5 Bisexual People Explain What "Bisexual" Means To Them

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[@kerchewy2571]

“You’re picking a person not a gender” that is the perfect way to describe it. I’m going to say that.

[@wildele9699]

@@DirtyShwa Put it this way: Male and Female, but some people don't like to be called neither so they call themselves non-binary.

[@joshsmith2760]

It's fucking stupid because it makes it sound virtuous, when really we bisexuals just happen to be born with the ability to be attracted to both sexes and not everyone is like that. They will simply not be able to be attracted to someone of a certain sex, and it's not because they're shallow, it's because they were born hetero or homosexual.

[@ezaan3710]

This logic will ruin the world. Think of a world where children are born with both parents being of the same gender. It just destroys the law of nature.

[@harshpagare6286]

That is pansexual actually...in which the gender doesnt matter

[@theprousteffect9717]

Eh, maybe for some people. For me, I absolutely notice gender presentation and am attracted to various aspects of gender. Being bi or pan doesn't automatically mean you don't notice or care about gender, it may literally mean you think various respresentations of gender are attractive.

[@sonderingkayla]

"If you end up in a long-term relationship you're picking a person and not a gender" I love that! ❤

[@0liver-388]

same

[@okaminess]

Truly. This is what it feels like.

[@T4N7]

How is he getting hate for saying that he is attracted to trans people? He is pan n saying that means he is attracted to everyone. I don't think a cishet guy isn't straight cuz he isn't attracted to trans women like me, so y would I think a bi person isn't bi just cuz they aren't attracted to trans people? Some r n some aren't. So weird that he could get hate for loving all people n letting that be known.

[@robertlouisburns]

As time passes, the flame dies down and a partner will look around. Even more so to fill the desire for what the partner can’t give-the same sex

[@joshsmith2760]

It's fucking stupid because it makes it sound virtuous, when really we bisexuals just happen to be born with the ability to be attracted to both sexes and not everyone is like that. They will simply not be able to be attracted to someone of a certain sex, and it's not because they're shallow, it's because they were born hetero or homosexual.

[@hailey5037]

Anyone else hate when people insinuate (like our buddy Keith did) that bisexual people doesn't include trans and non-binary people 🙄 bisexual is an attraction to someone of your own gender as well as others.

[@MedicFromTF2_REAL]

Yeah, that was really annoying. Also how he put trans separate to men and women was low-key transphobic

[@ginger6readspaceman]

@@MedicFromTF2_REAL It is, but some people just exclude trans people in general from their dating pool. And that's apparently not transphobic. So he's probably just saying that he would date a trans person

[@margopaques6870]

Yes it was so annoying 🙄

[@calebgore1914]

Really frustrating. I feel like every time I see someone like Keith define pansexuality, they have to invent their own false definition of what bisexuality is to do it. Like, let a bisexual person tell you what bisexuality is. Why does your sexuality hinge on limiting the scope of what bisexuals are attracted to?

[@gender-fluidARMY]

Caleb Gore so I’m not the only one who identifies their bisexuality as attraction to my and other genders? I felt like pan technically fit, but I like both bi and pan communities. I (right now) identify as bi and pan simultaneously and I don’t know if that’s ok.

[@lilasziee]

I get that everyone has their own preferences and attractions, and bisexuality isn’t the same for every bisexual, but I really disagree with Keith (the pan guy) because bisexuality was never just for two gender, you can be bisexual and attracted to male, female, non binary, and gender queer people etc ! So saying that he’s pansexual because bisexuality isn’t enough means that he just didn’t understand what is bisexuality and pansexuality. Also the thing he wrote on the board about being attracted to male, women and trans seems kinda wrong to me, cause a trans woman is a woman, and a trans male a male, it’s super rude to specify trans as if they’re not included or whatever...anyway if anyone really read all of this thanks and have a great day 🦋💫

[@TaylorClaman]

I think what she means is that while bisexual people can have binary preferences, it doesn’t mean that you are limited to being attracted to cis-males and cis-females. While everyone’s interpretation of bisexuality will likely vary, sometimes people in the lgbtq community can be defensive about how pansexuality is more inclusive than bisexuality. Really, in my opinion at least, someone can call themselves bisexual and still be attracted to all genders. It depends on what label feels the most “you”!

