5 Things You Should Never Say to a Social Phobic

Old video, but I'm re-posting it. Below are the 5 phrases I talk about in the video:
5) "You're too quiet."
4) "Why don't you ever talk?"
3) "Are you antisocial?"
2) "Come on, give everyone else a chance to talk!"
1) "Can't you just be normal?"
This was my first social anxiety vid. Hope you enjoy and please subscribe if you'd like to see more!

[@voEovove]

For me, the worst thing about social anxiety has always been the loneliness that comes with it (._.)

[@williamthebastard6454]

then stop having social anxiety

[@williamthebastard6454]

ಠ_ృ i used to have social anxiety, then it stopped. no need to be so hateful and calling me an idiot, i just wanna help you people.

[@voEovove]

William the Bastard Sorry, but you telling people to just get over it isn't helping anyone.

[@williamthebastard6454]

ಠ_ృ how can i help you?

[@voEovove]

William the Bastard Why do you even want to?

[@BellicaTV]

it sucks having social anxiety! like everywhere i go i get comments like this - you're so quiet -why don't you talk -can you say hi really loudly -and they tell their friends she never talks -and everyone labels me as quiet -and they make jokes about me like "you talk too much" -is your whole family quiet ? -is there something that happened to you that you're so quiet -were you born like this -once someone told me "go make friends,like it's not that hard thats why god gave us a mouth" and the other friend laughed -and when the teacher gives me an award for being quiet someone from the class says "she dosen't even talk" -"i can't even hear you" -and the teacher says my name and i say here and she says my name again!!! like i freaking hate those comments like everywhere i go i get them!! it's not fair that everyone else is normal and i'm not!! >:(!!

[@BellicaTV]

***** ikr :/

[@HillyRockyRoads]

***** That's exactly how I feel.

[@randomyoutuber9904]

I know how you feel i find it fucking annoying

[@chrismartyn8746]

BellicaTV same thing happens to me...it really hurts... i can't give my opinion, i can't answer even though i know the answers very well... i really really hurts when someone says i m quiet...

[@BellicaTV]

Chris Martyn yeah :/ it sucks having it

[@dntusethischairthanks7531]

The worst is when you finally choose to say something and other people say you're so weird or laugh at you

[@NOVEENT]

100000 percent i agree

[@sanjaybudhu]

I know how you feel... like don’t expect me to talk at all if your going to say this 😭

[@sanjaybudhu]

It doesn’t make any sense.....why? 😥 these are one of the most stupidest people ever don’t ask me why I don’t talk and then expect me not to talk when you feel like it

[@choco1199]

What absolute 💩head would say that...?

[@HaunaMyKiki]

"Why are you so quiet?" is the absolute most devastating thing you can say to me, and I get it ALL the time. And the worst part is that they genuinely expect you to give an answer as to why you are so quiet, So what does one say in response to that when you don't know the answer to that question yourself? Another really bad one is when you DO muster the courage to say something and they go, "Oh my god! She's actually talking!" Because all people with SA want to do is to be able to seamlessly blend in to a social circle without anyone noticing we're different. Saying that makes it feel like what's the point of trying to change when people are going to notice those changes? It almost confirms what our social anxiety is telling us: that people are judging our every move , and are noticing every single change we attempt to make for ourselves. Comments like that DIGRESS our progress.

[@electron2601]

I agree. That is the worse!

[@adrianm1429]

i just smile and look away.

[@TheRakk24]

Unfortunately, people really don't seem to care about how uncomfortable or devastating they can make a situation for someone like us. I have a family member who screams to the whole world "He's blushing, look!" every time I blush in family situations.

[@adrianm1429]

I wouldn't say that, that would just encourage them to keep talking and think I'm interested in having a conversation with them.

[@luciousgirl971]

I actually answer well no one plans a murder out loud. Their expressions are priceless

[@emilyprune1781]

One of the worst things I've heard was "You may as well be asleep" In other words; you may as well not be here. That's very hurtful and untrue, you should never say that to anyone.

[@edmed3380]

Never tell a social phobic "it's the quiet ones you gotta watch out for".

[@JHdtx]

Jay Barnes yesss that's a good one

[@sanjaybudhu]

Hot Calzones what a stupid generalization, I wonder which yaphole told you that

[@futuristiccat5636]

This makes me physically mad

[@susenwaclaw9892]

I dont know why but i feel her anxiety just watching this.

[@lialee2868]

"Why are you so quiet?" - "I guess you're loud enough for both of us." "Why don't you ever talk?" - "Ever considered you talk too much?" "Are you anti-social?" - "I prefer to be alone than to spend time with insensitive douchebags." "Come on, give everyone else a chance to talk!" - "Are you trying to be funny?" "Can't you just be normal?" - "What does normal even mean? There is no "normal" when it comes to individuals. If normal means being like you than nawwww.. i don't. I am shy. I don't feel ashamed for it. That's just how I am. You better deal with it or fuck off

[@Whopcap]

Those answers goes thourgh my mind everytime...

