41. Becoming Adult

[@McCaffreyMelon]

I turn 18 in about a month and it has dawned on me that Peter Pan will no longer accept me into Neverland and I'm not sure if I can deal with that

[@miajohn592]

Tweetzi omg

[@Mina-gf6ez]

Tweetzi same 😞

[@NoteyouraveRage]

🤣

[@morematcha]

Now i can't deal with that

[@fernandamorales3017]

This really hit me. I'm 17 which is pretty young. But I am scared of growing up, of becoming an adult because although I don't know when that will be exactly I know it's going to happen. I wish I could stay this young for a longer time than it's expected to.

[@erinkd99]

maria fernanda morales Im in the same boat 😞

[@jemmaj9840]

maria fernanda morales you've nothing to fear. My advice, do what YOU want, always strive to make yourself happy, the rest will fall into place. Don't give any thought to growing up, keep childlike wonder and see beauty in all things. Nothing has to be as serious as some people make out. You will be more than fine xxx

[@paulmcgorian5712]

+Jemma J never pursue happiness . accomodate happiness but never hold on to it . you learn much more from suffering and sorrow . But dont wallow in suffering either or fall into the trap of self pity . you will become bitter if you do so. Always prepare for each stage of yr life . adulthood included while simultaneously retaining a childlike view which is always part of you . Dont always do what you want this is not wise . Do what is needed and what is fair and just and loving . put others interests in front of your own and your relationships will flourish . Although you are not a doormat either . if you marry it will be successful provided you both are willing to sacrifice and suffer with and for the other . If not the marriage will dissolve .

[@gracegayden7716]

I'm in the exact same place - just graduated high school and the 'real world' is looming , it's pretty frightening for an inexperienced 17 year old. But hey, the world is our oyster (oysters are gross but adults like them, and that's what all the adults keep telling me)

[@jemmaj9840]

Grace Gayden you're funny!! The unknown is pretty scary, but I guess the trick is, is to see it like an adventure. Things change so quickly and we end up in places we never thought we could be. Every part of your life, every situation you end up in, you're supposed to experience. So just go with the flow! Try and move into something you're interested in, because believe me, trying to live up to other people's expectations will leave you feeling numb. You matter and you are more than entitled to live your life the way you want to! So try not to fear, just roll with it! Go where your heart is happiest and you feel joy, you can never go wrong if you do so

[@sdcopp]

At age 36 I feel like an old man commenting haha, but I appreciate this video as a parent of a 12 yr old who in no short order will soon be struggling with this same concept of "growing up" and "becoming an adult". This is one I'm sharing with her for sure I will tell you the secret you eventually discover as you progress in life, being an adult is absolute freedom to make your life whatever you want it to be, but that freedom comes with the responsibility of making it happen. Growing into your life doesn't have to take your carefree spirit away in the process. Don't be afraid of the unknown of growing older, that never goes away regardless of if you're 16, 26, 36 and on. There will always be the unknown and there will always be change in life.

[@cinemoni]

I just graduated college and I've now moved to a new city, trying to find a job. It's all too scary honestly, I've never really thought of myself as an adult and it's hitting me pretty hard. But yeah, hopefully I'll get a hang of it soon!

[@AlexJima]

you'll get a great job! i'm sure! you have very good videos! ;)

[@cinemoni]

ahh thank you so much alex

[@adc_15]

my thoughts exactly, I´m moving to a new country to try to find a job and it feels so scary but awesome as well

[@janelleaina958]

im pretty sure you're working now :) i hope it all turned out great

[@idksreeja]

idk what it is, i really feel at peace when i watch your videos

[@beckwilde]

"if anything, life gets better... it has for me, anyway" 😊 when you said this it made me smile. Knowing that things do get better.. its comforting

[@Katherout]

thought this was gonna be a plug for Arden's book!

[@josepha133]

I'm scared of becoming an adult. I am only 20 years old, relatively young, but already I feel like time is running out and like I'm gonna be 90 and on my death bed soon. Like honestly, it scares the shit out of me how quickly time is passing by and my childhood seems like only a couple of years away and the thought that in no time at all I'll be 30... it freaks me out.

[@saidammari3821]

Mareeen14 same here

[@albertd2634]

Any updates?

