4 Ways to Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Success | Conor Neill

[@yantrakar]

Excellent guidance Mr Conor Neill I want to rearrange this as follows FADE F - Fixed mindset A - Arrogance D - Distraction E - Emotions

[@ConorNeill]

That’s a much better acronym 🙏

[@SAA-zc4xp]

Being Humble despite a great personality and so much knowledge is perhaps your key to being so effective

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@mrmoshlijjie3502]

I am Arabic It takes a long time to translate the video The good news is that it deserves Thank you Allah bless you

[@lizskyline17]

I am really suffering from self sabotaging for years and felt hopeless. Via the DEAF tips from this video, I now know what I can do to begin to stepping out from this downward cycle. Thank you Conor, I am so grateful!

[@rwharrington87]

This guy has a pleasant demeanor. How could you not like his stuff.

[@theveka]

OMG why am I discovering this chanel and this guy mid 2022? Content here is magical. Thank you

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@R5123]

All good, I'm here at the end of 2024, at the turn of the tide

[@Sa_m-sam]

@@theveka what about discovering this channel in 2025

[@sangphan101]

Thanks!

[@ConorNeill]

🙏🙏🙏 Thank you and glad the video is of help

[@mariamshqair9611]

The most things sabotaging your success is : 1- Distraction, you have to stop the habit of opening email first in the morning and you have to manage your time ,so you can use panadora technique . 2- Emotions, stop react by effect of your emotion , try hard to control rather than it will control you . 3- Arrogance, stop your ego of reserves and shift your attention for another needs . 4- Fixed mindset, you should be a growth mindset ,try to give focusing on your work and improving it quality .

[@malikc63]

You need to edit further this comment to add clarity in all four points (DEAF)

[@mariamshqair9611]

@@malikc63 give me an edition please ^^

[@grannygrammar6436]

@@mariamshqair9611 He's a doofus, Miriam just putting you on. He doesn't have an edit to give you because your post is just fine. Ignore him.

[@mariamshqair9611]

@@grannygrammar6436 Thank you .. But no problem if any one give suggestion..

[@youssefmebarki9979]

Pomodoro.

[@FairEnough-too]

So much wisdom condensed in that a four letter acronym.

[@marianalituana]

this is my first 'contact' with you, Conor, and this video is a kind of balsam, fresh rain on arid land when so many hard-sell talks and self=branding speeches just don't help. Thank you for you kind tone, inspiring words and realistic pieces of advice.

[@anthonyscott2242]

Hi mariana How are you doing

[@ConorNeill]

Kind. words,thank you ;-) Welcome to the Rhetorical Journey!

[@soniaperez2417]

Wow! I just discovered your channel this evening and I am impressed! The quality of your presentations is excellent! This particular one is inspiring snd actionable. I can see why you have so many subscribers: you produce quality content. Thank you!

[@husseinazgoune4981]

Good; i like his content too

[@anthonyscott2242]

Hi sonia How are you doing

[@BrandonLovoi]

This just blew my mind in a way that I haven’t had in awhile. Brilliant!

[@ConorNeill]

Kind words, thank you

[@avirajsingh567]

Hi Conor, your videos mean a lot to me. That's all I can say. In world, I respect most to my parents and to my "real" teachers and you are like a real teacher to me. Thank you soo much for sharing your knowledge.

[@FolaOluwashade]

I'm so glad I came across you via KZbin suggested videos. I'm learning a lot from your videos. Thanks a million for sharing your wealth of experience and wisdom with us. I just thought I should let you know your videos are making tremendous positive impacts.

[@teacherrefat2259]

What's the benefit of learning it when you are financially poor and don't have sufficient money? He cannot help you with anything.

[@johnhinckley7615]

