5 Minute Time Limit

5 Minute Time Limit
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[@Inge508]

I did this already with ‘ morning cries ‘.. few minutes and then switch.. I now don’t even need those cries anymore! Just a few sigh’s and then grateful for another day❤ Thank you Dan! Enjoy the outside beautiful weather! 🤗🐝🕷️🐞🌻🌲💕💕💕

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Good for you my sweet Inge love you ❤💕💐🎈

[@Inge508]

@@Lenneke8422-b3tlove you back ❤❤❤

[@josiejo117]

That is amazing progress dear Inge.💕

[@Inge508]

@@josiejo117thanks dear Josie! Wishing you less symptoms soon❤

[@josiejo117]

@@Inge508 Thank you so much for your kind words of support.💕

[@kathleenwharton2139]

I am in Phoenix Valley Arizona..we got Summer Coming! I just took a nice walk and it is HOT..already! I just do the Best I Can and keep my mantra..”Relax..Breathe..I am Okay!” It is working for me. 😊❤ Thank You..Dan!

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

😊

[@PainFreeYou]

Love it.

[@massagepublications]

Good morning Dan and pain-free you community. I so needed this video today. Went into a major panic attack about a particular symptom that seems to be getting worse. Even thought of going back to the doctor for more tests. Really went down the rabbit hole around 4 AM this morning. I get too caught up in my emotions and I do need to put a time limit on it. I HAVE made so much progress from where I was this time last year. Love to all. We got this!

[@1STBUCKLEY]

We're only human. You'll be back on track . Wishing you a good afternoon x

[@Inge508]

Must be so scary to experience a panic attack in the night.. and with the panic the ratio goes out the window and things don’t settle easily.. hope you can apply this 5 minute rule to pause your fear and out of catastrophizing.. visualize washing those stress chemicals out of your body when you can become calmer.. healing hug Peggy ❤🤗🙋‍♀️

[@massagepublications]

@@1STBUCKLEY love it - ❤

[@massagepublications]

@@Inge508 so true. Thanks for your compassionate and kind message. This KZbin community helps so much

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

When this happens again dearest look what time it i am 6 hours ahead of you so maybe call me? I am here for you you know that ok love you 💐💕❤️😘🎈

[@LilyOscar333]

Morning Dan .. yes feel it to heal it! Wishing you and everyone a calming fearless day 😊🌺🌸🌼

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

You too my dearest Lily ❤️💐🎈😘

[@Inge508]

Have a wonderful day dear Lily! Hope your tomato 🍅 plants do as well as you?🙋‍♀️😜😜😜

[@LilyOscar333]

@@Inge508 😂 😂 🍅 🍅 🌸🌷🌼🌺

[@massagepublications]

Same to you Lily 💚🌸

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you.

[@mookymookymooo]

I like it, passing this on to my anxiety-riddled friend

[@Inge508]

Hi mooky! Hope you’re doing well!☀️☀️☀️🤗

[@mookymookymooo]

@@Inge508 hey! I am thanks Inge, how about you? X

[@Inge508]

@@mookymookymooo so glad to read that!! Yes, moving in the right direction thank you! Have a great day!💕🙋‍♀️🌻

[@mookymookymooo]

@@Inge508 awesome :))

[@Inge508]

@@mookymookymooo❤

[@NicoleFitnessYouTube]

Brilliant stuff Dan. Our instinct is to resist! But, as wise people always say, what we RESIST…PERSISTS. The 5 minute allowance is DOABLE for all of us! We can all log in a win with just 5 minutes of ‘embracing the suck!’. Let’s do this!!

[@PainFreeYou]

You got it!

[@dr.amitabhamukherjee3601]

Wow! This man is clairvoyant. You can always rely on him to anticipate the very questions plaguing you. Brilliant.

[@suzannesimmons1296]

Thank you so much, Dan, for making your inspirational videos everyday! A true public service. 😊💚

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

❤️

[@PainFreeYou]

thanks Suzanne

[@milesmcgeoghegan2727]

You are greatly loved!!! :)

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you Miles. Humbled.

[@angelab1525]

Good morning Dan!! ☀️ Have a beautiful day!!

