Don’t try to be mindful | Daron Larson | TEDxColumbus

[@OrAnOr100]

I happened to do the same thing one day afternoon, I just try to pretend that I am not a human but a camera trying to record the details of present moment of external environment. A camera doesn’t talk to itself, doesn’t judge, it just observe the world. After I learn about mindfulness, I try to pretend that I am a camera observing both internal and external experience, I try to record the thoughts and feeling of myself without judgement, and I feel more at peace while being able to have regular emotions like a human.

[@AnimaLibera]

I like your approach. Makes a lot of sense when you are trying to keep yourself out of what you are thinking

[@haydan838]

Wow this is really wonderful

[@yoongis.tangerine]

this is really a good realization

[@johncheah5029]

Interesting technique. Will try it out.

[@angkokhwee2101]

@@yoongis.tangerine n

[@BikiniDeathSquad]

the daily reality of adult life makes me lose sight of what a pleasure it is to be alive

[@keldraalpine7091]

abso-fucking-lutely

[@Tormentality]

Well that's cause it's not a pleasure. Besides, pleasure is a judgment. No pleasure, no pain. This is the game of mindfulness.

[@finosuilleabhain7781]

+ Jesse G ... So true. At some point the human race lost its way.

[@ruzickaw]

what a pleasure to be alive and to know that we are coming closer to death with every breath.

[@yoooyoyooo]

is it?

[@moonkookie1505]

This makes total sense. I knew for a fact that going on a vacation, going to the mountain for a week, or to the sea for a week, gives me so much creativity and relaxation. And the truth is, I thought it just wasn't a possibility in regular busy life. But listening to this, I've realized, when I'm in the nature, i am more in tune with it, with myself, more present physically, more mindful. I don't judge myself, nor the surroundings, i don't plan. I just am. And listening to this I've realized i can simulate the same thing here at home. It's not the same, but as you've said, even if it's just 15mins/24h, it matters. Thank you!

[@marvinfunk]

Over the past 5 years after discovering Daron's talk, I've watched it dozens of times and sent the link to dozens of my friends and family. The way he captures the essence of life is both accurate and insightful. And when Daron invites us to be understand what it means to be mindful in our lives - its a gift I'm truly thankful for.

[@FensterwischerX]

7:30 "Your strategy for living in the present will go a lot better when you accept how frequently the present sucks"

[@outrageouszijigmailcom]

Buddha's "first noble truth"

[@samdanner6244]

You are Damn Right about that!!!!!

[@ubernerrd]

This is especially true in 2020.

[@lumijasminasmr3583]

@@ubernerrd Corona is not the worst thing that is happening in the world. It is simply the one, we hear most of.

[@zahidrafique1175]

This is realistic. Yes. Life is messy but the way to encounter it by accepting it, and practice mindfulness not just to get rid of messiness of life but to improve life even if it's messy. Great message.

[@awakenow7147]

Literally the most practical explanation of mindfulness I've ever heard. Bar none.

[@Tam712]

I think this is one of the most realistic talks I've seen on how mindfulness can be applied, and how it is useful in every day life.

[@patrickpatrick4549]

Sorry for bothering you. It's quite hard to understand the video for me. So i wanna ask you, does talking to your self in your mind is bad for you?

[@brandonunglaub]

One of the clearest and most straightforward explanations of mindfulness and meditation I've heard. Awesome talk.

[@chucktanner2516]

I really love this talk. There's an uplifting pessimism in it that speaks to me.The topic is something that I've known for a long time, but sometimes good ideas go over your head until someone puts it in terms you can personally relate to. Thanks Daron.

[@pontiacmon]

Or until you do it 100 times.

[@johncheah5029]

Totally agree with you.

[@mattsniper362]

Isn’t it amazing how human beings actually need something called mindfulness to remind them that reality is always here and now? We’re so caught up in the dream of thought and make believe stories of our lives that we need a practice to actually live life as it actually is, right here, right now.

[@israaafeef9462]

I honestly love this talk Most of us constantly thinking about the future and worrying about the stuff that's gonna happen without even realizing that it's just thoughts and a battle on our mind that makes us anxious and trapped We need to practice paying attention for the things that's happening in the present right now;) Again it was a great lesson i love it

[@ToddMatthewsFitness]

Back a few years later for a second watch. Clearly one of the best talks on mindfulness ever. Every year I should watch Shauna Shapiro's TED talk, and this one as well. Brilliant. Thank you again Daron.

[@pontiacmon]

So I had to pause it at 4:36, and at this point I realize that this guy is a genius. I know that I will definitely finish watching it, watch it again, and share it with others, many others.