[@sarahdelandy9147]

@lilazzz I just alo made a comment about that , as you say trans woman are woman and trans man are men, i dont see attraction to trans people as a thing cuz when i look at somone who is trans , i see a woman/or man not the trans part like it complicated to explain but I 100% agree with you cuz in my case as i doubt with my sexuality i looked up a lot of info and evry time pansexual stand for "attraction to peaple regardless of there gender" and bisexual "attracted to 2 genders or more" Cuz he says atracted to nb and trans but what about genderfluid , intersex , etc pansexual dont care about the gender identity while bisexual can pay more attention to that

[@XBloodxStainedxLipsX]

Ya I stopped watching when he said all of that..😕

[@gerardotorres9939]

Bi means 2 so bisexuality is attraction to 2 genders (any combo of 2 different genders; male/female, transgender-fem./non-binary, female/transgender-male). If you are attracted to more then 2/any gender, that would be pansexual. Also, although I do believe someone who is transgender does not particularly require the title "transgender" before their descriptive term ,male/female/etc., I believe the word exists as a "gender" for the sake of identity and definition (depending on who you are)... or else the term "Cisgender" wouldn't exist, vice versa. It all depends on the person. There are transgender people who wish to identify as "transgender-(m/f)" and others that identify as only "male/female", it's their choice to identify to others how they want/feel. There are also people who, unfortunately, do not see transgender people as their realized selves and add "transgender" in front of their label to seporate them from cisgender people. Then there are the people that don't see anything other than Cisgender male/female and label you based on your biology at birth. So I think the words "transgender" and "Cisgender" live as a gender in order to satisfy everyone's beliefs. Weather you believe in one as your label or the label of others. It's kind of messed up but fair I guess. To each their own. I choose to respect others on what they identify as, but everyone's different...

[@kimberlygray9045]

Yeah (as a panromantic, demi sexual) pans dont do a good job understanding how fluid bisexuality is/can be and its really hurting us and the LGBTQ community.

[@montej4829]

Yes! wish there was a feature where I could easily match with other bisexual people.

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[@halluciongen3000]

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[@oliveroliveroliver]

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[@alexiss.kencana9920]

@@Tinder too late.. I'm already married. Btw, we met on tinder

[@joshsmith2760]

@@Tinder I know you only care about your bottom line, but stop spreading disinformation.

[@ellawilliams983]

I’m bisexual but really struggling to tell people as I don’t want them to see me differently!

[@Turbohecht]

don‘t be scared. if your friends & family love you they will understand ❤️

[@ellawilliams983]

kleiner Turbohecht thank you that’s so sweet xxx

[@gabrielgiacomelli4922]

I felt this to another level 😭 even though I know they won’t see me differently at all, it’s still a fear that lingers in the back of my head 😔

[@valerylong5914]

I love how the pan person describes bisexuality in the most biphobic way possible. Disappointed but not surprised.

[@marymaryquitecontrary19]

yep i noticed that too... so fucked up

[@maya-ou9dt]

ikr. he was so fucking weird

[@BleakeACE15]

I don’t feel I saw it that way or at least he didn’t come off as that.

[@patchpatch4008]

"Don't feel you need to fit into bisexual, Bisexual will fit into you." I see what you did there. ;) All flirting and joking aside, this is really good advice. Just be yourself and don't let the label define you unless you really want it to.

[@minalh715]

"Bisexual excludes the third gender...." Ight' imma head out

[@zorro......]

lmfao same once i saw that biphobic bs i just ended the vid. like theres literally nonbinary bi people and decades of bi history that includes trans and nonb people and this man was really like "well acktually, it doesnt"

[@robloxgrindingyt2881]

3RD GENDER?!

[@edenfarwell328]

wait i’m bi and i only like male and female- but i’m not attracted to nonb i’m confused wha-

[@sex_in_the_s0viet_union_]

Mina L H Bisexuals can have attraction to both Male and Female, BUT, Bisexuality can *ALSO* be attraction to 3 or more genders, Male, Female and Non-Binary. It depends. It is also good to be aware that Pansexuality and Bisexuality are NOT necessarily the same. Pansexuality is when you essentially have no preferences, you’re attracted to every Gender and Gender identity. Such as, Males, Females, Non-Binary, Gender-Fluid, Transgender, Intersex etc. When your Bisexual, your preferences are Men and Women ( And maybe Non-Binary )

[@abbyswan2533]

Exactly!! Bisexuality is being attracted to 2 or more genders.

[@yournotsofriendlyneighborh2637]

Why is that pansexuality dude making it seem like bisexual, heterosexual, and homosexual is leaving people out and not being inclusive? People can’t control who they are attracted too, good riddance...

[@dorothypierre754]

I don't think he is blaming people with exclusive attractions, he just happens to be attracted to more types of people so the term pansexual helps define that for himself.

[@dorothypierre754]

@Common Sense Isn't Common I mean in a purely genital sense, maybe. But some people do not base their attraction only on genitals or even secondary sexual characteristics (which can end up mixed and matched due to hormones and chromosmal variances anyway)

[@toxicitybaby8115]

Cause they need to feel special 😂

[@joshsmith2760]

@@dorothypierre754 "But some people do not base their attraction only on genitals or even secondary sexual characteristics" Those people are called bisexual because they are capable of being attracted to both sexes. Other sexualities where people are only attracted to one sex: homosexual and heterosexual

[@sofijamarkovic6856]

Bisexuals can be attracted to nonbinary or gender fluid people. It's just that they can have preferences for genders they like while pan people don't.

