl but NEVER stopped calling me. Going no contact was a must to get rid of the pest.

[@Danirey02]

My ex narc fiancé cheated on me multiple times and ended up marrying my friend and the only time he calls me is to ask for money

[@yathome5596]

@@Danirey02 Go no contact. The only way to get rid of them.

[@yathome5596]

An amendment to this post, the ex Narc called me again 3 weeks ago. 14 full years after going no contact! 🙄

[@kathystoneburner4947]

Soooo why the hell don't people block the sickos. When I'm done, I'm done. Move on!

[@lucykhan8474]

You are amazing and on point! Thank you for all the information! I was going crazy..i have finally decided to leave the relationship of 3 years! I was naive didn't know much about narcissistic abuse. I have severe anxiety now ptsd and my blood pressure is way up because of stress! Panic attack! I want to heal now I hope I will feel better and became myself a happier thriving person. Thank you ❤

[@The_alpha_king]

You will thrive....definitely....never doubt yourself....

[@Justsobyjan]

Wow, hearing you explain the cause and effect of how one gets affected showed me how intricate and deceptive the chaos is formed and the feeling caught up in a whirlwind of madness really put a clearer perspective on a spot on assessment. I found two books in between the mattress titled On Killings, and Psychological Warfare written by a Pt West Professor. The revelation that a man who had never been in any type of military, a “pillar” had been practicing psychological warfare on me. I couldn’t even stomach reading on Killings. I am happy to have survived, become healthy and healed way more than was thought by professionals with minimal triggers yrs later. It was my victory for being such a congenial person to learn marriage meant career and money with no plans for anyone else in the equation. I had to stop questioning since I never went after money and likely healthier I stopped trying to comprehend bizzare

[@Jamiereid6166]

Finding all this information has basically saved my life,,I'm surrounded by them seriously, thanks for sharing and educating ✨️

[@lastjob2011]

My former husband realized his manipulations were over with me when he searched my KZbin history and saw I had been watching videos about narcissism. For years he used the "you have such a bad memory" excuse. I started taping him to prove to myself that he actually did say the things he had said. "I never want to see your face ever again!" My last words to him. September 2016. I thank God for six years of PEACE.

[@Jamiereid6166]

@@lastjob2011 such a relief and as you say PEACE ,no more crazy thoughts,🤣where have we been 🤣,good luck ✌️❣️✨️

[@karenprohonic8854]

I was abused in my marriage over 25 years ago. Emotionally,mentally, physically, and I did not have a support system because my family was 5 hours away. Since then I've worked on my self esteem and achieved what I wanted for my freedom, independence, and how to be happy. But its taken 20 years of not dating and educating myself of what a narcissist looks like. However, I didn't know then that I was married to a narcissist. I've also realized I'm very empathic and just identified my best friend of 7 years as a narcissist and although I didn't confront her I asked her husband to get her help. And instead he thru me under the bus and she ended the friendship. No contact with her has actually improved my life and I'm now surrounded by loving friends . So my advice to all these survivors of narcissistic a use is get into therapy, work on your self esteem and self worth, be cautious about people who are not animal lovers or can't show any empathy, and educate yourself on narcissism traits. Take care of yourself.

[@mindysmith3683]

Yes he beat me I painted my nails , he hates me loving myself

[@karenprohonic8854]

Mindy, please talk to a doctor,therapist, police, friend and get help to get out of this abusive relationship. You deserve better. Painting your nails or anything else you do like just breathing does not justify anyone ever putting a hand on you let alone beating you. Make a plan. Stash some money. Pack a bag and go somewhere he can't find you. But file a police report first. Take pictures of any bruises and date them. Call domestic violence hotline in your area. Look it up online. Please keep me posted. Don't let him near your phone.

[@dragnon8225]

Right at the 4.15 part of video. This works in a parent/child relationship as well as a husband/wife relationship. My eldest daughter is a narcissist and has filed a felony against me based all on lies. This is the toughest thing I have been through in my life. Way above my own domestic situations in my life. We are still in court and yes my life is on jeopardy by her lies.

[@deehoffman1623]

I just realized my oldest is a covert Narc. I am sorry you are having this battle and I pray God intervenes on the side of the righteous. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@NoCappingSportsLegend]

Smh I hope you get through with victory in Jesus name

[@francescascavo9090]

I’m almost on my 8th year in my relationship and I wish there was something I could do to change these behaviors in him. Just ongoing arguing.

