4 Mistakes Nice Girls Make That Lose Them Power and Men's Inerest

[@KYRA_FX]

I'm here just making sure I'm not being too nice

[@eva-nr2bs]

:-)))))))))

[@tandrinebray8194]

😂🤣🤣

[@vomitt1]

I just want to know what to say to guy instead of fuck off when he comes back after ignoring me for 2 months?..

[@tandrinebray8194]

Milly don’t say nothing; treat him like he doesn’t exist... no response is very much an answer and he will get the hint. Two months is a long time for someone to be playing with your emotions. So don’t give your energy to him....

[@marioara.cojocaru]

Me

[@lisaweglinski7999]

No woman can do it? I promise you, my cut off game is strong. Ladies, please do not spend time trying to date nostalgia, or potential.

[@ElliotScottDating]

I am glad to be proven wrong :)

[@lisaweglinski7999]

Elliot Scott Your videos are very informative and offer good insight.

[@shutit4024]

I cut a guy off I was dating he tried coming back and I didn’t let him this happened 2 years ago when I was just 18

[@celinabond]

Same Lisa🙏🏼 it does take skill and practice ;)

[@lisaweglinski7999]

@@celinabond I agree! I think of it like this-- Have you ever gone into Gucci? Flagship store in Manhattan? Its lovely, elegant, there are no cash registers, transactions are done behind the velvet curtain in a parlor off to the side; there are no sales racks- no clearances. Why? Because it's not made for the common people. It's special. It is something so lovely. Its wonderful. Its' not Walmart. I wish all females believed themselves to be Gucci; they are not for everybody. and that's ok. Ladies, dont be Walmart. And remember this, I am not too expensive, you just cant afford me, there's a difference. Love yourself so much you'll never be a clearance item for just anybody ever again.

[@blackroses_818]

He's absolutely right - call him out when he doesn't follow through and if he continues to not follow through (I say 3 times) cut him off. The key to doing this is to do it early, (within the first three months of meeting) before you start gaining real feelings. If he really is worth it, he'll come around, if he doesn't, then you were going to waste your time anyway. Also, don't be afraid to say what you want. Be true to you. F*** all that "I don't wanna scare him off" crap - if you aren't getting what you want you'll be miserable anyway. Find someone who'll meet you where you're at (.)

[@mizuslayer]

my therapist says, “two times’ a pattern.” so in the last year i’ve had to grow comfortable with cutting men off if they’re not following through on their promises after two times lol 💀 it’s so hard but ultimately what men and women have to understand and honor is this: we cannot invest in someone just based off how much we like them, we must also consider how much investment they’re reciprocating as well, and act accordingly to that.

[@blackroses_818]

@@mizuslayer You're so right - hard but necessary.

[@kaboomroom33]

Yah, I wish I’d known this a year ago. I would voice my wishes, but he’d lash out & deflect. And then began the push & pull cycle. I should have chucked the deuces ✌🏽earlier & said, we’re obviously not on the same page, but feel free to reach out to me when you’re looking for the same thing. I was caught up more in my feelings for him vs. what his true feelings & intentions were with me. Oh well, live & learn!!!! 😏

[@blackroses_818]

@@kaboomroom33 Yep, I wish I did the same, instead I broke my own heart. As you said, you live and learn - you got it next time around!

[@wowso4]

So true I’m just a people pleaser that I get scared to call them out but I do leave if I see them treating me bad I just hate to voice my opinions unless I really get to know the person, but I will make sure to call them out next time if I feel my meets are not being met and if they leave then that’s fine too.

[@zenayvonne4820]

1. Don't be submissive, be quick witted and don't put out, let him chase you. Don't make it easy for him to get you. 2. Looking for too much validation from 1 guy. Keep options open. 3. Call men out, don't accept the situation, keep your standards high if he doesn't step up, if he doesnt see your value boy bye. 4. No negotiation power, be willing to walk away, don't chase !

[@sherriflemming3218]

7 Signs He's A Safe Man And That You Can Trust Him - Jonathon Aslay podcast 5 Shocking Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate In A Man - Jonathon Aslay podcast Empowered women are interested in equality mutuality and reciprocity. That's a healthy relationship.

