4 MYTHS About INFJs (Online Info vs. Reality)

[@t200b-i7k]

Seems like the "door slam" is = to going "no contact" with a narcissist. It must be done for self preservation.

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

Anyone else shut their personality down around people they don’t know or don’t feel like they can trust yet?

[@mariahiggins-burke4295]

ABSOLUTELY!!!

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Dimming your light

[@sue2cue]

Thank you for saying this! I am tired of hearing people say that it is so immature of the INFJ to door slam others. We do not want to. All we want is the best for others, but when we see no progress we just let go for good. We cannot change anyone, and we do not want to carry more unnecessary burdens.

[@INFJcircle]

Excellent point. That is one of the things I'm hoping to teach on this channel. There are people that we just can't "fix". Give people a chance but be ready to move on - and do your best to keep from giving them your energy! Jay

[@human_797]

Yes, I have "door slammed" a few people, but I make sure to give them many chances to change first.

[@DTheHAge]

It's also never a door slam. It's trying to make them understand that specific behaviors are not bearable for an unusual long time. That's the reason why people think it's a door slam, because INFJs tend to leave the door open way too long. In reality the relationship (of any type) ended long before people recognize the door slam. It's just the last resort of the INFJ. A door slam of the most shy and introvert INFJ looks like this: 1. less to no reaction to behavior that's not bearable 2. negative reaction to this behavior in form of facial expressions (if you ignore someone's facial expressions, you door slammed, in my opinion) 3. not opening up anymore (here the trust is usually that hard broken that the relationship needs to be rebuilt) 5. having less time for the person (this is already the break up process) 6. replying less to texts (still break up) 7. ignoring the person (this is called the door slam) These steps often take months, because the INFJ gives way more chances than most do.

[@etherspin]

Yep. It's only happened 2X in my 40+ years. I won't reject people at the point so many would, I wait will they have doubly proven they are irredeemable and then cut everything off and not be concerned with them knowing why because they've already known their behaviour was despicable

[@miguelcuevas7566]

This one actually spot on haha, I usually have 3 strikes with me. If they hit the last straw. This is bye bye

[@TeriHargraveartist]

Some people are so transparent, I wonder how others can't see through them...

[@kaycevanveer212]

I thought everyone could see what I saw.

[@Before0shode7]

I’m an INFJ and I always feel down when no one sees what I see 😞 I struggle convincing them but recently I don’t waste my energy cuz they won’t get it 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

Sadly true for me too most of the time.

[@annharper8342]

The door slam is self preservation. I gave my first husband a 100 second chances , and then I heard my inner voice yelling when is enough, enough. Good video thanks 😊❤

[@MeemsKaso]

My boss had everyone take the test in 1991. I've known I am an INFJ since that day. I went home & started learning more about my test results. I remember crying. FINALLY there I was in black & white & on paper! I wasn't crazy after-all. A lot of life has happened since then. I can tell you, at 60 years old, I am still an INFJ but I have become more of a loner. It's easier for my health. Unfortunately, I dislike people immensely. Because I am honest, faithful & keep others secrets, I haven't met another individual who reciprocates & it has caused me to have zero trust in anyone. I keep everything close to my chest. I've stopped letting people in to my world. I'm so happy being alone, writing, researching, exploring. With age, my intuition has grown exponentially. I can literally feel situations coming, before they show themselves. I am a Christian woman & my faith along with knowing I'm an INFJ has allowed me to live a fulfilling, yet humble life.

[@ajestlemonde]

I tell everyone "I hate people" and the fun part is... the people I say that to laugh and say "Me too!" They think I'm joking.

[@jadint1793]

Lmao 😅same

[@Maddie-5]

I say that a lot too,!

[@notacarnist5554]

They're not joking either

[@AudenimLock]

2:16 Yup, even in cases when people specifically ask for my unfiltered opinion/advice. 🙄 2:41 Yup, I’m not settling anymore. It’s single Pringle bliss until I encounter someone who appreciates me for who I am instead of me having to put up with a jealous and competitive manchild.