[@candidlyclaudine1070]

This really resonates with me. I'm 16 years old tomorrow and I'm already scared that I'm running out of time. I'm scared that I will never be able to do what I want with my life, because I compare what I've done with my life to what other people have done with their lives and it terrifies me.

[@misslawless6021]

I'm turning 16 in less than a month and I'm worried about time and knowing what i want to do with life

[@sabrinaatanasiu8398]

Candidly Claudine i turned 16 a month ago and feel EXACTLY the same... guess we'll figure things out :)

[@TejexLeto]

I'm 20 and I still don't know what I'm doing with my life :) and at this point, I don't care :D as long as you are happy with where you are at the moment and you do what you love, that is all that matters :) yeah, future matters also, but you'll figure that out :D

[@IsmayRose]

I'm 17 soon, but in my 16th year of life I learned that growing up and changing is obviously scary but it's also amazing. You still have so much time left and it's perfectly ok to not know what you're going to do with that time in the future.

[@MsAmarie87]

Candidly Claudine I'm almost 30 and I don't think I will ever know what I want to do with my life. I have accomplished all the things I had dreamt of in my early 20's, and I still don't know what I want. You will realize that when you achieve certain goals, you are usually left wanting more. What I can tell you is, travel the world, meet new people, collect moments not things and you will be just fine!

[@badjjrocks]

22 and still terrified.

[@serene9528]

Be brave and everything will be OK - a 17 year old advice -

[@NosajKnows]

24, how you doin'

[@emmanash1235]

"Our parents are just us with a few years added on top." Will Darbyshire 12/16 This is now written on my hand. I'm not kidding it's there

[@iAmBaconn]

I love Will's videos!

[@iAmBaconn]

who else?!

[@IsmayRose]

I'm turning 17 in a few weeks and I just had my first job (it was only temporary) I also started college a few months ago. I've grown up so much more in the past year than I have in a long time and whilst it's been a bit scary, it's also been amazing. I've come to realise also that adults are just older and wiser versions of ourselves that just guessed their way through life to get where they are today, much like what we are all doing now. It's taken me a while to realise becoming an adult is not instant, we are just learning and growing everyday. This video was much needed Will, thank you for sharing your thoughts. Love this, and you.

[@Lilsprinklesandsalt]

I turned 18 a few days ago! I was really scared, thank you for this :')

[@rachit]

CONGRATS TO YOU AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY

[@Lilsprinklesandsalt]

RACHiT SiNGH Thank you :)

[@isaginationchannel]

Flicking Things I subbed! Please sub back? 😁 I'm trying to reach 300!

[@myerwerl]

Aastha Sethi i am turning 19 in january and i still dont know what i did in my 18.

[@mollgrn]

Aastha Sethi Aww don't be scared, I'm turning 19 in 2 days (december 20th), I was a bit worried too when I turned 18 but my year of being 18 has been a pretty fun and exciting one, I hope yours is too. ☺️

[@anuj95ification]

Man his and Jack's videos are always thought provoking and always make me happy :D

[@MarieBerndtsson]

Anuj Khullar jack who? :o

[@Shafi.Islam_]

Anuj Khullar yeah Jack who?

[@teatimeat8]

therealbaws maybe jacksgap?

[@anuj95ification]

Marie Berndtsson​ I am talking about jacksgap. The channel is run by twins and they are good friends with Will

[@lilmunchkin3497]

Everytime you upload I find myself smiling.

[@toffiepie927]

this made me cry and I don't know whyy ;(

[@miajohn592]

Holly B me too

[@luciaj8367]

you are not the only one

[@Dimasstywan]

Becoming an Adult is the best thing ever, i used to be so scared of growing up for all of the responsibilities but if you don't waste your time and starting things u always dream of as your responsibly, it's so exciting, idk why people always stuck wanna go back in high school, i hated high school tbh i was living in a small pound with limited subject and the way of thinking, in university people are different people are diverse so many things u can discover ! so don't waste your adulthood :) !

