4 Signs the Narcissist is Losing Control

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

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[@RebeccaZungEsq]

I am looking forward to supporting you there!

[@Janice835]

you really need to get on with it in your videos a 6 minute intro just to get to the point of the video is really not needed just my input :)

[@ogenevieve]

Can you please respond to my question in the main comment section? Ty, G

[@telmoprl1963]

It’s time, she tells me doesn’t like sex?? Sort like to here your thoughts on that ,I do believe in a way she hasn’t betrayed me , she is a wonderful women and I still love and want the best for her

[@tinawalker5335]

1. Suddenly they’re love bombing you, hovering, and being charming 2. Devaluing, flying monkeys, antagonizing through social media 3. Increase lying, denying, etc 4. Rage

[@childofgod1840]

Sometimes, you have to 🚶 walk away, knowing that the narcissist will never change.

[@tamipassow366]

It's time

[@taraarrington2285]

Sounds like happiness to me.

[@heidirausch9735]

Let the narcissist do the walking this time. I'll take the car back it stole from me

[@drogersmt1]

It's time. They have no power unless you give it to them. I am in the final weeks of negotiating with a covert narcissist boss. I feel ecstatic.

[@TheStan80]

Finally i have found a channel that takes on a narcissist. Other channels say don't engage, avoid them, don't call them out. Don't say narcissist to a therapist. Just leave them alone. I was feeling like the narcissist was protected from high above. Its great to see offensive tactics compare to defensive tactics seen on other channels. Thankyou

[@Valoelify]

@@rebeccazung2903 scam

[@salauerman7082]

Dr. Les Carter is excellent also. He presents in a different manner that resonates well with many folks.

[@jackieblue2341]

@@Valoelify why do you think that ? She’s giving valid info. If it’s about her promoting money for signing up for paid groups just bypass that but take the free info. It’s that easy

[@ladidodi8912]

She’s sort of saying the same thing imho. When you don’t engage, it sets them off and they start losing it. Then it starts the narcs cycle of love bombing, rage etc. All this just by not engaging with them. People around you both will start seeing the narcs ways because they are constantly talking about someone who has chosen to just move on. They start look crazy to other people. So whether you go grey rock and not engage as an offense or defense, it leads to the same outcome.

[@MaiXoxo3]

The signs for me is when they can't keep their cool no more. They lash out at everything you say or do. They are mad things are not going their way.

[@goldilocks3593]

Ethical manipulation is a hard skill to learn but with a lot of practice it is absolutely possible, and the only way to handle predators who refuse to play fair. “Nice” cannot extend to being a voluntary doormat.

[@WristyWoman]

Absolutely!

[@1010QUEEN7]

Manipulation is his expertise

[@taraarrington2285]

Psychological, spiritual and emotional torture is these people's M.O.

[@ccorr3606]

This is so uncanny, your video just started playing randomly on my tv and I wasn't even on KZbin... But I had just realized I probably need a lawyer FOR THIS EXACT REASON... I've been gaslighted hard and just had the epiphany of my life over it. Thank you thank you thank youuu for offering this!!!

[@janetfrances2802]

It's time and it's my turn :) I see the narcissist collapsing, it's taken so long - it's been a loooooong harrrrrrd road to healing from the trauma brought about by this destructive entity. What comes around does go around folks, I know this is so impossible to believe sometimes but it's happening and what they put out comes back to them. It's the law of cause and effect and someone trapped in this mental illness just goes around and around and around on the hamster wheel of life addicted to supply. It's really sad when you think about it, they actually do live their karma every day, it's a special kind of hell. It's so hard to get to the point to see them as they truly are .. as fragile and pathetic on the inside, and empty. It's sad and when you can get to the point of realizing that they have a severe mental illness coupled with a spiritual malady and that they are stuck that way, it will be easier for you to start to move forward and forgive yourself for being duped by one of these fiends. Narcissists are put in front of us to teach us to love ourselves as well, not sure why this is so but anyone I know after encountering narcissistic abuse makes it their life journey to help others who have been attacked by these destructive forces.

