An Avoidant will do THESE FIVE things when they are in love

[@ashton1952]

True, avoidants show empathy in a different way, like not criticizing/highlighting your defects. Words come easy, can be empty, but actions speak louder. I've found them to be very sincere; but one has to be very tuned in to see what they're conveying sometimes. It's not for everyone. Anyone who is thinks an avoidant is a narcissist has not understood either of these things.

[@IamCoachCourt]

Very true

[@BirdieHaze2207]

Agree..

[@iamashleyiam]

My boyfriend is more like this than narcissistic. He’s just super distant and it’s really annoying and hurts more being in the relationship than being single

[@bandida99]

Agree

[@RepentImmediately]

One can be both Avoidant and Narcissistic

[@Avoidantcoper]

The ONE thing avoidants do when they realise they are TRULY in love with you - They discard you. Ironically the highest compliment they will give you also destroys you.

[@callunafrph]

😭😭

[@DonaldMeyers-v8c]

Truth!

[@lozer93gurl]

I’m an avoidant and it’s quite the opposite. If I realize I truly love someone (and they’ve proven they are a safe and trustworthy person) I become healthily attached. They either didn’t feel safe with you or there is more going on with them than just being an avoidant - like having commitment issues.

[@Avoidantcoper]

@@lozer93gurl You do not represent the vast amount of people who had experiences with avoidants. You're the special case here.

[@lozer93gurl]

@@Avoidantcoper And just like that you showed you’re not a safe person. When someone who is an avoidant is trying to tell something personal/about themselves and you dismiss them as if it’s not THEIR experience they WILL shut down on you. Re-read what I wrote with your ears open and you will understand and if you still don’t ask about what is confusing you/doesn’t make sense about what I said. This is how you communicate healthily. (The guy in the video also mentioned what I was referring to as well - and he’s right)

[@ShineWine]

You can’t force Avoidant’s so it’s important to be sure of yourself & whole within cause if your not careful you’ll chase them away. Avoidant are some of the most beautiful souls that will naturally fall into a person that is secure & confident

[@IamCoachCourt]

100 percent

[@shereses.3298]

Dysfuntional would be the proper adjective.

[@ShineWine]

@@shereses.3298 Your comment is more the reason why you should be somewhere healing & not judging ✨🌱

[@shereses.3298]

@@ShineWine girl, I'm a healing Avoidant, and I said what I said. The behavior is DYSFUNCTIONAL💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@luketimewalker]

😧😧😧

[@EmpathEss]

MY DA was the clingiest cuddliest people pleaser until we decided to be vulnerable. 😂

[@IamCoachCourt]

Ya see!!

[@angelinadenisenko7396]

Yes!!! Same. Can be the softest teddy bear until talk of moving in, engagement, starting a family.

[@doyoueatrocks]

@@angelinadenisenko7396don’t talk about it, just let it flow from one to another

[@Flufero23]

Yes. That’s how it happens.

[@777-h6n]

@@doyoueatrocks👌

[@Flufero23]

I know my FA ex loved me.. On expressing deep feelings, he began the slow fade, eventually monkey branching to another after three years. We had a mostly good four-year relationship/situationship. His fears got the best of him. He wanted to be friends. I said "no" and let him go without a tear. No anger, no questions, nothing. NC forever for me. I have no resentment or jealousy even though I was heartbroken. After nine months of inner work, I am finally getting over him. I have accepted the fact that it would not work with us. I know he isn't doing healing work. I know he feels guilty for hurting me, and I don't expect him to try to come back. For myself, I know I could not go through the heartbreak again.I am sure we both still have love for each other. That's why it is so sad.

[@Flufero23]

Yes, I forgot the acts of service. My FA ex would do anything for me. He helped me in so many ways when I needed help. Funny thing, before he left, he had asked if I needed anything and even offered help before I answered. Watching this video brought back so many remembrances for me. Even though we both have moved on, I know we will always have a place in each other's heart.You seem to have a way of being able to speak of avoidants with compassion.

[@IamCoachCourt]

@@Flufero23 Thank you, I appreciate your comments 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Flufero23]

@@IamCoachCourtYou’re welcome.

[@Nika-je6zd]

It means you were absolutely exhausted already, hence you let him go - you really need to move on, and find a new better non-DA partner!