[@hempyeverafter]

That’s what I’m choosing my self and healing.

[@Crackle-Crackle]

Got this video in my feed and I clicked on it. I have been watching Dr. Ramani and I love her but this video really opened my eyes and connected with me. I wasted 15 years of my life, and I even said to me ex narcissist I wasted all of my good years with you. I'm in my early 40's and I am completely broken as a person. I had to move back in with my parents, with my daughter. After years of doing everything by myself I had a job, I insurance, my own place (until I got laid off.) and then something snapped in me and I feel so stuck and worthless. And I don't know how to get out of feeling like this. Now that I got him through let him live off me for years, stuck with him through his jail stent, him getting out making sure he was in therapy, and had someone he finally got a good job and everything is great for him now. He moved in with his mother and he is living the life while myself and my daughter are stuck in a house where we do not want to be and he is living the life. Everytime he comes to visit my daughter (hardly ever) he always has new shoes, clothes, cologne, and shows me all the stupid stuff he has bought with his money. I am not expecting a hand out from him I just wanted his support and I don't mean money I just wanted someone to rely on someone to have my back like I did his. He tells me he cares and that he is there for me and wants me to do better and when I find a job we can Al get a place together again. But then he gleefully leaves to go back home to his perfect mother which who surprise surprise also does no wrong. Then I get loaded down with a list of everything like cleaning up constantly after my older parents, shopping, cutting grass, shoveling snow, I can keep adding to this list but everything that anyone doesn't want to do or the things that absolutely need to be done especially with my daughter doctor's appointments, homework, dentist appointments, etc. All fall onto me because I don't have a job, but when I did have a job I also had to do everything and hold down a job. I would even tell everyone ok I'm starting a job or going back to college I need everyone to pull their weight nothing major just try to clean up after yourself and it always fell on deaf ears. And I would get so burned out and completely emotionally and physically exhausted I would quit or get fired. But the whole time I'm thinking o have to have a job and get my life back on track (with he help) which he provides none and get a job and get out of this hole that he dug me in and then we can all live together. But if I didn't have your help at my worst like you did then why the hell would I need you when I get my life back on track? It's exhausting. Right now it has gotten to the point where I told him I can't be around him I will leave if he visits our daughter or I will stay in my room until he is gone because he always sucks me back in and gets anything he wants to from me and I mean anything he can and leaves and now that's the cycle. But I finally get it, and I get that this isn't going to happen and he does t respect my wishes and does what he wants comes over seeks me out and hooks me back. But right now my focus is me. And I realize he is holding me in this spot and everytime I see him and he gets what he wants and spits me back out again I feel like I'm getting deeper in something that I just can't get myself out of. How can I finally stop this cycle and realize that I was never loved and am truly alone but I need to get it together I have a daughter and I need to support her I'm tired of her seeing me so weak and fragile when I never used to be.

[@lennie1703]

I really hope things are going better for you. I was in a situation so like yours and wish I could go back and tell myself to be proud and happy that I'm not doing shameful cruel behaviours and I can stand up straight and look the world in the eye. I wouldn't have wasted so much of my time on worrying about anyone else's behaviour but just made a daily inventory of my own. Make lists of YOUR achievements, strengths, talents. Your hopes and ambitions. Be excited by YOUR life and don't let any negative outsiders into your head space. Just focus mentally on what you are doing. That's what wish I had done.

[@jocelynford4209]

Thank you for this great advice! I’ve been doing a ton of healing recently! It truly feels good when you can enjoy time with self & also drop this need to prove your worth & value to someone else. If they can’t see it, it’s their loss. When you you heal, you are unstoppable & you won’t accept gaslighting behavior!! Leave them to figure out their own inner insecurities that are limiting them. ❤

[@leslismith303]

Thank you. A relative of mine wants nothing to do with me since I stood my ground and started to use boundaries.

[@winegyalfitness5757]

I’m constantly SILENCED and verbally attacked and disgusted and disrespected. My husband even talks shyt about my deceased parents !! He is so mean to me. I’m starting to HATE HIM

[@elizabeths7984]

I’m so happy you’re doing this. I’m going through a divorce and have been waiting for DV therapy but there’s not someone walking through this to get to the other side and not be pulled back.

