4 Ways To Detach Yourself From a Narcissist

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@derekstrait5860]

I’m in a relationship with one as we speak and it is so difficult! You love but it’s just not a good situation to be in. It’s like having a Lamborghini but one side is totally wrecked.

[@healthmintraa4320]

Thank you...Though I was a supernova in my life. My mother is a narc which was a reason I attracted my current partner ...after 13 long years he has finally left me and the children alone. I am happy.I feel free . And yes with him I lived and died a thousand times until I discovered he is narc. I did have cognitive dissonance, PTSD n more. All thanks to you and my friends , other members of family to help me overcome the emotional turbulence. My daughters are also healing as they are experiencing childhood abandonment, trauma bonding ...however they are god strong girls who watch your videos. Thanks my 9 yr and 12 yr girls understand your videos as you made them simple and speak with right pace even for kids to understand.

[@misspapillon8889]

I'm reaching a point where I don't feel the withdrawals as much. I blocked him on all channels. I stopped hating the potential supply. I feel bad for her actually. The obsessive thoughts and nightmares have slowly gone away. I do have a crying session here and there, but it hasn't taken over my entire life. I'm so thankful to this man and his channel. I am finally able to identify the problem and treat it instead of wondering why I felt the way I did.

[@carolynwalkowiak6979]

Part of the trauma bond and emotional addiction. It is a bad thought and emotional habit. It’s hard, but must stop it. With time it will erode the addictive thought patterns that go in circles…

[@debbievoss3496]

Thank God

[@debbievoss3496]

He thinks I'm getting better AND that's what he will take credit for!😮

[@meowmirrr]

How long of no contact did it take you to start feeling better?

[@bonnielee316]

I was trying to make friends and I kept on meeting narcissists. I have concluded that narcissists are everywhere. Then I learned about practicing self love. This is good. Your intuition comes back. You start listening to your gut feeling then suddenly you get good at avoiding narcissists because you learn to feel more sorry, for yourself than guilty if you aren’t nice to a person. We overshare, over extend, over accommodate, because we were trained to do that. You have to break that brain washing. I am 100 % isolated so I can’t take the advice to visit friends and family because I had to purge what little I had. So yes he’s right but a lot of us will be alone. Some people have pets and take comfort in that. I socialize a little with acquaintance type friendships. I also did volunteer work at one point, which helped. But now I feel really good and self sufficient with self love and I’m not worried if I have people in my life. The narcissists, my family members, were so chaotic and drama filled plus hurtful, that I was used to getting away and being alone. It was a godsend so I’m not worried to have to be alone. I hope this helps someone. It’s ok to be alone.

[@elrouxnorton5444]

There is no way in hell I am going to cry for this man 40 years of deceit no no no tears from me just freedom

[@sloanmagnum5009]

Absence-Silence-Indifference that is all a narcissist deserves. Nothing more and certainly less. I will move forward in spite of everything trying to hold me back.

[@RebuildingWithClarity]

I feel this one was for me. I also believe energy is transferred and they want your energy. They're empty so they want to take from you.

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

They are energy vampires.

[@keithstewart7514]

My famdamnly is Sadistically Catholic

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

Life energy blood sucking vampires .. .

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

​@@keithstewart7514I have a sister like that, says my neice..I told my sister years ago that Jesus Christ is no longer on the cross,He has freed us.She had a room with several images of a crucified Jesus with the thorns digging into his head dripping blood..😮

[@davidlopez0a]

Thank you. There's something about your content that says exactly what we need to hear, succinctly and clearly.

[@Smalltowngurrl1]

I like your straight forward approach. So many therapists minimize narcissistic abuse and I appreciate how you validate those of us who have been harmed by it. I wrote each suggestion down for a daily reminder to keep me on the path to healing. Thank you.

[@HonestyIsAVirtue7]

Great Advice! I am finally rising from the ashes. And, I'm back on my feet again. The energy is great now. I don't feel like I'm dying anymore. I finally feel like myself. It's been a rough ride, but I am coming back alive! Thank God 🙌🙏 🕊

[@samothom7333]

Me too, so glad to hear that!!

[@marych100]

Congrats!

