5 REASONS EVERYONE KEEPS TESTING THE INFJ

[@Wenzes]

Do you feel like people keep testing you in particular more often than others?

[@jessmason2112]

They are constantly looking for weak spots.

[@Pilot333]

It happened a lot when i was younger. The ‘poking’ to evoke a reaction from me. Very uncomfortable. The more I know myself the less it happens. Im way more the director of my life although not completely there yet. But I have been an absolute mystery to many haha.

[@jessmason2112]

@@Pilot333 Till they get what they want. Then they like to paint that situation black. I'll be honest here. You keep fxxxing with me it's not going to turn out well for them. Not to say I'm going to do something stupid. It's rather the opposite. Hiring an attorney or making a visit to the federal building and say here look at all this BS.

[@naturelover1284]

@@benjamindevoe8596 ya it can be a reminder of who you are inside and to care for in the jungle of repeat

[@francisjudge]

Oof! Tested almost daily in 2020 / 2021 during the alleged public health emergency. The self appointed mask enforcers were fanatically vigilant. Then it was the "have you been vaccinated?" folks. Now, thankfully, not so much.

[@deborahwolff5651]

I hate this! These people are worth staying away from. I think it is a form of jealousy because we make them feel uncomfortable.

[@Tified967]

Perhaps but this isn't applicable to the cognitive INFJ but rather the ISFP

[@SSBakes]

100% hate it too, and agree, it absolutely is an expression of jealousy. I've noticed it specifically with (unfortunately) the insecure and very unhealthy XNFP types... especially when they're in positions of authority-- wow do they get super triggered and insecure by our authenticity and honesty... their mask begins to slip and they're enraged by us being comfortable with ourselves and not performing our lives, like they do.

[@AL-dy1lj]

My dream is to stay incognito … I don’t like people meddling in my business. People have no proper boundaries and it’s taken years (decades) to not be reactionary for their amusement.

[@irodirod4679]

If the INFJ experience were a story, then Wenzes would be the narrator. She is so remarkably spot on.

[@lindateuling7862]

Very true. Very VERY true

[@Tified967]

Wenzes is a cognitive ISFP. Cognitive INFJs are abstract rationalists with convergent Ni-Ti whereas Wenzes is clearly an Fi-Ni convergent

[@elkape1841]

Sorry but... Why do you dont write down your own experiences? Trust me, people may not stop reading you, and if someone doesnt read those stories, trust me they will be burning from inside if you are writting about them!! You know you are good writting... just go ahead and make a system collapse!

[@irodirod4679]

@@elkape1841 🤔👍

[@HaleyMary]

So true! She gets the experience right every time!

[@ilaly6391]

I'm silently chuckling by myself at the "in ten years, I'll be aware I was being tested". Speaking about our lives in matters of decades, so casually, seems to be something we do. People laugh at me when I tell them I hope to have whatever thing achieved within ten or twenty years from now. "Woah, you're really not in a hurry, are you." They just don't have the same way to deal with time. They cannot project correctly and make big realistic pictures. Always in a rush, always trying to be the early prodigy, slaves to the cult of young age, all while burning their youth with poisonous food and noise. They can't see their lives slipping out their fingers, so busy they are reacting to the insignificant, the lies, the fears, the appearances.

[@HoshPak]

Ahahaha, I'm getting a much different reaction from my superiors. Whenever I tell them about the clear goals I have in 5-10 years from now during the annual Interview they just look at me in disbelief, following up by questioning how I plan to achieve that goal exactly. What they want me to do instead is tell them about my goals for the next year and the next year only which I just cannot do because I haven't figured it out up to that point. What I have is a clear ambition and the drive to reach it and the journey towards it is to be figured out along the way... Which btw. is something they keep hammering into my head because on the other side they can't stand the rigidity of my over-analytical thinking. Always having a good time upsetting people by feeding them their own nonsense.

[@NightMystique13]

I recently tried to “get real” with my mom (77) lately but she just gets defensive. It’s sad that I can’t reach her. The depth of character is just not there. She’s a covert narcissist.

[@IntalenTed]

Not alone brother🦋

[@Groovytunes96]

Same as my mother.

[@Mo0shii]

i dont my mom is a npd but also as victim, but copied tendacies, i never go deep conversation with her, it is what it is.

[@amadorcortinas2749]

I have extreme anxiety as an INFJ but I will say nobody will ever know until I open up about it.

