#4: On the Road to Raising Righteous Children (تربية الأولاد) || AMAU

[@BintalMuminun]

Another beneficial talk yaa Ustadh. This is the BEST talk I have ever listened to in English on the topic of tarbiyah for our kids. May Allah reward you all and may Allah taalaa guide us aameen. And make the tarbiyah of our kids be a way to jannah and not be a way to the jahannam aameen

[@ibmsulaymani]

AMAU took ride out to a whole new level, may Allah bless you both.

[@shukrig7464]

I need to go on a 2hr road trip to enjoy this uninterrupted!!

[@ImansHomeschool]

@1:49:08 ... SubhaanAllaah! This is like light in our hearts to hear these words. Ya Ustadh, you have been such a huge inspiration to us, you have benefitted us on so many levels, and we thank Allaah for the khayr that comes through you and AMAU, may Allaah aid you and increase you upon khayr, and your family and your loved ones. Ameen to your du'aas, we ask that Allaah grant us and you all the best in this world and that He makes us neighbours in Jannatul Firdous, Allaahumma ameen!

[@noza.k.11]

Ameen.

[@RaihanShaheed]

Was happy to hear the shoutout.. 😀 بارك الله فيك ..

[@kellyjames15]

I was so happy to hear this as well. Love both AMAU and Iman’s Homeschool! Bringing soo much good to us and our children. Alhamdulillaah! May Allaah reward all who are involved in both organisations immensely. Aameen

[@ummsoufiane]

assalamu alaykum sister, I just heard these words and wanted to send it to you somehow. I already copied and pasted it, but went back to check if you already saw it. Allahouma baarik sister, I have been using your website for a long time and really liked this shoutout.

[@ImansHomeschool]

@ummsoufiane Walaykum asalaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu dear Sister, may Allaah bless you! 💐

[@baobaobao208]

Feels weird watching this as a 22 year old but the rights of the children start before they're born so might as well get ahead!! BarakAllahu feek may Allah aid you guys in good ameen!

[@amatullahsu]

45:32 ~ I heard Br. Imran Ibn Mansur say this often: 'Kids don't listen with their ears, they listen with their eyes!'

[@deea946]

Children are naturally inclined towards the religion when they are young. The stories in the Quran and Hadith are full of wonders and they should keep the children nice and entertained.

[@salimabintabubakr9429]

Feminism can only exist in a time like this, where there's not real men" - I applaud his brutal honesty here. For this is saheeh. 💯

[@tesnyme]

the production is on another level Allahumabarik may Allah place barakah in this organisation 🧡

[@Uthmannie]

Facts.

[@buttman12954]

Ustadh is legit and given wisdom by the grace of Allah The Almighty

[@iaah8129]

This is an amazing programme. Growing up in the UK, I have seen firsthand the outcome of neglecting taribayah. Now in my early 30s single, I am really conscious and learning about how I want to raise my kids with an Islamic upbringing. It's a lot of sacrifices but worth it. It's a blessing to have your channel speak about the importance of this. JazaAllah Khair for your efforts may Allah reward!

[@BintalMuminun]

Naam that Sister @ Imaanhomeschool blog has been blessing us with authentic Ilm since the early 2000's. Wallahi I have been using her references and blog for 11 plus years. May Allah taalaa continue to bless her and her family aameen.

[@hanna3097]

Ameen

[@ajibolafashola60]

Maasha Allah, I love the personal experiences Ustaadh has shared. Really appreciate how he explains the things he had learnt from.

[@ImansHomeschool]

This is gonna be good, inshaaAllaah!

[@amatullahsu]

1:49:00 ~ A little shout out for you here🥰😘

[@ImansHomeschool]

@@amatullahsu SubhaanAllaah! This brought tears to my eyes Sis. We are so humbled to have been part of their homeschool journey. It is an honour from Allaah سبحانه وتعالى alone Who has helped us to help our fellow Muslims ... and we ask Him to continue to aid us and accept from us and to keep us humble and sincere 💖

[@AishaNS]

@@ImansHomeschool jazakumullahu khairan. You have helped me and my kids in our homeschool journey too. We really appreciate your effort. ♡

[@ImansHomeschool]

@@AishaNS Wa iyyakum Sister 💐 Alhamdulillaah, all good is from Allaah and we ask that He accepts our efforts.

[@SalafiyyahCentre]

I laughed so hard reading this comment 😆😆 may Allāh aid you and give you success

[@deea946]

Sending children to school these days is a nightmare. Some children come from household where their parents don’t care. Then they become friend with your child. May Allah save us.

