38. 2023 Reflections: Lessons, Backlash & Why we’ll keep talking about our exes

This week, Deepti and Natalie discuss Matt Rife’s cancellation and Netflix Reality TV news, and share their personal reflections on the crazy year that has been 2023 - including why they will keep talking about their exes.

[@Ladeedaa04]

Ok am all teary eyed when I heard Natalie say she can’t live without Deepti. That felt so natural, full of love and made Deepti so happy too. Awww

[@nicholebaldwin1332]

Natalie, I just want you to know that being blackmailed is absolutely inappropriate and abusive. You don’t have to share your story but you also shouldn’t be silenced. You’re allowed to talk about your experiences, especially when people hurt you.

[@Affranchie]

I am the only one who doesn't find Matt Rife attractive?

[@thobilembuli8571]

Yes

[@mirandapontarelli5485]

No. He looks like the guys I went to HS with. Everyone else thought they were hot. I thought they were smarmy, and that's unattractive to me.

[@pnkcss22]

Definitely not the only one. 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@graccie357]

No he’s not

[@graccie357]

And not funny

[@MochiMoment]

I am a small KZbinr too I understand it took a lot to create and upload the videos. Thank you for sharing lots with us. I have been watching LIB from Season 1, but still surprised when I heard the continue part of Shane. No idea how disgusting Shane could be by blackmailing Natalie?! (Shake is an ass no one doubted but Shane had some sort of cover till you noticed he was not normal😂) Love both of you and Happy New Year 🎉

[@ryanhardie8473]

I have to say that even though I enjoyed both of you on your season, I was slow to warm to the podcast. For a while now I've really enjoyed it and look forward to new episodes! I love the focus on Love is Blind with some additional content mixed in.

[@imsocorkyy]

I’m one of the 100k people that had you in their top 5 podcasts! Y’all have been so entertaining!

[@BreeMThomas1]

I love this podcast, and I cannot wait for more content in 2024! I love how well they work together… and enjoy the difference of opinion on different topics. This podcast is actually the first podcast I have listened to on a consistent basis.

[@violetsimmonsbrain]

It was a big year for you guys!! Congrats :)

[@cassiewilliams5615]

It is amazing to watch you two taking your power back 💖 keep doing what you're doing no matter what the haters say!!!

[@epaigeee]

Love this podcast. Best of luck in the new year! 🎉🎉

[@CherieCoco___]

Am I the only one who looks forward to Thursdays? 😍

[@laylatreehouse]

Love you guys! Thank you for this podcast ❤

[@victoriakokai]

love this podcast so much you guys! ❤

[@morekem9150]

Love you guys! And this is my fav podcast ❤

[@blanchebuhia758]

Love you both!!!

[@vwchik7777]

Have a fabulous holiday and New Year! 🎉

[@angiep2229]

I missed the beginning of this podcast, but I was really happy to find you both. I love the insights you both express. I also liked you both when you were on Love is Blind, even though Natalie didn't always get a good edit. I think I was really rooting for Natalie when I saw the way Shane was treating you on the show... it struck me as really toxic. So, I was rooting for you in the sense that I'm so glad you didn't end up marrying Shane. He really gave me bad vibes and reminded me of past abusive relationships. So I think I really saw a lot of myself in Natalie. But Deepti, I mean, it's impossible not to like Deepti. :) I'm glad you do what you do, and that you both seem really happy with your lives at this time. And yes, you have every right to talk about your exes. Those were major experiences for you both, and you should be speaking your truth. I hope you both have lovely holidays, whichever ones you celebrate.

[@Ziggy555]

Love your podcast. Best o luck for '24

[@eshahiloganathan8998]

Natalie’s face when Deepti was explaining the Matt thing 😂 has me dead. That was too relatable ❤

[@victoriaemerson-ds8du]

Wow, Natalie has been through so much with Shane… so abusive, both before and after the show. I am so sorry. 😢

[@joanaoaxaca9806]

Love you guys! I can’t wait for OotP 2024

[@lauc91]

I'm impressed by how politely and sincere you both came out. There's no need to come after nobody... they'll ruin their own reputation. Such a wonderful and loving episode! Ps: I almost fainted laughing when Deepthi said more LIB seasons is "job security" for you guys AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA what a comment! 😂🎉 Merry Christmas girls! You deserve a good and nice break from work ❤

[@SnowCedarQueen]

Guys, you've only gotten bigger and better!

[@ReporterLizAdeola]

YES Natalie!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Looking forward to more “Letting the choppa fly/fck it moments in 2024”

[@AprilCMango]

not me leaving a million comments while listening lol. but as a Southeast Asian, totally agree on the one-dimension portrayal y’all got. I was watching like “I KNOWWW they have more to say that isn’t this edit.” Natalie got a really dirty After the Altar edit when they asked everyone “Did Natalie show you the texts?” at the end as if they were turning this “good girl” image on its head at the end when like…you weren’t talking about shit on your own phone 😭 Zanab kinda got it, too, in season 3 when they had her family talking about how her character is so strong despite what she’s been through. Only for the editing to later write her off as a super petty person because she showed emotions 😭

[@hannabanana85]

Justice for Natalie is freaking due?! Are we just gonna skip over the part about him exploiting you to silence you?? Nat 😮😢 I’m so sorry that’s so manipulative of him. May 2024 bring some peace and love to all of us who have been silenced 💛

[@user-bo1ux7kz5l]

Happy holiday season, I love your podcast, and can’t wait for what is next to come. One suggestion I have is that in some cases would be helpful to bring a male perspective sometimes. I feel that we fail to understand men’s mentality and perhaps can be educative. Of course I do not mean any toxic masculinity but someone with integrity and good values that can offer some wisdom so we can all learn from each others.

