5 expectations men are DONE with…

[@sgtjschultz]

"The only thing that man wants to change is his own oil because he likes saving money." And that's where you earned my like. The whole list was spot on though.

[@HeldVenom]

Right? I felt like she stared into my soul with that one.

[@ricksimon9867]

the list is rubbish

[@ShastaOrange]

People really don't notice when they're being pandered to, do they?

[@Smeginator]

@@ShastaOrangesure. You get the views by pandering, but you keep the views but being informative

[@endofexistence2149]

​@ShastaOrange I personally don't like this chick because she seems untrustworthy. But im past the point of slandering her format of talking about this stuff. Sadly I think the men who listen to her are only going to be even more lost. Women are shit at communicating and she's still just a woman in the end.

[@charlesfields7908]

#4 is the number 1 reason why checking out of dating altogether is the better option. If a man gone be in a 1 sided relationship its more beneficial to him to be single.

[@marbellaotaiza801]

Or checking out of the relationship. It gets real burdensome.

[@judyperri9496]

Ditto for woman

[@thedarkplague1475]

@@judyperri9496This video is for men miss with all do respect. Not women.

[@SchrödingersMath]

​@@judyperri9496🤔fair enuf....

[@StillAwesome21]

It's crazy how much women expect from men when in the turn, they can't even give 1/8. 😂

[@mattmansarizona8868]

Women want men to change for them, and then they end up leaving because "he's just not the same anymore" as when they first met. We just can win.

[@jreyman]

That's because they're psychotic. Every single one of them is 51-50, though some are much crazier than others.

[@shyowl3453]

No one can provide happiness but yourself, if you aren’t happy with yourself no one outside of you is going to be able to keep you happy

[@DrDolan2000]

#6: paying for everything You have a job, Erica; and it's not your birthday or Christmas. Pay for it yourself!

[@Zathren]

If your date doesn't offer or at least expect to pay for her share of the date, that's a red flag. It should be. For all men. They wanted equality, they don't get to demand traditional from us while living as modern women.

[@themadinspector]

I did that for 27 years! I lost the house but kept 100% of my pension and deferred compensation. Definitely a Hard Pass! 😆

[@AngeAries]

Yeah, ERICA.. !

[@RKmndo]

Even in non-westernized countries, moms often work. I've seen non-Western women working rice paddies, farms, fishing grounds, market stalls, offices, etc. My own mother made 6 figures...in the 90s. So did my stepdad. We all still did chores.

[@jordannellessen785]

My x wife should have listened to you

[@Caursten]

Number 5 is crucial. I am not responsible for your happiness. Not now. Not ever. If I can bring some happiness to your life great. But I am not, nor will I ever be the sole source of happiness for any person ever.

[@phillipvialpando2605]

My ex was like this. Was absolute hell when we broke up.

[@rodb5699]

Married 33yrs. Always do my best to keep us on our honeymoon. And damn, i chose wisely. I love that woman.

[@Saygoodbyetoyourpops]

This was 33yrs ago. That's ancient history when it comes to dating.

[@bestdjaf7499]

Good luck. You can never predict what a woman would do & when. As they say, “I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability”. I love my mom & sis & aunt.... I am afraid, I am pretty much dislike women very much. I am ok to be friendly with women, but I literally feel thick thinking about relationship or even sex. Modern Weatern Women are just uncontrolled lunatics. I literally saw women today attacking men & elders!! Totally obnoxious. And even some guys are threatening to punch of kick them out, nobody does. So women literally can be violent & abnoxious & laud & agressive .... Nobody can do anything. * Not saying that someone should hit a woman, but at some point, someone has to deal with this craziness. Men know that they will get knocked out & everyone would applaud. Women can literally crap on your had & laugh in your face! Nobody can touch them!!

[@bestdjaf7499]

Sorry dude. Maybe there was a Patriarchy, but we are living in a horrible version of Matriarchy. And it's not the older women. I totally respect that.. It's the 12 yo. girls running the show. And the rest of women are the same. They have no fear. It's like an idiot who has never been punished.

