5 EASY WAYS TO RESPOND TO CRITICISM AND INSULTS WITH CLASS AND ELEGANCE

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[@krishnamehta8669]

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[@uscitizen898]

I had a brother in law who was always trying to provoke me with nasty comments. I "took the bait" too many times and of course an argument often ensued. However, he was stopped dead in his tracks after a very nasty comment to me, when I simply looked at him with a dead-pan look but no words, then turned my attention back to the person I was talking to. He had no way to continue to engage! "Silence IS golden" at times. 🥰

[@DivestedConfessions]

He had a crush on you😭

[@954dreamer1]

@@DivestedConfessionsthat’s toxic

[@gracerod2038]

Amen!!

[@PaulaDTozer]

I had a person in my personal life who constantly tried to provoke me daily. The only thing that worked was silence. It worked for me, as I was able to maintain my inner balance even though it was a struggle at first. It’s like working a muscle, it takes time to make it strong enough to be effective. Ultimately it worked. I was able to maintain my dignity and govern myself according to higher directives and principles. This I also termed as elegance. That person is no longer in my life. Approximately 15 yrs after I moved away from that person, I wrote An Elegant Mind’s Handbook. Just because someone offers you offence, you don’t have to take it. That’s only one of my revelations…to live with honor and compassion, with that in mind.

[@jayscott5618]

Why doesn’t your husband check him?!?!

[@taylor6101ful]

"Every criticism aimed at you, in reality disguised confession of admiration"

[@BushraS-zl6gi]

Gold!

[@mgnwill]

If only.

[@cocococococo7091]

I just say ‘thank you’ to poor criticism and that’s the end of it: it’s clear that the criticism was out of place, and that I was gracious enough in not picking up a fight. Period.

[@suzannenorthcutt5100]

That gave me healing. I love that

[@sballantine8127]

I LOVE this quote.

[@Roses-lilac]

Sometimes a slight smile, a stare, and silence. People find silence uncomfortable and intimidating .

[@sujo0603]

Not to mention the smile 😂

[@Sanderson5CLC]

Absolutely!

[@Noname-n1n4d]

I noticed as far back as a child, that some people just cannot stand the sound of silence. I learned growing up, that volumes can be spoken without saying a word. As an adult, and a generally warm and loving human being (questionable?!) who had allowed herself to be a doormat, unfort- unately, until I acquired the divorce that opened my eyes to many wild and won- derful things that I had little knowledge of, nor been privy to, in my life. That know- ledge included how to set boundaries. When I meet someone for the first time, I try to give that person the benefit of the doubt. But once in a blue moon (delightful expres- sion, however age revealing!), with only one negative remark from someone intending to upset me, especially if I am interrupted half way through a sentence (takes a great deal of self-control not to just smack the person across the face and scream at them to shut up, but I would never give him/her the satisfaction), I will give just a slight smile and a calm (right) and confident look into the other person's eyes and then I dismiss their existence altogether (I physically turn away from the person) and get on with what I was saying or doing, or just get up and walk out of the room. But never, ever turn around to shut the door behind me. I don't care if it's 45 below zero outside. Shutting the door allows the movement of your exit to lose it's flow. Might sound stupid, but the effect it has is unforgettable. The odd time others might be around, I either totally ignore your remark or if I really can't be bothered acknowledging your presence at all, I have, literally, turned in another direction. I realise what others might say if or when they might notice this behavior of mine, but it doesn't make a bit of difference to me. It is my way. Now. 👩‍🦳😉

[@tabbylove86]

Fuck yes.i did that everytime to my narc ex after he has hurt me.he said it was uncomfortable.i merely said that I have seen you somewhere in my life and that's why I stare.he didn't expected that answer.with a scorn 'see these are all misconceptions and misinterpretations'

[@luluandmeow]

"Is everything OK?" or "Are you OK?" - what brilliant responses, I will definitely remember them.

[@muddyshoesgardener]

There is nothing as elegant as intelligence. Being smart changes everything.