[@daniellerobertson506]

I’m definitely someone guys consider a nice girl, often “too nice” but for me success in a relationship came from taking the time to find someone who appreciates it and gives me the same back. One thing I did work on though was being assertive too, I think it can be easy to forget or not realise that you can still be nice without taking shit from people. Know your worth 😁

[@lucya8916]

When you don't fear losing him and you call him out, when you feel that liberation and abundance, you can have a lot of fun calling him out..... 😈💕

[@lucya8916]

Hahahahahahshahaaaaaaaaa Nooooooo I don't want my ex back!!!! However I am half tempted to call you.

[@kaboomroom33]

Lucy A Don’t fall for that scam!! Good points you make! You can’t be afraid to lose them, because in doing so, you gain back your self-worth!! 💜

[@Acapellachick27]

3 months of him pursuing me, he started showing other girls attention, the only option was to walk away, it was and still is difficult (just a couple of weeks out) I really got connected but I would have wasted so much more time if I stayed

[@tlunceford77]

That how they do. Once you give in, they'll have you feeling stupid

[@shutit4024]

Happened to me dude wasted 4/5 months of my time and I knew him for 3 years before dating smh

[@Rachael.Kilgore]

same thing just happened to me except i don’t know if other girls were involved. in the long run you’ll see how much better life will be without them, if someone can’t see your worth, it’s NOT a loss.

[@celinabond]

Yes daisy 🙌🙌🙌 you walking away is your strength

[@nerrrderrr7275]

Same and I told him to not contact me anymore. I feel more powerful now than the whole time we we're "seeing each other"

[@Oyuki-Mayonesa]

I did what he says to do at the end of the video, and now we’re married going on 14years :) It works to have boundaries, standards, and self respect... and of course lots of chemistry and love for ur partner.

[@zmaf1543]

I was being "too nice" to a guy, then my ex (unfinished business) popped up. Now I don't want both of them. But they both want me bad. They sense it ladies 😂😂😂

[@cherylyeo5609]

2.5 years in LDR. Hot and cold. Totally deleted and blocked him 2 days ago. It was hard, but I felt lighter, a boost of confidence and (I know deeply) he'd lost BIG time.

[@svasianfilipiname6603]

Long Distance Relationships aren't real relationships! Please stop believing that it is!

[@kaboomroom33]

Suze V That’s not true! They’re harder to maintain, but if there’s an end to the distance in sight, they can & do work!!

[@kaboomroom33]

Kind of similar to my situation, but only for about a year. He put the final nail in the coffin, which has helped me accept it’s time to move on! 👍🏾

[@zaneakdeniz9141]

well done now uv created space for a decent guy to come in

[@diouranke]

This really points out a predatory nature in many men, it's strange to me not to value a kind person

[@beIETian]

Kindness is a weakness for predators, therefore in nature predators always attack the weakest first.

[@crunchybunbun]

exactly!! so weird!

[@ceelettice]

Elliott again for the win! You can tell the people who don’t love themselves and refuse to place themselves first. They rather allow themselves to cling to someone who doesn’t wanna give them certainty vs cutting off cold turkey from fear of losing a loser.

[@blackroses_818]

Well aren't you the queen of all women.

[@leeche87]

ELLIOT you did for me what other dating couches on youtube did not do. You convinced me , unknowingly,that men are just NOT worth all this psychological hassle . I am done dating, thank you. I don't want all this emotional mess that men nowadays provide. Thanks but no,thanks. Now I will be just watching you for fun and to make sure I made the right choice.

[@ElliotScottDating]

I AM THE CHOSEN ONE!

[@chellybabyme]

Yes, I'm not bitter, just have come to find that they all suck. It's a great feeling to have that knowledge under my belt.

[@yvonne2965]

Especially when there doesn’t seem to be any love or feelings involved.. it’s just like an endless game

[@chellybabyme]

@@yvonne2965 yeah, and it's kind of like you have to realize that when you don't want a game you're constantly disappointed. I have realized that nobody's ever going to be worthy of my feelings. Every one of them sucks. And I'm not just saying that I've been screwed over. I'm saying that they're not ever everything that you want. I had some good boyfriends. Had. Maybe if I would have settled I would still have. But I wanted what I wanted. They all suck in that way. There never going to be exactly what you want. The only thing I can think of is to get the least of all evils. Somebody that's not going to physically harm you or cheat?