[@DianesW0rld]

I've already became more aware of responsibilities because I've had pressure to be mature and grow up sooner than I should've. That's alright I guess in the long run it'll help me along the way

[@Emily_nb]

Wills videos are so relaxing and distressing. Love and need it x

[@shayla9904]

i try not to think about it too much, i feel as though i should live my childhood fully and think about adulthood when the time comes

[@ais4967]

Sounds like Will is..... Almost Adulting (by Arden Rose)

[@f.y579]

despite turning 18 this year I still feel like I'm much younger, like I haven't experienced enough of the world to feel wise and mature for my age + I also physically look younger. maybe university next year could change that? I hope

[@amyvanderhoven9751]

I'm so in love with his personality.

[@S3nny333]

Legit u don't know how much I fucking appreciate u as a human being. When ever I watch ur videos it brings a smile to my face ( corny I know) but i appreciate u sooooo very much Hun!!

[@anthieuhh]

I'm turning 19 in 5 days and I am terrified for the very reasons you stated in this video, i'm scared that with each year gone by I am running out of time to be and feel alive. I'm still trying to figure out so many scary things, changing university degree, getting a job, essentially being responsible. This video calmed me down a whole lot actually.

[@mill__er]

I'm 18 and I'm not really worried about getting older, I just can't wait to actually start working on projects I care about & devoting more of my time to the things I love rather than to school :')

[@greengrassvids]

being an adult scares me too....I still don't feel old enough to say i'm 20 next month! Ive been missing your work so much, so glad you uploaded!!! Love the animation too, what sparked your inspiration for this video topic?

[@yunyunpilled]

greengrassvids aye me too

[@mayajoy7248]

you have no idea how reassuring i found this. thank you❤

[@Ksiciliani]

I like how you talk of the gradual process. I'm 20 now, and I have my own house at University away from home. My "adulthood" so far has been a mix of wishing I had my mom around to take care of me when I'm sick and cook me dinner when I'm too tired, and being happy that I'm now on my own. I grown yo love that I make all of my decisions for myself, because is the beginning that was quite daunting. it can seem intimidating when you have no one to fall back on but yourself, but that idea also leaves so much room to love yourself more than you ever have. It's beautiful, really.

[@kywhal3]

When I was a lot younger, I used to love the idea of becoming an adult, because unlike you, I thought that adulthood was when I finally got to do whatever I wanted. But I've grown a lot since then , and I now know that being an adult comes with many responsibilities. But since then, a lot of things have happened as well. Things to change my mindset, my personality, and mainly, my ideal future. One major thing was that I moved from one country to another. Well, actually, it's more like, I moved from one country to another, and then back to the first country. And I never wanted to go back. I wanted to stay where I was and be there forever, because I had basically grown up there and it was everything that I knew and loved. But obviously, that didn't happen, and I moved, and I became a depressing, lonely, pessimistic person. And that's who I am today. And what this has to do with my image of adults, is that since this sudden change in my life, all I've ever wanted to do is go back, even if it means leaving my family behind. I honestly don't know if I could keep on living here my entire life. So that's my personal image of my adulthood: finally being back in that country, back where I belong, where I feel like myself again. And I daydream about it constantly, it's all I ever think about. And I realize that this might be very shallow of me, to have a certain wonderful image of being an adult, just because of one thing, one place, when there are so many things that can make it worse, but honestly, I don't care. I can't wait to become an "adult" and finally be back where I feel at home.

[@maliha7297]

I don't want to become older. I honestly want to stay young forever

[@ginagomez6311]

I'm 21 and I'm pretty terrified

[@brendenpollock1499]

I'm about to turn 18 and just got accepted to my top choice university the other day. I really needed this message; thank you for sharing it.

[@alejandrocastro2711]

Hey Will! I have something about adulthood to share. A few months back, I was in my last year of uni. I was 24 and I was all about going out, drinking, and that stuff that people tend to do while in university. Spring break came around, and I was headed home. I got my plane ticket, and called my dad to tell gim I'd arrive later that day. Got on the plane, arrived safely, and got picked up. Everything was normal. My dad's driver then told me that my dad had fallen and hit his head, and that he was in the hospital, but didn't say it was anything serious. When I got to the hospital, I was in shock when I saw my dad with a huge bruise and blood. Long story short, surgery got complicated, and he passed away. It was the most difficult moment in my entire life. I had to quit school, to go back and continue with the family business (which I had no experience at, nor any knowledge on how to do so), which meant that I had to mature in certain aspects of my life. I really had no choice but to do so. I stopped being that typical college dude, and became an adult at 24. Life is full of lessons. That's my take on life, and what keeps me going.