[@SevenBlackswans]

My Mother was the Queen of Nice-Nasty. She was so beautiful and all the other Officers wives were jealous. She threw garden parties and took no sh*t from the women who dissed her. She just threw it right back, with class and humor ! RIP Mother 🌹🦋

[@ydvoch83]

Give an example 🥹🥹🥹

[@Sanderson5CLC]

@GitchaGoat Bless your Mom❤

[@Jeniffer61867]

Please give an example ​@@ydvoch83

[@rickimcfarland2269]

Write a book about her and some of her nice nasty comebacks. I would read it ❤

[@hopem2449]

mines too😊

[@jeannecampbell2261]

I have used phrases like “thank you for your concern” or “thats an interesting point of view” and then smiled and either left the situation or went silent. Effective and classy while being dismissive and clear that it did not rattle me.

[@luluandmeow]

Is it even worth engaging with people who undermine you? I just smile and wish them a good day, then immediately turn my back. I won't hang around a hostile negative environment/person, I don't want them in my life, and I don't give them second chances either, or they'll do it again. Whenever someone attacks me, I think to myself, "They're advertising how unhappy and dissatisfied they are."

[@Sonia-rn1zz]

Facts!

[@Nishueandsheila222]

👍My longest “friend” was nasty to me for an entire Sunday just last week. She has changed the dynamics of our relationship. I now see her as a child bully who is insecure. Not that I’m better, but she is no longer worthy to hangout with me. I’m cordial, and I refuse to allow her back into my inner circle.

[@mindspiritsoul]

Totally resonate with it 🙌🏼👏🏼👍🏼🫶🏼💕💓

[@euniceappling7912]

I am having this problem with my oldest daughter. She's always condescending, sneaky and lying. Constantly assassinating my character, even to my medical facilitators and my apartment manager but never to my face. She has even told people I do business with not to talk to me, to only call her. ( I am 70 years old, she is 50) I never confront her. I think it's fueling her to do more. My silence is not helping.

[@NadoCrowFriend]

My Mother ( who was brilliant with people) taught me, when ever asked an inappropriate question ( personal, prying etc) to answer : “why do you ask?” 99.9% of the times that I’ve used this response, it derailed the rude person.

[@jayscott5618]

Yup! And I will add to: - “why do you think it is appropriate to ask that?” - “would you ask your mother that question you just ask me?” - “It’s obvious that only someone like you would ask a question like this.” - “Perhaps you can speak to your psychotherapist about your issues with not being respectful enough to respect others and their boundaries”.

[@Jenishka]

Oh i ll remember it ! Thanks for sharing

[@joannemcclelland5271]

One of my favorite life hacks is asking, “what do you mean?” I am usually surprised because what they meant was not what I thought they meant. I’ve also used it to buy time when I’m in an uncomfortable situation. Even if it doesn’t make sense, I will use it as a defense mechanism response. I don’t know where I learned it but I’ve used it for almost 15 years and it has really paid off for me.

[@jayscott5618]

@@joannemcclelland5271 this is true. I will add that asking that question will also expose someone who is passive aggressively trying to be rude to you. 😉

[@NinaSofia_]

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[@beatewagner7.2934]

Dignified silence... 🤫 Never complain, never explain.

[@arvettadelashmit9337]

Thank you. I learned a long time ago to walk away from those who go out of their way to be rude.

[@Uilani-g4m]

You just smile, nod and thank them. That will stop them in their tracks. Someone I worked with would say, "dually noted" whenever someone said anything. That was pretty funn.

[@M.C.Blackwell]

Duly noted

[@cherylkoski7184]

DULY noted (not DUALLY)

[@AngelBaby11117]

Maybe dually is part of the punn, meaning they noted the criticizer's intention as well as their insecurity. 😏

[@mt.shasta6097]

​@@AngelBaby11117 No. Just uneducated.

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[@luluandmeow]

My neighbours used to be abusive for no reason, often whispering and tittering, I did not hear exactly what they were saying, but I knew it wasn't nice and that it was directed against me. Their children started doing it too. So I started saying to no-one in particular, "You too!" or "And you!" or "Same to you!". Well, the insults stopped immediately!

[@kellykersten8828]

That's a good one

[@margaretknox8374]

😂😂❤ that’s amazing!!

[@clausita]

😂

[@VM-mv4er]

Silence is golden and speaks mounds, keep your crown, and humbly walk away with grace...body language is powerful.