[@jodiblue5517]

My narcissistic marriage, I was so duped and confused, while drunk he was overt, in your face and accusive, putting me and kids down. but while sober he was covert manipulative with a depressing demeaner. Lasted 13 yrs. I left him and he changed his mask. And was able to trick me. He got sick n passed away last year.

[@lastjob2011]

11 years of marriage. I divorced him. 3 months later, he left a message, crying, "I'm sorry for everything I've ever done to you. Please call me!" I never called him back. 6 months later while talking with him, he revealed that during that time he had hurt his back. He couldn't work for 2 weeks and was literally on the floor crawling around in his apartment. He could not stand. OH WELL! Its called KARMA!

[@tracigodfrey4965]

You are a GEM! I'm so glad I found your channel!

[@user-gn4pv3qq2o]

Caroline, Just saw your video, OMG. Everything you said it’s my life for 31 years. Wish I can ring u???? He is now in a wheelchair and it’s worse with him… I can’t just go because I am his caregiver 24- 7… always caring and working..For those who are in this situation and he is not disabled…. I SAY GO GO BE FREE…don’t look back. I am trying to be strong and hope that I be free from a NARCISSIST….

[@MotleyShrew-iz9ms]

I wish I found you years sooner!❤ your delivery, your insight, the beautiful way you share your own personal experiences and how you excitedly show us fellow abuse victims support ❤ Ty ty ty! 😊 thank you for using your healed heart to help others!

[@crystalinabacteria3430]

Yes with a sister. She projected everything on to me but ive cut ties with her because she was getting worse & affected my mental health. She made me look like the bad person. Yes she got her family to stick up for her & got her kids to have a go at me. Had her son verbally attack me on the doorstep all because i told my sister a few hometruths! I had to get the police to stop it all glad i did because she was getting worse.

[@johbrowne224]

Caroline, I so resonate with you, your inner beauty, support and sharing your story is so cathartic ...so pleased I found you!

[@pateole1951]

Accountability?, rare. The look on his face , when i called him out, priceless. Blame gamer, but i was the A-hole and “confrontational “, once at a friends house (their kid’s birthday party), made it about himself when i didn’t get him a plate of food. 😳 🤦‍♀️ i looked at him like are you for real right now?, our son was 2 at the time & knew how to get a plate himself. He waited til we were in the car to say, you always get me a plate etc etc. made me feel like an a-hole. Felt like i was scolded like a child. Ugh, i only share my experiences in my healing journey and my heart is growing stronger every day. Thank you 🙏 so very much. Grateful for your expertise and candid delivery. Bravo 🙌❣️post traumatic growth and healing ❤️‍🩹, 😃

[@ladiltz]

Thank you! All that you shared, I recognized as I finally left the relationship (40 year marriage). I still have triggers but I am so glad I don’t have that in my life anymore. I have sensed that I should keep it a hush hush to be enjoying the company of someone but what you just shared…why not display how someone else in my life brings joy and laughter! Thank you. 😊

[@sashajohnson4118]

Thank you so much ! You have helped me immensely! With this horribly degrading person !

[@Tearsofasilentheart]

Hello Caroline. Im trying to heal. Ive had plenty of narcissists in my life taking advantage of me! Mother father brother friends Ex husband and ex mother in law. Ive been so angry that ive had to deal with all these people in my life. Its been a big big struggle. 😢😭😢

[@newname3235]

They can be very dangerous

[@Justme85857]

They're EVIL and can't be trusted. Don't walk away RUN !

[@djw8504]

Mine saw a video of me hiking on the Florida trail and sent me a message that I need to give his spare house key back. He knows how I am and I wld never go in without letting him know. I forgot I even have it. I haven’t seen him in a month and he’s reached out to my Daughter checking on us. As soon as he saw me smiling while hiking, he switched the nice thoughtfulness man off. I answered back and said ok.

[@Verti2LuTaylor]

You r so right!!! But the person in my life is my mother. And I’m the only child. She make me feel just like you did. Everyday and she’s 87 and I’m 60. Now she’s have to come life with me. So thank you for those TIPS…😊

[@keithstewart7514]

They live to long

[@euniceakrong9282]

You are so right about the circle that they practice to keep people like me . They make sure you are co depending.