[@echase416]

Once women get into a FWB scenario, it can be almost impossible to go to a ‘real relationship’ level.

[@angelinadenisenko7396]

100% accurate - he had my back, spent so many resources on me, helped me so much, opened a whole new world for me; heaps of acts of service and affection. Talked about his past. But never vulnerable words. Ever. Could barely tell me he loved me - he said "I want to say the L word to you" and never did.

[@angelinadenisenko7396]

I love him beyond words, but at some point it just gets too much to carry on my own. Too much emotional baggage that I'm carrying for both people.

[@Sofiahansen_3069]

So sorry girl - did it workout in the end?

[@janetlabrador7951]

Oh God yes now he's back to me and giving me everything..I'm in awe..he trust me too much..and he said he loves me.after all what happened and what I've been through..I walked away from him before I stand where I stood .but I keep all his secrets with me.

[@angelinadenisenko7396]

@janetlabrador7951 good luck, 👍 but remember your worth. I've met a new man and it's a total breath of fresh air and I can breathe a sigh of relief, I'm not walking on eggshells, I'm able to share my thoughts and feelings without being criticised, it's mutual give and take. I hear compliments from him all the time, I know what he's thinking and feeling, everything is very clear and progressing naturally. Unlike my ex - it was his way or the highway, he barely went out of his way apart from spending money on me (which he would recklessly spend anyway). It took me 6 full months of pain to get over my ex. But it's doable and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

[@VictoryXR]

I used to be anxious but now I’m heading into avoidant territory with some anxious sprinkled in

[@JenGrice]

Thank you for this. My (long distance) FA partner does all of these things, which works out because I feel most loved with acts of service and then quality time. Last week he drove over 2 hours one way to see me (and back in the same day) and take me out for my birthday. He has also said he loved me one time but like you said not in a lovebombing way. He was being vulnerable because I told him (not that same day) we need that to grow. I really see him trying to improve on his communication, putting in effort although it’s harder for him, and he is self-aware of his issues. That’s what keeps me in this relationship with him while I work to be more securely attached.

[@davidhoward5687]

It happened in this order for me. She "Love Bombed" me, she started with the acts of service. She forgot to call me one night and I brought it up to her, she withdrew from that point forward. I now realize she is an avoidant and how I should treat someone like this. She shared so many things with me but the chemistry me and her had was insane. I broke it off with her after 2 and a half months to give her some space and she agreed with the breakup. Everything she did is almost 100% what a DA is.

[@Jochms]

So you brought it up the first time she "forgot to call you" is this something she shouldve remembered or what. Im not sure i follow.

[@Whyurforeheadsobig]

Theres nothing more fulfilling than educationg yourself on how to better understand and love the dearest person in your life

[@dimensionsofagemini]

His intro hit ME so hard. It is very difficult for me to be vulnerable especially with the opposite sex, because of how I've seen women be handled in my life time. It caused me not to trust men no matter what. Stand on your own 10 toes. It has cost me so many chances of relationships with men i was interested in. Some how guys fall in love with me fast. We fight because I won't open up to them and allow then to earn my trust. I'm working on improving my self esteem and recognizing what my actions project.

[@IamCoachCourt]

🙏🏾❤️

[@elainejones5473]

Thank you so much for this. It helps me cope with the heartbreak of the sudden discard that blindsided me right when we seemed to be drawing closest. No explanation; he just made a lame excuse that didn't make any sense at all and he left. It was so sudden. I was devastated. I spent months trying to figure out what I had done. What about those sweet things he'd said? Were those just lies? Was I nothing more than a little fling for him? Now that I understand the avoidant better, I see he had been doing all five of the things you mention in this video. Okay he's gone but it helps to believe that his feelings for me had been genuine -- at least, genuine at the time. That is a sweet gem I will treasure in my heart. Thank you.

[@THEpamstevens]

He falls in love fast. When we met he said he wanted to take it slow BUT he told me I love you at about the 6/8 week period.

[@LilyOlivia-p3s]

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

[@LilyOlivia-p3s]

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[@JustMeAndMyBoy]

Mine did relay something very personal that they may not have told anyone else. I’m thankful that they felt the trust. My question is: WHY did they share it with me?