[@SuperBlobsterMan]

maybe your neighbor might know

[@makehaste6619]

@@SuperBlobsterManhow’s that? 😂

[@ceciliagarcia947]

Oh my goodness, Yes! constantly. It makes me feel bad and upset as if they think I am stupid. I am a bit more shy than normal I think. Unfortunately It is usually narcissist. I don't give in, that's ok, let him think I am stupid. Too bad for them they didn't get a chance to really know me.

[@SD-rm5ty]

My therapist and everyone at the therapy office they must be communal narcissists that keep trying to test me but I'm done. 👍

[@allenarrows9347]

"Know Thyself First" Once I got that simple advice 2 years ago, almost everything fell into place

[@Cip_0]

Here I am, alone,, outside at 11 pm, looking/observing how all the other people laugh and interact with one another... And I feel so alone... Not disconnected with everyone else, but somewhat craving that genuine connection everyone else seems to have. Sorry for rambling, I guess I'm just tired of being/feeling so lonely... Thank you, Wenzes! You are a true inspiration and a real model of a healthy INFJ

[@Indiaelder]

Same

[@Tified967]

She's actually a cognitive ISFP😊

[@gypsylee73]

She's probably a narcissist 😂 I'm joking but who really knows. My epic life is to just be comfortable and free of narcs/society. My body is in ruins (I'm almost 50) and I just have to get away from it all.

[@elizabethmershon52]

I just have to say that for me God is the center of my universe and He creates the life I have.

[@infjmale91]

It's because we share the same personality of Jesus. What did Jesus have to do? Resist the temptations of the devil.

[@NightMystique13]

Shut up about Christianity already. This isn’t a religious channel.

[@elkape1841]

So... Why are you dont exploding lies over the face of liar people? The first stone (1st of Peter) "Because this is God 's will: that doing the correct thing, having you making mouth closed of foolish men" And sorry... This time is your turn!! Now, go ahead and do the same against liars.

[@infjmale91]

@@elkape1841 Hmm. I don't know if English is your first language so not 100% sure what you are referring to. I do, especially, make a habit of taking out narcissists. That's why I don't have many friends because most people are.

[@elkape1841]

@@infjmale91 Is really my english so enough horrible to not been understanded? Really do it matters if someone wanna speak to you? More than that... ¿What kind of INFJ are you are, that evade a direct question to push you to explain yourself? Meaning, what do makes you really similar to Jesus? Is supposed that INFJ are real experts about concepts, and having you answering "I do have few friends", when I ask you "Why do you are not doing the same as Jesus if you think that you are INFJ?" Because... sorry but the answer that you said doesnt match to the question... long far!! ¿Where is your natural logical understanding of concepts? More... ¿Why do you think the most important thing that Jesus do is to JUST resist temptacions? ¿are you serious about that? Its supposed that real INFJ really have the ability to match purposes of any people, even another infjs! And you said his purpose is to just resist temptations... Sorry but now im thinking that you are not a real INFJ. But, no matter wich personality type you real are, the question is still up: ¿Why are you not doing the same as Jesus? Sword means "Tongue", and any tongue must be double sided, if you got it: Mat10:34-36 Not Peace, but Division "34 “Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword! 35 I came to turn ‘a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. 36 A person’s enemies will include members of his own family." -Then: I invite you to DO as same as Jesus, if you mention him. But if you mention him just for vanity... ¿How I may trust you fighting narcissists, if you incurrs over the same concept you are supposed to fight? Doesnt matter if you are not an INFJ... please really take action now, and Jesus purpose is not to been sit over there around just "resisting temptacions"! Because for some reason its written "rested people counts as same as brave men to spill blood" So, if you pretend to just "resist temptacions"... Sorry but that means you are incurring over a real big sin!!

[@matilda4406]

@@elkape1841 hmm, Jesus never exploded over ppl

[@thirstonhowellthebird]

I think every human knows the right way to treat others. People know when they are being cruel or gaslighting or doing darvo. When I get tested I continue to be kind and calm but when it continues I door slam with zero warning. It takes months or years to get to this place but once I recognize the beginning of the testing game, I pull my heart out of it. I always hope I’m over thinking or being dramatic or too sensitive so I continue to try and try until I’ve had enough. Speaking up is pointless and what they want. It makes them feel power. People who are cruel or gamy won’t suddenly change that behavior.

[@robinconnelly6079]

This is all very interesting. I have always wondered why people seem to pick on me. I have become aware over the years that i am very different from people around me. This is very helpful info

[@lorentaidhg8534]

Testing or teasing.... early years. I was waaaaay ahead of my peers in elementary. Twice I was up for skipping a grade. Pop said NO! And I'm forever grateful. By high school all that stuff faded away. One bully ended up in a way he didn't expect. Test subject no longer. But the "me" has never changed. INFJs rule by who we are.