[@bestdjaf7499]

As a Patriarch at birth, in demand a change. Every University should have a Red Pill Studies & Philosophy. What is going on is just ridiculous!! Lesbian Feminist Communist Women are running BLM!! They literally hate men!!

[@zeframc]

You married a gem, sounds like she did too!

[@bwake]

“I can’t make you happy.” A woman who is determined to be unhappy, will be unhappy. No power in the ’verse can stop her.

[@edgreen8140]

Your own happiness will come from within. Everything else is magical thinking. See a therapist. Take accountability for your actions.

[@jarichards99utube]

Yep...! 😊 👍 -70SomethingGuy

[@mackthisarrowhearth295]

True for everyone. Absolutely true.

[@whiteknight5100]

I'm not changing SHIT for any woman. I am who I am and who I want to be. She doesn't like that, she can get lost. Luckily my gf loves who I am..

[@firepanda1874]

I am whose I am. And that's all that I am

[@whiteknight5100]

@@firepanda1874 Lol

[@LanMandragon1720]

​@@firepanda1874I'm Popeye the Sailor man toot toot

[@whiteknight5100]

@@LanMandragon1720 I'm enjoying this. Keep going

[@LanMandragon1720]

@@whiteknight5100 I'm strog to the finish cuz I eats me spinach 🤣🤣

[@Dominicus13]

Cracks me up when a woman I am not courting tells me she doesn’t feel a “spark” between us. I am like, yeah, no shit. I haven’t tried to court you. They always give me this sad look like the spark is magical and would be there whether or not I courted them. 😢 poor people don’t understand a thing.

[@KittMonsta]

I felt that spark after my gf and I put shelves on the wall together. She was really cute trying her best. Her struggle made it even better because she didn't surrender and was kinda annoyed by herself not getting it done the way she wanted to. That was the moment I knew I want to keep her forever.

[@bchang227]

You can only love yourself. If you don't love yourself, nobody else will. Your spouse can only do so much to make you happy. If you're not happy with yourself, trust that your spouse can't do that either. And that's coming from me, a woman. 😊

[@exhausdad5773]

And on no. 3, the expectation is that he love everything about her no matter how difficult to love some of those things are, while he should just not exhibit any qualities that are difficult for her to love.

[@matthewrobinson72468]

Damn. So true. While not the only thing I want to change is my own oil, among other things to save money. Hit the nail on the head with this one.

[@jreyman]

Not to mention you'll do a better job than the guy at the shop, multi-tasking under a time limit.

[@jackreisewitz6632]

As pertains to #4. For 50 years, women's magazines have been preaching that it's a man's responsibility to fire the passions in a woman, that women have no such reciprocal duty. Love and passion are feelings that are a woman's right and a man's duty. It's all about her. If and when a woman stops feeling butterflies in her stomach and getting her panties wet at the mere mention of his name, it's because he has failed in his duty to her. And it demonstrates he's either not trying, or he's really not the man she thought he was. Either way, it's time to dump him and move on to someone who is "A Real Man". What a hedonistic self-focused, self-centered, narcissistic mentality. ( And that's what Feminism is teaching them to be.) But it shows that they really do know that it takes deliberate work to stoke the fires of desire... They just don't want to be bothered. The world is supposed to revolve around them. It also shows that women think intense lust and desire, is love. That they fall in and out of lust toward a man. Makes me wonder how many women ever actually feel real love, other than for themselves. If a woman falls out of lust, and leaves you, she never really loved you at all.

[@sirdudenstein6967]

This is so truth!

[@dipanjandas8897]

Golden points..And yes, we are done with all these B.S. No reciprocation, no effort..Period..Our life is more precious than its expected to be and its hightime men realize that.

