4 Assumptions Narcissists Have About You

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Do you know want to know more about what narcissists assume about you and their victims? Do you want to learn how to negotiate with this toxic personality and win? Join me in my free webinar! Sign up here: slay.rebeccazung.com/ 🙌

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

I'll be there for you! ❤

[@jimhall1990]

Not any more!!

[@NWIA_Grips]

Not anymore!

[@lonnieclemmons8555]

Not anymore 👌🏿

[@denisesamsung9618]

Not any more. God help me. He is cruel. And when I was sick changed all money into his name. Very complicated Mo negotiation

[@JT-gm4fk]

1. You're naive and will continue to buy into their lies 2. They see your empathy and kindness as weakness 3. They believe you are just as manipulative as they are 4. They assume you will never leave

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

This is accurate

[@yukio_saito]

Thank you for taking notes✍

[@keithgraves7918]

Not any more thanks rebecca

[@LadyLove..]

😂😂truth

[@Matt-ng4tj]

And on to point number 1.. that you bring up, thanks for the list by the way, even if we point out an early red flag, they like to throw that into the memory hole for themselves. I'm finally starting to accept that it's basically another version of the whole satanic motto that if you don't say anything that it's concession/ permission in their crazy world. From my experience, they turn on the charm or turn up the charm for a while.. but later on or not to far down the road, they can't help but to keep waving those orange and red flags. Just sporadically enough to keep their target or victim hooked or at least dealing with them a little more longer than they should have. Shut the door and go no contact. There is no boundaries or negotiating with proverbial terrorists here.

[@prostyle1626]

If their absence brings you peace you did not lose them you have won yourself again

[@soundaffects8352]

I have just decided to begin telling people what he is like. I have stayed silent too long. Whether out of loyalty to him, or embarrassment; not wanting to look like a b*tch; feeling ashamed; being afraid to say something I could not unsay...whom or what have I been trying to protect? Him? Myself? Mutual friends? The stuff we do together? Anyway...I am tired of feeling so utterly and profoundly alone.

[@rllght]

Yes, narcissists do think you are totally and constantly manipulative as they are. And if you happen to disagree with their behavior or the way they act, they will think that you are scheming and trying to manipulate the situation to your advantage by "playing the good guy", and act defensively. It is like a constant chess game dealing with narcissists up close.

[@fayereeves6568]

I told my sister that people who lie don't believe the people they lie to. When I started seeing that she lies, she assumed that I was lying.

[@demomoore7168]

It’s so sad that my sister from the time I was very young began to gaslight me and set me up to do wrong things, or make silly mistakes or something clumsy or goofy and then would proceed to tell the stories about me over and over again in front of people that I was either interested in or trying to impress to try to knock me down and I didn’t understand it for the longest. It is so sad that I cannot even deal with her at all anymore and had to basically stop talking to her the last 10 or so years now because she never improved in all of the 30 years I tried to be kind to her

[@daramuller7179]

Not Anymore! Narcissist destroy peoples lives! Thank you for you videos and for helping to educate & bring awareness to the masses. I have found that most people do not have an accurate understanding of what a Narcissist is; believing that a narcissist is just someone who likes to look at themselves in the mirror, excessively, or that they are just vain. This is a dangerous misconception that minimizes the true and very dangerous nature of a narcissist.

[@heavenlygrandma9992]

It is so confusing to me for them to treat us so bad and constantly try to trigger and think that we will just stay in that forever. Although in my case, being disabled and no money of my own really, I can see why he would think that. He's getting worse and worse with trying to trigger me. He first started going walking with his son and family after I had asked him to go walking with me a few years ago. Then it was a hiking trail. Then it was a camping trip for the weekend. And tonight he just told me they were talking about a week long trip about 2500 miles away. Zero concern about me being home alone. But I was very proud of myself. I did not react at all. I did ask him whose idea it was and he said it was mostly his idea. The less I react, the more he does to try and hurt me while acting so innocent. It's so hard to stay quiet about knowing what he is. I've been doing it for over 2 years and I have a melt down every now and then (NOT around him), but then go back to gray rock mode. I get myself together and try to be patient. But I'm not going to let him see me have any emotions about what he does... Not anymore. I think I'll make a movie about him and call it "One Sick Puppy." LOL