[@victoriabrand2777]

thank you for your help Wenzes. I had to door slam to get peace.

[@lindateuling7862]

I think #5 sums it up well - they - (the ones who are doing the "testing") aren't used to being tested in that particular way - "that way" being that we're not easily triggered, our ability to be calm, as well as our "mirror" capacity. It certainly can be mysterious. I also believe that when we play a role that is us ( as you mentioned when describing #3) it also seems mysterious because a lot of people simply don't do it . Furthermore, acting out "being us" usually means we do things in a different way from the other person. In my experience, that's probably the one thing I've been "tested" for most. I also have a hunch that our tendency to be the "introvert most likely to be mistaken for an extrovert " can also cause a lot of people to "test" us as well. That could be a major factor in our being like reason #1 - mysterious.

[@FaithPetrov]

God Bless you sister, Wenzes. I am learning A LOT from you. Once I get more money, I will contribute to your channel🙏🌹 God Bless you. As an Infj, today, I had a storm in the face of a government employee here in Canada. To get the required document, I had to provide my proof of citizenship card and a rental ( residency) agreement. I politely approached the employee with a smile, told her that I have prepared all the needed documents to get the other, simple document. She looked at me in disgust, and threw my papers saying, we may not accept those. That is when I YELLED, in front of twenty government employees, and fifty citizens, telling her, I want to see your supervisor right now. Right now. Meanwhile, she kept talking to her co worker in a non English language and they were both laughing. The supervisor overheard me, came rushing. I told her, please help me, here are the requirements for your office. She processed my application within ten minutes. To those who underestimate INFJs, we are kind, believers in the Lord, and polite, but once you try to test us, you are walking on glass!.

[@Lola-mt1ne]

This phenomenon has bugged me my entire life. Sometimes I want to say " Leave me alone".

[@jonnybright9220]

Cuz its our design :D We can handle their energy, We can filter it out! Its our cellular God purpose !!! TO filter energy !!

[@jasmin1773]

The typical "testers" are the ESTP and the ENTP😅.

[@naturelover1284]

oh how do we spot them , or what are some mantras to repeat and have ready for them...I feel sick and I think they like it

[@saraIJL]

Yeees and why haha

[@professorchaos9]

ESTP's and ISTP's will envy your Ni and your Fe. They possess them in inferior functions. I would argue that the INFJ doesn't envy the ESTP's Se or Ti, but can definitely admire it. My theory is that the INFJ is the least envious type while being the most envied.

[@professorchaos9]

@@naturelover1284 Awareness is your power.

[@naturelover1284]

@@professorchaos9 I sense it is envy but caution myself on that, still it is difficult to have empathy for it seems to involve self degradation or joining the vacuous atmosphere, it is most often as a new comer on a job, so they withhold info however illegal

[@ruthbates9549]

You can help people, but never let them know your address!

[@kingjae1498]

1. Stupid 2. stupid 3. Arrogance 4. Ego 5. See steps 1-2

[@learner8509]

How about you? Smart, pure and egoless?

[@numerologicatarot3333]

Lol

[@danika9448]

Thank you Wenzes. You help us advocate for ourselves. The topics of your videos are always aligned with what I’m facing. Thank you! 🫶🏼

[@kencornwell]

Just get out there and learn. You will develop over years and be better for it.

[@naturelover1284]

I am at peace and happy and noninvasive, they have to disturb it and plant negative seeds. I am never ready for it or I eyeroll, here it is again. It is usually a grown woman over 50 with her crass way of viewing life and getting by.

[@Pilot333]

What does that mean! “Crass way of looking at life”?

[@dwhat6088]

I'm going to assume it means years and years of disappointment to the point that person doesn't see the forest for the trees. Jaded, miserable and unhappy with how life has turned out for them. Correct me if I'm wrong.

[@MetaTron3693]

Nice job💜crass meaning brass 💜⭐️💜

[@naturelover1284]

gross sense” and “having or indicating such grossness of mind as precludes delicacy and discrimination” 3.@@Pilot333

[@wyldfaeth]

I'm an INFJ, but sometimes I don't feel like it. I do get triggered by the way people are, and I usually have this desire to speak up and provide my point of view. I haven't always done this, but over the years I became more vocal on my analytical views. It hasn't been easy and I have indeed encountered both positive and negative situations because of it. I'm often hard on myself because of my analytical thoughts, and sometimes wonder if there is something wrong with me.