[@jonahcd05]

I love this video so much but i feel like there should be a whole separate video for pansexuals. Bisexuality and pansexualtiy are different and should get their own videos

[@frankfrank2835]

Kay Davis I do not agree .... bisexuals and pansexuals are more alike than some people think! Yes, there are different definitions, yes, it is not the same. But there are lots of lots of people who think, they like both identities: There are okay with the term bisexual and the term pansexual. Some have a preference, which term they use. But it is not one or the other ... I mostly use the term bisexual because I fight for bivisibility, and I grew up with this label. But I also love people regardless of their gender. So technically, I am also pansexual. And I have nothing against it. Only that there are so many identities (bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, omnisexual, without a label, homoflexible, heteroflexible, queer and so on), that in the end nobody sees the bi+ people. But still I am against a fight bi vs. pan. Let us work together!

[@the1ladytammy]

100%

[@shammrock_sniper3172]

They have some similarities but their diffrent in lots of ways

[@sirsquabblesauce9442]

My crush is pansexual but I am bisexual

[@thisjawnjrawling545]

@Kay Davis I completely agree. I would love for them to do a separate video. And also go into depth as to how the two are different.

[@ciatagni1345]

Pretty sure I'm bisexual. I lean mostly to boys but I've had a few crushes on girls. If I lean more toward a gender does that still count as bisexual or would that still be counted as straight with the accasional anomaly? Update guys: yeah I'm hella bisexual I fucking love women and am now questioning if I even actually like men or just male validation from compulsive heterosexuality. Also found out I'm genderfluid which is cool if lol

[@vilkku4606]

Almost every bi person has a gender preference so it wouldn't count as straight. :)

[@ciatagni1345]

Ok thx 👌!

[@emilycornfoot521]

still bi! u can be like 95 attracted to 1 gender and still be bi!

[@frankfrank2835]

bröther No, not everyone .... But everyone who is okay with the term „bisexual“ is allowed to use it for oneself!

[@frankfrank2835]

Of course! I think, it sounds like bisexuality. But it is your choice how who want to label your sexual orientation!

[@stevesheldon8616]

So if I'm only sexually attracted to women I'm close-minded and not open to experiences? Nah, Keith, I just don't want to do you.

[@joshsmith2760]

got im

[@joshsmith2760]

Get em Steve lol

[@kimbleist]

You’re not attracted to horses? Then you are closed minded 😂

[@ashleighsalinas8526]

Lol y'all are silly with the horses thing 🤣

[@faneskater]

I am bisexual... I've came out only once to my friend... Turned out he is bisexual and he is also transgender! I was so happy I was not the only one in my school because there are so many students there that are homophobic and joke about gay people...

[@valwal]

I am bisexual and attracted to all genders which doesn't mean I am pansexual, I'm not genderblind

[@gazriley624]

just go with your own instincts it's what i do i'm a little bit bisexual i'm more into women but occasionally men but that's rare!

[@beandabee8937]

a bisexual person is attracted to two or more genders. not just two. and trans is not a gender, keith. you can be a trans man, woman, or non-binary person and still just be a man, woman, or non-binary person. bisexuals don't exclude that. bisexual is also an umbrella term. so anyone who is attracted to more than one gender could identify as bisexual or could identify as any other label such as pan, omni, demi, etc. you can use the label bisexual even if you are more similar to being pan or omni. it covers that because those two are both attraction to multiple genders. just felt the need to explain that. love from a bisexual.

[@joshsmith2760]

Hello there. The prefix "bi" means two. Bi people are attracted to two (both/all) sexes: male and female. "Gender identity" has nothing to do with sexual orientation, which is one's hard-wired sexual attraction towards the opposite, same, or both sex(es).

[@markingjay7746]

Bisexual means being attracted to both presentations of male and female. That's where "bi" comes from. That can include trans people obviously. Also, considering yourself attracted to those two and also gender *identities" in between would be polysexual. Bi means 2, not 2 or more. And it isn't just 2 kinds of people, it's about both presentations as a sex, with there being 2. Polysexual is essentially what would be attraction to multiple *identities*. You don't need to change bisexual's definition to mean that.

[@beandabee8937]

@@markingjay7746 actually, the binary part of bisexuality is the attraction to genders similar to or the same as your own and genders different from your own. that way it encompasses more than just "man" and "woman" because we know the gender binary is an outdated social construct. nice try, but your biphobia is showing.