[@daniah5427]

My favourite podcast to listen to while doing homework

[@deea946]

What I heard was with regard to decision making- when the child is between 0-10, you tell them what to do, no questions asked. Between 11- 20, you discuss with them and give them 50% power over the decision made. Then after 21- you hope that you’ve guided him enough to where he makes good decisions.

[@samiiromohamud6537]

I do share this channel everyday because it deserve it

[@Ibrahimy5]

Watching this series on the go is amazing. Allahuma Barik

[@AminaGhafoor1988]

❤❤❤ amazing topic and amazingly addressed. You both did justice to it. May Allah reward you and protect the ummah, ameen

[@user-if5me6kl5q]

1:26:05 looool my Allah preserve you Sheikh😂 I think the reason why this series is so good is because the nature of the video is a conversation: easy to listen and easy to comprehend.

[@deea946]

MashaAllah, in the early naughties I was literally the only girl to wear the hijab in the entire primary school. My year 3 teacher used to take it off me and hang it up on the pegs. And at break time I would put it back on. She would then take it off me again... and this went on for while until she realised I wasn’t being forced and it was my choice. She gave up and allowed me wear it. She was a really sweet women- May Allah guide her.

[@nawalhassan8558]

May ALLAH reward you sister. The strength inside you was so imense for the hijab .

[@deea946]

@@nawalhassan8558 Ameen

[@reflectocean2401]

mashaAllah that's adorable. I have a neice and I can imagine her doing that also lol

[@deea946]

@@reflectocean2401 once you have the love of Allah you want to show it the best way possible. And it’s really funny I never grew up in a religious household. I just went to Islamic evening classes and I used to memorise as a child and it was enough to make me confident and brave. I hope you little niece can be more brave than this.

[@syed3701]

Subhanallah! Bernards Watch had such a big effect on me in my youth. I used to day dream all the time about having a watch like it and doing anything I wanted. You have unlocked alot of memories when talking about the past. I really enjoy these driving discussion series! Please keep posting them!

[@FufuZ]

Didnt realize this was just uploaded! Jazakallahu Khairan !

[@deea946]

I’ll be homeschooling until my babies go off to high school. InshaAllah I’ll routine will start 6:30pm sharp. Morning we’ll be memorising until noon. Afternoon- secular studies such as maths and English. Then I plan on taking them to Islamic madrasa in evening- so they able to make Muslim friends and socialised. We’re also planning on doing Hijra before high school so that way they can go to British international school in a Muslim country. They won’t be missing out on their dunya education.

[@faizaabdi4916]

that sounds like a good plan my younger brother is homeschooled as well he isn't missing out on anything Alhamdulilah

[@deea946]

@@faizaabdi4916 you don’t learn anything in Primary it’s just amusement.

[@Lander02]

Important topic timely and urgently needed . Jazakum Allahu khairan.

[@zf1670]

بارك الله فيكم Please do an episode on being righteous children to our parents.

[@nawalhassan8558]

May ALLAH bless the team . Aameen بارك الله فيك

[@AmazonFindsSpecial]

Please do very detailed videos on Tarbiyah. Your videos will change the lives of many children as many parents will watch and implement what you suggest. Tremendous reward for you.

[@lovenmercyfdc4291]

Mashaa’Allah good topic, JazakumuAllah khair

[@mounadiallo235]

Jazakallahu khayran for the beneficial advice it is really needed.

[@missahmed7107]

May Allah azza wa jall continue to spread the deen and its knowledge through you. The things you've mentioned here give us all a reality check. I pray my family and children are able to be blessed with company and advise from people like you Ustadh. It would be so beneficial if you could do a whole podcast on homeschooling and how the village can be regained in a society where its all about oneself. Nowadays the parents don't want others intervening in their children's lives ie don't approve of others correcting their behaviour or sincere advise OR people just aren't bothered and/or afraid to correct a child.

[@Ummi.Africa]

Allaahuma barik! I loved these series but this one is soo important for the ummah Tarbiyyah of the kids. Are you pleeaaasee going to make more about raising kids in shaa’ Allaah! Wallaahi it is so difficult and when I listen to this, i know im lacking subhan Allaah. May Allaah help us to raise pious children

[@أبوبكربنمحمدجالوه]

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته Ustadh, May Allah عز وجل Preserve you and Honor you in this world and the next, I think it will be a great idea to start a series on ‘How to pray according to the Authentic Sunnah of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم ‘ since many of the people, especially youth nowadays, make many mistakes in the prayer and in the things related to it such as Tahārah/Purity and many might even suffer from Wiswās/devilish whispers, and I think an even greater idea will be if you can start a series on the Shāfi’i Madhab, and do some explanations on some of the books of the Madhab, which will benefit the beginning student of knowledge who desires to learn and start up with this great Madhab, and it will benefit the general mass as well, إن شاء الله, and it may lead to a great deal of good in the near future, جزاكم الله خيرا, and it will also be great if you can add a few of the basic/fundamental Aqeedah books which have been suggested by the Scholars, which will بإذن الله ,bring about a lot of good, May Allah Preserve you all and make you all of the people who benefit themselves and others and the closest of people to Him and His honorable Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم , on the Day of Judgement.