[@ilaly6391]

Don't worry, I'm super triggered about the way people are too. It's just the futilities, the frivolities, the nonsense I don't care about. Criticizing whoever came to work with a too shiny or too eccentric pair of shoes, for example. But when it comes to throwing your cigarettes on the ground or polluting, being unfair or unclear about a rule, being a hypocrite and hurting an unaware individual, wasting people's time through unadequate schedules, lying - I am super, SUPER triggered and it takes all my will to shut up about it.

[@SSBakes]

Seems like we're all actually a lot more triggered than the video leads us to believe... I suspect that we're less triggered when we're kids, as INFJs, which I agree with. I was very, very, hard to trigger and get an emotional reaction out of until my late teens, when I started experiencing trauma. I'm sure there's a correlation between trauma/CPTSD and how triggered and emotional an INFJ is prone to getting.

[@wyldfaeth]

@@ilaly6391 I empathize so much, your triggers sound similar to my own, and the intensity that comes with it! Hugs & Well wishes!

[@wyldfaeth]

@@SSBakes I have thought this as well, and begun asking other INFJs I meet if they've experienced trauma; trying to gauge myself the frequency of INFJs with or without trauma and their temperaments and internal processing before and after traumatic events. And if they haven't experienced trauma, have they observed anything interesting from their POV about INFJs, then comparing all information together. It's very intriguing.

[@debbiemetke5938]

I have often wondered why people like to tease or pick on me at work, etc. and I think this explains it. I wish I would have had access to lots of this INFJ info years ago.

[@303machine]

Keep testing, poking, triggering, you will get door slam.

[@swavy653]

I don’t know why but people often find it funny to cross my boundaries, maybe they want to see how I react? Maybe they want to know how I deal with the situation? I don’t know

[@Angel-gb9gi]

We get hurt we go home and cry and then we go to work trying to learn how to rise above it. It's always work to come up with solutions for the problems thrown at us from people. It's like problems are thrown at us and we make steps put of them and we will eventually reach heaven ..lol I don't know how many times I've been crushed by people and yes I have to let my spirit grieve but then it's time to overcome and get past the painful experience and to never let it happen again. We learn so much from the painful experiences and I think our perfectionist comes from past experiences where we were mad fun of or scolded. I feel like I have to perfect everything to be safe from another painful experience. I can't let my guard down just a little. It's exhausting.

[@lancelotdufrane]

Being tested. Exhausting. Thankfully we can exit, regroup and recharge. I don’t NEED others.

[@lynnejames2806]

Thank you for sharing this. I have wondered my whole life why especially co-workers test me…..now I know and can recognize what’s going on. Thanks.

[@jillijewel8922]

I am really learning a lot from all these videos, thank you so much for confirming what I am so confused of for so many years now. As an infj I just want to understand the situation to know whether it's worth it to take care of it and still be in that reality or whether it's ttime to let it go. Even if only mentally

[@rachaeldjordjevic5415]

So over people, people just ain't no good

[@jerome6572]

Wenze's I agree with your statements!!!Wenze's I love your brains and beauty.Jerome❤❤❤

[@AkChiVibes]

Happens constantly.

[@R.S-1986]

There are mainly two types of tests: 1.People will test your limits and step over your boundaries. 2.Normal male/female opposite gender testing called "Sh1T tests", these are not done out of hostility as opposed to number 1. Please make sure you do not mix between the two as it is normal for potential mates to test each other. Don't gaslight yourself. ❤

[@NightMystique13]

Why can’t people try being open and honest with each other? This bs going on out there is horrifying.

[@R.S-1986]

@NightMystique13 Not everyone is an infj, people hold different thinking patterns. Focus on your goals, You'll be happier 👍.

[@sunflowerpower642]

Shit testing is evil. It is a presumed holier than though assumption to reassure yourself where you cannot be forever reassured. It’s a lack of internal self reliance and self esteem. If some wrongs you at day 2 or year 2 or 20 you should seek strength to proceed as necessary. It’s just that you have a bad temper so you reduce your potential rage on others and call it peace keeping. Jesus tolerated everyone

[@garystapel1165]

Another ringer,,,,, Thanks Wenzes

[@meditationamsterdam]

The other possibility is that INFJs are supposed to be the funnels of the universe. So hollowing out is fine as long as the container does not collapse. I have no grand vision, places to go or things to do. Receptivity is our superpower, the matter is to do it while preserving integrity.

[@SSBakes]

This is a fascinating perspective. I've never been "super" ambitious or had the desire to travel like crazy, or attain a ton of wealth at a younger age... and this perspective sheds light on that for me. Thanks for sharing.

