5 Asexual People Explain What "Asexual" Means To Them

[@rachelnelson4796]

"Oh you don't have sexual attraction? Let me change that for you" I've had this happen way too many times. It hurts

[@aliaaysha2072]

Yes it’s disgusting too

[@MirageMonarch]

Man to man women to women any kind of way pretty gross

[@sophiex2728]

thats so wrong im sorry people say that to you guys ♥️

[@sophiex2728]

Katarina Oliver i wouldnt say its rape unless they touch you but its creepy disrespectful and so closeminded

[@mjfedup6853]

Katarina Oliver saying that it is rape is too far. Now if the guy or girl FORCED you to have sex without your consent, then that would be rape. Don’t misuse the word rape.

[@tudoralexandru7412]

So you can fall in love with someone, and be intimate, but you simply don't desire them in a sexual way, thats not that hard to understand

[@mementomori1590]

You! Thank you! For some reason people cant comprehend it

[@tudoralexandru7412]

@@mementomori1590 ❤️

[@squeakSquak]

Yes finally someone who understands

[@jonathanschaffer2594]

Exactly!!! That’s pretty much the best description of what asexuality is

[@robindro1961]

Of course it's hard to understand. Our culture, psychology, instincts, education etc. are all based on something else and 99,9% of humans feel totally different towards it, have deep sexual desires. Don't get me wrong, people should do as they please and if they don't want to have sex, nobody can say anything against that or God forbid force them to. But obviously it is an irritating, totally uncommon thing and clashes with a lot of what has been established as fact about the human psyche (urge to pass on life, erotic thinking and so on). But there's nothing wrong with that either. Nobody is normal in every way. You know what I mean?

[@vesavishaj8366]

When u realize tinder has a KZbin channel...

[@winter9556]

Ikr

[@sassypants7536]

This came up in my suggested feed, and just said the same sentence outloud.

[@123456bmx]

Hi it’s Vesssa yeah wtf

[@hajarrachad6934]

Lmao

[@cheesy_yeety]

Ikr

[@lake6201]

When ever someone asks me if I'm a top or bottom I just say: I'm in the kitchen making garlic bread.

[@mariesalinas3910]

Can I steal this please?

[@sumaya1556]

THISSS

[@penn9266]

This perfectly sums up my feelings 😂

[@IAmTheTruCanadian]

@@mariesalinas3910 jeez "can I steal this please?" cringe af

[@IAmTheTruCanadian]

@@penn9266 cringe

[@robocop8569]

im so glad theres asexual men here, because you never see them. same with aro people im so glad tinder is doinh this

[@NusratJahan-hs2fs]

Am also I need asexual man who respect my feeling's

[@HarmonicaMustang]

Same. Not many of us out there, and it was darn confusing growing up with non-ace friends. "What do you think of that girl? Is she hot?", "I don't know, her skin is nice.", "No, like would you bang her?", "Why?". If people ask, I tend to say I'm straight just to keep things simple. I want to keep relationships professional, I've got no concealed agenda with other people, so why attract attention to myself? Not to say I'm ashamed of it, if I'm with a person I click with then I'll be open about it, but there's no need for work to know this. I'm not going to cause trouble, that's all they need to know.

[@dorbynbeavey6530]

@@HarmonicaMustang im sorry but the "her skin is nice" made me think of that scene in harry potter with ron ans harrg

[@toxichum8622]

@@dorbynbeavey6530 omg yes HAHAHAHAHAHHAA

[@faust3530]

Amen, brother

[@desrobs9898]

“You just haven’t found the right person” “maybe you’re not into guys, maybe you’re a lesbian” THIS!!!! Everyone always tells me this shit, especially my mom. I just don’t wanna have sex, love it or leave it.

[@Tahitiangirl96]

Me too girl. The other day when I was going into the topic with my sis, she asked me if I was lesbian. And my family always saying "dont worry he's somewhere out there."😔

[@mmmmyeah1849]

Same

[@trusfratedkim4226]

I'm 25..soon turning 26. Whenever I talk about how I never felt sexually interested in anyone evr and how I'm still a virgin, people come up with,"U are still virgin, u r kidding right. It's just u haven't found that right person" blah, blah, blah... People just don't understand....This video made m realise,I'm not alone.

[@madisonnn683]

you're definitely not alone hun!! i am not asexual but i don't have any problem with it. i am not very interested in sex. the people that are obsessed with sex have the real problem and clearly don't understand that others may have a different point of view

[@KaleidoscopeEffect]

You could also be demisexual if you are not sure.

[@starlightstarbright7618]

That's nice

[@Lady9T]

Yes! Or sometimes they don't even believe you. Because how can you be that age and still a virgin. Worse yet when they find out never dated and kiss because you chose not to (not because you're not approached.) and you're COMPLETELY fine with that

[@mercypk972]

Army! You're not alone 💜 Borahae!

[@deepwaters7242]

My mom came out as asexual this year.... She is 72 y/o and has a deep platonic relationship with my father. They both have said that this makes so much sense, but there weren't labels in their generation. She was surprised and delighted to find out that she has representation amidst the LGBTQIA+ .... Which makes sense, because she has always been a supporter and positive parental role to LGBTQIA+ orphans. I'm proud of my mom, and my father's grace and understanding. He still believes that she was the right partner for him, and loves her dearly.

[@CaliFinestDemon]

How was she asexual when she had you? Lmao, lying ass.

[@kiaz1st]

Lil Kacchan asexuals can still have sex. It’s just the lack of desire for sex, not the inability to do it.

[@oioioi6664]

This is absolutely beautiful ❤️

[@jozzz222]

That’s beautiful

[@johannanicolaisen4676]

@@CaliFinestDemon There is a spectrum, in this situation it sounds as if this woman in particular wasn't aware of the label "Asexaulity" or she felt pressured, but I'm sure there are plenty of Aces who want children.

[@tabithaakers8732]

Thinking "am I broken?" is the worst feeling cos you don't even know this sexuality exists

[@laila7364]

Ohhhh I know this feeling... I went basically through hell before I found out about asexuality ! It’s sad that there is almost no representation in the media/movies (except from some sociopaths and this one bojack horseman episode lol) it would have helped me a lot if I would’ve known about this earlier, would’ve safed me a lot of trouble...

[@tabithaakers8732]

@@laila7364 I know! I wish there was more representation in the media

[@PanAthens]

sexual education and understanding of human sexuality sucks to begin with, and when you add *being asexual and not even understanding what that is* on top of that it all ends up very frustrating for many people of varying ages It's likely that I won't ever truly understand myself sexually, which is terrifying since being asexual and learning about "normal" sexual attraction sent me into a prolonged crisis once I hit puberty literally BECAUSE I felt like I was "broken"

[@poemrockz]

@@laila7364 as a sex favourable asexual, I FEEL you on that sociopath/psychopath thing. I used to think I was a psychopath because of how I am/feel about relationships/sex, but I do feel emotions. Just not that kind of attraction !

[@kee0613]

im finally happy i found ppl like me. thinking "am I normal?"

[@l.y.1486]

Somebody needs to make an asexual dating site. Unfortunately I feel like a lot of creepers who aren’t actually asexual would join too.

[@applesong01]

There are ace citea

[@alaahasan1999]

@@applesong01 give us a link please !

[@kiaz1st]

There is a dating app called ACEapp for asexuals!

