5 Mind games narcissists play

[@meadowdevor]

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[@freddiestranger9783]

I have never played UNO and I don't know what you are talking about. I am confused😵‍💫

[@johncalabrese4449]

@@ANNOYANCETOTHEARCHONS sad to say, if you want to pay bills and live a life helping people, without the distractions of another 40-50hr job coming home exhausted, you have to make money doing it. I once felt the same way as you. At that time of my life I was learning how to survive off grid and from nature. I was also very deeply into learning primitive culture. Needless to say, if you want to have a life within society, to help people within a toxic culture, you will often have to live among them. Even if you find a way not to, you may not be the type to enjoy hunting for your own food, hairy armpits or not. See, when people make healing themselves a priority in front of everything else, they will get the money, even if it takes a year. Fortunately for us, she is giving us free you tube discussions. Consider that a blessing.

[@johncalabrese4449]

@@ANNOYANCETOTHEARCHONS also, an empath and a healer is not the same thing. An empath is simply someone consciously aware of the energy around them and much more sensitive towards feeling it. It is a willow to an oak. I’m assuming you were discussing her helping people, so used the word human.

[@jatilstra]

When you speak of needs would it be correct to assume you are referring ti a person's stated needs/desires and not those that are unspoken or ambiguous? I see the non-fufilment of unspoken beeds/desires 'weaponised', and used as ammunition in a campaign against me. Example: you didn't do this task that I wanted done for the last month that I didn't tell you about. My love language is acts of service so if you don't do this I don't feel that you love me. That seems like emotional blackmail to me. Your thoughts

[@tonyarussell8419]

No contact is the ONLY way to cope

[@stellaray]

Silence is the only thing that is a weapon against a narcissist.

[@sandywagner9154]

2 Timothy says avoid them

[@crispusmahea2135]

Cope? No. No contact is FREEDOM.

[@aliceroberts1980]

They don’t love anyone it’s all pretend because you don’t hurt people over and over again if love someone you lift them up you don’t tear them down

[@KcRainbowLovesYou]

I repeated and explained this so many times that I started to doubt myself but something inside me kept telling me that I was right and love doesn't cause pain it cures it. And since then I got pregnant and that same feeling inside me told me to love this baby the way I knew how to love. I left him and now I show love to this little bundle of joy everyday and I never have to be hurt and then convinced it's love again. Joy is about to be one and he isn't around but we have more love between us then he will ever know. And I still feel sad for him, but now I don't have to be over run by that sadness to the point of destruction. I forgot to mention I had had a miscarriage almost exactly a year before joy was born and I'm pretty sure he caused it, but she is here and she wasnt taking no for an answer . And maybe it was because shes the only thing that kept me alive to be able to show her real love and keep her from such pain and she unknowingly did the same for me. Love light and joy! ❤️

[@J.Franco-e4t]

Always❤

[@DennyDupuis]

This is my sister to a tee! I haven’t spoke to her in 10 years. She is exhausting!

[@detjaggillar8081]

💯💥👊

[@matrescence_motherhood]

No they enjoy hurting people. They are sadistic.

[@suttonfarms2343]

Watching actions and ignoring the words...that is what changed everything for me.

[@miahconnell23]

YES !! Once somebody explained to me that pplwNPD’d aren’t even remotely interested in communicating with you at all… OOHh !! This’d been why I was always so frustrated, trying harder and HARDER to choose my words better and be clearer… that was never gonna work !! Their goal is “make him upset,” not “reach understanding of whatever topic.”

[@deloonslaaf4711]

As soon as I suspect someone is a narcissist... I leave! I'have burned myself to often and It's not worth the risk...

[@RachelSDay1982]

Narcissists are never at fault. They have difficulty apologizing. In fact, THAT'S a sign of a narcissist. They CAN'T apologize.

[@aljazkolar]

i am so tired of these relationships.. i'm the kind of person that wants to have clean kind of relationships and am trying to be as transparent as possible but i just keep attracting people that were much like my parents, emotionally unstable, chaotic, their personality is a mess and always a bully until they're confronted then they quickly switch to victim mode to avoid taking responsibility. i'm so done.