[@sadied6519]

This has been a very helpful video just left my narcissist husband today and starting on my new toxic free journey.. thank you for sharing.

[@katherineandrzejewski8826]

Thank you so much for all the help I am getting from you 🦋 2 months after the discard..... Very difficult..... I am surviving because I am watching your videos..... Thank you ♥️

[@braveheart977]

Very good advice. Stop all toxic energetic connections.

[@pamelayoung3496]

This was very informative,I learned that I am a strong and resilient woman,and no man is WORTH MORE THAN MY SELF ESTEEM!!

[@CammieHupp-f9s]

You taught me not to isolate and thats what makes me cave and give in.Your videos help so much! Thank you!!

[@becreative1236]

True sir it's really hurting 💔

[@Elaine-uc4un]

You can get through this and move forward to a happier life

[@kylielogan8771]

You have to remove your self away from them it is hard to see the whole picture when your in the frame. I found writing down pros and cons the cons was huge and I realized that even though I felt physically sick and knew this was wrong I stayed a short while but kept leaving luckily for me it was only a few months. I also realized I didn’t like home but still had become trauma bonded due to my childhood wounds😢

[@Jesusandme100]

In the beginning i was feeling vey lonely but thank God for the church, this was something that help me a lot because i got the support and being around people was so important to get better. I feel so much better now, all Glory to God i know i wasn't to be able to get our this by my own i was so attached to this man. It was ridiculous. Thank u Jesus for getting me out of this mess thta i got into

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

Evil obsession,,the devil is defeated.

[@monie7693]

Thank you. I have known for many years I'm with a narcissist. I'm finally taking the steps to leave this prison. Your content is so specific that I'm finding it really helpful. It is comforting just to know that someone somewhere understands and I'm really not crazy.

[@shameekaavery1535]

No words can explain how I felt all I can say is thank you 🙏

[@mariageorge-grady9547]

I was married to one. I left. Stayed too long. Know exactly what you talking about. Iove listening to you. Thank you.

[@joannalopez5447]

Your 100% correct, thank you. Continue teaching and opening people eyes to this horrific personality disorder. It's a very sad situation to be in!😭

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

It is very present with my relatives, sad..even the one so religious..is a narcissist...

[@kylielogan8771]

Thank you for this information it validated the steps I took to regain my emotional health.

[@AubryBat-Yah]

Thank you so much for this video it helped me see in a step by step way what I need to do to get out of the cycle of reopening my wounds. My mom abandoned me when I was young and my dad and stepmom are narcissist so naturally I gravitated towards people with that personality thinking that was love and that kind of treatment was normal.I am going through a divorce after eight years of “marriage” never felt like I was actually married. I have two young children that need me to be healed so can be here emotionally not just physically. You’re videos have been such a blessing to me! Thank you again!

[@grandmaslifeandstories]

Indifference is such an insightful suggestion for those who cannot leave yet. Thank you Danish!

[@princess_sapphire]

Thank you sir,you are speaking my story ,this really really hurts in my heart the pain is unbearable . He promised me so much,I now know future faking is part of the love bombing He was my saviour,Im so lonely,my whole life is lonely,it hurts so much

[@majam.5532]

I feel the same.

[@queenesther4142]

Same.

[@Richard-vq7ud]

It is a taste of hell.

[@scarlet132011]

😞😭

[@vv-cv6ud]

Don’t worry Lizzie Keep open the conversation with all your love ones except the narc . Look for empathy not sympathy.. trust me it’s working for me and I’m with you 😊

[@amandapearce5343]

These videos have helped me from realization that I am with a narcissist, to slowly climbing out of this hole he's dragged me down into. And that's been the best way to describe it, like I'm swimming up slowly out of the deep. Day by day, slow healing. Thank you sir for this!

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

Easy does it, keep your plans stealth.

[@jillhudgins3210]

Great information. Thank you for your wisdom on this subject. I agree going no contact is the best path when dealing with these types of people, if at all possible!

[@carolynwalkowiak6979]

Part of taking control. What the narcissist DOES NOT WANT!