[@susanwhite6761]

Im an avoidant but its because I need to feel safe.

[@wizardofaus2985]

I'm anxious because I need to feel safe.

[@sasb3675]

I think all maladaptive attachment behaviour was created as a way of keeping you safe, it just shows in different ways - activating (anxious) or deactivating (avoidant)

[@Nikkiole84]

Lord I realize I have avoidant tendencies lol. Oh boy, explains alot. My traumas have scorned me.

[@IamCoachCourt]

Now that you’re aware, you can change

[@DonaldMeyers-v8c]

For now. You can work on them and overcome them for sure

[@negraconlyme2270]

My ex did all these, even told me he loved me first. Then he left me shortly after 😔

[@sadiqua7]

This is helpful, my ex did most of this, his struggle was being transparent about his finances. If he could’ve owned up to that we would still be together. He ended a relationship with me because he wasn’t ready for a family financially.. I never pressed for a baby immediately, and at my age now I’m stuck trying to heal from his confusing behavior and getting to a point where I can trust someone new. Don’t see myself having a baby naturally anymore. Waste of time, but lessons learned.. no longer giving grace to men who can’t be open and honest about how they feel about me and our future or who can’t navigate life’s stressors with me.

[@IamCoachCourt]

Oh yes, many Avoidants I know hoard and are secretive about finances. I think losing control of that scares them.

[@BirdieHaze2207]

I agree, they are being slayed on so many other channels. I went out with an FA and he was the kindest most caring man. So much to the point that he couldn’t switch off and detach from feeling helpless to help me and burning himself out. One thing I saw though was he thought I needed “ tending too” and that was his job, instead of just loving me and being there if I needed him. But a genuine person that couldn’t say how he felt in fear of upsetting me, or letting me down.

[@IamCoachCourt]

Thank you for this comment 🙏🏾

[@BirdieHaze2207]

@@IamCoachCourt thank you for what you do, you explain things so well and also keep the respect and the human element in people.

[@gayleneflower398]

Same. He did everything for me. He came to my house he fix things he paid for dinners he did so much and I said I don’t want a handyman. I want a boyfriend he got offended, but it was true. I didn’t want a handyman I wanted a boyfriend and he couldn’t, do that why, I don’t know. He just couldn’t put out emotions and love. It was sad. I did love him but I couldn’t be with someone that couldn’t love back.😢❤

[@marciasloan534]

This is describing me

[@doyoueatrocks]

@@gayleneflower398you kinda slapped him in the face with that one 😅

[@TenYah144]

I like how you seem really gracious about avoidants. I’m leaning about them now that I’m experiencing one but unfortunately I’m someone who’s dealt with narcissistic ex husband and ex boyfriend so when avoidant showed narcissistic type behaviors I bounced lol. Well got really triggered and became dismissive and altho I tried explaining my behavior and why, they seemed to not be able to lean back in (as I see they’re not communicative and couldn’t reciprocate communication) which triggered me more lol. Currently not speaking 🤷🏾‍♀️ thanks for your insight

[@ashton1952]

What type of narc behavior is he showing? I'm curious because my story is similar, although my DA ex didn't show narc traits. He's the only one I'd consider taking back

[@TenYah144]

@@ashton1952 I say because it was the narcs in my life that I experienced, blocking, stone walling, shutting down or shutting me out, unable to see/hear the other person’s point but only seem to want to drive their point, shuts down when I’m trying to communicate important emotional needs, just someone “emotionally unavailable” and a bit emotionally immature. I understand that these bahaviors are in many people (and maybe my unhealed self sometimes) not only narcs. I DONT consider this person a narc because they ARE very empathic, considerate, self-giving but sometimes some of the same behaviors can show in an avoidant as I’m leaning or someone severely anxious as I’m leaning and for that I could give him a pass some day but having experienced some of these same things that triggered me about the narcs just really set me off. Fortunately I was able to recognize it for what it was early and even attempted to take accountability in a mature way (which they DONT do) but the repeat blocking is a strong no for me so right now I’m not even trying to go there. We will be in no contact for however long we have to.

