3 Things: Man cheats on wife and she leaves, Man grips woman's neck during kiss, Woman wants advice

[@StubbyLegz]

“A broken home is not good for a child”? Then why did you break it, sir?

[@NotatHome4684]

Exactly! 🎯 Bravo 👏

[@nightwishisthegreatestband6355]

The equation is not equationing

[@soulshadoww55]

Touche'!

[@sexychocolateable]

Thank you 👏👏👏

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

And that he cannot answer.

[@NeciPooh854]

I love when people tell you, don't throw away a marriage over infidelity. No, no, no the cheater threw it away when they started sneaking and sleeping around.

[@queeniequeen949]

All of this. THIS!!!!! 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@88QueenOfHearts]

FACTS👏👏👏💯

[@Lysistrata2025]

🎯That marriage was already cheated into the trashcan, you are just taking it out.

[@karmAnonymous]

EXACTLY ‼️ That alone is what led me down the path to not only admitting but accepting that individuals that push that/protect that type of thought process protecting abusers (cheating is abusive straight the fuxx up IDC IDC) & then victim-blaming/shaming are DEFINITELY demons running around here in human lab-created meat suits 🫢 just trying to cause chaos/unaliving/misery/destruction 💀 I'm partially kidding, but seriously though those "people" cannot convince me they have anything other than coverted malice in their hearts & don't have any morally upright intentions IN SIGHT 😮‍💨😞

[@informedRev13]

Facts!

[@TheePrincessBrat]

Ha! Matthew thought he had her trapped. He didn’t realized he married a woman that stands on business 😂😂 love that for him

[@ShalomDove]

Love that for her too 👍🏻💜

[@TheePrincessBrat]

@@ShalomDove I love it for her most. It speaks to her self-love and resilience. That’s a huge protective factor against so many awful things in the world

[@cocoace7587]

Just the thought of him not caring for his baby's health , is beyond despicable. He didn't care if the baby got an infection, or anything. Wow 😢. He still didn't take any responsibility. He blamed her for being on bedrest , whilst pregnant. Like her pregnancy was messing up HIS life . She did the right thing . 😂🎉

[@Myglowupisinsideout]

So wait. She told you what her boundaries and deal breakers were and you tapped danced on them now you're shocked she left 😂 WILD

[@unicorn73212]

Exactly! my ex was shocked when I left too and he knows why I left he trashed his duplex and now they have to move him at the end of the lease because I didn't want to be on his lease anymore why did she leave? Why did you destroy our house? These are questions grown men can never seem to answer and they claim they built all this shit too.

[@joylastname3035]

Not tap danced 😂. That made me lol

[@Myglowupisinsideout]

@@unicorn73212 and ain't even built a Lego house in their lives.

[@lisalisa3223]

They will literally test your boundaries by doing the exact thing that u told them not to do then get shocked when u leave. wish more women did this…the min he does it just leave

[@nothereyetlost]

It was HER acting like a wife that got her bedridden

[@shesafeb1507]

So the husband cheated because he was lonely…..lonely! Where was his mama at when he was so lonely.

[@uwilberforce4628]

Ooooh, now THIS COMMENT!!!💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@user-guigui01]

Where was his dad too? Daddy won't take him back?

[@joylastname3035]

"She wasn't feeling well enough to act like a wife" is sub speak for "my wife was going thru a medically challenging period and she was too selfish(by my standards) to power thru the pain and have xes with me. The level of selfishness that these men are needs to be studied. I think a woman could be vomiting blood and bleeding from her eyes and ears, but the man's first thought would be how this would affect his meal times and xes.

[@Egress00]

I remember seeing this man got cold and left his wife(or cheated , I can't remember) because she wouldn't give him head after giving birth to their child Stuff like this gives me cosmic astronomical levels of ICK to the point I feel nauseous

[@sarahrobertson634]

They don't care about amything except food and scx.

[@ChristianOne]

It's worse than that. She WAS having sex with him. He just wanted MORE than his PREGNANT, vomiting, wife could give during that time. She said he admitted sleeping with them both in succession. So he wasn't even "going without." He's just sooooo selfish that ANY inconvenience to him gives him an excuse to tap out. Wild.

[@Lifeishard237]

And the thing is he WAS getting sex from her. Like you’re lucky you’re even touching her while she’s sick and pregnant most women would be like don’t even come near me 😅 this man isn’t built for monogamy and doesn’t deserve a family because he has no integrity and can’t even make minimal sacrifices like “less sex”. Utterly disgraceful.

[@BB-gd7ez]

Stephanie stood on Big Business and I love it.