[@debprobst330]

Damn well I don't feel so bad about the low life narc in my life.....but now he's in jail looking at 2 years in prison....all bc I worked on me ....my self worth.....I still have a long way to go but I'm out of the trauma bond and that's a start.....🙏 Be good to yourself you are the most important person

[@bcoyblevins]

Number 3 was the most bizarre to me. I was accused of being manipulative all the time, especially if I wanted to do something nice for him. I really thought I could get through to him eventually. So glad I FINALLY realized that wasn't possible. Only took 20 years lol

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

What's important is you are now aware of their assumptions and manipulative tactics. Congratulations for getting out of that relationship! Sending you light!

[@soundaffects8352]

So so sorry you have gone through this. I am stuck with one. Not my first. But I think the worst. I cannot get away from this one. More bearable knowing why he is like it...the worst thing is the bewilderment.

[@bcoyblevins]

@@soundaffects8352 Leaving can be tricky and often makes the abuse worse. I couldn't have done it alone. Contact your local DV center if you haven't already, in you are in the US you can call 211 and ask them for local services to help you escape the abuse.

[@kimpreston12]

Are you available for hire?

[@davidhanley]

Mine came up with a truly weird one. I have a large group of friends, and often it takes an hour or more for us to choose where to have lunch, and often we got tired and chose any old crappy place. So i would get out ahead of it, and researched a place when i knew we're be choosing, and would have food for all of us, including me ( plant-based ). But also food for my paleo friends, ones who live on pizza & burgers, etc. I'd tell them about the place and how it would be good for everyone and generally people were happy i had done the research., My GF saw this as me manipulating the whole group into going where i wanted. Said they were agreeing because they were scared of me. Um--if they were scared of me would they be inviting me to lunch?

[@sue1190]

My uncles and aunts all love my sister better then me. I got so sad when I found that out. My sister is much better then me and lovable and friendly and I am so confused person and so on and forth. I used to say to people that as soon as they meet my family that they would love them and would forget about me. But then when I found out that my sister and mother and maybe my brother are all narcs, I feel that my confusions had been answered. After 8 year far always from them, my mind is so clear and I have been discovering my own true person and it is great. I am truly a lovable and friendly person and they are all fake.

[@alonzomosley7]

While the narcissistic friend was helping me clear out a property .She commented Thank you for trusting me to go through your personal stuff whilst she filled up her car with my personal stuff.They are totally amoral they will steal everything including your mental health and personality.

[@izawaniek2568]

Those 4 assumptions the narcisists have about their victims are spot on, so perfectly chosen! They assume we are stupid, weak because we love and care for others, greedy, manipulative, calculating and transactional as they are and on top of that take us for grated believing we will never leave and will forever stay in their stinking pool of dirt! How inspiring :))) Thank you Rebecca for everything you do through your channel. You are saving people’s lives! God bless you.

[@taraarrington2285]

They think we're stupid and treat us like a 5 year old as they try to fix manage and control and if they can't act like a toddler

[@lisarochwarg4707]

I do believe that narcissists think the rest of us are naive. But I don't believe that narcissists think the rest of us are as calculating and dishonest as they are. Obviously, those are two contradictory opinions. And narcissists love to make excuses for themselves, i.e.,"you're as bad as I am." We're not as bad as they are, and they know it, and hate it, and can't face up to it. Don't believe a narcissist's bullshit.

[@boxelder9147]

Interesting. I do agree. Sometimes I act naive to see how far a narc will go. I tell you what, they can lie with a straight face. Horrible people, beyond sick

[@RobertMJohnson]

Lisa, it's true, but the qualifying phrase would be "but not in the same manner". so typically--maybe not always--the narcissist will be paranoid that YOU are out to get THEM. I experienced this with my ex-girlfriend. it's not always the case, but it definitely can be.

