5 Behavior Patterns I've Seen In Manipulators

[@yogaju1352]

I really appreciate your exploration of the concept of “Fearless Dominance.” I think it could also shows up in extremely strict and rigid, eating patterns and workout routines. And it can show up as a way to feel superior to others because they are “more disciplined.”

[@Chucanelli]

The part about only seeing certain things once you’re really involved with someone struck home, as someone who has found herself in long-distance relationships far too often. A friend of mine once said this and it stuck with me: You can’t hide how you live. The caveat, of course, is unless you’re in a long-distance relationship. Learned this the hard way.

[@MichelleJ1822]

I’m so glad you popped up in my algorithm. I have a daughter who is almost 29 and has dealt with narcissistic men in her life. Like you said in a previous video I think they see her vulnerability and go with that. I have been sending her your videos. Hopefully she’s watching them. She’s a beautiful, smart woman with two great little boys who are eight and 10 years old. She’s a hospice nurse. I hope she finds someone who can I mean.appreciate the amazing woman she is.

[@Dobermanmomma]

I appreciate your channel Ehren. There's nothing like it I know of. I heard of you on Were all Insane podcast. Keep it up. Can't wait to read your book. If your not planning on writing one, you should. Not kidding.

[@christyrichardson8523]

I find the chess connection to be fascinating. My stbx went from being addicted to porn to being addicted to a chess app. He studoed the different maneuvers. He watched videos. He has taught our son and son in law to play and feels superior that they can never beat him. He is a child molester and molester both my younger sister and our own daughters. My children still live with him and adore him. This is due to him playing the long game by undermining my mental credibility from the very beginning, becoming the children's "best friend" and "listening" to them, and playing the victim. When I found out what he'd done and asked him to leave, he refused. He then raped me (which occured throughout the marriage as well) and assaulted our autistic daughter. I had to leave for our safety. Two other minors refused to go with me because he had so brainwashed them that they thought I was mistresting him! The long game was, that because he had the marital residence, the children wouldn't tell what he'd done to them, and I had "left them unprotected", he ended up with full custody. I almost never see them. He's also registered them for virtual school to further isolate them, and they don't see what he is doing. So much strategy and patience just to inflict great harm on innocent children. The only repercussions he is facing is one criminal charge my sister filed, but because there is no proof, aka testimony from my children, that he reoffended, he may very well be considered rehabilitated and walk away free. Master of the long game. And obsessed with chess. Repulsive.

[@ehrensjournal]

I felt this and been here and felt this kind of loss. Protect your heart. I pray that you find healing. The helpless anger and bitterness is the worst poison that they can leave us with and it’s the hardest poison to get rid of- because it’s justified, but it ultimately causes us spiritual pain and sickness. Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve said a prayer for you. 🙏🏻 God bless

[@alethea6781]

There are several obstacles to an abuser facing others with resentments or other feelings because 1) they fear retribution or abandonment and 2) if they take responsibility, the inflated balloon of their ego pops and they spiral into shame. They haven’t learned the basics of tolerating their emotions when triggered to work through feelings. They keep a stance of blaming others because it’s too overwhelming to face their shadows. They’re showing a good guy persona, but they feel like they’re dark and unloveable to the core. They think they can’t be loved, so they lie, cheat and so anything to steal some attention, sex because they think that’s all they can do.

[@EdwardMannino9688]

Ehrin. Every single word uttered from your lips in this video is 100% spot on accurate. U r brilliant at determining all of this. The other thing I want to mention is how insanely gorgeous you are. You are model material with such captivating eyes and facial symmetry and while you are so blessed to look like you do, the other side of this is the frequency in which you will attract bad men to yourself. U know, trusting someone takes a very long time, no matter who they portray themselves to be. 🎉

[@nsawatchlistbait289]

29:05 I didn't know that I needed this

[@92sarahmarie]

Holy… so many dots connecting. Especially the lazy lying… same with my covert narcissistic ex- his mother was a drunk and abusive…

[@nsawatchlistbait289]

24:52 yes they are

[@robotone2812]

Do you find it hard to get attracted to healthy individuals with loving, normal upbringings? The reason I’m asking is because I’m currently in a relationship with a healthy individual, but I don’t feel a strong magnetic attraction the way I used to towards a toxic partner.

