What to do when you don't know what to do

What to do when you don't know what to do
Move your Body
Help Others
Listen to Unconscious
Hi, I’m Conor Neill, I speak and write about Persuasion, the art of Moving People to Action. I have the privilege of being father to two great little daughters. I live in Barcelona, Spain.
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Conor is a sought-after keynote speaker on Leadership. He teaches Leadership Communications at IESE Business School and is the President of Vistage in Spain, part of the world’s leading CEO organisation. As an entrepreneur, he has founded 5 companies, selling 16 private jets and building the 3rd largest fleet of private jets in Spain. He is a visiting professor at University College Dublin, the University of Montevideo and Permanent Faculty on Entrepreneurs’ Organisation’s Global Leadership Academy.
What is Persuasion?
What does it take to move people to action?
What does it take to have impact when you communicate?
How can I inspire the people around me to be the best version of themselves?
These are questions that I answer. I answer these questions with tools that work for politicians, business leaders, entrepreneurs and professors.
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[@BKMUYA]

Thank you Sir. Couldn't be better put. Taking a walk has been a great stabilizer for me when I am anxious. 7 years ago I almost gave up something special because of stress, but after a long walk, I settled my thoughts and decided to hold on, and today, it's the most beautiful blessing of my life. Thanks Conor

[@ConorNeill]

Years ago I think I heard Tony Robbins talking about "strategic recipes" - and what he meant was a process that guaranteed to put you in a positive, abundant, grateful, curious state - and some of my recipes are walking, exercise, listening (and playing) to music...

[@BKMUYA]

​@@ConorNeill❤

[@robotlife2025]

@@BKMUYA thank you!

[@Abocus404]

1, get body moving 2, think about other people that matter 3, writing your unconscious down even drawing a picture is good

[@joseluishuertasfernandez4892]

For me, #1 and #3 clearly work. #2 not so much. When I'm struggling and I think of others who matter to me and what they would expect from me (sons, wife, parents, friends...) I become absolutely terrified and the pressure makes me feel paralyzed, making the situation worse. But I guess everyone is different and others can find the right amount of motivation and inspiration.

[@ConorNeill]

I have a list of people that are always positive for me to speak to... not everyone is on that list!

[@elydan6049]

#2 for me is being of service - unconditionally and not thinking of payback …it fosters without necessarily wishing it expressly - you get the surplus credit or good karma… which matters most… and then this action generates positive reaction from unexpected places.

[@mercy.delara]

@@joseluishuertasfernandez4892 I totally get you about #2. Ask God’s help, talk to God about your concerns. God is bigger than the pressures and situations and problems. Do your best and God can do the rest. If you feel you fail and still short, talk to God about your concerns and the unconscious will work for you but the power of the Holy Spirit to work in your life. Ask the Holy Spirit to fill you with what’s lacking; if it’s energy, low or crushed spirit… He will provide for those that are needed. The Word of God will also help you supply to have a renewed mind, energy and strength. Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.

[@Eraadeh]

Yes, number 2 for me is engaging in acts of service. Not necessarily for your family, but in general. When you are down, or confused, go and do something positive for others.

[@Onthe9thlife3730]

Yeah number 2 only works for people that were "takers" in terms of the give/take dynamics. If you're naturally a giver or were made one as a coping mechanism from traumatic experiences then it's useless.

[@cyberqueen777]

Going for a walk! I remember the documentary of Laura Ashley, the fashion designer from the 70's, together with her husband, whenever they felt stuck in their business, they always went for a long walk together and worked out what to do. Something about walking, it brings new ideas and perspective.

[@altron1009]

Very true Conor! Moving was a big one for me, I suffered from depression for many years, and I took that first step and started exercising half an hour a day, within a few days, I felt so much better. The worst thing someone can do when they are stressed, lost and depressed is not move! staying where they are and letting their thoughts take over them. One needs to break this cycle and start, no amount of medication cured me, in fact, it made me feel worse, thank you for sharing.

[@butterbear3521]

#2 is a little difficult for me at the moment because my pendulum swung too far in the taking care of others category. For the first time in my 41 years of life, I’m finally able to focus on myself and what I want instead of putting all my time, effort, and energy into others. It’s time to choose me. So instead of other- I need to focus more on self.

[@lawncare-4u849]

@@butterbear3521 same.... I forget myself and homelife, self-employed so used to helping people and seems odd when I'm not. Need to sort my own environment though

[@vivy45]

Wanting to get the job for my family would make me more nervous.

[@carolangeli1025]

@@butterbear3521 I hear ya. The giving well needs replenishing. I need, want and desire reciprocity. Even at a reduced rate of what I give / have given out would be awesome.

[@jace-the-coach]

Very good points. Totally agree. 1) Move your Body, can also mean: Move out of your comfort zone. I often advise my clients to do that as well as to 'move' away from historical or emotional ties which can often be a source of confusion.

