4 Things: Regretting marriage, a PeePeeBro speaks, Unhealthy marriage, the Rocking chair Convo

[@KenniseL]

Husband messed up telling her to come to reddit lmao. Now she'll learn all the emotional abuse she's going through

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Yup! I hope she gets the courage to play that Uno reverse

[@FreeBirdee]

He was far too old for her to begin with. She was not even legally an adult. He was probably hoping that she could be easily trained to be his servant. I hope she wise up quickly or she will be in for a long hard ride.

[@collettedaniels3884]

Did that woman say that she wishes the husband will cheat so she can file for divorce? She better file that paperwork. Incompatibility is a perfectly rational reason to file for divorce. Nobody should stay in an unhappy relationship/marriage.

[@notoriousMAG]

The Church doesn't teach/share reasons Christians can file for divorce or dissolution legitimately. But Google does 😉

[@recklessmermaid]

She’s in a Christian subreddit so unfortunately she believes that she can only divorce if he cheats, otherwise her sky daddy will be mad Patriarchy already grooms women to sacrifice their happiness for others; religion is next level. “Marriage doesn’t bring you happiness, it brings you holiness.” Gag me with a rusty chainsaw

[@smfarrie2943]

He sounds gay to me. Closes his eyes while sleeping with her?!? Just wow.

[@notoriousMAG]

The Church doesn't teach/preach on reasons for dissolution, but Google does 👍🏽Divorce nullifies your legal status, dissolution makes you single in the Christian faith.

[@smfarrie2943]

He probably using her as a cover or forcing himself to be in a straight marriage due to his religious beliefs.

[@joylastname3035]

PP bros: in the search for patriarchy on a budget.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

i can help them get their trash bags thru TSA 3 trash bag max😒😑

[@briana14333]

Perfect slogan 👌🏾

[@kimleemoon]

Correct, they’re upset they have to court (flowers, candy, shopping) foreign women now. Just pathetic 😂

[@thesovereignwoman]

@@kayshawnsimmons5585😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@briskettacos]

And now they get to experience the responsibility that men in those countries have. They don't realize how spoiled they are as first-world men. Give the crown back to those Vietnamese, Ukrainian, and Columbian kings...it's too heavy for you, son

[@marisaJ1]

The Christian subreddit sounds like it's filled with miserable people, living miserable lives and telling others that their misery is ok.

[@lovelydeath04]

Ikr?! What an awful life to lead. You shouldn't have to suffer so you can seem normal...

[@shaypope4732]

I feel like alot of them hide behind religion to excuse being a judgemental prick

[@eb11a17]

Yes! What was the term? Tolerable level of ...?

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

..it's a shame.

[@Pinkpanda811]

That's Christianity period. suffering for Jesus's sake 🙄

[@LoveK1]

These men would never put in the effort of going on 100 dates here in America to find a wife. They go on 1 bad one and call all of us out our names.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

But they will pay to travel around the world looking for sex😹😹😹😹🤡🤛🏾

[@ajoyner614]

Not even that. They got curved in 8th grade and are STILL mad. 😂

[@FreeBirdee]

@@ajoyner614😂😂😂😂

[@harrytimmy5070]

I was thinking about this the other day and I came to the same conclusion. Men don't make excuses to try the same bs over and over again like we tell ourselves to. All it takes is one bad encounter and they never forget or forgive.

[@AIBot929]

Men here don't want to pay for dates but will happily buy a whole plane ticket to a lower income community to spread their piddly money further, and then do the same thing to them that they want to do to western women

[@Lysistrata2025]

3rd wife has no home but a 24/7 workplace and an overseer for a husband.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

She needs to run and fast

[@WhoAuthorizedThis]

I understand her being young, but, with what she described based in his behaviors; I cant understand why she’d want to be intimate with him. Especially when she’s not getting off. He’s using her as maid, mule and literal mattress. I hope she gets away from him.

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

⁠@@WhoAuthorizedThis I’ve had several friends who acted just like this lady (put up with the same things) because they had very low self-esteem and derived their self-worth from having a man as a result. Their stories did not end well, and I hope this lady wakes up and makes a plan to get out lest she follow in their footsteps.

[@cvzdez]

1st person.. yu can't change eople it doesn't work well.. Lol she changed though

[@jojoone1099]

Her counselor might have quit because she was emotionally dumping without changing. Even now, she thinks showing her husband the post will make him have a relationship-changing epiphany. He's verbally abusing her. She needs to leave.

[@restingsadface]

I think maybe the husband said something threatening to the op, so op quickly hung up and probably spent some time calming him down. From the counselors perspective, she probably thought op was hurt. Same thing happened to me once. my therapist was terrified my father hurt me because I abruptly hung up when he walked in on a telehealth session.

