4 Reasons Why Coworkers Are NOT Your Friends

I am an Employment Lawyer in Seattle, Washington. So, I deal with working relationships a lot! One thing I've come to learn is that those friends you think you have at work usually turn out not to be your friends when it really matters. Watch my video to learn why your coworkers are NOT your friends!
Website: www.HonesLaw.com
Contents of video:
0:00 Intro
0:35 Working Relationships Are Situational
1:53 Employees Think About Their Jobs, Not Their Friendships
3:11 Everyone Is Competing For The Same Things
4:10 Coworkers May Support The Employer During Legal Claims

[@chriswright6403]

Do your job. Make your money. Go home.

[@TJDW]

Not trying to build a relationship with anyone at work, their first resort will be betrayal once things go south.

[@rufustfirefly7389]

NEVER tell lies to coworkers even if they are bugging you to find out your personal business. Also if you need a shoulder to cry on NEVER choose a co-worker. Big mistake.

[@eurika297]

Yes 😢 I learned it the hard way. Talked to an oldie woman thinking she's mature and said she'll keep it a secret but the very next day, blurted everything to everyone about my depression and coworkers took it negatively thinking I hated them. She's vile 😭

[@SuperAwesomeSandwich]

HR Is not your friend. In other news, water is wet.

[@comeconcon569]

I always notice a lack of professionalism from many workers at the workplace. they want to get too personal with their co-workers and forget that theirs is just a work relationship,not a personal relationship. I started a new job and one of the workers even when we don't work in the same department, made me feel very uncomfortable with his unprofessional behavior towards me. your relationship with your co-workers is just pure work relationship,not a personal one, and what you do out of work with your personal life is nobody's business. LET"S JUST BE PROFESSIONAL AT WORK!

[@n.m.3760]

I like keeping "professional distance". I really view my coworkers as "chess pieces" and not as actual human beings. It's all just a "game" where everybody is out to get you. Coworkers will stab you in the back at any given moment if it monetarily suits them. Coworkers are just inanimate objects to me now. To me, they're like pieces of furniture at the store as I casually walk on by. THAT'S how I view my coworkers. Just cold, barren and lifeless objects who I barely acknowledge. It's best to isolate yourself from everyone at work and only talk to them about work-related matters. My new motto at work is "Trust No One". Everyone is out to get you in this cold and evil world.

[@riaddict]

Facts no lies said !!

[@1977rainDUB]

Yo. I’m dead ass cracking up reading this but that’s what I’m learning to do. Just random people that I help make the company money with

[@VeniVidiVici456]

Precisely correct!

[@sabrinag4512]

Thank you for this message, I’m so happy to read this! I have always isolated myself from co workers. They’re all here to get you in the end!

[@N.F.E.]

They're your co workers not your friends but then cliques form and then it becomes personal. Unfortunately, I've worked with many people who don't know how to act professional and everything is personal and a lot of people hard time separating personal and business. Don't get me started on the holiday parties and work functions.

[@Ingrid-sb6my]

I despise work "parties". They need to away with the dinosaurs and bubonic plague.

[@Renzo_Anime]

There are many coworkers like that and wait for the right moments to betrayal you in the moments. Can't understand why or how, that's why we stick with remain silent and focus on the job.

[@BASESKIZL]

They get paid to be nice to you not hang out

[@shafserious2805]

👏👏👏

[@1977rainDUB]

I’m glad more people feel like me. Okay, money making time and that’s it. Thank you

[@pjstar2009]

I try and try to not count on these "friendships". I've been burned and I'm learning and still learning. And watch social media like linked in. Your company monitors this

[@cjanquart]

We had an annual meeting where one of our supervisor stated that "I don't care about your family or personal life, just come here to work." He had some personal issue and the rest of us had to pick up the slack and our manager didn't like that I said I'm here for the department and paycheck, not the supervisor. Of course he didn't like it because they've been buddy-buddy for years.

[@AshUkihime]

Learned that the hard way yesterday and good thing i had a fail safe against this person.

[@shafserious2805]

You will only appreciate this video when you actually live through HR issues.

[@waedjradi]

My mother used to always say "Make money. Not friends."

[@laurendavisa]

Hello 🍒 I liked this video very much Keep making more videos like this I love it. By the way, if you pay a little attention to video editing i.e. insert B-roll properly then it will be very easy to understand the topic.

[@emilybrowno]

Yes, You are right. 🍄

[@madisonmartinezz]

Look, no matter what people say, I completely agree. Because B-Roll and subtitles are very important in video. 🌿

[@user-cd3gx6qt4x]

I’m currently a student. I see a pack of ppl talk smack about someone. Then when someone from the pack leaves, that person gets talked about. There are some people who retired. Once those people left, people went back to work and it was as if they never existed. Not once have they been remembered or mentioned.