[@AliceRed]

I've always been scared of adulthood, but it hasn't been that bad so far - in fact, things just get better as you said. Really enjoyed this.

[@BreeLefler]

I definitely needed this video today! I'm 18 and moving out tomorrow, and all I can feel right now is terrified. This helped chill me out a little bit, thank you!

[@psychmakiio5925]

Thank you Will, seriously. I needed this. I'm turning 18 in May and the only thing I want is to enjoy life. Do a bunch of stuff, mean something, be someone. Don't know how to explain it but the only fear I have is being monotonous in life. My goal in life is to not have a routine like people expect. There are so many things I want to do and right now I'm in a shitty place but I feel like once I move (incoming year) and becoming an adult, my life will really start. But this helped me a bit.

[@aurinkoniina9109]

i'm actually turning 20 tomorrow and this video made me feel a lot better about it so thank you!!

[@anthieuhh]

Happy Birthday for tomorrow

[@aurinkoniina9109]

anthie uhh thank you!! ❤️

[@gabbyhoran98]

Nicely timed, Will. Thank you.

[@dakoduh]

i love when you upload

[@RukayaCesar]

I kind of hate being an adult because it feels like it happened way too quickly for me. My mum died when I was 19 and so I suddenly lost my support, had so much to deal with in terms of the funeral, finances, house stuff etc and now there's a roll on effect from that of feeling like I don't have a 'proper home' as usually that's the place with your parent(s) and as well I have to do all the scary forms and stuff all by myself haha. So for me adulting kinda sucks, but hopefully one day it'll start getting better.

[@AbigailJoyyy]

Will, I really loved your input on this topic :) - I definitely want to simply be a wiser version of myself in the future, and to hold on to what makes me "me". You know? Also, your videos are super calming. Perfect for a Sunday.

[@freyax8534]

Thanks Will.....I turn 18 this year and this was a perfect video as I'm feeling quite overwhelmed. Your videos are the best therapy xx

[@am-wr6ws]

thank you so much for this, you are the kind of person we need more of in the world xx

[@teodorabibu8895]

Growing up feels like losing parts of you, whether it is your innocence, your permanent smile or your imagination. The ever-growing amount of stress tourns the future into a disastrous thought. We're so often told to enjoy every moment that it adds extra pressure on us. But why can't the adulthood be fun? I guess it is up to us and I'm sure not to give up on happiness without a fight. Will I really hope you find magic in your early twenties, as they are just a phase like any other. Lots of love.

[@rayanicole9167]

Thanks will. My perspective of life has changed over the past few years and you have put this into words in such an amazing way. I am still terrified of having to be an adult but seeing that there are other people with the same feelings really comforts me. so thanks to everyone

[@JamesDaniels104]

"becoming an adult is only as scary as you make it", that really had an impact on me will! i'm turning 18 in january, and for the past year i've been stressing over so much stuff thinking that if i haven't made all the important decisions by that, time then it will be too late. But thinking that just a little less than 2 years ago i was this awkward teenager with low self esteem, i know that in maybe 2 years or more i'll look back and remember the confused and stressed over unimportant stuff teenager that i am right now the same way.

[@Idiiz123]

I'm actually turning 18 tomorrow so this popping up in my subscription box now felt like a sign! It's so nice to have heard your words, and my anxiety about the future does not feel as bad anymore!

[@eviedavenport13]

This video really resonated with me. Adulthood scares me because I don't feel ready for that level of independence but your more positive viewpoint has really helped me be a little more objective on the subject. Thank you :)

[@LilJo94]

I was never scared of becoming an adult. I don't think I ever really gave it too much thought but I think, when I did, I thought I was ready for it. Being here, now at 21, I know that I was very ill-equipped for an adult life. With no guidance and mentoring it's really hard to navigate becoming the adult you want to be. You kind of just feel stuck in the middle and alienated, especially when you look around you and see that all your mates seem to be figuring it out and you're evidently lagging comparatively and everyone keeps asking you what you're going to do now that you're out of uni.