[@cristinaserrentino9834]

Saaaammeee! It’s exhausting and when I think on how much time in my life has been wasted on those toxic lessons, it makes being single in peace feel like the only option for me

[@TheAussieHobo]

My ex believes love is an emotion. She couldn’t comprehend it when I told her it is an action.

[@LiliVanilli248]

Love, love is a verb Love is a doing word Fearless on my breath...

[@KcRainbowLovesYou]

Mine thought it was only a word and his actions didn't say anything about love . If he said it then I was to believe it fully no matter what his actions showed me.

[@LadyEpileptic]

Because it’s not just an action. Love is a noun, adjective, and verb. You and your girlfriend were both correct in one usage of the word love but were both incorrect in your belief that love is either a action or a emotion. It’s more dynamic than that singular type of perception. A narcissist doesn’t have the ability to understand love. They use the love people feel and give to them as currency. The closest thing a narcissist feels to love is when they are able to exploit people for this currency. They can disrespect you, trample your boundaries, play games with your head and heart, and then give you flowers and a card so that they can earn the right to do that again and again. Just rinse and repeat. That’s not love. That’s a predator. And there’s no amount of payment that buys them the right and entitlement to abuse you. With real love, you never want them to hurt and you do everything you can to protect them. Very different perspectives.

[@BriarRoseA]

"Hey, tell me, haven't you heard? (Haven't you heard?) "Love" is a serious word (Serious-serious word) Hey, I think it's time you learned I don't care what you say, I don't care what you heard The word "love," (Ha!) "love" is a verb" - D.C. TALK

[@johncalabrese4449]

You'll be amazed when you realize that most things in life rarely have one answer.

[@alma_42]

My ex and I used to talk only in English, because our respective first languages were different. My English is excellent, but his is more "proper" and he would occasionally correct my grammar, which I was fine with. Whenever I wanted to talk about something serious, like his excessive drinking, he would make a fuss about me "picking wrong words" and making me confused while obviously running away from the problem. It would get so exhausting, every single time, trying to convince him that he knows what I am saying and that he should not be picking up on individual words... I eventually gave up on talking about any of the issues we had. But eventually I gathered enough of a clear mind to call the whole thing off.

[@commanderozbrek6011]

So glad you escaped before wasting too much of your life on this cussed person

[@alma_42]

@@commanderozbrek6011 we actually spent about 5+ years together, it took a while for him to get confidence down and it took me a while too to figure out what is happening + to act on it. but it was an valuable experience - and I enjoy my free and single life a lot!

[@john4226]

This is interesting. The only problem is, it doesn't work with a true narcissist. They will continue as they always did.

[@detjaggillar8081]

Yes but that is not YOUR RESPONSABILITY. You have to go NC to them! THAT'S Your responsability to Yourself - to survive 💥👊🙏

[@UnrelentingFaith]

Wish they taught this in school

[@sammylenjou4235]

Because we only are taught to comply.

[@monsieurnigaud]

@@sammylenjou4235 the two worst narcists i kwew are theachers remenber they need audience

[@ANNOYANCETOTHEARCHONS]

Self proclaimed empath equals covert narcissist be careful.

[@caranoblitt6212]

In a recent relationship with someone I feel is probably a covert narcissist this is exactly what happened. He would talk about being an empath, weaponizing information.

[@ANNOYANCETOTHEARCHONS]

@@caranoblitt6212 Empaths dont exist people with empathy do.

[@whiteraven69]

I learned this by the posts of the CN, who apparently understood empathy and posted a lion eating an empath.

[@David-nu6kw]

This is scary, my ex told me she is an empath, and she ended up discarding me after 9 years. Just wow omg.

[@jade97702]

I agree there are false empaths, as I've met quite a few myself, and have heard this view a few times and it breaks my heart. The fakes often simultaneously showed cluster b traits and seemed very unhealed and checked off most signs of npd. Still, please believe true empaths exist. We just don't usually announce ourselves as such.💚

[@lynnebucher6537]

My ex would never accept what's in this advice. He'd just double down. He'd tell you the sky was pink and purple polka dots if he felt like it.