[@FutureBillionaire1111]

The slow look up, down then away HURTS BAD AF😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 it's my favorite

[@roseasher9124]

You do that. Very immature. My step daughter's Mother stuck her tongue out at me, while we were having cake at Step daughter's house after celebration. She slanted her eyes and tongue to the left were I was sitting. I don't know why I laughed out loud. I never told anyone and she is not even ashamed that she did that.

[@LatonianToniJazmineDunson]

It must work. Scan the chatter bugs and keep it moving ❤

[@beatewagner7.2934]

"Don't wrestle with a pig, you will both get dirty, and the pig enjoys it." (George Bernard Shaw)

[@NooraBuftaim]

Elegance is my secret weapon ❤

[@LucrativeElegance]

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[@FeminineElegancebyRoz]

Me too 💋

[@Sanderson5CLC]

Same here!

[@RaquelReposar-jj7jh]

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[@marieantoinettevoges7994]

Elegance is my secret weapon. Thank you for your wise words.

[@castor9697]

I was “talked to” by a man who was doing it for his wife who already bullied me earlier. When he finally finished, I looked at him and said “Are you done? I need to go to the bathroom!” He turned red, dumbfounded then nodded. After this incident he and his wife avoided me.

[@ChrisMargiorisGames]

The best quote is by Italo Calvino's: "It is so, if you think it is so!". It's polite, witty and disarming!😊

[@ValeryMalander]

I have a co worker who always over friendly choose moments to undermine or make me feel incompetent with cutting remarks

[@carpenterbluechicken]

Oh my beautiful sweet yes Elegance means everything.. I love it! Sing the song We have elegance.I am getting married in the morning ding dong the bells are going to shine.. I am getting married in the morning.. You have to watch My fair Lady, with Audrey Hepburn.. Awesome music..

[@davidpar2]

The best way for dealing with criticism is to _first_ evaluate it to see if there is any truth to it. What you should do or not do next will then be obvious.

[@LatonianToniJazmineDunson]

I loved what you said about sophisticated women. We are prepared to shine anywhere in the world. ❤ Don't let the light go out 🕯️🚨🕯️

[@ElenoorRigbee]

I read one time responding with “what’s your point?” stops these people in their tracks by forcing them to explain themselves. Unfortunately for me I’m always so shocked at the rudeness of people (it occurs so randomly) I forget to use it.

[@tizamorris6554]

Elegance is my "Secret Weapon," and it is ! Thank you.

[@LucrativeElegance]

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[@judithcatlett8518]

Elegance is my secret weapon. This video covers what happens to me more than I care to admit.

[@LucrativeElegance]

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[@jat6547]

Bet their women ( UGLY ) Bet your pretty..

[@janetebonanno]

Love this. Will also work for inappropriately questions, interruptions

[@LucrativeElegance]

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[@TheTiffanycadams]

These are Wonderful tips to deal with nightmare "mean girls" of any age. Elegance!!! MY Secret Weapon.

[@hollydewbean3248]

So true. Most of this kind of crap comes from petty, jealous, nasty women

[@Lindalu0422]

Everything said here is helpful, indeed. Being aware that it is a lot of information to share in such a short amount of time, I would like to suggest a slower, less rushed pace, if possible, in order to take it in and digest it further. Thank you.

[@elizabethcobb3316]

I agree and I'd like to add that a different voice that carries a more mature timbre, a little lower tone, is easier to listen to.

[@elizabethcobb3316]

It's also more elegant!

[@rebit6511]

In settings you can adjust play speed of vids

[@soumiabenrochd1396]

One's self confidence might have been shattered for so many years by the closest people to them that it's hard to talk about staying calm and composed in front of criticism and insults. Confident people may be able to do the things you suggest, which are great indeed, but for already shaky people, it's like asking a stiff person to perform the front split.

[@MagicalCreations-fw7pj]

Always remember the strength you gained from those collective adversities inflicted by adversaries. You obviously were victorious so just adjust your confidence and shine!!!😉

[@ydvoch83]

​@MagicalCreations-fw7pj it's not healthy overtime, the mind won't stop the self arguing, the best is walk away when is too often.