[@Mamabearasha]

Yeah, jokes on me for that one. Im over here, asking questions, trying to be as honest as possible for things I know, trying to heal, get myself sitauted, and I still don't know whats going on, Im exhausted, and I'm not showing as much progress as I thought I would. Why would they be approached and have to take accountability all at once?

[@bezza2005]

Absolutely true healing yourself is the start 😊🎉

[@jtee231]

Yea I roommate with my friend whom I believe is a narcissist and I’m miserable I’m just at the point where I want to just stay in my room and not even deal with that person because I’m irritated at their character and they’ve become so predictable in behavior and actions.. I’m tired of the belittling but good thing I know who I am and what I’m capable of and I realize now what type of person I’m really working with.

[@beneiseoleinmheart5614]

They do that to make themselves feel better than you. When in reality they are parasites unhappy with themselves. Pray to God father of JESUS Christ of Nazareth about the situation.

[@lynylcullen8370]

Absolutely best encouragement I’ve had!! Thank you so much !

[@frannsh5100]

100% this… in 15 years He’s never apologised once.. he would sometimes say ‘ I don’t want you to be upset’ which was the nearest it ever got.. a constant victim.. how often have I said ‘ why do you think everyone is against you?’ ... 100%no accountability..

[@amdjoy251]

Love the ending…thank you! I believe I am healing well now!!

[@rachelcoleman5875]

I love you. Thank you for shining a very direct light on the truth of what these people really are. 💕

[@tabithab33]

Like snakes… they smell our fear and feed from it even when you think you’re not showing it. Be aware 💜

[@chibihinata13]

Thank for you videos it gives me hope . I am dealing with a narcissist grandma who makes me feel less.😢

[@JV-nb8kx]

Thank you sooo sooo much! I needed this today.

[@jazzjazzy5063]

For 8 years he use to tell me that he could find someone better and that there were lines of women just dying to be with him and how ready he was for a breakup because he was going to find someone WAY BETTER. The moment we would get into an argument he would tell me it’s over and he’s off to “better people” so the last time he “broke up with me” I actually stopped talking to him. I’m no longer a housewife, I’m working again and planning on school, I’m basically planning my escape. He’s noticed it and it’s driving him nuts!!! He asked me the other day what I’m planning on doing and I said “nothing I’m just tired of being at home and I want to do something of value with my life” then he asked why would I stop being a housewife. I simply told him that I don’t feel safe with him as the head of household because at any moment he could leave me and my child stranded and not even look back. He got sooooo upset and said I was painting him out to be a monster. I told him that’s because you are, the moment you’re upset you become a monster you don’t care if I’m your wife or if my child is your son or how your leaving would affect us. And there’s nothing you can say to me that will ever make me see you with trust again.

[@adib.72]

All of this you said is absolutely spot on!! Everything I dealt with! I was diagnosed with post martial ptsd. I didn't even know that was a thing. Unfortunately, my 14 yr old daughter had inherited this trait of his so she is now living with him. Good riddance!

[@dianamckay848]

My narcissist actually told me that he wanted me to move on be happy, and find someone that made me happy, and offered to be the best man at the wedding. What is that? If he hates me moving on with my life and he doesn’t want me to do that, then why would he say such a thing? To confuse me, probably.

[@HumbleGifted]

Sounds like my ex

[@shataramejia1376]

You are so on point with this !!! Thank you Queen !!! 🙌🏾 you’ve helped me so much this morning

[@lindarobertson4744]

How can they feel rejection if you are living your best life when your out of sight out of mind and most say they don’t care what you do

[@Racingirl911]

I’ve been married for 49 years, and I am disabled. I wish I could leave, but I don’t have enough money for someone to take care of me. And, my precious son died last year-so I don’t even think I’m strong enough to leave. But, I’d leave in a heartbeat if I knew it wouldn’t be even harder on me… Thanks for letting me dream again, though….

[@deehoffman1623]

You can leave once you tell yourself it has to be done. I don’t know what country you live in but if you’re in the USA and getting disability you can also get someone to come in 4 hours a day to help. Medicaid and or Medicare will pay for it. They can shop for you, clean for you, do your laundry, etc. It’s getting your mind to the place where you realize that you have had enough and that being alone is better than being with someone who treats you badly or who ignores you.