[@ivy1781]

L.Y. 14 agreed

[@amethysttoast3642]

Yeeeeeeeesssssss

[@emers89]

My name is Emily, and I identify as asexual. I have not yet had the courage to share this with others.

[@WitchOnABroomstick]

Hello Emily, welcome to the AA meeting. 💜🖤

[@nafishaqa5013]

I believe these people has less drama in their life

[@ladidodi8912]

I believe you're correct

[@flyfantasy6565]

Duh!)

[@NetiNeti-gm5bz]

they seem more chilled than sexually frustrated people

[@NaiefThegoony]

No , i'm ace , we do have drama , just with friends and family and less with partners

[@vanessarodrigues717]

Oh boy i wish

[@jadedeaves1820]

So I’m 28 female and still a virgin- I thought this was because I’m very insecure about myself and I haven’t let anyone get that close to me - but I’ve never been able to connect with anyone on a sexual level other than thinking I have to talk in a sexual manner , I don’t relate when my friends talk about sex , I just thought - well the obvious, but now I’m actually thinking I’m asexual and things are starting to make sense

[@kajasame]

I'm 26 and a virgin too, I never felt insecure in that bcs any kind of attraction directed to me made me feel very uncomfortable so, my disconfort on closeness was bigger than anything else. I had never kissed or held hands with anyone for that same reason

[@nawafaleid196]

Much respect 🙏

[@myquickjab2098]

Dam you are rare you should be proud it better to not give yourself to anyone

[@vardhan4594]

all the love to you dear... Ase are awesome & wholesome ❤️

[@WReaderFan]

@@AngieLemmon I know this is random, but I'm a virgin too! And I'm 29. I've always wondered what's going on with me growing up, but Now I have an answer: I'm asexual! It makes sense!

[@justcozi1425]

My girlfriend and I just started dating. She told me one day that she wanted to have a talk, and she told me that she was asexual. I myself don't identify as that, but I was curious about it. I understood most of what she explained to me but of course I still had questions. I want to learn more about it so I can make sure I can give her a happy and comfortable relationship

[@cocotulle23]

She’s so lucky!! ❤️

[@eijirouchiha3308]

What about you tho? You're not asexual so how would you compensate those needs?

[@voorstenkamp]

How are you going to make it work? If you are sexual and need that in you’re life you might end up cheating and once you have that deep sexual connection it’s hard to go back to your girlfriend. It’s like feeding a lion broccoli and one day you leave a steak outside and the rest is history.

[@staycurious3954]

Maybe you can have sex with someone else and if it makes her jealous, then is it all a lie? 🧐

[@mvdd.hatter1901]

My gf wants to break up cause I might be asexual? I don’t wanna admit it tho . Idk

[@joymechell277]

What ? There’s actually a name to what I’ve been feeling for years ? I could cry right now .

[@AnastasiaBeaverhousn]

I discovered this about myself 3 months ago. It's definitely different being Black because you already know we think everything is weird. 🙄 At first I thought I just wanted celibacy but year, after year after year and then I finally did some research... 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@whalus_gigantus]

OMG SAME, I thought something was wrong with me

[@roonieh9619]

I did cry 😢

[@johnc3525]

You're frigid. The name has existed for decades...

[@Victoria-so1in]

Same

[@Riinyun]

I’m asexual and aromantic. And already coming out to my parents but they dont understand and insisting that i’m just didnt meet the right person yet, i would enjoy sex later. They think everyone is the same, everyone is born normal. There’s no way i dont want to have sex. So they want me to have a partner, get married, and have kids.

[@promisedwonderland6058]

Sometimes, I don't understand people who believe that we really don't want to have sex. I feel the same. Cuddling is okay, but no step further and I have have to have sex it's always a feeling of obligation, I don't like it at all.

[@ramonamilawaterfall3361]

I haven’t told my family I am asexual the only people I have told are two of my closest friends but for me the hardest part of telling my family I am asexual is that I am scared of how they would react to it. To me being asexual is wanting to have a relationship with someone just not a relationship that’s focused on the heavy making out stuff. Hugs and handholding are fine but the heavy making out stuff makes me feel uncomfortable including when those scenes come on in movies. There’s just 1 of my best friends I’ve been wanting to tell them I am asexual but I am not quite sure how to tell them if you know what I mean. I guess I’m just scared of the worst happening.

[@ntmn8444]

But you ARE normal. You’re fine. You don’t have to like sex or want it. It’s ok if your parents don’t understand, I’m sure they’ll still love and respect you.

[@kha0ticdud3]

I am panmatic (is that how you say it) and i completely understand what you mean. The thought of sex to me is gross and weird. Also, you are completely normal, and dont ever think down about yourself because of your sexuality. You are an amazing human being.

[@kha0ticdud3]

panromatic i meant oops

[@takchengsze4719]

I am asexual and a 44 years old virgin. I am happy though weird. :)

[@swarmsea]

You are an awesome person, no matter what sexuality you have.

[@takchengsze4719]

@@swarmsea thanks. I think I am average.

[@takchengsze4719]

@Zebra I got quite some good friends and acquaintance. Even if I am with someone, I do not want to see him everyday. The most important thing is emotionally wired. No sex, thanks. :)

[@oioioi6664]

Im happy for you :) you are extremely valid to all of us 💜💜💜

[@stargirl7963]

@@takchengsze4719 well can u give me some tips to be asexual? I really don't wanna be in a romantic /sexual relationship with anyone. 😭

[@Finalleigh]

Love doesn't mean sex. One needs to understand this. Like seriously. You can't expect everybody to be like you. Just shut up and mind your own business not mine and our.

[@kc8391]

What r u implying?

[@mariafausti3128]

@@kc8391 that some people think that love means sex and that's why some people think asexuality is not real.

[@sheetalkumar2611]

@@kc8391 what he meant is for some people getting into a relationship means it is necessary to have sex to show their "love" for each other. But what he meant is falling in love is more than just having sex.

[@kc8391]

@@sheetalkumar2611 ah i get it now

[@Kristal-Gamer]

yh

[@ambriib]

Ok so I'm not Asexual I just have a very low sex drive and mannnnnn it would be AMAZING to find someone that understands that I delt with a sex addict and all I wanted to do was eat good food, snuggle up and watch movies without feeling like it was an obligation to be penetrated constantly. It was hell and I just wished at the time and now I had someone Asexual to cuddle, listen, watch movies, travel and have genuine fun with me without constantly wanting my body in return! 😢🥺 like can we just do these things without a hidden agendas?

[@markparisi9338]

Same, I went to the doctor about 5 years ago to get a blood panel and they said my hormones were fine and there's nothing they can do. After seeing this video I'm pretty sure I'm not asexual either 🤷‍♂ What can you do I guess.

[@shainabuckner221]

Not all asexual people are sex repulsed. Some enjoy it. It’s low to no sexual desire. Many of us are sex indifferent. I could def go the rest of my life without it, but it’s a spectrum ❤️

[@susannakaysen3698]

I hate how people tell me I just didn't found the right person. Please take me serious, didn't felt sexual attracted to somebody since 29 years now 🙄

[@nikitajanei102]

I'm a 52y/o asexual woman who is romantically attracted to other women. I feel a little sad that this isn't spoken about more. It feels for me like this orientation is the 'dirty little secret' of the LGBTQ+ community. We all deserve happiness, whether that means we find like-minded others or the right to opt to just eat cake instead. I miss cuddles and connection so much that sometimes it feels like an actual ache. I wish there was a dating site for people like us. I think sometimes I'll die old and without a significant romantic partner. It's not an awful thing but it would be nice for me to share my life with another and her with me

[@rozb554]

I really feel for you. They should totally have a site for ace and aro people.