[@NurseKayP]

These men don’t realize what a woman goes through during pregnancy and childbirth to bring their child into the world. I agree with this woman and I understand where she is coming from. My daughter’s father “had to work” the day after I gave birth to our child. About a week after I came home with our baby I found out he actually used that opportunity to go meet up with woman and cheat. That he did not have to work. The fact that he had watched me struggle to bring our baby into the world and used our hospitalization as an opportunity to cheat was the ULTIMATE BETRAYAL for me. I knew I would never get over it.

[@NeverYours-c5g]

I’m sorry that happened, these dudes are fckin disgusting.

[@danidiaz2377]

I’m so sorry that’s horrible I hear it happens slot even Gwen stefanis man went to go see his side thing will she was giving birth . They don’t deserve us

[@cocoace7587]

Glad you & baby are OK. Keep posting your story everywhere. We have to normalize women leaving the FIRST time men cheat . # first = only = LAST # b/c we are gone # fafo 😅

[@myheart715]

1. Sorry to hear that one of the most important moments of your life was tainted with a betrayal on that level. I hope that you're in a much better place! 2. I've come to realize that whenever women give birth (including being pregnant, and after birth), they are THAT much closer to the grave. Sounds morbid but it's the truth. Their partners should acknowledge that.

[@halroxdynasty8683]

I stg, I really think they shouldn't get to reproduce. If they're seriously that delulu about how much their wives go thru, the genes shouldn't be passed along I stg 😂

[@joylastname3035]

On a side note, i have also read on abuse stats that choking can be a gateway act to actual murder. Same way punching the walls next to you or breaking stuff leads to them actually beating you eventually.

[@jezebelle57]

Yeah, choking wouldn’t work for me. The minute anyone touches my neck, I start screaming. I have no idea why, but it freaks me out and I can’t control my reaction. Maybe I was strangled in a former life. But something I noticed the last time I was having sex, which was years ago, all of a sudden men were doing things like strangling during sex or trying to push me into anal sex. Not a chance with either one. This was one of the things that pushed me into celibacy. Guess what I discovered? Men are getting this shit from watching porn. Virtually EVERY sexual encounter involves strangulation and anal sex. I’ve seen things I didn’t even know were possible. I thought I was reasonably adventurous in bed, but now? It’s a brand new world and I have no desire to be part of it. Maybe some women enjoy strangulation or anal sex, but I’ve never met one who did. I could be wrong, but both of those kinks are medically harmful to women and pretty much for male gratification. Apparently it’s not fun unless the man puts the woman in danger. Count me out.

[@seabreeze4559]

Yep, we need to put no neck stuff in the prenup I think. Or he lies and claims fetish if she dies, the Guardian covered this trend of BLAMING THE WOMAN for her OWN DEATH.

[@user-sg4ov7ng4h]

and a LOT of men act like it's normal and if there's no violence it's okay??? like no? it's scary and if he's doing that, why is he not throwing stuff at you instead? when is he? WHY is he ANGRY ENOUGH to throw stuff, punch wall etc etc? even yelling??? TO THE ONE YOU LOVE it might be my view of relationship or how I am, but I barely get angry, and being angry enough to throw stuff and punch things? only happened in my childhood, during an intense fight of flight, and I only hit myself

[@officialjocelyn9108]

My ex tried to "play" strangle me. I stopped that and put a clear boundary up. Later on he has DV charges with his next girlfriend.

[@seabreeze4559]

Obedience test.

[@ayingi3461]

He had "a" lapse in judgement 3 times.

[@elipotter369]

The way his mother and him minimised it and harassed her and her family is outrageous.

[@lovelyscorp79]

Never move in with a man that needs you to maintain his lifestyle especially before marriage

[@LoremLipsumz]

That selfish “man” in the LDR story could easily get a roommate if it’s a money thing. Or , actually SUPPORT HER and pay all the bills. He’s unwilling to give up ANYTHING. Even knowing he would lose his bang maid if she left and only benefit from her on the weekends. He’d rather try and guilt her into running herself into the ground for HIS NEEDS/WANTS. Poor sad little guy would have to run home so mommy can cook and clean for him.🙄 What an AH, she’s dodging a bullet and I hope she starts therapy so she doesn’t just find another AH. To be fair, they’re a dime a dozen 😑 I really think we women should stop living with men before marriage. Hell, even after! Get a roommate to split expenses with. Wait for marriage (not just a proposal unless the wedding date is set and he’s helping you plan the wedding) too many of us are forever GF’s or forever Fiancé’s.

[@GardensFlowers-f7k]

marriage has always been a tool that males use against women... they are listening and watching. They will adapt. Women need to recognize these "relationships" are a risk no matter if they lead to marriage or not.