[@joe7665]

I'm the piper I watched my wife who I am divorcing go though all her narcissistic personalities in a couple hrs try to figure out how to get control of me and get me scared... lol I'm an empath that was raised by an abusive narcissist..... so this is just amusing to me.

[@rolfbisgaard6164]

There is one thing you said, Rebecca, that I have another understanding of. The narcissist is all about the money. Yes, they love jerking you around, but the money grab is all about their greed, entitlement, and most importantly, it is about their absolute selfishness. They are the only one who matters. And they have a mentality of scarcity. Nothing is ever enough. They will fight for the last crumb. They need it. There is a huge hole in their bucket

[@tanyagamble3432]

You definitely know your stuff , they behave the same this is frightening. Thank God I escaped with my life , this swamp creature tried to take me out .

[@1010QUEEN7]

He really tried to take me out too but the Blood of Jesus prevailed ♥️♥️♥️

[@kindredspirits5446]

My oldest brother was the golden child, always was a narcissist and my mom encouraged it. At 60 some years old he told his wife that his life ended when we (his younger brother and sister) were born. Now as the executor of the family trust he just assumes he deserves it all. He ripped off my father and he is trying to take everything. Thankfully, I've been watching a lot of Rebecca's videos and I am ready to knock it out of the ballpark in court. He won't know what hit him, he assumes I am too stupid to get attorney.

[@Mylife-g2z1g]

Wow, I have experienced every single thing that Attorney Zung described in this video. I have been married for 11 years to a covert narcissist and I can tell you that the divorce is literally the FIGHT of my life!!! And these videos help. I am looking for the narcissistic collapse video next!! Hell yeah it's time!!

[@hawaiigirl8089]

Omg me too! It should all be over by now but, the judge allowed him to not show up, not have discovery, refuse to produce honest taxes etc. I am freaking broke ass & exhausted. Many male attorneys are BRO.s & dumb clucks when as women are TRY TO WARN THEM! My narc outsmarted my attorney as my attorney has self esteem issues & rose colored glasses 🤓- only since i am sending what little evidence i showed how my Ex is using a template in his laptop & frauding paychecks to say he makes over a 100,00 a year less to not give me support. Its insane when im honest, show ALL my taxes, bank accounts, even my lease agreement & my ex just writes up anything! He pulls down tax forms & fills it out- not even signed & court allows this crap! He works for the DOD MILITARY & rhe military are A. Holes! They ignored my subpoenas because FAMILY LAW IS CALIFORNIA STATE LAW. Not federal hmm 🤔 yet they want us civilians to support them when they get play games?

[@juliesalano4875]

I am going thru exactly every single thing said. I swear he was the example and creator of the founder called a narc. I always wondered if he was a real human being OR a nightmare I would never get away from.He has hacked me took my identity put sugar in tank of new car, kidnapped my daughter as I call it and took every being of me and mine possible except my life but it's hanging by a damn thread. My worries are what's next is he gonna come for me because he isn't getting his ego pampered anymore or am I gonna die of poor health from all this? Divorce court after investigation of him taking identity and stalking me is above and beyond any kind of life left in me to fight at this point. I'm freaking out. I am strong but I am tired to.

[@RareVieww]

@@juliesalano4875 sorry to hear this julie stay strong! can we get an update?

[@stormchild831]

@@RareVieww There needs to be ~Immediate and ~Direct, assistance, across the board, for those in the position of Julie Selano. Advice is fine, and useful for the majority. However, mere words are, by no means, enough, for those whose lives are, all too clearly, threatened in the extreme...