[@PJ-lj3gm]

I generally try not to give people advice or have a motive of helping others, because I dont like receiving unsolicited advice or when others automacally think I need their help.

[@INFJcircle]

For the best I think. Thanks for sharing. Jay

[@Lyrielonwind]

Some people have been trained by their parents to read others needs. It's a subconcious response, don't take it personal. Just say you are fine with a smile. They won't bother you.

[@sirphil13]

I learned the hard way not to give unsolicited advice anymore. I also believe we INFJs have a natural talent for "observing ego" (which is the scientific definition of being a "cool" person). Like a counselor type, observing ego skill is saying and doing the right things, at the right time.

[@sidlopez4599]

Yeah

[@RealityCheck1]

We fix many problems mentally before doing it physically, this is why we are exhausted around too many people. We can adjust to whoever is speaking to us easily. We observe social cues quickly. Face expressions give away what someone is truly feeling inside.

[@dk5755]

I’m currently experiencing the “door slam” with my abusive partner after years of second chances. Once I realized his behaviour is a language and he’s telling me that he doesn’t respect me or my boundaries, then it just clicked in my head that this isn’t a “relationship”. Others have been telling me for years, but I had to come to that conclusion on my own.

[@anggorogedewaseso169]

When I saw the second chapter of this video I just went "Well... we don't hate people... we just don't trust them sometimes..."

[@robynwells8249]

Thank you, what made my life easier is when I realized people don’t want your help and actually resent it. I learned this the hard way. So, now I listen, and say very little. If I do it’s something generic such as “Sounds like you have a plan, or it seems your thinking this through, or this is is tough I hate that your going through this”. Other than that mouth shut.

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

Same here. I tried to help my friend realize she’s on her phone too much and she quickly got defensive. So I quit. Besides, I’m on my phone a lot too. But I tried. I just wanted her to be in the moment more but now I know not to intervene. Sigh.

[@Lyrielonwind]

Maybe we should try asking if they need help before helping them. Some people are very distrusful and I can't blame them. Psychopaths and narcissists have often asked for help to their victims (Ted Bundy). We live in a very individualistic societies to the point that offering help migh feel suspicious.

[@nickjambga1719]

Wow, have I said this plenty of times "Seems like you have a plan and know what to do" or "You're smart enough to figure this out"

[@hinemarama6778]

My case as an INFJ I do not regard myself as a psychic but souls who have passed over, will seek me out esp if they have "unfinished business" with a loved one. My soul purpose in this life, is to convey their messages to their loved ones. Usually, the loved one really needed to heard this message. Blessings to you. I really enjoy your videos.

[@sidlopez4599]

“They are essential for society and humanity as a whole. “ 🧐

[@ghostwolf1388]

I feel safe and loved here. Thank you. ❤️👻🐺

[@sonali.gokani]

As a child, i could always see the moods of my parents on their face, which they never even seen to bother about and kept fighting with each other all the time doing or saying wrong things.

[@kaycevanveer212]

Lately I have not been making eye contact at all bc I really don't want to know how people are doing. Everyone is pissed! So I don't really want to look at them.

[@Lyrielonwind]

Yeap, and it got worse after the pandemic.

[@amyj.4992]

We aren't psychic, we are data collectors

[@amyj.4992]

Like minded souls, are challenging to meet in a shallow world

[@amyj.4992]

We aren't know it alls, we're just vastly experienced in life and we have an archive to share for a difficult problem 🙏🏾💓

[@amyj.4992]

We reach a FUCK IT point with abusers and users, and clearly see they don't give a shit about us with so many chances given to correct the pattern and instead of expecting you to change... we'll leave your ass to protect ourselves 💕

[@marietanguy6445]

Thank you. This sounds familiar to me. I learned a few things in my life and one of them is : don't talk to people anymore. God bless you.