[@amidar6634]

I'm not ace but i came here to understand you guys. Just want to tell you that you are valid, important and you are part of the LGBTQ. No exceptions.

[@aceclop]

Thanks :)

[@mariafausti3128]

tysm!! We really need more people like you :)

[@lizaharris4517]

aww thank you 🥰🥰 this means so much

[@aliaaysha2072]

❤️

[@Marina40499]

Thank you ♡♡

[@nigglywiggly3908]

I just want to watch Spirited away, Ponyo, and Howls moving castle with someone I love. I’m not here for the sex :’)

[@TheFloatingDryad]

Oh SAME, I love studio ghibli

[@veIvette]

omg yesss can we date?

[@sh6161]

Omg same i love ghibli studios animes😭❤

[@laurencutrone4057]

Literally just watched Ponyo yesterday so I FEEL this.

[@yourmumsy1081]

Username doesn't check out...

[@monfetus3390]

Seeing the amount of asexual people out here makes me feel so great and happy, I finally feel like I am not completely alone anymore. We just need more representation so thank you for this video.

[@jazzycat2990]

Asexual and a monbebe?? Love likeminded folks

[@ranger8155]

so is there a difference between asexual and aromantic? I'm really struggling to find a difference between, and I've always wondered - Why are there so many terms to represent similar things? (At least I think they're similar, I could be wrong). EX: Pansexual and bisexual.

[@_chxbo_1386]

Master Of Hyrule yes there definitely is a difference. Asexual people don’t want to have sex but still fall in love. Meanwhile Aromantic people don’t fall in love at all but still have sex. Of course there are also AroAce people who don’t feel any sexual attraction as well as romantic attraction.

[@ranger8155]

would people aroace because they have a lack of hormones?

[@shanouboubou]

There are so many forms of love : the love of a mother, the love of a child, of an animal, of a friend, it can takes many forms it doesn't have to be romantic to be beautiful.

[@cosmosisrose]

Very true! But remember that asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction - many asexuals *do* feel romantic love. I think you're getting it mixed up with "aromantic", the lack of romantic attraction. :)

[@redcowcat8705]

The love for sushi 🍙🍙🍙

[@brittasbaggel.1036]

I HAVE FOUND MY PEOPLE

[@theghostlyfigure9989]

Yayyy

[@fennyfoxy3435]

same

[@kelefangshuping8715]

Me too

[@ruki4585]

Same

[@rileys.1277]

sameee

[@victoriancircus]

something i hate about being asexual is when people just automatically assume i'm a sex hater or will never have it. asexuality is a huge spectrum with many other terms falling under it. being asexual means i have NO/LACK SEXUAL ATTRACTION. When i look at a person, i don't find them sexually appealing, but that doesn't mean i don't like sexual activity. sexual activity only comes into play depending on the person who's asexual. some asexuals love doing sexual activity and enjoy it, some don't find it appealing, and some just find it neutral !

[@kiaz1st]

I’m a biromantic asexual, thank you so much for giving people the opportunity to talk about these experiences, it means a lot ❤️🏳️‍🌈

[@rustcohle3803]

@Sweet Honesty I assume a man with lady parts freaks them out. Watch the Richard speck prison video and it's disturbing, I'm so shocked prisons back then would allow this

[@kiaz1st]

Sweet Honesty hi! In the lgbtq+ community bisexual and pansexual are widely known to be interchangeable terms, chosen by the individual person for what suits them best. Bi people are attracted to all genders, regardless of if they are transgender or not, and can also be attracted to non binary people, and this is the same for pansexual people. The two terms are used as different ways of expressing this kind of sexuality, much like how ace and aro are two terms to express a lack of sexuality in different ways. While the distinction is something that often only bi/pan people can feel, the best way to describe it is: bi people’s attraction to someone changes depending on the gender, whereas pan people’s attraction to someone is the same regardless of gender. Though unless you yourself are bi or pan, then all you really know is that they largely mean the same thing, just respect what labels people choose to use.

[@aqdassyed6572]

I am boy sometimes I feel like a girl really

[@bli3859]

It would mean more if they gave these people the opportunity to meat others like them instead of letting them sift through a hyper sexualized, uber aesthetic dating app.

[@kiaz1st]

ana luisa mariano oliveira but that’s not what being bi means. Bisexuality is attraction to all genders and identities. You not being into trans women is a personal preference- nothing to do with being bi. Please don’t try to imply that bisexuality means not liking trans people.

[@StrawberryNinjaNibbles]

Given that “sex sells” I would be interested in marketing studies with asexuals as the participants. I wonder how marketing tactics would differ for them respectively

[@Selestrielle]

I never really understood why people say "sex sells." It always felt like a catchphrase that doesn't really have any grounds in reality. Why would people purchase a product just because there's a sexy ad for it? That's absurd. But then again I'm asexual. Whoops.

[@StrawberryNinjaNibbles]

Selestrielle I don’t think consumers go “oh this is a sexy ad so I will buy it” it’s more implicit/subconscious & subtle than that. Humans are notoriously bad at identifying the CAUSE of any particular feeling, with this in mind, if they see an ad or something & are attracted to the person in it, they may not be able to disentangle that from the association with the product. Thus the product is elevated or even desired because of their potential subconscious desire for the person in the ad. And something that is tied up with sexual attraction will likely stay in your mind longer... & that is ultimately what advertisers are after. They pay to take up room in part of your mind as frequently as possible, essentially. Also, sexual attraction is something most (although not all) people experience, so it makes sense to tap into feelings that will reach the widest audience possible. This is not just limited to advertisements. Look at bands for example. I know many people that follow a band (even buy their songs, merch, concert tickets etc) because they find one of the members hot. This is the same principle. “Sex sells” because it does not require logic or facts or even much effort to get people’s attention when using sex as the lure. It taps into one of the most base & innate feelings among most people & doesn’t even require the consumer to acknowledge it in order for it to be effective.

[@FairbrookWingates]

I would be interested in such marketing studies, too. Like Selestrielle wrote, "sex sells" just never made sense. Neither did the idea of sex clouding judgement. Like they also wrote, "then again, I'm asexual".

[@LoneWolf-vu6qy]

I just flat out get annoyed, and face palm. Can't stand that shit. Same with sex sense in shows/movies.

[@starplatinumoraoraora]

Not everyone is trapped by marketing like a zombie anyway. If i'm interested by a product, i look at reviews and comparisons between products of the same price range. But i see your point between ads and sex. The goal is to seduce you, not to tell you the truth. Sex reference is not needed for that, but it is sign that the product might not be great.

[@LuvlieLewi]

I'm crying!! I didn't know I can identify as something. I just thought I was weird for not wanting sex from others. I like both girls and guys but I don't like sex too much. Thank you so much.. this has changed my life 💕🌻🥰

[@orbithyunjin]

i’m not sure if i’m asexual cause i do enjoy kissing and “touching” and all that but actual sexual interaction really isn’t enjoyable to me and kind of repulses me especially when it comes to men

[@youcare_somuch2433]

h I’m like that too. I like kissing/cuddling/couple things but sex is...well awful and gross.