[@kalikayy]

❤

[@Jess_cool25]

I watched squid games but Mai’s game was reasonable and I actually agreed with her deeds.

[@sammysunshine4884]

Shayne has t uploaded since November he’s been quiet for some reason

[@elamarie2794]

Just found out im living under a rock 😢 and will stay there I can find negative energy dwn the street not gonna go looking for it

[@paulandluanne2093]

35:18, YES GIRL SAY SHIeT ON YOUR PODCAST. now tell us that argument that will ruin his LIFE LOL

[@purplepari333]

Shame on Shane tho smh…props to you women for being brave! 🙌🏾

[@thobilembuli8571]

Matt Rife is so fiiiine. Yuh! He’d get it.

[@healthyholemealbread]

I must have missed this, why exactly were they nearly cancelled with this podcast?

[@mayareads708]

In the begining at lot of people kept saying they were like tryin to be famous and keep a shred of relevance. Thats all I saw. So dumb if you dont care dont liaten 😂🎉🎉

[@emilianunezful]

Why do you guys don’t do the podcast in the same place?

[@AprilCMango]

the DC season will be bonkers because dating in the DMV area is WILD 😭😭 it is truly so bad

[@chaseacheck727]

i had to skip over the squid games spoilers😩 i haven’t finished yet !

[@Jess_cool25]

Who the hell is Matt Rife?!

[@Gan2ya]

Nutrafol worked for 6 months but then hair started falling the same after

[@kimlaffont9951]

A couple of comments about Matt Rife or any comedian for that matter going all the way back to the dark ages, sometimes joking about something reveals its truth. It doesn't really make sense to cancel someone for bringing a truth to light. We need comedians to be able to talk about difficult things that are often taboo. Look at George Carlin, Richard Pryor, Eddie Murphy, Ricky Gervais, Jon Stewart, Jerry Seinfeld, Chelsea Handler, Roseanne Barr, and many, many others. They have all made us squirm in discomfort, but I'm glad they had a chance to bring some openings to discuss things that aren't okay with our society. I don't think trying to be politically correct about everything is the right answer. I'm not saying Matt Rife is in their league, but he has the right to say what he wants and that's a beautiful thing. He is not actually perpetrating domestic violence, only joking about it. There is a difference.

[@AprilCMango]

matt rife did not deserve wild n out 😵‍💫

[@alwaysforgood]

I have sent DMs to you guys, no answers at all.

[@melvyn2561]

Get rid of the ad plugs. They are LAME. If you must do them, do them at the very end.

[@zahraabdullahi1601]

I'm thinking that the sponsors request when in the video it happens. Just a regular part of KZbin life, just fast forward.

[@blehcora3927]

Matt riff is so hot?? Lmfao yall delulu

[@michelem.saumberfield1743]

DEAR NATALIE.......What was in the video that Shayne uploaded? I mean, you say you were both in bed, but LOVE IS BLIND shows couples in bed already. I know you loved Shayne and I know he is a person and somewhere in the middle of the show he did seem a lot nicer than I expected. And I liked his Mom. But the first time I saw him in the pods he really creeped me out.....just so intense, and unnerving. I know maybe he can't help that and I don't want to bash him, but Natlie you are so graceful and remind me of Audrey Hepburn in your style. You two were definitely an "odd couple" match. The thing about "Love is Blind" is that it seems like it is about LOVE. Yes, sex comes into play, of course, but it seems overall about LOVE. The other reality shows seem more about SEX AND BEING SHOW-OFFS AND COMPETING.

[@Jess_cool25]

Oh. That guy. Started watching his special and he wasn’t funny.

[@user-wh3no1zo1o]

People that actually watch stand up comedy aren’t offended by what Matt Rife has said. It’s a joke. 😭

[@Thee_Catch]

You guys, I love y’all, but Matt Rife is a comedian. It’s not a surprise, if you seen any of his videos, you HAD to know he is a pretty raw comedian. Women watched cause he’s cute? That’s on them. It’s okay. It’s not serious. If people don’t want to hear offensive material, there is some comedians you just shouldn’t watch, but leave him alone for the rest of us that can take a joke.

[@victoriaemerson-ds8du]

Some things aren’t ok to joke about… a lot of comedians go way too far.

[@Thee_Catch]

@@victoriaemerson-ds8du I get that people feel that way, so don’t watch comedians. Doesn’t mean they need to be “canceled”.

[@victoriaemerson-ds8du]

@@Thee_Catch I watch comedians with good boundaries and integrity. I love good comedy that doesn’t rely on filth and sensationalism.

[@Thee_Catch]

@@victoriaemerson-ds8du I do too.. I watch a lot of different comedians, some tame, some not. Everyone appreciates different things and we should all be able to enjoy whatever comedy without people cancelling them, that’s all. Happy Holidays 🙏🏼🎄❤️