[@i.ehrenfest349]

That’s at 10.36

[@pontiacmon]

@@i.ehrenfest349 Thank you.

[@priscilanascimento5978]

One of the best talks about Mindfulnee, more realistic and down to earth I’ve ever heard. Thank you!

[@nguyenthiquynh2345]

I love his talk! He's humorous, charming and what he said reminds me of things that I've forgot - to remember & to practice mindfulness. It's that moment-to-moment practice of pausing & picking a thing to notice, maybe what/how you're seeing or hearing, or feeling in a part of your body, etc. I had done that before & I remember it felt good, but I later failed to keep it as a habit & even lost touch of what to do to practice again when I wanted to. Thank you for reminding me. Once again, lovely talk! Thank you

[@WinstonGarland9]

Thank you for casting your gems... Any moment we habitually "check out" is an opportunity to instead disrupt the narrative of our life and notice the details right in front of us.... what it feels like to notice.... the relaxation in my legs anything resfull at all that we can savor Your strategy for living in the present will go better when you accept how frequently the present sucks. what it feels like to notice.... how slowly the line is moving what it is like to run late how cold my body feels Your timed practice supports practice the rest of the day Childhood Set aside our unresolved story problems just a moment ( limit numbing , worrying and unconsciousness)

[@koashaygyi]

What a truth! Problems are parts of the life. Just need to know how to see and take care of them. Easier said than done! Just start it! Thank you for your sharing.

[@gabrielalmanza9433]

i’m LIVING for his charisma

[@smckinnon]

Mindfulness is a modern day super power that all of us can learn.

[@jackdawcaw4514]

+Steve McKinnon although it's not modern day! But yes, superpower definitely, in a way.

[@Tormentality]

technically, a curse would be a judgment and thus the opposite of mindfulness, not that it matters.

[@nalinsharma8358]

tormentography technically, super power is a judgment too....putting things on a pedestal eh?

[@Tormentality]

I'm not sure. If I can sent and laser beam which instantly freezes you, or could fly anywhere, or lift anything, I don't think those are judgments just like my ability to type isn't a judgement. I could be wrong, but I think these types of "things" would be "nouns" and thus cannot be a sort of judgment. Also, in our battle to avoid judgment I think it's fruitful to know what it is we are trying to avoid. That is, we ought to know what we mean by "judgment" such that we can train ourselves to avoid this. But then again, it doesn't really matter. Just like your judgment of me putting things on a pedestal is not a noun or a super power. Not that it matters, although it's helpful to know what it is we are actually doing when we are being mindful...

[@aarondixon7]

whatever!!!!

[@gabrieleotero6992]

The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle is a great deeper guide to this. Love it!

[@DrSeethe]

it seems like he talks about a different way to be mindful rather than talking about 'dont try to be mindful' really good content. helped a lot.

[@stevegunn9971]

I agree, it's a mindfulness technique he's speaking of.

[@TheGoodfella2012]

This is great. Pretty much exactly the same as David Foster Wallace's thoughts. This is an excerpt from one of his creative writing classes - "It’s not that students don’t ‘get’ Kafka’s humour but that we’ve taught them to see humour as something you get - the same way we’ve taught them that a self is something you just have. No wonder they cannot appreciate the really central Kafka joke - that the horrific struggle to establish a human self results in a self whose humanity is inseparable from that horrific struggle. That our endless and impossible journey toward home is in fact our home. It’s hard to put into words up at the blackboard, believe me. You can tell them that maybe it’s good they don’t ‘get’ Kafka. You can ask them to imagine his art as a kind of door. To envision us readers coming up and pounding on this door, pounding and pounding, not just wanting admission but needing it, we don’t know what it is but we can feel it, this total desperation to enter, pounding and pushing and kicking, etc. That, finally, the door opens … and it opens outward: we’ve been inside what we wanted all along."

[@ruzickaw]

humour you dont get you have it or not.

[@chs2385]

ruzickaw that’s not what he said at all though. Are you adding your own thoughts?

[@MeMe-od2mg]

We're definitely more present when we are kids. Not always though. Coming from a traumatizing childhood, whenever the present, as a kid, was nerve-wracking I'd simply think about the future as a way to block what was going on around me. So I think it does depend on one's childhood. Lately, I realized that whenever my mind starts thinking about the future frequently it's a good indicator that the present sucks and I need to do something about it.

[@Chelseacoastmaine]

I agree with you. We’re more present in our childhood, that is if we even had a “childhood” and it was not stripped from us through trauma.

[@vanshshah4094]

he's clumsy yet so calm and confident!