[@johnathonhuson8734]

Yes, contradictory, but also true. Just because WE can see a logical conclusion doesn’t mean the narcissist can do that math. my narc literally told Me she was doing the things that were harmful to me and us, so that I didn’t have time to do these things to her. Never was I manipulating lying cheating or stealing, yet her dishonesty was justified by assuming I was going to do these things to her. Narcissism is insane, their belief system is broken and logic has no forum.

[@ericnorthman9410]

The ones I've known thought everyone was just like them.. and I've been up close with at least 3 for years.

[@neridaduncan2710]

Lisa I think the 2 do go together. Remember the narcissist thinks they r smarter than everyone else. So even if they believe u r also out to get them they believe they r smarter than u and that they will out fox u.

[@deemika]

Ms Zung is 100% spot-on in this video.

[@johnnyramirez3229]

I want to personally thank you for the time and effort you put into these videos. Unfortunately I couldn’t win against my ex narcissistic wife. I raised her 15 year old daughter since she was 4 months old and now she won’t talk to me. We had a son together he is now 12 years old and he won’t talk to me either. She filed two false TRO and left me with a $15,000 debt. She has family to help her and I don’t she turned them against me. I really appreciate it all the help. Thank you

[@winstonjones7519]

NOT ANYMORE!!! Thank You RZ for your work, posting these videos. I had to deal with a narcissist at work. Actually I was continually harassed by her. The first time, she said, " I was thinking about you when I was on vacation." The statement caught me a bit off guard. But I basically told her I wasn't interested. Next time she said, "My ex husband has a lot of money in the bank, he wouldn't notice if I took some out." I told her I wasn't a thief. The next time, she sent me a picture of a steak cooking on her stove and told me I should come over. I told her I was busy. Later she told me she looked at a house in the neighborhood I lived in and said that we could be neghbors. I didn't say anything. One time she walked in my cubical and and hugged me tightly. I asked, "What is that all about?" She said, "For doing your job." I thought', "Weirdo." She did things like this for a long time. I should have went to H.R. That company had zero tolerance for this type of thing. I didn't want the attention from the company or her. I thought, "I am a man, I can deal with this." So I kept putting her off. Actually by not bringing it out in the open I gave her freedom to keep doing it. I didn't realize this at the time. (I can be thick headed.) All men do not go around harassing every women they are in contact with. I was divorced and was happy about that. I definitely did not want another relationship at that time, for a variety of reasons. I put up with her for about seven years, then I quit the job largely because of her. About three months after I quit I got a text from her on my personal phone. (Looking for supply?) Since then I quit using that phone number. Somewhere along the way your videos came up on KZbin. That is when I started seeing how she thought. They were helpful in getting her off my back. Sometimes I would use something I learned from you and use the knowledge to my benefit. She was/is a narcissist of the highest order. Every trait that you teach can be seen in her. I feel sorry for the rest of the department that still has to put up with her. Anyway, just thought I would tell you how my life has improved after seeing your videos. I avoud narcissists at all costs. I don't need the challenge in my life. Again, Thank You.

[@prostyle1626]

I left a narcissistic relationship 21 years ago. My "not anymore" is way back there. But I didnt know what I was experiencing back then. I've just now started hearing words like, supply, devaluation, triangulation, hoover, etc.

[@goldilocks3593]

Yep. These relationships have always existed but it is only now we are really starting to find the language to describe what is actually going on.

[@Yahuahreigns]

i finally realized what was meant by, "nobody does something like that without wanting something in return".

[@Stayfocused1984]

I've done it. I've made my narcissist panic and today my lawyer emailed they want to settle and are drawing up a package for me. I told my lawyer she would start love bombing now that her old lawyer was busted repeatedly for lying and unethical behavior. I would love some videos on what to do when they want to settle.