[@jojoone1099]

@@restingsadface True. Counselors go through so much.

[@qesther1241]

I actually watched a couple of preachers say that if the man isn’t fulfilling his part of the marriage contract then he (the man) has already broken the marriage covenant and it is ok to file for divorce. It’s too often that women don’t know or understand the Bible for themselves. The husband is to treat the wife as Jesus treated the church (dying for the church) and there are passages that say “the husband’s body belongs to the wife” just as it says the wife body belongs to the husband.

[@hallievanoutryve3109]

👏👏👏👏

[@inprogress5210]

PP bros are always wilding. My God.. The story with the 22 year old woman is the grooming to abu$e pipeline.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Yep.

[@nadine4634]

With the passport brothers. I knew something would happen. Imagine soiling your bedsheets and seeing your own sh@t and getting disgusted with it then jumping into a clean bed while you're still dirty.

[@elenawalker517]

Dang you spot on. It’s perfect analogy.

[@chonmonlon2728]

☝🏽This!

[@deedee2730]

Marriage is patriarchal. I don’t recommend marriage. Wife means bond servant. Women do not benefit in marriage

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Males use "love" and marriage to get free slave labor 👹🤛🏾

[@lewid019]

Only reason I recommend it is if you are planning on having kids. But I'm sure there's a way around it😂

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

@@lewid019You do know married men are the biggest cheats and run the highest risks of STD's right😒😑🤡🤛🏾

[@PrincessC03]

Also the etymology of the word *family* means *household servants.* Ain't that wonderful?

[@Ms_BeMe]

Thank you!!!!

[@Xena395]

3rd story: girl leave, don’t overthink it. Men think from 18 til the day you’re gray you’re not supposed to look after yourself, go out and do fun things without having a man and children to be exhausted by. You’re supposed to cater to a man and children 24/7. Not me, haven’t met a man who’s worth all that labor, no free time for myself for the rest of my life.

[@myheart715]

No greater hell than being married, but feeling lonely. Society has it backwards. They just assume that unmarried people are lonely, but you could be just as lonely in your marriage.

[@Play4keeks]

This is a great thought. I had a man tell me I'd be single forever and no one would ever marry me. Why? Because I told my friend to be careful when a guy tried love bombing her. I laughed in his face and told him, his fear isn't shared by me. If I had to deal with men like him and his friend I'll remain happily single.

[@dfya3294]

The pp bros story: they're starting to find out😂. I just love that women around the world are putting their foot down🙌🏾 The last story w/ the 22 y/o wife: she don't have any family? No aunties to help guide you or no brothers or older male cousins to beat his a$$? The fact that the therapist stopped seeing you after he interrupted your session is your sign to go lol.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

The world of women is sick of male BS 😹😹😹😹😹🤡🤛🏾

[@Pinkpanda811]

#3 Please take your baby and leave that loser (as safely as possible)!

[@1108-g1q]

Re ppbros, Most women have remained ideologically consistent on this. Nobody was hating on them because they traveled abroad. We just didn't like being blamed for their travel in their escape from the "evil western woman". Meanwhile it became a joke in Colombia that going out for dinner or drinks with a foreign man meant you had to tell the staff beforehand that you were not his wife or gf and did not vouch for him so they would know to collect a card before any food was served. Colombian women also got told how they have a backwards way of thinking and need to become modern women.

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

😮

[@Bubaluve]

Oh lord if a man treats you badly before marriage he will treat you worse after, marry a guy who treat you like a gold, honesty if you feel not good enough for him he will sense that. You cant change another persons feelings for you, my grandmother always said get a guy who loves you more than you love him. Also you dont need any other reason for a divorce other than you are unhappy. If you dont feel like you are loved walk away. As for her she still has time to run scotch free cause there are no kids. If she think she is miserable now its nothing compared to how miserable she will be after she has kids.

[@shazj1842]

An older widower acquaintance went to South East Asia & met a woman about 15 years ago, he couldn't find a woman in the UK who would wait on him hand and foot. They married then the wife execute her plan, she works non stop to send money back home & has no time for the man who brought here. PP Bros may think they have the upper hand but these ladies network before they even arrive. The now even older guy is more bitter than ever, & he has to accept what little she does for him.