[@jungletribal7647]

0.000000001 useful insightful and unselfish vidoes on youtube. and this is one of them, thankyou.

[@deadfrik]

Excelent! His way of presentation and the last sentence give me hope. If I understand what he is saying right, it means that I can stay a real person with likes and dislikes and also become more present.Sadly my experience (with vipassana Meditation) was very different from that. And a lot of long time meditators I´ve seen seem to me, like they have no personality anymore, like they conditioned themselves to be inhuman.So thank you for this.

[@okseo856]

I do practice paying attention to one sense esp listening very carefully to natural sounds or seeing the scenery when out in the wood. Having practiced for more than a month yet my bad habit of dwelling in my inner narratives started to rise, becoming vulnerable to react certain emotions finally rendering mindfulness practice to go totally in vain. I noticed it is prerequisite to accept any states of mind and feelings, or negative ones. But I found myself engulfed by it many times. I have social anxiety driven by childhood and now I am able to lead a normal life compared to the past however even before anxiety occurs, my brain perceives social situations or events as a threat I had traumatised, making body manifestations like rattling voice, hand and irregular eye movements etc. Mindfulness for some ppl is easier said than done but surely enabling you to take baby steps.

[@roberth.3705]

Once you seperate your ego from you're true self, you would not have any strong reactions such as embarrassment described. They just don't occur anymore, or only as a gentle feeling you can observe like a bubble and blow it on its way. No aversion or pushing occurs. No judgement

[@hyx6817]

thanks

[@PetarStamenkovic]

Thank you for sharing and reminding me of what's it like to be me again.

[@chemlab719]

You rock, buddy

[@kevinking7414]

What an amazing presentation. The man just gave the most descriptive insight into meditation with using the word once! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@WrenSarrow]

Beautiful! Noticing moments is fun, expands time, and can be a simple joy.

[@harrisonheyl]

This is a brilliant talk! Both funny and super insightful. I'm a longtime meditator, and this talk contained extremely helpful reminders for me. Well done, Daron--thank you!

[@TangoCat303]

What a nice man. And one of the best TED talks I've ever seen.

[@angelicasbestversion3301]

This talk will never get old, it is Timeless. Really awesome talk!

[@amit_amar]

Dear Daron, I enjoyed every minute of your talk, thank you!

[@paulkretschmer7118]

I´m from Germany and I didn´t get the message of the video until i found out that "mindful" has a much better translation in German. It means something along the lines "pay attention"

[@michaelszczech569]

Wow, this is exactly what I needed to hear today! Thank you, Daron!

[@dylonwalker7980]

He is right Mindfulness is great tool for checking your self out.

[@wingme]

Love this! We have 5 basic senses and Daron reminded me to use them. So simple and practical.

[@mrpentium]

Perfect. I never liked the term "mindfulness", when what you really seek is freedom from the mind...

[@ajmalali5317]

mrpentium Soo true!! 👌👏

[@coughyfilter]

It's totally not about freedom from the mind. I'd describe it more as acceptance but non-identification with the mind and being itself.

[@lefterissotirakis]

Yeah but the freedom of the mind is mindfulness..when the mind is not the boss of you then you have all of your mind for you..so when the mind is empty it is mindfulness..when the mind is empty you rest the mind and you also sharpen in the same time because it doesn’t making all this nonsense which everyone is going through

[@simontuffs4106]

I didn't hear freedom from mind? Mindfulness is from Buddhism right? Buddhists also believe mind is outside of us, ie, the universe is mind, the universe is mental. Now see it.

[@amyb7823]

@@coughyfilter It's freedom from the mind in the context of freedom from the constant ruminating, worrying, criticism, mind chatter that takes place in the mind. I think that's what the person meant.

[@anchorpoint009]

Very insightful -really gets to the heart of what mindfulness is all about in a practical way.

[@THEOGGUNSHOW]

This guy gets it.

[@ZenPsych]

This is a short course in mindfulness. It is consistent with what I have found to be so. Ask yourself; Am I willing to do what those who say works to have what I want, even for a limited period of time. Who asker,s this question? And, who will do it?

[@jessiehermit9503]

I thought that this was going to be AGAINST mindfulness meditation... so I was curious, but, I was wrong.

[@norabufrieh40]

+Faegir Volva that's the point, to drag you into this

[@morethancalm]

+Nör Aldin Ha! That would be like trying to drag someone into piano lessons or training for a 5K. Better to provide encouragement to people who have ruled it out based on misinterpreting the experience of practicing.