[@carolineonline2112]

I am grateful for your videos. They are helping me see that everything I am feeling is the normal reaction to narcissistic abuse. I am finally beginning to feel better. Thank you Danish! ❤️💕

[@fiona9360]

No contact is the only way to heal and move forward

[@deedoyle4069]

At 84 years......I'm again having to LEAVE the 'current' narc. Hmph! Parents; mates; oh, my! It was only 3 years ago that I BEGAN to Understand the reality of narcissism. I WILL succeed! I have trouble being patient with myself, AS I heal. I CAN do it. So can YOU! Thank you Mr. Danish Bashir. You have helped me and I am grateful!

[@deedoyle4069]

........and I'm having trouble 'escaping' him, but this is the 2nd time around for 'us' & it's still NO GO. Total years? 18. He's NOT worth it.

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

Good for you! it's never too late to learn new ways which will be beneficial for your life

[@lisaellis7715]

This experience has wrecked me & the healing is a slow process, so many ups & downs. All your videos are so on target to the narcissistic behaviors I have experienced from my ex. This video was extremely helpful & I really appreciate you. Thank you 😊

[@solidcatink]

Yes, the healing is so very slow. I think the narcissistic abuse cuts very deep.

[@karishort1891]

It will be one year since I left mine and I am just now seeing the light financially, physically and emotionally and it feels good

[@veninaicker5788]

Very motivated by the presentation. Am in the process of divorce - been married to a narcissist for 38 years and finding the process stressful, but am feeling strong again after listening to the above. Thank you and God bless you

[@ladyvirgo013]

How did it go?

[@sahdogwrangler5594]

This is just what my new psychologist is telling me, not to isolate myself but it's really difficult, especially in my rural area. I like the way you present things & I'm looking forward to the next video.

[@WaterNymphie]

First step, Say "no" more often. Every time they blow up, you're reminded why you're leaving them.

[@lorrainetaylor8570]

Thankyou so timely was feeling lonely but was a super wise pep talk!I 🦋

[@marych100]

Thank u for your precious help! The therapist I went , trying to find out what is wrong with my relationship, didn't help me. I couldnt see the big picture. Now, keeping 5 months full NO contact with the narcissist, I can see it so clear... Still working on my feelings though... watching every video of yours, finally I understood what is NPD & how I ended up be a victim with a trauma bond (with the narcissist). Congruts!

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

I'll be honest, for 6 months after she discarded me, I couldn't accept it, she's done it before, id try to find her to see her. This just prolonged the deluded hope I had. As soon as I stopped looking for her I started to feel better. I'm not there yet but much better than I was.

[@flowersofthefield340]

Toxic people are dangerous people 🧻💩🪣

[@salliegallegos918]

Some will try to kill you when they can’t control you.

[@sophiamesser2245]

I love all your videos but this is one that really helps me because I'm a super empath and finally waking up and I'm tearing up with tears of joy because I need God's help to overcome the devil aka narcissist and silence is the greatest and most powerful tool. !! Thank you so much, Danish!!!!

[@dyoung2739]

Thank you,as always,Danish❤! I needed this. Even in the midst of my divorce,I sometimes think that the relationship can be salvaged but my heart says different.

[@ladyvirgo013]

How did it go? I'm going through the divorce now

[@dyoung2739]

@@ladyvirgo013 9 months later and he’s fighting the divorce,refuses to agree to sell the house. But I have hope🤞🏾🙏🏽 that it will be finalized soon.

[@MattyNelson-rs3ik]

Listen to your gut,,write stuff down

[@ladyvirgo013]

@@MattyNelson-rs3ik ty🙏

[@Ms-di4wm]

I was about to call him because I really miss him ...I did not because of this video ...thank you.

[@Gina71954]

I didn't know he was unable to change but after 15yrs of enduring lack of empathy treatment and realizing he lacked potential to change I drew the line.

[@ansikhumalo4074]

I have gone full no contact for more than 6 months now with my ex husband....life is amazing and I feel very empowered and have taken back my life. Thank you your videos are very helpful and knowledgeable. May God bless you

[@lindavalentin5582]

Yes thank you for helping me to take primary responsibility for my own personal healing. Then have good healthy friends to turn to from time to time. It’s working in my favor.

