5 Comments that Easily Trigger a Narcissist's Rage

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00:48 Comment 1
02:18 Comment 2
04:12 Comment 3
06:29 Comment 4
09:46 Comment 5

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@janicebullard5774]

Your Right No

[@Star_Stories_37]

You are doing so much good for so many of us! 🙏

[@PsalmsForTheLoveOfJesus19]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge and gifts Blessed be 🙏🏻

[@jaichhabra6458]

Misguiding will worsen lives

[@onloveandsublimation4912]

Everything that you said is so correct. Very clear. Very accurate. Thank you.

[@Jay-rw3hn]

“Banging your head against the wall produces a better result than talking to a narcissist.” 🤣😂🤣😂 So true… painfully true.

[@nmHispana]

You start off attempting resolve one main topic and in a matter of a few minutes they'll be off onto all sorts of different topics that leave your head spinning all over the world.

[@annstar2793]

So true !!!!!

[@pinapple60]

😂

[@theGalaxyfox75]

Indeed...exactly what I said to myself after awhile

[@laurencochran2201]

Literally had an intense argument and I ended up saying and doing it then I was the crazy one

[@sherrylivering4149]

"You can not have any conversation with a narcissist" That is 100% spot on!!! You can be talking about buying toilet paper and it will turn into a sh&t show!

[@jpsmcmahon9320]

YES!!!

[@nmHispana]

And bagging food at the grocery store.

[@pinapple60]

Oh my goodness that is completely true no way now I know I’m not going completely mad!! Lol!

[@pinapple60]

@@nmHispanaYES no way!!

[@brookescott9598]

That actually happened to me about toilet paper! I bought some when we had some left! Boy, oh Boy! I am out now.

[@RapturereadyforJesus]

The worst reaction I got from the narc is when I was telling him how intelligent my dad was. The narc thinks he is the smartest person in the whole world. Yet, he can’t pay his bills or wants to work.

[@foreverlv311]

Same here, no job, no money, no car, no prospects or real plans..zero yet talks as if he's the fountain of knowledge and wealth 😂🤦‍♀️ I have all of the above. He has a daughter and everyone can see she's not his! It's cringeworthy and he's so jealous of my kids. He owes me money and now it's time to pay up he's ghosted me but I suppose it's better I walk now rather than later. Was even trying to convince me to get rid of my dog so he could move in with his nasty, hissing cat! fml I'd rather have my sweet doggo anyday over him and his nasty moggy😂 keep the money and adios 🤡

[@christianbenn316]

& your dad would put him in his place.

[@ronjones8981]

Run, don’t walk! Staying with the narc will make your life miserable.

[@blessedlonewolf5518]

I wish there were a LOVE button for your comment!!! Awesome insight!🥰

[@cici2562]

For #4, the opposite is also true. Narcissistic parents blame their child for everything that goes wrong in their world. Which makes the child start to doubt his or her decisions until she no longer has the courage to make decisions at all. It’s soul destroying.

[@finehowareyou]

yes. the 2008 economic crash was my fault as well. i mean - how could i be so stupid.

[@juliettewood2969]

That sounds exactly like my childhood. Still working on that.

[@BossMama381]

So true. I watched this happen and still happening today .

[@debbieschultz9768]

I can attest to this. Everything was always my fault where my mom was concerned. Not a fun childhood!!!!

[@nezkeys79]

The opposite is also true for most of them tbh

[@guyseeten2755]

It goes even further. Whenever she asked me to do something for her, buy something, etc., the unconscious raising of my eyebrow was enough to trigger her narcissistic rage. She immediately interpreted it as a NO. There really is something human missing from the narcissist's DNA.

[@mukttamahajan524]

Agreed

[@johnnycassell4338]

100%

[@laminage]

You 👀 got that right ✅️. No 👎 is not part of their vernacular. They grew up in an environment 😢 where they get everything that they want no matter what. They are also very spoiled and entitled 🙄 whose parents never set boundaries with them and as grown ups they have no lifeskill lessons and they still feel that friends should take care of them. The friends are like second parents who spoil them

[@pamelaheriges3654]

My deceased ex was a true casebook narcissist. He was abusive, and had little ways of of inciting me to anger so that he could fight, make me feel wrong for my anger, and remorseful for my over reaction to his sly goading. He was in control of the finances. ALL the household monies were his. When ever I asked him to make a purchase, he raised his eye brows, silently in an unspoken questioning look. The look was how much do you really need this item? Sounds to me like you are the narcissist, with all of your trigger mechanisms set to go. Seems to me you knew how to trip her trigger, so that she looked crazy and volatile.

[@guyseeten2755]

@@pamelaheriges3654 [Sounds to me like you are the narcissist, with all of your trigger mechanisms set to go. Seems to me you knew how to trip her trigger, so that she looked crazy and volatile.] Yes Pamela, that's what we need, narcissism victims accusing each other of being a narcissist. And the true narc walks away while roflol. Your wrong assumption about me is based only on your experience, without knowing my situation. (To avoid her anger, I stopped saying NO when she made another wish / demand / command. It was all about serving her, and keeping my mouth shut.) So may I rate your comment 'below zero'? Thank you.

[@biljanarajs5461]

"It's better to bang your head against a wall then to talk to a narcissist." 🤣 ... so true!!!

[@JebidiahKrackedyetagain-xv9hc]

Uh....Excuse me....I don't see any marks or bumps on your head, no blood either...You mind banging your head a little harder? Here....A nail instead for you to bang your head against it, so I can hang this picture of ME up! Thanks.🤣🤣 ---From a "troll" and a narcissist🤣

[@Muchjoy..]