[@ren1205]

I was told that my ‘Cut off” game is merciless 😂

[@domoSapiens_]

I getting hard time figuring out, how can u speak so accurately about this stuff 😂

[@INFJcircle]

:)

[@VinceYT2408]

My best friend can listen to me for hours...and even ask questions etc so that I continue talking. He's crazy. But I'm happy he's that crazy.

[@Lenastar23]

I work with people based on personality type and I really appreciate your channel. It's clear, concise and accurate from everything I've seen so far. Great job.

[@ghostwolf1388]

Thank you I need this so bad. The truth. ❤️🎹🎹🎹👻🥁🎹👻🥁🐺

[@luutzenvanderwey1627]

Thank you for your amazing content. Even though you have only posted a small number of videos on your channel, this is definitely the best source of information and support I have found as an INFJ. I appreciate the more serious approach you took in this video. Thank you.

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you so much. That really means a lot to me. I appreciate you watching and I’m glad the videos are helping you! Jay

[@TreyB-Måneravn]

Missed you! Thank you, thank you and thank you, so very much for covering these topics for us INFJs. This channel has assisted me in so much personal growth and insight over the past 1 /12 years! Holiday blessings, Light and Love unto you and all who visit here!🌄☀🎄❤

[@INFJcircle]

You are so welcome Trey! It makes me so happy that the channel is helping you. Happy holidays to you as well. Stay strong and positive my friend! Jay

[@Jacei_i]

Very Accurate! :D 👍🏻 I feel like being INFJ is often like being different because of how we are. I'm always afraid other people will misunderstood me or don't get my intentions is good, I will starts to overexplain things, really hoping they would understand me, but in the end they just doesn't understand or get it. I'm a young INFJ! Still a teenager, I'm currently learning how to love and respect myself, and how do handle things as an INFJ. On the way there to keep growing and learn! C: Thank you for this video to point out more facts about us INFJs. ^^ ♡

[@INFJcircle]

So cool that you posted. I am making a video just for you INFJ teens, should be out soon! Jay

[@Jacei_i]

@@INFJcircle Already looking forward to it! Can't wait! Ｏ(≧▽≦)Ｏ

[@DoofenSpyroDragon16]

Hello fellow teen! I have the same struggles currently. My advice is continue being yourself and enjoy your alone time. You’ll get farther if you walk your own path, and you’ll be much happier doing what you love. You’ll find the right people (even if it’s on the internet 😆)

[@BryanChance]

We're not psychics but it sure feels like a super power. :-)

[@INFJcircle]

I really think it is, it almost makes us another breed of human. A lot of people avoid us because it’s too much for them to handle. So be it. It’s who we are. Jay

[@ghostwolf1388]

I think I should but I don’t want to over act. My A.I on my phone might be broken though…

[@aaronjclarke1973]

Love your southern accent.

[@Littlecoffeepot]

This was so trippy to watch cause I felt like you read the inside of my mind during many moments in my life trying to relate with some of the people in (and now out ) of my life.. loved this! 👏🏾 happy though still to be an INFJ!

[@mchubb8]

Interact and grow with me yes!! 100% YES! I share things and hate when it isn't taken with the equal amount of energy and interest lol.

[@topseeturve]

Have you ever considered interviewing other INFJs on your channel? I think that would be fascinating to listen to INFJ - INFJ conversations.

[@INFJcircle]

Great idea!

[@anisa3192]

When i took the MBTI test i got an infp but i relate to everything in this video just as much. Probably even more

[@shiroyami13j19]

I feel at home when i watch your video😊✨ I'm happy to have found your channel✨ Thank you for everything♥✨

[@INFJcircle]

You are so welcome, very glad to have you here! Jay

[@TheRealLarissa]

Yeah. My whole life has been one giant rejection.

[@Reindeerstube]

Me trying to help others but they don’t like it or disrespecting me and now If i know how to help I keep my mouth shut and don’t care anymore becouse they think that I’m dumb but in the future when they see me succesful they Will regret that they didn’t care

[@dporter-gage9907]

This information is accurate!! Thank you!