[@MrsK976]

This

[@CC-blue]

My husband would say, “ I’m leaving at the end of week for a business trip.” He would leave Tuesday. He would say “I’ll be back in three days.” Of course, that meant a week. So I used our large family wall calendar and write on the agreed day and time for the said departure and arrival. You should see the fear in his eyes when I pinned him down to telling the truth.

[@genxx2724]

It would have been even better if you had HIM make the calendar entries. Then he couldn’t claim that you made a mistake. If he didn’t try that, he was a lightweight. 😆

[@gvintage]

Amazing what they lie about. Always confusion and for what, some weird type of control? Okay, you win! Exhausting.

[@What-28-ever-3]

U are lucky he does not tell you "i never said that, you made it up yourself". Facts shift for some of them. Best choice is to enjoy the time while he,s away. Tested and proven

[@RachelSDay1982]

Time to hire a private investigator??? Sounds like he's cheating on you.

[@rachelvoss5519]

​@@genxx2724"Oh, will you put that on the calendar - I can't remember dates!"

[@davidhynd4435]

Do these narcissistic people all train at the same school? They all use the same tactics, apparently. I was married to a narcissistic woman for 32 years (now separated). She used all of these tactics. She used to accuse me of things that weren't true, but if I defended myself, she would tell me, "I know what you're thinking!!". Just bizarre. She viciously flew into me one day for not doing something. When I defended myself by explaining that she hadn't asked me to do it (which she admitted). She defended the outburst by stating that, although she hadn't asked me to do it , she had "hoped" that I would do it. Sounds like magical thinking to me. What sort of a person thinks that they can make things happen simply by hoping?

[@KcRainbowLovesYou]

My ex does he also told me that anything I said that wasn't 100% positive he would say " now your manifesting that" well I am aware of howanifesting works and I manifested only love in my life and he is now and will forever be gone from my life full of love.

[@elliefrangoulis2228]

It’s all part of the same manipulation. They just want to get angry at you and put you down and project on you. What she said about “hoping you would” was just another way to gaslight you and deflect while playing the victim. It’s harder to discern a female narcissist because they use the victim card so well. They make you empathise with their feelings like she was “hoping you would do this or that” but you have to remember it’s not their real feelings you are empathising with. It’s their lies. 💯

[@shirliestratton7790]

a narcissist

[@johnkarl8921]

Everything described here is exactly what I've experienced with my narcissistic supposed ' partner ' 21 years of trying to have a reciprocal meaningful relationship but always ending up worn down, frustrated and playing to her script where I'm always wrong and she's always right plus always the victim. I've called out her behaviours more since therapy restored my self esteem and now see through her manipulation tactics. I'm fit and healthy in my 70s ,work out and take no prescription meds for anything. Recently she told me I look ill, bags under my eyes ,tired and old ! I walked away , came back and said I've just looked in the mirror and I can't see what you're seeing !?? Then I said I'll have to get a second opinion from my friends to stop me worrying. That shut her up. Needless to say, once you call them out , the games over and so is the fake relationship.

[@taralilarose1]

John, it not really a relationship. It's a situationship. Sorry for all of us. They're disgusting 😈 demons

[@Sofedup70]

Spot on! Dealing with this type of behavior is sooo mind blowing! But the worst part is there's so much more happening in these relationships. This is just a little peek into what happens daily to some of us! Hang in there everyone! Know your worth! Stay strong 💪

[@SylviaDavis-e5u]

I need out but too old, now. Life with my narc has been a “living hell.”

[@thedivinefeminine1821]

@@SylviaDavis-e5uyou're not too old, there's always time to meet new people, plenty of people have been in this exact predicament. Good luck 🍀

[@hurricaneaquatics]

Can confirm 100%. My wife does all of these and I wish I had these videos decades ago. Makes me sick to hear these sometimes as it validates all my previous suspicions. These people don't deserve basic human decency.

[@hl2808]

With all these tactics to use to not let the narcissist 'have their way', I think it's better to walk away...