Don't that, been there , got the t shirt.. And I am still questioning myself...😢

[@MemunasMindfulMix]

So true

[@freespirit5234]

It intrigues me that children actually survive in these environments......I just hope that they can completely heal from these devils.

[@carparthero]

5 comments that easily trigger a narcissist's rage 1- no 2- i know many people who don't behave like you 3- i feel like i have to walk on eggshells when i'm around you 4- you always like to blame other people except yourself 5- do you think i am that stupid?

[@nathalieduverna6963]

Thanks

[@BobbiGail]

BUT, 1, 2, 3 and 5 have been told to me BY the Narcisist. I probably have traits too that make my family feel they have to walk on eggshells. It's tough bc they dont want to discuss anything. They just want a lovely life status quo with no struggles to work through... as long as they get what they want.

[@ilexevergreen5405]

This should be pinned! Annoying when they don't put it in the description. Giving the written content doesn't mean that people don't watch the video!

[@carparthero]

@@ilexevergreen5405 thanks for your kind words. glad to be a bit of help. keep fighting the good fight. -cheers, steven.

[@ilexevergreen5405]

@@carparthero ❤️

[@TheDickeroo]

For me the answer is to use humor on a narcissist. They just don’t know how to handle it. I had a boss say to me once that I depressed him because he couldn’t “get” me. I started to laugh and he said, “See, you’re doing it again.” I drove him crazy because I turned the situation into humor. It is beyond their ability to comprehend. Love it.

[@seameology]

True. Absolutely NO sense of humor.

[@belinda510]

Wise.

[@vincentbrugetti7254]

Hmm, are you left handed, or born in breech position, are you a natural at art, making/fixing/repurposing things, drawn to music, great lyric memory, think outside the box, witty and quick with humor, connection with animals, petting s/o dog and they say wow, my dog is mean and nippy and never allows 11:58 this. . . .?? Just curious

[@vincentbrugetti7254]

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[@user-th2hh5zm5w]

Agree 💯. I turned silent and zombie like in four months. Was non reactive and one morning this narc tells me as I stood before the mirror to get ready after shower. He said "you know. If you had kids . They'll be really beautiful"- I got pissed off coz I lost a pregnancy just five days ago. So I smiled n said "ohh yeah. Am sure too the kids will be beautiful .. but I cannot say the same if they're yours"

[@ronmortimer252]

One phenomenon I've noticed is: as discussions invariably turn into arguments she gets energized and I get exhausted/depleted. You would have more chance stopping Niagara Falls than stopping the words coming out of her mouth when she goes full tilt mode. Life's interesting isn't it!

[@reapsgrimley]

afknmen

[@earthsign6305]

"You cannot, have a conversation with a narcissist"😂😂😂😂😂 You are completely, right. You will never, get anywhere.

[@frchka7164]

The most horrifying thing is when nothing you say can trigger a narcissist because they feel content that they’ve thoroughly destroyed you.

[@zazu3006]

from experience with my father, it’s in the body language. he was always watching like a predator his prey. when i worked and worked and focused elsewhere on being calm n on getting out n getting stronger, not concerned with him and even laughed attacked him for being ridiculous, he reacted with rage, he lost his cool- but left me alone since.. well next few weeks i had to be a round this monster. ..but before, when i had to consciously get all my powers to not be scared- tension was still there and he smirked with glee, add being stressed and he attacked- easy unsuspecting subject, with precision and two words only delivered a bullet,

[@reesedaniel5835]

@@zazu3006 The fiery darts of the enemy (per the Bible).

[@patrickjanecke5894]

​​@zazu3006 That happens. Still, ignoring him is your best bet. Give him nothing, and you win the long game. He needs your fear in order to exist, and rejection, even (or especially) through your fear will eat at him like acid.

[@montanabirdmommy]

Or perhaps it wasn’t a narcissist. Sociopaths can also be very high in narcissism, and you cannot trigger them.

[@johnschuster1770]

You are so right. Working or living with one is dealing with a "Psychic Vampire". They mentally drain you. It's exhausting.

[@seameology]

I call my daughter an emotional black hole. But this works, too!

[@southerncatlady]

GAH!!! That whole, "That's not my fault," and "I didn't ask you to do that" absolutely DID make me crazy. Over time, I began engaging in reactive abuse. I am so ashamed of myself, because I have NEVER behaved that way. Now, I see how it happens. I just wish I could get someone to see what REALLY happened!

[@foreverlv311]

Ahh yes but if you don't ask them to said event or happening cos you've had enough, they whine like a baby🙄🤷‍♀️the irony, pathetic. The narc owes me money, guess what..silence, ghosted. Well he can keep it, I'd rather have my freedom and peace of mind😊😉👍

[@southerncatlady]

@@foreverlv311 omg, YES!! They are overgrown children, only with the MOST malicious intentions. I'm so sorry you ended up losing money. But I think you're right. Your freedom and peace of mind is worth more! 🤗

[@catherinedonnelly1025]

@@foreverlv311-mine just absconded with a lot of our money and of course he denies it But when I bring it up, he gets furious, so I know he did take it all HE CAN HAVE IT I HAVE PEACE NOW

[@lovejumanji5]

@@foreverlv311. Hey , I lent someone a hundred dollars , haven’t seen them since. This was the cheapest way I’ve bought myself out of a headache. Seriously…..it’s awesome!

