30 seconds to mindfulness | Phil Boissiere | TEDxNaperville

Can you go from feeling stressed to calm in under 30 seconds? Phil Boissiere shares his simple technique to bring mindfulness to your busy life, any time, anywhere.
Phil Boissiere is an adult ADHD and couples counseling specialist based in the San Francisco Bay Area. His goal-focused approach and use of evidence based practices, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and skills training form an empowering therapeutic process. Phil has pursued expertise in brain science, advanced training in the Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics (NMT), and adult ADHD specific training at the Massachusetts General Hospital Psychiatry Academy.
In 2014 Phil founded Beyond Focused a web based video learning series for adults with ADHD and others who are looking to achieve optimal cognitive, occupational, and personal success. The Beyond Focused for Adult ADHD video series has gained considerable popularity outside of the United States, where resources for adults with ADHD are scarce.
In 2015 Phil co-founded the Elite Focus Clinic in the Silicon Valley with two Stanford-trained psychiatrists. Elite Focus Clinic specializes in the treatment of adult ADHD, especially among entrepreneurs, business professionals, and attorneys connected to the tech world Phil Boissiere is an adult ADHD and couples counseling specialist based in the San Francisco Bay Area. His goal-focused approach and use of evidence based practices, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and skills training form an empowering therapeutic process. Phil has pursued expertise in brain science, advanced training in the Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics (NMT), and adult ADHD specific training at the Massachusetts General Hospital Psychiatry Academy. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@needcoffee1220]

I'm a medical student struggling to stay focused whenever I study. Thank you so much for this!!

[@PhilBoissiere]

No problem! Hope Med School goes smoothly.

[@iKnowYoureBusyBut...]

Same!

[@shinydas1767]

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[@iyanahbell6137]

I’m w you on that one 🥴

[@sunset33533]

The mindfulness book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels is good. It has 30 exercises for meditation and mindfulness.

[@mindfulmatters3856]

Don't read comments while watching the video. Mindful living doesn't promote multitasking.

[@Jacurlz08]

I just learned about this in group therapy yesterday, and I am going to practice it daily now, Thank you!

[@imustbegettinolder4434]

I have used a very similar technique for a few years now and can attest to its usefulness. When I use it my stress, etc. always decreases. And when I don't, it always remains. Simple as that.

[@j.k.9614]

I love it. It is so simple and it works. I will keep it in mind. Thanks for sharing 😊

[@kunalvatwani7018]

This video deserves atleast a million views. Way better than other Ted talks on mindfulness.

[@zards100]

This one talk might, in fact, prevent me from a road rage incident. Rock on Phil.

[@PhilBoissiere]

Glad there is a public safety component Art!

[@buzoff4642]

Acceptance, another destressor. "I am going to be late" - when stuck in traffic, just accept it.

[@buzoff4642]

This comes up often, at work. Ranting over someone's driving. EVERYONE has had a bad day/made a bad decision. It's someone else's day/turn.

[@xo7499]

not even the thought of dying prevents?

[@jamienovember8424]

Short & hopefully effective, I will give it a try

[@queen.miss.marie_]

The 3×3 has helped me a lot.

[@geistreiches]

this actually works, should be shared more often

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you! Glad you found it helpful.

[@waterfall_rb7324]

@@PhilBoissiere thank you!

[@soulsvoice3650]

Great technique, whenever I feel stressed during studies I just use this technique and it's amazing

[@lakshmir1333]

Greatest understanding

[@Legends4144]

A simple method which actually has effects! Thank you!

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you Robert!

[@yasminrahman5898]

Short, precise and to the point. Excellent Talk!

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you Yasmin!

[@seethernn7956]

This is a lot of what my practice (Wicca) teaches and its helped me a lot. I've also been doing some counseling and she's taught me this technique for when I can not get my mind to focus due to my PTSD and stress etc and its been very helpful.

[@nicolelorey2053]

Love the simplicity of this technique. Implementing this into my daily routine...now. Thank you, Phil!

[@mmd_ra]

what happened do u feel better?

[@pascalerkens9754]

How did Implementing it Go ?

[@milanthapa5473]

It’s been 4 years. How is it going mate?

[@antonartemenko2927]

Great video. Many thanks. The technique is simple and elegant. You have to select a physical object, name it in your mind without adding any adjectives, and inhale slowly and exhale slowly. Repeat three times. E.g." That's a pointer" / take a deep breath. "That's a stool" / take a deep breath. "That's a screen" / take a deep breath. It really calms you down in 30 seconds.

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you Anton!

[@bekirsivri80]

do this technique when you have repeating stress ( being married and have to see your wife everyday ) I am outta object to look in the house 🤣😂

[@nicholasbrookins6906]

This is mindfulness summed up perfectly. I will practice this now, very beneficial

[@Pianoguybohol]

Awesome, thanks Phil!