[@n0b0dy--]

Me too kinda, i like sex with girls and all the touchy stuff with guys but not actual penetrative sex (not that I've had it but i don't like the idea of it) and previous experience has put me off doing things with penises (like touching and oral). But i can be romantically attracted to people of any gender :)

[@samoneholston3989]

Same..no one ive met so far understands this..they think im not normal to not want sex.

[@orbithyunjin]

TiDrA thank you for explaining cause i wasn’t sure about how far asexuality goes and if it exclusively means that you don’t experience sexual attraction and simply don’t want to have sex or if it also includes sensual attraction like kissing making out or cuddling

[@madisonysasaga506]

if your comfortable with calling yourself an ace, i would say you are :D you can be romantic with someone and it wont cross into the asexual spectrum.

[@IlluBlack]

It's really beautiful that Tinder includes 'Asexual' as a sexual orientation, and the fact that they did a video it's really wonderful. I'm Ace 💜🖤 and say THANK U TINDER it make us more visible and helps people to understand this exists and it's normal. THANKS

[@molliebrower7323]

Michelle Bohórquez Vásquez yeah I updated my profile 💜♠️

[@Dontworryaboutit456]

One of the most beautiful asexual representations I've ever seen. The ending made me tear up. And to see people in the comments say how this helped them understand and even realize they are asexual means the world to me!! I love you all my fellow aces!! 💜💜

[@00RaveRat]

Im a bisexual and its so cool to see asexuality and aromantic stories. I know understand the true meaning of asexuality and aromantic

[@laurenmiller5756]

I’m asexual and a virgin at 25. And usually when thinking about sex, it’s a “id be doing it to make others happy, but not myself.” Response. And that’s the truth. I used to be self-conscious but now I don’t get teased or interrogated as much. But usually my only thought is that if I did have sex it would be just to say I’ve finally had it so people would finally shut up. To all the other Asexuals out there: not wanting to have sex with people is not a bad thing. I had a cousin who always made me feel like something was wrong and I should want to have sex with every attractive person lmao. Turns out she is just a hypersexual person, which is fine, but she would talk me into feeling like I was missing out on life. When really if you are doing sex for others and not yourself you are not missing out on anything. 😘 In the end, it’s really no ones buisness but your own and whoever you are debating on having sex with. If you explain and others judge you that’s on them.

[@ericahg101]

A lot of ace people do have sex though, and that doesn't mean they're any less ace.

[@marianesales5723]

People judge who don't like sex, people judge who loves top much sex. Nobody is never enought

[@coacherni]

I'm a lesbian. And I prefer to make my partner orgasm than making mine and I'm comfortable with that. Is it mean am asexual?

[@coacherni]

@AceOfHearts I already did the test yesterday and its show that I'm a demisexual.

[@bigNo13]

I have never met a person. Specially women who have had sex with many that is truly happy and that doesn't regret it to a point.

[@acedcoffee6934]

Asexuals let's freaking unite, I feel so alone 😭 edit: hit me up on dc tearex#1619, down to talk with y'all!!

[@fishbutler6170]

im here for u fellow ace:’ )

[@acedcoffee6934]

@@fishbutler6170 awwwww you literally made my day ;3 *hugs*

[@fishbutler6170]

aw yay always happy to help!!:) if u are in need of an ace pal or just a friend in general hmu! my ig is @malia__m and my discord is malaria;)#1614 if u have either of those!

[@acedcoffee6934]

@• b u b b l e s • awww that's great!! Congrats and welcome to the fam :3

[@youtubeacc82]

I’m not sure if im asexual or not :( I just found out about this and i didn’t even know it existed. I can relate to a LOT of stuff but i still feel so unsure cause what if im wrong?

[@marshalljohnblount1993]

I'm Asexual and PROUD 💜♠

[@marshalljohnblount1993]

@Ginger Cat yaaaas!

[@naomistone6654]

Same here never been interested in sex

[@gabrielflorentino187]

When i was little i use to love girls. But now I dont feel any kind of attracion tords women or men. I think im asexual

[@ravilkayrovfan]

Marshall John Blount me as well :3

[@gabrielflorentino187]

@@ravilkayrovfani know is not good to be asexual. When you get in the older age is going to affect you.

[@finney3169]

I’ve never felt so comfortable and related. This is exactly how I’ve felt for so long. And ofc people say “you’re still too young to know” but I know who I am, I’ve never experienced sexual attraction

[@chuckbutler8114]

Always interested to learn about different ppl and what makes them happy . The world would be pretty boring if we were all alike

[@tipoftheiceberg7034]

Chuck Butler Unless we were all rational then the world would be amazing

[@Cyberwar101]

I wish I had this information growing up. I wouldn't have thought me simply not caring about sex was a bad thing. Wouldn't have gotten into sexual relationships out of a sense of obligation either :/ That wound up causing a lot of pain and drama.

[@pmakiie262]

Cyberwar101 Feel your pain, even though I'm a teen

[@Cyberwar101]

@@pmakiie262 hang in there. Things do get better. For me my teenaged years were the worst of my life. Also remember that your hormones, as a teenager, will really mess you up. As a teenaged male, I still got horny, esp at random moments. Really made things feel wierd for me. Remember arousal is normal for most people, but arousal and attraction can be separate things, so don't doubt yourself.

[@raylevi5343]

@@Cyberwar101 Not really, arousal is a form of attraction. Even if it was briefly.

[@ozu2647]

Ray Levi nope, arousal doesn’t have to be focused on someone, attraction does. We still have libido, just aimless and untethered.

[@supergirlysofia3054]

I'm so sorry :( Sometimes I had the thought that if I wanted to romantically be with someone I might just have to put up with sex and have it one day, which made me really sad. So I avoided the thought of being with anyone romantically altogether but that made me sad too. And now here I am, with a community I'm glad I discovered 5 years ago when I was 13, and just knowing the fact that I am not alone was enough to give me hope that I could be with someone romantically without sex. I hope you have friends in your life in the meantime, who cherish you and help you overcome your trauma🌠🌟✨

[@CarlosAM1]

1:53 holy shit this happens way too much. "Oh, it's not that you are asexual, you will like sex in the future." "Oh, it's not that you are asexual, you just have a trauma which made you not like sex, you need therapy." "Oh, it's not that you are asexual, you just..." It is so annoying when people are unable to understand that it is possible for some people to not find sex attractive.

[@eljanabbasov6953]

Man, this isn't an identity problem, it's a blessing

[@alexanderabrashev1366]

where you coming from? Mars?

[@eljanabbasov6953]

@@alexanderabrashev1366 no, from Andromeda galaxy

[@eljanabbasov6953]

@baconlettucesandwich Those who want the fewest things are nearest to God.

[@answers_for_all4379]

@baconlettucesandwich just think abt feeling free from sm. Isnt it a good feeling? Thts what asexuals feel, they r free from sexual desires

[@ozu2647]

Elcan Abbasov Those who want the fewest things are BORING. If thats all heaven is, i’d rather snort coke in hell and chill out with the cool kids

[@ms.amendoza]

Oh now I understand myself more, that's why I feel so in love with someone without intensely feeling the sexual need

[@xn4246]

Before watching this video, I thought I'm weird cause I haven't found someone like me yet but now I know I'm not alone. Thank you.