[@lovejumanji5]

Don’t be ashamed, the real blessing is when you know . Really know . No doubts . That’s your freedom that can’t be bought! People think what they want ! The real soul journey is by YOU ❤

[@jadegreen1554]

What an adorable kitty 😌

[@narcabusecoach]

🙂

[@timward3116]

Just a reminder: Some narcissists are also sociopaths and psychopaths. Before you trigger their rage, as yourself whether you're prepared to have your tires stabbed, your windows broken, or your coffee poisoned.

[@mariasartzis-Sartzis-PELLICIER]

The few times I said no to my husband, now ex-husband, I got physically assaulted; torn clothes then physically thrown out the door, and down the stairs, picked up and thrown across the room, screamed at and threatened; plates of food and or drinking glasses thrown towards me.

[@JJ-pf3ok]

Glad you took the trash out😎

[@forensicbadassprofiling]

Exactly girl. This is why we have to be very careful about taking advice from these so-called narcissistic abuse experts. They have no idea what level of psychopathy we personally are dealing with. I'm lucky to be alive, surviving three near-death experiences because I said no to a psychopath I was married to. The channels that refused to go further in-depth about narcissism and psychopathy, are channels you should immediately stop supporting. They do more damage than good. Because you can see by the comment below yours, she didn't even catch that because you said no, you were thrown down the stairs. Instead with her cognitive dissonance, she clearly saw that thank God you got out. She didn't see the dangers of saying no. That's proving my point how vulnerable the brain is of a victim Survivor who cannot think logically enough to see through the damages of channels giving general advice. I unsubscribe from this gentleman today because I've watched enough of his videos to know how General his information is. That he's missing huge components, and leading survivors down a very very very dangerous path. Some people are truly in it for the right reasons to educate, and some just want subscribers.

[@lorrainefrasier4096]

Wow, they are just over the top. Bunch of babies. Can't accept no. I hope you aren't in any contact with him. Keep healing.

[@mariasartzis-Sartzis-PELLICIER]

@@lorrainefrasier4096 Thank you so much. I am healing more and more

[@sandrapatriciaoriguarios4589]

Sorry to hear you've gone through that. It's unbelievable how they overreact when they are told 'NO'.

[@erickonassis6310]

Calling them a professional victim works well too...I remember having an argument about what each one would do if we won the powerball, it turned into a full blown argument. I said I would use three different banks to put the money in, she called me dumb, she would just use one. I said its a preference, nobody's wrong..glad shes gone

[@cindytrayer4279]

That is exactly the type of conversations that would set off arguments with my ex. The most innocent comments would turn into ridiculous arguments bc , of course, their way is THE only right way. Black and white thinking in full force. That is when you want to bang your head into a wall! Or theirs!

[@reapsgrimley]

amen

[@TheJinxe15]

I totally agree with all your points. I have a narcissist very close to me. He is exactly like this and since I know better now about narcissists - I put up a fight and say No - he hate my guts and belittles me all The time but I don’t give a flying ****!! 😂

[@AchillesRage501]

Ironic They think they have power but there not the senate

[@TheJinxe15]

@@AchillesRage501 true and as we all know it’s all in their head. In reality they are powerless, needy , insecure and basically without consciousness. I think I can write a book about them 😅

[@peachesandpoets]

My story

[@samiyaaftab1]

Same story here with as well

[@benitalong8785]

Exact!

[@suhinahiralal8056]

I never had the courage to confront him with any of this. I was so terrified of his rage, vindictive behaviour and the feelings I experienced during the silent treatment- I avoided all kinds of confrontation. I always tried to keep the peace, I was aware I was walking on eggshells and could never express myself freely- but I never had the guts to tell him that

[@Find-Your-Bliss-]

I hope you have the ability to leave him. You deserve better.

[@HipHop-vg7cd]

Yep they condition you so that you don't dare question them, esp when it involves their feelings, behavior or God forbid their precious time to spend with you! They will Never admit any wrong doing, they try to make you out as being negative or in the wrong, regardless of what subject you bring up. It's exhausting!!!

[@lizh1988]

They are just not normal and will never give you a satisfying answer or reaction. It's all about them in a way we probably can't understand.

[@braytonhougland8505]

Just tell him. If you don't do anything and say nothing of course nothing will change. Gotta learn to take responsibility for your own decisions and even the actions you don't take.

[@sharondoan1447]

Wasted effort on your part. My heart bleeds for whatever belief or custom has forced you to accept this man’s treatment. You always deserved better.

[@prant8998]

I was a world class expert at walking on eggshells. I could walk on hardwood floor strewn with marbles carrying a bottle of nitroglycerin on my head. It doesn’t matter. My honey-bunny would pull some slight out of her butt, as if I had slapped her in the face. In fact, I could have told her, “You’re the most beautiful woman on earth.” This could get turned around as a “slight" worthy of a hysterical psychotic meltdown so off the charts that I would have to leave for fear of some neighbor calling the cops thinking someone was in mortal danger, (and they would be me.) Bottom line, the whole, "walking on eggshells," only helps the narcissists victim, giving them a sense of control that only lasts until the narcissist get’s angry at you again for no reason. It’s a cycle of abuse, and there is nothing a partner can do to prevent it.

[@nmHispana]

Well, my daddy always use to say that the devil didn't like noise.

[@Sorchia56]

Hi dad! 😂😂😂

[@trollhunter6934]

Divorce will prevent it

[@phoenixmode6909]

Yup, leaving and divorcing will absolutely reduce, and after the divorce, prevent that. If anything, those two actions will definitely make it easier to ignore. I have so much more peace in my life now.

