5 Shocking Reasons We Have So Much Clutter (+ how to avoid the clutter traps)

[@tarynmaria_]

Today I'm sharing 5 reasons we have so much clutter - and how to fix it! These reasons may surprise you but knowing this is the key to becoming uncluttered! Click here for a clean & tidy home! www.youtube.com/@tarynmaria_?sub_confirmation=1 Items shown: Conair fabric shaver (the pink is unavailable but they have lots of other colors): amzn.to/4auyBhM Join my mailing list for emails that will make your life easier eepurl.com/iB2aE2

[@user-qd2oj1zb4i]

Excellent video

[@pault1938]

Indeed excellent. If many of us would stick to these principles the world will be much better off!

[@user-qd2oj1zb4i]

Try living like you're moving across country. What will you pay to move? It will help you downsize!!!

[@tarynmaria_]

Love that advice!!

[@andeeanko7079]

Yep! I actually moved from the US to the UK. I got rid of so much, I only had a big backpack, a big suitcase, and my musical instruments and very few books, plus box of sewing stuff. That's it!

[@a1waystreet-j86]

I am doing just that so completely understand your comment. ✌️💜✌️

[@GoldenPowergardens]

Taryn, you are so right! It’s the fleecing of America! All the trends created by fashion houses, paint colors for the home, merch from homegoods, blech. It’s tailored to America too. Less is more! Way less!

[@stowie7733]

I actually did move a few years ago and was able to get rid of 35% of my belongings. Then after I moved I ended up getting rid of another 20% as it did not fit in my new space. Now as I am going through my Spring/Summer cleaning, I am using the death-cleaning mindset and hope to get rid of another 15%. It is an ongoing journey, but my mindset speaks volumes…plus, the thought of my kids going through some of my stuff (insert cringe 😖), yep, that’s all the motivation I need!

[@gd-ty9jp]

Finally someone talks about cheap items in quality and price 🎉😢

[@gwenj5419]

So true about social media. I've stopped watching any video where they are talking about products or product reviews. Otherwise I keep wanting things that 5 minutes before I didn't even know existed.

[@tarynmaria_]

I know! I love watching those videos but I have to be so careful!

[@lorip3939]

I do enjoy watching the product reviews, but what helps me is to actually go check the reviews of people who actually bought the item. Like just recently, I watched a video about a trash can that had a built in trash compactor. The idea was to save room so that you end up using fewer trash bags. The concept sounds great! I was sold! I wanted this trash can! I made myself take a step back and check the real customer reviews. When I did, people were posting the issues they were having. The number one complaint was the bag kept getting caught in the compactor unit and it didn't press down enough to make a difference. They were saying it wasn't worth the trouble it was causing, so now all of a sudden my desire for this trash can is now gone. I'm so glad I took that extra step, rather than buying another piece of junk to have to declutter. Thank you for posting this video! It is definitely a mind set shift.

[@sayitlikeitis8759]

and you don’t even have to trek round the shops to find it - just pop online and it will be delivered to your home tomorrow!

[@desilivingcanada3668]

You are 100% right for the quality of the items. I remember my parents having the things from my grandparents. I don't think that we have many things to transfer to our next generation.

[@tarynmaria_]

So true! I can't think of too much that I have that is worth passing down.

[@murtila4456]

My grandparents only bought these items once: car, TV set, washing machine, stove, fridge, iron, radio and they lasted for a lifetime.

[@yellowbirch2498]

I make a point these days of trying to buy vintage - everything! My philosophy is that if it still looks good after 50, 60, 70 years... It will still look good in another 50, 60, 70 years. If I can't get vintage - I buy high quality second hand for a fraction of the price of buying new. The fact that your choice is limited in both these areas stops you from overloading your house and wardrobe ❤

[@tarynmaria_]

Love that! ❤

[@eleanorstockton4921]

I love watching minimalist/declutter channels for inspiration. I watch thrifting channels to torture myself & remind myself not to fall into trap of over-consuming. Too many home makers get caught up in decorating & buying unnecessary dust collectors bcuz they are trying to achieve "a look" for their home.

[@tarynmaria_]

It's so true! It's so easy to fall into the trap of consumerism but I definitely think awareness is key!

[@mamabirdie734]

“They don’t make things like they used to” 💯I refuse to get rid of my 1997 pleather cream sofa bed bc it hasn’t peeled unlike the countless ones being sold online that have peeled within a year. Also have an antique dresser and desk solid wood unlike the newer furniture with cheap particle board backs that fall off and bend in a few years. Current companies lack pride or honor in their workmanship as they did in years past. All of my 1990’s-2000 stuff has stood the test of time (trunks, chests, etc while newer ones like by bedside table has broken slides and tracks on the bottom when I open the drawer.

