5 RULES I LIVE BY AS AN INFJ

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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Discover the five life-changing rules I live by as an INFJ. A decade ago, my world was shaken, and I realized it was time to break free from self-destruction. In that pivotal moment, I embarked on a journey of writing and creating this channel. I knew that if I wanted to escape that pain forever, I had to embrace new experiences. It wasn't just about changing my own perspective, but also about sharing this vital message. The KZbin INFJ community was stuck in a mindset of victimhood, and I knew we needed more. It's not enough to understand why we feel this way; we must take action. Join me in transforming our lives and finding true understanding.
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[@Wenzes]

What rules have you learned are essential for you to follow in order to live a fulfilling life?

[@nourfattouh6547]

Be ur self it's ok to be different and weird Respect others opinion ur not always right Trust ur instincts Ur human no one is perfect for ur best

[@DearYoungerSelf111]

Essential Rule 1: Self-Development (I crave it 😊) - Essential 2: Self-Expression - Essential 3: Adding Value to My Environment (thank God Wenzes teaches us to fulfill this need in a healthy way)

[@MegaCyberleader]

Seems like the Angrier I intitally seem at people, the more often Im left alone and respected. In fact. People seem to try a little harder when approaching me knowing full well ASKING me for ANYTHING has a cost of , what the fk do you want now?!. If they are somehow insulted by that, They had already failed the wizards test. A contankorouse powerful wizards test. Thanks Wenzes. your the best.

[@jessmason2112]

No one can take care of you like you. You know what you need and want.

[@leoralphvillamayor]

1. Not to tie purpose or happiness to another person 2. Everything starts with us. 3. Work actively on life for continuous growth 4. People are not our project 5. I go only to others world for fun or for inspiration

[@t.wrecks1976]

🎉 thank you!

[@doriaware2965]

Very helpful to remember! :-)

[@themountainsandthesea4121]

Amen!

[@henriquesilveirabernardes5816]

Every time you mention this ability to enter other people's worlds and get stuck in them, I remember when I was a teenager, that's exactly what happened. I just didn't know it was a phenomenon, I thought that was me, but no, I was emptying myself and filling myself with the energy of my best friend, but that was definitely not me. Thanks for making this so clear.

[@lydiagrabner1571]

I had the exact same experience

[@doriaware2965]

I've been doing this throughout my life! Independence must be cultivated in my life.

[@MonikaDaddarwal]

@@lydiagrabner1571 me too. and then i set boundaries, and started being present in my life, and lesser and lesser in other ppl's. life has never been even the least bit same ever since.

[@avita2738]

1:38 Rule 1 4:18 Rule 2 6:23 Rule 3 10:14 Rule 4 13:55 Rule 5

[@rachelwong3474]

Infjs out there 😞I’m so sorry. I don’t know why we were put on this earth, but i know there’s a reason , there has to be. Keep trying to heal and you will❤️

[@duckey83]

to make the world a better place.

[@laurabarber6697]

We are here because we hold the vision and character of the way the world needs to be. We hold the ways of the Other side! 💝🙏💝

[@tychohallsen]

One of my personal maxims states: The direct route is indirect. It's about the counter-intuitive nature of solutions. Mostly, if you're not getting the result you want by the actions you take, it's not because you're not going at it HARD enough (in other words, it's not a dosing issue). The approach will only take you so far, and then it begins to give you inverse returns. To get the result you want (a 1+1=3), you have to change the approach. ----- all this to say... it's natural and helpful for us to pour into others' cups, and doing it *more* or *more intensely* will only harm us... we have to pour ourselves into us, first. You are such a gift Wenzes, thank you for all you do for INFJs.

[@lindateuling7862]

Basically, my rules for living my life are pretty much like we've listed here. I never actually wrote them down in an orderly way like this, but I think that might be a good thing to do. One thing I'm careful about is how telling "why" I do things. I used to get a lot of bad advice about trying to "explain" to my critics why I did things the way I did. I learned quickly that it wasn't effective, even if my critic thought I should. Sometimes I can intuitively tell when it's okay to give details.I'll give them only if the other person asks. I will then give them the details if I'm comfortable doing it.

[@kan0762]

This is so true.. we are living in other people's worlds and not filling enough of our own.

[@niman00]

I wish i knew this 20-30 years ago. this makes So much sense to me. this channel makes my life A Lot easier. thank you.

[@rachelwong3474]

Would you say infjs struggle with fantasy addiction? I have probably lived my whole life in my head. Imagine trying to crawl out of that space of living off other people’s “soul scraps” because you have no soul left in you. You gave it away freely, in your fantasy, you were trying yo do the “right” thing by “helping” when the twist of the infj horror movie is… you were the patient all along It’s pretty damn terrifying to live thru. *Shudder. Honestly, knowing I went thru all this fear and pain is what makes me feel compassion for myself

[@DalleDC]

I find it very difficult to find people in the first place to connect with, so I have a hard time not investing in those I do have in my life, even though it does not always feel like a 50/50 position. I either understand that they are different to me and give what they can or I start feeling lonely because I withdraw a little.