[@georgew.5639]

Assumptions about me are a real pet peeve of mine. They’re usually absolutely wrong. My former wife among others caused me plenty of trouble. Not anymore!

[@iamgoddessoflove]

Narcissists are excellent at acting. They get people by their charm and performance. It can leave you confused because they are so innocent in playing victim and pointing you as the abuser. Don't fall for it!💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Don't fall for it indeed!

[@debbiesipeki6741]

Not anymore and I can't stop seeing the patterns!! Thank you Rebecca zung!

[@agnesnagy2946]

I was in a romantic relationship with a narcissist for 12 years. I left before I started watching your and others videos because I could sense that there was something horribly wrong. I think these people should be locked up because I know for a fact that several of my ex’es committed suicide and I know that one of his ex is on a lot’s of medication.

[@demomoore7168]

They like to break people. They have no love capability. They also purposely look for already broken, sad, grieving people (which is truly evil and they will pay one day, believe me) in order to control and abuse them. They get checked by the Almighty Creator, trust me. This evil world isn’t going to lock up these Narcs - they reward them and create more of them with their sick soap operas, tv shows, films, narcissistic song lyrics or sappy love songs that make people believe in fake fairy tale romance: the entertainment industry is one of the biggest culprits

[@katehere9783]

Not anymore. Moving forward in a healthy way.

[@yukio_saito]

Not anymore! Why do they assume you will never leave? I got out of a toxic workplace without goodbye and other healthy colleagues also land another job. Only remaining people were a rageful employee and passive-aggressive boss.

[@prostyle1626]

I thought I married a nymphomaniac but after the wedding the nympho left and the maniac stayed. She thought she was so amazing she could take my breath away but I was really being suffocated by her bullsht. But I finally broke the 3 rings of marriage. The engagement ring The wedding ring And the suffering.

[@prostyle1626]

@@fml5910 dont be an orbiter bro. Dont accept friend zones. Be a King about it brother. Kings dont put queens up on a pedestal. He puts her in a seat beside him. If she dont sit down, then move on bro, she's not for you.

[@dandyfowler8826]

🤣🤣"I'm an attorney. I'm giving free advice. Who does that?"...aaand, everything you said absolutely hit home for me. I'm a subscriber now for sure. Thank you!❤️

[@vineethathomas799]

Too true....I totally agree...they have no shame or self worth or dignity....

[@rachelcronin916]

Not anymore is 100% right! They are so good at what bs they spew that they will have people you know that they meet, start labeling you the narcissist! I've had it called out to my face! It is a horrific thing to have occur. Sad and shocking. It's mind boggling. Next thing you know everyone is against you and all for them. That's when you more than know its long past time to walk far far away and never ever look back! Scary stuff!

[@FunConcertMama]

Yep!! This was made clear with the way my ex-narcissistic husband treated me for 15+ years, and even when I left almost a year ago.

[@Sveiksmobile]

I fully endorse the material in your videos, Rebecca! I have been SURPRISED by the growth and strength that you demonstrate. THANK YOU for leading us by example!

[@danagoheen7842]

Thank you for making these videos fully captioned. I would never get to see these if I couldn't read what you're saying. I am not in an abusive marriage anymore, but as a habit and courtesy to my new spouse I don't listen to these out loud. My ex had a problem with me for enjoying my own music or media even when I had it turned down low where it wasn't bothersome. Also, as I am learning and healing from the former husband I feel like I already over share with my spouse and that some of these videos would just bring up things for him to worry about.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

I'm happy for you and your new life away from the narcissist! Take care and always stay strong. ❤

[@oscarwilliamson6163]

Dana Goheen,You deserve better 🙏

[@jengable4888]

When financial abuse occurs, it can only perpetuate the vicious cycle of abuse ! They think they can say and do whatever they want to you, because they know you are already in a vulnerable position ! This is how you know you are dealing with someone who has ASPD/Dark Triad traits and ZERO conscience/remorse ! Sometimes it takes a very long time to uncover and realize what has been done ! What happened to the "Like" it disappeared ?!? More cell phone problems ?!? Or ?