[@Yayafarm]

Number 5 is so relatable

[@juliafurman1500]

This is so on point with what I am dealing with! I finally feel validated and know that I am not crazy. I can trust my own thoughts and feelings! This is so hard to do when the narcissist is trying to change the playing field, but I’m going to try to do what you have suggested! Thank you Meadow! Your videos are so helpful!

[@drembrey5811]

so very helpful - thank you!! I thought I was going insane and it was so depressing to doubt myself and second guess my intentions constantly. Now I know how to say "no" and to bring the conversation back to "what I'm focused on." So helpful!

[@KharkivWillHold]

If only this were a required course in high school.

[@Shazzzar]

You have the most comprehensive understanding of this subject matter that I have ever heard! Thank you for articulating with such clarity. I know this knowledge came at a price. Well done.😮

[@yinyangphoenix]

My question is why bother? The second you detect their narcissism it should be clear that you will get nowhere and they will never change. Any attempt to engage them past that point will drain your energy and gain you nothing in return. Why bother at all? Why not take your earliest convenient exit from the conversation and avoid them to the extent possible? That course of action surrenders no power to them.

[@KMaddox]

sure, but what if you're married to one? Not so easy to avoid that person.

[@debygiannioti4271]

I absolutely agree when you're talking about someone you can avoid. I find that running away isn't always the best strategy for me. And it's not always possible given they seem to be everywhere. Maybe i attract them, what can I say 😂

[@daveshore8671]

What if simply things happen with well intentioned people? All people have misunderstandings. One or two times of things seeming wierd doesn’t mean someone is nefarious. Simply they could be keeping things private until they know you better. Or other people are involved and stuff gets messed up. Not every unfortunate incident is a narc attacking. Life is not clean. If you bolt immediately you will miss out on good people too

[@joannateitel5661]

You can’t always get away from a narcissist - a family member, a coworker, etc. Knowing how to spot and handle this kind of person gives you another tool.

[@detjaggillar8081]

​@@daveshore8671This video is NOT talking about "a couple of times" of failure. It's talking about constantly repeting "over and over" that kind of behavior. It's manipulation, gaslightning, blameshifting, stonewalling, lies who are incredible and hard to find out but WHEN they are caught over and over again - they always take another lie, triangulation, give You wordsallads as exolanations and to note: smearcampaign is going on at the same time og You to others so when You talk to another (friends or familys etc) those people already is duped by the narcissist that is it YOU who are "the problem or a narc" ... they present themselves like it is them which are the victim = the oposite. It's not sometimes its happend its repeated all the time and its like a carusell loope and chaos everytime You are with those narcissist. It make You to wonder if You are insaneand crazy and it's also VERY emothially draining.

[@napriaa5175]

I love how you break things down into simple ways for everyone to understand 💝

[@What-28-ever-3]

And give advice how to counter 👍

[@mmorgan7918]

This is absolutely brilliant.

[@APRIL916]

Actions tell the truth. Yep, so true!

[@teebee9820]

This was a former boss.. like you said.. I didn’t even know that I was playing the game.. once I figured out that they were a narcissist and I realized I was being emotionally abused. I got out thankfully! These videos are great because I am still healing from that.

[@birdmentor]

I love and value your approach to navigating narcissists. Other folks often bring a fair bit of negativity to their discussions of narcissists... I've found your approach encourages us to remain positive and respectful, while maintaining firm and clear boundaries. Thanks again!!!

[@paulkrenz9593]

I am really enjoying your videos. Self worth is fundamental to enjoying life, and whilst as an empath I still want to feel empathy for a Narcissists mental condition ,I am unable to do this, having been married to one for a few years when I was a lot younger and had another relationship with a narcissist, in truth they are despicable people who thrive on creating misery for other people , and destroying any self worth or good feeling you have about yourself. Evil may be too strong a word but not far off I think, I know of two friends and one aquaintance who took their own lives as a result of Narc relationships, and another who had a heart attack

[@TigerBoyX15]

Not only that many are Conmen..can end up losing lots of money because of association with them..I know of one who calls himself an Accountant...he is the most sly person..not qualified at all...people have lost lots of money..and now some are getting Big Bills from the Tax Man..they are very shady.. dishonest people...with No Conscience..they laugh at all the Chaos they cause .Plus play Victim..