[@taniyaadak7482]

Thank you Sir .I am following the right path 🙏

[@lorainegardener559]

This is all true what this gentleman is saying God bless you for doing good for pepole

[@advseemasharma]

Thanks Danish for your noble work

[@radhakavipurapu432]

Really indebted to you for this Listening to it again again and again I want to be strong following your advice

[@katten138]

For me it was a good reminder to nurture other connections since I do miss my narcissistic ex a lot. I've had a bad habit of reaching out without success which of course has only made things worse. The cognitive dissonance is really difficult to break free from in my weak moments so I will try to see the bigger picture.

[@adamishaq9184]

Very wonderful and more wise insight. You will never be trapped if you are not attached and seek joint happiness. Once I had a narcissist girl friend. She was good on one hand some points but on the other hand she was cruel, ruthless. Sometime she was cold like a dead person. Once she promised me for marriage within one month but after one week, when I arranged a good dinner for her at some special place. Out of nowhere while eating ,she said me that today is our last day of meeting. It was like a lightening over me which stuns me for few minutes. When I looked at her eyes, these were cold, dead, no shine, no mercy and I found it was not a joke, her body language was so dull and rough like a wooden piece, her energy was full of negative storm hovering over her head. So I recollect myself internally and clean all the blackboard of my mind, I erased her all things and all joint memories and good moments, then after recollecting within 5 minutes, I replied her, well , we finish this dinner and then will say goodbye to each other. When she heard these words from me, her eyes became watery and she started to tell me that it was a joke. But I smiled and said, No , it was not a joke and I saw her cold stone inhuman pathetic eyes, there is no shine, no compassion, no trace of love, it was point blank, dead end. Then after a while she agreed that her intention were true. Then I asked her , why did tears appears into her eyes. She replied that she did many times with other men, they suddenly fell over her knees and asking for explanation, asking for chance, asking to correct any mistake if they have done and she said that she enjoyed the event and misery and suffering of these people when I tortured them in this way and I feel so much pleasure and importance and gratification when man begs over my knees. I said ok, I got that but why tears came into your eyes? She replied with true words by saying that I was waiting that you will do the same and will fall over my knees and start to beg , I played to hurt your feeling but I was not expecting that you will kick me , I found first time that someone made me feel that I am no important person, even you did not tried a little to secure relationship and did not show any iota of care about me, I became embarrassed and trembled from inside and found myself so little, empty and meaningless. I did not find a man who really kicked me in a such way , so I found you that you are a real man. I want to marry with you. I said, thank you for your sincere and true reply. And it was a enough lesson for me. I am not the person who loves torture someone or being tortured. But I will fulfill your first desire that our relationship will end today but we will be in good terms with each others and sometime we will see each other and from now we have no rights over each other. So lets enjoy this last good dinner and I have planned for you since long time and let the ending will be festive and I am already very hungry. Then we separated as 2 birds left the tree and flew away into sky into different direction forever. She left on her mission to increase the population of victims and helping the psychologist/psychiatric clinics to make them more busy.

[@joannalopez5447]

This is so disgusting it makes my stomach turn, these people walk around with no conscious. It's very frightening how they have no Sympathy! Thank God you seen right through her empty soul. Good luck to you, be safe!🙏

[@adamishaq9184]

@@joannalopez5447 🙏🙏🙏 thank you. it was really hard but I prefer to take hardships rather than humiliating myself. So I swallowed the whole pain and took it all alone without seeking any comfort and throwing over others. I took it as I took my pleasure and happiness alone. A tornado passed but I was standing on the ground even more rooted and it exposed my strength. I said to myself that I was happy before her and will continue to be happy after her. But it changed my perception and understanding of relationships. It left no scars but introduced me a different reality of human psychic.

[@reneeboehm558]

Being a little lonely is fine compared to the emotional baggage that you’ll feel after that contact, we could always distract ourselves with something else not the narcissist is then will really regret it

[@tactileproduct03]

I appreciate your mention of energetic messages and what full no contact truly means.