[@TechnoMageB5]

#4: relationships need time and attention the way plants need sunlight and water. Deprive either for too long, it withers and dies. Looking at you, ladies, for not giving your man time and attention, then blaming him because "the spark has died".

[@YahwehisGodandYeshuaisKingiamr]

Love this analogy

[@barkingmouse8152]

Be truthful and take what they say literally. Drives them bonkers.

[@CruxusAshbourne]

I’m not done with any of my expectations. I hold them firmly and it’s why I’m single. I won’t put up with bull, aggressive women, loud women or women that think I need to always be doing something and won’t let me relax. I leave them at the drop of the hat. Women have their chores to do; men have theirs. If you stick to them it gives both men and women more than enough downtime for relaxation and hobbies. Women get sick, men pick up the slack but if we get sick, you won’t pick up our side of the chores. (Let’s be honest, you’re not going to climb up on the roof and fix it.).

[@vinmobile711]

This girls eye are vibrating. She's on a different level of consciousness

[@bobbamford5207]

Love her eyes.

[@ikeettgaming]

and she has 2 of them ! go outside a little , stop scrolling :)

[@StephenStrader-f2z]

Yesssss! Number 4 is spot on! Valentines Day is the BIGGEST example of this.

[@johnr7632]

That’s exactly what my ex wife expected of me.. Every improvement I made wasn’t acceptable by her because she was always focused on the things she felt I do/did wrong.

[@kachmelover]

You know I've been with my husband for 25 years and I can say honestly I really really really like him and love him even more than I thought was humanly possible. We don't always agree and we have arguments, but I only love him more for not talking down to me and explaining things in a way I can understand. He works so hard for his family so I work hard for him. Love is so beautiful, and would not change anything on him or about him, to me he is exactly the man I need and love and perfect for me. I am so grateful for how bad my first marriage was , and it was bad he broke my bones, but if I had not experienced that I would not love and appreciate everything this wonderful man does for me and my family.

[@Zathren]

Always good to see a strong and happy couple. That being said, I do hope you're whole family is striving to live a healthier lifestyle. It's never too late to change.

[@daviddavidson1836]

You are an incredibly rare woman

[@beneficent2557]

Deriving Happiness from Vallidation is like Claiming Wealth with Someone Else's Money.

[@Gomorragh]

cant provide happiness to someone who has never known happiness until its too late and they finally realise once you are gone that they were happy for the first time in thier life

[@lisa3341]

😂😂😂😂

[@DamonA-qj3lb]

Happiness comes from within not from another. Finding a person that makes you truly happy means they bring out the best of you as you do with them.

[@joshuahunter8194]

I met an awesome women at my job. Turns out we work out amazing together. Have almost no issues. Haven't really fought yet in about a year together. What one doesn't do the other will, pay for, pick up, clean without being told or asked. And we trust each other. We do bring out the best in each other.

[@marbellaotaiza801]

Happiness comes from confirming yourself to God's will.

[@DamonA-qj3lb]

@@marbellaotaiza801 assuming there is actually a god. Than choosing for ourselves is God's will. Stop listening to a book over 2 thousand years old and think for yourself for once.

[@marbellaotaiza801]

@@DamonA-qj3lb lol how would one "listen to a book"? Moreso a _1600_ year old one? No, what you're really proposing is I listen to you instead of God. I think we know which one I'll choose...

[@DamonA-qj3lb]

@@marbellaotaiza801 well I've never been the reason one person has ever killed another. Can't say the same for your book.

[@dabest21]

Oh god #2! Every guy has gone through that

[@lfabio.n]

Spot on.

[@chrisjohns9631]

I explained all this to my wife almost twenty years ago. We do not live in fairy land.

[@uoabigaillevey]

If she is a miserable person without you then more than likely she will just drag you down into her misery for company. This holds true for us men as well. Do not do this to her but at the same time do not allow her to do it to you.

[@marbellaotaiza801]

Doing #4 all over and over and over again every time she gEtS aNgErY for no good reason is exhausting and frustrating to the point of becoming a deal breaker...