[@sharondoan1447]

The partner must leave the relationship in order to find relief. Reading on the subject of narcissism it appears that the ones of us who are not narcissists are sentenced to a lifetime of abuse from those who are. We are told not to challenge them, to “ gray rock” them, to walk away without interacting, blah, blah, blah. I believe it is possible to refuse to be a verbal punching bag. Moving far, far away from the abuser is at least a chance.

[@fingerscrossed2453]

I said no to the narcissist. They hit me.

[@lizh1988]

Do what you need to do to stay away.

[@fingerscrossed2453]

@@lizh1988 thanks I'm in a mess at the moment. I'm praying for a miracle.

[@avalerionbass]

I've never met a personality archetype more consistently predictable than a narcissist. The irony is that they all think they are the most unique human beings that ever existed, yet EVERY single one is exactly the same as every other narcissist.

[@tammystours5171]

So true.. demons

[@anneofgreengables1619]

Right on!

[@sandrathomas2893]

Yeah...once you break the code you know exactly what they're going to say or do! Their vocabulary is very small.

[@majaza45]

When he realized I knew ahead of time what was happening and why , he got enraged. He hated that he was being predictable. They think they are so stealthy and we are so stupid.

[@louisesultana2431]

It seems to me if you bust them directly for some odd behavior, that triggers them the very most. They fly into a rage immediately

[@rogermason8287]

When I listen to you I think you know my wife personally. That is exactly her reaction to those 5 things. Whenever I'm done trying to have the simplest discussion with my wife I feel like half my life has left my body. Thanks for all the help may God bless and keep you.

[@ashishsachdeva432]

Same here

[@herelieskittythomas3726]

That's energy theft you are experiencing and it causes real illness in the body.

[@ayeshajulekha6889]

Same with my husband 😅

[@sharondoan1447]

Why do you stay?

[@ramadevilingaraju5375]

An influential narcissist can control the attitude of all those who come into contact with their targeted victims! IM NOT exaggerating!

[@LMarie_]

The thing that made my narcissistic ex the angriest was when he cheated and I calmly left him, it’s almost like he WANTED me to be angry and emotional. He became unrecognizable and had this look in his eyes that I can only explain as being monster or reptilian-like.

[@betsysorrell1357]

It's true. They have to be told that they are right. They imagine that they are perfect.

[@christinerobertson9596]

Mother's caretaker- I left the house we share because I can't take the gaslighting, being hit, yelled at , etc... When I say I can't take your abuse anymore, she says, " You're not innocent." I moved into my RV until she dies. I'm ignoring her texts and won't be in our house alone without my husband present. No More. She is a tyrant. Hope she goes soon. Narcissists have no limits to what they say or do because there is no conscience there.

[@patterson1rox]

AMAZING!!! I'm about to get divorced, and I now realize why. In this video, you called out 5 for 5 characteristics of my wife. She always put it back onto me, saying I'm the issue. I'm a trucker. When most of the problems happened, I wasn't even there! But, it was still my fault... I'm not a wizard. If I was, I wouldn't be driving a semi! THANK YOU for this video!!! My soul thanks you! I can truly start to heal myself.😇

[@JessicaJLandi]

It's wonderful when a growing number of people in a community become aware and awake to the narcissists among them. And, terrified of exposure and lack of supply, of course the narcissists eventually move.

[@sarahwagland1559]

My narc neighbour is so obsessed with controlling me that she is refusing to cooperate with a problem with the deeds leaving us unable to sell our house and move. It's ironic that, in the process, she is risking exposure. She can't see that her incredible lust for control is going to be her undoing. If we don't get resolution soon next stop is the small claims court. She, no doubt, will laugh it off firmly believing that, as the superior being she has nothing to fear but, she should be afraid, very afraid. I would much rather move and put this whole sorry episode behind me but I can't see her ever cooperating because she would see it as losing.

[@JebidiahKrackedyetagain-xv9hc]

Nope, I'm still here.🤣🤣🙄

[@StopSmearCampaigns]

Yeah but make sure it is a case that they are a narcissist and it's not just a smear campaign made up of lies and the community isn't actually made up of flying monkeys who are harassing them My bullies called me a narcissist as a way to isolate me and turn people against me. I'm not a narcissist, I'm autistic. They are the ones projecting and lacking accountability, honesty and integrity

[@brettedgar6733]

YOU DON'T HAVE TO TRIGGER A NARCISSIST, THEY ARE A LOOSE CANNON, OUT OF THE BOX.

[@timefoolery]

I learned one thing that would enrage her. One day back when I first got out of college and was substitute teaching, I started having an earache with the accompanying dizziness which led me to throwing up. I got sent home and replaced with another sub. When I got home, my mother acted all pissed off about it and suddenly decided SHE was sick, too. Then she started ordering me around like I wasn’t getting dizzy every time I stood up. I got angry and grumbled, “I guess YOU’RE the only one who gets to be sick around here!” Oooh, her eyes turned black and her face turned red and she demanded I repeat what I said, and I was mad enough to do so. She didn’t hit me or anything, but as soon as I finished doing what she ordered me to do, I disappeared into my room and locked the door. She HATED me closing and locking my door and I have no reason why other than she wanted to keep me off the computer because I was meeting new people online. There was another time when I was maybe 12 when I popped off at her and she got out an electrical cord and just started whaling on me. Wish I could remember what I said cuz it must’ve been pretty sarcastic for her to child abuse me. Which, btw, I knew there was no point in telling anyone about it then. She would’ve just told everyone I was crazy and a liar. 🤦‍♀️😔

[@gretavains8707]

My mother all over😢 crazy woman. Like Sinead O'Connor's mother😢

[@jacob98264]

This is so true, no matter what I would say or how I would say it she would go off. If I told her no then all of a sudden she would want to go home. I feel so pathetic and embarrassed

[@annbond5040]

Please don’t feel pathetic or embarrassed. You are kind and caring and were taken in. Lesson learned. 💕

[@SsAa-pb3nx]

I like the banging your head comment. So true!