[@tarynmaria_]

Yes! The particle board is the worst! :(

[@teem9010]

yes! i had my grandmas old hand-me-down couch for years and finally went to a Levins and spent thousands on a beautiful couch that started to pill after a couple months! i complained to no avail but i said my grandmas old 40 year couch never pilled. sad!!

[@bEverCurious]

I know I can be a sucker for external pressure from social media, so I'm focusing on watching decluttering, downsizing and sustainability videos right now, to get motivation to do that in my home. It's working.

[@tarynmaria_]

Awesome! Social media pressure is strong but I find that a lot of the stuff doesn't live up to the hype!

[@laraejensen2157]

You are so right about the quality of the goods we buy. I have had my expensive (at the time) mattress for over 25 years and it is still in good shape. However my aging body (age 75) needs a new mattress with some different features. In doing research we are told that you should replace your mattress every 7 years. Say what??? High quality mattress cost $4-8K where I live, Yikees!

[@tarynmaria_]

Oh my gosh yes, I've heard that you should replace your mattress more often but mine is 15 years old! We simply added a foam topper and it still seems to be ok so we don't plan to replace it anytime soon :)

[@kenorsha371]

@laraejensen I love memory foam mattresses that I purchased for under $350. If you add a bedbug cover or other mattress protector, you might get another 25 years 😉. My oldest is 9 years and doing well!

[@nickandlaurihyde]

The manufacturers want to stay in business. Think shark tank. They want to make things so cheap you have to throw them away after 3 months.

[@jonifejes6815]

My parents grew up during the Depression….As they got older they saved pretty much everything….my Mom was the worst. I can still hear her saying “you just never know when you will need it”. Growing up with this mentality - it has carried over to me. As well - we were poor for most of my life. So when you could afford something you often got more than one of any item. Not making any excuses…. Your tutorials are inspiring. Your comment, something along the line, how much to you want to pay rent for that item. I had never thought about my purchases that are gathering dust in that light. Thanks ❤❤❤

[@tarynmaria_]

I so hear you - my husband grew up in Communism in Europe and has a lot of this mentality too - his parents even more so. Thank you so much for your comments!! ❤❤

[@RTAV108]

Couldn't agree with you more!! You are bang on each and every point you've made in this video... 👏👏

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you!!

[@MTVessel61446]

95% of the items I put into my online shopping carts do not get purchased. I generally 'save for later' and review it when I'm in the mood. Many times I end up finding cheaper substitutes thrifting, at garage sales, or on clearance. Impulse buying often leads to buyers remorse and it's a feeling I avoid!

[@tarynmaria_]

So true, thank you for sharing!

[@Sunshine-fy4fz]

Men do sports, women do shopping - that was me in my 20's- well, not too long ago. Going to the mall or shopping in general was a sport, finding the best deals was my specialty. And only recently, aka after covid hit and changed our "normal" habits/routines, did I realize that going out shopping and checking out all the new products on display, in cute little vignettes was my way of "rewarding" myself and coping with my loneliness and feeling ignored in my relationship with my SO who worked long hours and traveled a lot for work. So now it's been hard getting rid of things that I feel/felt I deserved - but I keep trudging along, thanks to friends and people like you, one space at a time, one garbage bag (or box) to the donation center at a time.

[@tarynmaria_]

Great job, it sounds like you are doing it perfectly!

[@trinaroe5132]

I keep my shopping lists on my phone. One for groceries and others for specific stores or out of town shopping.

[@isabo3556]

That toy you show us at 1:18. I had it too, in the sixties. It can break (oeps). But you are right. When I bought my first videorecorder it lasted over 20 years. My second only 3 years.

[@tarynmaria_]

I'm surprised our top hasn't broken by now too honestly, so many kids have used it! :)

[@kathym.9140]

This was a great video. You hit on so many things that probably pull many people into replacing things that are still very useable. One of the things that I notice is people declaring that because something is older, it is considered dated and should be replaced by something new. My parents had a bedroom set that was purchased by them when they were first married. I remember it from when I was a tiny child. They never felt the need to replace it because it was old. It was solid wood and in perfect condition. I remember going to my grandparent's house and being in awe of the roll top desk that they had. It was full of little tiny drawers and as a child I was so fascinated by it. I'm certain that it was made long before the turn of the century. By today's standards, many would say that it was dated and should be replaced by a modern desk. I love seeing furniture that was manufactured many decades ago. That furniture stands the test of time. Nothing in the market today can even come close.