[@dday3322]

@@GardensFlowers-f7k 🎯

[@dday3322]

@@GardensFlowers-f7k At this point “look”, “listen” and “run” in the opposite direction!

[@lovelyscorp79]

@@GardensFlowers-f7k I've always known marriage wasn't for me since a young girl. And that I didn't want children without a father. So long to that. I do love how society is no longer dragging women like me as old spinsters tho. If that aint evolution.

[@Emptytopfloor]

How do we keep mathews from dating another woman again? He’s gonna lie to be with the next woman.

[@umhi9778]

Maybe make it a thing to meet someone's exes? Or stop trusting men when they say their exes are "crazy" or the cheaters? (I know that sometimes it happens just don't trust it at face value)

[@emilyfeagin2673]

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could tattoo warning labels on them?

[@fslayer1290]

Dudes are out here trying S&M activities WITHOUT consent and NO foundation of trust, on the FIRST date?!? Who does that? They are crazy!

[@seabreeze4559]

obedience test, a PUA in japan was doing it in public to women, some white man

[@anetak.9494]

Yup, have experienced this often. Men are so spoilt by pron they would also think that these are normal practices when sleeping together for the first time.

[@seabreeze4559]

@@anetak.9494 brain damaged* you mean, hypofrontality

[@user-sg4ov7ng4h]

No way either they're in the BDSM community either. It's full on consent back there, a lot of people into your average stuff are criticising it but someone made a good point : they know more about consent, and when they ask to be respected, THEY ARE. No nonconsensual r*pe because he wanted to. They respect your pleasure. The bottom is the one WITH ALL THE POWER. They're just using it for their little power fetish which will probably quickly turn to abuse. (BDSM people are already thought as freaks so why would they do it willy nilly anyways?)

[@theroguey1]

Maybe im skittish but I aint getting into a truck with a man Im still getting to know.

[@Oll_704]

Grad school girl needs to wake up and realize she’s being used. His response wasn’t I’ll miss you or I’m concerned about our relationship, it was I can’t afford rent on my own.yikes. He doesn’t care about her only what he needs. They aren’t even married. She shouldn’t neglect herself especially for a boyfriend. If he wanted her to stay he would have stepped up and proposed that he take on more financial responsibility to ease her burden. He’s selfish.

[@sarahrobertson634]

He's a hoboseggsual.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

This. If he really loved her, he would support her in her endeavors.

[@emilyfeagin2673]

He is forcing her to chose between her education and him If she’s smart, she will chose education. Every time

[@GenXsinglefree]

The boyfriend of the woman considering where to do clinicals is using her. He's hiding something regarding his financials.

[@DeMarkeba]

And having cats is a problem...

[@jenbodhi1133]

And why is there a lonely man crisis???? What could it be

[@informedRev13]

No, but dying alone is a problem for most men.

[@joycejoy4119]

Did you hear a public statistics 📈 of XY unclaimed bodies in state morgu& No one wants to pay for their funeral& even 😅

[@Egh0127]

I do not even like cats that much I'm a dog woman, but I'd take a cat over a human male any day of the week girl

[@shawntoriawilliams921]

😂🤣

[@karendaniel620]

I'm glad the wife of the cheater is standing her ground. Equally glad woman in the second post was given the information and strength to trust her gut as she learns boundaries.

[@karmAnonymous]

You know what blows my mind the most? How pathetic these dudes are when they realize their actions ACTUALLY have profound consequences... That ✨ SHOCKER ✨ you really can lose the love of your life &/or people that are VERY hard to find thus leaving an even bigger gaping black hole in your heart leading you to creating videos & advocating later in life pleading with young men to wake up because they will end up alone dying either in a nursing home or in your empty place of residence & nobody even knowing You've expired until neighbors call about a smell because ain't nobody was looking for you.

[@katherines144]

I am so glad we have the words betrayal trauma to identify this wound

[@lovelyscorp79]

Cause their mama never taught them any different. I've said it once and I'll say it again. The real enemy are pickmes. So long as they are cranking out man babies, this generation of men and the next are gonna find themselves all alone with no legacy🤣🤣🤣

[@levelupgoddess9289]

Yep. It’s because they ARENT used to ppl ESPECIALLY women holding them accountable. So when it happens they are BLINDSIDED.

[@zelayadivina]

I’m 26. The other day, my mother gave me advice on men that I not only didn’t agree with, but it was shocking and sad, made me realize how much more healing she needs to do and how low her standards are. I realized I’ve come farther than she did when she was my age. With that being said, I want to thank you for all the advice you give, you help keep me level headed on things that my mother isn’t able to do due to her own lack of healing. When I watch your videos, I feel like I’m getting precious advice from an auntie. Thank you. ❤

[@BurbNBougie]

Thank you for this comment!! This is precisely what my mission is for!!

