Noticing the Emotional Charge

Noticing the Emotional Charge
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[@cc34945]

This is my first time back on site in a while. My husband died in May. I’m actually using your method to keep moving thru grief. My brain’s perception of pain has to change. I don’t have to save Tom anymore.

[@rhondagallone5908]

I am so sorry for your loss..Sending prayers, love and hugs your way 😘

[@PainFreeYou]

Lots of prayers. This video on grief may be of help: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aKi9hYilo7OAbpo I'm sorry for your loss.

[@edwinaastley6421]

Sorry Cecelia that is very hard. Sorry for the loss of someone so special ❤

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Am sorry for your loss. Big hugs 🙏

[@sandyg7291]

Learning decades ago that I could choose how I felt was life changing.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

This is where Mindfulness Meditation Helps. It Makes you More Aware of your thought-emotional connection. “As a man thinketh..so is he.” Somebody said that many years ago! Relax and Breathe has been very Helpful for me. I do this often to break my habit of tension. Thank You! Dan! 😊❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you for sharing this insight.

[@Jeronimo365]

Thanks Dan, radical acceptance is definitely the way to go. 👍

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, and not surprisingly, when we stop fighting, the entire system settles down.

[@violetbrinkman7161]

I haven't been sleeping well lately and it makes me feel more fearful about my emotions and pain.

[@PainFreeYou]

Insomnia is just another symptom of a brain perceiving danger: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fqm4maScpJWqnrc

[@violetbrinkman7161]

Thank you

[@NEChristo]

I have had a horrendously painful day and after going through about 3/4 of the day trying to remain calm and unconcerned I completely lost it. I mean I flew into a rage 😡 crying yelling, completely freaked out for 2 or 3 hours. BUT the good news is I used to do this about once a month and this is the first time I’ve gotten to this point now in almost 8 months. I’m making progress. Step by step day by day.

[@marieleak8731]

Thanks Dan. I tell myself suffering is Optional.

[@PainFreeYou]

Exactly.

[@janethansen9612]

This is what I’m working on right now. It’s not easy but the more I do this I expect it will become easier. I will get there!

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes it will.

[@dianebaker4557]

Hi Dan, thank you for doing these videos even on your holiday. You taught me I have a choice in how I either react or respond to pain/sensations. I now sit with a deliberate smile on my face as I let emotions come up. Sometimes tears flow, and it's ok. I hope you keep warm up there with the cool weather.

[@ijordan9960]

I agree. It is a feedback loop just like a microphone - screech!

[@cheryl8493]

“Let Go and Allow”, I Love it, Dan! Negative emotions Definitely trigger worsening of sensations. Enjoy every moment at the lake and life in general! Thanks as usual!

[@PainFreeYou]

We can teach our brain that emotions are safe by feeling them without judgement along with clarity. tell your brain that emotions are perfectly normal, safe and do not have to create symptoms. And then, do your best not to react to the symptoms with fear.

[@hope2757]

⁠@@PainFreeYouDan, great final point…..do your best NOT to react to the symptoms with fear. 🙏🏽

[@richardbranson8658]

I wish I could be like I was as a child.. Instead of always trying to solve some health issue

[@anjac.6817]

Like me always looking other people who are not thinking about their body 24/7😢

[@kerrys5540]

Me also. I watch other people and think do they feel weak or dizzy and just carry on and not think about it. My neighbour had funny turn other week. She going for ECG tomorrow...today she is painting her garden fence just carrying on. I feel paralysed 😢

[@anjac.6817]

@@kerrys5540 i also feel paralyzed the whole day. But i have to kick myself in the a.. If i am forced to do something, it works. If i‘m alone, i want to stay on the sofa because of my muscle tension

[@ruthking5350]

My emotional charge is so high. Anger and frustration definitely my main reactions. Its so hard to get out of this cycle 😢 trying to notice and not judge

[@josiejo117]

Cloudy & cold...it's still a beautiful setting & I thank you so much for sharing it with us, especially when you are on your break. Could not resonate with this video topic more! Very kind of you to explain it all so succinctly & methodically. Makes perfect sense. Enjoy the rest of your stay. Love you. Much love to PFY group.💚

[@kathleenwharton2139]

Be Okay..with Not being Okay! 😊❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

I've had to learn to be okay w/ not being ok for decades now. I have that one down pat.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

@@saintejeannedarc9460 Some of us..what Dr. Sarno called perfectionists! Have to learn that! You are fortunate!