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

Yes, this is usually how it goes. The foreign women who marry PP Bros usually do it because they know the PP Bro has resources that their family can benefit from whether they have access to more job opportunities or if they stay home, they and their family get the PP Bro to send money back to the wife’s home country. Another thing is that PP Bros expect a submissive woman who will bend to their will, but every culture has its own version of gender norms and wifely/husband duties. PP Bros usually end up disappointed with East Asian and Eastern European women because their version of submissive is that they rule the home, and in the case of East Asian wives they are in charge of finances, so it’s not unusual for them to control how much access their husband has to the funds. These bros delude themselves b into thinking that foreign women are so desperate that they’ll worship any man who comes along.

[@chonmonlon2728]

Good for her!

[@DorothyZJ]

Why does he have to?

[@donnamarrillo4234]

He wanted a sevant he got a master. Isn't it better when both are equal. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

No 3: start planning to leave. Her life will continue to get worse. She was 18 and he was 25 when they got together. She was way too young. The upside is that she has time on her side. However, she must gather resources and leave this man. He will unalive her via her nervous system otherwise.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

⁠@@s.badart1268 he screwed himself by sending her to Reddit. Next time he’ll probably prescribe a specific subreddit. Not everywhere on Reddit is a safe haven for toxic men and their abusive tendencies. He’s about to lose her. The sad thing is he’ll just find another.

[@theinvisiblewoman5709]

He is a predator. He found her basically out of high school and he probably would have went younger if he could.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

@@theinvisiblewoman5709 who’s to say he hasn’t, where did he even meet her? There are a lot of HS girls who think a bf in his 20s is a flex, and guys know that. I think a lottt of men would go younger if they thought they could get away with it

[@rainbeauxunicorn5237]

Reddit #3… 😳Did he say it was her responsibility to take care of HIS kids and hers? 🫨The THERAPIST fired her because worrying about her was messing up her mental?!? 🫠🫠🫠She STILL not understanding she needs to divorce him?

[@jenimichelle]

Just recently got out of a situation that the end goal was intended for marriage. He refused to be affectionate, never gave compliments, rarely said anything nice and I was always the butt of a lame joke. Over time, I just wasn’t attracted anymore. (We were always close friends) Whenever I voiced my concerns to have more affection, he made it seem like it was so impossible to do, and whenever I was around he was “annoyed”. I continued to let him know what my non negotiables were and he just insisted to not bend at all. I pleaded for dang near a month for bare minimum affection, and his response was who would want to marry someone so argumentative….I had to let him go. He never gave compliments or said anything nice to anyone either, but it shouldn’t kill you to tell the ONE PERSON you want to spend the rest of your life with that they’re beautiful when they’re having a rough day. Why is it so hard for men to just be decent people.

[@A.D.I.I.D.A]

❤ You are beautiful ❤

[@jenimichelle]

@@A.D.I.I.D.A Thank u, gorgeous ☀️

[@corimoon3360]

I bet he’s saying he didn’t do anything and doesn’t know why you left him. 😂 men just suck all the way around. I’m glad you left him and I hope he feels your absence and knows it’s his own fault.

[@zadarasimoleons1019]

My husband and I compliment each other constantly. Every day I'm told that I'm beautiful, and I turn right around and tell him that I think he's absolutely gorgeous, and I try to find something specific to compliment too. He has such a bad image of himself, all I want is for him to see himself as just 1/2 as amazing as I see him. There are good ones out there! But I'll say it; probably don't hold your breath. Maybe cross your fingers though.

[@jenimichelle]

@@zadarasimoleons1019 That’s what I would do. I would compliment him, be supportive, be his biggest fan. In my mind, I would think, well maybe he would see how great I think of him, and return the gesture. I wasn’t even wanting that level of attention every day, just occasionally. I’m glad you found your person. That’s truly a wonderful thing. I wasn’t asking for the world, just for him to think the world of me.

[@Ms_Introvert_4_Life]

My marriage BETTER add happiness to my life!! Why be with someone and you don't feel joy, happiness, peace in being with them. Hell NO ... What is the point???

[@Rkld34]

They only say marriage isn’t about happiness but about holiness to women, I have never heard them say that to married Men “marriage is about holiness not about individual happiness”, they will tell men to not tolerate the slightest unhappiness they feel about their wives and the wives get chastised by the whole community to better themselves

[@toecutterjones]

That poor 22 year old is in a horribly abusive relationship and she's basically trapped and obviously doesn't have the self esteem to leave that piece of garbage. My heart breaks for young women like that who don't know their worth.

[@ehamilful]

For the story about the rocking chair, yeah I know that It's a lovely idea to have a chair nurture multiple generations. It's sentimental, however, It looks like his pride is getting hurt because he won't have the status of being able to say "both you and I have been nursed in this chair" to his kid. I imagine that he would be the type to pressure his kid to have a child when they grow up simply so he can say three generations were nursed in that chair.