[@florindagonzalez5700]

The last story... Girl, move out. Move in with your mother, get your degree, don't even focus on trying to visit him with your vehicle. Turn that around. Would he be so willing to do the same for you? It does not appear like he would. Leave!!! ❤🎉

[@umhi9778]

Seems the entire thing is him trying to maintain control. If he wanted to spend any time with her he would want her to live with her mom but because he doesn't, it makes me think he just wants the power of having some control over the place she's staying and doesn't want to let her have a break from the gaslighting so it doesn't lose it's effect

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

She did.

[@embo_5787]

“Wasn’t acting like a wife” it’s giving me my washing machine or coffee machine broke. What a child this guy is, I appreciate her resolve to forgive so easy

[@ashleytheseeker8480]

Men leave their families behind all the time to pursure their education. Why is it a problem when WE do it.

[@enoughsaid.2311]

If you are going on a first date and your car breaks down or won't start, cancel the date. So many horrible relationship stories start with I was going on the date, but my car got stuck, and he saved the day. Just take it as a sign and cancel. 😐🚩

[@emilyfeagin2673]

I would have. My cars are smarter than I am

[@DarknessFalls29]

It amazes how men expect their gf or wife to go along with them when theres a job move but when it's HER turn, she's the selfish one. That man makes $65k a year and is complaining about $1200 rent! He needs to manage his finances better. I was paying $1500 rent making $56k a year and wa still able to put a little bit in saving twice monthly. I really hope that young lady grows a backbone and moves in with her mom AND dumps him. What a prick.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

Exactly! At $65K, he should EASILY be able to afford the $1200/month rent. Even based off the net, it would leave him over $2700/month for other bills and miscellaneous expenses. He isn’t managing his finances right.

[@ToniDaniels1275]

Which dummy told you you could get her back lmaooooooooooooooooooooooooo-you tested her and you failed -F!! Your toooo easy bro lmaooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

[@blkberrymolasses]

He is ran thru😂😂😂😂

[@TOFFEETASTICC]

Shoulda chose better 😂

[@tlrcarroll]

If he hadn’t met her he’d have to be an adult and pay the entire rent on his own. Her being there or not being there shouldn’t make a difference in HIS finances.

[@DorothyZJ]

Do men have to make a difference in women's finances?

[@jezebelle57]

Him trying to keep her from going to live with her mother is one step. The next step is “accidentally” getting her pregnant so she’s trapped. I know it’s not easy to leave someone you love, or THINK you love. But it’s pretty obvious to me that instead of being supportive, he’s using guilt and gaslighting and trying to put stumbling blocks in her way. He’s perfectly willing for HER to work herself into such exhaustion and stress she might have to drop out. The only person he’s thinking about is himself. OP is a baby, she has so much time to find someone else. She shouldn’t even bother trying to have a relationship until after graduation and once she’s practicing her profession. The crazy thing about this situation is when it’s a man going through clinicals, not only is the woman highly supportive, often she’s working two jobs to keep them afloat. Somehow, when it’s a woman, all the man does is complain about money and not enough sex or attention. Of course there are exceptions. But if it was rare, Congress wouldn’t have passed a law penalizing men for dumping their wives or girlfriends as soon as they graduated. Women who have supported their husbands through medical or law school are now entitled to half their salary throughout a period of the husband’s working life. Hundreds of thousands of women have been dumped by their husbands only to find that for all the years they were working, thinking they were a team, the husband was cheating on them. Usually with a classmate who he plans to marry after his divorce, because “we have more in common”. Rather than be supportive, men will sabotage their wife or girlfriend. Everything from keeping her awake and exhausted so she fails her tests, deleting her papers on her laptop, sabotaging birth control to outright domestic violence or calling her school/job and say she’s quitting. Most common is causing so much emotional turmoil, the woman has a nervous breakdown. Even sicker, women who pull these stunts generally have personality disorders. Men who do this are just being men. No personality disorder needed.

[@DorothyZJ]

@@jezebelle57 is that law gender neutral?

[@tlrcarroll]

@@jezebelle57 Thiiiiiiis 👏🏼

[@jezebelle57]

@@DorothyZJ I think so. I remember when it was voted into law but ALL of the examples were men who had pulled this on their wives. One young woman talked about how at her husband’s graduation celebration, he handed her divorce papers. He said she was only a clerk and not at his level anymore. The new girlfriend fit into his life better and he had to think of appearances now. Then he and the girlfriend drove off in his brand new red convertible.