[@mikesmith6594]

Used to be so full of life 😢til I was targeted by my father who's very narcissistic and his group of gangstalking bullies . Now I am in a state of depression, anxiety,ptsd , diabetes, feeling betrayed , walking on eggshells .My father always denies everything, plays victim , gaslights my reality, plays mind games,ghosts , gives silent treatment, refuses to answer my questions .

[@DuckTunes79]

Where was this knowledge when I was married to my ex? Watching this is like hearing you talk about him. Divorced for almost 20 years, but I still second guess myself because of all the mind games he played with me for the 7 years we were married.

[@PsychedPerspective]

He was and is a narcissist! I suspected it from day one n it’s so clear now looking back. His actions never matched his words. Used me a placeholder n played games the entire time. SMH glad I’m not in it anymore.

[@DavidHurst-f8y]

These videos are the most helpful thing I've come across since dealing my fiance for the last 4 years. A covert narcissist who has crossed every line and hit everywhere below the belt in every way to sabotage family relationships, friends, and my daily well being in general of course. I hope the best of luck for anyone dealing with anything similar. And wanted to say thank you for uploading these videos on behalf of myself and anyone else who they might be helpful to

[@LadyEpileptic]

Don’t marry him weather he is actually a narcissist or not. You know what is and isn’t love. That’s the relevant factor. Listen to your intuition. If you’re questioning if this is love… it’s not. You and even lesser people… everyone deserves to be loved and embraced. You shouldn’t sacrifice yourself for someone who doesn’t have the ability to love and never will love you. It gets worse when they perceive that you are “stuck” . You do believe that you are stuck and become very very stuck and trapped in these situations. Don’t marry someone who has already proven themselves. It’s a lot easier to break off an engagement.

[@TigerBoyX15]

Don't get married full stop..is my advice..🥀

[@LadyEpileptic]

@@TigerBoyX15 Marriage is not easy and it’s impossible without mutual respect, love, and trust. But it’s ideal when you have these things because we all need these things in our hardest times and last moments of life. We all need that companionship through life with the Right person. Right meaning mutual respect love and trust. But I totally understand how you feel.

[@BudahOfBirmingham]

What an excellent presentation, thank you for your wise words. I'm currently getting rid of a man I shall refer to as "El parasito". I've set the boundary of tomorrow, for him to be out. He still owes me 8k, but the best bit is that he will be living somewhere different from me. I won't be prey ever again. Lessons learnt. Now I just need to be as brave as I talk. El parasito doesn't know that I've talked with his ex wife and ex girlfriend. Now that was interesting. Budah out x

[@mssavedin92]

you're certainly good at explaining this subject.Great insight, thankyou

[@Jophiel50]

Yes they abuse the words “you are the one”…in blame, someone cares about that, but in life, blame is just bad energy and never is what “solves” things 😁😊😁

[@In2U333]

My husband is so good at his narcissism and being the victim that people actually think he’s a victim. It’s fascinating and unbelievable to see him in action. I’m literally the only person that can see his love booming triangulation. He’s literally trump….in behavior only.

[@percubit10]

Happens to me all the time. Trying to explain myself to people around me. I have been in this for ever.

[@aniqabano1582]

Subscribed .. I have heard many speakers on this topic who are all great. I gained insights in the issue but they could not provide any practical tips to do in the situation. Thank you for your tips

[@MichaelBortoli]

I want to express to you how impressed I am with your video content and delivery. It's clear, concise and direct to the point. Thank you!