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

And you Angela ❤

[@angelab1525]

Good morning Lenneke!! 💗

[@Inge508]

Have a beautiful day too!☀️🤗🌻

[@angelab1525]

@@Inge508 Good morning!! 💗

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Hi Dan, oh i feel emotions sadness anger frustration impatient i let them pass. This morning went to my doctor had to wait long grrrrr. Have to come back this Wednesday nothing serious but need a small treatment. Yes. My symptoms suck bigtime however 1 symptom goes away and comes back. So progress. I am doing everything you taught me and it is not easy. Maybe i put to much pressure on myself but then again i dont know. The one thing i do know is staying calm and dont freak out. I allow to feel especially sadness crying again. 😢 And also i feel angry i stamp with my feet in the dunes. Helps!!! Ok love you Dan and everyone else a big hug and smile from me see you all tomorrow 😘😘😘

[@Inge508]

Have a sunny positive Monday dear Lenneke ☀️🤛😎

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

@@Inge508 thank you sweet friend 🎈💐❤️😘

[@LilyOscar333]

Lenneke. You are getting your emotions out .. good ❤Have a good day. ❤️🌷🌺

[@josiejo117]

You are allowing them to flow dearest Lenneke💞

[@massagepublications]

Lenneke- sending you Blue skies and calm waters 😊🌈

[@BlessedKarma10]

Hi Dan, The Steady Coach recommended your channel. Love this advice!

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome - thank you.

[@pramodsharma7284]

He dan enjoy the pain the panick attacks is the only way to over come out to it. Today I feel I do what I stop to do

[@rajbilla76]

Love this idea and I’m definitely going to put it into practice. 🦋✨

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

❤️

[@PainFreeYou]

Let me know how it goes.

[@khatijakay4107]

Good morning from the UK, you make me feel visible and cared for… thank you for your videos

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

💕

[@Inge508]

Everyone here sees you and cares for you Khatja❤wishing you a steady happy healing ❤️‍🩹

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

@@Inge508 again Inge is right we all care for each other here 😘🎈💐❤️

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

We arr here for you sending you much love ❤️💐🎈😘

[@Inge508]

@@Lenneke8422-b3t🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Great video. Today I got to my dentist appointment. Apprehensive re anaesthetic as I have had traumatic reaction before. Dentist said she'd use non adrenaline one( I laughed and said yes, thats good, cos I've plenty of my own 😂) 35mins into procedure, panic rising & I thought I'd be getting up and running but great dentist helped me to calmness. Back for one more filling in a month. At £500 for two white fillings I'm glad that's all I need. Anyhow know I'm"blessed". Feeling pleased I've taken another hurdle in convincing my brain we're safe. Re read the book Dare by Barry McDonagh (that you recommended for anxiety) I downloaded the audio 7day "treatment"pod too. Thanks for helping me navigate getting my life back. Truly appreciate x

[@massagepublications]

PB - yes! You should feel pleased! That’s a major hurdle you just leaped over 💫🌺

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

So proud of you Patricia you did so good 🎈😘💕💐

[@tominnc315]

PB the dentist hurdle can be a big one for many of us (me) Last august i needed a crown removed & replaced. I had a scotch and water driving there at 730 am!!! I always get no epi novacaine. Its epinephrine that speeds heart and nerves Proud of you!

[@1STBUCKLEY]

​@@massagepublications thanks appreciate x

[@1STBUCKLEY]

​@@Lenneke8422-b3t thank you, appreciate

[@rhondagallone5908]

Love this!! FIVE TO FEEL!! ❤ Thank you, Dan! Xo

[@PainFreeYou]

You got it.

[@merildo]

Thank you Dan for reminding me of stuff I taught people 30 years ago. But often neglect to do. I feel emotions. But it’s very high. I think if I had just one friend. To share. It would be very cathartic. My husband is one who never even considers what ifs. Where’s I worry about. Can I. So a lot of emotions. Been a bad year so far with health and now health anxiety. But thank you for reminding me to get back to my “walk away” practice. Cos I’d forgotten. Chilly here. Enjoy the warmth. 😊

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad to be here every day for you.