[@samiyaaftab1]

You are a heaven sent to me everything you say in bang on and no one understands narcissism like you do

[@smitha1867]

Many do understand. But good if he's helping you.

[@solid9999fine]

Absolutely 💯 ty

[@cj3055]

You are always on point! I knew something was off with my ex, but now that you point out of the key points I can totally see how he would always twist everything on me! Omg! Wish I had found you years ago! I am so thankful for people like you that spread awareness to help us heal from traumas in our life!

[@mariasartzis-Sartzis-PELLICIER]

In my experience of narcissistic abuse from ex-husband, he has NEVER showed any shame in anything he said and done. His arrogance actually grew and grew. Are narcissists really capable of shame?

[@mukttamahajan524]

No

[@jasonhaynes2952]

No. They feel no shame, because shame would require them to feel less than perfect or to have done something wrong. We know that narcissists are never wrong! We also know that anything they do that might be considered wrong (should they be faced with indisputable evidence) that it was justified, and in fact, someone elses fault!

[@thehotcoffeehouse6081]

@Jason Haynes one actually told me, " shame is not a big 20th century concept", this was in the 1990s.

[@forgiven5919]

No remorse ever because they are a demon.

[@prant8998]

No empathy, no apology. They never want to give you ANY validation.

[@poeticrockstarr6875]

Call them a liar to their face. I did this many times to my ex and he blew up like Krakatoa. They can not handle it when they are called out and they allow their mask to fall. You will then see who and what they really are. Take note, this is the real them.

[@maggie6]

A look or not looking triggers them because no matter which move you make it’ll be the wrong one. No matter what you say, it’ll be the wrong thing. If you said and did everything the way they had it in there heads they wanted it said and done - they’d move the goal posts and you’d still be wrong. The only pleasure in life they have is making others wrong because by default that according to the narcissist makes them right.

[@susanfromthemountains1754]

Does anyone else find that you can't ever work alongside happily, lovingly, peacefully, co-jointly with your spouse narcissist? That they won't let that happen?

[@The_Joker_]

My brother is a narcissist, he scammed me out of €74,000 I’m a paraplegic and amputee, when I finally said no to him he freaked out and tried to blame me for everything. I’m now taking him and his wife to court for fraud and I will make it as public as possible. I’m an empath I Will enjoy destroying this delusional creature.

[@HansHeinShorts]

@the_Joker_ " I Will enjoy destroying this delusional creature." You sound like a good person

[@hgibbs2588]

30 yrs in LE.. Scary thing?. If you suspect a narcissist.. Just run.. The odds are great they're a psychopath too..

[@HossLUK]

I wonder how many other people watched this video and it made them realize their ex is a huge narcissist

[@radiationraven]

I’m so glad I clicked this. You see, I have been looking in the mirror hard wondering why everything had always failed. This has helped me see that I have had a lot of narcissistic traits, and I have been working hard on myself. I put myself in therapy. I DO want to be a good person. And I am willing to change, and I know it’ll probably heave my world over but I don’t care about “my” world anymore. It’s time my “family” become my world. Thank you for this. These would’ve sent me over the edge, exactly how you described. Keep up the good work.

[@JebidiahKrackedyetagain-xv9hc]

You should probably narcissisticly rejoice that you engaged in such refreshing CANDOR...In an "information age" that actually consists of so much bullshit and/or intellectual dishonesty, such is becoming very rare. (Or perhaps has ALWAYS BEEN rare??)

[@smoly37]

Congratiolations! Seriously. I was always told, that a narcissist can't be treated through f.i. psychotherapy, because it would mean, that they recognized their own problem. And that is not how a narcissist's mind works. So again seriously: Well done and keep it up!

[@sweetbeep]

Maybe you are not a true narcissist if you can see reality?

[@aquateal384]

A narcissist doesn't have the self awareness or humility to see their own part in a problem. More likely, you have Borderline personality disorder, if anything.

[@alabama.worley]

​@@sweetbeepThey didn't claim to have NPD. They shared that they have narcissistic traits. Most everyone has narcissistic traits, which is perfectly healthy and socially acceptable. It's when multiple pathological traits and maladaptive behavioral patterns are present, coupled with a lack of empathy and remorse, that personality disorders and disordered personalities form.

[@imagineit8909]

After an over twenty year so called marriage it took about thirty years to heal from his behaviour. The red flags 🚩 were there before we even married and proved correct with him and his family. Thank you for an EXCELLENT CALL OUT! God bless you and yours. 🙏💝🙏💝🙏

[@patriciajohnson6653]

REVELATION; THEY DO ( BELIEVE ) THEY'RE *perfect* look at themselves in the mirror akl day if they could. OMG. Thank You, Counselor.

[@lindamoore9729]

I don't know how many times my narc has said to me... well if you would say it this way, if you would have approached me that way, If YOU, if you, if you. Never him that just wouldn't listen no matter what way it's said. Another great video. Thank you.

[@LoveSource1111]

He tried hoovering me through the animal hospital after 3 months, and I blocked the number.

[@josekanucee1428]

As a 6’6” man, I literally look down on narcissists and they can’t do any about it. Makes em uncomfortable and it’s glorious for me and my small ego.