[@ruthhenderson9205]

You are helping me so much Wenzes. Thank you 🙏

[@agatheniel1748]

You're SO GOOD!!!!!!!!!

[@luciana1930]

everything seems to make sense now, thank you

[@kelleyloreth300]

Wow, I needed this SOOOOO much. Thank you 🙏 ❤

[@zeratul600]

Since 2001 I learned from the US goverment the benefits of preemptive war... So I kinda learned to pre-doorslam people, and even when I see people being mistreated in so many contexts, most of the time I'm really well treated, maybe because I'm quite clear about how aggressive/decisive I can be in dealing with issues... to be honest I do wonder if im just a really lucky person or what, cause I don't remember much the last time I felt disrespected and just shied away / back down from the situation

[@naturelover1284]

pre door slam, ya! or practice sticking up for another, like

[@kencornwell]

Pre-doorslam that's a good one. Being so empathetic causes me to see the good that never shows up and the door slam comes at the end, never early. The others never get to the point of even trying. INFJ

[@lisabrightly]

Great insight, as always.

[@corporaterobotslave400]

When somone starts testing by saying offensive things... respond with: "Have you ever had plastic surgery? Because if you keep it up I'm going to give you that opportunity."

[@czito]

❤ Great video.

[@jillijewel8922]

The moment I started making them realize that I have a life of my own and I choose my reality for once in 3 decades, they trigger me every chance they can. It's so exhausting tbh...

[@user-xs5pi6vw1o]

what gets me about this behavior is the fact that full able bodied adults reduce themselves to imbecile levels and then in some distorted way think they have some level of respect or social status because bullying and invading other people's privacy is attractive. pfff. yeah right. i have people doing this and my thought remains - who created this human? why did they think it was a good idea?

[@BestBFam]

Thank you Wenzes.

[@Onmytree]

No really agree with 2 actually for me it's both, It triggered me and at the same time i try to understandm but true that most of the time it doesn't bother me

[@kelleyloreth300]

...If it's the maintenence man at your apartment, if it's ..... 😖😂

[@noreenebostick9593]

It allows the INFJ to be aware of emotions and actions that exist in the world. The INFJ can use it or not.

[@super-intelligentastrology3572]

I think this puts me into a downward spiral in marketing

[@allahbakhsh6203]

Evil smiles

[@icalotdonthide2646]

So..asking is just out the question??

[@stephenfegely]

Amen 🙏🏻

[@annsjoholm7310]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@Jessica03998]

Not when you are provoked to long

[@melancholiusmonkey-mann5749]

Wenzes, I feel you. The last few videos I feel something shifting in your spirit. Perhaps you are exhausted, love.. in need of rest and rejuvenation. Perhaps you, judging by the nature of some elements commenting on your channel, these watchers, the many... perhaps they too draw in near to you, and perhaps like me they tear at your flesh. They bypass our defenses using the only vector possible...empathy. We mistake their intent wanting to see signs of life where there is only void... ... They are so far away unreachable by us... Interdimentionally trapped. It's like our words filled with pure and noble intent fall upon them as a shout echoing through a great empty hall...word thst can't land upon fleshy understanding, and can't be received by organic wisdom... These elements only intend to dim your light. To leech off your energy.. And although i enjoy seeing your beautiful face I see the exhaustion. Perhaps you need a little break. I wish for you all the best

[@Tified967]

Not really I'm simply here to educate not put people down. Wenzes produces perfectly good content albeit aimed at ISFPs not cognitive INFJs. If we want to take typology out of the realm of pseudoscience then people respectfully must type themselves correctly instead of spreading information based upon behavioural stereotypes. ISFPs are of course an equally wonderful type

[@missbealovesalbert8353]

People have taught me to hate people. I just tell them exactly what they are doing- after they ramble and test- then I leave. I don't give a flying $%#@ what they think or say.

[@samuelwallace7004]

❤

[@phuocang5988]

Hi Wenzes, i'm a vietnamese. I'm an INFJ too..Can you help me??..

[@Cesar-vw6po]

okokokok

[@cleopetraducic4301]

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[@kellygreco3379]

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[@SamsonPavlov]

❤️💪🪄

[@ChaoticAnswers]

True empathy is exothermic. You give away more energy to the environment due to an internal reaction. Endothermic creatures need the external environment to give internal energy Like cold blooded animals.

[@shhhhus]

#6 #amendment #keeps #coming up¡¿

[@MatikoxPL]

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