[@fahmoali4186]

MashaAllah very important topic

[@amgadragab6584]

May ALLAH reward you guys with the best in this life and the hereafter,

[@Abdullah34610]

Here is some advice to those who have not yet watched, or will rewatch: Many of the advises apply to our relationships with other than just our children. Just as the Ustadh took something from his relationship with his sister and applied it to with his children, we can do so the other way around. It is especially applicable to anyone in a position of authority over others.

[@Karim01101]

My instagram is in my description

[@magly8040]

May Allah bless us all with success, health, happiness, patience and strength, May Allah bless you with victory in this life and hereafter too, and May Allah bless our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) Amen!

[@deea946]

Ameen

[@hmzzrg5045]

AMAU firing on all cylinders lately mashallah barakallahufikum

[@AMAUofficial]

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[@a.s.agamer8862]

Ameen

[@tidankaycherif244]

@@a.s.agamer8862 thanks

[@DawahTrucker2024]

May Allah preserve you Ustadh Abdul Rahman Hassan and the brother i keep on forgetting his name and may Allah keep us firm upon the book of ALLAH, the Sunnah of the messenger of Allah and the way of the tightly guided Salaf, Allahumma Ameen.

[@zaink5521]

This makes it enjoyable to watch when they are driving.

[@jainabasey8860]

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu Yaa ustadh... Jazzakallahu khairan fee dunya wal ahkhira... I have benefitted a lot...

[@skyschoolonline2202]

Jazakallahu Khairan for this. This is truly beneficial

[@Ibraheemgm]

بارك الله فيكم

[@sherifatabdullahi7380]

Very educative. Jazakhumllah khayr

[@amgadragab6584]

بارك اللّٰه فيكم. اللّٰهمّ بارك. ماشاء اللّٰه

[@hafsah6823]

I was thinking about another episode today.

[@zakiya_arab]

Allahumma bārik. Please if possible call Ustadh Muhammad Tim as well for this series. 🎀

[@SubaruSupra3]

Alhamdulillah

[@bilkesnferdous]

Jazakallahu khairan. I am loving these series 👍

[@bintsc3170]

Could you pls speak about homeschooling children, and the best method for parents to raise righteous and well educated children (especially in the west).

[@abdifatahahmed267]

Manshallah my sweet lovely bro

[@abumusa_ch]

Good thing you’re in UAE cheap petrol😅

[@amatullahsu]

UK folks be triggered 🤣

[@Bazwjd]

Please upload on podcast in shaAllah BarakAllahu feekum

[@sifhaji8417]

@amau Can the Ustadh do the same kind of series in Somali? tbh that would be so helpful for Somali community who doesn't speak English

[@cafiifa241]

Aadbey uficnan laheyd in umadeenu bartaan sida quruxda bdn ee caruurta loo tarbiyeeyo

[@kemohersekovich9817]

Be patient brothers

[@user-if5me6kl5q]

@1:22:41 😂😂 Allahu mustacaan

[@Michael43868]

Ma-sha-Allah! Which country does this beloved Ustadah live?

[@UmmYaquub]

Assalamualaikum ustaadh Abdurrahman and Team, I think we are im DIRE need to get a podcast/ discussion with maybe some older teachers who already went through raising older children in this age, because I feel that many of your advices are so good but not realistic with the problems we are facing here in our current World as practicing Muslims with teenage children. The influences of the Internet is so demanding and difficult to stop....what if the children will insist on NOT shortening thw trousers INSIST on getting a phone are too shy to wear hijab, do not want to pray and all this? I think we need somebody who sucessfully raised a child til adulthood to speak here on this topic

[@amatullahsu]

1:26:10 ~ 🤣 'I should get rewarded for the intention right?' 🤐

[@yourakhi9154]

First

[@iwillbeblunt4494]

My Bookmark Finished

[@idreesabdallah.2664]

Allahu Akbar

[@deea946]

For entertainment- teach your children how to read from a young age and buy them children books. Factual book, adventure book, sc-fi books and of course Islamic books about the prophets. The sereerah of the prophet. There’s more variety in books and it keeps the imagination going. You literally turn into a zombie watching TV.

[@faizsajjad2328]

I’m planning to this with my children when I have them Insha Allah

[@deea946]

InshaAllah May Allah make it easy for you.