[@cf2278]

Sometimes after sitting with the feeling and allowing myself to feel it, I will have a flareup for the next couple days. It seems to be a balance and I must still be thinking the emotion is dangerous in some way.

[@freyahartley8704]

Good one. I watch when the emotions rise and swell and take over, and I see how seductive they are. It's an indulgence, hard to resist its pull. The seductiveness of despair, rage, fear. Interesting how suffering is mostly resistance, as so many teachings say, and also it is vital that we do choose to resist the siren call of indulging strong feelings and dwelling in them. feel them but dont feed them . An ongoing discipline. Thankyou so much for keeping these videos going while on holiday, and I do hope you get plenty of time switched right off....

[@Ladybug501]

Ahh ok. So Dan you are saying that we need to accept both the symptoms and to the rush of emotions that comes in response to the symptoms. Up until now, I’ve been fighting with the emotions that pop up, trying to ignore them or squish them back down, thinking that I was showing my body that I was accepting of the symptoms 😂. Thank you for this clarity ❤

[@PainFreeYou]

We should allow all emotions. Just recognize that ruminating on them all day long will keep the emotions going and is not beneficial.

[@Lutze_en_voyage]

Thanks Dan for another great video 🙏 It reminds me of the buddhist wisdom "suffering = pain x resistance" ...A few years ago I wasn't aware that there are so many forms of resistance which are not beneficial for myself. Fortunately life is a learning process 😊❤

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, we can learn from even the greatest hardships if we are paying attention. :-)

[@Lutze_en_voyage]

@@PainFreeYou Yes indeed 🙂 And this is often times why we are experiencing them..Life shows us if sth. isn't the right path for us.. have a nice day Dan.

[@kathystoner5239]

This was very timely! Im really struggling a lot today with high sensations. I really needed this today!

[@PainFreeYou]

You can do this. High sensations only mean high perceived danger. Calm, confidence, clarity. You are already okay.

[@kathystoner5239]

@@PainFreeYou thanks!

[@d.s2352]

Thanks so much. Really helpful and much appreciated xx

[@marly1869]

Great way to look at it, makes a lot of sense to me, didn’t really think about this way before ☺️👍🏼thanks Dan!

[@PainFreeYou]

You are welcome.

[@elizabethlink2534]

This is so good Dan! Implementing your suggestions is helping me so much:)

[@meganobrien1019]

🙏🙌❤️👌so on point

[@annettekurlemann353]

This is so good Dan. It is so true as I begin to spiral with a sx or a thought and how it all plays together with my emotions, I need to ask myself ,,,, is this helping me ??????? , answer. No it is not. So observe , relax. Chill out. Etc

[@PainFreeYou]

wonderful response.

[@lauralunaazul]

Hi Dan! Yes, it s beautiful, I miss nature.

[@PainFreeYou]

Nature is healing.

[@pramodsharma7284]

Now i control the fear, but anger and frustrtation are still there what i do with these

[@Marie0304]

I struggle with those things also… Especially in the car. No idea why. 😮 I just tend to say bad words at other people but I don’t hand gesture towards them. It bothers me that being in the car is such a trigger for me and other drivers bug me so much. LOL 🙈

[@rajbilla76]

@@Marie0304 do you maybe feel like in the car you can fully express yourself? Letting out those held emotions?