[@Jesusandme100]

I went no contact and it really works it was so hard in the beging but now it is easier

[@marlastininger7720]

I haven't been on Facebook in 5 days and it's the best I've felt in so long. I was stalking his profile every 5 minutes and looking at every comment and text just upsetting myself and he knew it. He would make sure to comment and post stuff just knowing it was less and id see it. It's taking everything in me not see log back and and see but I know it's for the best that I don't. The lies that come out his mouth are just unpredictable like it's insane. But I don't know why I'm surprised. THANK YOU FOR SHARING THESE VIDEOS. IT'S THE ONLY THING KEEPING ME SANE RIGHT NOW

[@rishipuran9906]

I think I am lucky! I think based of what I have experienced she is a Covert Narcissist ( Lying, Cheating & Stealing) . I couldn’t escape back then approximately seven years ago because young children were involved. I could not leave my daughters to the abuse so I stayed. I was communicating with a friend who was experiencing a similar situation. We talked a lot and eventually get to know each other, she has been my girlfriend for a few years now. Damm! I don’t miss the Narcissist or even think of her- was married for 18yrs. She found a new source 🎉. In the earlier stages I listened to a lot of therapists / professionals on KZbin. I had to work on myself so i choose meditation. That helped me very much, my overall life changed in a positive way. It takes time but it really works. Best of luck🤗

[@jacquelinecruz4187]

At first it's scary , painful but just like you said in the video each time i chose to go no contact the more in control i feel and in control of my choice not his i walk away when i want to no one will trap me with my own emotions he does not deserve my attention or my loyalty thank you for helping so many people who really did not know that narcissist abuse is real.

[@snezanavasilevska3586]

Thank you,,this is the best video i have seen ,explaining how to not go back and healyourself and get awwwayyy for good,,amaising explanaision,,,keep doing this videos 👍

[@libralove8761]

This is one of those that needs Two Thumbs up instead of just One 👍👍

[@paucher]

I don’t have a good support system. All of our a couple friends have sided with my husband. My children are in trauma over this. They are all married and older, but still can’t believe their dad is like this, so I do vacillate between going back and just putting up with whatever or being alone. I support system is really super important!

[@jc4171]

WOW Danish, powerful insightful help and this was precisely what I needed to hear ❤️❤️❤️

[@KoalaMarta]

you are SO ELOQUENT! thank you for all you do. I'm a narc survivor but the lessons have made me a much stronger individual now

[@libralove8761]

As far as how this video has helped me, I would say you covered everything as far as going no contact and the real feelings of loneliness particularly during holidays. This video confirms there is no reason to attempt to reconcile and you must stay on the path of no contact. I also like how you stressed the importance of not living alone and essentially replacing the narcs with others in your life. It's not an easy thing to do so I'm glad you brought it up. Thanks.

[@joebuzz2758]

Another great video. I am trapped in a living situation renting a room with a sadistic narcissist for a landlord and have been for years. For many complex reasons I'm unable to move. I'll have means to move in about 6 months. But you're video's are just what I've been needing. Thank you!

[@oselkhandro4416]

Excellent and clear. Thank you.

[@alimccreery755]

Thank you for your videos. Hugs 🤗 and love ❤️ coming your way 😊

[@Lambert7785]

it was helpful, because it points out the dynamic (among other important things) of less pain being with the narcissist, if you don't have healthy connections with good people...and can experience sharing love in that way...- really sound points, thanks

[@stylist62]

Their evil never ends with them, all the drama making over insignificant things, trying to make you react, he was even stealing on top of living for free, while slandering me playing victim, from me cleaned me out, left garbage in the boxes in my garage and storage. Deep trauma work, let go of the baggage would be nice Hard to believe what just happened

[@danmcdonald8522]

Excellent video. You have very good quality information. You have explained the narc behavior very well. The damage that narc abuse has caused is very painful. But these creatures are worthless. Stay away God bless

[@janicemathur5861]

Thank you. I now understand what needs to be done in order for me to feel free of constant insults, arguing and never pleased with whatever I do. It’s like I’m always at fault.