[@DuttyGyal718]

So he cheated on his wife and found out actions have *Shocked Pikachu face* CONSEQUENCES. Water is wet, he f*cked around and found out and Im enjoying this Virgin Pina colada watching these. Life is good+peaceful. Keep em coming Mama Bougie.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

I heard a few women’s issues commentators talk about men, and one thing that they all said was men respond to consequences, and consequences are what trigger him to change his behavior. If she would have forgiven him, he wouldn’t learn, and he would cheat again. Since the wife is not going to take him back, he will learn with the next girl and think twice before acting on cheating. He could also become a Bitter Bernie and not get into a serious relationship again. Either way, he has to take the L, learn from his mistakes, and move on.

[@Ms_Introvert_4_Life]

That 2nd story - I'm not into having my neck squeezed for NOTHING. that's a turn off for me.

[@MelissaThompson432]

If you're afraid to go back and get your stuff, get somebody to go with you. Get a police escort. Don't put yourself in a place where you can be talked out of your future.

[@karmAnonymous]

Or permanently silenced & stripped of any sort of future 😞💔

[@emilyfeagin2673]

She should take her mom

[@elipotter369]

It's not as bad a situation as leaving a partner, but my story: to avoid being talked out of leaving a job after my boss pulled some heavy s x ual stuff on me - I went in to pick up my creative work and decided to not speak at all. He was standing next to me asking what was I doing, thenn profusely apologising & saying it won't happen again. I never said a word.

[@MelissaThompson432]

@@elipotter369 I had that happen with a boss, but not about sx; it was about thinkimg they could exploit the young girl instead of giving raises; after I quit they had all kinds of respect for me.

[@EagerMarshmallows]

Story 3: Not to dig too deep, but the boyfriend also seems resentful that her parents are supportive. While his parents are "toxic" to his mental health.

[@jaxt.seiren6417]

The fact that there is a Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention is WILD. And that stat is terrifying.

[@Chosenaire]

Girl move in with your mom don’t put your education on hold for anyone. If you stay he is going to make it hard you to focus on school. He knows that you have a daddy wound/void and he is catering to that. He is an abuser. He moved you 2 hours from your family. Red flag.

[@alexajay6896]

The choking story is crazy because when I was with an ex once he got upset at me while I was peeing and I don’t really remember but I guess he choked me, I woke up to him crying and screaming for me to please wake up because he thought he killed me. At the time I didn’t even see it as abuse but things got worse. Being a woman is such a strange experience because just much as we are desired, we are in danger. Men do whatever they want to us with no regard and then cry victim when things hit the fan.

[@seabreeze4559]

attempted murder?

[@cassidyhector9958]

The fact that the last guy tried using his mental health to manipulate and guilt her into not pursuing a future is so shitty. He will never want her to better herself independently. 1200 is nothing with a 65k salary. Logically, her idea was the best for their relationship. She can see him every weekend and he wouldn’t have to work. He wants her to work on clinicals, school work AND work. He wants her to struggle so she’ll be willing to be dependent on him. He’s just shitty.

[@marthadivine8426]

Never sacrifice your career for a man. I hope this women continues with her studies and move on. Love yourself enough to do what's best for you.

[@missmia3920]

💯🎯

[@scrambled_candlesticks2536]

We need more women to act swift and quickly like Steph. Imagine how it would help our daughters and other women to walk out as early as possible❤ from this nonsense of staying when women get cheated on. If the shoe was on the other foot, he would have definitely not waited😂 I hope she gets every single penny and moves on❤ kudos to her😊

[@passionliving]

That last story is the example of a dangerous relationship. That man was only "nice" to her because she was away from their home with the loving support of her family. That man's strategy of disturbing her sleep and repeatedly confronting her until she "gives in" will continue and may escalate when he realizes that he has lost her for good. I pray that she only returns to their home, with friends and family, just to pack up and disappear!

[@seabreeze4559]

sleep deprivation is a form of torture

[@princesslamour1985]

My son's father admitted to cheating after I told him I was pregnant. I forced him to get tested ASAP. it was negative but when baby turned 12months I got tested again standard labs and...let's just say I was devasted.

[@TOFFEETASTICC]

The 3rd OP made the right decision. “I was only thinking about myself” HE’s the one thinking about HIMSELF. He was getting unlimited xes, cooking, cleaning and half the rent. Now he’s mad cause the gig is up. If he makes 65K a year he shouldn’t have an issue paying $1200 a month. He was projecting and gaslighting her the entire time. 😕

[@TinfoilHatGirl]

Exactly. If he saw a future with her he would gladly offer to take over the bills during the clinicals to have his significant other with him. He could also propose and get engaged to give it more weight. None of this seemed to be an alternative being discussed. She is probably his Barbara the builder girlfriend prone to be replaced anyway.