[@userunknown-lb8qw]

yesss, books are soo important. we didn't have tv for many years of my childhood and i remember the number of hours i would spend reading all sorts of books whenever i wasn't playing outside. sometimes i would pick up fiqh books just out of curiosity lol may Allah reward our parents and allow us to strive to do better for our kids, ameen

[@deea946]

@@userunknown-lb8qw you were fortunate MashaAllah. I only saw the joy in reading when I got older and went to university. It literally opened a new world to me. And your right, once you get into reading you become curious about Islamic books and start to read those too.

[@istikharahmarie6077]

What about Khadijah though.. since she employed the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him.. would that justify women working?

[@abdirahmanjama7481]

Is business she (ra) inherited and she instructed behind the scenes

[@deea946]

Women are not banned from working. It is preferred for them to stay in their homes and allow their husbands to provide. But it maybe that your situation does not allow that and you have to go to work. If you do go to work, then you have to make sure there is no free-mixing, no haram involved in the work (for example selling alcohol at the supermarkets) and you’re able to dress appropriately. There is more to it. But this is not restricted to women, it is also the men who have to abide by it too.

[@abdurahimibrahim8639]

1:49:24

[@anon54678]

1:13:20 😂

[@ummerfarooq5383]

Tell us about the dream you had of the prophet link Allah over him and save.

[@abidghias8524]

Could you please up the volume in future uploads, جزاك اللهُ خيراً

[@springleaves4958]

Ex wife doesn't have financial rights after divorce, only the children do. Divorce women need to go back to their families. Agreements should be made through her father, brother regards to the children if she wants to keep them. That's it, now they are both free from each other to move on with their lives and the responsibility of children are settled. This idea that the ex husband has to still provide for his ex wife is causing more and more single mothers to pop up. The women thinks because she has the children she has financial rights for the rest if her life. This then causes her father/family not to take her back and shes left on her own. As for the ex husband he will find it hard to remarry if his ex wife is on the scene constantly calling for any little reason. I've seen these things take place, this is one of the reasons why we have higher divorce amongst second, third time marriages. I think you haven't looked into this matter well, your solution is like the western way, they say still be in contact and meet up for coffee to show children were still together. I know you haven't said that, but this is what's happening. Brothers are going to ex wives homes and sitting with her and having coffee. Divorce is no joke, children need to learn what it means to divorce and how to go about it. If they see that once your divorced you have no right over each other and parents move on with new spouses, they will understand the outcome of it. They also need to see that a woman is taken care of by her family after divorce. They need to see the family especially fathers, brothers and uncles speaking on her behalf to the ex husband. They need to see divorce is a clear cut and theres no playing around afterwards. I'm afraid you have not addressed this issue properly. You did not bring in that its haram to chat with non mahram women, and a divorced woman is that, children or no children. The responsibility of her male family members/family in this situation. The fathers right to have his children live with him before or after puberty. The fathers right to tell the ex wife how he wants his children raised if they are with her. 1 out of 10 sisters are decent enough to know how things are done Islamically. The rest are playing single mother syndrome. Brother, emotional solutions will not help us. Children are very resilient and can cope with real life issues that are halal like divorce. What they can't cope with is fairytale living before or after divorce. This confuses them and makes them think why did this happen if they get along. This is why it's best if the woman's family member speaks on her behalf and settle everything. Then the children will have structure and routine. The child will not go without a parent. And will learn to live in two different homes with new step parents and new half siblings.

[@daisybee5943]

@@FaFa2221 for me I've always understood that a child that is still breastfeeding stays with the mother and the ex husband provides for both and that's food. Usually divorced muslim women would go back to the care of her family. As fir children I was told after the age of 7 they go to the father but if the mother wants to keep them a little longer and the ex husband is okay with it then she can As long as she hasn't remarried. If she remarries, for the well being of the children they go straight to the father. But there are exceptionals, all of this is based on the well being of the child's deen. It's the deen that is important plus safety.

[@deea946]

@@daisybee5943 definitely, I read somewhere about a mother who took her husband to court with regards to custody. Since the child had reached 7/8 years old he had chosen his father to live with. The mother disputed in court and the judge was going to rule on the side of the father and allow custody for the father since it was the child’s choice. The mother then requested the judge to ask her son why he wanted to live with his father and not his mother. The child said ‘my mother sends me to school and allows the teachers to hit me and my father allows me to go out with my friends and play’. And so the the judge ruled that the child is to stay with the mother. So deen, safety and educations is also important when discussing custody.

[@daisybee5943]

@@deea946 that's correct. The deen of the children overrides all emotional rights.

[@strivingslave5962]

29:30 Role of housewife/stay at home mom has been belittled

[@strivingslave5962]

5:13 won’t be able to do Justice to something without knowing its value If you don’t know value of Quran, won’t value it