[@Sara-835]

Extremely sad how we still have to put up with this flood of ignorance even today. The controversy and confusion surrounding ace purely because people can’t put themselves in their shoes, because they’re too close minded to comprehend what they can’t feel. So they treat them like their broken or like little kids who can’t tell left from right. I’m not ace but I’m here to support anyone for who they are and not oppress them to be a certain way. Society is toxic.

[@aliaaysha2072]

❤️❤️

[@aceclop]

Tru

[@sammyhiggs4202]

Thank you. I know not all sexual people are ignorant and want to understand us. Its how we are wired just like you are wired sexually.

[@deanholderde5959]

I don’t understand why someone would discriminate against aces, like, really, they’re upset with us over not being in a relationship, if I’d taken a vow of celibacy they’d probably approve, but for some reason those people aren’t okay with me just not wanting to be in any form of relationship.

[@havok3969]

Wow, I have to be completely honest with you. A couple of months ago, I was having a hard time coming up to terms with my sexuality. Whether I was straight, or lesbian, or bi. I realized I never really had any sexual or romantic attraction towards anyone in my entire life. It was hard at first, knowing my parents are Catholics, meaning they don't necessarily support the LGBTQ community, or someone that isn't heterosexual, and they expect me to get married at some point in my life just like the rest. And no, I'm technically not the only member of my family that's technically not straight, yet I felt so out of place when my cousins and siblings started dating and started getting married. I will have to eventually come out to my parents and tell them I'm asexual, and hopefully, they support me for liking being alone. I'm glad to be part of the ace community and I consider myself a heteroromantic asexual. I love you guys!!

[@AnastasiaBeaverhousn]

I'm hetero as well. I'll just say this... If you're young, MAKE YOUR MONEY NOW!!!!! That way you don't have to rely on anyone or anything!!❤️

[@theladyamalthea]

I think your Catholic parents are more likely to accept you being Asexual than the other letters on the LGBTQ+ spectrum. There is some Biblical evidence that the Apostle Paul was asexual, and the Catholic Church in particular has a long history of staying single and celibate to be devoted to God. They may still mourn their dreams for you to get married and supply them with grandchildren, but in my experience, Christians find Asexuality easier to accept than Homosexuality, Queerness, etc. I hope you can come out someday, and that you find contentment in being who you are. 💜

[@Yusuketh443]

not having sexual or romantic attraction have nothing to do with being asexual at all

[@lunarcorpse]

I didn't figure out my sexuality until I was 26. I am repulse asexual. I always wondered why I wasn't attracted to anyone. I would usually pretend to be attracted to some of the boys at school to fit in with the other girls that were talking about how cute the boys were. All the girls that were my age in middle school and high school were so giddy about looking at a boy that they thought was cute or a boy would get giddy about a girl he thought was cute(or vise versa with same sex giddiness) and I just didn't understand. I always thought there was something wrong with me. I've never felt the want or need to be with someone. The thought of being deeply intimate with someone grosses me out to the point of gagging. A naked body is just gross to me. Even the thought of having a pap smear terrifies me. I get so scared that I have severe panic attacks. They said that since I haven't been with anyone sexually that I didn't need a pap smear (I was so relieved). Yes, I was molested ( I was 3 years old, I remember everything even how it felt) and that may play a major part in my sexuality. I didn't realize that what happened to me was molestation until I was 24. To the people who made me feel like I was less of a person and made me feel like who I am didn't matter: I don't need to grow up, as I've been told many times. You don't have to have sex to be an adult. You don't have to like the thought of sex to be an adult. And no, the right person is not going to come along and change what I am. And I don't need to have sex to make sure.

[@TyGuay]

How did you not realize that you were molested until you were 24?

[@supergirlysofia3054]

@@TyGuay some people suppress their traumatic memories and those memories resurface later, or they don't think about an event until later. At least in my experience that's what happened except I realized it at 11-12 but memories resurfing is different for everyone

[@d.k.1394]

I feel for you

[@d.k.1394]

Try to have therapy

[@DrunkenSailors1]

23 years old male here.Was raped by cousin at 6 years old.Came to realise i was asexual at 21 years old due to traumatic experience.Hate human touch and interaction,disgusts me.I even forced myself into 2 relationships to fit into the norms.Didnt work.Still a virgin and hated the experience.Dont forget that such experiences are what makes us strong.Part of us.Dont feel guilt for something that wasnt your fault.Dont let nightmares hunt you down for something of the past.Its bad.Be who you wanna be, dont listen to others opinions on the matter.Be yourself.

[@HOTteaCakes]

I have never felt more understood ever than when I visited this page and read the comments

[@bethanyhudson7102]

I came out as an asexual in April 2023, and I found that out because of this video. I have never been happier, as I can't bring myself to be in a heart braking relationship. Thank you, Tinder, for uploading this amazing video. Xxxx😘

[@imamess301]

When I told my boyfriend he was like “oh so I’m just gonna be celibate for the rest of my life?” I broke up with him 😌

[@takeurmedsbae]

AS U SHOULD

[@meghlac]

What did he even mean lmao?

[@tsukki9645]

Well done✨✨

[@oddgbmo3036]

Thank god, he almost caught a bad case

[@mindhunter91]

I am happy for him.

[@NathanYudnich]

wow, mind blown, im aromatic. I always though this gender/sexual thing was liberal nonsense, but i guess its good to understand and make sense of ourselves. After stumbling upon this asexual/aromatic term. It's clear that is what i am

[@voorstenkamp]

Liberal nonsense? Mate you need to stop categorising everything along political lines. It’s sexuality it doesn’t have anything to do with liberalisme.

[@chaimaabn4182]

i'm shoked .... i always thought that i was weird ....i've never been attracted to someone sexually !! i thought that it was some kind of sickness and i couldn't tell anyone about it !! i've always felt weird and out of place !! and to be honest ... i still feel weird and sometimes alone , i don't think that i can confront my parents about this ...i'm still not sure about myself , i mean yes i'm learning but it's not enough for me to decide where i belong , at least not for now .

[@chaimaabn4182]

@Jojo Mery 😂😂😂 hitach cha3bna wa3i

[@sentientmarshmallow4644]

You belong. No if and or but’s about it. Whatever you choose to identify with now or in the future it is valid. There are plenty of people in the world just like you. I’ve been there, so many of us have been there, finding out the exact label isn’t a priority accepting it is. This is late but I believe in you, in your journey, stay strong remember you belong

[@manal4339]

@Jojo Mery hhhhhhhh dhktini well tjm3na hna

[@ariadne0w1]

It took me years to come out to myself and be comfortable calling myself ace, and another year to come out to my friends, even though several of them were ace too. I'm still not out to my parents. These things take time. Self-discovery (and acceptance) is a journey. Good luck on yours!

[@harumanalphaessence3593]

Ppl are all sissies these days that’s why, figured out what exactly makes a guy ideal start there. Then consider NATURAL evolution and natural attraction vs your brain warning you about sex cult psychos. Write down and organize your thoughts!

