5 Plus Size Fashion Rules That Are STUPID and Should be Broken! (You'll Look Frumpy)

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

I’m not plus-sized, but I have friends that are plus-sized that want me to help them with their style. I love videos like yours so I can give good advice for their body shape. A number of “stylists” either recommend baggy, frumpy, shapeless items or clothing that is 3-4 sizes too small for plus-sized women. Your recommendations are very stylish and flattering.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@martinakuckelmann5776]

Please do a Part Two of this. I loved the video ❤

[@CarlaCashOutLoud]

Wonderful, Oralia! I'm a plus sized woman who is very insecure about my body. Thank you for giving me the confidence to break the rules and up my fashion game! - xx, Carla

[@kathydaegling1588]

Hope you are well Carla. Keep posting when you get the time. 😎❤️💄Kathy

[@Oralia_Martinez]

You’ve got this Carla! Hugs, my friend!! ❤️

[@TeamD2012]

I love the line “who the hell made them the boss of u anyways” 🤣. My philosophy has always been: u don’t like the way I look, u don’t hafta look at me…. U ROCK!

[@chelsearose7655]

I am SO tired of hearing people tell apple bodies we shouldn’t wear leggings because it makes our top portion look bigger. I’m so glad you added the tunic or oversized shirt with leggings! That’s one of my favorite things to wear. I don’t know why people say we can’t wear skinny jeans or leggings with tunics because I think it looks super cute. Plus my legs are one of my best assets!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

You go girl, embrace what makes you feel beautiful! 😃🙌🏼

[@debraworth8861]

I love leggings and skinny jeans ❤

[@jbach1841]

@@chelsearose7655 skinny jeans don't look good on anyone, even supermodels

[@chelsearose7655]

@@jbach1841 you know what they say darling. Opinions are like buttholes. Yours, mine, everyone’s. 😉 that’s why we each get to have our own.

[@sunshine3028]

Omg thank you for these fashion tips! I'm reinventing my style and I'm so excited to try new outfits and break these fashion rules!

[@knitgirl.7676]

100%. I am not plus size, but I am very short. I am so tired of people telling others what to wear- no big prints, no maxi dresses, blah blah blah. Ignore all the rules and wear what brings you joy.

[@user-mf3qk9zt3r]

Well said. You looked great in each outfit as you added belts, pumps, etc. It all made perfect sense. Thank you.

[@janmeyer9602]

Gosh I just found your channel. Finally a woman my size and 5 foot! I love your content! Thank you! Back in the day I would tuck my blouses into my dress pants at work. Two women told me I looked awful (size 14 at that time)……I felt so bad. I would never tell someone they looked bad……😵‍💫

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Ugh! How rude. 🤦🏻‍♀️ They were the insecure ones!

[@Pieyummytoo]

You look so great in your different outfits.Nice style.

[@angelinekilborne34]

I'm largest misses or smallest plus. I have felt bad being unable to keep weight off since turning 60. After watching you for 6 months or so I now have the courage to tuck and wear belts. Thank you. I'm also wearing stripes.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Awesome! Keep pushing, it’ll get easier and you’ll really start to embrace your style. 👍🏼💕

[@BethTrombly]

I’m new to your channel and I have enjoyed several of your videos. You look very nice in all of your outfits. I love stripes and so glad to have your advice on how to wear them. Thank you!

[@SewHealthy8]

Re- the belts. All the outfits with belts looked awesome. Particularly the green checked dress 😊

[@donnamclaughlin9215]

I love the black suit with the striped top and spectator shoes. I have shoes like this. I learned a lot of tips for me today. Thank you.

[@janicelloyd3215]

I love your horizontal stripes under a jacket, looks fabulous.❤

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Thanks! It’s a great hack. 😉💕

[@roxannlegg750]

These are good points - I think we get confused between what we look like too ourselves in the mirror vs what we look like from a distance. Belts certainly give shape definition and if theyre co-ordinated with shoes, will change how our overall look comes acreoss to others. Nice video

[@wendylawton8274]

What a gorgeous voice you have.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Thank you!