[@markingjay7746]

@@beandabee8937 Bisexuality is about being attracted to "2". That 2 comes from presentation as sex. Same with hetero and homosexuality. There are more than 2 ways to present as a sex or sexes but there are only 2 to present as. Meaning, 2 different unique presentations with mixtures also being a thing but necessarily a whole "new" thing.

[@markingjay7746]

@@beandabee8937 If you were also to include a variety of people you were attracted to, not just presentation of male and presentation of female, you'd be polysexual. The difference is simply a sort of preference in a way with polysexual being more specific than bi.

[@fcitshort9311]

I hate that people think that bisexual people exclude every other people in the LGBT community but they don't, and I wish people would know what we mean by bisexually basically mean we are attracted to the same sex and different sex, which means all.

[@Michael-mr9kn]

When you first realize you are bisexual you try to ignore your feeling then one day you realize these feeling's are not going away. Then you have to accept yourself a hard process you will everyday have to tell yourself I am a good person

[@user-kv8cm2ur7b]

I love this video. I feel like hearing different mindsets on bisexuality is reassuring for myself and hopefully many others “ dont define who you are and then act on it, act on it, live your life and let THAT define who you are” and “Theres no one way to be bi, theres no rules and its all about you”. Those two statements are real af and i hope one day more people can see it that way

[@georgehaas7292]

Well, there are biological rules, but I get your point. You do you.

[@Val-tg7bw]

@@georgehaas7292 wdym

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

I’ve known I was bu since I was 11, but I described it as, “I’m a lesbian but boys are cute.” As I got older I realized I was equally attracted to both genders, and at 21, I started coming out to a few people. My parents know I’m attracted to girls they just don’t know exactly what that means. I’m too scared to tell them. They’re not exactly accepting of the LGBTQ community.

[@jxderin]

honestly when i come out to my parents i'm gonna have to spend an hour trying to explain what bisexual and demisexual is while they google it XD

[@markingjay7746]

Bisexual means being attracted to both presentations of male and female. That's where "bi" comes from. That can include trans people obviously. Also, considering yourself attracted to those two and also gender *identities" in between would be polysexual. Bi means 2, not 2 or more. And it isn't just 2 kinds of people, it's about both presentations as a sex, with there being 2. Polysexual is essentially what would be attraction to multiple *identities*. You don't need to change bisexual's definition to mean that.

[@markingjay7746]

@Hugz N Drugz Bisexual is simply attraction to both presentations of sex while having more specific attraction would be Polysexual. Same plus different is more than 2. Polysexual is technically a type of bisexual with the exceptions of being attracted to say, same and same + neutral.

[@moonxwife7568]

I just came out to my mom and she says I’m confused and that I’m gonna need to talk to a counselor 😀✌️

[@barakobama9743]

You do

[@snocoldman]

Don't try to fit into being bi let being bi fit into you is a fuckin QUOTE right there man

[@jacobfeldman8724]

Tinder for real, that was a dope video, I am pleseantly surprised by it

[@brooklynriffle2577]

I’m straight I like boys but it’s okey if your not straight we all are the same no matter what have a great day!

[@oniwaa-a]

Thanks, we need more allies like you! Have a nice day :)

[@brooklynriffle2577]

いちゅのま just because your gay doesn’t mean you should be treated differently

[@oniwaa-a]

@@brooklynriffle2577 Yup, exactly! We shouldn't get any special rights and we shouldn't get less either.

[@nickixiusdangelolunala7779]

Thank you!

[@mackybradshaw6071]

THE BIPHOBIA JUST UGHAKSNSIGUGHUGH

[@delfin6927]

trans is not a separate gender, my dude.

[@typhlosionproductions5970]

Yes but a lot of bi people (including myself) wouldn’t date someone who’s trans

[@antiheroism9634]

I am bisexual too I regards it as gift by nature that I don't make discrimination when it comes to gender

[@ichigozeoy]

I'm bisexual, I'm attracted to masculine boys/girls, feminine boys/girls, binary and non binary people, as well trans woman. But I don't feel the sexual attraction towards trans male. I'm not being transphobic here. I just have a preference and that why I don't called my self as Pansexual. Because Pansexual for me means that you attracted to any people regardless of genders while bisexual is the same but still have gender preferences at the same time.

[@snowrider48]

They asked for bi people for the video and then this dude says he’s pan

[@exammole4545]

I just realised this is from Tinder!!! That’s cool!

[@junewern1103]

Being bisexual really drives me crazy the day my family introduced me to my step sister..and I realized I love he..

[@MedicFromTF2_REAL]

I like this video except for the pan guy's definition of it that makes it sound like bi people don't date trans or nb people... I see it more like pan people have the same attraction to any gender but bisexuality may entail certain preferences or different types of attraction for different genders

[@madisonnn683]

i am bisexual but i don't gravitate towards trans or non binary people. it is just a preference.