[@demomoore7168]

I think one of the most diabolical things they do is marry into a single woman’s life and then go spend all the money and then manipulate the children to help hide it by giving them gifts. These guys love to hook you in to go buy a house with them or promise to help renovate it and then they will rob you blind and kick you out in the street in the dirt and take you to court and do all kinds of evil stuff for the very thing that you were doing to help them

[@danmcdonald8522]

Excellent video. Yes the narc thinks that Kindness is a flaw but they are wrong . Kindness is a virtue. Kind people are awesome. The narc thinks that all people manipulate because they see how tricking people can get supply and everybody needs goodies. But decent people don't manipulate their acquaintances. The narc thinks that their victims will never leave them because these creatures are twisted and over estimate their ability to control their victims. But thanks to these videos we can see how they operate. Stay away from them. God bless

[@jamespimentel1794]

You have to be as manipulative as they are and you have to walk away in dismay without giving them any trigger that they seek for supply they are so pathetic that you can always use the dagger of insult and humiliation against them one of my favorite weapons against them to defeat them without a reaction against you but it takes experience confidence and understanding of what they are and what your dealing with

[@Matt-ng4tj]

I know what you mean, but I don't lie manipulate them. But your point is exactly what I did. Being counter manipulative is a better word for personally. But you use the right word there too! Not giving them the supply, not giving them the grand finale. Or if you get tricked into it like I did in one situation of giving reactive abuse, what was said was so bad, from them, that I told him there's no contact for life and that I would get a restraining order. (They thought they could keep getting away with saying horrible things.. not so smart! Call me allegedly over sensitive for whatever. But I don't deal with them anymore and their plan blew up on them)

[@AthenaVelecta]

My narc roommate assumes that anything that comes out of my mouth is obviously a load of shit because I obviously don't know what I'm talking about. Even about my own ills and ailments.

[@yemisiaderuku2902]

That's just her opinion and not who you are Believe in yourself

[@krisc7618]

Thank you for this! I’d love for you to do a deep dive on my family. You could write a book on what I’ve been thru! 😁

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Stay strong, Kris. And, never give up! 💪

[@treytucker5619]

I don’t think we narcissists can change but we can learn. Thank you.

[@glynnisthomas9165]

You can change. Anyone can change. Never say never.

[@glynnisthomas9165]

You can change. Anyone can change. Never say never.

[@tlc6756]

They go hand in hand (changing and learning). It may be gradual steps, but don't discount what seems like small changes, they're important. Thanks for your honesty.

[@suejohnson535]

Not anymore ! Thank you Rebecca for you being here with all your videos ,it helps me so much and it still does ! Hope you & all the survivors here to have a beautiful lovely blessed 🙏 evening !!

[@alcudiababe1]

They will assume you're never going to leave because if you tolerated their abuse they think you'll do it again and again. I used to tell people that I can take a lot of crap, a lot of discomfort and a lot of pressure but when it mounts and I've taken so much I've either exploded usually at home especially if I think I shouldn't at work so it all comes out but I've never been a quitter and it's taken me a lot to leave a job. At a choice I wouldn't, especially if it's something I love doing, but, supported by my family through excessive bullying I would and it has happened because for me to have a full blown panic attack in the changing rooms was never right

[@salviaspuzzle]

NO MORE. Spot on! 17 years. NO MORE.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

You got this! ❤ Join me in my free webinar- www.icanslay.com

[@khethy4443]

Not any more! Thank you for your videos. I have run into a major narcissist and it really helps hearing your advice. Even my mother was bit of a socialpath. It took me many years to learn how to handle that. So I think it’s awesome that you are there helping. I see it happening so much of it around me, to friends and people I meet. So please don’t stop every single bit of advice helps. Whenever I get the opportunity I refer people to you. I also recommend Simon George- a wolf in sheep’s clothing. ✌️❤️

[@andrewwishart1721]

Not anymore, I am aware, I am stronger, I am my own person I am free, thank you Rebecca Zung. Kim

[@lisayancey889]

I’m being discarded by a narcissist right now and I freaking hate this he said the most horrible things about me and to me !