[@Marie0304]

@@rajbilla76 I think so. I say bad words. I don’t hold it in. 🤪

[@rajbilla76]

@@Marie0304 sounds like it’s a safe space for you. Maybe release the words then spray your car with an essential oil like (lavender etc./something that calms you) clearing the air and releasing the energy from your body so to speak. That should help! 💜

[@Marie0304]

About 8 min into this video he says to ask yourself: Am I fueling or soothing the emotional charge that I’m feeling right now? Still important to let whatever emotional charge you’re feeling dissipate on it’s own. Notice it but don’t FUEL it. ❤

[@lennekevanrossum8422]

Hi Dan sending you sun and warm wheather with my special wheather angel 🧚‍♂️so no worries. My emotions going every where anger about Corine being gone sadness because Corine is gone etc. I sit with these emotions and know these emotions are safe. I have a choice how to respond to my symptoms calm breath and dont freak out. My symptoms have never ever been so high brain must be soo scared. It keeps increasing. In tears right now about everything corine pain feeling now why me.. Angry very angry i am stamped with my feet. I am not going to fuel it i am soothing my symptoms and keep mooving foward and keep trusting the process. Love you Dan for making these video even on your holiday soo sweet if you. See you tomorrow 😘😘😘

[@LilyOscar333]

Lenneke wishing you calm and healing ❤️‍🩹 wishes 🌺🌸🙏🌺

[@lennekevanrossum8422]

@@LilyOscar333 love you sweet Lily ❤️😘💕♥️🎈

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Let the river flow, don't dam it. All healing. You are doing great. Wishing you calmness and love x

[@lennekevanrossum8422]

​@@1STBUCKLEY ty flare keeps going up

[@TheVaultwest]

Hugs and love to you. Sending you wishes for calm and peace in your world 🤍🌹🤍

[@tamjase1978]

Hi Dan thankyou again. Can you please explain why we get a delay in symptoms when increasing activity. I mean days after a busy week or so or even a massive day then 2 or 3 days later our symptoms flair. And what we can do to avoid it.

[@PainFreeYou]

This is my take on that. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXnZfpKGg8upqtE

[@ariannesmakman5639]

Dear Dan, i am looking for a way to stop having doubts about my symptoms. Than i can finally do what you are telling us to do🙈 I already alsked you a lot but still feel no convidence🙄 The problem is this. My pppd & eye symptoms started almost at the same time. Pppd after stress& anxiety first. The optometrist said my eyes accommodatie/ divergeren/ convergeren a bit to slow. And she can give me expensive training...she said it is just the collaboration between eyes & brain is a bit too slow. And now..the problem is...i did all you said for pppd...and..it is getting better and better!! But, with my eyes.... i KEEP thinking that it is a problem (after all the optometrist says so? and says i have to do excersises). I get stuck! The thing is, i DONT want to do expensive excersises, when it is the same like pppd or other brain (tms) symptoms! When the brain is not processing well only because of stress/ anxiety/ tired/ scared...than, i should be able to fix this without expensive treatment?! Than i SHOULD be able to just treat it like you say treat all tms symptoms?! The thing is only....because the optometrist SAID it is a brain/ collaboration/ eye PROBLEM...i keep thinking...but maybe this is a REAL problem and i can not fix it by just thinking it is tms.. I am sorry for the long story...i just really hope you can pount me in the right direction! For pppd & other anxiety symptoms you have helped me by your videos and comments so mucg already!!! I am just stuck with this last stupid eye stuff🙈🙈🙈please...your opinion really matters...to me.

[@PainFreeYou]

Simply put, a brain perceiving danger can create issues with eyes. The brain controls everything...including vision. In a recent group coaching program, someone expressed they were having eye issues and two other members said their vision issues got better with this work. You can too. Doctors don't know everything.

[@ariannesmakman5639]

@@PainFreeYou OK...i will try thanks!!!!🥰