[@Trust_worthy_24]

Literally same same same

[@Trust_worthy_24]

Avoidant and emotionally unavailable ppl are exhausting. It's so sad how we try to teach them how to communicate even tho they know all the principles for healthy communication but wen it comes to the real deal they hide and avoid you and dnt respond

[@sherrymshephard-massat5929]

Well he did all of that. He told me immediately about his situation with his mom that bothered him so much, how she took up so much of his time. He called me every night, took me to the grocery store no matter how late it was, helped me with bills when I needed it, told me he loved me, got on his knees, grabbed me around my waist like a child when I told him that I loved him. He broke up with me four months later, but would still ask if he could come by. I would've been okay with him just being a friend but after he would come by, and I'd give him a call some days later just say 'hey, how's your week going'', he would either ghost me, of tell me to stop bothering him. AND HE WAS JUST AT MY HOUSE. I don't know WHAT kinda' love that was supposed to be.

[@kristinej.4182]

Very accurate information. 💯 New to your channel and your videos are so helpful. Thank you!

[@IamCoachCourt]

@@kristinej.4182 thank you!

[@shamayim2001]

i am an avoidant ( not by choice) He is spot on

[@IamCoachCourt]

I appreciate the confirmation 🙏🏾

[@sanschmidt5457]

okay good to know. He only did no. 1. Confided in me when he did with noone else. He didn't do acts of service. He only ever just hinted that he liked me whenever I brought up the topic and he felt he needed to say something back. I only ever met one of his friends online and his Dad by accident. He didn't make time for me and always had a ton of things that he needed to be doing before he could see me. It's very painful to have to admit to myself that he didn't have any feelings for me except liking the attention that I gave him and kinda using me for that.

[@doyoueatrocks]

😂😂😂 my gf is dismissive avoidant as heck, but she is amazing, I can wake her up at 2am and say I am thirsty and she will get up, get a bottle of cold water and bring it back to me and go back to sleep as though nothing had happened.

[@RS-ms1bz]

Why the hell would you wake her up to go fetch you a bottle of water? Seems very selfish to me. You must be a narcissist.

[@JAYNicole520]

Extremely useful, thank you 🙏🏾 😊❤

[@IamCoachCourt]

Then you for watching 🙏🏾

[@echase416]

I have some Avoidant friends and I do try to establish that Safety is important for our friendship.

[@cinthiagoch]

Yes, I noticed they tend to follow this pattern in friendships too. Feeling ultra safe is important in any kind of relationship for them to get close and open up.

[@Anon93836]

It’s almost impossible to spend time with her. I don’t chase, I don’t message her all the time, I ask her to go places and she always has an excuse. I haven’t seen her in about 2weeks and now I offer to take her to the cinema and she says no with no valid excuse. I am trying to make it work, trying to work through her avoidance and allow her to love me but it’s impossible man, I am not chasing her to spend time with me but equally I want our relationship to progress and actually go places with her.

[@a.d.b535]

My DA does all these things, even stuck by me even though I embarrassed him in front of his friends and they expressed their doubts about me to him. How's that for love? We've since patched and I no longer behave poorly, thus proving that people can work thru issues.

[@IamCoachCourt]

That’s great to hear

[@a.d.b535]

@@IamCoachCourt And thanks for posting a video that's positive about DAs.

[@kashmirirose3733]

My avoidant ex used to confide in me when it came to talking about her husbands betrayal of her with her best friend. She was also my work wife always making sure my tie was stright (amongst other things).. She said to me that ' When she got into a relationship with me, she never thought that she would fall in love with me. (as she did). She used to be my work wife, offereing me her home to use as an after hours work space....I think it was too much for her....Or maybe the relationship became monotonous. Even the intimacy was scheduled in as a weekly session.

[@teanna4569]

He said when you around I felt free, then he told something personal and said this is messing with my confidence and I don’t have anyone to talk to because I don’t want anyone thinking Iam weak, showing his credit score and telling me personal stuff normal men that are woman centered won’t do, and he texts me good morning 4-6days a week we talk sometimes threw out the day and sometimes on the phone but I can also tell he soooooo scared

[@IamCoachCourt]

That sounds about right

[@randalchandler2366]

Thank you for sharing this knowledge. Im not sure if my former partner is an avoidant, I don't have the training to say that about anyone however it appears she may have been. In some form I saw everything you described and so I was confused for a while by how easily she gave up.