[@avivkomissar1809]

I've missed this kind of videos Will, thank you so much

[@elizabethrose7576]

Will, For the past six months especially, I have realized that I'm becoming an adult, and it terrifies me. What if my SAT scores are rubbish? What if I don't get accepted into a good college? What if I never actually become satisfied with who I am? Because at the moment I am very much not. What if I end up alone? What happens if my entire existence has been pointless? I've been plagued with these thoughts and it hasn't been well for my mental state. I know this all sounds quite dramatic but it kind of should be. However, becoming a part of your community has been an absolute wondrous experience. Your content is calming and gives me hope that what I choose to do with my life won't end up being all for naught. You do good things here, and I can't wait to see what else you create. I hope you see this and realize how big of an impact you've had on me; because you have. You've taught us to be slower, to be kinder, to be connected, and to hope. I'm incredibly thankful for you. If all of this didn't make sense I'm sorry I've had two bowls of ice cream and its rather late in America. much love my fren.

[@Livita8o]

In midst of my own "oh my god, I just turned 20" -crisis, this was very nice! thank you Will. Adulthood, or becoming 20, scares me, since it feels like I should have accomplished so much more, than I actually have... But you're right, there's absolutely no stress :)

[@martakwiatkowska4159]

I needed that. I'm 19, live on my own, study at uni, don't know what to do with my life and I'm quite scared of making choices. This video helped me notice that adulthood is just a big word, that is used way too often.

[@ciarabyrne7989]

In the past few months, I've gone from being told what to do every day in school to travelling to a city an hour away every day for university. Now that I'm off for Christmas I've just started my first ever job working full time and I feel as though adulthood has quickly snuck up on me. I'm only 18 and I know that this is just the start. Thinking about becoming an adult used to scare me but now the prospect has become much more exciting. I will have money to travel to the places that I've always wanted to visit. I will eventually be able to afford to move out and have my own place. This, to me, has become less daunting and more exhilarating with this newfound freedom!

[@CynthiaNovillo]

Since I discovered your channel a little over a year ago, I have learned to look at life and its little things in a whole new different way. You are so incredibly wise... I don't even know haha :) but really, I don't care if you don't upload as frequently as others because when you do, I know why it was worth the wait. Have an awesome 2017, Will!

[@femmechientv]

I was waiting for a real video so thank you Will! Recently I had a huge hit to my face and guess what that was... a mid-teen crisis and Lucy portrayed that so good. I turned nineteen last month, and I'm ready to figure life out

[@kikutachan7885]

Sometimes I don't know if I should watch your videos...because you always make me cry. Such beauty in your words..jesus. 😭❤

[@13jkjkjk]

I had to write a whole essay on this for my writing class!

[@taniamoarefi2321]

I'm turning 18 soon and I'm honestly scared out of my mind. I feel like I haven't accomplished everything I've wanted to, and uni is coming soon, so stresses come with that. Anyway, I'm just trying to keep sane and stay true to myself. My fear of the future is not knowing (anything) and not achieving all my dreams. Trying to stay positive, and this video was comforting, so thank you.

[@lauren1389]

I recently turned 21, and a few months prior to my birthday my boyfriend and i had broken up as i wasn't happy about being unsure about where my life was going, which paths I wanted to take into adulthood. So basically me being unsure about what i want to do with my life, led us to break up. Even now I'm still scared of adulthood.

[@user-st2cw1ly7e]

like that you mention the media. I remember seeing a head line a while back about taylor swift talking about "aging gracefully"..when she had just turned 24! If most of us live into our 60's, perhaps a little longer even...24 a good ways away from that. I do think media dwells quite a lot on youth, and it makes sense in a lot of ways, but sometimes I think this omission of people in their 30's or 40's and even older can give us a distorted of what life i like after 18. Sure, as a kid you don't have all these responsibilities, but you also have very little freedom! you can't drive and most days are kept in a school building for the majority of the day, your time is completely planned out for you. turning 20 was something I dreaded for so long, and when I woke up, I found I was still me, just a little older.