[@NetSunJin]

I feel so sorry for that girl who got trapped in a marriage at 19, didn’t have a life and literally is being emotionally and financially abused. So very sad for her.

[@NotatHome4684]

3 rd story: I wouldn’t casually tell somebody to leave their spouse, but come on! He literally h8s her! He has absolutely no grace or kindness in his heart for her. He’s trash! 4th story: If he’s not willing to compromise, then the only change to that rocking chair are the wings that’ll grow out of it because it’s flying out the window while R Kelly’s “I Believe I Can Fly” is playing in the background! 😂😂😂

[@nopenope9118]

I laughed way too hard at the mental image of that rocking chair flying out the window and of course I heard the music in my head. That being said, he previously mentioned it was a family heirloom that his family had used for a long time, so I wouldn’t destroy it. That’s like men killing plants that their women love. He’s obviously being unreasonable, since he won’t be doing the nursing. Let’s face it, he probably won’t be doing bottle feedings either, and he won’t ever wake up in the middle of the night to feed or comfort the baby in that chair that he seems more compassionate towards than he does his wife. If he wants to be an active parent who cares for the baby and he wants to use that chair to do so, he can place it outside the room or give in and paint it. He’s unwilling to compromise, even though he won’t be doing most of the labor, and that signals bad things for the rest of their relationship.

[@NotatHome4684]

I know it’s not the poor chair’s fault. This guy seems waaaay too adamant that she has to accept and use the chair. She’s grown and carrying another human in her womb, if she doesn’t want, then she doesn’t want. He’s not even trying to consider her feelings or input on the matter. He needs to pick and choose his battles. It could possibly be resolved with a little thinking outside the box yet he chooses to be stubborn. So bye bye rocking chair.😱😭

[@ayamempress1579]

Imagine knowing you don't want someone but because you have a religion, you have to wait for them to commit treachery against you before you take action. God sees the abuse you already endured and that is reason enough to end it

[@ladylarson12]

Her therapist probably fired her because she wasn’t listening when she was told to leave this abusive man. You can’t help someone that can’t help themselves.

[@LiquidSonshine]

Whenever I get lonely there's always a video that knocks some sense into me. I'd be damn to put up with any of that! Bring on the cats and plants 🐈‍⬛🪮🌻🌿

[@shaypope4732]

So they going overseas cause they are cheap to pay for the same thing from where they from

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

It's the male stupidity and logic for me😹😹😹🤡🤛🏾

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Yep.

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

The gag is foreign women are actually more expensive because the man is expected to pay for the woman and their family including extended family, and since foreign women have been more aware of PP Bros for the past couple of years, the ones who get with a PP Bro usually do so while playing the long game to get things like green cards, college education, money, assets, etc. for them and their family before divorcing these PP Bros. These same guys say “at least I didn’t go through this with an American woman”, and go right back to a foreign country to get another foreign woman, but the woman does the same thing as the first one. These PP bros are dumb beyond belief, and I’m glad that there are women who are benefiting off their stupidity.

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

They just were not being honest from the jump. Theirs is economic migration.

[@Holisticallycarol]

And that poor woman is only 22 years old.

[@Demerarachica]

13:30 "accept my authority" Did anyone else hear that in Cartman's voice in their head, or was it just me? _Respect muh authoritaaaaaay_

[@kellyguarano8864]

But antiques can lose their value if painted. He just needs to have it somewhere else to use for his time with the baby and let her havd what she wants in the room.

[@shripleypibbles]

Yeah i love antiques and would rather just put it in a different area so i can use it myself

[@islandgirl8067]

1st story, they've been married less than a year. She should just walk away instead of wasting more time in a bad marriage. The people in that subreddit sound like the typical church people who tell women to stay in abusive marriages and pray. 2nd story, The OP admits that he went through a lot of women before he found his wife. He's no better than the other PPBros. 3rd story, age differnece is a 🚩🚩He was looking for a housekeeper & nanny for his kids. Very bad idea for a teen girl to get with an older man who already has 2 baby mommas. Run girl run! 🏃‍♀🏃‍♀🏃‍♀

[@TheePrincessBrat]

I think it’s cognitive dissonance. He doesn’t want to see himself in those other men cause he knows their behavior is wrong. Maybe his partner and her family have mentioned PPbro horror stories and he wants to distance himself. As long as you’re claiming that label, you’re trash like the rest of them. The man saying women need guidance sounds controlling and creepy. I’m sure he’s one of the many PPbros that got himself a child bride 🤢

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

That covert PP Bro was full of it. He’s right that the one isn’t usually the first one we date, but he really wants to believe that he didn’t go to Ukraine just to find a wife? I bet he got a lot of upvotes cuz others don’t know how to read foolishness. The guy told on himself and everything.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

@@tiahnarodriguez3809 It’s interesting how they go to disempowered nations, while claiming the point isn’t to find poor girl/woman they can use. You rarely hear PP Bros saying they went to Italy, France, Korea. It really is just patriarchy on a budget. They don’t want to admit fully to what they are and what they are doing, because they know it’s wrong. Also, if KZbin is gonna delete my comments, idk why I get thread notifications 🙄.