Hi Refat Have you never heard the saying that knowledge is power? The "funny" thing about that saying is that (all else being equal) it's true. True understanding brings ability with it. So if you keep your mind open and attentive you give yourself the opportunity to learn and to do things you previously thought impossible. Otoh, mental negativity will cripple your mind. It's your choice as it always is. Belief opens doors for you that you didn't know were there. I'm not talking about hoo hooie fraudulent do dooie kind of wishful thinking. I'm saying that your mind takes your suggestions and acts on them regardless of what you think reality is or should be. I'm saying "don't cheat yourself" because you don't believe in any particular religion or aren't religious at all. What your subconscious sees in your imagination often enough it will act on to the best of its ability. Fill your imagination with what you want to do, focus on that, seeing in your mind what is needed to be done to achieve what you want--and keep at it. Whenever the opportunity arises do everything in your power to do what you're thinking about. Just do it. Actual ability will follow your attempt to do what you aggressively and intentionally imagine yourself doing. This is the only way that new things and new intentions ever come to pass. You want something new and different in your life you can have it... ...but only if you choose to accept your thinking and believe that acting on your thoughts and imagination will work to make your goals real. Don't believe and you won't achieve until you choose to believe and act on what you believe. Until then you'll never have what you really want. My suggestion is to take what I've written and meditate on/about/through it. Think truly deep thoughts not thoughts that can bring your whole mental house of cards down in the course of a few bad actions brought on by irresponsible, common, easy thinking and choices. Control your thinking and you control your life and your world. Ignore your thoughts and your mind will ruin you and every life you come into contact with as fast as you ignore the "immature" thoughts that I've presented to you in this comment. Your life and how you live it will absolutely without fail become what you truly believe and what you persist in thinking about. In truth... willpower is weak and will always lose to imagination no matter how strong your willpower/willingness/and uncontemplated desires are or become. Pay attention to your thinking and your words. Words will guide your thoughts if you allow them to through _any_ degree of inattention. So choose your words wisely and use them to think those things that you want in order for your mind to do what's necessary to obtain your desires.

[@nathanlindstrom9778]

I couldn’t agree more with F F. Thank you Conor!

[@lenaalpha456]

It was great! #3 and #4 hit me the most. I would like to have such a mindful teacher. Especially valuable that this 5-years old video has come to me today, when I needed to hear such supportive things...❤

[@cindyeyler]

Interesting the point of arrogance/entitlement equating to feeling worthy of having, better or more-- so many times I see clients experiencing worthiness issues and not feeling or believing they are good enough to have, better, none the less, worthy of more. I find this flip side you discuss an interesting contrast. I get the arrogance/entitlement aspect. The worthy portion has a bit of fine line... in other words to me it depends. Thanks for the video.

[@ConorNeill]

Kind words, thank you ;-)

[@pollackmorgan3149]

Hello how are you doing this song

[@anthonyscott2242]

Hi cindy How are you doing

[@alikhalifa4880]

I was very pleased with my passing from here and listening to some of your videos that completely changed my way of thinking for many things and I think they will help me to avoid many mistakes that hindered me greatly in the past and caused many problems for me, and on the one hand to return some favors to you, I sincerely hope that you give yourself an opportunity that you deserve well and will benefit from it Benefits are endless, I want you to read even as much as one ponodora about the character of the Prophet Muhammad, may God bless him and grant him peace, and a simple translation of the Qur’an, and I will be very happy if I know that you did so thank you

[@Thing-vc2qm]

Great video. As always the hardest part it to put the theory into practice, but realizing what holds you back is the first step toward taking care of it.

[@chandanabasnayake]

I am watching this clip again and again whenever I feel distracted or sabotaging my success. Really help me to come out of the sabotaging behaviour. Thank you. From Sri Lanka

[@nikhilpandey9066]

Purpose of life ! And no words

[@JANDEJOEP]

I am happy to tell you that watching your videos are a distraction from me creating the presentation I'll give this Monday, as preparations did not go well, at all. And they gave me so much convidence. I am sure I will succeed now. Thank you!

[@Food-Dharma]

Conor Neill, I consider you my life teacher because your lessons have helped me improve my life. I cannot thank you enough. Please keep sharing your wisdom and your learning with the world. Your work impact more people than you’ll ever realize.

[@sinatrabone]

I'm trying to become a masterful music teacher. Your visualization excercises before entering a room of students was so powerful I had to pause the video and let it sink in. Thank you for the quality of your work. I am so glad I stumbled on your videos today. I will be making use of your ideas this year!

[@kartova]

This is one of your best videos in my opinion. Thanks for putting this together, this will help me focus on my potential! I wish I could meet you in person one day!

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@Sophia-yo9rp]

Mr Neill, thank you for this content. I really appreciate it. May you be blessed with more so you can teach more because your teaching style feels safe and true. True in the sense of the person you are and knowledge. Thank you.

[@perfrimann6375]

Our daughter is stressed out over her home work and I will definately show her this video. Where I at my office can see EAF both in myself but luckily more so around me, my daughter is fighting with distraction; internet, gaming, chat and all the platforms where she feels she has to be updated constantly. So to put it short, thanks! And Merry Christmas!