[@tarynmaria_]

I so agree! I used to think that I wanted all updated and modern furniture and then one day I realized a lot of the new stuff is junk and also boring. I also love seeing older furniture, it's the best 😊

[@susansweat9125]

You're absolutely right! Your kids don't want your quality furniture. They'd rather buy junk and replace it with new junk every few years. I don't get it, but that's how it is.

[@nriamond8010]

It depends ... my father wants me to take his furniture from his bachelor time in the 70ies that he does not want to sell. But it's ugly and super impractical and I absolutely do not want it ... I have nothing against _pretty_ old furniture but a lot of it just is not my taste at all.

[@joannunemaker6332]

Good advice. It's too easy to buy stuff we don't really need.😊❤

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you so much! ❤

[@lorcashine]

I totally agree about wanting to save older stuff that was made really well. That is a huge problem for me! It hurts how poor things are made now.

[@tarynmaria_]

It does!!

[@pandapeek55]

I refuse to buy anything from social media and I never have. But I used to be addicted to QVC and then HSN. Thank God I broke that addiction for 2 years now.

[@tarynmaria_]

It's so funny you mention QVC - I was telling my husband the other week that one of my favorite KZbinrs now felt like I was watching QVC and I was sad about it! I used to love watching QVC as well!

[@Topkat311]

I stopped buying from QvC & HSN years ago. I got into 10k debt from watching them. Paid all off & never watch it again

[@pandapeek55]

@@Topkat311 I’m still paying on mine 😞

[@NoseyFloridaGirl]

So true ! Everything you said is spot on. Social media has become one big commercial for the most part. New sub.

[@tarynmaria_]

Yay, thank you and I'm so glad you're here!

[@SusanCox-pl9qp]

Thank you so much for this video. I bought 3 items this week from Amazon that I thought I wanted (bought for my birthday). When I got them, I was disappointed in all 3, so they are being returned. Sometimes what you THINK you want is not what you want at all!

[@tarynmaria_]

You are so welcome! ❤

[@kimberlydeprey]

Agree…agree and agree! All sooo true! It’s like we’re little blind mice falling into the consumerism trap. Videos like this shed light on thus trap. Thank you!

[@tarynmaria_]

You are so welcome! I’m so glad you liked it!

[@bettyparker3317]

Totally agree. Especially that, it’s soooo easy to buy things online now. I used to save money by staying out of the mall (yes I’m that old ) but now, it’s just a click. Impulse buying was an accompanying issue-and again, being online doesn’t help. I have to be very conscious of why I’m buying whatever it is. And aware that if it’s cheap, there’s a reason for that, and I probably won’t like it. Cheap clothes from some of those big online “stores” is the worst. When you see it for real, it’s shocking how bad it is. But I had to learn….

[@tarynmaria_]

It's so true! Thank you so much for sharing!

[@windyacresway]

You nailed it...We now live in a capitalist society and in order for that to work there needs to be consumerism.We got sold a bill of cheap goods that we will continue to have to replace in short time.Buy,Buy,Buy....which funnels our money to the top percenters.

[@tarynmaria_]

So true!!

[@bitrudder3792]

We still have that pine furniture in two of our upstairs bedrooms, And I regret pieces I have released into the wild that we're not appreciated by their recipients. It's rocksolid, simple and natural. You never have to worry about people ruining it. Worst case scenario, you sand and re-oil. I have loved and hated it over the years but along the lines of "embrace what you have," I see it as a great backdrop for simple, spa-like Guest spaces, instead of just institutional or kid room furniture.

[@jennyjenkins877]

Thank you for a very thought-provoking video! I can't even believe some of my shopping habits when I was a young woman. A lot of learning from my mistakes later, I'm a completely different type of shopper... I read reviews, I think carefully about purchases, and I'm very selective about the types of materials that I buy, such as natural fabrics for clothing and linens.

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you Jenny! I also made a lot of mistakes - I think we live and learn but hopefully with all of the available info now people can learn even sooner!

[@sandysmom100]

Taryn so correct I was a child of the seventies , myself and my siblings ! I have been on our families decluttering journey since 2019 I had to fix our lives in so many ways . I also take care of full time of one of adult children that will s always will live us . This child is a real Hoarder ! Ugh ! You’re so right . The junk like from temu and shein is terrible . They have been sued for making children do hard labor . I used to shop a lot because of my anxiety ! I have either sold but mostly gave away about 80 % of my clothing and over the years lots and lots of expensive and cheap Knick knacks .