[@lindashaw4118]

Thank you Oralia! I think you are right-so much of dressing for plus size women is about confidence. Before I was plus size I never gave a thought to following other peoples rules and its taken me a long while to dress to suit my new body as I always feel judged-I'm a big fan of the third piece as I'm now tucking in and wearing belts again but I'm still not ready to show my side view without!! Thank you again xxxxxxx

[@Oralia_Martinez]

That’s ok, you’re taking steps and that’s what matters. 😉💕

[@jenniferofthejungle]

I honestly wear what I want to wear, and I agree with all of these, but I cannot tuck my shirt into my pants. I do wear long shirts at times, and I like the way they look belted rather than tucked.

[@lalathaddeus9425]

I looooovvveee this!!! The black silk skirt + red tank is just *chefs kiss*. I can't believe it took me so long to realise I can do what I want with my outfits rather than follow outdated fashion "rules." thank you for this video!

[@jenikat]

This very video of yours has changed the way I dress forever! ❤

[@TeresaSulpizio-tc9vt]

I tucked my top in for the first time in years. The hubs gave me a thumbs up. I’ll try belts next. Thanks so much. I appreciate you!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Awesome!!

[@cassandrabarzillai-allotey1699]

I absolutely love this! I've also found that Apple and Goblet shaped bodies look great with deeper (not darker) colours up top with lighter colours below. Like, why don't more +size women wear colorful bottoms and shorter hem lengths? We're gorgeous! Thank you for that powerful statement - who made them the boss of you? It's going to stay with me for a long time!!!

[@teresaharral3360]

Excellent video with tips that has helped me step out of my comfort zone. I had a lady comment at a event last week that I really look put together. Thanks so much!!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

That’s so awesome! 🙌🏼

[@taanjia9846]

I am so grateful to find your channel .i am a plus size 5"2 with large hips(a pear shape)and I am over 60 and it is very hard to find bottoms that work for me and I am nervous to wear dresses.

[@pennymcpherson8372]

I’ve started tucking my shirts, my hubs said today he’d like to kiss whoever told me to tuck my shirts! He’s been saying it for years…..he owes you a smooch! Thanks!!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

😆 I'm glad I could help!

[@childofdestiny2811]

I agree with you on all points! And, you look killer in that black spaghetti strap dress!

[@lynettecockburn332]

Really great inspirational video. I'm so Apple shaped now. Thanks

[@marthatassi293]

I just bought that four-pack of belts. Look out, world!

[@mariaojeda5467]

I loved this video! Thank you so much for this much needed video. I felt validated and empowered.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

You're so welcome!

[@elizabethvega7497]

I would like to thank you for helping me not look like a box anymore! You gave me the courage to buy a belt and it’s made all the difference. Also I got rid of all my capris. Thank you!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

That is awesome! I'm so glad to be of help!

[@deloresakins733]

Thank you! Plus size and you helped solidify some of my choices. I love nice clothes and had to upsize recently due to a change in weight and shape. I can’t wait to watch more of your videos. You looked so nice in all your out fits. And I subscribed to your channel.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Glad I could help! And welcome! 👋🏼

[@jkk7172]

5:49. Belt makes a hug difference.. I love the belts on you ❤

[@katrinawilkins-rf9pv]

Thank you for your videos! I love this one and your hauls. I am not able to wear heels due to an accident so I always feel frumpy with flats.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Flats are awesome (if you find the right ones). Stay tuned, I’ve got some shoe content coming where I talk about flats. 😉

[@katrinawilkins-rf9pv]

@@Oralia_Martinez thank you!!

[@lindastevens6861]

You look good Nice that you show what the shape is before and after Changing it It’s true we don’t need to change the wardrobe We need to change how it falls on the body And shapes our body

[@Oralia_Martinez]

I'm so glad you enjoyed it!

[@ensakable8412]

I'm not sure if you'll respond but I'm helping my mom with fashion and whatnot, I'm a guy so I don't know much about women clothes, but I've done some research and got some decent bottoms for her (not sure about the tops though I'm a bit lost). That belt idea you had opened a whole new part of my mind lol, thanks for the idea. (also where you get the belts from)

[@laurasebakijje9008]

You look very put together wonderful

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Thank you! 🙈💕

[@lynneclark5313]

This is my first time on your channel and I'm impressed! I am under 5' tall and wear dresses all the time. I find I act, what to me is too manly when I wear pants. I usually wear muumuus because I don't have to do any planning with them. I am retired and don't go out much [too people out there]. Also, I mostly wear prints because I am too lazy to hang the dress up when I take it off and wrinkles are harder to see in a print. I like the idea of belts, but I wonder if one would go with a muumuu?