[@yvonne2965]

The right person will come into your life .. I guess these videos are helpful in that they highlight the many ways to tell who is NOT right for us so that we don't waste any more of our time🤷🏽

[@jamiecantrell1671]

I consider myself a high value woman and I have taken your advice several times. It works like magic. My standard discussion goes like this, “ hey, I can tell you’re pulling away a little bit and, I don’t want you to feel awkward about that. Maybe you’re not my guy and I’m not your girl and God has a better person out there for both of us. I really like you and I would like to go further with you however, at this point I’m getting the feeling that that’s not what you want. So, I’m going to go do my own thing and date other people. If you ever decide you want something more significant with me feel free to reach out. Maybe I’ll be available, maybe I won’t. Only God knows. If I have misread your intentions please feel free to clarify. Otherwise, best of luck” Every single guy I have done this with might take a little bit of space like a week to four weeks. But, they always come back saying that they have messed up and I am absolutely wonderful and they are an idiot and they want a relationship with me again. However, by that time it’s usually too late because I do have lots of options. I’m a little bit older so I’ve had lots of experience dealing with relationships and heartbreak. Your advice to women is spot on. You are very raw and real and you tell it like it is. Every lady needs to listen to your straightforward advice.

[@matrescence_motherhood]

Women don’t call guys out because we expect their brains to function on a basic level of respect and communication like ours do - that’s where we go wrong 😂 true story - we just assume if a man is spending time with us that means he’s actually interested - stupid us.

[@Medusxa]

I lowered my standards, and I couldn't stand it anymore and called him out on his BS and he ran away, lol

[@joycebarnett6035]

Your world should not revolve around finding the right guy so many girls are so concerned about finding a man. Isn’t there way more to life than that? Let him find you don’t chase let him come to you.

[@irenerati4979]

Everytime I lose control over myself or my relationships you always come up with the right video and advice. It's soothing to know I can scroll through your videos and find a way out. It's like a friend who knows what to say to make you feel better and get back in the game stronger. Sending lots of love!

[@kiad.6112]

❤️

[@scooterlovya]

Girl, I want to know what u do to lose control? You gotta put God first!

[@sherriflemming3218]

5 Shocking Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate In A Man - Jonathon Aslay podcast 7 Signs He's A Safe Man And That You Can Trust Him - Jonathon Aslay podcast Seek Good Character A Reminder To Us All David Tian PhD The Masculine Psychology Project podcast

[@kirazinn]

You make a good point. If I meet a guy that think I'm low value to him, and ranks me as a 5 or lower, then that how I'm gonna view him in my eyes too. I only mirror the way a guy treats me. If he has no respect for me, and gives low minimal effort, then he will get the same energy in return from me. It simple as that, and I will just always keep my options open for other men. The guy either likes me or he doesn't is how I feel about it

[@caeylin]

Hi Elliot, I love your no BS approach. In the past I suffered from nice girl syndrome and didn't understand my power in a relationship. You make it simple and easy. Thanks! Love it!

[@amiami9536]

I wouldn't say - If you're ready for a relationship let me know. It's lowering yourself, it's giving him a sign that you're not going anywhere.

[@noluvuyolamani2227]

It`s the yelling for me lol, sometimes its needed hahaha because we don`t listen , your brutal honesty is refreshing and original. also ladies the universe will keep teaching us the same lessons until you finally learn.

[@violetta6280]

I had a conversation regarding the games men play etc... With my 21 year old son. He said, it's nonsense, he doesn't know any guy like that. Maybe the millennials are better at this then older men including men in their 50"s. I see the way my son treats his girlfriend, with love, so much caring and respect.

[@eangel28]

Sounds like you did a great job raising him!

[@margaritam.9118]

You’re a good mom. But your son is just unaware how other guys his age treat girls.

[@sansadrake4133]

Erm this is all millennial guys do is treat women badly

[@cherrylane79]

All guys treat women badly, if they lack the empathy or maturity.

[@KA-mq4wj]

I was married to an abusive narcissistic ex. Once separated, I started to date the same narcissistic personality disordered men....I wanted one man. But I would never have him. He used and abused me causing great pain for the next 4 years. I now know he is insecure and will never be able to love anyone. But I gave him so much of my life and attention for so long I didn’t know who I was. I now know that even though I am not perfect, I will not succumb to his narcissistic abuse You are so right. I gave all my love to a person who couldn’t love and he used me and sucked me dry.