[@lbohren2485]

Watching this on my eighteenth birthday ❤️

[@ingridt.2952]

I had forgotten how much I loved your videos, Will. And as a person who turned 18 a little more than a month ago, this was helping, a lot and I am scared of going to university and start my own independent life but at the same time I am excited to be my own boss and not rely on my family

[@bonsthoughts]

I thought this video was to promote Arden's book but nope here I am crying because of how much I relate to him and how much I wish I could be just as free as Will described. Goodness, what a world.

[@candeladefilippis3375]

I had just finished school, and I'm turning 18 in two weeks! I'm really exited, because I'm anxious about the future that will come. University, new people, my career, my passion, and maybe work, are the new things that this 2017 will bring. I have to admit that I am a little bit scared, but in other way I'm really hoping it :) Happy holidays guys!

[@rebecamayorga761]

wow, i turn 18 today and this video corresponds with my own thoughts and fears of what adulthood meant. thank you will. x

[@reylovelucky]

It always surprises me that Will knows exactly how to word his thoughts.. or maybe it just seems that way.. I feel like the scariest thing about becoming an adult is the fear of losing who you are

[@fin6695]

Leading up to the day I turned 18 and for months afterwards I was constantly having breakdowns and was wanting it end my life. I'll be forever grateful for two people who are helping me get through this, and because of them I was currently able to finish high school and I'm realising that my future has so many possibilities and if I end my life I will never be able to achieve any of them.

[@NegativeFeedback]

Loved this

[@BreakyourboundariesTv]

Great video man. I'm also 23, and I often think about this too. In my opinion, I feel growing and becoming mature is natural, but it's essential to hold on to our child-like sense of wonder and curiosity...such a strange transition. Thanks for being so authentic and honest.

[@Lina-ml9pz]

this really comforted me. I'm turning 18 in about 1 month and a few days, i'll be graduating school summer '17 and i did think i need to have everything figured out till the moment i leave school. Thanks Will especially the fact that our parents are just wiser version of ourselves made me kind of excited.^.^

[@fiz7276]

i'm so glad you made this. i'm only fifteen, so obviously nowhere close to being an adult. all my friends have always sort of, in a way, glorified being an adult, and wanted to be one meanwhile i absolutely dread it. i still don't know exactly what i want to be and the thought that i'll have to make that decision one day completely scares me. thank you so much for making adulthood seem a little less scary. (:

[@annieoosthuizen8296]

I feel the same way, Will! I often wonder if my parents really, truly, feel like 'adults.' I came to the conclusion you did... where they are really still young at heart but their perspectives have changed. Thank you for sharing!

[@daniellamarchuk]

Wow. I found your channel at a very very hard time in my life and every single video you made is applying to my life in such a perfect way. Thank you for making videos and thank you for being you. I hope you blow up and get millions and millions of subscribers. You definitely deserve it.

[@EmmyHucker]

Your films never fail to make me think. Thank you for the calm you have brought to my day ❤

[@jazzhorne2579]

your videos are so valid and well made I seriously appreciate them

[@catherineoliver4726]

i'm 16 almost 17 and everyone around me seems to be growing up faster than me and doing more adult things like getting jobs and driving and i felt pressured like i wasn't mature enough because i wasn't doing these things, but this video helped a lot and made me realise that while we begin to do more adult things we can still be young at heart and it's a process that everyone goes through at different times, so thank you x

[@syobamme]

I'm 18 next year and I don't think anyone can possibly dread their birthday more than I am right now

[@syobamme]

I loved this video so much Will!

[@natalieelessar]

Emma Boys NO I SWEAR ILL BE DREADING IT MORE THAN YOU, im also turning 18 next year and im absolutely terrified. Im too anxious to have a job and i dont know what my life is going to be like after highschool. I feel like i wont be seeing my friends anymore because i only see them at school and ill be a hermit, at home... My future seems as bright as the black whole in my mind, turning 18 is horrifying. I feel like my childhood is over and i never got to accomplish anything, like ive lost my chance and everything will be over soon. Its like the best my life can be is ending in less than a year

[@syobamme]