[@rayunseitig6367]

also how to deal with sales types, who try to get control

[@alane_j]

These comparisons to “games” are perfect. Thank you

[@martindutton1645]

I’m impressed with your restraint. But over the years various narcs have filled a large inner reservoir of anger. So now I take advantage of opportunities to erupt at and over persistent narcs because it just makes me feel better AND it exposes them. Yes I know they are devious enough to build in innocent reasons for their statements and behaviours and so try to make you look and feel potty but tbh I don’t care and I then tell them and their imagined fan club they’re lying as usual and isn’t it strange so very strange so many of their remarks are open to multiple interpretations- when normal people usually avoid such ambiguity because they want to be understood by other normal people. But I suppose there are more controlled settings in which your cooler approach would probably be preferable. I suppose I just resent narcs demands on my patience and being forced to deconstruct and respond to what is essentially narcissistic and emotional abuse… Funny thing is or not so funny more like - is how they respond to loss of patience. Notice how UNsympathetic they are about your ‘upsetness’ and actually find it amusing. I mean THERE is your proof they’re a Narc! As in normal people who are genuine would be upset about being accused of abusiveness and also upset you’re upset and would strive to clarify their intentions and do so sincerely in order to restore or establish a healthy friendly rapport. 🙏🏻

[@926paaja]

Shell game will cause you to react for sure!!!! It’s the worst! And be ready for the “you’re so controlling” response from the narc!

[@johngolding7768]

Now I'm more confused than ever - I see all of the traits in my deceased brother - which I had known for years, but I can also pick out a few that I may have, and I do not want to be like him.

[@spiritedwoman5895]

Yes, all of the above and sadly people believe their lies.

[@willkuch]

Genius - thanks for making this.

[@meadowdevor]

Glad you like it!

[@robertbenedek4463]

Nicely arranged background with the yellow-brown-red theme! Good summary, many thanks!

[@anouk4862]

Like your creativity to bring this info in this way! Well done

[@BeFree-J9]

Knowledge IS Power!!

[@GT-vs2fm]

I’ve also experienced a narcissist who continually degraded themselves in order to obligate people to say that “it’s ok” . Or putting emotions on someone-“he/she is getting tired of me” obligating a person to politely say, “no I’m not”. Even though they are. Any one else experience this?

[@heatherxlotus]

BRILLIANT

[@DuckTunes79]

Where was this knowledge when I was married to my ex? Watching this is like hearing you talk about him. Divorced for almost 20 years, but I still second guess myself because of all the mind games he played with me for the 7 years we were married. They target people who are emotional and not confident. In order to not be affected by a narcissist, you have to have no attachment or feelings. My ex would yell at me until I cried, then tell me I was fake crying. He would tell me every time I brought something up that he did, that I was crazy or don’t remember it correctly.

[@mayaq8324]

This is gold 🙏

[@cathysunshine5790]

You the only one that explains it plain as day.

[@MsGrinny]

The only way to deal with my narcissistic father, who wrecked my life from when I was around 3, is to not keep his company. I have PTSD and GAD from childhood trauma, and he still puts me down at any/every given opportunity. I'm now 51. He's never insulted my younger brother.

[@user-hn9bf6ij6e]

T. Yu. I'm laughing, #4 is Excellent. It's impossible to be a real human in my father's life. I'm still a child... Always. I've been grabbed for Zero reason, in an Assaulting manner (sev Xs). Oh yeah #5, Actions? Hilarious. We went to my BCT 1x for family Thx. He spoke the WHOLE TIME, complaing about my Mother & I. Quite Pathetic. "Woe is me". Be careful with increasing hearing loss in the Covert Narcissist. Creates a Whole other Level of Issues. Complete & utter making up [in their mind] of nonsense - such a shame. Beyond problematic. Always knew I would not be this personality. Now I am kind, but true to myself, an empath... but unsuccessful in fortune. You cannot have it all. (All Senses are like a 🐺 tho).

[@annagryfik7924]

I went on holiday with my mum and sister. Everytime I wanted to use kettle, it was empty. So I filled up,made coffee and of wanted another coffee someone used up the whole water. Please don't criticism me for wanting to have decent amounts of water in the kettle. So I messaged my " friend " about it and he said " you are being unreasonable and have an anger issue " So, I thought maybe I was unreasonable, but it's annoying, and I thought it was best to talk about it with mum and sister. We had a good laugh, and my sister said, " yes, I noticed this comfort of each time wanting hot drink, kettle was filled up" But, since then " my friend " keep using this information against me " you are unreasonable and get angry at an empty kettle " It's sad when you realise your friend is your enemy

[@percubit10]

I agree with you whoheartedly. I have been distracted like all the time.