[@opethdan2408]

He's wrong by saying bisexual excludes other genders. It includes both sexes but 2 or MORE genders like Enby and others. It's not limited to two genders

[@typhlosionproductions5970]

Bi means 2 Pan means everything. So no, he’s not wrong

[@opethdan2408]

@@typhlosionproductions5970 Bi does not mean 2. If you ain't bi don't say shit about what tf we are or like. It means a dick and vagina but also whatever gender is also attached to them

[@myself7232]

@@typhlosionproductions5970 . Sure the typical definition of bi means two, so bisexual= two genders but when talking about sexuality it’s a lot less constricting then that. I identify as bi because I’m attracted to dicks and buthy’.... not necessarily girls and guys. I’ve been attracted to both guys, girls and people who identify as other. I choose to identify as bi because I personally do not feel comfortable with the label “pansexual”. ignorant bitch

[@Jamie-ro6sx]

We need to learn and accept bi sexuals and pansexuals individuals their lives matter and should be respected.

[@quinnlyner6936]

“You’re not picking a gender, you’re picking a person” LOVE THAT

[@tk1468]

I'm a bisexual girl and identified it when my girl friend was bullied by some girls and ended up in beating the shit outa them and post analysis of the act 🤣💔 that's not for mere friendship ☺️ that's for love Dude , u really can kill 4 love 😳☺️

[@firerain2230]

I'm bi male too I needed time to accept myself as I am proud to be bi ❤️

[@shadown5757]

That’s the problem “acting on it”……it is hard to make that choice, it feels more like jumping from a plane and not knowing if the parachute is going to open once you are in the air 🤷

[@johngibson4882]

I thought I was bi for the longest time, but I have never been interesting emotionally or mentally in men. I came across the term heteroflexible, and that definitely fits how I feel!

[@Topher_Toaster]

Yeah, it's really not about them being a man or a woman. It's about what I'm attracted to in regard to their personality.

[@emperorpalpatine746]

I thought i was bisexual but i never knew what a pansexual was before this video and now i know im a pansexual

[@Sorayax073]

Please don't listen to that Keith guy. He doesn't know what bisexuality means.

[@joshsmith2760]

Bisexuality is attraction to people of both sexes. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with "gender identities". You're bisexual.

[@okaminess]

I have been bisexual for the longest time but could not exactly pinpoint what it was I was feeling. I came from a Mormon family. We are no longer Mormon as a family but my family is still homophobic. Society also erases or invalidates bisexual people so I did not actually get to truly identify as bisexual until I was 32. I was self effacing and self-denying. People think bisexuality is a huge joke or something.

[@olly1793]

It’s crazy how much you overlook when ur deeply closeted or just oblivious to the fact that ur gay. I remember I was about 14 and I was walking home in the snow w/ my girl best friend and we held hands and my hand was going crazy and I never wanted to let go. Another time this same girl was drunk and she was kissing the other girls and I remember feel this twinge in my stomach and only wanting her to kiss me but I didn’t know why.

[@joshsmith2760]

This video is about being bi, not gay...

[@celsaauriel2744]

@@joshsmith2760 Bisexuals like their own gender too what are you not getting ..

[@robertlouisburns]

Should be called “5 people who had to settle for whatever they could get”

[@quinceisunactive]

"bisexual means you love 2 or more genders, i have been attracted to a female before, but i have also been attracted to a male"

[@cassieeminajj]

I got this as an ad on a vidoe and it made me so happy

[@SleepDaMouse-xd8dn]

I got this as an ad and it reminded me how much the LGBT shoves their crap in people's faces and then says they don't

[@cassieeminajj]

@@SleepDaMouse-xd8dn I'm not going to say ì dot shove my sexuality everywhere because I do. I'm not going to say that the lgbtq. Comunity hasn't struggled to life because they have.im not going to say that all straits a homophobic because there not. But some how you still are able to say that all gays do that. Your a discusting piece of trash who need to know hippocracy is

[@cassieeminajj]

@@SleepDaMouse-xd8dn sorry for spelling error phone is broken

[@SleepDaMouse-xd8dn]

cassie sosassy the LGBT, not gays. I'm gay, the fact people keep treating the group as the collection of acronyms means I am unwillingly tossed into it. I'm not LGBT. Gays aren't the ones doing it. Neither are trans, lesbians, or bisexuals. Also spelling is no problem, don't worry about it. I can read it and understand.

[@cassieeminajj]

If you don't want to have a celebration umbrella that's on you idc

[@ClearlyImAKong]

lmao i hate that they included pansexual as bisexual. they are two different sexualities!

[@ClearlyImAKong]

@Saksham Tyagi it definitely isn't lol.