[@soundaffects8352]

Sucks right? Sending a hug xx

[@tlc6756]

Thank him for helping you to see him more clearly and tell him you're dating other people now. Whatever you do, don't let him back into your life, even in the smallest of ways (don't let him petsit for free, or let him drive you if you car's in the shop...do yardwork for you if you spranged your wrist etc). Don't ever be vunerable because he'll find a way to hurt you even more.

[@Knm.116]

Not anymore !finally got the nerve up to leave my narcissist after 26 years, got an order of protection and like I said before here it is a week later and they still have not served him! it kind of makes you feel disheartened.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

It's not always easy, especially on the early stage of leaving the narcissist. But, you got this Karen! Stay strong! If you need extra support, email [e-mail]. The SLAY team will be there for you.

[@Knm.116]

@@RebeccaZungEsq thank you so much ! Im tryng he's still trying to live here part time between our house, and hers this affair has been going on I gather for the last 6 years but the last straw for me was when he held a gun to my head, I am scared to death I'm trying to remain strong for my two sons who are 13 and 19 it's been rough for all of us for lack of a better word.🤗🤗🤗❤

[@tlc6756]

@@Knm.116 I'll say a prayer for you and to be strong. No, he shouldn't be in your life period, he is dangerous. Living at your house should not even be an option. Get a restraining order if necessary. My biological grandfather put a gun to my mom's head in front of her family when she was a teenager. He tried killing my grandmother several times yet she always went back to him untill he almost succeeded. She then divorced him but he killed his second wife and himself years later. Anyone that puts a gun to someones head is extremely dangerous and should be arrested (and needs serious therapy). Try to get support from the police, a church, or call an abuse hotline to help you. Take care.

[@Knm.116]

@@tlc6756 already did no contact order🙏🙏and thank you ❤❤🤗

[@tlc6756]

@@Knm.116 great, good for you! I can't imagine being in that situation 💗

[@susangeorge5399]

Not anymore! Never again! I was accused of cheating! Red flag!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Check this out - www.icanslay.com Keep slaying! 😊

[@vickipacheco9787]

Not Anymore !!! NO, IS A COMPLETE SENTENCE.🕊

[@justinshanahan1682]

Not Anymore! I will not get fooled again. Never Again!

[@karagraham9764]

Congrats on all the followers! What a boom in numbers! Great to see

[@moonlightdivine9836]

You say you don't understand where a narcissist is coming from when they expect you to accept their abuse and stay and take it, but I think you do. From my perception and yours, it's because they have to accept their own abuse to self as they have no skill set in empathy for self and others. It's all they know, abuse of others is equal to joy. It's a basic animalistic survival mode. The only way is to expect you to to accept what they do no matter what it is. They have no choices in mind past that point. They don't have the skill set to think outside themselves for development only instant safety of self in a fully dominate position gives them joy. Any thing else is mundane and not worthy of attention. It's the lowest energy on the emotional totem pole. Everything they think about you is a direct projection of their insides. They abuse themselves (self sabotage by abusing others) because they don't have self worth and in turn put that abuse onto others. I think maybe that's the answer I'd say.

[@steverichdrummr]

Not anymore, and not for a long time. Up to 3rd, so far you are 100% correct.

[@danielle2678]

Love your videos you have made me understand everything that's going in my life thank you I'm a much I'm stronger person because of you

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

You got this, Belinda! Keep strong ❤

[@Lillyflower-J88]

like many videos on this subject most are not applicable to other types of relationships but I'm sure this is all true.

[@jacalyntaylor6721]

I need this. 😫 my life was good. Then it sucked when I met a covert 2019 the person always comes back when I am doing good. It's my sons girlfriend who left him and blamed it on me. She comes back when she needs my son to do something for her and turns my life into a living hell.