[@Racingirl911]

@@deehoffman1623 Oh Dee, thank you for your information. As I read it, I felt like some sort of weight was being lifted off of me. I thank you so much for that! You are certainly one of God’s earth angels! I’m going to definitely look into what you told me. Thank you! 🫶🏼

[@daneec581]

I am 64 and divorcing my narcissistic 67 year old husband after 23 yrs of marriage. I am so shocked at how everything your saying is so true! My husband is on a total smear campaign, he has said so many lies about me to all my friends. I am so hurt by the fact many of my so called best friends have not come to me and told me he has said these things. The reason I know is I am a pretty good detective about finding things out. None the less I am hurt by them not coming to me about what he has said. He is actually telling some people I haven’t had sex with him in 2 yrs so he turned to porn and that makes me mad. The real truth is…. he has been addicted to porn to porn for 9 years “that I know of” I have caught him in the act “doing his deed” at least three times. We did counseling but he told the counselor I was a lied and walked out. Still tried 4 more years till I got to the point I WAS DONE! So now we have the smear campaign and he actually told his attorney (I heard him) she won’t cook or clean for me anymore WTF! I am so exhausted and stressed but I’m not going to give up my fight to live in peace 🙌🏼

[@estherann7407]

Denise, I wish you all the best. It's a tough road to hoe but well worth it. Let go of those who choose to believe the lies. I felt like I had to prove myself to many and help them to see the lies but, in the end I was better off without them. They weren't worth my energy! Yes, it's been lonely, sometimes painfully lonely but facing my hard truths has been worth it. Take good care of yourself, pamper yourself, get your life back! Remember what Caroline said, healing is self nurturance.

[@fridaypeaches497]

I cannot imagine how you endured all those years. I believe you are a strong person. Stronger than you may realize. I was with my ex for just over a year. I gave up my home to move into his, within two months, the first physical abuse took place. It actually took him 4days to “sort of” offer any apology. The 3 days prior he claims to have been at a hotel. During that period he’d text me how I deserved what he did, because I “made him do something he’ll never forgive himself for.” Gosh, we weren’t even arguing, he was drunk AGAIN, walked up to me, pushed my head into the wall. That was just the beginning of the night of horror. Also, he’d withhold affection, sex, essentially any real intimacy, physical or emotional. The lack of sex ( which in the first stages of the “relationship” was so important to him) I would constantly be turned away, even yelled at for trying to have physical intimacy with him. If ever I’d muster the courage to ask why? What’s going on? I’d never get the same answer. One was, I’m A-sexual, another was I have Erectile Dysfunction, or, he’d yell at me “what’s wrong with you, why is it all about sex, your not in your 20’s anymore!!!” I’d beg for us to talk about the issue, and I’d always be treated with contempt. I’d try to just give a kiss and he’d actually recoil and push me away. Meanwhile I discovered his social media accounts, after living together for over 6. Months, he was listed as single, and he listed only one interest - Women. He was active on all. Following all sorts of sex sites and had way too many e-Mail accounts to count. I am going through the process myself of getting over the shock, self-blame, trauma bond. It’s been 9 weeks since I have taken some of my clothing and left. Trauma bond is by far the most difficult for me. It’s getting better, little by little. These types of videos are extremely helpful. Also Quora has many spaces available for people who are going through the same abuse, or recovering from. Knowledge is power they say. I just pray for that day, when I no longer NEED videos and can just live a peaceful life without being triggered every single day. I truly hope that for you too. Don’t give up. If you are able to get into counseling, I’m sure that can help. You are not alone in what you endured, I used to think I was, till I found the videos and began to read posts such as yours. Thank you for sharing your story. 🌸💛

[@Twinkie989]

I'm divorcing my narc ex after 23 years, as well. I'm turning 47- and my ex is 15 years older than me (read- predator). I think a lot of why narcissists in their 60's have such difficulty with us leaving is that they know they are not going to appeal to innocent, younger women. There is no chance a woman my age is going to be naïve enough to fall for someone like my ex because we grow as we age. No one as young as I was when we met would go for him now- they would see him as a weird old man. Narcs have a really hard time with aging. I want to say congrats on divorcing. I know your comment is a couple of months old. I hope it has come out that your friends were telling you what he was saying from a place of loyalty. I also hope you realize it was not your obligation to have sex with him- or cook and clean for him. That's not really something you need to defend. The man was perfectly capable of cooking and cleaning for himself as an adult.