[@ericnierstedt6242]

I'm one of the older people at my job and sometimes I feel like I'm in high school. There is a lot of immaturity and clique-forming. Even at events outside work, the same people hang out together. I have met some people that I like being around, even have common interests with, and that are professional. It made me realize that while it's possible to be friendly with your co-workers, in most cases they are NOT your friends, and honestly, I don't want to be friends with some of them.

[@riaddict]

Thank you i needed this . This is pure facts 🥺

[@sonicmoore6196]

Never gossip in their BS that’s how they want to control and set you up to be fired.

[@rufustfirefly7389]

yes and NEVER tell a lie

[@jayjay-bz3rr]

Where I work, there are grandparent aged employees acting childish

[@antwanwilson7228]

High School all over again 🎒🚶🏿‍♀️

[@revo1336]

Same ol’ punks

[@user-mo2wl5kw2v]

Yes it is sad to see 48 year old women trying to get single 30 something males fired just because we choose to be single. It has no effect on them but, they still act like nutjobs.

[@3120s]

This is how corporate denatured and ruined the basic fabric of human relationship. Work is the place we spend most of our time at and it has become the most hellish part of our life. How long will this dystopic society last?

[@mikethomas8682]

I bloody love it, hell I don't even like myself much so I totally get it. As for HR I will have a look at that video tomorrow. In reality very little is as we believe it to be. Stay frosty everyone lol

[@edhones]

Staying frosty 🤝

[@sportfanatic5339]

Hello Ed, I have a quick question for you. In April 2022, Human Resources and Hospital Leadership investigated my concerns and presented me with a memorandum. According to the information in the memorandum, I went about debunking their argument. Now that I have defeated their argument, Human Resources is saying that the “ 2022 memorandum was wrong.” Can I use this information to prove retaliation? I filed a complaint with my government agency in January of 2022. Thanks

[@DayrusBPB]

Coworkers and hr are not your friends, they are your family. 😆

[@prasonreguri6178]

Couldn’t be further away from truth

[@DayrusBPB]

@@prasonreguri6178 jk chill holms

[@telayajackson1.0]

They're only family if they're a clique.

[@rufustfirefly7389]

Please, for your own good, change your mindset or you're going to get hurt and end up feeling very bitter.

[@Antoinette617]

If this is your reality consider yourself blessed.

[@jasonstella74]

Yep be cordial, work and go home

[@TheRenard10]

Question(s): What if a female co-worker tries to put her arm around you while on the way back to the shift? Or what if she tries to hug you? Take me for example, a coworker wants to hug on me twice a day. She knows I have a girlfriend! ❤️ I've let her slide with the hugs! Now I'm afraid that, if our boss wants to talk to us both about our intimacy, we're going to face serious consequences. 😢 The man, that's me, is in a relationship! If my significant other finds out, our relationship's in dire straits! Also means I'll go back to the single days! 😟

[@grgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgrgr2592]

that's why i never go to job part'ys and stay low profile, never tell them more then they need to know.

[@hufficag]

Exaclty. No friends, no relationships. After graduating university, new cities every couple years, new companies. Say no to girls wanting a relationship, because you'll be moving again soon. There are no friends, only temporary coworkers. Drift through life completely alone. Even vehicles only stay with you for a few years before being replaced. The only thing you can take with you through life is your furniture, possessions. Your computers and cellphones get replaced, only some trinkets and statues remain with you forever.

[@the_expidition427]

This wont last

[@eddieg6436]

…….Money is #1.

[@growing367]

3:10

[@eddieg6436]

……I can’t tell you HOW HAPPY I am to be retired!!!!!

[@jeanemlicar]

The person example of this video is Kevin Marsh. Skinny light skinned Black guy with glasses and short Dreadlocks who lives in Altamonte Springs Florida. Dude is very shady as hell and is not your friend.

[@dc1n1001]

Fun fact: almost everyone you meet pass 25 is not your friend.

[@BasedRoots]

Unless she’s wants me, my coworker is an ultra homie. She ALWAYS has my back. I appreciate the fuck out of her

[@BasedRoots]

Wow you are all sociopaths. I have tons of very very very old friendships with coworkers

[@nogooddeedgoesunpunishedng3814]

Developing long-term friendships with co-workers is rare, but it is possible.

[@TJDW]

Good for you, but I don’t think anyone cares.

[@the_expidition427]

He cares

[@user-mo2wl5kw2v]

I love how people who have different experiences and got lucky finding real friends means everyone else who is not so lucky are automatically sociopaths.