[@fantym1633]

There goes his hopes of alimony!

[@NotatHome4684]

When you got to the part where he says if he can do anything for her to forgive him I literally busted out laughing! 😂😂😂

[@zadarasimoleons1019]

"What can I do to save our relationship?" "Unfuck the people you ran off and cheated on me with"

[@hannahschneyder6651]

"But.. I will buy you anything!" Pathetic.

[@rn2787]

Sex games are not the same as what that dude did. He is violent. He doesn't care about consent. This isn't a game to him and it should be for her either. Dear God ladies, don't turn off your brain before you even fall in love. I am am not saying that I am any better, but we have to remind each other to have high standards and to weed out the bad ones.

[@seabreeze4559]

obedience test for later abuse

[@DeeperThanMyThoughts]

Absolutely, he wanted to see if he could violate her, which would confirm that she could be abused.

[@Gaia-Chosen]

The audacity of Matthew and his bold faced mama. They lucky OP is nice cos the way I would curse them out they wouldn’t ever come to my parents door.

[@fantym1633]

I placed an elast rator on the table once. Boi, bye

[@portiadefleur7818]

Men literally come into these relationships wanting you to put up with all kinds of nonsense. The nerve.

[@hubabaloop]

I’m definitely glad the second redditor asked Reddit so that she could change her mindset about that

[@cinnamongirl5410]

Dude 1 didn't ''make a mistake'', as he puts it. He had a pattern of behavior that was toxic to the marriage. Now he is reaping the rewards of that. He thought cause she was pregnant that she would have to take him back, or single mother the baby. It's better to be a single mom than in a miserable marriage 24/7.

[@amberinthemist7912]

I would divorce my husband for having his mommy call me to try to get him out of trouble with me, regardless of what it was I was pissed about in the first place. That grabbing the neck thing sounds like something the red pillers would tell me to do as a test to see how easy she is to abuse.

[@TheMiss600]

Whatever it was, it sounds like a technique learned online that creep couldn't wait to try out on her- manipulative, calculating and definitely not worth any further contact. The third guy is a 50-50 user. Please leave and learn the lessons. Do not be so *desperate* for a relationship that you sign up for future of aboose or your social network looking at you with pity

[@seabreeze4559]

a white guy in japan was grabbing girls' necks in the STREET

[@seabreeze4559]

@@TheMiss600 a PUA in japan was doing it in public

[@Tracy_555]

Ladies, when your car or their car breaks down on the way to meet them for the first date, it is a sign from God! Do NOT date this man! This happened to me and I wasted years in a bad marriage and just recently got out.

[@AlexanderLives]

It truly is no way in getting a tow and still going out... follow the signs.

[@eurekamreum5458]

That also happened to that Reesa lady!

[@Tracy_555]

@@eurekamreum5458 yes i know, that’s when i started thinking that this is happening to many women and it’s definitely a sign

[@Basic190]

The second story; Men watch to much porn and think this is normal.

[@levtieart3409]

And get defensive when you shame them or think its not nornal Like when i told men i wont marry aman who watches corn they got offended and called me names and like im unresonable

[@Cynophileandavianenthusiast]

Children are watching it on their phones too and being influenced.

[@Sweetdreamz313]

@@Cynophileandavianenthusiast yep

[@valenciaforshee]

Yes, this is what i thought when I read it. So creepy

[@seabreeze4559]

Nope it's an obedience test for abuse. Guardian has an article on men blaming their dead GF or wife when they did that to death. Lying that she had a fetish. A PUA in japan, some white guy, filmed himself grabbing women in public.

[@sarajuanaict]

That one where the guy came to get her car out of the driveway? Yeah that snow was a sign. Shoulda stayed snowed in

[@MM-fl6vn]

That divorcee set him up...who saves texts and records conversations. These dudes are stupid af and spend too much time thinking with their little head.

[@FantasticBooo]

😂😂😂😂😂. Maybe the divorcee was cheated on before and wanted revenge from anywho

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

This. She probably started catching feelings, and he wasn’t going to leave his wife for her, so she wanted revenge.

[@zinabstar]

Second story I can relate to; although it happened after a few dates in… I was so shocked; funny because when my cousin first saw the guy I was seeing at the time, she automatically told me to delete his number; I asked why? She simply said “he gives me woman beater vibes” I never told her anything about what happened to me; she wasn’t wrong and further down the line, he do other things I did not consent to and clearly had a temper/was very abusive and borderline physically abusive … trust your gut and protect yourselves ladies! There’s a lot of crazies out there especially when you tell a man no to “smegz” I’m just happy I exited out of the situationship before it ended up being fully physical or before I was r*ped …. Such a scary experience

[@inprogress5210]

I'm glad the1st lady divorced that cheating man child. 2nd story - No second dates for him. As for the 3rd story - I'm happy she stood her ground against her bully of a bf.