[@muhammedhalava6591]

it is enlightening lesson to kick off the barrier of our success . thanks Conor

[@Isignedup4this]

This was such an eye opener Every acronym was a low vibe of the ego 😮

[@debramaclellan896]

I just found you today, but you are thoroughly inspiring me to take action. I just watched two videos from you and I plan to watch more!

[@ConorNeill]

Wonderful!

[@maluribeiro68]

Beautiful moving video. You embody what you preach. True artists embody a grouch mindset; instead of being moved by results & pleasing others, they’re moved by the constant struggle to get better, to convey things personally originally & universally at the same time. They’re process oriented. This is actually a term in artistic circles, to “be result or process printed”. To be result oriented makes you a pleaser, a person who sells a painting to match couches, it’s not a search from within and from Ines own unique set of skills.

[@emnasammari4374]

I am happy to listen to your words today! I am working on my PhD and I am struggling with it especially with the lockdown! I ll try the Pomodoro tips ;) thank you ! I learned a new thing today! greetings from Tunisia

[@hirokidabar4655]

You are inspiring. You are a goldmine of character building and personal insights. You tie all these concepts together so well, you have much to be proud of! I hope not only to share your work for others to see and learn from, but to teach your lessons myself. I can fairly say you have fostered a growth mindset in my Conor, thanks.

[@johngaffigan9568]

You live an "other-centric" life in direct service to others. I strive to live similarly. Your videos are always thought provoking. Some, like this one, stand out as being particularly helpful. God bless on your valuable mission to challenge us to be our absolute best.

[@elisolomon8741]

When you video popped up in my feed I knew I'd be a fool to ignore it. I didn't regret my decision. And I agree with your opinion that point 4 is really an amalgamation of the first 3. And in that light, F could be changed to another saboteur worthy of mention . That being FEAR. Fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of financial loss, fear of criticism and fear of humiliation to name but a few of its manifestations. I took a lot from your video. Thank you.

[@elisolomon8741]

@@ConorNeill Same inspiration. My hand was in that box as well.

[@ThatCologneGuy]

University professor as well and I love this list....I especially like that he doesn't use 'Fear' for 'F'....'Emotions' is so much stronger than just fear....It really stuck with me when he said that we shouldn't react to the world from emotions. I checked out Kilian Jornet and his outlook....cool stuff.

[@amarjeetbains4250]

This is Life changing lecture Conor and I belive every single person must listen to this. ! I have to listen to this every single day to stop self sabotage. Thank u Sooooo much for this valuable information.

[@english3956]

1- Distraction Measure your Important Tasks eg How many pages you wrote if u want to be a writer then you will understand how much time you are distracted Pomodoro technique 2- Emotions stop to react by your emotions 3- Arrogance stop your ego of reserves and shift your attention for another needs and wants 4- Fixed mindset you should have a growth mindset, try to give attention on your work rather than the reward

[@ConorNeill]

👏👏👍🏻

[@Sam-yw2xw]

Sir, Conner. I learn so much each time. Many many Thanks.

[@ConorNeill]

🙏

[@zenfed]

Rich content, a pearl in the mass of content of KZbin, and authentic.

[@nadirhussainrind8646]

Thank you very much sir,May God bless you and keep you happy and healthy always... I am suffering from Distraction and Emotion but i will overcome these two in my coming days by your kind information,thanks alot sir...

[@shunyabinduinteriors]

Learning to be D.E.A.F from this moment onwards.tq so much👍⏱️⏳

[@ConorNeill]

Excellent

[@avjarin]

Hi Conor. I'm so glad I came across this video and your other materials online. I have been looking for ways to further improve my ability to communicate as well as to lead. This was super helpful. There is no limit to learning. The next step: put this into practice! Thank you!

[@ajfm4097]

Thank you, Conor. This is an area l'm struggling with. Watched a few other videos on the topic (too much waffling), but yours was the most practical l've found so far. Thank you. Have subscribed

[@ConorNeill]

Glad it was helpful!

[@jeevan4337]

Put speed to 2.0 and you can finish this amazing video early. Thanks to Conor, I am a subscriber now!

[@jeevan4337]

@@ConorNeill You sound totally fine to me, I can understand each and word, syllable you put. You are taking pauses to give weightage to your words, sound more convincing, which is important for your fans across the world, some are good at listening, some are not, some replay twice to thrice to understand maybe. To me you are equally convincing at 2x, it's just that I want to listen to all your videos.