[@taylort726]

First of all, I'm looking into your course. I need it. Second of all, I can tell you why women cannot seem to hold the guy she likes yo standards. I am a woman. And it.goes back to what you said in the beginning. You had it right. Women are stubborn when they narrow their focus onto one guy. Ive been like this my whole life. I think we are just extremely loyal to ppl who don't deserve it because it's in our DNA and we are expressing it too early on in the relationship. This is why the dating scene is so bad for women. I still believe in love at first sight, but thats just me. Even though I'm 27.

[@kaboomroom33]

Yup, being laser focused on one man & hoping they get their shit together. I was open to dating others, but had been involved with him years ago & had recently reconnected. I guess I was crushing on him so hard still that I couldn’t see the forest for the trees. But he’s definitely giving me the correct glasses to see the situation and I’m ready to move on to bigger and better!

[@sansadrake4133]

Erm not all if us do this. I certainly won't cling to some one if im treated less than

[@MandyJRoss]

Oh my goodness E, you cracked me up. Just the shot of truth juice we all know we need to hear! Gratitude for another insightful and delightful vid.😊 Blessings to y'all watching and may you attract the highest form of love. ❤

[@adriedrake8605]

I can walk away easy...took some self love to really learn how👏 thank you elliott

[@imenechl]

I swear we know deep inside all what you're saying but somehow we don't call them out just like you said ! We need tl be more tough.

[@Crgb777]

Elliot is right.... especially on that last bit - I was in texting limbo for a couple of weeks until I told the guy I'm out - unless this was actually going to progress towards something. He was shocked! Less than 24 hours later, he already had a date planned out for us. 3 weeks to the day I called him out, he officially asked me to be his girlfriend (just last night!). Sometimes all it takes is raising your standards, communicating clearly what you want, and sticking to your guns about what you are not willing to accept! That being said, results may vary based on your guy's interest in you (obviously!).

[@SR77736]

I dont think I'm a 10. I'm confident tho. I know guys who do this too. They overvalue themselves and try and make women jump they hope to get their shitty validation. Bc they have a nice car and make a little bit of money. Not even that much. It's a joke. And you're right about calling them out. Too many soft dating coaches talk about being submissive and being femenine and not speaking up. It's really all about being high value.

[@divinedigitalpro]

I needed to hear this. Thank you. I wish I had the answer as to why some of us women put up with Bull Sxxx!

[@relevant_nebula]

This is very good. I love the fact that he was yelling from the beginning and the end he acknowledges this in such a cute way! His passion for the advice he is imparting to us ladies is very heartwarming. He really cares to impart this knowledge and advice to us. I thank him immensely for this.

[@carmenwg]

You’re so funny “why am I yelling? I don’t know anyway take care” lol THANK YOU!

[@Golden4k_ash]

Can you do a video on how women should have the mindset of abundance 🙇🏾‍♀️. I know it sounds self explanatory but what if we don’t have that lol

[@4everu984]

Hi Elliott. Gray hairs are a copper deficiency. Have some delicious apricots or chicken liver or food rich in copper, and no more grays. Men need food and respect, pretty easy. Zip it ladies, they aren’t your besties. They communicate to solve a problem. Learn The Love languages!! I love my hubby!

[@ElliotScottDating]

Good to know!

[@pluto-td9ng]

guwrl log out for me

[@suzyq1405]

I'm older than u, Elliot, been married twice, but find I can still benefit from your advice - thank u!

[@starcatcher3691]

Gosh this is so helpful to me as I tend to be understanding and too nice. Even the most stellar man may need to be called put.

[@infinitylux197]

Facts! LADIES LISTEN TO ELLIOT

[@adhiambootieno2873]

I just came across your video, and absolutely love your delivery. Serious and hilarious at the same time. I'm subscribing😍.

