Amazing video!!!! Thank you!

Thank you for making this educational content

I love your content, you beautiful soul!

Hi Ehren can I ask you a question through here?

The next video : let’s talk about consensual robbery

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ill forever remember when my ex tried to accuse me of rape. it was during highschool (freshmen) after our relationship ended, about a few weeks after, and i wasnt feeling great about it as it is because she was spreading rumors about how i was a terrible person (despite her constantly and almost overwhelmingly praising me about how good of a boyfriend i supposedly was) but then something fucked happened, i had gotten into contact with her again, because i was stupid and thought i could get some closure by talking to her, but what happened is she seemed to be slowly trying to hoist the blame on me for why our relationship ended. yknow saying things about how i was too sexual or overbearing or too touching despite her never saying those things during our relationship and even encouraged them. i confronted her for this, and also for the rumors she had been spreading. she said that i had kinda raped her, when i vehemently shut that down she argued that even though she consented that i should have known (when she was literally, no i am serious, literally begging me to come over) that she didnt want to, it really fucking sucked, cause she acted as if she was superrrrr into it the whole time we ever did anything sexual, it was also my first relationship so maybe i was a terrible boyfriend or didnt catch hints that other guys usually might, but i find it hard to believe because she also begged me to stay with her when i broke up with her. after that it blew over, she realized she couldnt get me in a hole or bring me down and i was able to cleanly break her from my life. moral of the story i guess for me is, consent while it can be groomed out of someone, is always somethingg that should protect a guy(or other) from those types of accusations, people under the influence cant consent, minors cant consent, but if you are a grown woman consenting to another adult to have sex then thats that, you consented and its not rape, if it unearths something akin to trauma, then its really bad sex, but women, just like men, have to be careful about sex, you have to pick and chose people who are going to treat you well and not do things that unearth trauma and you have to decide to yourself that if something like anal or that sort of thing really hurts your soul and mental health, that you say "hey, no anal" so that your partner can actually know how to treat you well. i do think people fall into habits that are really bad for them like doing anal cause it was your first experience or something, but i still hold the opinion that if you never tell your partner to not do something (in a reasonable range) its not n them when they do it. be careful with who you sleep with and be sure to set boundrys before its a problem or else that problem is bound to happen cause whos to say that anal isnt your partner's favorite thing? stay safe

Hmmm. Guess I am older here, but, I think porn cannot compete with real intimacy. I mean, the latter is so much more complete and interesting. Excitement is tiresome, and so is hedonism. Ehren, I think you should check out Jordan Peterson.

so brilliant. Well said It sucks to go through experiences that make you realize these things, but it really teaches you how valuable emotional regulation and awareness is. Sometimes it's just the realization, "I got out and I'm alive" that matters. They didn't take your soul or life. The realization that they're no longer taking from you and that no one will ever take from you like that again because now you know what it all means and leads to. You start to get back into your power when you realize people don't just affect you but you affect them and you need to train people how to treat you. You can only train them when you know yourself, your emotions, values, triggers, weak points, and then trust what your emotions tell you about others

all Women want a man who can control her

You’re a precious gem. Thank you for your fortitude and validation, it has helped me so much…empowered me at my weakest. ❤

There is no ethical consumption under capitalism

So, every single woman in porn is there against their will? Every single one of them? There’s not one single woman in porn that enjoys it? Not one? Not ever?

There are paralegals,CO's,SW and therapists across the country

Their friend constantlable Taylor one of the times i reported harassment over the more than 10 years told me i nolonger have to worry about men harassing me,meaning Im old and ugly.

Lynnann was one they used to gather info on me to use against me..her friend and withrow's friend who lied about being a massage therapist and knew about a hospital stay.

Have you ever heard that trauma responses freeze,fight,flight,mating instead of fawn?

Beautifully insightful video! I wish you the best in your healing journey

wow, thank you for this.

I’ve had my experience with it but it was my inner child that he love bombed and groomed. As an adult it’s like how the fk was he able to do that. Im in an adult body but I wasn’t in Self. He def had a sob story that I fell for as well.

Thank you so much! It hit home when you said the mask starts falling off after a few months. That's exactly what happened. I'm seeing what I told him was the true colors. From this person again!