[@IamCoachCourt]

Thanks for the feedback Randal

[@courtneytaylor333]

Hello Court!! I’m Courtney! Thank you for the video

[@IamCoachCourt]

@@courtneytaylor333 I’m Courtney as well!

[@Under510]

This is eye-opening!

[@SeanOzz]

I’m still trying to figure out if my ex is a fearful avoidant or a covert narcissist. She has traits of both so it’s pretty confusing.

[@IamCoachCourt]

I would say the Narcissism trumps the attachment

[@sannasunshine4161]

I heard somewhere that all narcissists are avoidant, but not all avoidants are narcissists. So if she has narcissistic tendencies, she is a narc with avoidant attachment style.

[@selfdiscoverysupport]

​@@sannasunshine4161I saw on Personal Development School's channel that narcissistic people can come from any attachment style that is insecure. Some types of narcissism are more likely to have anxious attachment or fearful avoidance also rather than dismissive avoidant attachment.

[@Avoidantcoper]

@@SeanOzz the major difference between narcs and avoidants is the "intent" of their actions. Their behaviour is very similar. Thus they hurt people a great deal and you see stories from people broken by the discard

[@joshmorehouse335]

My DA boyfriend did all 5 of these things. :( What's hard is I know deep down he really did love me.

[@JOEYDEEZ369]

I fear love… I’m a classic avoidant… I’m the only individual on this stunning planet that’s ok with unrequited love… cos it’s less work to do on my part and I can control what happens and where the relationship goes… Yep… sounds nonsensical but it works for me !! Thank you CC Ciao ;)’

[@ANU_WRLD]

Oooo can u go deeper, what abt makes u satisfied?

[@JOEYDEEZ369]

@@ANU_WRLD yep… a one sided relationship suits me just fine because of the fact that I get all the joyful moments but without the heartbreak… heartache or drama.. there you go… now you know… thanks for your reply… wishing you a fabulous day today…. Ciao ;)’

[@IamCoachCourt]

I would looove to talk to you. Even it it’s just a quick chat

[@JOEYDEEZ369]

@@IamCoachCourt oh yeh… is that so Mr I Am CC… ok… so what would we be talking about exactly ?? I’m just curious is all…

[@IamCoachCourt]

@@JOEYDEEZ369 about how confident and honest you are. How becoming this self aware came about. It’s honestly intriguing

[@MsPatriot420]

This is valuable information. Thank you.

[@IamCoachCourt]

Glad it was helpful!

[@luketimewalker]

Damn, this really conjures moments.

[@Mohaeyo123]

Me, an Avoidant: 👁️👄👁️ uh oh

[@IamCoachCourt]

@@Mohaeyo123 😂😂😂

[@JustMeAndMyBoy]

When u say they share finances, do you literally mean sharing their finances/money with u, or being open about INFORMATION regarding their finances, like sharing their personal worth, how much they have?

[@0Demiyah0]

I think this also depends on whether they are a man or a woman. Women don't tend to volunteer their financial resources as much as men do. Those "men are provider"-roles in society are fairly engrained. So I think that point is more appropriate to observe in men than women, and heterosexual relations more than other sexual orientations. A man who is interested in a woman, will pay for the dates, get you an occasional gift and all that. They will in time also volunteer information about their personal worth. In my personal situation, my Avoidant SO paid all the dates in the first 6 months and even would fight me over the bill if I tried paying. As things proceeded that evened out a bit more where it was 70-30. He told me when he had major loans paid off, or what his inheritance looked like, and I could look into his bank account, he emailed me his salary slips. Not just out of the blue, there was context to how this was brought up. But in any case, I knew a lot of personal information about him you'd trust only with someone you feel intimate with.

[@JustMeAndMyBoy]

@IAmCoachCourt ??? Bc we’re very open about DISCUSSIONS, but it’s not like we have a joint bank account.

[@lauriechan2966]

Avoid the avoidant. Problem solved.

[@KLEFF718]

I was going to say, why do I care what an avoidant does when they're in love with you? It's so toxic that I don't care!

[@Dreamsareareality]

I always love this channel. Coach helped me before. Keep up the excellent work. You nailed it with this list. 🙏🏽🙏🏽 1:30

[@IamCoachCourt]

It's so good to see you again Tammi! Keep shining!