[@chelseamarie3990]

I just took a narcissist to court for child support. I didn’t show up with an attorney the first hearing where he thought requesting paternity would bother me so the second hearing I brought my attorney 😈 Play stupid games, win stupid prizes

[@1010QUEEN7]

I love it

[@kittycaruso50]

I dont know how much of a narcissist he is, but if he is anything like my ex......protect your child ! Supervised visits if at all. And normally I would say children need two parents. But after my ex I know no child should grow up around a person like that, blood or not.

[@salparadise1220]

Mine does all these in every argument. She goes in circles. Without exception, without variation. Interrupting and talking down. When that's called out she turns to gaslighting. When that's called out she gets out her lists of things I've ever done wrong, and when that fails it's just rage and hate. Apparently we need to go to couple's therapy so someone else can tell me that it's really all my fault and perhaps then I'll listen to her and stop with all this "you're a narcissist" nonsense.

[@saltlifegull4091]

What the heck did we do before Rebecca! She is helping so many of us and saving lives!

[@c46236]

They want you back to abuse you again. Once an abuse the next one will follow sooner and will be more intense. The narcissist will never change, phycological he is fighting for his survival. Change equals death in their mind. This is important to understand a narc is not a person that is intentional evil, he is deeply sick and tries to fix himself by abusing others to align them to his disturbed reality.

[@misstinytrader88]

I took back my boundaries and it caused my ex friend, who I think is a vulnerable/ covert, to kick me out after I relocated and stayed at her house to help her get ready to sell it. She wanted to win, I truly believe that now. Luckily she went no contact, and I'm now free of the worry of upsetting her. Thank you again for helping me understand!

[@1pcmedic]

If you can, 100% disconnect, no contact ever, email, don't read it, DELETE it. Text DELETE it. Phone call, ignore, delete any voicemail without listening to it. Be strong and move on without them. NEVER negotiate with them, things will never change.

[@tanyagamble3432]

When I left this thing lost what little mind that IT had left , what confuses me is stalking and harrassing and name calling supposed to get me back , told my family I’m a drug addict and a prostitute. Unbelievable

[@ajclark9939]

My wife accused me of being on drugs to a lot of people. I told her I take a drug test any time but she doesn't want to be proven wrong.

[@lauradelregno99]

@@ajclark9939 please leave. They don't change.

[@carolnahigian9518]

my 3 warped relatives;; Case in point!!

[@deannewilson9629]

Watching your videos has literally changed my life!! I finally after over 15 years can walk away and not look back, I feel better than I have in so long, like a weighing me down has been lifted.❤️❤️❤️ Thank you!!!

[@royalprincessreborns4411]

I've been going through this for two years. I always get sucked back in and nothing ever changes. I'm at the point to get him to move out, always a struggle because the harsh words start to fly... Wish me luck...

[@hawaiigirl8089]

Yessss it does!!! Great advice! My case is shifting for the better! My narc exiting husband is spinning out of control & pissed off the judge (who is a misogynist & favors the men!) but now finally the judge cannot ignore this any longer & he is now asking for a new judge because its not moving like he wishes! 😂🤣😆

[@NancyBrown1975]

As soon as communication starts with a narcissist, it gives them an opportunity to play their games. We dont have to say anything to them, we don’t have to want to and they cant make us want to and they cant make us say anything, no matter how hard the narcissist tries. That’s where our power is.

[@michaelsotak2461]

So true, this is no joke, took 6 years to get here. Thank you Rebecca. Everyone in the family and friend circle agrees with Linda. I have no one that I can Trust or talk with. I am the devil to everyone.

[@ProfessorNorris1]

I love that Rebecca!.. the Barney song.. lol.. yes narcissistic abuse is the song that never ends.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

So true! Until you spot it and make a change! Then put an end to it!

[@ProfessorNorris1]

@@RebeccaZungEsq took me 3 restraining orders over 10 years, and“ marriage counseling” to finally really understand what I was dealing with ( the church counseling couple: they were so clueless and one was narcissistic herself and started siding with him and validating his tricky ways. She was sucked in because she was like him, especially the moment the husband agreed with anything I said.). It was really sad actually. They were an older couple. He actually passed away a few months to a year after they counseled us.