[@grandadslifehacks8992]

This method is both simple and effective. I try to remember to focus on my breathing, but when my emotions are strong this can be hard. With this method, I like being able to name an object that I can see and touch, then to breathe in and out. Once I take those three breaths, it is then easier to continue to watch the in and out of my breaths. Thank you Phil.

[@PhilBoissiere]

My pleasure Dirk!

[@sandipsays1210]

I have become a great fan of yours after learning and applying this method . I would be grateful if you kindly share any other materials that would help us increase our productivity. Thank you !!

[@mevrouwmevrouw4413]

Have not used the 3x3 yet. Will try, sounds good and practical. It is part of my life to pause, focus and breathe with attention the moment stress, crisis or panic occurs around or within me. Don't have to think about it. I made it part of "how I tick". Because it works immediately!

[@ekennahutchinson1636]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this subject

[@Kay-hu8mw]

Thanks Phil, I am a Mom of 5 kids and one has multiple diagnoses. When you said pick a stressful situation that happened alot the first thing I thought was going to 1 of his multiple dr for a visit. (Which is happening tomorrow.) I am going to apply this technique and pray it brings focus and relief. Thanks.

[@WilliamSmith-qc5kd]

This is a great technique. I feel calm and focused every time I use it. Thank you Phil :)

[@PhilBoissiere]

Glad you found it helpful Will! Thank you for letting me know!

[@ga-youngpark]

I started mindfulness meditation last week. Sometimes just 10 minutes for the meditation seem too long for me. This is a great tip! I’ll try this at my work and everywhere.

[@PhilBoissiere]

Awesome!

[@anjav.6502]

Thank you from Germany!

[@KermaniArab786]

Simple yet very powerful technique Thanks Phil !

[@PhilBoissiere]

Glad it helped!

[@sabrineelengibawy3577]

I’m inspired and I’ve just started. The video was great about mindfulness.. definitely giving it a try.. thank u

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you for the kind words Sabrine!

[@latanyaclark2376]

Glad I found this video! I struggle with anxiety and driving is extremely hard! Been trying to understand the mindfulness technique, this video makes it simple ! Thank you so much !!

[@adamhunt9263]

I too am struggling with anxiety and for some odd reason its really affecting my driving. What if anything have you found that helps you?

[@deborahs2593]

@@adamhunt9263 hi Adam. I've usually found the best option is so simply pull off the road and wait until it subsides. I've tried to talk myself out of it, or through it, but as you may know panic is immune to logic. One thing though- these episodes pass. They ALWAYS pass. Learning to meditate and being disciplined in its practice has made me whole- at home with me.

[@boltzmannbrain8698]

Everyone here are kindred spirits. It helps to know I’m not the only one struggling with these things.

[@PhilBoissiere]

@@boltzmannbrain8698 Well said!

[@AdrianaGirdler]

So true that we allow so much noise to impact our minds. I love how you said that ignoring mindfulness results in more stress and a decreased quality of life. This is so true. We need mindfulness both in the workplace and at home! Cheers!

[@PhilBoissiere]

You rock Adriana!

[@montreewiwasukh784]

Many many thanks for making it easy

[@mt5670]

Wow. I actually watched the Ted Talk without checking email or social media.

[@moswilam91]

exactly, i even went further to taking notes after the experiment.. have a good day ;)

[@lala01071978]

im 100% on board with this! its simple and effective

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you!

[@count7340]

I am not a rabbit.

[@zehnemovafagh8106]

i love mindfulness very much

[@sunset33533]

The mindfulness book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels is good. It has 30 exercises for meditation and mindfulness.

[@meechelreggie1775]

I love being told a simple, physical technique on how to approach mindfulness on an everyday basis. It’s simple and works.

[@Bill0102]

I'm infatuated with this. I recently enjoyed a similar book, and I was truly infatuated with it. "Mindful Mastery: Living Intentionally in a Chaotic World" by Kyle Ash

[@VivekMishra-um7hl]

Very insightful and knowledgeable video...

[@alexandernicholas4671]

“Every moment has meaning. Time is precious. Don’t miss out”. The beauty and truth of this presentation really does lie in its simplicity. Thank you.

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you for the meaningful comment!

[@MindLifeFlow]

Thank you for this useful mindfulness information. It's such an important practice to develop in today's world - and nice to hear a short practice is feasible and effective. Mindfulness doesn't have to be complicated, does it? Thanks again

[@johncoyle2189]

"Most of us tend to pump the brakes when we think about sequestering a small amount of time or a quiet space for mindfulnessz"... Phil has created "time" and at the same time made a seemingly complex, time consuming and unobtainable practice into something so simple, easy and time subsuming that we'd be foolish to not do it.