[@RobertLongM]

You're a master illustrator

[@ejparker13]

I believe I'm dealing with a very subtle covert narc. So many things here that ring true very sneaky

[@bashsbookbreakdown]

Great advice! It’s hard to explain to people who haven’t experienced it, but I think even unaffected people can understand this!

[@jnxclrs]

My hasband ALWAYS reverses conversations and when I try to get it back he'll become so emotionally overwhelmed or ridicule my original conversation as in it lost the point since he brought some past stuff up. It's impossible to talk to him or have him take things on board. We spent hundreds on couple's therapy. It made him less aggressive but he is still very difficult to deal with. I just feel like I'm having to fight for my right to be. He keeps a tally to everything he does for the family... not sure what to do since the therapy didn’t work for us.

[@KcRainbowLovesYou]

@@jnxclrs I call that circle talk they do that to distract from their obvious guilt and avoidance of admitting it. And your so emotionally charged trying to explain something from the past hoping they understand this time that you forget what you originally started talking about. I hate mind games they can destroy even a strong minded person. I hope everyone of you knows that those things aren't how people treat someone they love. Congratulations if you made it out of that hell. It takes a long time to reverse the damage they caused you but if you got out of the relationship then you can do this! I'm proud of you!

[@jnxclrs]

@@KcRainbowLovesYou thank you. We've got a small baby so not going anywhere right now. He is looking to better himself and I still believe in him. There's some breathwork technique that seems to work for him at the moment. I asked his mum for help and his dad confronted him when they saw something brewing up when we visited them last. I think there's add or autism issues undiagnosed and the weight of emotions is difficult to bear so he tried to avoid it. It's got bad when the baby came. Everything overwhelms him since she's born and he makes it seem like it's my fault because nobody else is around...

[@KcRainbowLovesYou]

@@jnxclrs your a strong one I left before I had the baby I didn't want him to hurt her the way her hurt me but it sounds like yours is trying at least mine never even tried just got worse. Good luck.

[@Dreamazium]

The last one is the one I have to put up with the most. I feel completely at sea and even begin to doubt my own sanity. I also start to think, I'm I learning any behaviours from them? I have little to no confidence, and I realise that I have been attracting narcissists all my life. If a woman shows me attention, I start to feel fear that she might be another one. I have it so bad, I even look at your thumbnails to your videos and go on red alert; thinking is she one of the narcissists? Is she just using the “I'm going to help you spot the narcissist” as a cover! My Mother has a diagnosis of Narcissism, and she loves to play house.

[@dianecharpentier5533]

and you can say i prefer beleiving what i beileve about me then what you beileve about me

[@candicelondon-hessert8723]

Playing house. 👍🏻

[@makedalittles3123]

Yes these people are like a game of simmon says thats like if somebody says to you if i say jump you say how high don't ever fall for that NEVER cause that's a problem....

[@robinday2585]

You just labeled 80 %of men to be a narcissist .

[@SheRahMusic]

Getting out of this circle is so hard…I left for those reasons just to be back because we also have kids together…it was good the first 3 Weeks and then it went all back to before and now I feel even more confused

[@NeyooxetuseiDreamer]

Narcissism, denial of the true self by Alexander Lowen, MD, a book for narcissists so they can become aware in order to heal

[@deliamariaalandetemanotas4931]

Excellent video

[@lindaohrn8946]

This is so great information.. thank you! Now I realizes that my best friend truly is a narc, and that makes me sad. I´ve watched another one of yours also. Its hard to get all information in because you speak very fast (and also Im from Sweden). I had to pause several times and go back to listen again. Is it possible for you to just slow down just a litte bit, maybe give a little breathing pause after some sentences? In that case I would love to listen to ALL your videos.