[@LuvDaSkinUAreIn]

17:58 That's EXACTLY what I tell me teen daughter! Don't date until you have established yourself, financially, physically, mentally, and spiritually!! But, she knows if she wants to go out on casual dates now that's fine with me. It will be monitored. 😉

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

The last comment at the end of the second story is basically saying that his wife can choose to be a slave that plays his version of house, or be free to choose her own life path. When the wife has enough all she has to do is show him this post, so he can’t say that he was blindsided when he’s served divorce papers.

[@jscullyandmulderx25]

Decenter Men. I hate to say that. The Menosphere is frankly making it easy to decide this. The comments alone. Except for a few push backs here and there. Don't ever loose site of your goals and dreams. Please don't throw other women under the bus and work hard never think you'll be part of the Boy's club . Like I said work twice as hard as a man don't ever give them she's just there because of a qouta. Don't give them that.

[@Caseinpoint1777]

I like sx pests. I’ve been calling them scavengers-animals that are so desperate they will eat anything even rotting carcasses or diseased flesh. There are many of these creatures including pigs, flies, ants and vultures.

[@zadarasimoleons1019]

I can't compare men to animals. Animals are complex, diverse, and intelligent. Pigs are some of the most intelligent land animals in the world, and they're so incredibly useful on a farm or even just for composting. Flies are fascinating! Not to mention; in their larval stage as maggots, they can be used to save people's lives from their own necrotic tissue. Ants are capable, strong and have nothing in their mind except the health and well-being of their colony. Vultures are sweet, smart, strong, beautiful birds, who help with decomposition and keep the cycle of nature moving along. Have you seen any videos of vultures raised in captivity? They're so sweet.❤ In conclusion, men are worse than animals almost 100% of the time. The only thing I can think of that would have absolutely no positive associate would be parasites. Ticks and mosquitoes. Spreaders of disease, a source of only annoyance and discomfort.

[@fburnsDubstepEnderFox]

Y'all got to start recording these mfers for the divorce proceedings. 😅

[@QilinRider21]

Commenting at the 16:17 mark. SHE NEEDS TO DIVORCE HIS BEHIND LIKE LAST MONTH!!! HE IS NOT GOOD FOR HER!!

[@susiebear3316]

I would never get into a relationship with a man who plays video games or one who has an issue with me. Being independent and doesn't want to give GIFs and be kind because of it.

[@starstorm1267]

As a woman who plays a lot of video games myself, gamers are probably some of the worst men out there. They’ll neglect their partners, education, hell even themselves just to play a game they’ll rage over for hours and hours. Even I know when to put the controller down when necessary. These gamer guys are addicts

[@thekameru6058]

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, can’t help but hear 1700’s slave owners words about why they couldn’t let their slaves go and modern chauvinists words about why women can’t have the same rights as men to be really fuckin uncannily similar. With the extra added Christian tendency to claim an equalization of rights to be an elevation over men, when it patently is not.

[@aishajohnson3536]

Divorce,divorce,divorce!!!!!

[@OGK-1414]

Pp bro: well that didn't take long. Lol

[@caseyjude5472]

12:56 Oh, benevolent sexism. So much better lolz

[@Lysistrata2025]

Is the first hubby more into xy?

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Yes, he could be on the DL.

[@collettedaniels3884]

@unknownunknown5133 yes he sounds like he has a boy-addiction.

[@inprogress5210]

More than likely

[@joylastname3035]

A possibility. A number of religious-based unions are filled with men on the DL.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

sounds like it to me🤔🧐🍿☕

[@IndigoSeeress_Yaa7]

Lupo1369 (in the story comments about PPBs) sounds like he's super abusive to his wife!

[@Cynophileandavianenthusiast]

He's just " guiding" her. Lol.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

I agree 💯

[@roaroa5291]

He's controlling af and infantilizing her, claiming the old adage that women can't be responsible for themselves, because we're supposedly dainty little flowers who need male guidance and protection. In reality, women have been doing much better than men in the workplace and school. We don't need their guidance and their offer of protection is like a mob boss offering you protection: "I'll protect you against my own goons as long as you cater to my every whim."