[@joshsmith2760]

Bisexuality is attraction to both sexes. Pansexuality is bisexuality but they wanna be woke or signify that they are attracted to trans people, which some bi people are. That's not a new sexual orientation, since it's still just male and female. Sexual orientation is based on sex, not gender identities.

[@EclipseOfTsuki93]

1:06 THANK YOU. And thank you to the girl before, yes, Bisexual means being attracted to your own gender and another gender, whilst Pansexual means being attracted to all genders, or having the capacity to be attracted to everyone, regardless of gender. I really wish people would stop invalidating bi and pan, and erasing people's identities because they want to feel special.

[@joshsmith2760]

Lol, it's "pansexuals" who are trying to feel special. Anyone who is attracted to both sexes, male and female, men and women, is bisexual. People aren't attracted to "genders". Most people are heterosexual because they are hard-wired to be attracted to the opposite sex in order to reproduce and for our species to continue. Some people are hard-wired to only feel attraction to the opposite sex (lesbians and gays) or both sexes (bisexuals). How masculine or feminine one's partner is is only a preference, not an orientation.

[@EclipseOfTsuki93]

@@joshsmith2760 No it isn’t, Pansexual is a different label from Bisexual. Bisexuality is attraction to both males and females or their own gender and another gender. I’m a guy, I’m attracted to guys and girls. Pansexuality is attraction to all people, regardless of sex of gender. For example a bisexual person like me looks for specific physical traits in the boys and girls I’m attracted to. A pansexual person doesn’t see their gender or sex of the person (and you can’t ever know the sex of the person unless you’ve got their chromosomal makeup on hand) they just see the personality. They don’t look for any physical traits of that sex or gender because it’s not important to them. If “most people are heterosexual because they are hard-wired to be attracted to the opposite sex” why is it then that a lot of straight guys are (ashamed to admit it) attracted to e-girls, who are actually boys presenting feminine, but not attracted to a butch, masculine girl? Maybe because sex isn’t a huge factor in immediate attraction. Sure, you might have a preference for a penis or a vagina, but until you actually get to that stage of a sexual relationship with the person, you wouldn’t know, and at that point, if you like the person that much, and their genitals don’t correspond to what you presumed they would be, quite a few people don’t care. My point is, engaging in absolutism on sex and gender is very reductive thinking, and it’s unscientific. Sex and gender are two different concepts, it’s why we have different words for them. Sex is physical and biological, gender is social and cultural. Gender is a spectrum, like an upside down triangle. Sex is mostly bimodal, that being most people are born with either XX or XY as their 23 chromosomes, except there’s a significant minority of people with different combinations, such as XXY, XXX, XYY, XXYY, XXXX etc. Maybe stop thinking in absolutes, and your mind will be able to grasp these concepts.

[@Sorayax073]

@@EclipseOfTsuki93 a bi person may describe their bisexuality exactly how a pansexual may describe it. They really aren’t that different and often it comes down to label preference

[@EclipseOfTsuki93]

@@Sorayax073 Pan means all. Bi means two. Words have meaning, honey.

[@joshsmith2760]

@@EclipseOfTsuki93 Erase gender from the definition. Sexuality is based on sex. Bisexuals are attracted to the same and opposite sex. Pansexuals are bisexuals but they have some preference or some other feelings about it. It doesn't matter. Sexual orientation != sexual preference. A sexual orientation describes who a person is attracted to: same, opposite, or both sexes. A preference describes masculinity, femininity, personality, looks, whatever. Don't blur the lines. Pansexual is not a sexual orientation. "Pansexuals" are bi.

[@kosterblue4673]

Why is tinder trying to be buzzfeed lol

[@steph_homel6687]

Hello! So i’m bicurious and i’m kind of confused (I’m a girl btw). So, i know that i like men but i’m not sure about women. I don’t crush on girls/like girls as easily as i do with men but I can see myself in a relationship with a girl more than a man. Does this mean that i’m straight, or that i just lean towards men?

[@joshsmith2760]

You will figure it out with time and experience. No need to rush things.

[@Emilia-do5xn]

of course you're the only one who can know, but when I was questioning my sexuality someone told me "if you're seriously struggling to find out if you're straight or not, you're probably not straight." and if you can see yourself in a relationship with a woman, you probably like women :)

[@loverrlee]

Thank you for this video -a bi 💗💜💙🌈

[@crimatorslick5271]

Bi-dumbass trend hopper

[@classicleslie6914]

I personally am more attracted to bisexual men than homosexual

[@LacerdaX10]

Hey, isn’t Jawann misplaced? He is Bisexual and he described it for two or more? Isn’t Bi for two and Pan for any more than just Bi??? I’m confused 🤔 I’m just a man heterosexual, trying to understand, forgive me if I said something wrong or in the wrong way, or… I don’t know.

[@ADerpyReality]

Bisexual - being attracted to both sexes. Pansexual - being attracted to both or more genders?