[@milzy5857]

i feel so relieved that other people in this world are like me and I am not alone

[@dominikadomaczaja5019]

I'm 19 years old girl who is asexual and homoromantic. :)

[@estix76]

Hi there fellow polish ace! ♤ 🇵🇱

[@dominikadomaczaja5019]

Sandra Southall hello. 😀 dobrze, że w Polsce trochę nas jest. :)

[@estix76]

@@dominikadomaczaja5019 W realu jeszcze nikogo nie spotkałam, ale w internecie kilka razy się zdarzyło, zawsze mega miło to widzieć :)

[@dominikadomaczaja5019]

Sandra Southall myślę, że przez agresywne działania aktywistów LGBT+ podczas parad równości (np. kolorowanie Orła Białego na barwy tęczy), niewiedzę społeczeństwa oraz ogólnie niedowierzanie w aseksualizm niestety prędko w Polsce nie powstanie duża społeczność osób aseksualnych. :(

[@estix76]

@@dominikadomaczaja5019 Niestety to na pewno, ale jeśli chodzi ogólnie o akceptację społeczności LGBT+ to myślę że naprawdę widać postępy, przynajmniej w mojej okolicy. W mojej szkole praktycznie na codzień widzę ludzi z teczowymi torbami, przypinkami, bransoletkami itp, znam dwie dziewczyny które są otwarcie bi i ogólnie jestem pozytywnie zaskoczona tym co się dzieje, zwłaszcza że mieszkam w dość małym miasteczku. Wiadomo, gorsze są te starsze pokolenia, no i niestety również rząd, ale przynajmniej widać jakieś postępy.

[@daniellesymons1569]

My daughter is asexual. It was hard at first knowing she would never be in a relationship. For the longest time I thought she was gay. But recently she told me she has never had any romantic feelings or sexual feelings towards anyone.

[@pragyabhushan2338]

I want to tell you that she can be in a relationship if she wants. Asexuals can have pure romantic relationships. If she's Aromantic Asexual then yeah she'll never have a relationship

[@daniellesymons1569]

@@pragyabhushan2338 she’s never had romantic feelings as far as I know. Which is sad. But I guess maybe you don’t miss what you’ve never known?

[@pragyabhushan2338]

@@daniellesymons1569 yeah. Like not feeling any Romantic/Sexual Attraction isn't a sad thing.

[@cindytwo3260]

Can I introduce you the concept of queer-platonic relationships? It is an umbrella term for committed partnerships that fall outside of romantic/sexual attraction. One example would be lifetime roommates who combine finances, another would be best friends who choose to raise children together. There are many people, Asexual-Aromantic and otherwise, who have relationships they customize this way. The most important things are communication, consent, boundaries. That being said, staying alone isn't such a bad thing either. Society is built in favor of couples, and being chronically single does come with hurdles, but friendships and family are valid as hell and there are more and more ways people are learning to come together and support each other through life outside of traditional categories for relationships.

[@daniellesymons1569]

@@Hindustan2469 hi yeah my daughter is asexual and aromantic. I just want her to be happy you know with great friends and un judgemental people. I’ve always been open and never closed as I was raised that way. It never mattered to me when I thought at first she was gay. I was just waiting for her to tell me. But I never expected her to be both asexual and aromantic. It was a shock to say the least. But I’m fine with it now. I just want her to be happy. But she struggles. I can see it. But she’s very proud. She tells me she finds it hard but I’m at a loss really as to how to help her. I can only hope in the future she finds her niche. And content. 🙂

[@avalonwolf]

Towards the end of my time in college, I went up to my favorite professor (of motivation and behavior) after class and asked her what she thought of asexuality (since we were studying sexuality). She told me she knew some personally and that they lead successful, happy lives. I actually almost started crying there but I made it to my car first. I didn't expect such a simple answer from someone I respected so much to hit me so hard. I'm really glad I worked up the nerve to mention it to her.

[@mnsstnct]

So... I just learned I'm asexual! Yayy

[@anja7270]

Congrats🥰🖤💜

[@lavion219]

good for u

[@Mnwga]

I'm incredibly lucky to have a boyfriend that, while confused, is understanding and accepts that I don't want sex. We've been together for over a year now and he's the sweetest

[@thee_morpheus]

awwww

[@ClaireSamuelsVA]

Knew something was up about 5 years ago and I’ve identified as asexual ever since. I’m not open about it since I don’t want people to assume things or make I’ll-informed judgments of me, but I tell people if it comes up. When I was eighteen and I came out to my parents, they didn’t take kindly to it and were convinced I was just afraid of sex, hadn’t found the right person yet, was gay, etc. They actually said they would prefer if I was gay because at least then I wouldn’t be alone. It stung then and it stings now. I don’t want to be alone. I want to marry for companionship.

[@rx500android]

Another asexual named Claire? well hello there

[@Glambutfirstcoffee]

just find asexual. Easy> see how many there are?

[@kekw5153]

I guess this is why I preferred anime couples that went far with only just a hug or a small kiss or none at all because it makes everything feels more special and you love the person for their personality and not their body

[@trcolavi]

Yes! We are normal and not broken! Love to my fellow aces!

[@theviewer6889]

@Black Knight Fool They said the same thing about gay people back in the day. Sexual variation within a species is perfectly normal.

[@AsmrShhay]

@The Fool you've got it wrong... There is homosexuality within many species. I don't know how people can't understand that not everyone is gay, so we aren't going to go extinct, just like any other species. That's ridiculous to even think. Good for you popping out kids, and nice shaming of the infertile. Also feminism started because we were thought of as lesser, we literally were not aloud to vote. Along with so much more mistreatment.

[@AsmrShhay]

@The Fool what is it to you?? We don't need to make anymore people than what we are making and it hurts nobody. And you can't change it, if your gay your gay. You just have a hate problem. Sad.

[@theviewer6889]

@The Fool Question, which mental disorders are you talking about here? If it's things like depression, anxiety, etc these would be better explained by systemic homophobia causing these to develop. Also there is literally not one single disease that only effects gay people. Also also infertile people can't reproduce but I don't see you going after them. The main goal as a social species is for the genes of the social species to live on so a gay doctor would be doing far more than a straight factory worker in that regard. Lesbianism didn't cause feminism, what caused feminism was things like the lack of a right to vote, unequal pay and systemic sexism. If lesbians didn't exist at all then feminism would still be a thing.

[@kiaz1st]

@The Fool and here we see a wild homophobe in their natural habitat, the KZbin comments of a video that they knew they could start a fight in. Watch as it attempts to win it’s arguments with it’s incomplete and incorrect facts and opinions, even though none of what they say will effect any gay person. Truly fascinating how the creature cries out for attention to it’s misconstrued dilemma, where it perceives there to be a problem where there is none. It will continue to bleat about a problem that affects no one but gay people themselves for many days to come, ferociously defending it’s homophobic territory against any reasonable education and unique life experiences that crosses it’s path. Majestic.

[@chessmistress1594]

Why does not being attracted to genders STILL GETS HATE? I see no problem with people not being attracted to genders.

[@daboys1215]

People hate anyone that aren't like them. It's pretty sad.