[@tarynmaria_]

Oh my gosh yes - the Sheins and such! My daughter bought a few things from there but I don't let her do that anymore - everything was such poor quality :(

[@rosalynne8792]

Changing trends!!! LOL! A lot of my furniture is from my granparents/ggranparents. My bed is an antique brass bed...bought for $250... 50 yrs ago.Had it fully restored about 10 years ago.. looks amazing!..cost $2500. My leather lounge was made by an aquaintance who was an upholsterer. 40 yrs ago. Needs recovering..will cost a fortune but will get it recovered. Solid timber frame and not a staple anywhere. 1950s mirrors on staircase wall... with family photos ... old and new! Still have the bed from my childhood (50s/60s)... in spare bedroom. Obviously new mattresses! And, many other things from bygone eras. I use a knife...bonehandle...thin sharp blade..a 100 times better than newer ones. I prefer a more minimalst environment... looks and feels better, and easier to clean. "Less is more"... looks better, easier to maintain. Revive, repurpose, restore, reuse!!

[@tarynmaria_]

Love love love this all!

[@rosalynne8792]

@tarynmaria_ Thankyou! Also makes life easier..more time to spend with the grankids, walk the dogs, etc etc 🤗👍🏻🇦🇺

[@janelagerquist454]

A quick heads up - old paints have lead and cadmium on some toys. But otherwise you are right on the other points.

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you so much!!

[@nancyfeeser4653]

Trends changing on cooking pots and pans! I still have my same old set. Some people change all the time.

[@tarynmaria_]

Yup!

[@hyacinth4368]

I still use my set of stainless cookware I bought when I graduated high school in the early 1970s!

[@JamieM470]

Hanging clothing up to dry makes it last SO much longer, and it helps the electric bill. I only use the dryer for towels & washcloths, sheets, socks, and random t-shirts if the neckline is stretched out of shape. Everything else air-dries and it lasts for years that way.

[@tarynmaria_]

I wish we had a clothes line!

[@terryruiz7417]

One thing I've learned about newer handbags...leather is tanned in China, and there can be problems with it. Older leather bags, leather ages fine. Newer bags, some became actually gummy. A shoe repair man explained the problem to me. Quality, not what it once was.

[@tarynmaria_]

Interesting, thank you for sharing!

[@gwenj5419]

Great video!

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you!!

[@lucystrider728]

I used to buy things only to realize I do not actually have a place for the item to be in my home. It does not look the same crammed in with other items if it is decor, and makes life harder if it has to be shoved into a closet or pushed down so the drawer can close.I stay out of stores unless I actually need a certain item except the grocery store, and except for needed food, I put most online purchases into 'save for later', and come back later to decide whether I actually need, like, and have room for the item. This has really cut out most of my incoming future clutter and I am well on my way to simplifying the rest of my belongings. I wish I had not wasted so much space, effort and time with extra items for years, but now I know!

[@tarynmaria_]

Love this so much! I do the same - coming back to my cart later has been so helpful for me :)

[@gd-ty9jp]

Thanks for this video

[@tarynmaria_]

You are so welcome!

[@andeeanko7079]

I think I had that metal top, too! 😅 I actually thought you were a *lot* younger!

[@tarynmaria_]

Oh my gosh love it!

[@MarcyPeter-m7i]

Well said! How DID you fix the mixer with a rubber band?

[@tarynmaria_]

Ha, good question! I opened up the mixer and there was a piece that had broken and I was able to use the rubber band in its place. A KZbin video recommended it and it was awesome!

[@marydolan4857]

Great video! Thank you!

[@tarynmaria_]

You are welcome!

[@janeb3024]

Mend and make do. My parents lived through two world wars and the Great Depression so I learned from birth to waste not, want not.

[@tarynmaria_]

Mend and make do for sure :)

[@a1waystreet-j86]

Thank you great ideas and suggestions. ✌️💜✌️

[@tarynmaria_]

You are so welcome!!

[@lauriedixon9661]

The quality of products has deteriorated significantly. I recently went to the shops (many shops) to buy a new sofa and I couldn't find one as good as my old sofa at home, so I didn't buy one. The same with clothing. My friend said to me that when she tries on an item of clothing in the changing room, she asks herself, 'Does this look better than the item I just removed?' If the answer is 'no', it goes back on the rail.

[@tarynmaria_]

Yes - the sofa quality, I noticed the same thing! I also wonder how low the quality will go (and go on for). In 20 years will we be buying sofas that don't even last for one year?

[@sillylilysallykaye4917]

On the sofa mention, we have a 19 y/o lazy boy leather couch. Just bought new foam to redo seat cushions & some leather conditioner to refurbish it a bit. We'll be keeping it another 19 years, if I can help it.

[@janeb3024]

Luxury handbags are another form of marketing. Logos or brand names appear on many items now. I make an effort to source non-labelled items because I am not interested in paying to provide free advertising.