[@soumiabenrochd1396]

@@ydvoch83 I don't quite see what you mean.

[@rickimcfarland2269]

​@@soumiabenrochd1396they're saying one must be confident in order to push back when confronted with insults. I agree.

[@jameystone2650]

Don't let the worst people from your life control who you are now. One step at a time and, in time, you can develop the confidence you were meant to own. Silence and fixate your unwavering gaze at them with a smile on your face. Stare straight at 1 of their eyes and fix your gaze on the pupil in their eye so that your eyes don't even flinch, don't even blink and hold your smile. It makes them so uneasy that they look away and, most often, look down. They don't know how to interpret it, but you just put their subconscious mind into a predator v. prey situation.

[@NinaSofia_]

Thanks

[@kellykersten8828]

We were at a restaurant dinner and wine tasting where they served steak very rare. I don't care for rare steak and this was very rare so I wasn't eating mine. The lady across the table said "everybody eats it like this" and I said I don't. And I thought later I should have said "I'm a leader not a follower".

[@andrewrees8749]

You spoke up for yourself, that's all was needed,

[@starsandlakes8576]

You had it right with your initial response.

[@jameystone2650]

Your first response was perfect. It was about you, you kept it about you, and you were direct and to the point. There was no reason for her to take offense. The later response would have been an underhanded jab back at her which would have put you at her level. You rose above it all. Perfect.

[@elizabethcobb3316]

@@kellykersten8828 I thought your reply was really good and the other reply would have brought you down to her level. I thought of another comment which might have worked but I'm not sure about it and would be interested in your comment. The reply to the woman who was criticizing you: "everybody? ".

[@jennifercoleman6947]

You could have tried, with a small smile a a gentle eyebrow raise and soft voice, “not everyone”.

[@MsOrganic1]

Good video. When in the moment do what makes you walk away feeling you were elegant on your response. I responded in a calm tone and smiling, "I feel like I'm being hazed. We are not in a faternity. We are not brother and sister" paused, then smiled again and changed the subject.

[@chiquigrullon8311]

Elegance is my secret weapon! Great message!!

[@LucrativeElegance]

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[@lindseykehoe3077]

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[@LucrativeElegance]

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[@mercedes523]

This video was so interesting. I needed this in my life. Thank you!

[@LucrativeElegance]

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[@SnowWhiteQueen091590]

I just wish I could memorize and perform these steps well when under pressure and scrutiny from my team lead who has bad blood over me the moment I joined the team.

[@olive3700]

What I do when someone at work says something critical is pause for just a second showing surprise that anyone would say such a thing, then turn and go on with work. It's best if you can turn and immediately walk up to another person and start talking about something else as though you've already forgotten the mean person's comment.

[@loucasadanoelperi]

Great video! I live by this my entire life. Im always complimented on how I handled the situation and always come out on top.

[@amyraeray]

Excellent reminders!

[@LucrativeElegance]

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[@RaquelReposar-jj7jh]

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[@rod2954]

Elegance is my secret weapon! I learned a lot in this one video. Ty very much God Bless You 💗🙏

[@mariavictoriasalita5273]

I need these tips and advices big time! Thank you and greetings from Manila, Philippines.

[@Sanderson5CLC]

Much love to the Philippines from Illinois, USA❤️😊🌺🌼💐🌹🌻🌸❤️

[@susannepenthe]

thank you! useful information... The Devine Feminine arrives. 💕☮

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[@TreasuringTruthofGodsWord777]

Elegance is my superpower

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[@dawndunaway3553]

Elegance is my secret weapon!

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[@veronicacastanon7314]

Elegance is my secret! Thanks for your advice, I will definitely practice these words of wisdom .

[@CG-tt9mz]

Only the weak and vulnerable are picked off. Don’t stroll, have purpose

[@BushraS-zl6gi]

It's also people who have something meaningful that gets targeted. Nobody would pick on anyone without anything special. The act of anyone coming at you clearly suggests he/she is envious! Period

[@EvolvingLopez]

Very good video! Very informative; thank you!