[@jacalyntaylor6721]

She looks innocent 😍 just the opposite and always a victim. omg 😲 😱 😲

[@zoeymckeown3194]

@@jacalyntaylor6721 the best men get taken in! 🤦‍♀

[@TheSaneHatter]

It's funny how the narcissists contradict their own assumptions, by thinking that you're both naive and manipulative at the same time.

[@taraarrington2285]

Yes. They think you're stupid but also getting over on them somehow 🤔

[@merrylynnallison6922]

NOT ANY MORE!!! He took so much from me.

[@MeeLii2024]

My narc friend wasn't charming at the start. He showed up in my apartment and walked right in like he owned the place. I am a very high type A, and I immediately challenged him. He turned around and ran, and didn't talk to me for 2 years, during which time I watched him interact with others and figured out he was a narcissist. We are friends now, and he still tries to love bomb me and sell me flying monkeys, but much to his dismay after he kept telling me I'd never leave, I got up and moved 1200 miles away. The only reason I even talk to him is because he has a young son that I love very much.

[@marlyncoronado4799]

Thank you Rebecca zung! Not any more! You’re the best ! I’ve learned so much from you!

[@amostaylor9727]

Not anymore!😇

[@lesterstone8595]

Not anymore-Nunca jamas-No mas

[@daniellamantia7324]

Hi thanks for your relationship advice God bless you sweetie not anymore

[@TofP556]

WOW! you are definitely one of my top three experts on narcissism around the world! I am not lovebombing you, I am being serious. You figured them out, you have nailed them, and have clearly Xrays on them. Thanks a lot!! Really great!!!

[@crystalconnors7963]

Thank you! It's validating to hear the things you say!

[@cynthiathomas5754]

Really saw the #3 today. They really believe it and it is weird to see upclose. Am using #4 for time and survival right now.

[@alisonshanklin3690]

You are the BEST! What a great resource you are Rebecca!

[@tlove6932]

Not Anymore.

[@sandygillespie7264]

You mentioned they've been doing this their entire lives. What about help for parents of narcissists?

[@oscarwilliamson6163]

Sandy Gillespie,Hope you are not with a narcissist.....

[@RayProductionrealvideos]

GREAT VIDEO REBECCA!

[@texannadeb5005]

You are right! I’ve learned and not any more!!

[@angelalogaglio2430]

Your videos really help. Thank you. Still living with ex. I’ve gone no contact for almost a month. Stopped doing everything. I have 8 months left in lease. and now the smearing began.

[@scottbrandts610]

Is anyone else holding one particular person they know as the example to specifically gauge each of Rebecca's points against? I'm sitting here, with this one evil woman in mind, and with EVERY SINGLE ONE of Rebecca's narc traits, and I'm saying, "Yep, check. Check. Check"! It's as though this video was MADE about that person! And, all of your wicked people you know, too!! 😉

[@boxelder9147]

Yep I do that with 4 of the narcs I've recently experienced, one in particular. Distortionists, liars, manipulators, and of course believe they are smarter than they are. Also in my experience they assume that i like them.

[@victoriousjoy9338]

They're cookie cutter people. Same story, different characters.

[@debramarshall4293]

I have been on to these Evil creatures for a long while now. Even my family member. She keeps trying to play the mind games hoovering game I love you game lies to try to get money out of me. I use to help her but she would never help me do anything and I'm sick and she knows that but she was saying I will go with you and work for the money and will help you out. She didn't. Then she kept trying to use everything in the book to still get that money from me for free. That pissed me off and I told her about herself and I told her that you always thought you were smarter than me by playing your little games trying to use me but I let you think you were smarter than me but you never will be smarter than me. Haven't heard from her and I don't want to. And I'm glad I told her about her evil selfish terrible self.

[@agnesnagy2946]

Not anymore!!!! Thank you Rebecca!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@oselkhandro4416]

not anymore. thank you.