[@tarynmaria_]

Yes!

[@Merrych]

I enjoy watching your channel. I am curious about the Brass Elephant. It seems to be in multiple places in your home. Where is the elephant's home?

[@tarynmaria_]

He lives in the attic now :) I had him downstairs but my two boys are still too rough for me to leave him down there!

[@trinaroe5132]

I’ve always looked for quality. I almost never shop online so I can see and feel the quality before I commit to buy. I prefer classic, timeless items, especially in clothing and accessories. The only times I shop for a pastime is to kill time out of town between appointments. My biggest weakness is IKEA. I only go when I have something specific to buy or see in person (furniture or kitchen items usually), but because their prices are good I often wind up with way more than intended because they are two hours away so I tend to buy on impulse when there.

[@tarynmaria_]

I agree about shopping in person - I had shopped online for so long but now I find myself trying to shop in person more too!

[@marjolijnv.3974]

Actually, I feel you missed out the underlying reason for why we feel the need to buy so much, or to keep up with the neighbours, or why we are so easily influenced by social media etc. Acquiring stuff (i.e. buying something) gives a 'happy feeling'. We are treating ourselves, getting something we want (or so we think). That rush only lasts a couple of days at the most and then we need to buy stuff again to get that feeling back. It seems people are trying to fill a hole that cannot be filled by material possessions.

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you for sharing!

[@eleanorstockton4921]

Love your channel. I've been downsizing thru Swedish Death Cleaning method for several years. It is difficult being married to a "collector". He buys antiques like your metal top bcuz "they don't make them like that anymore!" He bought a 10gal. glass jar for ONLY that reason. When he dies I will get rid of 85% of stuff in my home & move into tiny house!!! I would suggest the best way to live clutter free is never marry.

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you so much! And very true - the more people and more personalities, the more clutter there can be!

[@returnofthereasoner3200]

I feel badly for you and especially your husband. It sounds as though you are in a very unhappy marriage and are simply waiting for him to die.😢

[@margaretpare8206]

Easy way to declutter. At the beginning of your time period. I start the beginning of a season. Turn all your hangers backwards. When you wash and return to closet, put correctly . At the end of yoyr time frame everything backwards is something you havent worn. Get rid of it

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you so much!

[@juliajs1752]

Doesn't work in places with either four distinct seasons or one season only. Just because I don't use my winter jacket for two years doesn't mean I need to throw it away when I definitely will need it next year when visiting family again...

[@margaretpare8206]

@juliajs1752 there are always exceptions. I'm talking day to day shirts, tees, jeans etc

[@Jake-co3wk]

My toys are from the 50s - still in great shape! And some furniture from waaay before that. As a society we have so much stuff that is bought from boredom...nothing to do? Let's head to the mall. there's not enough substance in our lives - so that we fill the emptiness with buying. Also, remember Old Money doesn't buy a new bag every year or season.

[@tarynmaria_]

So true - nothing to do - let's go shopping! I used to do that all the time.

[@julietannOsfan1972]

Great tips. I’m in the UK & there’s a shop called Primark. Loads of people buy clothes etc from there. I don’t tho, as I don’t always find that they are very good quality. I buy all my clothes etc M&S, as they are great quality, fit me well & can be tumble dried. I know what you mean about social influencers. I follow one on Instagram & even tho her posts are great even when she’s on holiday she’s posting about her swimming costume etc.

[@tarynmaria_]

Yup, I know both of those stores in the UK :) I even have a top from M&S myself!

[@LorraineGrant]

Yes, some Primark clothes are rubbish. We have New Look and H&M near us, but quality not always good. Another good store is Next

[@LorraineGrant]

A friend asked me what kind of toys she could get for her nephews which would not break within 2 days. I said those made of wood or metal, which are more durable than plastic. When the kids grow out of them they can be given to charity etc. They cause less pollution and can be recycled, but plastic cannot so easily.

[@tarynmaria_]

So very true!

[@shirleyjones6081]

I'm 77 and don't follow ANY trends. Just my jeans and cargo pants that's it.

[@tarynmaria_]

Love it, do what works!

[@lindamusser7370]

I hear you. I never liked trends even as a kid. The older I get, however, the harder I try to look as good as an old lady can look. Lots of denim.

[@mariecleo214]

​@@lindamusser7370yes me too 👍👍

[@abtarmiah3799]

I'm a 90s baby and even I agree with the fact things were better built

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you!

[@Melissa_John3_16]

Buying was therapy for me. I have decluttering stuff (collectibles) I bought 30 years ago. My poor hubby wants me to keep them because he believes eventually we might get some of our money back. I feel bad for him but I feel better for letting them go!