[@FAMD4SH]

The first woman her husband doesn’t love her. She’s not the “ special one”. If a man is dragging you along for years you are not the one he desires.

[@waitwhat1029]

Respect my authori-tie!! Lol. Boy, bye.

[@speciosae]

No matter the age, relationships need to be fun. To prioritize milestones takes away the joy, like adulting often feels like a chore. This is not the same as standing on business and maintaining standards. My partner and I have made it a goal to bring out the best in each other each day and smile more and more. The rest should come without push. If that energy isn't there from the start, it is hard to go any further.

[@Dnvrluv01]

My favorite part of your reading is when you get to the cuss words. You are so creative. Lascivious women of the night 😂😂😂 I am literally laughing. I love it!

[@BurbNBougie]

😊 thank you

[@DianaPrinceitiswhatitis]

First Story: She wishes her husband will cheat so she can file for divorce. She’s emotionally checked out. She needs to file for divorce now. I bet her marriage is typical of a lot of Christian marriages. Folks don’t talk about it and pretend that’s why I look at marriage of religious folks with the side eye about their marriages. I refuse to live like that and she should too. Sounds like the long suffering religious folks expect of women. Please divorce him now. If not she will regret it. Third story: She needs to file for divorce now. That man hates her and expects her to be everything to him and bang maid. She’s expected to accept nothing and like it. He won’t ever change. Plus he has children by two other women, bet he’s not paying child support for those children either. Getting married fresh out of high school is a bad idea.

[@paulatobler8354]

That first woman may well be in a Christian marriage with a closeted man. Whatever the reason for the way he treats her, she should get out.

[@IndomitableAde]

1st story, that last commenter talking about holiness, I'd ask can a single woman be holy or nah? Sounds like they equate being single to being for the streets. There's a difference.

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Yes. In religious circles being single as a woman is treated like condition that needs to be cured. A lot of women are hurried into relationships with men they're totally incompatible with within the church. The indoctrination for women in marriage practically paralyzes them into staying married.

[@louhortonsculpture]

20:42 🤨on behalf of the entire internet, we need to see a photo of this rocking chair. Why can’t it be painted? And other than a bentwood rocker, I am not imagining any “beautiful piece” as a rocking chair that would warrant such a tone. Rocking chairs are kinda hard to work into a room, they take up a lot of space and can look very dated.

[@filmcrit]

I grew up Christian in the south, became Agnostic for years after grad school, and now practice a more reasonable expression of my faith. That being said, I appreciate Burb's fair assessment that for practitioners, their religion sets certain boundaries. I don't tell my Muslim homegirls to drink a margarita after a long day, I don't offer pork bacon to my Jewish boss, and I don't encourage my Christian friends to divorce for incompatibility or convenience. Abuse (financial, emotional, physical) or infidelity? Absolutely, and I'll help where I can. But in scenario #1, the wife isn't the one who needs correction. Her husband, if he's a Christian, is failing all of his requirements. His wife feels unloved and is begging for s*x? The miserable people on Reddit clearly don't care enough to correct him, because it's the wife who must learn to suffer in silence or whatever. Nah. That's not biblical. I hope she gets advice from people who love her.

[@FireSilver25]

I love me an antique chair but she needs to be COMFORTABLE while nursing. Plus has it even been re glued? It could literally fall apart under her and the baby otherwise. Wood glue only last so long and wood can shrink and warp over time, especially if there’s humidity changes.

[@TititoDeBologay]

The third story is iffy af. He was 26 and she was 19 when they married, so when did they meet? The berating sounds like a parents scolding their kids. Iffy

[@danimack38]

I thought something was wrong with me. I feel so isolated and lonely the first two years of marriage.

[@susiebear3316]

😮That is why a lot of these women need to just walk away from the. Relationship sorry to say and the children for the men to take care of altogether. Women need to be able to start over this is nonsense.

[@stephaniemartin9253]

It’s not about the chair. She has selected the chair as the marker to put her foot down to let him know she is not playing and she will have a say in that relationship.

[@beeznhoney4323]

One word: Annulment!

[@BigBiteDoughnut]

It can be HIS rocking chair he can be uncomfortable. Better get some padding.

[@rainbeauxunicorn5237]

Reddit #2… Lupe just admitted to being emotionally, mentally, and financially abusive to his wife. What a catch! /s

[@DorothyZJ]

How so?

[@rainbeauxunicorn5237]

@@DorothyZJ… by his veiled threat on what would happen if she didn’t listen to him or follow his lead.