[@INFJcircle]

Glad it was helpful! Jay

[@STRONGfamVALUEZ]

Im just relieved im not "crazy" as i was told .i leaned into God more trusted my intention because of my moral compass..hold that. Standing in our TRUTH!! People frustrate me sometimes especially narcissistic people. But now i see them from a mile away.ill be living my next part of my life happier to say the least..

[@matthair8324]

Thank you, my man, for your content. I was subbed from your earliest posts, which honestly fell into my own period of self discovery. Thank you for presenting a personalized approach to the topic...your presence on camera allows an opportunity to read. I assume you know the value of this format. I value it. I assume other infj do, as well. Keep up the good work, it's beutiful to see someone capable of defaming stereotypes and calling out causation.

[@INFJcircle]

Thanks so much.Means a lot. I have big plans for the channel so I appreciate your support! Jay

[@Equilibria777]

INFJs are highly intuitive and sensitive to their environment . They can also be in tune to other worldly energies.Because of their "external feeling". Capacity. ( This aspect is linked to their introverted (internal capacity) and their extroverted (external capacity). As our awareness expands in these realities and concepts. An INFJ who is spiritual and believes in a spirit world will sense things that most people can't. Which is why they get those psychic labels.

[@stevenm7408]

Great video, have experienced every single one of these situations and is so disheartening. Thanks for letting us know we're not alone!

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you Steven! Your donation means a lot to me my friend. I am planning many, many more videos, so I hope we can continue to support each other. Thanks again. Jay

[@stevenm7408]

Looking forward to it @@INFJcircle , you're making a real difference in peoples' lives! Don't forget to take care of yourself too in the midst of it all!

[@janzkijowa7275]

I think i hate the most of people, i do not wanted that, they just teached me a lot to feel so. The only thing that keeps me alive is the faith in exceptions. The logic behind is extremely simple. If i am able to do like most people are unable to do, there must exist someone else like that. And You are one of them :---)

[@audreyhepburn2790]

Thanks for another wonderful video. I also greatly appreciate the newsletters! Please keep it coming😀

[@INFJcircle]

Thanks so much, and will do :) Jay

[@lexig787]

Hi Jay, thank you so much for your wonderful channel...I truly appreciate it 💛I find comfort and peace here...and the way you reply to comments also shows how much you care and how much love you have for others...Thank you. I deeply feel you're a genuine infj💛

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you so much! Yes, I care. I appreciate you and I’m glad you are enjoying the channel! Jay

[@cjuuljohnston]

You are CORRECT 💯

[@helenmorgan3191]

I do have some psychic senses. Most comes in my dreaming things before they happen. My son and granddaughter have it also. In all cases, it began around 10 years old.

[@anthonycliftonjones2564]

I think this is called astral projection. INFJS are open minded and aware of things in the world that most people are blind to. Do you see things and experience aural voices at times?

[@jamesbonato2836]

Wow. You summed up my whole life and who I am in just six minutes and sixteen seconds.

[@INFJcircle]

LOL! Thanks for watching, hope it helps :) Jay

[@PlainStrider55]

5._ All INFJs are a good person

[@richardjohanson612]

4:50 exactly over and over and over... it's like I thrive to try... perfectionism... guilty for mistreating us... learned behavior patterns from childhood.... I was born an illegitimate child from an adulterous relationship before Roe vs Wade 4 older step brothers younger step sister everyone knew except... I didn't until later in life. They all were told not to tell me... or wrath from my mother... genetic father wouldn't talk to me... his kids knew of me too. Oh well!

[@richardjohanson612]

I was made to feel guilty for my genetic fathers mistake...

[@richardjohanson612]

Yes cold hearted now 😢

[@richardjohanson612]

We are spiritual ppl... not psychic... those are fallen angels with wisdom of the world Hebrews 4 13And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account. James 1 5If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.