[@tarynmaria_]

Ahhh maybe you could look into selling them! 😊

[@Melissa_John3_16]

@@tarynmaria_ I am! Or I should say my daughter is!

[@kathrynp7595]

I just stay out of stores and unfollow UTubers that try to get you to buy things. Buy quality over the cheap stuff they make now. I follow a very minimal lifestyle, no clutter. Helps my anxiety.

[@tarynmaria_]

Great approach!!

[@evie1950]

I agree!!!

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you!!

[@geavisser7339]

İt was my generation in the 80-90's (in my country)starting fun shopping, just for spending money, filling up bags. We started this and i am not very proud of it.

[@tarynmaria_]

It's not your fault - I think the pressures are everywhere and society is set up to encourage this.

[@chrissyp3065]

Totally agree about fixing the old stuff! Washing machines are NOT made like they used to be. I will resuscitate my old one until I can't anymore because the new ones just aren't made half as well.

[@tarynmaria_]

Same! When I was a kid I think we had our dryer for 30+ years!

[@eleanorstockton4921]

I do not change out home decor for different seasons, not even Christmas. I quit putting up a Christmas tree over 30yrs ago bcuz of commercialization of the holiday. I refuse to walk into Hobby Lobby bcuz every item screams at you that it is the cutest, neatest, most essential thing you need to make your home "complete".

[@tarynmaria_]

I also don't go into Hobby Lobby - my daughter loves it but I always try to steer clear!

[@Dave30867]

Everything is cheap and crappy plastic these days i hate it all i am not buying any more plastic rubbish .

[@tarynmaria_]

Same! I am trying to avoid plastic now as much as I can.

[@joanpaez4445]

I refused to give my granddaughter another piece of cheap Cinese crap for Christmas last year and made her a doll, along the lines of Raggedy Ann, only I embroidered the facial features on the muslin face and made the hair out of yarn. Sad to say, she does not play with it, does not appreciate it, and neither does my daughter. The little ones are so caught up with the latest internet toys and games, and who gains? You guessed it--China.

[@tarynmaria_]

@@joanpaez4445 The doll you made sounds so sweet and thoughtful! I bet your grand daughter will appreciate it when she gets older!

[@joanpaez4445]

@@tarynmaria_ I would hope so, but am disheartened to be m I re inclined to believe she still won't care, if indeed her own mother (my daughter) dismisses it as unimportant and insignificant. It may get thrown away if they move. Sorry I'm being so despairing. Values are not what they once were. Thank you for your kind sentiments.

[@bitrudder3792]

my all metal singer sewing machine is a rockstar workhorse that can even so leather if I want, along with some simple decorative stitches. I'm considering purchasing some spare parts because this thing was built to last forever almost. Maintaining it Has been one of my smarter choices.

[@tarynmaria_]

So cool!

[@Nina-hk7ub]

Not getting rid of stuff.

[@sarahuber8567]

I acquire too many things when I’m bored with what I have. Sad.

[@tarynmaria_]

It's normal - I do the same but now try to be really mindful and disciplined about it.

[@Juliet0861]

I had that top in the 1960s. It was a hand me down.

[@tarynmaria_]

Love it!

[@kennethbailey9853]

Yesssss!😁

[@nancy4366]

No...... the reason why we have too much stuff is this : I need ONE hair tie/elastics, but I can't buy JUST ONE, I have to buy a WHOLE PACK of 10. What do I do with the other NINE hair tie/elastics? I need ONE rubber band (that day) or ONE envelope or stamp. But NO. I have to buy a whole bag of rubber bands, a whole BOX of envelopes or a whole BOOK of stamps. :( I live alone. I need ONE spoon - I use it I wash it (in the sink). Same with forks, spoons and knives. BUT (other than the dented used ones at the thrift store), if I want ONE new fork or spoon or knife/NOPE I have to buy a WHOLE SET. < --------------------- This is one MORE reason why I have closets of "extra" stuff I've bought but don't have a use for but hate to get rid of because I MIGHT need those things one day and after all I PAID for them. I'm very grateful when I need ONE thing and i have the opportunity to buy ONE of them (a car, a house, etc...) however more and more, things are "bundled up" with more of the same or come in huges sets / hey - 50% of Americans are LIVING ALONE. See my point?

[@tarynmaria_]

So true! I used to split stuff like this with my grandmother and I still do sometimes with my sisters. Especially things like hair ties and other things that are small and come in huge packs that you don’t need that many of!

[@kathleenvalentine5864]

GREAT point!