[@cherylrausch7657]

I got pissed at at the world’s greatest liar. I told him I had enough. And I wasn’t leaving, he was. He had some choices to make. Shut his mouth or figure out where he was going. He could get his butt into town and file, I would make sure every last thing he owned was sold. He had gone to the bank and pitched a fit trying to find out if I had money in there and how much. He wanted 1/2. They said that was something they couldn’t do. I am very careful and I do have friends. But when we tried counseling, he lied so much I had to leave, he almost had me locked up as out of my mind. And he can think up a lie so fast, it’s unbelievable! He also has a thing about food. There is just the 2 of us, but if I get each of us a treat for dinner or dessert, I better watch them. Sometimes he will still eat it at breakfast. If I say anything, he will have an answer. I am sure I don’t catch everything, that’s the scary part.

[@jakline09]

You are great, thank you

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@kathanson584]

There is no reason to trust anyone right away. Let things happen organically. If a person is coming on too strongly, it doesn't necessarily mean they are up to no good, but they could be. A person on the right side of things will understand someone who is reticent. A person who isn't, does not appreciate reticence and may look for greener pastures or up their game. Be on guard and take your time. There are always red flags. Regards to all.

[@onelife7247]

@Kat Hanson Quite right. People need to earn the trust of others. This is one of the many key facts that people fail to acknowledge. Too many people labour under the foolish assumption that a woman who is outwardly amiable/personable is available to every waif and stray that comes along. Incorrect ☝️

[@lisameyer7757]

NO MORE!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@mariahwhite7487]

Just like the narc, these assumptions seem to contradict themselves. We're naive, yet are also just out for ourselves and will never leave them... seems they just believe they are better at the game than the rest of us.

[@benjaminhurlburt3085]

Not Anymore!

[@indynadeau4908]

No anymore 🙌.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Indeed! 🙌

[@mosiemi1]

Not anymore, I have told the lot of them to get lost and if anyone of them want to fight me we can go into the street

[@mosiemi1]

They did not think that i would leave

[@cosmea553]

Not anymore! Not anymore will I believe that somebody's "I love you" should be true if it's only said but not shown through their actions and standpoints they live by!

[@fredrickhenning1714]

Not anymore. My eyes are open.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@michelleknapp9176]

Not any more. I learned

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@angelrose2669]

NOT ANY MORE !

[@CLHS1944]

Not anymore! I win! NAMAslay!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

NamaSLAY!

[@Guess0537]

I just want to give you lots of thank and really appreciate your all the videos you have made, you open my eyes totally now I have so much confidence on my self,I use to think about my self so confused

[@tinar3876]

NOT Anymore!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

No, no more!

[@lizapedersen8435]

Greatful for your advices, Rebecca 🤗🥰

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

I hope you're staying strong there, Liza.

[@brandonharris3041]

THANK YOU SO MUCH REBECCA ZUNG! I WOULD NOT HAVE MADE IT THRU SOME REALLY HARD TIMES WITHOUT YOUR RESEARCH AND YOUR KNOWLEDGE! YOU ARE TALENTED AND WILL BE BLESSED FOR YOUR WORK!

[@loristocker9824]

I love you Rebecca, you are one of a kind that's very kind. I would not be able to thank you enough for all the love you have poured out to everyone. And it makes me almost cry to know that there are so very few that would ever take their time to see a difference by giving so much in her love for people. I just thank you REBECCA ZUNG FOR SAVING MY LIFE. You are truly a beautiful person, inside and out.!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Thank you for your kind words, Lori. My hope is that more and more people are empowered and live a life of peace and purpose. Take care and stay strong! ❤

[@danielskyles6184]

Good word Rebecca

[@chrismerkel6949]

Not anymore......NOT ANYMORE!!

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@jamespimentel1794]

So true

[@jaywinter2534]

Thank you for this plethora of knowledge, subscribed.

[@terriborter3061]

Not anymore my eyes are wide open.

[@steveedward7572]

Not any more, No way, Not even close.