5 SIGNS of a BAD THERAPIST (+ why clients are S*XUALLY attracted to them) - PSYCHIATRIST explains

[@Loves_three_kitties]

I've had a lifetime of therapy with less-than-capable therapists but very fortunately, in the last 7 years, my therapist was the One. She has helped me unravel how my abusive childhood. has negatively affected my life. What a unique and positive situation. She is the best.

[@FamilyFriendlyBushcraft]

Another issue with NHS therapy was s that it is predominantly CBT as it was a the current darling of prescribing due to its projected short term intervention. Like most therapy not suitable for all and indeed the most disengaged with form of psychotherapy in regular use.

[@philipholding]

It's the most disengaged psychotherapy because it's the most common in the Western world. Case of basic statistics. It is the ' gold standard' because it it the most empirically evidence based and peer reviewed. That said. Its no panacea, but what is! In my long professional experience ( retired NHS high- intensity therapist), the issue is not with CBT originated by Beck, but with implementation and practice. The pressure from management to reduce sessions, increase previlance rates, and basically treating the service as a business model is like trying to smash a round peg into a square hole. They pushed CBT into the entreched biomedical model. Treating patients as symptoms, and being prescriptive ( like the psychiatrists, liased with). That's not what Becks model was about.The NHS, in my opinion, attempted to force the original model of CBT, into an diluted business driven, quick fix model. My clinical supervisor was high up in the NHS, and regularly gave me extended sessions. Guess what, my patient recovery rate went up to 74%, which was sustained. While the average was around 52% at the Trust. Wonder why? In words, don't blame CBT.

[@amandacampbell4479]

CBT is cheap compared to other forms of intervention. I think this has something to do with the widespread use despite it not always being the most suitable or effective approach.

[@FamilyFriendlyBushcraft]

@@amandacampbell4479 yes but it’s not cheap if it doesn’t work or is disengaged with. Not sure what rate the NHS are paying in house these days but round here CBT/Eclectic practice and other forms of intervention all range around £35 per session with more effective and specialist interventions up to @£75 per hour session

[@FamilyFriendlyBushcraft]

@@philipholding I agree with everything you stated there but at some point one has to point to CBT purely because it is so prescriptively misapplied and considered by the powers that be to be that panacea that you as a professional recognise it is not. This is not about the good and bad of a given discipline as there are positive elements of all, even talking therapy and its potential for re traumatisation however when applied in such a blanket manner it does become the villain of the piece. You will forgive me for not putting a huge amount of faith in NICE guidance and their means of adopting treatment pathways… or not as the cap fits

[@kiranalexander8846]

I've had both good and bad therapy and therapists, and I think one of the key things is how they listened to my opinions and feelings, and didn't judge or undermine them. Also, not being overly focused on 'tick box' exercises, almost forcing you to reach a certain point by a certain session, which I found happened a lot in youth NHS therapy (specifically CAMHS).

[@Loves_three_kitties]

You add so much to the understanding of mental health topics. Watching your videos enriches our therapy experience in a very engaging manner.

[@stoicepictetus833]

This is one of my favourite channels - sincere with no hype. Keep on Ominous Shahominous! 😊❤

[@TheNurseWhoLovedMe89]

“Just like a stripper that you’ve fallen in love with…” - that one got me 👌😂

[@FamilyFriendlyBushcraft]

I only ever had to break that confidence a couple of times. Revelation of a serious physical assault and threat to life with an ongoing tempestuous marital situations led to conversations in principle with the police and MARAC referrals. No fun for anyone involved.