[@Random-mom]

It’s scary how spot on you are!

[@CLHS1944]

Thank God for you and your schooling us on THE NARCISSIST! Much love and tyvm💜💜💜

[@ProfessorNorris1]

They’re either going to go away, act reasonably with us (not personal life- only work situation or customer/ client), or get put away.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

Learn to ethically manipulate the manipulator!

[@ProfessorNorris1]

@@RebeccaZungEsq I absolutely agree.. I had to get over feeling like I was “lying”. In the end it was the only way I could get out and stay out and start moving on with my life. It’s been 2 years off officially no contact ( officially separated and divorced). I feel and AM free at my core… I’ m rebuilding (in my 50’s)…BUT free FREE from havoc and chaos and I know and I can identify other narcissistic types to watch out for ( for ex. at jobs, and other places). Thank you sincerely for your work.

[@DavidRodriguez-cf7it]

I like that you mentioned the “customer/client” narcissist. Once they’ve been identified; they can be reduced to a mere pathetic nuisance.

[@1010QUEEN7]

Get put away

[@kenhalal375]

Been there done all that. I spent the last year of that 13 year relationship planning my escape. 3 months or so after I executed it I got a call from her sister saying my ex gf was in the hospital due to some emotional meltdown. The total collapse of the narcissist was complete.

[@Dajahgraves]

Wow

[@tanyagamble3432]

Thank you for your wisdom they all behave the same , I’m grateful I escaped and changed my phone number .

[@coryanne9031]

During the divorce, he did turn off the water on me and the children. Took the family vehicle, left me with no transportation. And many other horrible things. He was living with the girlfriend.

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six !!! W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@maryjeanrisheim3073]

I absolutely love your delivery style! It always makes me smile and that can be hard to do when I'm hearing all the things that have been and are being done to me! Thank you! You started me on the right path.

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six ;;;;;;;;;; W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@lisaoberle9721]

Lol, it is hard to believe that the number is only 16%. I must attract them, because, I unfortunately have encounter quite a few. I appreciate you, your knowledge and wisdom on this matter, you are saving my life, I'm not kidding. Thank you.

[@1010QUEEN7]

Keep it moving

[@SAE-Restorations]

Research shows that we subconsciously seek out people like this. We are repeating a pattern that likely started in childhood. Ive been doing the work to become mentally healthy and now i spot narcs right away and steer clear of them instead of being drawn to them. Therapy ruined my marriage to a narc but saved my life and has made me happier

[@lexigrisham9464]

Thank you for your words of encouragement and all the tid bits! ITS TIME!

[@suzannedawson4120]

If I were a narcissist (hopefully I'm not), I would be very nervous about encountering you in court! 🤣🤣🤣 Bravo you! 👏👏👏

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six !!! W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@Tin654]

Mine is losing control and has become more angry! Won’t help me financially or fix the ac so I’ll burn up! Because he knows I’ve got no were to go 😢

[@nicholecornes1915]

Shit!

[@reneelarge3663]

Its time! Just did a no contact with my narc a week ago, so far so good but we got court in a week on the 27th...ugh

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six ;;;;;;;;;; W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@valariecrebbs4751]

It's always been my time, to shine .

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six ;;;;;;;;;; W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@tinkastep1321]

It’s my sisters time to turn this around & winning the narcissist

[@jennyintelle806]

Happy Teacher's Day, Ma'am! I really love your teachings.

[@Jim-rh2nh]

Its Time! to have fairness, Thank you Rebecca, you're the best ❤

[@pjf3837]

Rebecca, I'm going through exactly what you're talking about. It's time!

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six :::::::: W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@jenniferLaw123]

ITS TIME !!!!! 32 years is definitely ENOUGH !!

[@lucybraun8969]

It's time! No more fleeing.