[@TasteyMicahDrums]

So comforting. Thank you.

[@ThatGuyKazz]

number 4 is a big one. It is beyond frustrating when women expect things to be like a Disney movie and just be love at first sight and then complain about how there are no more nice guys. Like yes nice guys still exist but you have to be more open to actually talking to men and getting to know them rather than just going after the ones that you are immediately physically attracted too.

[@44Bravo]

Couldn't agree more! But then again this change can be for good things such as addictions for alcohol or smoking....if you can change your gf/bf for good from bad addictions that's a win!

[@sanepsyko]

Yes yes yes!!! On number 2 and most of these I've been completely blind by 90% of those because well I've not had the best mother and took that as an inherent thing one should do as a person...

[@Joe-rm7rr]

What I'm tired of hearing is "happy wife, happy life" Both parties need to be happy for a relationship to work.

[@nathanielmoore87]

The real saying should be happy spouse happy house. Both should be communicating and working toward meeting the other's needs and finding middle ground when disagreements arise.

[@m.h0656]

5 and 6 hit hard. I can only do so much without any kind of effort. I also can’t be the only thing that can make you happy.

[@gaudnorm]

Especially the last one. Everybody is responsible for their own happiness..

[@johnstoneb]

Again...pls protect this woman. She's doing this generation a very important service.

[@rambleonfinance]

She is pandering to a demographic desperate to hear this from a woman. This woman used to shit on men. And you know damn well she is after money. Pregnant again shortly after divorce.

[@meddyven]

Funny how men put in all the effort, in the beginning stages, and women do absolutely zero. That's a deal breaker right there!

[@StillAwesome21]

​@@meddyvenFact

[@rogerramjet7567]

Absolutely awesome !!! 😀😀👍👍

[@codyott1982]

You're so right. This shows you pay attention, which is the true bare minimum, and yet so many men and women fall short of that.

[@HauntedCadaver]

I totally agree with this as a woman. It may have taken me forever to understand, but I've found a man I have a genuine spark with and all of this is so true.

[@jeffro.]

You're right there, lady. All 5. Done with 'em.

[@mtjoleolkaelle]

Thanks for preaching 🎉🎉so true

[@rmorales3718]

To be the best silent listener at all times. To never respond or give our own option or solutions when we are being shared to or vented to. We respond out of love and in attempt to help where we can.

[@daveblack2602]

#5 that he should provide her with happiness - even when she's doing everything she can to make both their lives miserable.

[@floydbuster9513]

I agree that was very right on😊 thank you for this video women need to understand just because they're better at looking at a man and guessing what he's thinking or what he's doing or how he's feeling doesn't mean that men are that way. Women are more emotional because of their right brain dominance, men are left-brain dominant and every single thought comes from of the foundation of right and wrong and logic and therefore we do not see the things that are so obvious for women to see. And in this area we men are lacking in this area compared to most women.😢

[@xpertbandit8009]

The Ws this woman post daily is priceless. I appreciate your efforts, Emily.

[@SlickNinja1984]

The only person responsible for your happiness is yourselves. And, no one else.💯

[@crapphone7744]

I don't think my wife expects me to know what I need without her telling me but she does expect me to ask. I think that's a reasonable expectation. I can tell her I love her by showing interest in her well-being.

[@cutebear1817]

Dang Emily preaching here!!!

[@Shenruss]

Please say this LOUDER for the folks in the BCK!

[@melinated2497]

I agree with this. Especially #1.There is a difference between asking someone to help you figure out how you all can best work with someone's quirks and peculiarities and expecting them to change who they are for you. Real love comes with acceptance. It also comes with supporting your significant other when they have expressed to you changes they want to make for themselves rather than expecting someone to have the same wants and needs in every season of life.

[@stephenjohnson6841]

Emily dropping facts once again! Thanks again!