Natalie Carstairs you and I both, my parents really want me to get a job and start earning my own money so I can pay my way, but I actually despise the thought of applying for one, having to have an interview and having to interact with people everyday😞 As for not seeing friends anymore, I've been parted from mine having decided to go to different colleges/sixth forms and I've been faced with having to try and make new ones - it's daunting but also worth it because I've been lucky enough to meet some pretty cool people😊 I literally couldn't agree more! I feel as if I need to get my act together and there's so much I have to do that seems so adult to me (e.g. looking at universities and deciding what I want to do with my life - I have no clue), it's scary. What I will say is, I'm trying to be positive, so you and I we can do this. We'll turn 18 and hate it, but we'll survive it and everything that has to come with having spent eighteen years on this planet. I wish you the best of luck with finishing high school and staying in contact with your friends. Make sure to put the effort in to keep in contact with them, but if you're not receiving the effort back then you know it's not worth it. Also, I believe you can achieve things that you might have wanted to do in previous years that may be associated more with being 'young' and not with an eighteen year old, you just have to schedule it in when you can, in between other things, so when you're at home maybe not hanging out with your friends you could do one of those things you've always wanted to do. Just because we potentially associate turning eighteen with adulthood and 'not having fun anymore', doesn't mean you can't do it. All the best, Emma❤

[@natalieelessar]

Emma Boys thank you so much... I have so much anxieties about going off on my own and going through the job process like you described, i just also feel like ive wasted my teen years and now that its pretty much over, theres nothing left out there for me! Im so so scared of my future i dont have a clear view of it like others. I hope the best for you and i hope we'll get through this together! Its great that your optimistic about it x

[@dianagomes7673]

Emma Boys omg me too😭😭😭 kind of excited but kind of scared

[@stasykendel1265]

I'm stressing so much about becoming older because so many responsibilities fall onto your shoulders and I'm so afraid of messing my life up. Getting used to more adult things takes time. And your video helped me to realise that. We shouldn't be afraid of it. Adulthood isn't a race. There are many scary things concerning adulthood but our whole life is full of scary things as well. We shouldn't be afraid of it.

[@jennadougherty3821]

My dad told me a few years ago that as you get older, the greater your experiences get, but also the greater your struggles get. Which makes me both scared and excited to become an adult.

[@izzberry7340]

Will is seriously my spirit animal

[@SvenVee]

I'm 19,5 years old (give or take), and I most definitely don't feel like I have all that many responsibilities. Just trying to get my uni degree (which I actually find interesting) + trying to work a lot since I feel like I'm in my golden years where I have to make something out of my life haha. I also feel like my life has gotten better over the last 2 years (and is still improving) :)

[@SvenVee]

so peeps under 18, don't worry bottomline. :)

[@cometconfetti]

Well, now I feel super old due to the comment section. XD I'm 26 and have a job and married and adulting but not quite sure if I'm adulting correctly. I've always wanted to make videos but put them off till now. Sometimes I feel like I kinda wasted my youth away not doing what I always wanted to do. But sometimes I feel that I'm over reacting and is still young and not old as I think I am.

[@kayvids8772]

Make those videos!

[@данон-д8п]

i've always seen adulthood as being able to manage your life in the way you want to, be free from depending on someone. as i'm 16 now i still can't wait the moment i leave my native city and start own life - suppose i'm ready to go through hell rn, but be able to eat whatever i want (as my parent don't support me being a vegetarian and i'm really upset with it), go wherever i want to (honestly i'm ready to work 24/7 if afterwards i can travel a bit). i'm ready for everything, but i just cannot stay here, with all these people, with inability of making my own choices and my own mistakes. there are so many opportunities in the world, and i constantly feel like i'm simply missing everything out. i don't want my mental health depend on anyone as well (which is actually fragile by this point) guess it all depends on what was your childhood like, and as i was mostly at home craving to go out and learn - i get what i get.

[@rarefiction4690]

im 15 and i just applied for college and im so scared of responsibilites being thrown at me

[@thussain2000]

rarefiction me af😭

[@rarefiction4690]

***** england, its my last year of high school im in year 11, i will be 16 soon

[@marinams4576]

in America college starts after 12th grade is complete...im 15 living in California and college seems so distant!

[@TheseOpenRoads]

lol hold on to your hat

[@xKittenation]

As long as you work hard and stay dedicated, you'll be okay. Everyone goes through this at one point in their lives. You can do it!