[@bobbeckett6509]

I get these heart skips that I physically feel ... sometimes like 10 a minute. I'm new to your channel and your paid monthly mentorship. My question is... these are so intrusive (yet harmless the doctors say)... how can I only pay attention to them for 5 minutes when it happens all day when I'm having them. Thanks for your time and looking forward to healing!

[@KCH2020-q6c]

I have symptoms that last all day, very intrusive, but I think what he is saying is the emotion your are feeling. Focus for five minutes on what you feel about the symptoms. Let them process. Over time the symptoms will lessen as you deal with the emotion and are curious not fearful about what you feel.

[@PainFreeYou]

The 5 minute time limit is for our emotional reaction to what's going on. We WILL notice the symptoms all day. Symptoms are designed to get our attention. The key is to allow the emotional response for 5 minutes. Then, if you notice the symptoms, do your best not to get lost in the story of why the symptoms scare us or upset us so.

[@donnablatman3283]

Dan, this is such a great video on emotions - best yet! Thank you coach :)

[@PainFreeYou]

wow - thanks Donna.

[@josiejo117]

Very helpful as always. Thank you so much for this... Up tick of "symptoms"after a week of being ok. Mind is *trying* to tell me untrue stuff but aware it's not true whilst still experiencing symptoms & getting up & getting on. Lots more reassuring thoughts coming in to teach brain I am safe. Will allow emotions if they need to come out for 5 mins. Love to be at indifference...but trusting in the learning process. Love you too.💕

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

You are doing great Josie so happy for you and love you 🎈😘💕💐

[@PainFreeYou]

You will get there Josie.

[@pramodsharma7284]

Hi dan u r a Nice and cool guy the way you teach us is amazing. I like ur videos. Love from your friend from india

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you Pramod.

[@mozingoames]

Very helpful and timely for me. Thank you. Had an increase in fear just this morning. This helped in knowing how to do deal with this particular experience today as I continue working through TMS stuff

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad to help.

[@tlee62]

As usual Dan another well timed video , many thanks 🙏🏻🌹

[@PainFreeYou]

you are welcome.

[@violetbrinkman7161]

Thank you.

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

❤️

[@PainFreeYou]

You are welcome.

[@pramodsharma7284]

Oh thank God we have only a panic attack, it's only the mind practice ,if we go friendly with this symptoms the game begins . Now from today I enjoy the symptoms come on come friend you can't destroy me can't damage me

[@daniellestine2250]

So I’ve had a thought for a really long time and never asked in the comments on these videos but could gaining and not losing weight despite diet and exercise be another manifestation of TMS? I know digestive issues are but I’ve found over the years during incredibly stressful or upsetting times I will gain A LOT of weight and can’t lose it despite exercise and changing how I eat and then when things settle and I’m happy and calm again the weight comes off, almost without much effort. This time around I had weight gain and chronic pain because I’ve been in an extended period of tough times but I’ve managed to calm the pain but somehow the weight gain thing is still going…can that be stress or TMS too? It produces a ton of feelings of despair and hopelessness that I’m always going to be this way and never get back to a healthy weight which I think just keeps the cycle going. Just wondering if this is all related because I’ve seen a pattern over the years and trying to connect the dots

[@Inge508]

Hi. I read an article about that kind of ‘ problem ‘.. when people have high stress levels, the adrenals get overworked and exhausted and the consequence is weight gain through an excess of cortisol that’s in the bloodstream.. once stress lowers, cortisol normalizes and the metabolism starts to function well again .. so you lose weight..

[@massagepublications]

Danielle - I have the same problem and I agree with what Inge said. I’ve always had a tendency to gain weight, and despite the fact that with all the symptoms, I have a very low appetite I still am having problems losing weight. I think when we’re all on high alert our cortisol levels do go up and it’s probably a way of our brain protecting us by putting on the pounds. I know it sucks but, you are beautiful just the way you are.❤

[@1STBUCKLEY]

I'm the opposite doesn't matter how much I eat the weight was staying the same (underweight after COVID)18 months on finally got half a stone on. The last 12 of 18 months were so difficult, trauma,deaths etc. I must have calmed something down. My GP ruled out anything for the weight loss

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Yes i totally agree with Inge 🎈💐😘💕

[@robbienichols2712]

​@@Lenneke8422-b3t yes Lenneke, This also happens to me. Since puberty. I'm 64 now.😅 And brain is definitely in a high stress state. Hoping with Dan's help & support system I can learn to turn it off or down. Such a long time to live in trauma. Our family didn't teach the children any thing about feeling emotions.😢

[@pramodsharma7284]

Dan when I overcome it I will be more powerful person than before?