[@dharamvirmalik8094]

Probably one of the best learnings I have gone through 👍👍🙏

[@achrafmrabet1981]

Thank you! using your wisdom to coach myself on how to manage my team....

[@mahnoorwaqas5895]

Thank you so much. Excellent teaching. Great material!!!

[@adoun7]

I should start my days watching your videos sir, what a clever and humble person you are.

[@deep7564]

Great, I'm still young, this video is really inspiring. I continue 😊😊😊

[@ConorNeill]

I'm so glad!

[@darrylclark5258]

I just discovered you. Thank you for your aim for excellence in content and presentation. My personal focus is on helping youth and families. I have already shared with others. I am looking forward to diving into your library of work....and fun. Again - Thank you, Darryl

[@mikesimpson1368]

Thank you, Conor - an exceptional film, insightful and incisive as ever. I hadn’t realised I was an expert in self-sabotage! Much for me to focus on there. Thank you. Mike

[@desmondplunkett6696]

Thank you very much Conor for your resources. I have benefitted immensely from your work, which is transformative. Continue to impact the world for my brother. God's speed.

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏 Welcome to the Rhetorical Journey!

[@8016tm]

So natural expressions during presenting these amazing ideas. Ideas that are very practical.

[@drabidkhan6990]

thank you

[@isaacmwanza2475]

Thank you very much Connor

[@grrindia]

Hats off sir, I feel positivity when I watch your videos. Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@khalidmahmud8376]

You are great for clarity, articulation. This is also an excellent topic for learning.

[@mehdismekouar]

Thank you very much sir

[@ExAnimo-e4x]

great! I study English and listen very important things. Thank you very much. God bless you!

[@ConorNeill]

🙏

[@aneelamustafa3309]

the best video I have seen and will incorporate it in my life.

[@ConorNeill]

👏👏👏

[@georgeobare6289]

Wise,warm and infectious disposition Professor.

[@معلومهمفيدة-ه9ث]

ارجو منك دكتور ترجمه للمقاطع السابقه انت رائع جدا افكارك مذهله ستحصل على الكثير من المتابعين والمعجبين عند ترجمة المحتوى وشكرا

[@overdrammtic04]

Also despise boredom and frustration thanks for the tips!

[@arshavinhd6649]

Great video. I think the most important thing is to stop the fixed mindstt cuz it can change your first three tools

[@ConorNeill]

Absolutely!

[@saqlainkazmi3309]

Thank you sir. I think that i am learning a lot from you.

[@adityamohan7958]

Thank you so much Conor! I came across your name when searching for inspirational Ted Talks, and have now watched a couple of videos and just subscribed. Thanks for your efforts, there is immense value that you are sharing with the world!

[@somalingappadolli1486]

Very nice

[@lolottathinks...]

I think you should be extremely proud for all the positive you are bringning into people's life M.Conor with those capsules and the one on self-sabotaging specially. It has strongly reached and resonated with me so I want to thank you warmly for having the generousity of sharing with us all sorts of great contents, so well explained and defined. I'm convinced it's how you communicated those informations also that really makes a difference. The message becomes clear, powerful and very effective probably because we can feel the pure intentions behind it. I have spent a very long time reflecting and researching on that subject and tonight, I feel I got it and more importatly that it will stay with me! Earlier I was going trough some TEDx presentations when I came accross yours, very proud for having the curoisity to have watched it and then checked out for more of your work... I'm taking advantage of the free time we have these days to learn great stuff so thank you again for being a BIG part of it !!! LOVE from Montreal & a Great productive Quarantine to you also!!!

[@UncommonSenz]

I'm thrilled by your sense of composure and articulation... I'm happy I chanced on your profile.. I just wish I did earlier..

[@krgaurav1511]

Salam Pedia i feel the same

[@haniwadie9474]

Please, I want a translation of your lectures in Arabic. I would like to hear all of your lectures, but I do not master the English language

[@vivekteega]

I feel the same man

[@johnnyakundi432]

Piujjj

[@damilolaosoka7695]

Hi Conor, stumbled upon your page today, I am thrilled at the level of content dished out. well done.

[@Johlibaptist]

Thank you. A very helpful and inspirational message. To progress we need to know what to relinquish or remove, and what to retain, and what to gain and regain. Never, never, never give up.