[@risikasalifu6885]

You are absolutely awesome amazing thank you. You know this narcs very very well.

[@Freeminder-tj5us]

Yes, I’d rather speak to the wall!

[@nicolewalker-lott7579]

TY exactly

[@lizh1988]

Narcs don't keep out the wind and rain, so dump them but be nice to your wall 😂 -- and your head! Seriously it's so good to be away from the narc.

[@HUYI1]

titanium steel wall 😎😎

[@joanieatherton5034]

Thank you Danish for this episode. You touched on the absolute for me in this episode. I have resigned at this point to withdraw from any communication of any substance with him. It is always a futile effort and there is never a compromise or a sharing of thoughts. There is always blame . I call it the blame game. I also call the behaviours of the narcissist the how great though art game. Still trying to find a therapist that understands this to help me. I look forward to the next time you post.

[@susanparker9877]

How great though art.....yes! That's one of my favourite hymns, and I relate to your comparison.

[@sandral2261]

I've said all those things. .. love to see them act like a child.

[@rogermason8287]

I think you just inspired me...cause you first have to be in control to do that.

[@sandral2261]

@@rogermason8287 I find it hard to believe that people fight so hard not to grow up. People who play the victim are unbecoming

[@pinapple60]

I act like a child when I’m happy my free inner child comes out it’s a good feeling!!

[@myownchannel247]

Call them out! I say it so everyone nearby can hear it “ you’re a narcissist “ and watch what happens 👍

[@JebidiahKrackedyetagain-xv9hc]

YOU are a narcissist...... ....Nope, nothing happening so far.

[@alexsie3012]

The big lie and the rejection of facts are hallmarks of harmful narcissism. Saying no to it is the best response.

[@mrfarax4944]

Since I was a child I battled when I hear how people reacted versus how I reacted I feel like a brave lil dude I mean even as 10 year old I remember instinctively saying no talking back breaking rules cuz I knew mom was messed up I could see it but I couldn't name it so I decided the hell with her am gone fight you on everything it took a part of my soul cuz now I can escalate quickly without wanting to sometimes cuz it's ingrained behaviour but now looking back am proud of the lil me and by saying that I healed a trauma I had I teared up at the thought of lil me in this new light

[@skylarrussell7242]

The “walking on eggshells “ and “why do you never blame yourself?” question are both big ones I was in a an emotionally and physically abusive relationship with a a textbook narcissist for almost 10 years. Still living with the after effects from that trauma love the video

[@vacationeyes6430]

My narcissistic uncle yelled and screamed at me for having a poker face when he was bragging about his achievements.

[@cassiebennet4262]

😂 I'm sorry. I don't mean to laugh at a serious thing like that. They really are toddlers throwing a temper tantrum when they don't get their way. They are totally dependent upon other's validation.

[@vacationeyes6430]

@@cassiebennet4262 In hindsight, it is funny. Imagine a grown man who needs a stamp of approval from someone 3 decades younger than himself and expects them to act impressed whether or not they are.

[@natashametedad5165]

😂😂😂 I always laugh at them. I really can't believe these people the way they see things is so ridiculous.😂😂😂

[@hairbag4096]

Those type of people don't understand the cruel things they say hurts worse than punches, and you can never take them back. Even though you let it go, it's never forgotten.

[@nursesteve2004]

"no I don't agree with you on that." "Why are you being so controlling?" "no I think I will take my own advice and do it my way." "You're entitled to your opinion and you're entitled to yours, so let's just agree to disagree." "I hear you fine, I am just ignoring you." "Normal people don't act like you're acting." The list goes on ad nauseum.

[@kristibrown5899]

Great information, thank you! I've gone no contact with 2 narcissists in my life. My emotional and mental health are all the better for it. It felt like the girl in the movie Labyrinth when she realizes and says, "You have no power over me." 😅❤

[@taraarrington2285]

I remember asking my mom if she really thinks I'm that's stupid because I was confronting her on the phone about her hiring a private investigator.😂 Of course she gas-lit me and tried to turn it around on me somehow telling me I'm paranoid. I was right the whole time.

[@rhuiah]

The only thing they'll ever take responsibility for is 'someone else's accomplishments.'

[@dianevitale1214]

I'm on pins and needles expecting THE SKY TO FALL DOWN from covert narc estranged husband's retaliation. I've taken steps to try to make him accountable for his vile behaviors that greatly harm/damage. It will be a sneaky, calculated non violent attack(s) to level me. FEAR: He may wiggle out of it using his fake demeanor with artful persuasion, convincing others of authority he is the victim. YOU ARE SUPERB, DANISH. tyvm

[@mtc-j9i]

I could have written this myself!

[@dianevitale1214]

@@mtc-j9i I have much empathy for you. God help us to help ourselves to never see these demons again

[@jpsmcmahon9320]

How is it possible that you were in my house, in my life, taking notes. Thank you, Danish, I learned from each of your podcasts about the insanity of my past life. I am so happy to be in recovery from it.

[@almondleslie1410]

Could not stop laugh/crying at the head banging stuff.. It's so true 😂😢...

[@HUYI1]

i always say it's a still titanium wall that's impossible to penetrate

[@kavitakhurana3343]

Anyone here been with a Narcissist for almost 20 years and just realizing why they are the way they are: I wish I had found these videos of yours 20 years ago Danish! 😢

[@perrylindsey2481]

20 for me too

[@bebbychad7607]

I was with my ex for 21 years. When I left I had a breakdown, which I now realise was all the pent up emotion finally being released. It was horrible to go through but cathartic because I came out the other side as me, someone I thought had gone forever.