[@opprrer3328]

I’m asexual and my friend said «keep telling yourself that» my mom said «you haven’t met the right one» I have never felt sexual attraction to anyone or ever felt the desire to have sex with someone spesific or anyone in general. I can’t relate to the adjectives «hot» «sexy» etc, I can’t see anyone as that. I don’t want to have sex with anyone, I don’t feel the desire to. I could never relate to the thought of «I want a boyfriend to have sex» and «I can’t wait to have sex» I was like: «I just want someone to be with, I don’t care about sex» They were scepticl when I said that. I’m also panromntic, I can fall in love with any gender - but I don’t want sex with any of em

[@evasaxena6495]

I tell my family that I don't want to get married and have kids. Sometimes they laugh and think I am young and act childish (I am 22 years old) but when I get serious and tell them I don't want to get married because I don't want to have kids (I can't tell them I don't want to have sex or I am asexual, I feel shy telling them) they start shouting on me and say I watch TV alot and I am mad . Even my friends they say to me I am abnormal. I mean I don't hate relationships , It's just like I don't want to have sex. I don't know why sex is that important. If someone is not comfortable with it why ppl call that person abnormal. It becomes more difficult situation to handle when you are an indian. I want to achieve my dream and working really hard . I just have to be more strong for me and for my future.

[@selenamayfield5165]

Girl don't listen to them. They need to get out more. I'm in my 20s and I don't want any of these things either. And I know people far older than both of us who never did it and live very happy lives. Plus just ignore them. At the end if the Dat, they can't make you

[@nbae1106]

As a bisexual person I find this video really insightful and interesting, I'm glad to know more about how asexual people really feel ♥️ EDIT: As I have learned more about sexuality I found out I'm actually ace and biromantic, the things you discover about yourself overtime

[@VoVina111]

Woah you went from thinking you were bisexual to asexual, that's almost opposite :O how interesting...

[@TyGuay]

Wtf? How does that work?

[@nbae1106]

wwwhoknowscom I realized what I felt for both genders was romantic attraction, not sexual attraction

[@Catpawchino]

I am in love with reading these comments :D But I can't imagine not telling a possible love interest that I'm ace. Every single person I meet doesn't like it in a relationship They'll say they're okay with it at first, but then realize they actually do wanna have sex. Or like they said in the video, some people think they can change you? I refuse to date any sexual person, so I'm only interested in other asexuals U_U But yeah, why DO people care SO much about sex? Cuz they can love someone without knowing they're ace and then once they say, "I don't wanna have sex", they don't like the person anymore It seems so fake? Like they are only in it for sex Sex is just an activity. It's like saying, "I don't wanna hike, I don't like to". Then getting upset and leaving a person over it. Idk, I just think it's dumb (I like hiking btw)

[@rattusprime1578]

Number 1 thing is Don’t ask dumb questions like: “So you can’t fall in love?” “Maybe you haven’t met the right person yet?” “Could you be straight?” “Are you just doing it for attention?” If you wouldn’t ask any other LGBTQ+ person that don’t ask us aces💖

[@JackyTMusic]

Number 1 thing is ask questions and be told why they're dumb questions. I live with an ace guy, best mate for years but ive asked about all the above and his personal take on it coz aces are incredibley diverse and experiment too. Cut your elitist bs.

[@theladyamalthea]

Not a day goes by that I don’t wish Asexuality had been talked about when I was a teen. I’m in a 20 year marriage and FINALLY figured out that I’m probably Asexual. I spent most of my life wondering what was wrong with me and trying to “psych myself up” for sex with my husband. It has been very difficult for both of us, and I know it’s definitely not safe to tell my family. My husband and I love each other and don’t want to divorce over this, but there isn’t a solution that makes both of us happy. I am making SURE to talk to my kids about the option of Asexuality.

[@tawnyevergreen4169]

I like watching these videos and reading the comments, most of my friend group is highly sexual (and won't shut up about it sometimes) so it's a relief to see that there are so many people like me out there

[@aliaaysha2072]

You are valid ! ❤️❤️

[@frostcreative3814]

We need specified parts of apps or websites for us Asexuals, I absolutely would have adored to talk to Mark, what a sweet guy

[@sugandhvashisth]

I know right! 🥺 Hii btw :)

[@Dog-tw4rz]

I'm asexual aromantic and a virgin and dammit i'm proud.

[@sugaga9840]

Can I join the team ? x)

[@sashailsamuels4497]

Same 19 years and still going strong

[@aisha-be8sq]

When you're aromantic and this is the closest representation you get.

[@hyobro8392]

I feel you

[@zaniahsims]

what's that

[@aisha-be8sq]

@@zaniahsims having no interest in or desire for romantic relationships.

[@zaniahsims]

@@aisha-be8sq oo so does that mean you don't have sexual feelings either ? meaning you're aromantic and asexual or do you only have sexual feelings

[@aisha-be8sq]

@@zaniahsims to be honest I haven't figured that part out yet - you'll find a few aromantic asexuals in the video and comments. I'd recommend watching Connie Glynn's vids on being Aro - she's pretty much how I figured it out.

[@user-rt8oi8ot7z]

I’m so happy they included someone who is aroace !! I feel like we barely exist or are found in media.

[@astroastroastro5741]

please let this blow up! we need to talk more about asexuality as no one understands it

[@PizzaWithPowers]

That explains why all my guy friends always talk about girls in sexual ways and I’m just like.... wtf

[@asrealkatsikaki6306]

oryouregay

[@saphrix4587]

Cry about it.

[@tori5468]

I wish all boys were like this * crying *

[@BrookePage1992]

This explains myself so much. I thought maybe I was just weird like I like this guy romantically but sexually I’m not feeling it. Now repeat that for every guy iv been into since I was a kid that’s 15 years of questioning and now realising I’m just ASEXUAL 🤦‍♀️♥️🙏

[@sinebar]

I'm asexual, an introvert and a-romantic. People think that's weird until I explain how much it simplifies your life.

[@kevingumede458]

Lol I'm asexual, an introvert and don't even wanna have kids, even thought that my entire being just wants me to be alone.

[@rondellregan]

I been in countless relationships and had sex more times than I remember before I knew asexuals was a thing. I remember telling people I was celibate so many times because it was easier for me. Now, I never felt more free.

[@sukhk6452]

I always knew I was asexual but I thought maybe I might be bisexual; today I learned I’m biromantic asexual. I’m very happy right now

[@eagernotion3684]

When I was younger i always felt like I was soooo different and people pushed me to believe i was bisexual because I couldn't choose. Later i realised it was actually asexuality. It was not a difficult decision. I just didnt feel like making one to begin with.

[@desiree7115]

It took me so long to even understand what this was. I am so asexual. I have thought something was wrong with me for the longest. So many guys thought I was a prude or playing hard to get and I wasnt. I have never tried teasing anyone yet that was alot of guys thoughts. I thought we were friends and for me we were but they never are. It always leads up to the same thing and it hurts because I was being real and they were hanging around because they wanted sex. This made me feel used and lied to. But learning about this explains so much.

[@justabasicemo3476]

My favorite thing is “Oh well maybe if you tried it”... That’s the thing, I don’t want to. You’re not gonna change me or my mind. I’m asexual, take it or leave it.

[@Potkanka]

Ah, I wish I didn't want to... I'm asexual, but I'm curious, I would like to try sex once to see what it's all about. But the few times I had the opportunity I was like eww no thanks. I feel like a walking contradiction.