[@Dreamsareareality]

@@IamCoachCourt Thank you kindly. My channel finally started growing. 🙏🏽💜

[@IamCoachCourt]

@@Dreamsareareality I see that, you’re killing it!

[@Dreamsareareality]

@@IamCoachCourt Thank you. 🙏🏽

[@cytinachavis9157]

This video helped me alot! My avoidant man does all of these things. How can I get him to go all in and commit?

[@RosaK37]

Oh! That means he is NOT in love with me 😂

[@IamCoachCourt]

🫣

[@micaelanamu2240]

Yup😢 Same😅

[@salubashiru8021]

Literally this perfectly describes me

[@cobalto65]

So for example...She feels dismissive sometimes or that she doesn't care, but at the same time, she tells me to go an work on her art work shop for my therapy and refuses to charge me, and I know im the only one she refuses to charge, even though I know she is struggling for money (I bake her goods in return)... Is it her sharing resources?

[@RyanCharem-eh3yv]

All these are just typical things someone falling in move with you would do.

[@kellymaresha]

Please DO NOT trust me less that 90 days in with your drama dumping. If you choose not to go to therapy, that’s your business & hurdle.

[@marysh3840]

I wish I could meet the one very soon

[@rosaliaaaaaa]

They fall in love !?

[@IamCoachCourt]

Yeah, when they do it’s obvious

[@cynthiarowley719]

How about two avoidants?

[@Nika-je6zd]

Never works - they avoid each other 😂

[@ANU_WRLD]

@@Nika-je6zd😂😂😂

[@nancylakot8139]

😂😂😂​@@Nika-je6zd

[@intensepassion3382]

I'm having difficulty with these terminologies... avoidant etc. Many terms today are not defined. People are not completely avoiding others.

[@IamCoachCourt]

Mainly avoiding pain

[@moneyisweird7862]

Attachment theory was developed in 1907. Perhaps you think it's new because of the progression of the Internet and having access to this more than going to a library looking for it

[@IamCoachCourt]

@@moneyisweird7862 this right here

[@Jo-kh1yo]

Number 1: It`s unhealthy to use one another as a therapist. Go see a professional.

[@northshorelight35]

Nah. The DA is my option. He still keeps his ex in the pic. Truthfully, I think he’s in love with her because he’s been with her the longest. I know it’s very toxic because they always bicker and he doesn’t do things with her anymore but the fact that he won’t leave that house despite never wanting to marry her and telling everyone that he is single….Im not waiting on him. I have the person I’m supposed to be with.

[@JustMeAndMyBoy]

I just realized, u didn’t say if you’re referring to DA or FA.

[@IamCoachCourt]

Dismissive

[@JustMeAndMyBoy]

@@IamCoachCourt thx Coach. When u say sharing resources, do u literally mean money, or INFO about finances?

[@ANU_WRLD]

@@IamCoachCourtwhat’s the difference between?

[@JustMeAndMyBoy]

I believe my SO is both DA and FA. How do I know which is dominant?

[@ashton1952]

It's a good question, and a person can be 50/50. I find DA's to be on an even keel whilst FA tend towards drama.

[@JustMeAndMyBoy]

@@ashton1952 mostly even keel, but yes I’ve been thru several bouts of drama. I’m thinking DA leaning FA?

[@aspiringrootwoman24]

What do you classify yourself as? FA tend to lean anxious with a more dismissive partner and avoidant with a more anxious partner

[@JustMeAndMyBoy]

@@aspiringrootwoman24 Secure :)

[@divadiva588]

What is DA & FA....

[@IamCoachCourt]

A Dismissive Avoidant and fearful avoidant

[@divadiva588]

Thank you I just came across your channel and trying to o work out what the person I am with is. He does not say I love you he finds it really hard he does not share his money willingly, but can be generous always wants to know how I feel rather than share his feelings...I just don't know

[@desiloui]

I think I just realized my friend is in love with me………………………………………….

[@IamCoachCourt]

is that good or bad?

[@desiloui]

@@IamCoachCourtbad… because I now also realize he and I are both avoidant.

[@sahsahsah123]

Frankly When an avoidant feels like loving you , they will run and disappear. 🫠🫠