[@janicelloyd3215]

You are right about the belt, I need to work on that. Thanks❤

[@Oralia_Martinez]

It took time for me to get used to as well but I’m glad I tried it. 😉💕

[@jocelynrobinson8980]

Love your confidence, and you look great with the belts!

[@michaelatomasch1792]

I´m sooooo happy 🙂to find a stylist who is plus size on herself!!! Great video!!! Can you answer me this QUESTION, please: Does the french tuck only works with very wide leg pants? How do you style skinny or straight leg pants/jeans?

[@Oralia_Martinez]

The same, it helps when you gather the fabric like I demonstrated, that way it doesn’t bunch up too much.😉💕

[@marymahl4684]

Great tips. Love your videos! Thanks!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

So glad you’re enjoying it! 😃💕

[@whithehearthro]

I can’t believe I just found you. I have been wanting this kind of style and I love the way you give information.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Welcome! 👋🏼 I’m so glad you’re enjoying my videos.

[@marthalrodriguez.2209]

I’m so tired of people telling me I should not wear capris I love capris instead of shorts. So I’m going to buy a little 2 inch heel shoes and maybe it will look better. I’ll let you know

[@Oralia_Martinez]

You're in luck, they're coming back in style! And the way you're considering styling them is spot on (a pair of cap toe flats would also look really cute)! 😉

[@Tootsie806]

I’ve discovered kitten heels with, not just capris, but also the “high water “ pants. My short legs look much better and it gives a polished city girl look.

[@jamesbriggs5740]

I have short wide feet and also can't wear heels anymore. I definitely don't like pointy toes. I find a contrasting belt divides me in half at the widest point. Kathy B

[@labradorite8256]

Shoes are tough. Hobbling is not attractive, never mind painful! My feet are wide and the toes tend to hang over in heeled sandals. I have flats with a pointy toe, and some loafers that can be worn with dresses that have some bling on them. It's going to have to do. Maybe stick with a narrow tonal belt to get the effect with out the chop!

[@lindaberg1695]

Lots of good tips here! thanks!!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

You’re welcome and thanks for watching! 😃💕

[@stephanieb1196]

Hello Oralia, I just started watching your videos and am loving your tips! I am about 5”7” and have always been a size 10 or medium. But in my sixties I find I my shoulders are the same but my bust and belly require a size 12 or large now. So finding the right fit as become a challenge. I found you looking for belt tips and see you’ve many tips o help me. I would like to buy one belt to start and thought the obi was a bit pricey for me right now. But I will consider it based on your recommendation of which belt style to start with, have you a suggestion? Stephanie

[@Oralia_Martinez]

I think an obi belt is a great place to start, it’s where I started. It’s flexible in size and can be styled many ways. Hope that helps! 😉💕

[@shannonsalo1932]

I enjoyed your video so much! Some great styling here! I notice that your cloths fit you perfectly. Do you have them tailored? And thank you for not wearing cloths that are too small and tight. A mistake some of us make too often. Keep up the great work!

[@gtcteach]

You look amazing in all these outfits! They look great!

[@mjdsouthsf]

LOVE THE WHITE LINEN DRESSS W/ V-NECK❤

[@joycemorrow5840]

Love this video. Your explanation of breaking the rules has definitely boosted my confidence,especially in wearing belts. I also purchased that obi belt. Can you share the brand of the blazer you styled with the belt in the back? Gorgeous.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Sadly its a shop my closet blazer. It’s CAbi and it’s no longer available. You may want to check Poshmark for it. 🤔💕

[@njohnston1224]

lovely style and looking so good on .I agree with you ....bigger ladies can look fantastic.. love belts ..😊 the green check dress gorgeous on you ❤❤❤

[@DinNDee]

this is extremely helpful!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

I'm so glad!

[@antigoga9476]

Great video, thanks for sharing all these tips. As I am struggling in finding a wide leg pant can you please advise from where did you buy the black pant ? Thank you once again for all the helpful infos.

[@csmtcqueen]

Thank you for these great tips.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

You’re welcome, so glad you enjoyed it!

[@sharonmulloy2181]

I finally found a belt I like and have been wearing it, but I hate tucked shirts on me, just won't wear them. I have a long torso and very high waist and find it difficult to find well fitting pants anyway, so i rarely wear them

[@HR-re6mr]

Love this! You look AHMAZING

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Thank you!