[@richardjohanson612]

Born an illegitimate child from an adulterous relationship before Roe vs Wade yet chosen from the beginning of the world Ephesians 1:4-11 everything predestined according to the foreknowledge of His will All of our days ordained before one came to pass Psalm 139:1-16 That's why we have the Book of Revelation the Alpha and Omega the beginning and the end Jesus Christ

[@ghostwolf1388]

I am being Blackmailed i think. And i don’t know what to do to help myself. Do I go to the police. 🥁🥁🎹🐺❤️👻

[@DanielinAction]

Good to see you again! 💪

[@INFJcircle]

Hey, thanks! More to come! Jay

[@ComplicatedSimplicite]

Love your videos 🩷 They are always so accurate.

[@INFJcircle]

🙏 thank you! Jay

[@luisavasconcelos5166]

Obrigado!

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you so much. That really means a lot to me my friend. 🙏🙏 Jay

[@wren3347]

#1 yes! I'm not psychic I just pay attention

[@roberttrough6439]

I know I’m weird! I love me know! Know that I understand why I do that. As a child I learned how to read by reading encyclopedias on 🦕 dinosaurs. I shorten my texts with my kids they get angry 😡 with me. Too funny! Thanks Jay! Yes we do tell the truth to people. Son calls me when he has work relationship issues. He will text me the next day “thanks dad”. I used to stare through people. Freaked people out. I have toned that down. Sometimes I still do stare if someone asks I find a string or hair on their shoulder and remove it.

[@d18zephyr]

I feel so seen. Thank you.

[@larryconkoljr.8915]

Untruth spoken on the internet... Really, I am shocked.

[@veroniquerun5066]

Happy new year Jay! I am so glad that you are back with your videos- content! I love the tone, the content, and the accuracy of your content and your style. Happy new year! I wish you a year full of health, love, abundance and creativity, so we can all grow with your knowledge, with more content coming in! Thanks for being yourself and out there, the world needs you! 🎉

[@btdu2789]

It's strange cause when i was younger, I knew nothing about psychology, and when I was in college I thought anyone majoring in psycholgy was a nut. I had a cousin who is a psychologist as well and thought she was out of her mind. I didn't think much about others' personalisties happily doing my thing, being in my own little world, but had lots of friends and acquaintances like an extrovert. I didnt' compare this and that and did not understand human very common traits. Now I'm even better than a psychologist, better than those who have even created gaming, or online monitoring people, or collecting retail info, and all those things an INFJ do, I automatically do without even realizing, until I found out I was an INFJ about 4 years ago. Up til then, I didn't even know there was such thing as MBTI. I will say that we could be a great scientist because we can carry out behaviorial experiments, introducing something, and watching responses, and certain reactions or unresponsive actions can have inconclusive results but we will have hypothesis in those cases based upon pattern recognition and common human traits. You are spot on about us.

[@winnerosaigbovo4527]

I was initially studying physiology but all of a sudden I fell in love with psychology basically the way people think but oh well

[@chrislcaggie141]

Much of it is awareness to human behavior but how about when your intuition is so strong to what is going to happen and thete is no person that uour talking to but rather an event that happens as somehow you just know and glad that i trusted my instinct was right on the money what personality explains that other then infj because this happens to me all the time couple weeks ago my intuition told me to go check one of the propertys i own and remove the nieghbors gardening stuff before he tries to squat the lot and sure enough he callef the sheriff long story short nobody talked to me no educated guessing here just intuition for myself and it payed off by trusting it always had this since i was very young before school started! How do you explain when it is within oneself the insite and intuition of an event that could be days or weeks away please explain?

[@MichaelBrhane-gg5pz]

Thank you man!

[@djartur25]

Nice to see you again

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you my friend :) Jay

[@andreahugentobler1510]

accurate. especially 2 and 4

[@Nick-Nasty]

Thank you for making these videos..

[@INFJcircle]

You are very welcome. Glad you enjoy them! Jay

[@waynerobinson979]

Spiritual GIFTED PEOPLE NO MATTER WHAT MYERS BRIGGS PERSONALITY. CAN BE PSYCHIC,

[@emmarae4322]

No.

[@66el]

I tell people, I’m Jackie of all trades and master of none and that I extrapolate fast. This tends to buffer me from people becoming competitive.