Wow I can't believe you mentioned God in this video. I suddenly value it a lot more now

Its DISGUSTING to use the term "grooming" for adults, unless axm dude is litetslly tryoling to "pimp" a woman into orostitition This is literally sickening.

I’m from Utah I’m 30 I make good money I want a wife like I’m weird I love seeing my ex fiance with other men like her co workers it’s awesome for both of us. But yeah. Your not invisible your gorgeous

Great perspective. Great insight.

This guy I last dated loved chess… and he is why I’m watching this so when you mentioned that.. my god 🤯

after 35 us women become invisible ugh

Amen! Thank you for this great video

I hope you are ok.

Older men are the worst. It's so insidious. Gross creeps.

Absolutely on point with great analogies.

I am understanding that sex is being withheld at the beginning of the relationship. Of course someone has the right to take time in ascertaining if they want to commit to a person on an intimate level. Expecting someone to rush into it is like expecting to move in with someone after a couple of dates. It probably takes more time to know if you want to invite someone into your space.

God I love your content! This is so important!! Something I've been thinking about is how they sort of pull this glamour spell over us, where what we see is a distortion of what is really there.

Thank you for being so open and forthcoming about where you’re at in life. One thing I can assure you of Ehren; is that you are Never invisible. You possess the very rare quality of being both beautiful inwardly as well as extremely beautiful outwardly. There is no standard that you have to Ever attempt to live up to in love. The woman and spiritual being you are is more than enough and all that anyone of an equally yoked spirit could ever ask or pray for. So my dear…You just keep right on being and doing you. Speaking for myself and I’m sure many others….You’re a blessing. 👊🏿

Being in my early 30s now, it's not so much feelings of being 'invisible' that's of concern to me, but the 'ghosts' of my past/how whatever was happening merely 10 years or so ago (2009ish- 2015) is now considered as 'really old' or irrelevant to those whom are Gen z/Gen alpha age ranges. So rn I'm getting hit on & off throughout my week of strong doses of nostalgia/FOMO-moments & "I wish I could've gone that way instead of the way I did" sort of regret.

Thanks for sharing! I’ve missed seeing your videos and I’ve always found them helpful. This one goes song with my reading this morning in Luke 6 where Jesus is talking about the hearers vs the doers of the word. He’s saying awareness and intellectual assention isn’t enough, it takes active effort to put those into practice.

I’m originally from a small town in the south .my family moved to a small town in Indiana and are very happy I’ve moved to the Philippines I’m 56 years old and I’m very happy find your place

As you get older find your place if in America go to a small town and let yourself be known find your spot

I loved this 💜 yes, awareness is not enough

Please if you could be so kind could you answer this question? Are you a feminist (?) do you believe in equal rights for women? I believe in equal rights for children & women do you? I am a *publicly* documented victim of kidnapping rape & torture, do you think I deserve to be heard., respected ^& have rights? Please answer so I can put all your work into context (so I know if you are a feminist or an anti feminist with anti feminists as you are obviously aware being hostile to & gaslighting & abusing other women) because I think most of your listeners are feminists.

I appreciate you sharing about this. It’s been helpful for me. 🙏✨

Holy shit girl …. You just blew my mind

Thank you for this video this helped me so much

Wow this video is great thank you scary true and well said

Thank you, this info is very helpful.

So why do you keep dating these douchebags? Seems like all your men are predatory. What is the common denominator in all these experiences, I wonder? It's not like youre so repulsive that only cads would ask you out. You get hit on by nice guys all the time, but your'e not interested.

Hi lady,...just wanted to say,... you're brilliant. Your "talking head" popped up in my feed and I'm glad I clicked on it. The process of learning HOW others actually arrive at their thoughts, feelings, decisions and/or judgements has always fascinated me. To understand the human element and other's perspectives is hugely based on understanding their perceptions. It's almost a perspective all of its own. Or maybe that's just better called empathy. Either way, you did an impressive job of articulating this. In addition, giving equal importance to possessing the capacity of understanding our own. Captivating & incredibly informative. Thank you for sharing!

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Thank you for making this. I have been trying to explain things like this to my daughter. I think it being said by a 3rd person may help.

Your channel is so unique and educational! You should write a book to help people, you explain complex concepts in a simple way that’s digestible! Thanks for another great video :)