[@barbaraurban9824]

I posted yesterday but had another thought.Both Talbots and QVC offer tops/ blouses that have structure, giving you a defined waist. I see that as a possible compromise between tucked in and overblouse.

[@marianeculek3261]

I just can't get into a French tuck. I sometimes will use a belt loop to bring my shirt through instead of a ponytailer. Use wider belts?

[@_tardigrade]

Great video 🌞

[@maureenjohnston6578]

You were spot on with this video. Thank you. 😊

[@Oralia_Martinez]

So glad you enjoyed it! 😃💕

[@katiehettinger7857]

As a short wasted woman, my smallest part is literally under my bust. And at my age my tummy forms an apron. I wish I was tall and long wasted like you. 🙁🤷

[@teresamcqueen2684]

I just love your style!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Aww, thank you! 🙈💕

[@gtcteach]

I need help about shorts and capris and what to.wear In Summer /Fall with big tummy

[@sandeerawson1248]

I like the idea of having a stiffer fabric that skims the body. I love that look on you and plan to try it myself. Also wondering if you you are still using your obi belts? I bought two and don’t use them as much as I should. LOVE your Valentino belt!!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Thanks! I need to bring my obi belts into my dressing room because they’ve been a bit out of sight out of mind…

[@mikebohling4305]

love this video Oralia/love these outfits/your taste is so wonderful/love your videos XXX

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Thank you!

[@nedafurunovic5204]

These are great tips not just for plus sizes but for everyone. Thank you very much ❤️

[@karenprinz5987]

I’ve always been afraid of belts! Maybe I’ll give one a whirl this year!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Get an inexpensive one and, if you’re struggling, wear it at home first to get used to the way it looks. 😉💕

[@debrabessette2699]

A great video!. While some rules work, sometimes they don't.

[@langgalyn]

Hello Oralia, can u show how to style a denim maxi skirt or the one that has a slit on the front. I always look in your vidoes for tips and ideas.

[@lialupo3306]

I like your Suggestions and ideas. Thanks a lot you are the best 🌺🌹💥💥💥💥

[@Oralia_Martinez]

You are welcome 😊

[@sherrianderson6558]

I love the tips. For me the French tuck I just don't like though, respectfully. I'll definitely try belts.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

👍🏼

[@MagellanMG]

Thank you ! and OMG that Blue plaid blazer!!!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

You are so welcome!

[@lindabenson1237]

God Bless you O everyone should do what feels good to them especially us seasoned divas.❤❤❤

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Right on! 🙌🏼

[@SUNSHINE-dm3le]

Loved 🥰 your video … my problem is I can’t wear heels 👠 anymore… I have bad arthritis and a little wobbly when I walk … always feel frumpy when wearing flats with everything 😢any suggestions?

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Have you considered a low block heel (less that 2 inches)? They're very stable and look really chic.

[@labradorite8256]

I've gone for loafers with silver patterns. They're blingy but not too over the top. They don't necessarily give me the longer leg but at least they look young and fresh but are still wearable, and they can be worn with dresses. I also have some birkenstocks with silver straps, for that casual dressy look. I don't know if the trainer with dresses moment has passed, but I loved it.

[@sarieklund2148]

Lots of good ideas 🌼

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Yay! So glad you enjoyed it! 😃💕

[@gerhildkähs]

Yes yes and yes!! A big lady can also look fantastic like a size small or medium! Oftrn the dresses are like tents. But tents are for camping not for clothing😂😂

[@pamelakenny4950]

I am new to your channel and I love your style. Where did you get the black toe slippers.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Thank you and welcome! 👋🏼 They are from The Drop on Amazon. I’m dropping the link here: rstyle.me/cz-n/fcqmkrcvp97. I’ve had them for a couple of years and they’re still going strong! 😉💕

[@kidges3132]

Great tips! Thanks

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Glad it was helpful!

[@kerrinparris2752]

Could you link the outfits for those of who want to shop?

[@pepperbuster65]

I like a tapered long sleeves shirt out. I feel better when it's from fitted.

[@jamesbriggs5740]

Why is looking taller so important? I love being short. I feel you should embrace who you are. Kathy B P. S. Why the contrasting belts? When I wear a belt it's usually a blending or same color.