[@ckell72]

You know I really like your channel and the things that you have to say. Everything sounds 100% accurate. You're right about those 4 tips.

[@johnhinkle1138]

Spot on. This hasn’t JUST STARTED by the way. This has been going on for decades

[@Blargl_Whargl]

This is by far my favorite short you have done

[@polar3577]

Stopped dating someone a few weeks back solely because of number 4, they thought the spark was just gonna appear without any effort 😂

[@JaCee501]

You just described my ex perfectly. Been single 2 years now and will never put myself in that situation ever again. Bending myself out of shape to meet her unrealistic demands for her ideal relationship was tedious. She left me too, because “I’d changed”, but not the way she wanted me to change, of course. She used the system to get what she was “entitled” too though. I’m now living with the most loyal female I’ve ever known; a 7yo English Staffordshire bull terrier. Best companion EVER!

[@alvinmarcus5780]

Oh my goodness you nailed it. The first two were fire. " you knew how I was when you met me but now I suppose to change ? Why ? You said you liked me for what I was. Ya killing me woman. 🤣 And the mind reading. 🤯 Thank you ma'am for understanding us guys.🌹

[@loganc2729]

#3 and especially #2 are 100% correct! But I do think that in a positive long term relationship people will change for one another!

[@l.a.b.8888]

God. Never changes. Same yesterday, today, and forever

[@OcelotTheFurious]

I'm so happy to have found myself a true queen that's 50/50, plays no games, and mutually make each other happy

[@ArreatPLvro]

golden excellent understanding of the situation

[@nickmedley4749]

“To love is to will the good of another simply for their own sake.” Once couples take this to heart, we will have peace instead of war.

[@lfabio.n]

The mind reader thing is top of list. One thing I can't stand is having to deal with any crap, being expected to be perfect and fix the situations where she's behaving poorly.

[@susanbacon9666]

people need to learn that we are responsible for our own happiness, we need to choose to be happy

[@hikingwiththeshackletons]

I have been married for 16 years & we ALWAYS based our relationship on six things: Trust, Honesty, loyalty, respect, common ground and love. We are still extremely happy and very close. But I agree with your film.

[@Jacmac1]

The most unrealistic expectation women have is thinking that dating will last forever. This illusion gets shattered fairly quickly after marriage.

[@ADHJkvsNgsMBbTQe]

Number 5 is by far the most important point. If a person isn’t ok with themselves, that’s not something that can be fixed by anyone or anything outside of themselves. _Self_ esteem has to be developed within one’s _self._ _Self_ confidence has to be cultivated by one’s _self._ Yes, partners should be supportive and certainly non-negative for each other. And the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. But one cannot externally fix or complete another _per se._ If one wing is required to hold up the other, it will be very difficult to fly.

[@moviesandseriestopscenes3456]

You tell them girl, The list goes on. We hate hypothetical questions because we end up fighting due to a non existential situation that most likely will never happen.

[@nniinnoo2]

Change for someone isnt bad depending if its forced or about something ridiculous but changing is something we go through in life but i do understand what is ment and everything is spot on

[@rubyweapn8312]

It’s comforting to hear the things that are so right come from the mouth of a woman.

[@nickolaszissimos1189]

No one cannot make another happy but must learn to make one's own self happy within themself.

[@fastlane1568]

Number 5 is spot on

[@Latinowill]

Yep. I honestly agree with everything you say. And some of the things you say I had experience or my mind just do and when you say it it like "oh that why I did that"

[@mikehunt8968]

7: Most women's expectation that "What's hers is hers and what's yours is hers" .... how about some of the equality they keep demanding?

[@chriscroteau9914]

These are all spot on

[@russk1971]

I'm definitely tired of doing most of the work to keep the connection. When you choose not to define your needs and desires, you choose to not having them met.

[@petehoward8494]

You are on point with ALL FIVE

[@rh1507]

It's always an individuals own responsibility to make themselves happy.