[@duckey83]

are u an INFJ?

[@DalleDC]

@@duckey83 Yes, test results often show it.

[@shedragonrider]

3:27 I wish it was good to feel good and help someone 😢 I’ve learned it’s not the hard way.

[@tplude1]

no matter where YOU go there YOU are....❤

[@DanaAdams-bc5ug]

I heard a wise Rabbi say that happiness is a choice, he said you are able to choose to be happy even in times of crisis. I think he is absolutely right

[@luisacordero4001]

I am so proud of you!!! I’ve been following you for a long time and I’ve witnessed you grow so much. I love you 💕

[@t.wrecks1976]

Number 5 is my most challenging skill to master. I am in a better place, focusing on myself more, only allowing room for plutonic friendship for 5 years now. The growth of living consistently in my own world has been hard inner work but man I feel like I’m nearing the top of the roller coaster…you know when you get that 3 second vast view of the landscape? That is the payoff I seek to earn. Nirvana

[@SheyB-sl5kg]

Yes. Live my truth

[@jerome6572]

Wenze's I thank you for your guidance I concur with you.Wenze's I appreciate this.Jerome❤❤❤

[@mikegeorge3392]

Thanks Wenzes, great advice as usual 😊

[@handssolo7980]

Don't look at me because you've always loved and adored my very presence, cherished every moment we've been together - look at me because I'm speaking to you and have enough respect to look me in the eye and listen.

[@rachelwong3474]

This is really heavy

[@duckey83]

sometimes i feel like i am addicted to pain.

[@justinwhite2725]

#3 was good for me. Ive been pretty shut in since i got my new job thst os work from home. I dont experience much outside my routine anynore.

[@johnearnshaw5036]

I love this channel.❤

[@rachelwong3474]

You make #1 sound easy to do and very well said, but it feels like death, it’s the exact definition of an addiction. Worst than alcohol, drugs, food

[@user-yn4nn2ju9c]

I tried to integrate my dark side as an INFJ and it stings, it triggerred my overthinking as I can feel their pain, but I needed to do it in order for me to grow and improve and as long as I have good intentions.

[@jessicakim2511]

Very helpful info. Thank you!

[@rachelwong3474]

Listening to you.. stings… coz I know it’s f* true 😢

[@gingerbreadzak]

00:30 🌟 Rule #1: INFJs should have a purpose outside of a specific person to avoid compromising their happiness, as tying purpose to others is unhealthy and unsustainable. 04:18 🌿 Rule #2: INFJs need to understand that the grass is not greener on the other side, as true happiness starts with self-improvement, not escapism. 06:45 💪 Rule #3: INFJs should actively work towards a better life to satisfy their need for growth and self-actualization, ensuring a fulfilling life. 10:34 🚷 Rule #4: Recognize that romantic partners, friends, and family are not projects; strive for balanced relationships instead of codependency. 14:00 🌍 Rule #5: INFJs should engage in other people's worlds for fun, inspiration, and understanding but prioritize creating their own world and preserving their energy.

[@raft115]

To climb the Corporate ladder 😂

[@raft115]

I was dreaming of working abroad 😂

[@rachelwong3474]

Infj (me) watching: understand everything you’ve said and have known it all my life Infj (me) trying to implement said advice: …. 39 years later…. (Sponge bob voice)

[@rachelwong3474]

Wow :,((

[@restistance4387]

Am a male,and just learned that I might be a INFJ.I took 6 defferent test online.4 of the test said I was a INFJ,and 2 said I was a INFP.Go to figure am one of the.Rarest personal types.I don't like it I awalys felt defferent. A little overwhelmed.Don't no what to thank.Just felt like ranting.I may not even be this Personality type anyways.

[@katherinebrumley7794]

I was happy for the explanation of why I feel weird and like I don't fit in. It is because I wont.

[@striderwolf687]

Welcome to the club. You are not weird, completely normal and you have unique special powers!

[@sportsaregreat1131]

I got the same results as well. I took the test 4 times and came out as a INFJ 2 times and INFP 2 Times. You’re not alone. We are rare and embrace it!

[@restistance4387]

@sportsaregreat1131 Wow ! I Just started reading a book called the INFJ user guide by Sarah Kuhn.I hope this book helps me.

[@restistance4387]

@striderwolf687 Thank You !

[@rachelwong3474]

Key to LIVING for an INFJ (not even talking about growth): literally think of all the things you’re afraid of and don’t want to do, and…. Do them Fml

[@GregtheGrey6969]

Sooooo...become stoics...done.

[@raft115]

😂👏👏💥