[@debraworth8861]

Thankyou so much, I love wide leg pants but thought I was too short (5’) just found out you are 5’ and looking fab, I think I am going shopping 🎉🎉🎉

[@lch2420]

I can’t wear any type of heels whatsoever because of knee and ankle issues any suggestions 🙂

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

Can you wear wedge shoes or block heels? Wedge shoes and block heels give you the height as well as the stability.

[@janicelloyd3215]

I love the black you are wearing, I wear a lot of black. Linen in summer. ❤😊

[@Oralia_Martinez]

I especially love black in summer for some reason. 😆💕

[@evelynhinman3192]

I like the look of a belt. I have been looking for a belt for a plus size woman. When I do find larger sized belts they do not make them in a 3x size.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

I've actually found one on Amazon that might work, and it's reversible! bit.ly/3PRpi3f

[@lynnettewooden4933]

I love the blazer

[@barbmckee1938]

Great video! I am terrified to tuck in and wear a belt!

[@Oralia_Martinez]

Try it out at home for a bit, to get used to it. 😉

[@janesullivan3230]

A sales person tried to put a belt on me and I broke into tears. Imagine putting a belt on a watermelon.

[@itsmoi55]

💃You go girl👍🏼

[@barbaraurban9824]

I'm 5'7", EE bra size and short waisted!!! Size 20/22. This makes for a bizarre torso .MY navel is 2-3 inches below my waist.i don't have much territory to work with when tucking in a top. A belt will come almost to my "girls". I have this bizarre spare tire below my waist that looks like a shelf. I has this shelf even when I was thin. I think it is related to being short waisted. I did enjoy your tips here,especially blazers and jackets.They have been a godsend,covering my quirks. I look forward to other posts.

[@chrisgreek4285]

Hello Oralia! I just found your channel….. where have you been all my adult life? I am 5’2” tall and a true apple shape due to a large ‘apron’ in front. I also am in a wheelchair most of the time. I usually leave my shirts untucked on wheels because when I don’t, it looks like my waist is just at the bust line. I know that I am short-waited, but when I am sitting, I look like I have no torso. My large bust on top of the apron makes me really self-conscious which is why I leave it untucked. I did just buy a little denim jacket in a cute collarless and cropped style - not the “trucker style” - and it is looking awesome on me. I have a white linen dress that I ordered from France that I am wearing to my 40th anniversary this summer. I don’t know what the style is, but it reminds me of a more adult version of baby’s dresses, where it is very flowy and if I could twirl I am sure it would go straight out. 😁 It technically is a mini dress, but with my shorter stature and sitting most of the time, it does cover my knees. The top is like a button up shirt until below the armpits. Is there a way to style this to elevate it a bit more? I love the coolness of the white linen as it should be quite hot and humid in Nova Scotia in August, but feel like it’s a little plain. I am planning on wearing some pretty flats or sandals with it. Do you have any suggestions?

[@janicelloyd3215]

I am old and my weight might not change but my shape does, I call it shape shifting. So the waist of my pants might get loose and it’s time for a belt.

[@Oralia_Martinez]

😆

[@lynnettewooden4933]

Whats a kitten heel

[@bettyhappschatt3467]

I enjoy your channel very much, you explain things so well and you are so supportive.

[@GabrieleAnna]

That was helpful and I really feel encouraged to tuck in my shirts- but: I am more than insecure about my thighs! Do you really think your advice applies to tall (5‘10 ft.) slightly pear shaped women too? I most certainly wish but I’m afraid too….

[@flufwix]

I haven’t worn a tucked in shirt or belt for decades. Do I have the courage? 🤫

[@ianthafolkman9206]

Where are your favorite places to shop?

[@Oralia_Martinez]

I have a list longer than my arm. 😆 I guess if I had to narrow it to my top 3 - Walmart, H&M, and Banana Republic.

[@gtcteach]

Please tell me where to find your “ like to know, “app or site!!

[@leandrahackwith3168]

It seems like all the plus size bloggers are petite apples or pears . I am tall, busty, and thick waisted. Many of the rules don't work for me.

[@Tia-vj9ox]

Thank you for dissing all those rules I’ve lived with for 60 years!❤

[@katarina5651]

My problem is that I have no smallest part of my body I am fully round :D When I wear belt it always rides up under by boobs and thenit looks totally horrible