[@inserter400]

Excellent explanation 👌 Glad you mentioned both male and female narcissists

[@dwlsn93]

Thank you for sharing these excellent insights! Yes, this has helped me very much today. Sitting with my feelings, and not acting on them is what I needed to understand. I have been separated from a 24 year marriage for the last 5 years. So, yes, every now and then, I feel like I want to reach out. Now that I know why, I will put some space between that feeling and any action (though it has nearly completely stopped - it still happens). 🙏🏼

[@vinitham226]

God bless you for helping hurt PPL with the elaborate n very clear understanding of the same,which PPL can heal oneself,it's a tough n long process though,but can heal 🌹🌹👌

[@rumination608]

Very wise words! Thank you!

[@SophieBird07]

Danish! You so are saving my sanity!

[@rachell4417]

Letting go of everything. Love them

[@cocozuchanel]

What you are saying is SO important!!!! 🎯🚀

[@danoperiano6435]

Very well said sir ! Very informative 👏👏👏👏👏♥️♥️♥️

[@elainehodgson6403]

Thank you , that was the most helpful therapy i have ever heard on the subject. i needed some guidance on my healing journey , direction . im grateful that you really understand what its like to experience narsassitic abuse. unserstanding it has helped me not have so much shame and guilt.

[@coribanane2305]

Hello Danish, I am so greatful for your channel. Thank you for explaining the stuff about narcissm in an excellent way! Best wishes from Germany, Franziska

[@captain_cgc2413]

Thank you for what you do …

[@positivechangeforfamilies]

Thank you so much for this video; it really helped me a lot. I felt exactly what you told me, how I’ve been wanting to isolate and almost reaching to call him but I know he is poison and it was only out of loneliness. Thank you all of the tips 🙏

[@nichellenunya]

1) Let go of the desire to fix, change or heal them 2) Go no contact or minimize contact 3) Do not feed them with your reactions either positive or negative 4) Stop all forms of contact (same as #3)

[@lindaslotzberg2565]

Thank you very much for this important information, it is very appreciated!!!

[@charlieangelyoutube]

Thank you! You’re very helpful and comforting. Very much appreciated.

[@SAN_E7]

I agreed to stay after we broke up (until the lease ended) to help with his elderly mom. We got a ring camera and keyless door pad that monitors in/out. I drove myself crazy monitoring where he was going, who he was seeing so I deleted the app. I would put headphones on so I didn’t hear when he was out in the common areas. Do not stalk their social media. Delete their numbers and their fam/friends too.

[@mjayanthi3425]

Each one is true Thank you for such helpful videos Good bless you

[@indervirsidhu8549]

Very helpful video. Thank you so much for your guidance.

[@annaog1298]

Some of my good feelings and relational comfort zone are still attached to the narcissist as that is what I know. Reaching out to others and creating validation and good moments in their presence helps replace those narcissistic memories with new ones, real, actual - that's a new life. I did it instinctively. As the result narcissistic memories are fading.

[@mariamsheisright3031]

This has helped me a lot . Thanks

[@charlesforte6473]

Excellent Video ! Thanks !

[@majam.5532]

As ever spot on. Thank you Danish

[@marshamatthews9034]

I think im with one tryimg to get out your advices are on point because thats exactly the track im in

[@caliwebb3]

I'm a fan. You've helped me a lot. Long time dealing. maybe you are exactly what I need to push me to other side.. thanks.

[@kayablackforest5136]

man, you are so good, so precise, so helpfull with your content, it is unbelievable !!!

[@rosemarywatson2907]

I appreciate you so much. All of these videos are for me. Been married to one twice. Of course im an empath. Apparently. I only go after these type. But im looking forward to implementing what im learning. I see I have to do this for my brain and health damage. Thank you so much.

[@elrouxnorton5444]

Thank you all thecway from South Africa

[@sitascott8446]

I can't go no contact, becsuse of many pets we have together. But I will practice the indifference which you suggest, whenever we are around each other re the animals. Thank you.

[@MsMookalate]

Thank you so much. This is exactly what I need. I've been trying to not fall back into the cycle of abuse. This also validates I'm in the right track of moving on to a healthier life

[@HomeFrendsten]

Toxic people who r frustrating come in mind , though they r away , they takeaway our energy and make us lifeless , v should try to detach them from us,

[@richachopra6462]

Thank you sir 🙏

[@jacklimcortez7660]

Thanks 😊 it helps me to stay aware and keep moving forward p and pay attention