[@lizh1988]

Yes, far too long.

[@HUYI1]

@@perrylindsey2481 18 years of my life wasted unfortunatly

[@pinkropers]

37 years for me. I knew something was not right as soon as we got married. The harder I tried to please him, the worse he became. I've been planning to leave for years now. Just in the past three years I learned about narcissism. I've been building up my confidence so that I can leave.

[@jillhudgins3210]

Excellent video, Danish! These people are so difficult to be around.

[@QX-xq5uj]

Absolutely! They do not take any credit for their bad behaviour. They try to show they are ALWAYS right🙈

[@rasheenturpin]

There are so many people in the world, why even play these mind games with narcissists or anyone else abusing you? Simply leave, divorce, breakup, take the kids with you. Get out of that unhealthy situation. People have got to learn to love themselves enough to let go of those harmful to their lives.

[@zm7674]

Sometimes the narc is your dad providing you with food n shelter.

[@rasheenturpin]

@obscurum6 Where did I mention Parental Restriction or Parental Alienation? Would you leave your children with an unfit parent, or take probationary custody until the court determines the terms of custody?

[@montanabirdmommy]

I see a strawman argument from someone who can’t stand to be wrong. Hey, guess what? Minor children cannot automatically “simply leave” their narcissistic parents. We all leave as soon as we can. How dare you sit there and denigrate us who survived a narcissistic parent.

[@montanabirdmommy]

Rasheen has got to learn to let go of incorrectly dictating other peoples lived experiences. GTFO With that gaslighting.

[@spiritlevel7353]

Brilliant, beautiful cat 😻

[@seameology]

I had a narcissistic neighbor once tell me, "you might have four kids but I have more experience than you taking care of kids". She had one toddler and was an only child. I had a teenager and toddlers. Plus I'm the oldest of eight kids. I spit my drink out and couldn't stop laughing. WHY was that comment even necessary?

[@gorriondeestepa]

Nice great video! I have a parent this pure narcissist with all the words! Follow you from Spain 🇪🇸

[@DebbieLee-dr3hr]

I was totally blindsided when my elderly narc mom began using her wordsmith capabilities. It's as if she gets her strategies by tuning into the narcissistic information being given through social media- It's like spot on

[@aaronzero4033]

Narcissistic wife and almost every nail on the head. She accused me of being the narcissist. She couldn't do any wrong and NOTHING was her fault.

[@jimheald7937]

The narcissist will make something up just to start crap with you.

[@goldenautumn3073]

You are SO right about the sense of entitlement, which I found absolutely infuriating. I actually had to demand of this 'friend' (covert narc) that she stop pestering, phoning, emailing, contacting, visiting me unannounced (received some 30 emails over a few days at one time, all telling ME she had the 'right' to contact me, even though she knew I was at the stage of getting a restraining order on her!). It's like once they get their claws into you, they will do ANYTHING to stop those claws (or bloodsucking fangs!) from being retracted. Thank GOD my doctor told me to RUN and DON'T LOOK BACK! I did, as soon as I was able - yet she still pursued me!!! And I know, even though this was now about 3 years ago that if I came in contact with her again, it would immediately start all over again!! A total CURSE on the earth, all of them. I believe only God can heal and change them into sane human beings.

[@carladejonge4951]

Man, I wish I had had this teaching in my early 30’s! I married a police officer, who was an alcoholic & a narcissist! He had me so messed up in my head! I recognize so much of what you are saying, in his behavior!

[@SlabHardcheese]

This is so common a problem they should teach several of the standard mental health issues likely to face us in life through-out school. I thought humans were aliens when I was growing up because I could not figure out people's motivations for the life of me. Until I finally realized many people had sick childish motivations (bullying) or other mental issues. Would have prevented me from learning the hard way in a couple early relationships.

[@steveclark5206]

Best response to drive a narcissist insane is to use the word “Whatever”.

[@OleIrishReb]

3 favorite words of a Narcissist, Me, Myself and I.

[@franziskastadelmann6556]

Your videos are excellent. I also love your cat so much!

[@dsmusicbird]

It never makes sense. How they fear rejection and get all enraged by it or do a sneak attack, yet they reject you!!!! Your wants!!! Your neeeeeds!!!! And your goodness!!!! Sex, intimacy, on and on, Just all of you!!! Over and over and it hurts like hell and messes with your head and emotions, but the moment they perceive you to reject them or slight them or unmet their needs, all hell breaks lose!!! But don’t you dare get mad at them for naturally doing that Shiz to you!

[@Muchjoy..]

Narcissists are always trying to pick a fight. The moment you start feeling confused know that you are now dealing with a narcissist. Back away slowly and graciously. Go silent...

[@conniepinto7317]

Was feed up with it. Called him player, lier, user, and loser. Walked away and blocked. Don't waste your time.

[@betsysorrell1357]

Their behavior is bad. How dare you tell them!👺

[@DebbieLee-dr3hr]

When my mom is in reconciliation mode for her behavior the " forgive me " quickly converts to "I am who I am and that's not going to change " And mind you that reconciliation episode took over 4 months to even consider.