[@mhopi9744]

Elegance is my secret weapon. Ty Carol. Top notch content ❤❤❤

[@LucrativeElegance]

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[@karmokarjyotirmoyee367]

Not every time I can respond with elegance but there are few moments when I had control over the situations..like once someone was irrelevantly trying to have pleasure commenting about my asian face..I told him,"Do u have lack of entertainment in your life?" His response changed quickly & It felt good..

[@Lively-Semiramis]

Thanks for your in depth video. I really enjoyed when you give example. And I wish you could add more examples from different situations. Regards

[@benancialopez6894]

Elegance is my secret weapon. Thank you. God bless you.

[@vitalityseeker6193]

Simply superb!❤

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[@sherrysunshinefreeman3434]

Elegance is my secret weapon❤😊

[@markitahart296]

Love everything about this video, thank you 😊

[@karalianisthmus8548]

Elegance is my secret weapon - thank you Love

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[@ingegerdtheresesorrell338]

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[@hfrt29]

Where I live they call your names and curse at you like giant toddlers, I smile and I don't react and they hate that I also kill people with kindness and use big intelligent words 🤭

[@ElaineAnderson-y9r]

Some of the most decent people I know have struggled containing their emotions at times and its because they care. Haters gonna hate but dont let it dim your shine. ZEN

[@jhmumma]

Delighted to find your channel!

[@amelittaberretta9109]

Veiled insults, dozens have I received!

[@princesssyedaiesha1408]

Elegance is a most powerful weapon ❤

[@LucrativeElegance]

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[@bloomsum]

What is abnormal becomes normal with a difficult mate, this video helps and need to practice all it gives, thanks you.

[@luzTpasco]

Provocation of words encourage a person to react and by reaction leads to speculations. To prevent being talk of the town. Think before react. Learn to choose ur battle. Not all requires your undivided attention some are irrelevant. So smile and ignore.

[@Sweet222-m8z]

Thank you for encouragement.❤

[@TartarianTourist]

Valuable advice, thank you

[@laraslaras5527]

Thank you for share this video❤

[@kimberlyland5436]

I love elegant style.!

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[@jackieb.7368]

Great. Thanks lady ❤

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[@sheilagilleland4312]

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[@Kayprofessor]

My family is willfully ignorant of what goes on in the world and they make fun of me when I mention the atrocities, telling me I am a whack job for thinking things are happening. I have been proven right with time over and over again, yet they still act like I am stupid and gullable for actually knowing what's happening. They openly say they don't want to know what is happening while acting as though they are the informed ones. They also say they love me and want me around but give each other looks when I talk about ANYTHING real at all. I have mostly chosen to ignore and be silent but I need to do something else. It's not working and I know there hast to be something I can say to gracefully come out unscathed while putting them in their place. There are good thing about them so I don't want to lose the relationships over it

[@nanastrybe]

I enjoyed this video. Elegance is my secret weapon

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[@Sasha-ws6gv]

My older brother does this to me. He always has something negative to say. I hadn't seen him in years, and I ran into him while I was visiting family recently. He attempted his tactics and I ignored him.

[@melisshalindsey]

Oh these are some very Witty tools in how to respond elegantly in uncomfortable situations! I have been looking for a channel that will encourage proper response techniques. Another channel that I engage is Woman of Elegance.

[@rinabetonio1765]

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[@valerie-og4ui]

Elegance is my secret weapon. Thank you!

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[@radhikaravirajan2033]

Thanks for explaining WHY haters hate❤

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[@lesegochai2112]

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[@ingridblohm-hyde805]

Good advise Carol!

[@Woodcat33]

“Elegance is my secret weapon.”❤😊

[@beatewagner7.2934]

"If you go low, I go high." (Michelle Obama)

[@cmxsprt]

kindness is the best weapon

[@Ace-po4bp]

Just look slowly down and say Nice shoes!! Turn away and proceed to what you were doing. Lol😂 Or Nice dress lol

[@msgreen512]

Excellent video.👋🏽

[@gwen1683]

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[@mrrpswife]

Assertiveness

[@davidjsouth231]

I deal with it every day at work because I represent a company within my current work location. I just look at them with indifference and I dress way more professional than people here

[@denisemancebo7233]

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[@GiftSparks]

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[@ANNASTESIA-s4o]

Love this, thank you

[@AngelicaGarcia-jo4lu]

Great advice

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