[@Inge508]

You are already strong my friend to deal with these difficulties! Once your totally fine you will be super- strong and wise from all the things you learned here!🙏👏👏👏🌻

[@PainFreeYou]

yes, indeed.

[@joannwhite9037]

5 minutes seems like a long time for me… tends to send me into ruminating thoughts… 2 or 3 at most seems to be enough to acknowledge and feel my feelings with a dose is self compassion.then I move on and get back to life ….

[@PainFreeYou]

Do what works for you. The 5 minute limit was to try to get people to stop ruminating all day long. :-)

[@joannwhite9037]

Thank you! Makes sense…

[@SummerSunshine02]

Hi Dan, thank you so much for this video. I am a HSP so am always feeling my emotions quite deeply. Just a quick question. If for example the emotion i am feeling is sadness and I have allowed the 5min time limit to feel sad. What do I do if it pops back up hours later. Do i repeat the process? 🤔 Or do I acknowledge that I have already felt the emotion and divert my attention?

[@josiejo117]

I think Dan said if it comes up again throughout the day to just acknowledge it for 5 more minutes & then move on letting it flow. But I'm sure he will confirm!

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Yes do this 5 min time limit again or maybe more wishing you success 💐💕😘🎈

[@SummerSunshine02]

@@Lenneke8422-b3t Thank you so much for your reply! 😊

[@SummerSunshine02]

@@josiejo117 Thanks for your feedback, much appreciated! 😊

[@PainFreeYou]

Allow yourself to feel it. Often if the same emotion keeps coming up, we may be ruminating on the story behind it.

[@sallym9769]

I think you should have named this "Embrace the Suck".😀

[@PainFreeYou]

Haha - possibly.

[@8aNda1d]

🤚❤

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

❤️

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Yep, let that "energy" OUT🤬}😭}😀

[@Fresh-qc3zn]

The idea sounds great but letting the anger and frustration come up and be there for 5 minutes then getting on with the rest of the day just doesn't work. 5 minutes, leads to 10 minutes, leads to an hour, leads to being fed up and angry about the situation and the limiting symptoms all day.

[@PainFreeYou]

The only reason emotions stick around is because we get caught up in the story behind the symptoms. Rumination creates the emotions over and over again. Yes, symptoms are there, but we can choose to respond differently.

[@Fresh-qc3zn]

@@PainFreeYou Yeah the story is that the symptoms have stopped my life and that I wake up feeling unbearable every day. How can one not be frustrated when life is nothing but the symptoms.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@Fresh-qc3zn When you realize that the symptoms are reversible, it becomes easier to be less fearful and frustrated. I'd suggest you go through all the resources on my getting started page: www.PainFreeYou.com/start The second video listed on Perceived Danger Pain explains what is fundamentally going on.

[@Fresh-qc3zn]

@@PainFreeYou The thing is, not all of my symptoms are reversible. Such as a throat cartilage/swallowing issue. Which causes constant tension on the neck and throat. Even the other symptoms, there's no evidence to say they are reversible so no it's not easier to be less frustrated. I'm not fearful of the symptoms at all. I'm extremely fed and and peed off with them. Some of which I'm stuck with. How can I overcome this issue to relieve my general symptoms when I have some things that are truly mechanically abnormal and have no chance of going away.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@Fresh-qc3zn the physical structure is what it is. There is no debate. But should cartilage cause the muscle tension and pain to the degree you are experiencing? Perhaps the muscle tension and pain is the RESULT of the brain perceiving you have a messed up throat and not the cause of the issue. Perceived danger, in my opinion, is the cause. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qp-4Z354dttonMk