[@Jessica-yx5wu]

You’re so good at this!!!! I have two coverts in my four person family and I’ve had numerous relationships and bosses who were coverts. I bet there are more than 16% in the population also if you include the coverts at the top of the material power scheme on earth. Problem is that when they are dangerous, especially the coverts they can get away with damaging someone for years without that person even seeing what was happening, like training them to eat bad foods or take unnecessary medical treatments with disability and death as side effects.

[@LaAlquimista1111]

My favorite (radical) sport is exposing narcissists 😎

[@alevideonews]

Great Rebecca, thank you very much. About that 16%, maybe it's actually more in our lives, since we attracted them and when we discovered all the profiles that fit these tactics, we saw that we were surrounded. God bless you.

[@thelastking6249]

I’m losing sleep,weight,and overall myself. I’m slowing trying to heal

[@simon_crook]

This video is 100% bang on accurate... Empaths pls dont ignore these videos

[@Ronniereggie]

I had a narcissistic friend who love bombed and then discarded and it made me so ill. Lost lost loads of weight, insomnia and horrible skin. They were leaving subtle signs too. Always mentioned about toxic this toxic that. When it’s them who enjoy causing it. It’s soul destroying to know people like that exist.

[@chevalierdesangreal]

IT'S ON MY TERMS O'CLOCK

[@MarySaenz-r4z]

IT'S TIME! Way overdue.

[@ThePuppetCentral]

“The Song that Never Ends” is from Lamb Chop. It was my sister’s favorite show. That song is still stuck in my head.

[@michaeleckert5877]

You have given me so much good insight.. You are wonderful.

[@ricvaa]

It's time.. It's time!!!

[@hollyhergott915]

It's time my turn to turn it around

[@angelprice9397]

IT’S TIME!

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six ;;;;;;;;;; W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@salauerman7082]

It’s time for that narc collapse- sounds about right!

[@jacquelinpeta993]

You know it Rebecca ITS TIME

[@lfred238]

Thank you for you 🙏 And to share videos that are short with clear on point advice without long explanations. I find your videos very helpful on their own and in addition to some other videos, books ect. by others which provides knowledge about people with narcissists personality disorders/-traits. 🤓

[@judyruiz4695]

A number two that you had just said it has caused me major stress and I felt like I was going crazy because sometimes I can't really say anything because I feel like I'm going to say something bad or wrong so I have to stop myself because I don't want to offend

[@jennywhitfield5118]

It's time for it to be fair.

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six :::::::: W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@clairenj8751]

Me: Let's have lunch. D'arcy's Tavern ? Narcissist: Is it a DUMP ? A sample of many many derogatory comments.

[@RS-ww8jo]

It’s past time

[@taranzacrutchfield7071]

🌟Dear Attorney Zung, You Are Very WISE. MAY GOD "BLESS" YOU. Thank YOU for your PATIENCE, KINDNESS & RESPECT.... 🌟

[@danbride9407]

It's time to be fair It's time for sure

[@hawaiigirl8089]

Its time !

[@steffidas4785]

their objective is control and power over others,any kind of classic acting covert narcissist or straight up narcissist dont actually want someone else to be better than them or to be precise excel them in any way

[@dagomantis]

I love you so much God bless you and all that you do

[@sousababyonSquidoo]

It's time! Thank you so much Rebecca, you are helping so many people.

[@AStarAlmost]

IT'S TIME!

[@Sunshine-ku4op]

He will never change.. that's why i walked away.

[@sonnyca]

I’m so glad I don’t have any narcissists in my life. I can dream, can’t I?

[@1010QUEEN7]

You are blessed

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six ;;;;;;;;;; W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@sonnyca]

The trick is to… Once you get there… After that’s done…

[@1010QUEEN7]

😘😘😘

[@sonnyca]

😉

[@joelletubiana3082]

I do wish French lawyers and the juridical system had integrated this devastating pathology. My futur ex husband is a textbook narcissist but talking about it in front of a judge is considered self sabotage… thank you for your videos .