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Cheating is a deal breaker for many reasons including the risk to health from diseases. It's not just about the obviously broken trust.

[@seabreeze4559]

and religion, adultery is a capital crime

[@fantym1633]

I've read where that was a crime & punishment but I've never seen where it was applied to men, only to women

[@PRINCESS2527]

Don’t take them back ladies , they wouldn’t take you back if you cheated….give them the same energy

[@faith6575]

Imagine using all of your God given strength to birth a human being. Performing the most trauma inducing act the body can ever endure, and then your husband being irritated when your body actually needs heal, because you can’t be the wife he needs. Woooow! Smh. And this man makes $65K a year, with a $1,200 rent in a 1 bedroom and he won’t be able to afford rent with his girlfriend’s student paycheck? So he was only paying $600 and splitting bills, I’m sure. Yeah, she needs to run and run FAST!

[@hubabaloop]

Ungaslight herself 😭 I love that for her

[@LilithsCosmicLounge]

Matthew F**ked around and found out didn’t he?!! 😂😭💀 See ladies!! Standards and boundaries!! Always have standards and boundaries and enforce them!!

[@marykasser5217]

I wish I could give the woman in the first story a huuuuuge hug and blessings. Inspiring. Truly. You are my hero.

[@hyperplaguerat]

Matthew deserves what he got. He never should have cheated. His whole post shows a disgusting lack of concern for her well being. Proof she was right to walk away. Cheaters always want to blame someone else for their bad decisions. Choking lady: R U N N N N *immediately* Choking can be part of nookie but it's not something you just do with no warning. You have to talk about it first and set boundaries. Don't go back to a partner who puts their hands on you in a violent way. I can tell she is traumatized by how she doesn't even feel as shook as she should be.

[@seabreeze4559]

numb

[@KatrinkaGivens-yh1fh]

Do not tell him and just move! If he truly loves he will understand! You are not there to support him!

[@shripleypibbles]

If men want violence ,especially when they don't care about consent, they need to be with other men. There shouldn't be such a difference in strength when it comes to these behaviors

[@LovesGaming37]

Cheating is a series of active choices

[@Leigh-w9t]

Does anyone remember the memes going around and everyone talking about choking? It’s a thing in porn and I’ve met several men who try to do it to me because either they are I to it or they think I am. I’ve never liked it and not into the act of trying to end me for sexual pleasure. No thank you.

[@Nope.54321]

*Last Post- I am glad that she chose herself!! 😊

[@pinkmenace2452]

for the post about the choking during the first date , i’ve experienced this exact situation and don’t do it. the fact that these men feel so comfortable doing that without asking for a FIRST KISS is a massive reg flag on so many levels

[@inabina2925]

It’s an obedience test.

[@silververnallbells191]

A mistake is leaving milk on the cabinet out overnight. It's not PURPOSEFULLY sleeping with someone else.

[@ashleytheseeker8480]

I wish i was like the first wife and left the first. I did try to leave, but then he got violent. I felt so stuck.

[@lisalisa3223]

I’m sure that man definitely cheated way more times. his wife was sick and couldn’t even help her so he goes out and cheats instead of staying home to make sure she’s ok. Smh, happy she’s leaving him

[@teralecole316]

Ladies, which scenario would you choose? Hmmm 🤔 Living a peaceful life with fur babies knowing no one is cheating on you or being duped into thinking you have a good husband who cheats every chance he can, then you find out and have to get tested every 3 months is cortisol inducing stress.

[@shani.ninety]

This sounds a lot like my last message to my ex when he shamed me for being single 😊 ‘I don’t want those problems’

[@ccsretreat1513]

He's going to miss her part of the rent,that's it. She's just been with him long enough to know how to guilt her.

[@EagerMarshmallows]

Story 2: tw Strangulation and hitting. im so proud of her for opening up and asking/talking about it. Its so important that we have these convos. Strangulation is actually more legally "serious" than hitting in most usa states. The difference is because hitting doesnt necessarily block the airways. But Strangulation always blocks the airways.

[@seabreeze4559]

it's always attempted murder

[@AlacrystaGems-rt7pc]

I'm absolutely floored. Dude is worried about breaking a home. He broke the home the moment he set his eyes on his coworker with intent to move his hands... These same males will complain about bitter and broken women. How do women get bitter? How to women get broken? How does anyone? By giving your heart and soul and all to someone only to have them crush it under their foot.

[@thenavybluewolf5648]

I wonder how many men watch your channel, and how many of those men watch it to learn how to be better?