[@franciscobarillas1463]

Connor I am retired, but with a lot of energy and I have prepared for my retirement, but it’s hard to start taking action, your MSG hit right on, 👍 thank you!🙏

[@za7125]

This was in right time because I'm now in this state... Thank you 💚

[@ConorNeill]

I'm glad it was helpful. A walk outside can really shift our emotional state. Even if it is just a walk around the block.

[@peter-e2q]

Writing is like counselling. The mess in your head has to be filtered into a topic in order to write about it. The mess in our head prevents us from living happily. If we try to tackle a single issue to remove some of the weight on our shoulders, another issue screams ‘WHAT ABOUT ME?’, and others join in. Counselling is about allowing this mess to emerge, writing forces the person, or rather, gives them space and purpose in order to allow their issues to emerge.

[@catalinamariei9037]

Thank you, Sir! Since I found your channel, a couple of months ago, not just I, at my midlife time, have found answers to my questions but, as I use to send the links to my 20yo daughter, she found valuable life lesons in it. So... 2xThank you!

[@ConorNeill]

I love that. I have 2 daughters and I am really just practicing my stories here so I can share the stories with them when they are searching for ideas ;-)

[@OreApampa]

This is great and succinct! I might suggest the acronym BOW instead to make it easier to remember Body - move it Other people - think of them Write to access the unconscious

[@stavokg]

Love this, thank you.

[@RufusToots420]

@@OreApampa BOW wow! 😅

[@williammartin2842]

Conor Sir, People drawn to your pleasant personality listen easily to the gems of wisdom you've dropped.

[@danielcanoniero7587]

I agree Conor. Journalling is one of the most important thing to understand what really matters. Thanks for all your inspirational notes

[@ConorNeill]

It has played a long term important role in my life

[@MrRhabibi]

This was one of the things got me to listen intently and got me thinking ! Thanks so much

[@JS-ld2qd]

What works like a charm is "if you think I'm qualified, I would love this job". Said at the end of the interview. Especially if you know you are someone who comes across as arrogant, dominant, bossy, or intimidating to people in general. And you will know you are that person because you would have heard that throughout your life. Not that you are but you can come across that way. This line softens your persona, calms the person down, and gives them the power. They will love you for it. I'm a #1 Recruiter.

[@GreenMap94]

In my phone only picture I have left is mine. And I've found out, in this lonely world only thing is matters to me is me. Thanks so much Sir.

[@raghavendrans5237]

Self-care is not selfish. Focus on a better you, happier you, healthier you. That is a great life mission to anchor into. All the best

[@ClementePablo-f8f]

@@raghavendrans5237 I like to remind people that it is ok to pray for yourself. So many people think that is is selfish, no but it is not. When on a plane and they are giving the instructions for lifesaving measures, the tell us to put your oxygen mask on first then help others! That’s what counts is to put yourself first. One Bible commandment summed up in the New Testament is: Love others as you love yourself… You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. ❤️

[@DeepThoughtver42]

Being in good spot yourself enables you to think of others. You talk about this lonely world. Perhaps looking after yourself will alter or even improve you so that you'll find someone to end that loneliness. That happened to me back 2019. I identified (forced myself to move even it was difficult) and wrote down the three main reasons that made my life very difficult and me unhappy, if not depressed. Once I isolated those three reasons, I made concrete action plan to resolve those problems, and change those things. Today I am rather content, and deeply love my Partner that I found as a result of changing some things in my life. I did not actively look for her, but our union was a result of me trying to improve myself and my situation. She gives me constant inspiration, clarity and strength to do more (thinking of others).

[@GreenMap94]

@@DeepThoughtver42 ❤️❤️❤️

[@neilmckay8649]

@@GreenMap94 great comments in this thread. Agree, love oneself first before others, this makes oneself more attractive for others to be around. Once you've topped up, then extend your kindness to others. I need to reset this quite often, I'm thinking of others too often, comes from being a provider from an early age. Take care

[@denist7085]

Thank you! The action via body (physical action) is really great and underestimated tool. Worst sample probably is going smoke with colleagues. Best - walk, run, go to jym Wish you too a lot of sunny days like this one 🙂

[@teddyboy252]

Good show

[@phoenix_heart1111]

Thanks Connor for this video. As we go through life challenges we forgot to basics gifts we can help ours and others. Well, 6 yrs ago i started this journey after my gf passed away.

[@StellanStephenson]

Thanks a lot just danced around at my office listening to this. I had fun! I’ll bring a notebook tomorrow. 📝

[@mirnacoca2419]

Thank you very much. Hello from Toronto Canada 🇨🇦 🍁 🇨🇦 🍁

[@MenMatters-sk5wg]

great content - I'm down and out, but I feel revived after this. THANK YOU

[@GuntherChuck]

Great post. I would suggest also starting every morning with reading a few pages in the Bible as well. Everything is nothing if you don’t have the Lord in your life.