[@justabasicemo3476]

Potkanka I feel that all the time, I can promise you most asexual people do, maybe if you really want to and you feel comfortable you should at some point in your life, but never let yourself get pressured into any situation you don’t feel comfortable in. Stay safe

[@Potkanka]

@@justabasicemo3476 Thank you :) Yeah, I'll see what life brings, not gonna let myself be forced into anything... Do many asexuals really feel that way? I suppose it would be ideal then to find someone I like and feel comfortable with and who also wants to try just once, then we could be like, phew, okay, now we know and we don't expect it of each other ever again, haha

[@justabasicemo3476]

Potkanka As long as you are happy and comfortable, you do you boo 💓 You’ve got an entire community to back you up

[@Potkanka]

@@justabasicemo3476 You're really sweet, thank you so much

[@prashaanthi]

Most asexuals are soul searchers and spiritual in nature. They are old souls trying to find their inner self which is why inherently they aren't so much attached to worldly things. It's a great gift to be not given sexuality cuz it acts as a huge wall between ones body and the soul, the realization of which takes a million lifetimes they say

[@molly19144]

lucky7 okay I have no idea what you’re saying. But I do want to clarify a few things asexuality is no different than any other orientation. You seem to have the idea that being asexual somehow puts you above others and makes you wiser, and that’s just factually wrong. Also asexuality is no means a gift, it’s no more of a gift than being bisexual or homosexual is a gift. And being asexual doesn’t mean that are lives are freer than other, we still have the same amount of issues but the issues are just different.

[@CTGrell]

Jeez I hope that is not true because my chances to find a partner would be even harder. This is not about some spiritual yoga thing. Aces just don't have the desire to have sex. That's it. Nothing more

[@ariadne0w1]

I am the least spiritual person that I know. I have a massive attachment to worldly things. I read porn and masturbate. I just don't experience sexual attraction to people. "soul searcher" my ass, lol.

[@dandanP]

All my friends : "So Yilly, We told you who we had a crush on so tell us who you have a crush on!" Me ( a closeted aroace at the time ) : "I don't have a crush" My friends : "Yes you do! Everyone does" Me : *now I'm forced to come out* and that's how you come out as aroace to your friends

[@dandanP]

HiipsterGlasses oH mY gOd- YEAH-

[@aliaaysha2072]

HiipsterGlasses 😂

[@elianna_ecc]

Okay regardless of whether or not someone's asexual, "everyone has a crush" is such a weird thing to say...

[@dandanP]

@@elianna_ecc I know right? Even if you aren't aro/ace you don't have to have a crush. Like wtf? Allo people can have a crush on nobody at a point in time.

[@elianna_ecc]

@@dandanP Exactly! I hope your friends accepted you by the way

[@mrs.eym0118]

im an asexual person too and I'm proud of that

[@theaboveaveragefangirl]

I can't describe how happy I am to find people who are just like me!

[@DanishNerdess]

"Just do you" should be the official Ace slogan

[@aceclop]

Tru

[@mariach9433]

Am crying, fr am not alone thank you god

[@mariach9433]

@Ferd Ferd.D thank you sooooo much💞

[@lvjonjon215]

Marie Charles Same 🙏🏾

[@EmpoweringPhoenix]

I am 28.5 still virgin n now I realised that about my sexuality.. I am romantic asexual.. I want a marriage a family but it's sooo difficult I think I ll stay alone for the life.. nobody around me is like me.. we are like dust particles in this world.. very very few.. I always had been struggling since ages.. no guy wants to be with me because I am sexually unromantic.. now my parents are worried about my marriage.. if anybody have some idea please share. Thanks.

[@carolynjanesutton4932]

No, you definitely aren't alone.

[@mariach9433]

@@EmpoweringPhoenix am 29 and am a virgin as well, it's Truely hard to find a matching partner for us, but never loose faith we can make it, try to talk about it with your mom or sister don't feel ashamed this is not a crime, we are born to keep our bodies the way we want to, just talk to someone close it will help

[@Moonshinefoxx]

I haven't talked to many asexual people so this was very informative.

[@aceclop]

Well I'm glad you learned something.

[@matty8272]

I was recently called asexual for making the rationalization that sex is dumb. It doesn't feel good. It's never changed the way I feel. The "health" benefits are complete bs. The most physical contact I get is from my chiropractor. Now that feels good.

[@kingseokjin6]

I support you guys. You are all valid❤

[@nicoleosoro5398]

When she said the guys tell her "lemme change that for you" I felt that 😭

[@erikasantano6507]

I had some guy on tinder tell me I’m wrong on my definition of asexual. Like SIR who are you to try and tell me who I am & what asexual means & give a completely wrong definition

[@nandana3227]

It took me 19 years to find my sexuality. I am asexual and coming to romantic side I'm still figuring out if I am aromantic/heteroromantic. All these years I lived by questioning myself. But not anymore I realised I'm also valid

[@Hindustan2469]

I'm a male and asexual, searching for asexual partner

[@chunkofpineapple3706]

Asexual and proud!!!!

[@aceclop]

Ditto :)

[@Aaaaagghhhhh]

My best friend is aro/ace and I’m biromantic ace. Perfect duo 😌 Even though I feel romantic attraction, we don’t talk about relationships and stuff, it’s nice

[@AllytheGumby]

3:10 i love themm!! honestly i agree, i always thought the best thing you could ever do with someone, even romantically, would to just go on an adventure and truly share your time with someone. sex just feels like its so random and weird-

[@bclaasen1185]

"Its hard to find a person who's interested in the companionship more than the sexual activity" Wow. That hit hard.

[@TheeBratzDollxox]

I felt that deep!

[@ninasebelja6556]

Why can't be both, equally..

[@elliejohns8895]

ikr i really wish i find someone that feels the same way as me

[@sfletch3042]

Lol. Single people have that problem too

[@davidthomas961]

Not that hard if you clear up what you like or want and you relate to others in that way. Less drama and complications y’all...

[@TylerMations]

What tf is even the deal with sex? Why do people even desire it so badly and call it "a basic human need". I'm asexual and I'm living my life perfectly fine without it

[@tinymeow]

Exactly!

[@theaboveaveragefangirl]

You speak my mind!

[@Astralintroverted]

Sooo true.. can't agree more

[@thisnoize7]

Haha what's the deal with sex? Not too much, it's just the exact event that took place, resulting in your existence? It's a basic human need for the vast majority of us because it's how the human race exists. We're programmed to mate and sustain the population of our species. Nothing unique to humans or mammals in general. I respect you're asexual and I don't discount it one bit. That being said, I really get the impression you're not looking at things objectively and are possibly discounting my sexual desires and the importance of them. You deserve to live your life whatever way you want to. Anybody that ever challenged you on that is an ignorant bigot. It's funny actually, if I could choose I would probably decide to have no sex drive what so ever.

[@theaboveaveragefangirl]

@@thisnoize7 You're not entirely wrong, but I doubt the main reason people want to have sex is to reproduce. And not all sex sessions (whatever their called) result in pregnancy.

[@ClassSolidarityNotNationality]

Guys we need an asexual tinder just so that we can find each other lmao.

[@Stauby_Bobby]

Yes. Like please 👍

[@neerusillay224]

For sure 😂

[@notastarcloud]

I know there's an ace app called... Ace app? I think

[@Stauby_Bobby]

@@notastarcloud Thanks so much! I downloaded it today and have made so many new ace friends! ♠💜

[@nftbandit9645]

yes!!