[@shirleyjones6081]

I'm a Jones BUT I still don't follow those people either. I'm on a roll.

[@tarynmaria_]

Ha!

[@EvelynSaungikar]

I was expecting some new and different reasons, but these are the usual, somewhat judgey reasons. Some reasons I’d like to hear discussed, are inheriting furniture and housewares from aging relatives, that are not your style but you can’t part with, or you’re saving them for your kids but they’re not moving out any time soon. Things which are slightly broken, that you will repair “someday” but don’t get around to, and you don’t want to donate because they are broken, like jeans with a broken zipper. Makeup you tried, but don’t like, but don’t want to throw away because it was expensive, but you can’t do anything with because it’s opened. Things you love, but are out of style, and you’re waiting for them to come back in style. Stuff your mother in law gave you, that she asks about every time she comes over.

[@tarynmaria_]

Thanks! For this video I wanted to focus more on societal things and external pressures that we have but I like your idea to do something maybe on the more internal/family pressures!

[@feliciaschoenfeld5177]

1. Everything is cheap and low in quality. 2. Social media make us buy things. 3. [3:27] Trends change faster 4. ... 5. [4:56] Consumer culture, shopping as a passtime.

[@pamlure9616]

Thank you

[@seralynn7286]

I don't mind that things don't last as long as they used to in general, since many of those items are still sitting in landfills and haven't actually broken down at all because of how durable they were lol...But I feel like we've gone too far in the opposite direction and there is not enough variety in quality for us to choose from. The vast majority of what we can purchase is cheap, plastic, and made in China. Very little is actually durable. I am okay with those kinds of items existing (generally speaking -- I know that they create a lot of waste), but I wish when I wanted to buy a high quality item, I didn't have to choose between spending $5 or $500. It would be nice to have more of a mid-range with items that are not plastic and will last longer with good care, but don't have to be the built-like-a-tank pieces that they had back in the old days.

[@tarynmaria_]

Very true! Thank you so much for sharing!

[@teem9010]

i have things that i try and replace with new and EVERYTHING is so cheaply and poorly made now! it is awful! i mean things from just 15-20 years ago cant be replaced in all honestly with the flimsy crap in stores today!

[@tarynmaria_]

Isn't it crazy!!

[@Angela.0411]

Lower quality is now called planned obsolescence. It is done so manufacturers can sell more.😢

[@tarynmaria_]

So true - I hate that!

[@cynthiaakacyndsmith6539]

I am trying to get to not buy things. I cut out all crafting purchases, I have bought a set of card bases and envelopes, and yarn to knit for my new grand baby. Other than that I try not to purchase any thing!! I think abut what and why!?

[@tarynmaria_]

Love that, so smart!

[@MikeBirdman]

such a good video but I must disagree on one thing- you find a lot of cheaply made stuff that's pretty pricey compared to how long you'll actually have it before it breaks.

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you so much! And you are right - you also see that. Even appliances that intentionally can't be repaired! :(

[@MikeBirdman]

@@tarynmaria_ oh gosh, right? it's just ridiculous. they try to force it so u have to keep buying the big items; heck that even applies to some pet beds anymore lol; can't buy separate covers for them, noo , u have to buy the whole bed again. Have a good day :)

[@LorraineGrant]

It suits the economy for people to keep buying items which don't last. Also fast fashion does the same. But people get into debt because of the sales pressure.

[@awesomelife3710]

I agree with many of your points but not with the encouragement to but American, if your goal is well-built, long lasting products. When I bought my car, I researched which ones were at the top of the list for most reliable, based on Consumer Reports unbiased reviews. Toyota and Honda came up on top. Some at the bottom were built in the U.S. German engineering is tops for dishwashers, such as Bosch or Miele, whereas Frigidaire was not rated highly. You’ll pay triple for clothes with the Made in France, or Made in Italy label, but they will last for many, many years and have incredible craftsmanship. The whole idea of planned obsolescence is quintessentially American, after all. The list of well-built, long-lasting foreign products is long. Research, research, research 😅

[@tarynmaria_]

Good to know, and totally - agree - research every brand! Thank you!

[@RadCenter]

Many of those Toyotas and Hondas ARE built in the US.

[@kathleenvalentine5864]

Unfortunately, buying, say, a $60 blouse vs. a $7 blouse on clearance is more feasible for us lower mid class consumers. My justification is that when I get tired of the $7 top will be about the same as the $60 top. While I wear m

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you for sharing!

[@shirleyjones6081]

Oh I do have 1 pair of dress pants.

[@missworm]

As a 60s baby, please don’t say that things from the 70s are ‘really old’ 😂

[@tarynmaria_]

Haha, I take it back!