[@simplyjoybible]

@@GuntherChuck 🙏 amen

[@carolinenjema7225]

@@GuntherChuck LOUDER 🔊📣📢

[@KateWitt]

I've never found comfort in the Bible. Most of it is pretty awful or just plain boring to read. Do you have specific passages you recommend?

[@lightlove1733]

@@GuntherChuck Amen Amen & AMEN 🙏

[@GuntherChuck]

@@KateWitt initially, i felt the exact same way. the old testament part of the bible is a really hard read. I would say start off in the New Testament. Romans is probably my favorite.. I also use other books called commentaries, that help you to understand it. I also watched tons of you tube videos. There are so many of them. It has been about a 5 yr journey for me. What I tell people is to just get a Bible and keep in near you. Sooner or later you will find your nose in it. God Bless.

[@bigacres]

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[@stankrajewski8255]

Your little post has inspired me to return to my Stoic routine. I have to thank the rain and the darkness for reminding me of the four seasons.

[@wirikyle]

Good stuff. Pretty simple if it’s put into practice. Probably the most insightful information on the internet right now. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

[@adrianparker-e9f]

When i was in my twenties, i was happy with the way i did things, but the problem was these ways weren't working for me ! I had been brought up with the idea of things such as being patient, looking on the bright side of things ( what was good ), not wanting 'more/better/anything'.

[@pamelaj1226]

How did you show up in my feed? Simple message, very profound. Thank you. Just what I needed today. You are also very handsome and have a lovely speaking voice. 😊

[@dazzagong]

Every time I watch your videos, I come away with inspiration. Thank you for what you do. Wishing you all the best.

[@ConorNeill]

Wow, thank you

[@mustakizahzakaria6800]

Thank you for sharing this information and knowledge with all of us in this digital space👏👏👏👍👍

[@ConorNeill]

My pleasure

[@Apneveien99]

Magic. Superb. Amazing. Thank you for this powerful message, Sir. I took this very seriously, wrote this down on a piece of paper and put my notes on my desk to remid myself of this wonderful wisdom.

[@musaquazi3495]

Thank you much for such a beautiful SHORT video.

[@peggyjofarr4577]

Thank you, Conor Neill!😊

[@rkug777]

Time for me to do this. I do yoga and I started meditation again. I think of others plenty. Upcoming expenses of my child’s wedding when I lost my job is making me nervous!! (34 yrs of professional work non stop and now this!!). We worked hard, saved hard too but still a horrible time to lose my job (as if there’s ever a good time lol). Ty

[@vincentcaudo-engelmann9057]

Sunny Saturday with coffee and a conversation. Thanks man. Em van agradar molt els teus consells.

[@ConorNeill]

moltes gracies!

[@lfprithivi]

A worthy piece to listen to.

[@leslieschmitt7749]

I love these ideas … Thank you!! 😍

[@neilcook1652]

This is your first content I’ve come across and found it very helpful, your other content looks useful too, subscribed, thanks

[@gerriewretham-roos]

I honestly thought is this guy going to jump off the roof. Pleased to see you are still here!💚

[@stavokg]

This is one of the most helpful, simply-put videos I’ve ever watched. And it couldn’t have come at a better time. Thank you!

[@ConorNeill]

Glad it was helpful!

[@AD-ph6ip]

Thank you !! This was great practical advice Much appreciated 🙏

[@christinasimmons8325]

Thank you for this! Have a great day!🌄

[@HellaBella-d4y]

Mr. Neill,,,thank you for this video...subscribed today!! I love how u deliver your information without much babble,,,u get straight to the point...🙏

[@jamesholdford4265]

Thank you. I am retired and stay busy. But i still need encouragement from others like you.

[@ConorNeill]

Best of luck!

[@Mutaaga13]

Got this one, u wakeup broke and helpless yet you have to feed your family pay bills and hate what u are experiencing, but this obe gives me hope ,get moving , avoid the comfort around you... thanks so much I've begun writting

[@talitaschrepp6070]

Thanks for these words, means a lot! 😊

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@mironavlad2270]

Thank you so much! ❤

[@the_Motherly_Manager]

Wonderful thoughts--especially Listening to the unconscious.

[@johnroche3829]

Truly worth paying attention to your key parting message summary.John Roche

[@mandychomps]

Such sound wisdom 👏👏👏👏👏 adds meaning and restores clarity and confidence ... changes your mindset to keep moving forward 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌❤

[@lorenaescoto2780]

Thank you, Sir. Your words are diligent, kind, gentle, and attached to real-life experiences. Thank you.

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@MuhammadSaleem-st4dc]

Hi Sir: I love your convincing thoughts ! You are a source of inspiration and a model to look for! Keep sharing and we will desperate to learn from you! Alots of loves from Pakistan!!