[@jasminec1245]

Did anyone else think this was going to be a promo for Arden's book?

[@maurakay1917]

Jasmine Tea -yus! And he could've at least mentioned it 😂😂

[@ronanballantyne6221]

I turn 18 next year so I actually really appreciated this video as it was kind of a nice thing to help me stress less. I've been having an awful few months due to being stressed about next year and responsibilities and not knowing who I am or what I want.

[@LileeVT]

I'm turning 17 on tuesday...my life has been a real trainwreck dealing with family issues, serious mental problems, and just plain struggling through life on its own. I'm going to be going into my final year of secondary school and I have everyone on my back asking me and telling me I have to start figuring out what I wanna do in life and what university I want to go to, and I've been terrified. sitting in the counselor's office almost everyday of the week missing classes cause I cannot handle how fast my life is going and how unhappy and unsuccessful I feel I've been. but, I've come to realize, how much more I've matured in life, experiencing all the terrible things I have, has made me who I am and I feel like I am growing so quickly. almost too quickly, cause the people around me are trying to deal with problems that I know how to deal with so simply and there is no one around me to help support me because I feel I'm at a different stage in life for being as young as I am..(not to sound narcissistic or anything I just feel I experienced and learned to solve these problems at a younger age and so now I'm stuck, trying to find people like me..)but this truly calmed some of my nerves for the future, and I know that growing up and becoming an adult is not a scary thing anymore. its nice to feel not so alone

[@evammooi]

i needed this. your voice is calming. thank you :)

[@tuesttresbete]

I thought this was going to be a plug to Arden's book lol woooo love you both

[@lanid6507]

Lovely video ☺️ this is one of the things I like most about our generation, that we're all figuring things out together and realising actually, nobody's grown up, we're all just doing the best we can. Everything will be fine as long as we stay young at heart x

[@eliser6602]

I turned 18 and also started college this year, and I felt those same exact things. I thought that being in college I would suddenly become a completely different person and suddenly know exactly what I want to do, but then I realized that isn't true at all. It's a slow process that takes time to figure out. I loved this video so much (and all your other ones), thanks Will x

[@jan2365]

I'm 20 in 2 months and work part time and go to school part time. I wouldn't have my life any other way. I feel so much better now than I did at 16.

[@hollyleafpro]

This is so nice to hear, I'm proper struggling with the growing up concept, so to hear that it's a gradual process sounds more comforting. Thank you, always a pleasure to hear your thoughts and discoveries 😊👌🏽

[@letmesleep7186]

i'm turning 18 soon, and I am in fact scared but I guess I'm excited at the same time, I'm wondering what'll happen in my life

[@AndrewKNI]

Whatever your age, enjoy it because life's challenges just keep on coming the older one gets.

[@lizziecallaghan4995]

I'm excited for being an adult. The thing I see most people being scared of regarding being older is what they think they're "leaving behind" and that life is just set in stages, particularly for my friend. She enjoys compartmentalising things and saying that things like marriage, children, travel, etc are for certain parts of your life and that some things you just don't do when you're older, which I get in some ways, because it's logical and makes sense some of the time, but I can't say I totally agree. I just turned 23 a few weeks ago and still feel incredibly young but I think that's because I still enjoy things associated with being young like watching cartoons, playing on playgrounds, dancing around in the rain and puddles, that sort of thing. At the same time as still enjoying all of these things, I'm simultaneously looking forward to the adultness of having a job, having money, a proper place to live, and enjoying the freedom to do what I want, travel whenever/wherever, not having a partner or any kids to think about at the moment, etc. I don't like it when people think they have to abandon their childlike pleasures for a few years of ageing, I just think there's too much of a stigma surrounding both what people think "youth" is versus what "adult" is. They're not polarising, exclusive opposites: you can in fact enjoy children's books, tv shows, games, etc while also enjoying more adult indulgences like going out to a bar without having to ask yourself "aren't I too old for this now?" Those are just my thoughts on growing up and adultness x And thank you for this video Will - wonderful as always :)

[@juliaedits]

your videos are my absolute favourite, i kind of wish more people made the kind of videos you make instead of just clickbaiting and and doing everything for the views. keep up the great work will, i'm so happy i found your videos.