[@DorothyZJ]

@@rainbeauxunicorn5237 you mean her having to assume responsibility for herself? Yeah, whoever pays the piper calls the tune; don't like it, take lessons or hire someone.

[@rainbeauxunicorn5237]

@@DorothyZJ… are you married ma’am? What well meaning husband threatens to withdrawal all support if you don’t agree with him or his method? None. It’s a control tactic used by abusive spouses.

[@DorothyZJ]

@@rainbeauxunicorn5237 yes, and I have a partnership, not a being-taken-care-of situation.

[@tiffmoore8831]

The way I loudly yelled “ CLOSE HIS EYES!!!?!!!”…. He hates you yo

[@tiffmoore8831]

As a Christian, this is delusional cuz what?!… maybe I’m cut from a different cloth and never been desperate to be in a relationship or married.

[@camiba6773]

Wow that last one makes me flad everday that i don't have that life

[@beepbopboop7727]

Its sad that good women are lowering themselves to be with these men.

[@LatoyaChan]

That first story... dude is not straight. My gaydar can tell.😂

[@hellohey000]

8:40 and just like that, I have a new nickname for PPBros 😂

[@tabbycatcrume]

It’s like they need to listen to Bojack Horseman: “When you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags look just like flags”

[@tlrcarroll]

She needs to leave the husband with full custody of the 4 month old baby and go find her life. He’ll figure it out. Also, the chair is simply wood. Paint it. Or put it in the living room for him to sit on when he rocks the baby. 🙄

[@deadlittlebunny]

Story #4: i agree with not painting an antique, but if the wife is requesting another type of chair for nursing, she should be accommodated. Likely this isnt a forever piece of furniture and can be passed along once shes done with it.

[@roaroa5291]

I don't get the couple fighting over the chair. But if it's uncomfortable, there are those special sponge mattresses you can put on wooden chairs to make them comfortable to sit on.

[@neriumsuitedher]

Some of those old wooden chairs be comfy as hell too

[@shaypope4732]

Relationship's are about compromising so why is he putting all the work on her like it will get done faster he cooks while she do the dishes type shit but that's just me thinking logical out load

[@anebiz]

Can you put the links to the reddits in the description

[@graciouslyloved10]

Yoooohhh!!!I LOVE JESUS MY LORD But i refused misery....Divorce papers were signed and sealed😂😂😂😂

[@lovelyscorp79]

My therapist told us that if there was substance abuse or d.v. they were not going to see us. I think its pretty much standard for therapists to draw that line. Oh yeah, and if either of us were cheating. And the other knew about it. Very strict. But i get it. I have no problem with boundaries.

[@oanaion4899]

His baby mama knew why she left your husband girl 😂😂😂 leave your daughter with him and RUN

[@etoillenoir6169]

On the Christian subreddit, interesting the one who said it’s not about your happiness is called lost little boy- so it sounds like a guy trying to excuse other guys. I am a Christian myself, and happily single and child free.(which the Bible is fine with -don’t let others tell you otherwise if they happen to say it’s not (insert religious term) . I’d say if you are in a bad marriage get out and be free. Harder to do with kids sadly.

[@Asia-yt3cg]

3rd story, leave! Get a job, get joint custody, live separately, and let your ex husband live in de-loo-loo-land in peace.😂

[@Daug555]

S1: So this woman is waiting for him to cheat to leave?? Some of these stories ( esp the ones wrapped in religion) make it so hard to root for women 😞. Wild!

[@Alex-mc5yn]

Loool @ that westerner dude having the self-importance to think that it's they, the PP bros, a teeny tiny minority of men in our country have 180'd the dating culture. It's not like they're the only men we're interacting with, it's not impossible for women from different countries to come to similar conclusions after experiencing relationships and seeing others do so. It's just us figuring things out within our own communities and more recently, reading and relating to women's experiences across the globe. It's still not 100% accessible as very few people in my country understand English at a decent level, but there are people on TikTok and YT who made a sizable audience by translating content on such topics. I wouldn't be surprised if I saw your videos translated on Ukrainian side of the clock app. And conversely, men are seeing the same manosphere talking points from the West translated, but also many of the local relationship couches. I would even argue that our own version of this movement predates the Angloshphere's initial pickup artist trend of the 00s. Even before the internet became a thing, some men would try enforce Domostroi, which is a 16-century collection of rules for households, it's as bad as you'd imagine. These foreign men tend to lead with their wallets, and then act surprised that that's how they're perceived. It would be funny if it weren't so sad. Also, there's the expectation gap where the more liberal, young and naive women would think of Western men as being more civilized and progressive than ours, and in turn, the foreigners are coming looking for Stepford wives.