[@shannonhawkins3296]

What do you call someone that is a chameleon? Someone that takes on the opinions of the man she’s with. Someone that doesn’t have their own opinions or thoughts but takes something you say, or some idea you tell them about and make everyone think it was their idea. Someone that is extremely jealous of people “liking you better” in their opinion… even when it’s not in reality the truth. Is this a narcissist? Or if not, what IS it? I’m a family member of someone with all of these behaviors.

[@KcRainbowLovesYou]

@@shannonhawkins3296 actions of people will show you if they will ever grow and learn it sounds like they are stuck and unless your willing to stay stuck with them then leave or cut them out of your life. Do it for your mental well being. Staying around them to long and you tend to lower yourself and accept it. Love your self and don't let them put out your light. Your worth it!

[@nandi123]

My sister will make a statement, as soon as I start to speak she'll talk over me, I stop talking, then she pauses, when I start taking she begins again, she will repeat this pattern as many times as needed until I give up. If I continue speaking she just talks over me louder and faster. I have zero contact with her now. So, she "won".

[@meadowdevor]

I think you won. 💯

[@artcats88]

"Your the one"... all the red flag you need!

[@kelseymariebell1357]

thank you! recommending for next presidential debate!

[@LeenaGrunberg-ym2ht]

MY ex physically made me repeat what he said over and over until it "stuck in my brain".

[@JerryHefner-x3j]

You can't ignore them they get mad 😡

[@Alanadesigns]

What if they just look at you and blink? I’ve gotten that several times during conversations, no response just looking and blinking 3-4 times and changing the subject.

[@sammylenjou4235]

I hope everyone who is getting narced can break contact/attention instead having to do all of this.

[@wibiyoutube6173]

Do I have to remain with my female Simon for the sake of the young children? 😢

[@azjla69]

Deflection is their superpower I direct him back and he hates it I wear him out

[@MrMarcoAlvarado]

The blonde narcissist hunter! Nice! 🙄

[@ole_maim]

About #4 what if I really didn’t promise, saying “maybe” and “I am not sure if I can”, etc, but he says “you promised”, insisting?Even when it’s texting, and after refuses to admit that I didn’t promise anything… for many years I try to stop this communication, and every year he appears, telling me that he doesn’t feel as an ex, and he just gave me some time…

[@billblack5399]

This video started out interesting, and it makes a lot of sense that it would be, as I imagine I'm not the only one with a narcissist or two in their life... so I'm sympathetic. Then it dawned on me... wouldn't it be easier to simply get the narcissists out of your life. This assumes you can't change them, and I'm going to guess that's a sound assumption. Any thoughts on this?

[@leonaldobrum]

Obrigado!

[@meadowdevor]

Thank you. 💖

[@angiecoulter5868]

Thanks!

[@meadowdevor]

Thank you. Very kind. ❤️

[@paulussantosociwidjaja4781]

Oops, just joined your channel and seem at least I might be a victim of at least seems to be a narcissist (",).

[@anouk4862]

Are narcissists clones? It seems they are all working through the same strategies indeed! Don’t seem they actually have a soul when they behave in this crazy/unnatural warm-hearted way. What do you think; clones?

[@ralphey8189]

Many great insights, however, I've yet to hear the truth that sets people free in several of these videos or in the litanies of comments.

[@autumnjimenez6482]

I am little worried because the behaviors/ reactions you’re describing sound like me😟 So now I wonder if I am a covert narcissit. Maybe we both are narcs🤔 :/

[@autumnjimenez6482]

Oh nevermind. I watched the video. Was reacting to the disbelief of what was happening and trying to defend myself. 😒

[@anchika7837]

What if their actions demonstrate love but they do things like ‘Reverse Uno’ or ‘Whack-a-mole’??

[@dianestark8338]

Is there a transcript to this video?

[@jofish420]

show me you love me! So you even want to touch me? Do you evven desire to touch me? I've asked this.. but it's just an accommodation rather than a desire.

[@bronwyntanner4501]

Oh oh oh distractions!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@presentrlb]

Are you in your yurt in this video? :)

[@apostate]

Speaking more conversationally, with pauses, would help enhance your teachings.

[@Amber-nm5pn]

None of this works for mine... 😢