[@Cookynator]

Number 1 really grinds my gears. Partially because I like who I am and don't want to change for anyone except me, and more irritatingly because a lot of women seem to think that they need to find something to change in a man not because they actually dislike it but as a way for him to prove he loves her. No. 3 doesn't bother me too much, it's wrong but it's close enough to being right that I can work with it. You don't have to love every little thing about a person, but you do have to accept those things as a package deal. People are who they are, and you have to take them as you find them. Anything that bothers you is something you have to talk through and find a solution to or a way to live with.

[@donaldmackerer9032]

Once again you're pretty damn accurate. Emily knows men that's for sure.

[@mogwiawolf4354]

i agree im tired of hearing that i have to change like why i love myself yes i would like to be a bit fatter cause im really skinny and i wouldn't mind having more muscle but i have muscle to get my job done and to defend myself and i love being a star wars nerd and i enjoy my hobbies so why would i want to give up things i love and enjoy and have someone i can coexist with a woman and have our own things but work together to have a relationship and stuff and that she can hold her own weight for a time and if needed i will shoulder some of it if she has already put in effort that would i would be like i can shoulder some more of it so she doesn't get hurt or feel alone sadly i keep getting ghosted and disappointed and used over and over again and again and i shoulder it and move on and try again trying to ever give up cause if i give up i could miss the girl for me and she could be right there for all i know plus i would prefer if the bullet doesn't start looking like a friend cause that goes against my moral code of taking the easy way out which i view anyone that does that as weak yes may be cruel but keeps me from ever doing it since i don't want to be weak so am strong to keep going no mater what i just hope i find the right one hopefully sometimes soon i hope just want someone to hangout with that i can cuddle and be myself around and not feel alone or empty like a piece of me is still missing and more so yeah. (if you read this far sorry for the rant got stuck on a topic and don't want to delete everything i typed or i would have just wasted my time for nothings so sorry its long)

[@laserbeam002]

This woman has the most common sense of any woman I have ever heard. What a gem. Wish I could find one like her.

[@fireballxl-5748]

Life is not a romantic comedy. Best concept spoken.

[@PhiloSage]

I have an analogy that people are like puzzle pieces and we are healthy when fully surrounded by people (5+). As such one person cannot meet all the needs of another.

[@TheShiftPoint]

Change is a constant. Improvement is a choice.

[@zhugeliange5816]

That's true. We do love saving money.

[@prestonjenson]

#5 Is the expectation I put on myself in a relationship. Doesn’t matter who the expectation is from its still not good

[@war13death]

The secret to happiness is wanting what you have, not having what you want.

[@Hares_Pit]

#4: If I didn't put maximum effort into my relationship, my wife and I wouldn't be married. The footwork was about 80/20

[@kylemacdougall8355]

The idea that if a woman is not one hundred percent happy and satisfied with her marriage at any time, it means her husband is not her soulmate--and she therefore has a good reason for divorcing him--is incredibly toxic. Happy marriages don't just "happen." You have to put in effort. Thank God there are still women who understand this.

[@douglasclark7640]

So true. OMG! Her man is so lucky.

[@abemeyers5009]

That first one is true I’ve pretty much have zero tolerance for women that say I have to change for her because what she’s really saying is that she’s gonna change me into what she perceives as deserving of being loved in other words she can’t accept me as I am so she’ll change me into what she likes which completely diminishes me and is a lose lose situation for me plus you shouldn’t be trying to change the other person in the relationship anyway

[@christopherl1767]

That last one is the kicker. Happiness needs to come from within. Its a choice.

[@metal.queen88]

The only woman a man should feel obligated to change his ways for (if it’s necessary) and to make happy is his mother.💛 That’s it !

[@Ben-Jamin80420]

The oil change is 💯 FACTS

[@SugarBooger10]

These are very good Number 3 is so true. I've been married for over 20 years and I can tell you that there will absolutely be things about your spouse that you don't love. This is normal.