[@keldraalpine7091]

I'm so down, but the title is click-bait. You got me in a good way, but that was a miracle. I'm going to watch this till it sounds like English bc I am that stressed out and potentially disciplined. Not quite yet.

[@xGALEXYx]

The key is in the word "try". Don't TRY to be mindful, don't aim at the goals and ignore the process. I'm this sense it's not at all misleading :)

[@ccburro1]

I made similar comment. He could use an accurate title to attract those who have tried mindfulness and "it didn't work for them" because they never really learned that it is a way of being with our moment-to-moment experience--5 senses, thoughts, feelings.

[@lilianarovegno3876]

we are naturally intelligent, compasive, concentrated, live the present and share it( where else could we live) experience happiness and suffering in ourselves and in others, fall down and get up. The thing is that we have to find in ourselves the will and courage to get up to think to concentrate to help ourselves and others without being lazy , wanting everything without trouble, accepting and desl with suffering thebest possible , accept process, and not be tempted by an easy ,tips full, quick reward , never happy life.

[@hs5hdrtv]

The best benefit of mindfulness is the wisdom that there is no permanent self. What mentions is only by product. 😍 🙏 🙏 🙏 👀 👍

[@newchannel636-y6s]

Some people having no serious prblem in life becomes so much stressed and anxious without any reason.and believe me it is a very big problem. So as I.

[@tw3638]

One of the best ted talks

[@ryanj748]

The stairs analogy at the beginning is brilliant! This was an awesome talk.

[@TODDZEN]

Mindfulness has been hyped as this miracle cure for every ailment.

[@sacred406]

As Alan Watts said, "This is it". Making what trips so many so simple. Well done & with humour.

[@arminphulkar]

7:29 "Your strategy to live in the present will get a lot better when you accept how frequently the present sucks" , lol, this had me.

[@Kelslshea]

I tried to watch this video two years ago and clicked right out because I couldnt understand. Two years later I realize I picked up some of these habits by accident. Thank you so so much.

[@nathalymatte]

this is wonderful! I loved every sentence and will watch over and over again.

[@catastrophiccrew9594]

Great, great video. Seriously this blew my mind

[@WrittenForGuitar]

My favorite TED talk!! very well done!!!

[@russrausch6183]

Awesome message! Great job! In the sage words of Kunu - the more you do, the less you do.

[@heathersherman3380]

Daron is the BEST!

[@angieabley4765]

This is exactly what it has been feeling i have am doing this ! But i have never been able to explain jt like you have ! Amazing !. That is it the secret. The noticing it is like stepping out of yourself each time or like you said waking up seejng and hearing !

[@markpowell6062]

Runs along the lines of , Scott peck. Once we truly accept life is hard , life is then no longer hard because we transcend it. Noticing without judgments or criticisms is the message too .

[@rakeshb2175]

this man is an absolute legend!

[@tariqmkayes3261]

This is the best speech on Mindfulness 🙏

[@vaibhavsingh8485]

Exactly what I thought after this video was not was I really expecting . It doesn't seems annoying though and I m sure you r not the only one.

[@haoy80]

Good talk. Just why the title?

[@rosjio99]

Hao Yuan I think the title should have been "Don't try to be, mindful" that pause would have made it more clear but I agree this title is trash lol

[@spirgtudsrubec7776]

mindfulness is about the self, no mind or muchin is about awareness of your surroundings, about your world. mindfulness feeds the ego. no mind defeats the ego. we are part of this existance, we are not on our own. awarness teaches us acceptance of all things that we know and don't know. mindfulness even though focused keeps you wrapped up in the self feelings, which are not reallly feelings because they are of the mind. if you are using your mind you can not be in a state of awareness, it is an impossibility.

[@hachipachi1742]

Reverse engineering

[@chotibachihokya8012]

This is free medicine for my problematic life, just cost little amount of time and data but worth It.

[@MadhuSudhan-te7li]

Awesome explanation of live wisely In the world

[@STS_LAZ]

I think mindfulness helps bring simplicity back to life specially when minds are running so fast these days. If we all stopped for a few minutes a day and observed our mind, i'm sure the world would be on a better path. Or at least more positivity would spread, and the negativity would be cut substantially. That's in the scenario that a big percentage of us humans want peace , prosperity and mutual growth. That's my personal aim. Hit like if you have a similar vision #spreadconsciousness #savetheworld

[@attentionalfitnesstraining4724]

+TheSingleLife Yes. Exactly! What I'm describing is simple, but not easy. It's about creating new habits in midst of our routines. And it happens at the individual level. More examples and details here: www.athomeinyourlife.com/blog/2014/8/26/disrupt-the-default-mode

[@paulbail1451]

Great talk!