[@SyedHasan-c8m]

Thank you Sir. You are a source of both learning and feeling calm.

[@jacquigriffiths5877]

Brilliant....thankyou, I enjoyed that...1 do 1 and 3 but hadn't thort of 2 ....great way to start a day

[@colby6512]

Beautiful content. I just watched a few of your videos, they’re excellent and I believe meeting me at the right time.

[@adisciple]

Very grateful, Thank you Sir, good, clear advice. May you always be well. 🙏♥️

[@lyndarobertson6118]

Excellent advice sir❤

[@stewartjones4558]

Thanks Conor, Very timely 👍🏼

[@PlatoCave]

This content is gold. I greatly appreciate this.

[@pitbed]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and motivating videos. For me, it is activities as well as breath exercises. In the next few days, I will try to paint/draw more and see what comes out!

[@ConorNeill]

At the retreat last week there was a breathwork session... and I can remember when I used to do a lot of scuba diving, how well I felt after a dive... and I think a lot of it has to do with the way scuba diving forces me to really slow down my breathing

[@JM-yd9sm]

#1 works with me to a point- then I feel as if I’m just this madman wandering around for miles with no real idea of why, or to what point. I see all the people around me with lives and it leaves me feeling even more alienated. But I agree it helps with the feelings of anxiety .

[@deweyburns7409]

in a job interview think about what is important to the interviewer and the company's interest like it's the people you care about in your life and they will feel like your already a part of the business family and welcome you

[@Pavlo_Polupan]

Another week - another great advice! Thank you for sharing your wisdom, and thank you for inspiration

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏 glad you guys keep coming back!

[@nilanthad]

Thank you Conor. You add value to many peoples lives who watch your videos. Thank you!!!

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@JaneNewAuthor]

Saving this, thank you.

[@sunset8126]

Your lecture was way better than I thought it was. Thanks so much.

[@carolinemiles4528]

Thank you for this😊

[@raghavendrans5237]

Thank you Timely message for a #happynewyear

[@leowalia2263]

❤ thanks you sir.....

[@prestonoliver6729]

Well spoke, lad. Couldn't agree more.

[@andreashulten2161]

Really good! Hope you have a nice spring! 🤗

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you! You too!

[@muhammadshabir4628]

Thank you so much sir I was really confused and you help me a lot in my life thank you so much🤗👍😗

[@theraymondsjolseth]

This is a fantastic message. Thank you for sharing. 🙏

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@lutaseb]

Nice vidéo. Regarding the get the body moving, I would even say that even if you don't know what to do, just think about what you've done, the expected results and the observed outcomes might just create new opportunities

[@ConorNeill]

;-) true

[@mariannemontague-calhoun8866]

This is unusual, very helpful thoughts….. Thank you Sir!

[@tombrownrigg8794]

Thank you very much

[@irreduciblerascal]

Yes, a very important message, thank you for sharing

[@MellowWind]

Sweet, simple. Thanks.

[@BlueBeeMCMLXI]

Parts of this were practices of the ancient Roman legion, sir. They understood the morale created by forward movement. Keeping a day book, large size, helps me to backtrack and avoid overthinking, but also not forgetting what is vital to do. What's in your head when you wake up - write that down. People who matter are my stumbling block - I can get obsessed about one person, sometimes this powers me. I suppose making it a practice is the difference and spread my thoughts of others widely.

[@YSapphireGroup]

Wonderful -thx ❤

[@MoshieJ]

Excellent, simple advice - Thank you!

[@JeffJohnsonWIFO]

This was very helpful, concise and well-presented. Thank you!

[@gaylewatson818]

Timely. Thank you!

[@myl3351]

Thank you, sir, for sharing. I really needed it.

[@AlexandreEdison]

Fantastic video ❤️👏🏻🙏🏻

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙌

[@ashokanselliah9571]

Wonderful video. Really appreciate.

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@lucybecker8]

That was helpful. Thanks.

[@debralegge8513]

Thank you. Great info, very powerful.

[@junecaine2500]

Thank you This is sound, practical advice that any one can easily do to help get them unstuck, it's not magic but do it for a few days and you will start to get answers. Good to get practical advice rather than lots of airy fairy rheteric

[@ConorNeill]

Absolutely!

[@naturestudy3223]

it really works ….thank you !

[@celtcelt2669]

Thank you! Will do

[@sidkharab2633]

Any action is better than no action

[@explainerajay4499]

Thanks for the great advice ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@petera2133]

Love this content 😊

[@johnwhite7320]

Thanks Conor.

[@juliesunnydaze]

Excellent

[@prakashlingam9751]

Thanks for your inspiration words

[@michellemaldonado2270]

Very helpful ❤

[@Amitesh38]

Thank you

[@ConorNeill]

You're welcome