[@maximumman4647]

I’m like Demi sextual/straight some people say I’m asexual and straight but my parents do get frustrated a bit

[@Toaster_luvin]

It's ironic that using bi tags on tinder is a death sentence.

[@amaris3848]

I understand bisexual as the capacity to experience sexual/romantic attraction to both same and different genders. It is a multisexuality/sexually fluid energy compared to monosexuality (straight and gay for example). It does NOT exclude trans or non-binary. Transwomen and transmen are women and men always. Bi in the name does not support a gender binary. This is a biphobic misconception. It just means more than one type of attraction hence bi. For my understanding, pansexual is attraction to all regardless of gender, so it has a different feel to it. Yes, it does overlap strongly, but they are both valid. I know all these terms can be messy, but it's not all about the term. It's what you find as your fit, because each person is different. Much love to all you beautiful people trying to figure yourself out!

[@georgehaas7292]

How many times do I have to explain this to people? “Tans men” are women, “Trans women” are men. Don’t shoot the messenger.

[@user-hf4eh2ts3q]

There is NO NEED to say What you identify as after you say your name. What you identify as has nothing to do with nearly all conversation accept that specific subject and most people most of the time are not talking about it Aren't people that say they "identify as..." getting sick of saying that yet? I thought people like this just wanted to blend in to society and nit's anticipated not be singled out for how they identify and what they do...well what better thing could you do than to STOP TALKING ABOUT IT!!! It's like 'Occams razor' or the 'Law of Parsimony', basically says its the simplest answer without the uneeded extra explanations, which is usually the right answer.

[@fleeming6142]

Can someone tell me if a bisexual person can change their preferences while dating other gender ? I'm not homophobic, I'm trying to learn more about bisexual people cause my gf is bi and i'm gonna be honest, i feel a bit scared she won't love me anymore. Thank you

[@fleeming6142]

Thank you

[@patriziab.437]

I don't know if this is the right place or time to be myself...I live in a village that isn't open to being bisexual, I am singel for many years because I am afraid dudes might reject me for being me and girls reject me for being ugly...it is stupid but I am not really a beautiful girl so I always think, other girls/guys reject me because I have not enough to offer. I am nothing to brag with so I am always asking myself why even one gender should be proud to be with me. I am not pretty enough to be Bisexual....

[@blossoms3904]

What are you talking about of course you're beautiful, I mean I've never met you but everyone is beautiful and I'm sure you'll meet someone that will like you for you there's dozens of people out there, just keep holding your head up because if you don't chin up your crown will fall

[@joshsmith2760]

It's okay to not be beautiful. There will be people who will love you as you are. Bisexuality has nothing to do with being pretty. It just means attraction to men and women.

[@patriziab.437]

@@blossoms3904 sorry for being late to answer but really thank you for taking your time to answer to this random comment. It is really heart-warming to see people out there looking out for other they don't even know, so thank you for being such a good human being

[@patriziab.437]

@@joshsmith2760 Yeah I try to get there. It just that I always feel to not be enough and my internalized homophobia always get in the way aswell. I am trying but I am still thankful foryour comment. You stumbled upon my comment and decided to take your time and answer it. Thank you for this 😊

[@joshsmith2760]

@@patriziab.437 No problem :)

[@SerioeserName]

My mom is always asking me if I now lean to a certain gender although I told her I’m bi

[@faitodeyo7019]

I have a predicament if anyone can help pls do. I am attracted (pretty sure) to men but they can’t make me feel the same way as women. I don’t seem to have a romantic attraction towards men but am sexually attracted to them. Women in the other hand are attractive to me both ways. I really can’t imagine myself in a relationship with a man so am I still bisexual? Is there another label for me or maybe I’ll just not label myself but I want to make my explanation to others as simple as possible.

[@notyourdoggo7540]

Yes, you’re still probably bisexual. The romantic attraction spectrum and physical attraction spectrums are two separate things, although they line up for most people. How you want to label yourself is completely up to you, but you could for instance say that you’re bisexual homoromantic/heteroromantic or just bisexual if you prefer that.

[@faitodeyo7019]

@@notyourdoggo7540 Thx a lot I really appreciate your help!!!!

[@sweetie_babie]

A little late, but yes, you are still bisexual. If that's the term you're most comfortable with, go for it. However, there is a more specific label for what you're describing: biromantic lesbian or biromantic homosexual

[@robertlouisburns]

0:05 Wow, not surprised about that guy. How many opportunities with the ladies would he get. Better chance getting the nerd he is playing dungeons and dragons with.