[@SupraSoulStar]

Burb must have those statistics🤔

[@nightstarstar1]

I doubt they would watch to be better, they would watch to learn how to get around woman’s boundaries or learn to hide their 💩 better.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

Maybe a few are watching this with good intentions, but I’m sure that there are others that are watching with bad intentions.

[@evie9202]

Matthew should just be single and cheat in peace

[@seabreeze4559]

They know women don't want divorced dads.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

@@seabreeze4559Exactly.

[@NobodyImporttant]

Story 1: That Matthew just didn’t have the energy to be a good husband I guess Story 3: She needs to dump is sorry a ss. She is intelligent and self aware, and said this is her first relationship. A lot can be said about first serious relationships, and it seems she has some things to learn. She should focus on herself and make peace that it may be a while before she finds someone again, though I f she is young and motivated I don’t think she’ll have much trouble

[@conflictpersona8]

She MADE THE RIGHT CALL the audacity

[@sminno]

"I know couples stay and work through this ”NO! WOMEN STAY AND WORK THROUGH IT!!! IF it the script was flipped MEN would drop you and out look back!!!

[@Franciscaharrison1978]

Being single is better than being with a guy who will strangle you on the first date. He will do it again and the next time you might fall unconscious and maybe dead. A child should not grow up in a broken home? You cheated various times, those if us who grew up in broken homes because our father cheated would rather our mother respected herself and left instead of having no boundaries and continuously take him back. To that lady please keep your boundaries, shame on the mother for supporting him in this.

[@TOFFEETASTICC]

Shoulda chose better Matthew 😕🤷🏾‍♀️

[@kimneilson6670]

Act like a wife!!!!! These menz are something else

[@MyBlackPumpkinSoup]

The funniest part is: cheaters NEVER expect the consequence of their actions. Like, never. 'It was a mistake!' So? 'It was just once!' and? 'I love you' this love sure is worth a lot, huh? Actions have consequences, stop playing stupid games hoping for anything but stuoid prizes!

[@aloveaffairwithself]

CHILE…..🤦🏾‍♀️😂😂

[@sabrinawilson5244]

Why are we still kissing on the first date? Ladies this is a first date. You don't know this person regardless of the connection you feel. Emotions can be manipulated.

[@Egh0127]

First woman should ask him if he would go to therapy and not break up the family if she cheated too. He wouldn't be so agreeable then. 😂

[@videofan1010]

Girl - do what you need to do to finish your degree...

[@incisivecommenter5974]

That woman is an absolute boss. He's a POS.

[@Lysistrata2025]

I'm concerned that boa constrictor knows where she lives in story 2.

[@noblemishnowrinkle524]

The hypocrisy of the boyfriend in the third story. He calculated her portion of the rent and said that it’s unreasonable for her not to afford it, yet get upset when she asked how it was possible for him to go back to his parents while making $65,000 in a $1,200 a month apartment. 🥴

[@deboracopeland4795]

I’m so happy that women are talking about these things. Back in the day we didn’t have this or it was just limited to friends and family. Women are learning about all these things that men do and say. It’s great and will help women keep safe.

[@hoosiergirl6344]

Good girl! If they cheat while you're pregnant, they do not stop. My ex did on me too while I was pregnant, never stopped. I'm glad she left when I didn't, until years later I finally did. Don't waste your time girl!!! Love yourself and your son! Trust me, I have 20 years on you. Don't waste your time on these cheaters! Learn, heal, thrive. You got this! ❤

[@herscepter5263]

The first few months after dating my ex, he grabbed my neck while we kissed. I swiftly moved his hand and continued to kiss him. He never put his hands on my neck again, but as we continued to date, he increasingly showed signs of jealousy and later became extremely verbally abusive. So I left him and never turned back., after I told his momma.

[@shantavanee]

Lunchtime Tea served piping HOT 🔥

[@jsChelimo]

You can't 'fix' cheating. Whatever is done is done.

[@b_melly]

The “tools.. I have to have my tools” is such an inside joke. 😂😂Gotta love It’s alway sunny in Philadelphia fans ❤😂

[@maryanderson9191]

For the second woman on a first date....please do not let anyone ever pick you up at your home on a first date, if ever. It's just too dangerous.

[@mads597]

I love that you’re being shown Levi’s ads :)

[@shelbyonehalf]

Lucky you. I get trump bobblehead ads.

[@Karina_Engr]

I would call my aunt and friends and use them as sounding boards. Great story picks Burbs.

[@Lilmsjaymo]

Story 1: Stanning on bidness

[@laurenteec]

Good for Steph! I’m wishing her a wonderful 2025!