[@saturdayschild8535]

The lady regretting her marriage is likely already being cheated on and probably was during the entire relationship. It’s not too late to divorce him. What she is experiencing is abuse. God created divorce because of abuse (the hardness of the hearts of the men).

[@KCSimsStarter]

6:04 he still hasn't realized men set the tone with there action and what they pursue. The world around them slowly adjust to their behavior.

[@floofdecat]

These people in the Christian subreddit telling the wives to just put up with it and stick it out? These are the same people that will tell a man that it's perfectly okay for him to divorce a sick wife and marry a younger, healthier wife and he can absolutely do it without worry. I've seen it happen. They're hypocrites.

[@MN-hv5xv]

Story 1: It is a shame that the OP decided to go through w/this marriage even though her 'husband' never really made her feel like that special one. He sounds as though he is not attracted to her, which is unfortunate but that may be something she has to come to terms with. I certainly don't want OP to end up like the commenter in the 16 year marriage where her dude has never shown any kind of affection towards her; like even a dog or a cat can show some type of affection sometimes Geez!! Story 2: The PP bros; hmm as we went along in this story it made me ask the question, What is Eastern culture teaching women and girls if the western men are looked at as simps/weak and ruining it for everyone else?? Kinda sounds like a nightmare you can't wake up from!! I would love to explore eastern culture/trends/habits just to get a better glimpse into what these women and girls have to endure from these males. Story 3: There is a reason that man has 2 baby mom's or two exes!!! Those should have been glaring glowing red flags with bells and whistles attached!! This guy is only 29 years old and obviously has no idea how to make a relationship work, and so I don't really know how to tell the OP how to do anything but make an exit plan. He seems shallow, cold and unwilling to compromise....how do you work w/that?? Story 4: This guy sounds like he wants to end it all right here w/the rocking chair. A wooden rocking chair is NOT Comfortable -he is not even offering to put padding or something there that his wife would agree to! I would love to know how this turns out, I definitely wouldn't nurse my baby in an uncomfortable rocking chair, he can have it the room all he wants, doesn't mean she has to sit in it, he is a duma@#!!

[@epiphanyarina366]

I’m sorry but I have so little pity for desperate women, the first woman was old enough to know that she was railroading her own life but didn’t care. They my man my man us to death then run to the subreddits to complain.

[@HHCF713]

How many of those ppbros are using protection? SMH.

[@SamanthasUniverse]

I like your hair like this. I like your vids time I come thru.😊

[@celiashen5490]

Hahahahaha! ppbro didn't have to leave the country to hear that stuff in a foreign language. I'll do it in Mandarin, Spanish (maybe), I'll even learn Malagasy. You know, F that bro, I don't need him for a reason. I'll learn Malagasy for my own amusement.

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

Is rocking chair guy going to be the one who's sitting with the baby in the chair? She's going to be the one nursing the baby 24/7 so it's really her decision. He can his family antique in another room and use it as he likes. And she can use her comfortable rocking chair

[@Educat3d_Godd3ss]

16:16 WHEW CHILE 😮‍💨 I have no words except I’m gone like a thief in the night 😂 and if she shows this to him, is she going to leave??? Sometimes women like this I give the side eye only because are you REALLY trying to find a solution or just venting? I’ve dealt with this with a family member and after I told her I’d help her get away from that ass*hole she still stayed! She always came to my house to trauma dump (also included her trashing him) but always had a rebuttal or an excuse for EVERY solution I offered. It became emotionally taxing for me so I had to cut her off finally and then my other sister told me she finally got a divorce from him. I hope other men start to realize it is the way a lot of men move that make women either become weary of them or stay away from them all together. They create dysfunction in the dating culture and then want to blame women. They accept no accountability but have no problem adding to the dysfunction for their own selfish wants and needs. I say leave them alone and let them rot.

[@intergalacticbnb]

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[@danidiaz2377]

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[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

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[@73cidalia]

"I guide my wife." So condescending. And then he says if she wants to guide herself, she can pay all her own bills. As if without a husband and kids that isn't the easiest effin' thing in the world. Easier than being a mom.

[@lavonnewr]

13:32 and the story after sound like the same husband.smh.

[@KarlaBermudez88]

Wait trash burned 😂😂

[@tayarianna]

That dude clearly was a loser in school and nobody his age wants to deal with him so now he’s older and thinks he has some power over his younger wife. Seen this play out wayyyy too many times. 17:16

[@SomethingNewAMBW]

i laughed as soon as she said Christian marriage haha

[@leona2222]

Run from religion!!!!