[@patriciaearley4177]

Great information thank you! Close to the end of the video pure gold in my opinion 👌.Calling the guy out if he's not decisive I just say" I understand however I like to be in a relationship,if you change your mind let me know" And leave it at that.If he comes back he 1,knows what he wants or 2, he might give some bs excuse in which case I say,I understand,if you change your mind let me know. Done and Done ✔ 😉

[@lightsoul1566]

I am the queen of swords ⚔️

[@heatherbarrier1718]

These women who are worried about when another man is gonna come around need to be alone for awhile and learn their worth or they're gonna stay in either abusive or dead end relationships...smh it's a hard road but worth the journey

[@breeaortiz3866]

My Favorite One And Only Dating Coach Luv This Guy 🥰♥️🙌🏾💯

[@melissafranklin8480]

I definitely don't see myself as a 10. My last boyfriend made me feel like a 3 or 4 when he made it CLEAR to me that his past girlfriends were 120 to 130 lbs. (and I'm clearly NOT...And gained 24 lbs. in 2 years WITH him. Broke up with him and a man that's had many women made me feel AMAZING! And told me I was DESIREABLE, and Hot, and OVERLOOKED my physical faults...Just saying. Listen to Elliot!

[@no1zzle3]

Elliot you speak the truth about women lowering their value. I honestly believe it’s a subconscious strategy that is fear based like you said. We as ladies need to tell ourself fuck it! If homie doesn’t want to come correct, then kick his ass to the curb and wait for the one who appreciates you.

[@daneski]

“You guys are stressing me THE F OUT”😂😂🥺

[@mkh7967]

Thanks for confirming that I behave as a high value woman lol 💖

[@mofreeman223]

I love #4. I had never done it before my last relationship.

[@alexandra9985]

We only have negociation power if we are "good looking" otherwise no power...

[@northshorelight35]

I'm the kind of person that I don't always call them out but will start emotionally checking out. Therefore, I am already looking at other suitors and considering them. I don't necessarily burn all my bridges. More like fizzle out or just go cold turkey as soon as I lock it down with someone who is on my same path.

[@Aisha-ej8lj]

Hey Elliot , you’re a genius. I always come to u when I’m in doubt re men . I am that woman though who will call a guy out on his behaviour. Sometimes they vanish sometimes they step up . Either way I say as I feel they shouldn’t get away with their bad behaviour. 👌🏽❤️

[@mariamayub212]

I love the script that you just gave us makes it really easy to! I'm not on the dating scene market right now because I have decided to work on my health but this is good knowledge for the future!

[@kaboomroom33]

I wish I’d known this before I wasted nearly a year of my life hoping for change. I should have chucked the deuces ✌🏽earlier & said, we’re obviously not on the same page, but feel free to reach back out to me when you’re looking for the same thing. I was caught up more in my feelings for him vs. what his true feelings & intentions were for me. Oh well, live & learn!!!! Thanks for the invaluable advice, Elliot! 🙌🏽

[@passion8princess261]

Elliott , Everything that you're saying I'm sure we all know is true (Elliott don't lie! ) the problem is....The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. With that being said , we better start making the flesh a little stronger or we are going to get steam-rolled.

[@eva-nr2bs]

Wow interesting comment. I like it ......

[@gem9811]

Yes ma'am! It's all in the determination of upholding the mindset.

[@daphnen5296]

Jajaja you are so funny. I got your message. Great video.

[@MA-yc7pz]

I feel much better for calling him out !

[@Christiane-yb1wj]

I'm a new subscriber and I am so glad I have been doing the work on self esteem i need to. I did what you suggested before even seeing the video! I feel reassured that I have been showing high value behavior!

[@newbeginnings1543]

This all makes complete sense! Thank you Elliot.

[@brieze1233]

Elliot nice new layout...yep I am a nice gal . ..heard now gonna call my guy out..nervous🥵

[@lisasileo3166]

Hi Elliot. Maybe you can do a video on why some women have a hard time calling it out?

[@Magnoliasdiary]

I know I'm not too nice, I'm here for the hot dude. PS: I'm a solid 5 *wink wink*

[@ElliotScottDating]

you're 11

[@Magnoliasdiary]

@@ElliotScottDating I love when you lie to me

[@eva-nr2bs]

This made laugh !

[@4everu984]

Your awesome! That bumps you to a 7 🤣. At least that what I tell my 5 self 🥰🤣

[@eva-nr2bs]

@@4everu984 I know right. Best comment. That "wink wink" got me :-)))))))

[@lihong9389]

Great hair !