[@rosariomsoley]

I do agree, but once you are conscious, what do you with knowing that you're not feeling 100% right about what you feel, think and how you act? How to start changing when you don't know which direction to aim yourself at?

[@count7340]

I have a simple life. However, I get forced to do mindfulness at school; it gives me anxiety.

[@lblush]

Great message behind this. More than just being mindful.

[@pranksterxXxgangster]

Mindfulness made me who I used to be and whom I liked. :)

[@marcelanderer5177]

13 years of practice and still human. GG

[@cristinaferrero]

Simply THANK YOU.

[@philipgonzales3]

I'm a little lost. I am trying to learn about mindfulness and I feel like this was a lot of words but he didn't say much. Maybe it's just me though, literally the first video on mindfulness I've seen.

[@i.ehrenfest349]

Words of wisdom.

[@johnpettigrew9971]

Mindfulness is being balanced and not run by emotions it really is as simple as that

[@DilipThakkar-b4z]

true

[@rajeevmoothedath8392]

In a nutshell: observe whatever is there - the good, the bad and the indifferent- you are being mindful/meditating....

[@pankajtokas2150]

I have problem in English So plz anybody tell me exact conclusion of this

[@ginoasci]

personally, i feel we all think too much. we’re always being distracted from everything and anything. especially with these cellphones. we never really focus on what we’re doing. if we’re not doing something we like and enjoy like woodworking for myself, we shouldn’t be thinking about anything. always thinking, always thinking.....where does it get us? it brings us here, to TED talks and how to calm our minds. back when my folks were young farming on mountains in italy, they didn’t have all these distractions. it was simple, and they were simple, and it kept life simple so their brains weren’t all over the place like ours are. life was physically challeibut their minds were clear and free. TV, cellphones, computers, traffic, construction noise, etc etc. what would happen if we turned all those off for just a week?

[@ChrisAEtheridge]

This was a really good talk. Great content and delivered well.

[@hearty1240]

Beautiful speech.

[@rmk_online]

Another great TED talk!

[@contempl8ive]

Really wonderful, thank you!

[@cevxj]

Further, make adjustments to alter the moment. You wouldn't let the pain of a knife continue with your loving acceptance, you'd stop its movement or remove it.

[@melissarose6901]

I love the analogy with climbing stairs!

[@kesavannamboothi]

Mindfulness is really Self on Life Energy in own Body and visualizing it transcend earth Centre and Sun frequently.

[@ricardomir2363]

Very nice talk. Thank you guys 🙏😊

[@Crakygamez]

Felt so relaxed through out this video,awesome speech!

[@vanle1520]

Awesome! Thank you so much

[@RealSalica]

The best talk I heard lately !

[@vaibhavsingh8485]

I guess this is a very rare video I have pressed like button for

[@breakmanradio2530]

That's why you use biofeedback or neurofeedback training. I'm currently using HRV training, just started yesterday, and I already feel calmer, happier, and better able to pay attention to whatever I wish to pay attention to.

[@stephan200686]

Great practical talk! Thank you

[@sumitchatterjee8125]

Wonderfully explained...

[@flowerlove2985]

You are awesome! You're a good speaker, content was great and you delivered it like a home. Run. Also you're funny and adorable.

[@lisaonthemargins]

He's cute. And this talk really meant a lot to me

[@alexanderSnilsson]

So settle, yet so impactful. Got my thinking a lot about the power in one of many ways which an introvert would communicate (and since I just read Quiet - great book btw). / Alexander - Wish you all a great day !

[@whatsinaname7828]

It was on of the techniques the Buddha taught to relaise how everything is imperminent. Not for stress management. It is often used with Vipassina, a clear seeing. Notice that this fact of being a verry significant teaching of mind, body, emotion & action is a 2500 year old teaching from a single man to help awaken all sentient beings of their defiled perception of objective reality through ignorence, offering solutions like this to practice ones self to awaken themselves from their ignotent seeing through the 5 agrigets ( sences). You could at least being from the place where intalectual property was invented not plagerize such a thoughtful generous mans teaching.

[@sunset33533]

The mindfulness book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels is good. It has 30 exercises for meditation and mindfulness that are helpful and practical.

[@pixie5198]

so good. underrated

[@roberth.3705]

Along those lines, I could be about to die or have won the lottery. I'd feel unhappy in one situation briefly and happy about the other. Those feelings would arise and I'd accept them and they'd go away. However neither of them would effect what's really of importance-inner peace.We can choose this state if we have transcended identifying with an ego.