[@ztskurza]

So ture for know it all, We just want helping no showing off

[@bluestar.8938]

Indeed. Thank you : )

[@kacake]

So therapeutic 😌

[@INFJcircle]

Glad it helped you :) Jay

[@cjuuljohnston]

You nailed it.. 👍👍👍👍

[@INFJcircle]

Thank you :) Jay

[@pippalewisNYC]

Spot on.

[@Sharfe]

Do you have any plan to create telegram group for INFJ Circle?

[@AlucardiaVanHellsing]

I like people ....... on my terms though lol

[@btdu2789]

No, I don't try to help, I realized that's just too much wasted energy at my expense now.

[@alexharrel]

EXCELLENT

[@Ginascottage]

I jokingly say I’m a misanthropic philanthropist. But it’s sort of true. I’ve just not met many of the good people of the world. As far as the door slam, to me it seems like a defense mechanism. I’ve made the choice to not be around certain people. But the door slam is involuntary. Feelings are there one minute and gone the next. No choice was made it’s just suddenly that person is nothing to me. I’ve seen INFJs online say, “Should I door slam this person?” They’re talking going “no contact” in my opinion. Whereas a true door slam happens involuntarily.

[@waynerobinson979]

JUDGE NOT AND BE NOT JUDGED.

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

Yeah well I am working on it 😊❤ 4:35

[@INFJcircle]

hahaha! We all have our moments! Jay

[@milanstevic8069]

Yup, all true

[@totalpoweryoga]

People actually hate me.

[@DevineTV]

Perfect.

[@Wellch]

I am an INFP , why do I like the INFJ?

[@jamesjames1364]

Bravo!

[@INFJcircle]

:)

[@gandfgandf5826]

No not psychic. I just see what's there.

[@Heyokasireniei468sxso]

infj being psychic is not a myth if you understand what psychic means and carl jung said that not the internet , the internet myth keep trying to say otherwise

[@emmarae4322]

Trust your intuition always.❤

[@sidlopez4599]

That IS psychic , though . A sixth sense is simply “the sum is greater than the whole it’s parts” .

[@tomlopez4968]

No I'm psychic

[@roberttrough6439]

News, culture, history, intuition, norms , abnormalities, lack of news, remember, knowledge, shortcuts, study, research, even religions and Biblical texts are some of the ways we gather information and speaking to people. Science rarely contributes. Not psychic we stay informed. Helping people anymore is my choice backed up by many questions. Does the person need help or only wants you to listen? Do I want to get involved? Are their other resources for their issue? How are they dressed? Time? Finances? Are they capable of repaying? Especially with young people. Have they had the issue before? Do they have tattoos? What kind of tattoos? Are they lying? Look into their eyes. Look for tells in face, mannerisms, speech and friends. Big red flag especially with younger people. What have they said before? Another red flag. Am I intruding on what God has to teach them? Etc etc. Ideally confession is good for the soul. Can the person say their sorry. Apologize in another words. Do you suspect something is a miss in speech, actions, mannerisms, friends, family, faith, and follow through. We may seem slow in action because we want perfection from ourselves. However we don’t demand that perfection from others. Once suspicion enters our computer minds we binging the process of examining our conclusions. Can be done by saying hello to someone.

[@INFJcircle]

Some great points here. Thanks! Jay

[@Kim-oo9vv]

You said it ALL perfectly!! This is exactly how my mind works!! I am in absolute shock here. Every detail matters to me, and I catch it ALL! Yep! Just by saying "Hello!" Be blessed! You already are my friend!! 😊

[@kimjay481]

Right. Right. Right. Right. 🤩

[@elizabethakers929]

Oof. This one hit hard.

[@kaycevanveer212]

Wait... I'm not psychic? 😂

[@infj2177]

So true )

[@petracotes6308]

🙏🏻🌹

[@averagejoe8968]

Sorry me friend. This isn’t quit

[@averagejoe8968]

True

[@l0I0I0I0]

We are NOT psychic. Lol