[@lynnmarieanderson1744]

I think sometimes there are some gray areas where things can happen and it doesn’t necessarily mean that the therapist or the client have set out to think or say or do anything inappropriate. I had a male therapist for over three years and for a long time he was very supportive and helpful to me. I was dealing with some rough crisis situations, and eventually, you guessed it, I started to feel like I was falling in love with him and I felt really embarrassed. I will never really know what may have been going on in his mind but I was getting some signs from him that he really liked me too. We were just becoming too close. Then the whole thing blew up when a colleague of his found out that I felt like I was falling in love with him and now we had to be pulled apart, we can’t speak to each other anymore, and he’s getting put through a number of tough questions from his supervisors. It was terrible, for both of us. It’s scared me away from trying to go through therapy with anyone else. And not long after the situation with me, for whatever reason he left his job there and went to work somewhere else. I think it’s really best for male therapists to treat men and female therapists to treat women. Even with the knowledge of transference and countertransference, it’s too easy for this kind of thing to happen. I feel so damaged by this and now I can’t really open up to any other therapist and I feel a lot of hostility.

[@AnaLucia-wy2ii]

I feel like you were directly targeting me when you said Montel Williams instead of Montell Jordan because you KNEW it would annoy me and I’d be forced to comment on it! 😂😂😂 Very manipulative of you. 😉

[@nix7688]

What do you do when you’ve been ghosted by your therapist? Mine said she needed to gather background info before she could formulate a plan. Eight sessions later, we were still covering ‘background’ (basically going round in circles). She told me that she usually knew how to come up with a plan but, in my case, she was struggling. Then she told me she had to take time off for surgery and never contacted me again. Not the best when you’ve been told you scored ‘severally depressed’ on her pre-therapy questionnaire!

[@timothyleebrown1593]

Doc!!! You are so incredibly awesome!!!!❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉

[@Backwardsninja468]

He, man, I love your content. I have been watching it for about a year. Do you know of any other people who create content like you that you could recommend? I cannot get enough. Appreciate your work from New Zealand.

[@miss.conduct8083]

Hey Doc! I just purchased your latest book! I'm super proud of you! I'm J U S T about to start it, - right after this video. I cannot wait to reach the incredible topics outlined in the glossary! It's gonna get dark! My man!!🖤💯💣💥👀👏

[@sallyfarr509]

Really useful. Thank youxxx

[@islandbreeze2631]

I think another red flag would be if they don't discuss how regularly you should probably be having sessions with them in the first session and then act "off" with you for not seeing them for a while even though they never contacted you to ask if you'd like another session. Like, how was i supposed to know!

[@randynesbit4497]

“Almost no hair sprouting from his ears” 😂

[@precious7604]

not relevant to the video, but what is the difference between forensic psychiarty and forensic psychology? I know psychiatrists can treat mental illness with medications, and psychologists can't, but what about deeper than that? Do forensic psychiatrists talk about the past with their criminal patients? do they delve into their behaviour and coginitive functions, or is that psychology-specific?? I'd love to know before i decide whether or not to apply to medschool this year. no point doing medicine if what im really after is forensic psychology

[@colettegibson6516]

Of course they do, they read through their medical and criminal history and discuss everything with the patient from childhood till now to determine if their upbringing (trauma or whatever) has influenced their behaviour now and determine if they have a personality disorder or medical condition so they receive the correct sentence/treatment

[@precious7604]

@@colettegibson6516 hey! thanks for replying, and I'm really sorry to sound sceptical, but what's your sources? like, is it your job, or did you find it somewhere on the internet? I'd love to know!

[@JOEYDEEZ369]

After my scheduled appointment with my therapist he then has to go visit a therapist… I’m a lot you see hahah … yeh I know how I stay… just sayin !!

[@brendarudman8806]

He doesn't read the comments That's bad😢

[@APsychForSoreMinds]

he does

[@brendarudman8806]

😮If he did,he would have typed "I do" 😂​@@APsychForSoreMinds

[@Hilz28]

Didnt go into Countertransference, Doc. That exists in the US and UK 😉 Also, we need to be using the female pronouns as much a the male ones. You make a good effort, but... Just sayin'. 🤷‍♀️

[@alwardgrover3347]

Hi Doc what's you take on Starmer is he a nut job or egotistic maniac or normal can you do a vlog on him Or will you get locked up ??? if you do