[@sphinxtheeminx]

Reason 6 We like clutter. What's wrong with it? As long as it's clean in your home who cares if it's full of tat.

[@tarynmaria_]

It's true - your stuff tolerance is so personal!

[@flonotflow]

Social media has created such a high level of FOMO in society. We need to not only change how we consume social media, but also our own personal values. It's a sad situation at the moment. Stanley cups come to mind.

[@tarynmaria_]

So true! I saw the other day that ages 15-24 are the unhappiest age group and it's because of social media comparison and FOMO. I limit my kids' social consumption now but I think I need to take more drastic measures - it affects all ages :(

[@francescachecchin6191]

We have so many things because we have a lot of money to spend and when we see things in the store we want and can buy them... a second after they are in our house... they become a weight... inoltre we do not want to own things donated from other people, we want everything to show our personality...

[@tarynmaria_]

So very true!

[@wellwoman5686]

Be careful about allowing children to play with older toys. Some toys will be fine, of course, but others will not be up to modern safety codes to protect kiddos. There are valid reasons some toys were discontinued, like lead paint, small parts, sharp edges, etc. And as a collector of vintage toys, FYI: The metal top toy isn’t made by Fisher Price. 🙂

[@tarynmaria_]

How funny, I'll have to check the top - this whole time I thought it was Fisher Price!

[@judybryant3880]

I think credit cards more than buying on line is the problem. It's much easier to use the plastic then spend the cash and to buy things you really don't need without thinking as you get paid before the bill comes due. The only problem is that if you can't pay, you get in over your head at some point.

[@tarynmaria_]

Very true!

[@Debbiesdilemmas]

There’s no doubt that most things were better quality years ago. It’s not that you can’t get good quality now but that you’ll pay a premium. My parents had appliances that lasted decades. My mother still has some small appliances that she had when she was newly married 60 years ago. Nowadays things are made with an expiry date……meaning the manufacturer doesn’t want them to last as they want you to go back every few years and repurchase. There’s so much fast fashion now that one trip through the washing machine and things fall apart. Also these lower quality items are not helping our planet. I think sometimes when we buy new things we keep the old “just in case” we need a back up.😖😂

[@tarynmaria_]

Yes! The whole "planned obsolescence where products are designed to become obsolete or break quickly makes me so mad :(

[@Mychellechic]

The worst was a lady I followed that was encouraging contentment and minimalism. Then her channel turned into constantly promoting things and she redid her whole house. I couldn’t take it anymore and had to unfollow. 😓

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you for sharing! :)

[@anitasez]

👏🏻

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you!

[@MichelleNovalee]

This is why I refuse to buy cheap things now. I only buy high quality and I don’t care if it’s “expensive”. I’ll just wait until I can afford it. I don’t need items fats just like I don’t need fast fashion. Honest items: real wood, real leather, real stainless steel, cotton, wool vs knock offs like particle board, pleather, plastic, polyester. The actual expensive item is buying the cheap one that you end up donating or throwing away which is a complete waste of money. Buying something of quality that will last your and your kids lifetime is priceless.

[@tarynmaria_]

So true! I am committed to doing research now and deciding what is actually worth it. Thank you for sharing!

[@Shiryone]

I've noticed a trend with upscale, KZbin "influencers." They are having an awakening of not needing so much and selling many of their items of Poshmark, etc. Well, good for them, but they have done a lot of damage influencing others to spend their money. Don't get me wrong, we are all responsible for our actions and decisions, but some are more easily "influenced" than others. And now schools have fall and spring pictures. Totally not necessary and parents should just opt out. One school photo per year is good enough. And on a side note, what were the two commercials on your video? Saks 5th Avenue, and a California tourism add. LoL Talk about irony.

[@tarynmaria_]

I have heard about some schools doing two sets of photos - that is crazy! And how funny about the commercials - I always wonder what commercials KZbin is showing on my videos!

[@liftpanic]

Do a lot of people have clutter for these reasons? They're just stupidly buying stuff all the time? I don't do any of these things but my home is filled with the clutter of decades living in the same house and taking on the stuff of my kids and my late parents, that's what I have to deal with. I don't buy anything.

[@tarynmaria_]

I do think consumerism has gotten out of control. Thank you for commenting!

[@BlueBlossomsBlues]

OLD TOYS are a massive LEAD HAZARD!!!!! Do not use!

[@tarynmaria_]

Thank you!

[@Rodmic-hd9pn]

One reason is a symptom of trauma

[@sjp4u338]

Tired of the dead son comments 🙄

[@tarynmaria_]

Ummm what?

[@Nina-hk7ub]

Not getting rid of stuff.