[@sonicytpwitchproductions2876]

I’m bisexual too I know that because I like the asmr videos of cute boys and girls

[@eyelessjack2943]

Being bisexual myself there's a lot of struggles because im having issues coming out my family and I don't know what thier gonna say

[@lilysshortz8710]

Thank you

[@StrawberryMilkForYou]

I just want to say, if someone is currently not getting the support they need or their family is not supportive please come to me. I will try my best to help you, fuck people who are homophobic. Just ask for my email, or my Instagram, or my snapchat, just anything. Just know there are people who are with you and want you to be yourself, don't waste your time with people who don't except you.

[@sirsquabblesauce9442]

Wait this was made by Tinder

[@mysmirandam.6618]

Bi to me has always been being attracted to people regardless of gender because ive been attracted to trans men and women esp trans men for some reason? But ya pan to me is just a fancier way of saying it because trans women/men are real women/men to me! :)

[@georgehaas7292]

To you, but not to science my friend

[@mysmirandam.6618]

@@georgehaas7292 'splain yourself? bi IS being attracted to people regardless of gender

[@georgehaas7292]

@@mysmirandam.6618 I have no problem with your definition of Bisexuality. I meant that “Trans women” are men and “Trans men” are women.

[@Gj-rd7wi]

I could smell the Biphobia before looking in the chat, so sad

[@ZonicX2]

Happy about this

[@ayhanerdm]

Bisexuality+ doesn't exclude anyone or anything, tho.

[@thomashall8701]

Alright then I'm going to stick with basic bisexuality without the plus where I can exclude anyone or anything I want

[@labeouflabeouf4879]

what is called if you didnt atracted to non of men or women?

[@TaylorClaman]

if you are not sexually attracted to anyone, it's asexual! www.healthline.com/health/different-types-of-sexuality#a-c

[@labeouflabeouf4879]

@@TaylorClaman oh thank you , I'm by body girl but i hate men i cant attract to them my family dont understand me they ask me to marry 💔

[@cindyhogg2269]

I am bisexual but I never bin with a gril but I am trying to find someone but it is heard when I am married

[@JorgeEVelaG]

why are they sitting normally? fake

[@movedtorxtro_cloudy8686]

I'm pan

[@christinecarty4738]

What if your attracted sexually to one and romantically to the other

[@TaylorClaman]

you could be heterosexual (sexually attracted to the another gender) while homoromantic (romantically attracted to the same gender) or vice versa-- homosexual, heteroromantic. Or sexually attracted to both / all and romantically attracted to none (bisexual /pansexual, aromantic). There are a lot of different combinations and some great resources out there to look further into it! www.healthline.com/health/different-types-of-sexuality#a-c

[@zaniahsims1724]

I am pansexual 😋😍

[@godkillergamingo6605]

Question do homosexuals hate on straight people??

[@exammole4545]

Nope, it depends on their personality. And even it’s more like a silent hatred.

[@raymondswaylullaby1419]

I also identify as bisexual and i have a crush on a girl at my school im a girl shes a girl shes lesbian im bi i think its gonna work out for me ^^

[@Daniel-qk6bf]

gosh i hate pannies

[@lavequiasignora9879]

What is trisexual?

[@bigboy8472]

0:42 what does he mean by “2 or more genders” there’s only 2 MALE and FEMALE

[@EddyManfredini]

That’s innacurate 😬

[@notyourdoggo7540]

Even if you want to say that gender and biological sex is the same (which it isn’t) you’re excluding anyone who is born intersex (1.6% of the population)

[@georgehaas7292]

@@notyourdoggo7540 How many fingers do people have on each hand?

[@notyourdoggo7540]

@@georgehaas7292 why are you asking? Are you trying to make a point by me saying 5 and you respond “but what about those born with more fingers?” (Around 0.2% of the world’s population has this mutation)

[@georgehaas7292]

@@notyourdoggo7540 Yes

[@keigoxsalvatore7426]

BISEXUAL DOES NOT EXCLUDE THE 3RD GENDER

[@BM-qw8hy]

There are only two genders 🙄

[@christopher869]

Intersex is umbrella term. Please go to the channel OII Europe.

[@thomashall8701]

YES IT DOES

[@minananananan1842]

Ewwww why did you include that meck beard guy

[@ayushbisht8662]

So bi sexual is just that you are attracted towards both gender physically isn’t that’s just lust

[@madisonnn683]

uhhh no....

[@SpockLover27]

So heterosexual is just that you are attracted towards the opposite gender physically isn't that just lust

[@loser3414]

First

[@chocolate-soulja40]

Why call y'all selves bisexual when y'all only persue heterosexuals for romantic relationships 😒

[@georgehaas7292]

If you are bi, couldn’t you still find a straight, gay, or lesbian attractive? If I am a straight male and I see a lesbian, that doesn’t determine whether she looks attractive or not.

[@georgehaas7292]

If Emma Watson came out as lesbian tomorrow, she would still be attractive.