As a narcissist, I would want to say that this is completely and utterly untrue. It is rarer for us to feel happy compared to normal people, but it doesn't mean we don't ever achieve joy. The type of people she is describing are people with extremely narcissism.

My mom is a narc and she would get drunk and then smoke and pass out on the floor. Her eyes were pitch black and huge looked like a demon.

I’m trying to get away from mine

BUSY

You are 100000 percent correct. Those people always want someone who will be like a slave to them . My father , elder sister and aunty are having this type of narcissistic personality. It damages other persons well being and happiness. They always try to make you to agree with all their opinions. If you don't follow them or suggest other way , they will badly behave with you as you are scapegoats and good for nothing . We every individual all having self respect and personality and anyone cannot dominate you.

Nothing helps to be honest. Somatic, talk, whatever. I'm tired of it all.

Time is very unhelpful.

I've ended up thinking that everyone around my is a narcissist.

This makes a lot of sense; more sense than anything else i've seen.

I had no idea it was reversible. I thought I was screwed forever!

I want to know how to heal my brain. How dio I dm her.

Brain

Because most people don’t actually know what pathological narcissistic personality disorder is. They just think it’s some bloke who loves himself, takes heaps of selfies, boasts about himself etc They don’t understand the abuse cycle around it, the sub categories like covert narcissists and it’s too hard for them to understand the abuse impact. Some of the abuse is so unbelievable that they automatically assume you are lying. There is also a deep seated hatred for women in society, it’s underlying and pervasive.

I have so much anger it's consuming me. My boyfriend thinks I need To go to the hospital.

For actual celebrities, people seem to think that the 5 minute interview or the characters they played on TV represents them as a whole person, that they can't possibly behave differently off camera. I think they become obsessed with their view of the celebrity, and won't accept any alternative to even be considered.

Most of the men on Love is Blind showed their toxicity during the process, before any publicity. And I believe there is a law case because the filmers tried to get a woman to stay with an abusive man, and many others came forward or called toxic behaviour out on the show reunions. Many of the women are desperate for love, and feel like they need it to be fulfilled and worthwhile, hence why they put it up with it beyond when the rest of us are screaming at the TV for them to ditch them.

I hate it though. I am not a person that ever sits down. Here lately I have been just exhausted and unmotivated. I couldn't understand why I was being so lazy.

Hello, I’m just wondering if your book is relevant if the abuse was by a parent rather than a partner ? Thank you

I was skeptical thinking I was an empath..but with my life experiences, I know I am one

Brain

I feel drained around my mom because I have to constantly keep her mood up or else my whole family suffers

I'm financially strapped

They can’t stand being ignored because they are the centre of the universe and the world is meant to revolve around them and if it don’t they will make a really sad story they can be given everything and never happy

OMG will you be doing this retreat in North Wales again? I'd love that (in the meantime I've got your new book to read ☺) x

How do you know when you've done enough inner ?

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I fel emlty. I feel like i lost everything because i do what suppose not to do.

I had my 3rd miscarriage on my 33rd birthday. I was an emotional wreck... my (now ex) husband planned an impromptu SURPRISE "party". Brought HIS family over to our house where i was laid up on the couch in my pjs, bleeding and crying all day... and demanded i go outside so everyone could sing to me. I did, only because our kids were out there too. Nobody besides my husband knew i was going through that. Still to this day they probably thought i was just being rude and ungrateful 🥺 i have never been so digusted and disappointed in him and his complete lack of consideration of me. That was the last straw i needed to leave. Btw- he didnt invite any of my family, just his... which is another 🤨 it was so bizzare. And so traumatic

It is absolutely true… I had a mother & father who were both Narcissists. Mentally and physically abused me. Until I went into therapy, then I walked away and had nothing to do with them! Doing that was the best decision I ever made. It literally changed my life. And my brother too, I went silent on him for over 20 years. My parents are dead, but they were dead to me for over 30 years.

Do you have one on narcissistic co- parenting?

I miss my grandchildren And they me 6 And 8 year 😢

This definitely rings true for me..I've had problem gums since narcissistic trauma 4 years ago. Have not changed my dental routine at all, but ever since then its just not enough, I keep having gum flare ups every so often.

Who got hair loss from all the stress? Telogen effluvium or alopecia? I sure did. 😭🥲 glad to be alone now & dont want another bf ever again.

I am genuinely wondering. Every time I feel the need to not speak or “be silent” is because I’m trying to deal with what just happened and can’t always know how to go about it or express how I feel so i just be quiet or give my self sometime to reflect. Is that still the same? I’m new and trying to better myself and would like some advice. Thank you.

The music is not helping 😔

Its taken me many years to regain my health following childhood abuse, 7 years with a psychopath (diagnosed), 3 years through criminal and family court, leaving 17 family members due to toxic family dynamics. Im 50 now and I deserve the rest of my life for me (and my remaining family member, 17 year old son).

"Rewriting history" yes, that's exactly what my ex husband has done and is doing. I'm just floored how much everything is so spot on.

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They will even pretend to be single 16 months after the divorce just so they can appear not to be the narcissist

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My husband I am not in normal world I am in hell

Was 13 when dad was stolen away by a divorced single mom who needed a dad for her two. I blamed me, and always will. I have learned from her actions after he died, she is a witch. Did this without a care, kept him hidden or out of knowing where he was to everyone. Probably kept him constantly preoccupied, at least for that first 5-10 years. Me, my sister & brother had no one. So poor.

Its a great video! Thank you! But please turn the volume of the music down. It is very hard to hear what you are saying.🙏

If someone doesn't have an exuberant ego, their body won't react :D Well, some idiot doesn't answer because he has something wrong with his head... What do I have to do with this??? :D:D:D I'm not a psychotherapist, so I can't help. I can ONLY move on... ;)))

I hate it! I was trying to speak to him none stop. He did not respond! I have to let it go now and focus on myself

Trauma bond

I question EVERYTHING now. Brain fog and at one point I stop trusting my own instincts. My mind is always racing. Then the thoughts pop up of the abuse and trauma. It makes me shut down. My body aches and hurts. My joints have tension in them. I’m trying to get out of my abusive marriage.

I lost my sanity, bodily health, hair, money, college degree, friends, memory, 4 years of my life stuck in a freeze response, freedom, brain function, happiness, love life, confidence, spiritual wellbeing, independance, trust in anyone, and was left deeply hurt and scarred for life with nowhere to turn to, cursed with real black magic and forced to live with my abuser that has assualted and brlittled me constantly. I need Help

I used your podcast to survive my first divorce with two babies… and now I’m facing my second divorce head on because of your help. I’m ready to change the way I show up in life. I wish I didn’t have to do this a 2nd time, but now I’ve learned. Thank you for everything

Yes I experience all these problems As abused by narsistic husband hi