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you John!

[@mindfulmoments1895]

This is great...thank you!

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you Ayanna! I love the monotone filter you are using on your recent videos.

[@tomgaffney7127]

Nice Phil!

[@EruvwuObuaya]

The exercise is very insightful, simple and practical Thank you for sharing.

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you!

[@cayotelives]

Thanks sir !

[@narellesmith473]

Thank you for sharing.

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thanks Narelle!

[@syedaadibanuzhat9453]

Good one,thanks

[@seyedmohammadaminhosseini8617]

Extraordinary

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you!

[@ajayprem3368]

Wonderful talk with a great hack to be mindful. ✌

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you Ajay!

[@decide4kamal]

It’s effective. Thank You.

[@PhilBoissiere]

Glad it was helpful!

[@binal25]

Thank you so much sir for sharing this.. Its mind blowing will definitely use it

[@RachaelSedgwick]

Fantastic. 🙏🏽

[@PhilBoissiere]

:)

[@KZH0912]

Thanks

[@dheerajpawar9297]

Very Nice Technique

[@unzahid]

deep words.

[@joshuathinkingoutloud]

I really enjoyed this. Videos like this are what keeps us smaller channels forward leaning. Thank you! 🌿 I implement minimalist and mindfulness principles into my everyday life. Have an awesome day everyone!

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you Josh!

[@daniel-stopsurvivingstartl589]

There are people who enjoy boasting about themselves, gloating with pride. They want to intimidate others by showing off their achievements and this is how they feel a sense of stability. However, if you show those people that you do not give much care about what they say, their inner anxiety rises. It is your calmness that rather intimidates them. Personally, I experienced a person who would endlessly boast of his accomplishments. If I didn’t show the right reactions, the person would try to pick up a fight or would be discouraged from talking any further. He would start out by saying “I’ve been earning … just this week!” Or sometimes, he would suddenly be glum and wouldn’t continue the conversation. To him, I was a person who should be envious of him and see him as a role model. It is better to keep a social distance from these types of people. They will do their best to hear what they want to hear from you. They may get angry at you, or may try to logically persuade you. They may try to get your empathy by acting upset, or may bluff to make you jealous. How do I know this so well? I was one of them. I was considered to be comparatively more successful in a few aspects compared to people of my age. Honestly, I think I got lucky, but back then, I just enjoyed being a show-off.

[@v.dargain1678]

Breathing positivity in a nutshell . Great job .

[@UltimateHealthCheck]

I like that comment ;)

[@PhilBoissiere]

Positive breathing, nice!

[@hs5hdrtv]

Aim is for arya wisdom for mindfulness (sati)! ✨ 🙏 🙏 🙏

[@UltimateHealthCheck]

Great video and information thank you x

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you! You have a great channel.

[@coiorr8370]

5:28 meditation 3:48 3x3 method

[@atonioauvale1435]

Going to give this a go today 😊

[@PhilBoissiere]

How’d it go?

[@perfectlyhere-mindfulnesse3149]

This is great

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you!

[@richardcabeza2087]

Excellent. Thanks

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you Richard!

[@luisoliva7666]

It's amazing i Will try it

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you for the props!

[@tartizle]

I was about to breathe through my ears, good thing he said to use my nose or mouth. I like the method though, very simple

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thanks for trying it and commenting Devin!

[@Novak2611]

Lol he actually means not necessarily from nose.

[@kthibsoccer]

I assumed it had to be in through nose and out through mouth so I'm glad he specified

[@alone-vf4vy]

Guys breathing through the ears is a pro tip just saying. Pretend to do it while meditating and it's much easier to watch your breath without controlling it

[@angelbeing2240]

Amazing technique, but there is one technique that I use and it works for me all the time. I stop talking in my mind. Thinking stops automatically when we stop saying words in mind after that there are only mute images which disappear automatically because there is no sound in that image. Hence, the thought doesn't go further and create thought chain. Give it a try and see the results.

[@lifegoeson6461]

That sounds interesting! Wish I could use it , Not so easy to shut the voice especially when you ADHD :(

[@wendylcs4283]

I've many times thought if i could stop the words in my mind, that would do the trick. I haven't been able to succeed at this yet. Please share the method!

[@sarahqodriyani4885]

@@wendylcs4283 I'm practicing the same method that Megha Sarge mentioned. When I start to think about something, or talk in my mind, I try to stop it and say in my mind "Be present, be present, be present"

[@notgonnalie8654]

How do you stop it? Do you bring yourself back to not talking when you accidentally start again? I feel like I can't get my inner monologue to turn off.