[@ehrensjournal]

Yeah, that's super common. Not trying to just reference my other videos like some kind of businessman but I talk about that in the first 2 minutes of my "flip your logic" video. Super hard and weird to get used to, for sure. My trauma survivor friends and I call it 'eating a salad versus eating some cake'. Eating a salad will never be satisfying in the same ways as eating cake. But one gives you long-term health and one is short-term pleasure that usually makes you sick. Just gotta let your brain get used to it ✌

[@ehrensjournal]

Congrats on finding a healthy one. Don't let that shit go, it's rare in this world 👍

[@robotone2812]

​@@ehrensjournal I appreciate your reply. This brief exchange between us reminds me of the very early days of KZbin, before the ads and commercial aspects came in. KZbin used to be a place where like-minded individuals would share personal videos from their living rooms and it would feel super amazing to get to know people from all around the world. All that has changed now; commercial considerations is pushing some very unworthy content to the forefront. KZbin feels like a marketplace for popularity instead of a place for connecting with people through personal videos. Anyway, I will check out your flip your logic video. Thanks for being a courageous role model for survivors of abuse.

[@ehrensjournal]

@@robotone2812 yeah, I won't ever monetize my channel. The internet was cooler when it wasn't just a shopping mall

[@rl453]

@@ehrensjournalI’m late here. So glad you said how rare this is. And as someone who ended up with a wonderful man (who had his own baggage) I’d like to add that “salads” can become amazing and exciting over time. Coming up on 4 years since his death & I am (& forever will be) as deeply in love as I was over 20 years ago.

[@Handlewithluv]

This guy I last dated loved chess… and he is why I’m watching this so when you mentioned that.. my god 🤯

[@nsawatchlistbait289]

9:35 nailed it

[@Mom_Luvs_Tech]

Ha!! Mine played Golf. It was obsessive. He cared more about golf than treating me well.

[@Manicpixiedreamer]

Hi do you offer consultation? I’m a therapist and believe a client did this to me. Looking for advice

[@heide-raquelfuss5580]

You give very indepth insights. This chess explanation about men are, after thinking now about it, is true. I am flabbergasted. I knew a few. All had this icky powerplays with me and a friend of mine, who also was a woman enjoying in having power over them ( also thru playing chess herself ) and me in different ways. She enjoyed btw this powergame thru sex too with men. She also choosed to be a dominatrix at the end with someone, earning money. I figured, i do not like chess or being with people liking chess. They allways tried to play with me and i felt a dark energy comming out of them. Everything you say thus far, makes me analize deeply all my past experiences with people and have a lot of gratitude to understand deeply even more. We have to learn so much to protect ourselves. It takes so much time, energy to understand tho. Thank you for your videos.

[@free2be748]

Lazy lying .What bothered me was that this lie was just something they threw in, sabotaging the entire narrative.It was this lie that made me realize that I was dealing with someone with some kind of disorder 🧐

[@PhillipWilliams-tq5om]

Wow! Can you say narcissist? Theres so much to unpack in this video. My father is a very manipulative narcissitic jerk. So i was forced to watch his bs all my life to survive. 1st mirroring. He is a master at mirroring. He can focus in like a laser beam on tiny almost imperceptible emotions and pull the perfect psycological levers that will make anybody love him. He was a used car salesman. He never had a real job we only sold used cars out of our yard. Its illegal to do that btw. Our telephone would ring nonstop all day every day. It drove me insane. What else. Oh he loved chess. He was pretty good. Id rate him about 1800. I made it a point to crush his ass at chess. I studied chess till i bècame 2500 myself. I could go on and on. Anyways a narcissist will always pick you out of a crowd cuz you respond to mirroring. Think about that

[@92sarahmarie]

Holy… so many dots connecting. Especially the lazy lying… same with my covert narcissistic ex- his mother was a drunk and abusive…