[@snowball2369]

He always says dont talk about the past. Meaning what he did wrong was not to be spoke of. But in the next breath he complains about what i did. Hes always accusing me of cheating (im at the age i don't care to have sex not even with him because hes made me feel unattractive and the sexual abuse hes done to me im scared to even get close to someone else) he has to have sex all the time if i don't feel good or dont want to he gets angry (in the past he was physically abusive) then accuses me of cheating. Then the next day he says sorry. Then he does it again. He blames me for everything. I was diagnosed with PTSD and he thinks its all in my head. Im scared to leave him because of his threats. Even though hes never acted on them because ive always given in to him. Ive always called him back or done something for him to make him happy. Hes a child throwing a fit because he didn't get a toy. I understand he has abandonment issues because of his birth mother and hes been cheated on before. Ive tried everything. Im tired. 9 years ive tried being kind, supportive, loving, loud, angry, hurt, sad, ashamed of myself for yelling and the things ive said, and then back to crying. I always feel like im being attacked. I do care and love him but i dont like what he does. I think those times hes sweet and loving is a lie because hes not sorry he does all those things to hurt me again. Stay strong and if you see those red flags run. Hugs and prayers

[@lizh1988]

Its tough when you're feeling like you're trapped. That's when we need to keep listening to how other people handle things and we usually need someone to do some praying for us. Somebody told me you need someone to pray for you, I guess I was stuck. I think I found a prayer hotline, quite some years ago.

[@dannystephenson4197]

Clear our as soon as you can. You can and never will get along with the Devil !!!!!!

[@poeticrockstarr6875]

I have some really bad news for you. He does not love you - if he did, he would not hurt you like he's been doing. Get away from him as fast as you can and never look back - I mean NEVER. It will be hard, possibly one of the hardest things you will ever do, but it's worth it in the end and your life will become so much easier to live, but it will take time to heal from all the abuse. Love yourself first. Easiest way to look at it is "if it was your child in this kind of situation, would you want them to stay?" If not, take your own advice and get out. Stay safe 🙏

[@gretavains8707]

God man. He may kill you😢 I would pack my bags in 5 minutes. How could you love that? You need a lot of help asap😢

[@dannystephenson4197]

There are women's shelters in quite a little t of cities. Go to McDonald's for cheeseburgers. Ask the manager for help. Ronald McDonald houses are their for you. Penelope house is another place in cities. If you have no Dad or Brother to help start at McDonald's. Pray and ask Our Lord to help you . GODSPEED!!!!!!!

[@thodgecad5372]

One day in the middle of a mindless, circular, stupid conversation, I yelled "Oh no! It's a pink elephant with purple pokodots!!" He was completely disarmed and stopped his rant. I couldn't stop laughing. It ended the stupidity and he was just confused. They always have a script. Going off script derails them.

[@trajanaveloff7383]

No matter what you say you triggering some kind of anger in him

[@AimeeAimee444]

I just went grey rock. My middle sister doesn’t deserve me. My eldest sister died in 2019. We were incredibly close and my middle sister was jealous. Will state the true but ugly, my middle sister was too much for us. She would embarrass us and then we’d look at each other in horror. My middle sister is very sick. I care for my parents and their GP straight out asked, “Does Ashley have frontal lobe damage?” 👈🏼middle sister That tells you all you need to know. Our response was “Yes, she had a brain tumor removed in the early 1970’s and we believe that’s why she’s so angry.” The GP then asked, “Does she have a problem with booze?” We responded “YES!” Bye Ashley!

[@emmsue1053]

One word.. WHY? Works really well! Any phrase a narc dislikes will be twisted & repeated to the flying monkeys.

[@Enjoymentboy]

I learned that a narcissist doesn't want to have a conversation, they only want to be heard. But they are not the least not interested in hearing what anyone else has to say unless they can directly benefit from what they hear. But even better than telling them "no" tell them "no thank you". If you REALLY want to cut them just say "whatever" and turn away from them. They can't abide being dismissed.

[@anneofgreengables1619]

They are not conversations, they are lectures.

[@bhagyeshakurane2434]

They do not have any kind of integrity.

[@greetverwoert8922]

My narcissistic girlfriend (whom I finally broke up with after an intense drama because I only really saw who she was then) even attacked me about my dog ​​who didn't want to know anything from her. He is just very private to everyone because he comes from a breeder who neglected him but even a 3 kilo dog affected her ego. Because I didn't force him to come to her I was a bad dog owner. Seriously, they are so petty and selfish!!

[@JebidiahKrackedyetagain-xv9hc]

Well, was she at least a good f_ck?

[@lindajorgensen2580]

You are spot on. My sister is exactly this.

[@mdh8884]

Thank you so much for your videos. Very helpfull ❤. Can you make a video about financial abuse during a relationship with the narc?

[@lizh1988]

This seems nuts but I heard it in Al-Anon (alcoholics are self centered as anyone, and that's a support group for their friends and family): a couple who attended meetings there were starting to undergo such difficulty regarding their business that they were having to use their savings for bills and they just didn't know what to do. A counselor told them that money is one of the easiest things they ever had to deal with, getting enough. I don't know why but that seemed comforting and true. That helped them just relax and know it was going to be okay. They were able to focus on their needs and find solutions. It's the other stuff in life that is the real obstacle.

[@jacquesdurand8148]

Why would anyone want to trigger a narcissist? Just walk away. They will become someone else's problem. I was with one for 23 years. Once I realised what he was, I got a lawyer's letter that said he is not allowed to contact me or my family. Boom. Done. Life has blossomed since then.

[@neeruahuja2014]

OMG, you are a genius 👏

[@teresitaekim2565]

Thank you Danish. You're on point all the time.

[@twinkiebunny8450]

Another triggering question that I've used is: "Do you want me to take responsibility for your behavior?" Then I would give a long pause, then ask "Is there any particular reason for why you can't do that for yourself?"