[@sarahqodriyani4885]

@@notgonnalie8654 yess true. It's sometimes tiring too, but much better than thinking about things I should'nt think about

[@GutenGardening]

3X3 Method... DEAL or NO DEAL. Definitely will try... so DEAL!

[@drwebercoaching]

Great Video, I want to thank you great video thank you

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you!

[@susanw9475]

Love brevity.

[@ninelle9518]

Oh I' ve invented the same method some time ago)) when I am overwhelmed

[@dhananjaymehrotra1988]

Still following ?

[@c0411026]

buddhism philosophy, yoga and meditation is the way to go

[@fernandofessel1348]

Resumo: Respirar e prestar atenção na respiração tirando o foco do agente estressor do momento.

[@JasonParksMusic]

Kerstin Liesenfeld with Morning Brain Bites. Recently interviewed on XING-Podcast. Actually teaches what you should do day to day...

[@kayotelives4352]

Best. Thanks dude :)

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you!

[@user-xi2cp5tr7g]

❤

[@hynjus001]

Best ted talk ever?

[@PhilBoissiere]

Ever! 😜

[@AnujSharma-gx9qj]

It works!!!!

[@subtozazoom]

Nice video!

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thanks!

[@sergeyatlukhanov2658]

I didn't really get how many repetitions should be done for each object. He says "say the name, make one deep breath, THEN repeat 3 times for each object. Does the word THEN mean we're gonna have to do it 4 times altogether? Or the first time counts too, so it is 3 times including the first repetition? Will be very thankful to receive a reply. ,:-)

[@ajaydhameja3158]

Wow

[@PhilBoissiere]

✌️

[@mohammedbouchedor4960]

Simple and effective! Can I use it while driving?

[@PhilBoissiere]

Just stay focused on the road and be safe! Probably kept me from losing it in traffic before.

[@vineetverma8430]

Plz update now. How it benefitted from this much long practice?

[@briighter]

It’s like pointing a flashlight

[@PhilBoissiere]

Love it!

[@pleepxwb]

mindfulness is a poor translation of anapanasati, more meaningful if we see it as introspection of breathing. the point is to relax and calm body mind. all this concentration on objects can lead to headaches. in fact the word concentration is translation of samadhi which really means harmony.

[@gunaaeee]

Phil.. Y our mind wandering

[@punkseth1]

I like this idea, but where is the evidence besides anecdotal evidence? Any studies done on this method?

[@PhilBoissiere]

As Murphy's law goes, all my data evaporated with a computer crash. I would love to recreate it in a more controlled way. Any suggestions are welcome!

[@SixStringsAndBeyond]

R.i.p sean lock

[@controllerbrain]

lol this actually works, would like to know the science behind why this works.

[@gunaaeee]

Eye & concenration focus merged..

[@BitBard302]

Marveling at this wisdom? A book of complementary insights is what I'd suggest next. "A Life Unplugged: Reclaiming Reality in a Digital Age" by Theodore Blaze

[@hellbenderdesign]

I named the lamp 'Gordon'....deeeeeeep breath.

[@PhilBoissiere]

Love it! Lol

[@miguelgarcia-ux6mw]

necesita subtitulo en español

[@payalk2898]

3:37

[@ScorpionTrail]

The mike was in his nose?

[@susan4yahshua]

Ill let u know if it works for me 🙂 Tks

[@PhilBoissiere]

Did it work for you?

[@susan4yahshua]

@@PhilBoissiere well, its only been a week and havent had to use it yet....been a good week 😊 Tks for ckg !

[@vineetverma8430]

@@susan4yahshua Now plz update it further ❤️

[@susan4yahshua]

@@vineetverma8430 man , i just haven't needed it yet ! I guess thats good .

[@henkkoppelaar9580]

Mindfulness? I propose Mindemptyness as a much greater tool!

[@FFFadeToBlackKK]

MaşaALLAH .

[@khp7425]

The Buddha taught mindfulness to the world first time. Read Buddha's teaching.then you will find original explanations of mindfulness. Greetings from sri Lanka

[@PhilBoissiere]

I’m just a little ant compared to the Buddha.

[@sudhirkallingil7456]

This video..... ...... That man... ...... The technique... .....3by3 :-)

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you Sudhir!

[@siat11]

This sounds a lot like Dr. Weil's deep breathing. 4-7-8.

[@martinnhantran]

AWESOME COOL FANSTICO

[@PhilBoissiere]

Thank you!

[@Matthew8473]

This content is an embodiment of insightful and profound analysis. A book with related material had a significant influence on my thought processes. "A Life Unplugged: Reclaiming Reality in a Digital Age" by Theodore Blaze