[@user-rj4yb1qk2w]

Tanks for your points. In these days, I'm writing my thesis; watching your videos was helpful for me.

[@buddinglawyerxbiophile8290]

You opened my eyes. Thank you, Sir.

[@joulsw3739]

Love this. Best advice I’ve had this week. Thank you! 🙏

[@trainingguru88]

I appreciate your attitude to give, give and give without return. Your reference to Bhagwat Gita is trui impressive. I hope I will not be deaf to my Self Distactive Forces.

[@drharjit]

Thank Mr Conor Neill for this wonderful video. You have just changed my life and indirectly of many others.

[@the-leadershipjourney]

Trully inspiring Conor. It´s not about the likes and subs but giving my best consistently

[@ConorNeill]

Process above results!!!

[@srinibhavani]

That's an AWESOME video...something VERY PRACTICAL to learn from and to apply in Real Life. Will DEFINITELY help me complete my book. Thank you!

[@kavalkari]

At 9:47 he quotes the Hindu Religious Text Bhagavad Geetha “Karmanye Vadhikaraste, Ma phaleshou kada chana” which means, do your part of the duties without expectation of results

[@viswanathanvenkataraman9934]

Excellent! Very nicely done in providing maximum efficiency to anyone by making simple commitments and willingness to make improvements on common problems. Thanks for the the great quality.

[@ConorNeill]

Thanks 🙏

[@nischaymalhotra6287]

This video had a profound impact on me at the time! Revisiting to remind myself of these lessons :)

[@ConorNeill]

Glad to hear

[@PracticalInspiration]

Excellent share Conor, I wasn't aware of the DEAF acronym. I love your point on putting focus on others, in terms of productivity and output, it's a great way to achieve more

[@PracticalInspiration]

@@ConorNeill Love it

[@沈岳霖-k1u]

Dear Mr. Neil, thank you for sharing with us. I really appreciate it!

[@abby-fichtner]

Really enjoying your videos. This one in particular was interesting because I hear about fixed vs growth mindset all the time, but I never heard it described in that way. I really like that. Thanks for all the videos and wisdom!

[@CliffordStarks1]

Nice Conor, stopping self doubt to help others take the effective actions needed to succeed 👍

[@nourashaheen487]

Can't thank you enough Noura from Egypt 🙏

[@lamiaridouane520]

One of the best videos I have ever watched

[@walboyfredo6025]

Thank you Conor. You really re-focused my future plans.

[@purposedrivenexecutive340]

This is great and useful Conor. Thanks!

[@grounded9623]

Great video. The thing is that you (if you do not have a fixed mindset) could include 100 other items to this list. This is what feeds the never ending field of self help. If you search as I have for years, for the ONE thing that is critical, the one thing that lays at the very core of success, I believe that it is the ego or arrogance as Conor has identified. Why? Because once you remove your ego, the other three are either directly or indirectly removed or upended. Cheers.

[@MochaMuzings]

Great content 👍

[@neilcook1652]

Interesting, love how you apparently retain quotes of who said what, I listen and read and benefit, but struggle to retain in the forefront my mind.

[@ConorNeill]

plenty of practice ;-)

[@PauFernandez13]

As always, very interesting insights on how to put yourself in the driving seat of your life and boost performance. Thank you Conor

[@seullim1662]

Thank you for referencing the Bhagavad Gita

[@sandraibrahim2525]

Mr. Neill Conor! you are my favorit teacher. I learned so much from you. I have one question: In the work environment how we should handle arrogant colleagues who don't respect the people they are working with? Thank you in advance!

[@ConorNeill]

That is a tough question... it depends. I use the Q&A forum on my blog to address more detailed answers - would you share the question here: conorneill.com/community/ thanks!

[@GGADEDtv]

Thanks alot sir. You've impacted me.

[@ConorNeill]

Glad to hear that

[@joannaolisa627]

I absolutely love this video. Felt like you were speaking particularly to me. And I learned so much from this.

[@idaoud32g]

What a powerful technique!! I’m excited to start implementing this! I am grateful I found your channel Thank you!🙏

[@googly108]

Great talk Conor 👍

[@mustafabaris9681]

This information is golden ..! This is the fastest that I have ever subscribed to a KZbin channel ..! Can’t wait to dig in and see more of your videos sir ..! Greetings from Istanbul , Turkey 🇹🇷 🇹🇷

[@richardduplessis1090]

It was a lucky chance I found this video. It's been very helpful. Thank you.