[@amandalea8156]

IT'S TIME!!

[@elizabethchicos2936]

It's time, It's my turn thank you.🌞

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six :::::::: W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@debbratucker3727]

IT'S TIME!! ...SO BE IT!

[@jerriholder6628]

You are such a huge help.

[@kathy7253]

It's time.

[@RebeccaZungEsq]

It's definitely time.

[@TheGatortale]

After not seeing our disabled son for 20 yrs, suddenly wantd to make peace with me when , unexpectedly my son suddenly passed in january . WHAT THE HELL? Started with the stalking by e mail. no, we have nothing in common anymore. Back and forth. Blocked my e mail and phone. so peaceful.

[@lindas8752]

My son is also disabled abd my daughter in law has treated me like something on the bottom of her shoe since she married him. She tried to injure me in the car a few years ago. My sin and I had a close relationship before they married. Very narcissistic!

[@YouilAushana]

People think that hoover will come back in about a month or two. These people are absolutely disturbed to the essence of their being, they can hoover you at any for the rest of their lives. They believe they own you and your emotions. You might run into them 5-10-20 years down the road and they will remember how they had control of you and their natural playbook will start up again. I hope you all take this very seriously and improve everyday in order to do the best you can. There are plenty of disturbed people out there in any size and shape.

[@tonyhill5235]

Enjoy ur vids. I think ur approach works best when u attack on a three prong approach.... 1.attach fake image...this is not giving them supply...this is hitting at their entire ruse. 2. Attack supply by not being the supply but also using #1 and 3. 3. Attack $/power...usually the result of a successful #1 and 2. I think thus multi-prong approach makes them say uncle more than anything else.

[@sharonmorgan4155]

ITS TIME!!

[@gx4ext]

Thank you Rebecca. This information is so helpful and paint’s the picture of exactly where I am with my narcissist.

[@salauerman7082]

Go away or be reasonable… win-win for me!

[@shannanmendoza4394]

It's TIME!

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six :::::::: W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@irisjasmincook6918]

Genuine question Are some Narcissists dumber than Others? I think mine was actually dumb I outsmarted him all the way at the bitter end Stand off at Narcissist Coralle

[@brettweary8491]

Congratulations Iris

[@1010QUEEN7]

Yes they are 😢😢😢

[@drlarrymitchell]

Winning is not the same as understanding, and they will never understand themselves because they are preoccupied with winning, knowing deep down inside that they are losers- bedrock, gene-deep losers.

[@irisjasmincook6918]

At the bitter end I won and I felt like slowly becoming myself again after therapy Now I am actually stronger than ever and feel sorry for him and his crumby life without any luxuries and everything he detested Karma speaks but slowly it will come full circle

[@Wolfie99]

@@drlarrymitchell Often wonder, do narccissits know that they are deluded and they believe their own lies, or do they actively know they're lieing? Always luzzled about that. Let's face it, they'll never admit it anyway of course.

[@sandynogle8147]

“The Song that Never Ends” is from Lamb Chop. lol. Great narc info though!

[@supportteam2151]

its time! my time!!!

[@deniseread7278]

It's Time > To Turn It Around!

[@ismailsheikh3189]

Rebecca!!!!, I love you! You saved my life.

[@PixelQueen72]

IT’s TIME!!!👏🥳

[@juliocastillo6962]

It´s time!

[@malkindirecttube1731]

the audio 🤯👂🏻💣 SHEESH

[@tommyshome-instead3282]

It's time! It's my time! It's your time!

[@tommyshome-instead3282]

@Rebecca Zung this doesn't look legit.

[@elizabethchicos2936]

It's my turn, it's time !!

[@rebeccazung2903]

Plus-one-six-zero-nine-seven-four-one-eight-five-eight-six :::::::: W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P/M/E

[@kathycunningham2147]

Yup it's time

[@darlawarmann8623]

It's time

[@nancythornton2947]

IT'S TIME.....