[@deborahkennedy1398]

I’m dealing with one now, my brothers childhood friend who I moved in with last year, with my brother. He’s always baiting me and last night I blew up at him after not doing so for past 6 months. Then he can tell my brother and me “there’s something wrong with you-you have problems.” He said this to me last year after I blew up at him. My brother told him ‘don’t you dare say that to my sister again!’ I told this person you’re the one who has a F ing problem!! Last night I blew up at him again. I brought a new microwave for the house when I moved in. Today I took the microwave out of the kitchen. He always uses it. Well not anymore!!!!

[@LensofLove3061]

Hell Yeah!! ❤ Thank you for this, wonderful video and advice!

[@estherann7407]

This is a GREAT video. Thank you Caroline for all you do for SO many. I love, love, love your facial expressions...you're so encouraging and causing me to feel lighthearted. Something I haven't felt in years, I even felt myself smile because of your excitement. Thank you for positive psychology, what a great term to bring inspiration to a hurting world. Keep up the good work.

[@jemmalaforest2578]

Hello hello it's such a pleasure listening to your points on a person with those issues I am not sure how to say this but I'll do the best that I could but my daughter is in the same situation for over 8 years the children think that the abuse is love my grandson think the abuses love and she don't want to wake up to let them know that if the starting can this is love they would look for someone just like him I'm beautiful children like that with a handsome grandson like that they don't need to be that kind of drama but prayer always works I'll keep trying

[@jannacopeland6673]

Wow! Number 3 is really powerful.

[@zar.teedesigns3419]

I love this so much. Thank you for the empowerment xxx

[@cbart4285]

Wow! This is great! You totally described my mom and explained why she started targeting me more when I gained independence and strength. Thank you...this was my 1st video of yours and I subscribed😊

[@estherblack2770]

I love this lady, she made me feel way much better!!

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

Ah right back at you ❤️

[@yogalove1515]

Thank you for sharing and giving us hope. Great video.

[@kellylawsonkl]

My friend is divorcing a female narc and I'm trying to support him through it. She used to be my friend too but when I realised she was a narc, I decided to start grey rocking her. She lied, cheated on him, denied it, made him feel guilty and crazy. A lot of gaslighting involved. He's a nice, easy going person. She's always buying clothes and shoes, very materialistic. She's very successful and also very depressed. Never admits to any wrongdoing. She was an hour late to meet me and somehow was convincing me it was my fault. She knows there's something wrong with her and she told me she mimics/mirrors people during conversations. She thinks she's altistic, which is absurd. As soon as they separated, she came on to me saying that she's bi and she wanted to explore that side of her sexuality. That was the last straw (and confirmation I needed). I no longer see her and I certainly don't want her in my life!

[@gourmetslay]

Hey Caroline! Thank you for all you’re doing. I came across your sweatpants lecture over a year ago and I’ve been following you since. You’ve helped me tremendously and I’m at a point where I’d like to start helping others going through this - I’m seeking info on your counseling/educator programs. Thank you!

[@kellywhitehouse7406]

You are such an inspiration thank you 🙏 xx

[@nicholecornes1915]

No you guys aren't alone we are everywhere by the millions

[@elizabethkass49]

I was just discarded after 5 years. But I had some people who helped me figure out the truth about him. And now I am on recovery.

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

1. No accountability. 2. Rejection. 3. 😮Healing an doing better… Because it was mentioned, if your ex husband never left you’d still be with him.

[@mindysmith3683]

Lucky

[@barbaraholland8701]

Thank you for putting in a nutshell. Took a full minute to get to the actual content and then so wordy.

[@LonjeMarie7]

You are so beautiful thank you for making the video and you are correct the best revenge truly is LivingWell they are so foolish they don’t actually know the fact that we come to awesome channels like yours and binge watch these videos it’s making us better better

[@euniceakrong9282]

Thank you 😂😂😂😂😂 I have to heal and move on. Post traumatic growth and healing