[@MistyFrazier-ch3tz]

I don’t have a problem calling a scum bag out on his crap and you know the real man will tell you that I appreciate that

[@beccanarratives]

Wao Elliot. Everytime you are better. I feel as if you were reading my mind. 🤗🤗

[@personanongratano1]

Yelling at us is okay

[@ropehorses617]

Your info is gold! Love your videos. Thank you for doing it how you do👏

[@farrahslim6701]

Thank u. I needed this.

[@قناةسيرين-و2ق]

I need it this today...thank you💓

[@ElliotScottDating]

You are so welcome

[@simpleliving4205]

I love Elliot Scott 😂

[@melissajohnson7252]

Ugh this hit right on the head 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@greatfortunecookiewisdom2258]

Last 30 seconds made me crack up. Omfg 😂 I should totally do that. But honestly I think very few guys would want to lose their power like that. And agree to her terms. But at least I will have fun 😅

[@rebeccamiles4119]

Elliott you’re the man!

[@lauraa2778]

Real. Raw. Relevant.

[@n26c88]

Lol that last point is how I ended my last exes reach out - my life is great and I don't need people who don't want to be there with me in it 😂 I think for most people it's a fear of losing someone

[@jazzqueen1]

this is helpful too i feel like i needed this Elliot

[@romii642]

Such a good video , especially the last part 👏👏

[@ElliotScottDating]

Thank you 🙌

[@BuddhaBlume]

Im not into this idea of watching out for other men if im in a relationship. Thats not my value. If im commited im comitted. This is called loyality. If im in a dating situation sure, i will seek for the best option.

[@crystalkwok5232]

9:15 best part 😂😂😂 I'd wish I can be so confident to say this and cut guys off with no hesitation ( I assume you like me lol)

[@sherlanapollonais8122]

Good message

[@SelfLoveU]

Excellent advice!

[@belle2263]

Amazing Elliot. Love the video!

[@DanaRaquel]

So should I safely assume that if I’m coming across many men (on dating app hinge) that will show initial interest (I do as well), set up a first date with me and then fail to confirm and just flake out right before first date (I wasn’t over texting prior, in fact I’m a under texter when I haven’t met them yet) I can assume they’re beta males if they don’t have the decency to cancel properly

[@sunshineeveryday9873]

Lol!! I love how you go about the example at 10:00.

[@monicaaustin2711]

*Your new Intro is super cute!!!* 🥰

[@bklyn2014]

LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!

[@billie-ocean8286]

Usually he sees u as a 6 but he's a 2 🤣

[@alaynamarino]

Thank you Elliot ☺️💕

[@TatyanaBuie]

Damn he called me out all through this video 😂

[@nathalieferreira958]

Your passion in your content that's why your yelling

[@Omsanthyom]

Lack of quality options. True.

[@smores8982]

Absolutely agree with you on the 8 dates. I just watched a KZbin channel called Tripp Advice titled ‘5 things to never do with women’ catered to men of course, he advised to not commit to a woman before 6 months and to be “non-monogamous” justifying it with calling it the “still getting to know her” phase. WOW! My mind was blown! He didn’t advise these men not to be physically intimate with her during this time either. Sounded like a complete douche and it was very macho advice that only jerks would agree with. It’s alarming he’s advising men to do this.

[@klarawinterain6101]

"It penetrates your ass" glad I still watched it. :D

[@jana0013]

I love this videooo. So so good!!!!

[@JayeVoyaging]

I looooove this video!!!

[@wandayarbrough]

After 4 years of up and down he got angry over nothing. Called it off no explanation. I let him go. Not playing those. Angry games

[@Vixinaful]

Haha, "stressing me the fuck out" What he says about us thinking "But Ive spend so much time on him and when will another guy if ever another guy, show up" and bla bla is VERY true. He W I L L use that!

[@szdkninja2658]

Thank you!

[@UPSNARAWAT]

Gold for us..❤

[@marleelyons625]

Im a nice girl.

[@amandahaupt1327]

Elliot, im chatting to a guy i met online a dating site.. im not sure at what point do i let him know im gona bounce , his words sounds genuine.. he had a valid reason for canceling Thats once then he reschedule, but then i couldn't see him.. we only chatting like 2 weeks.. how much time do i give him? i don't wanna be aggressive ,