[@RaikenXion]

I Completely agree with that stance, good for you! :)

[@christian_k_e]

I hate having this. I cant even go to the grocery store without my hands shaking and sweating and my heart beatng so hard.

[@christian_k_e]

It sucks.

[@destinymarie5645]

i hate when teachers ask me to read and when im too quiet they tel lthe class to be quiet or someone in the class says "WHAT?!" or "i cant hear you"

[@phanicattheparamore5834]

I know right the teacher is so annoying she also thinks I'm ignoring her by looking away when she looks at where I sit

[@seonmi8677]

Omg I can relate

[@GoodOneLULE]

aye aye captain oooooooo btw that happened to me but worst, she told the class to read this page so i read it then she slapped me with the excuse im not reading.

[@sanjaybudhu]

destiny marie I feel like people act like they don’t hear me when I am in class, because I know damn well people all the way in the back of the classroom hears me clearly!

[@iPANDARAWR01]

I have this one classmate that always asks me "Why are you so quiet?" or "You should talk more." Being the nice self I am, I just shrug it off but inside it just pisses me off.

[@xXblauerosenXx]

No, the worst thing is when you finally decided to say something and someone tells you to shut up. It's like being slapped and having a bucket of ice water poured over you.

[@PiercingFanatic94]

"Why are you so quiet" I HATE being asked this. lol

[@1r2a3w4]

Pointing out the fact that you dont talk when you have social anxiety is the WORST, it makes you freeze up and wtf are you supposed to say?? it makes you not wanna say anything even more!

[@Hopearth18x]

Thank you, thank you. I wish all the social people would see this :/

[@luciousgirl971]

My teachers complain that I'm too quiet, Some people think i'm anti- social

[@daddydoot2353]

Theloveofmusic my teacher was going to give me an F because he couldn't hear me well. I'm glad that teacher got fired for being caught drinking during school.

[@GoodOneLULE]

You mean *asocial* .

[@fattshea8085]

Sovereign fuck off

[@GoodOneLULE]

Fatt Adolph Shea what?

[@GoodOneLULE]

Fatt Adolph Shea how? Im just pointing some things out. Antisocial and asocial are not the same.

[@glitter_bomb7260]

I can't eat in front of others and it's really disrupting my school lunch, breakfast, and going out to eat with friends and family :(

[@johairagutierrez6965]

SAME.

[@Suishitaw]

People ALWAYS complain that I'm too quiet. And by people I mean absolutely everyone. I do talk but just to people I feel comfortable with just leave me alone?

[@ryecatcher1366]

It rings true. Five years old the continuos question. Why are you so quiet. Eventually i spoke up with a ring of my classmates around me and i said "Because ive nothing to say" It was true. I had plenty to say- I was incapable of doing it. I do remember that statement to them. They didnt understand. Neither did i. Im 39 years old. Am i happy. no. Im still here functioning. People dont understand true sa. . Its tough. I know one thing though. We see things that they will never see.

[@bfcks]

This is excellent, LS1! You are so articulate, yet you have insight to social phobia. You're an ambassador to explain SA to those on the "outside," and you're able to express what so many feel, but can't express this well!

[@majsteen89]

I really liked this video. Even if I still feel alone with my anxiety in the class room tomorrow, it soothes my mind to know that there are other people out there, great, smart, wonderful persons like you, who goes through the same thing. Thank you for uploading!

[@janemace411]

Thank you so much for sharing! My daughter is newly diagnosed with social anxiety and this video has been very helpful! You did a great job explaining, especially from the view of someone who suffers from social anxiety.

[@misst2147]

Hi:-) Oh my god you are so right!! Its the Same with me. I have a really bad social anxiety..and I really suffer sometimes. Today someone said to me :"can you even talk?" And "you're just smiling all the time. Nothing more." It has hurt a lot. Really, it hurts. Can't someone treat me normally? I'm always the 'quiet girl' and I feel like they won't even give me a chance to say something cause they wouldn't be interested in what I am saying anyway. And when I have the courage to say something I'll be ignored...so what's the point in talking?! Sorry for grammatical mistakes I'm from Germany. Just wanted to say that I love your videos and that I can totally relate to what your saying. It's great being not alone with that problem.

[@marlagraciela4655]

It's really strong of you to actually make this vid and put it up, and thank you so much for that bcus im sure u helped alotta people not feel alone. awesome

[@duckie-LC]

Thanks for uploading. I was nodding the whole way through, I get this all of the time. I was talking with my boss the other day and he asked me what I studied in Uni and I said psychology. And after I got explaining what I wanted to do (therapies) he actually laughed because apparently it's funny me having to talk to people and things. It made me feel sucky :( But having said that, I really think I've made progress. It's uncomfortable and I still have such a hard time, but I know I'll get there. Thanks again my dear, it really helps just to listen to someone else say the same things, it makes me feel normal, because we are.

[@3009teresita]

I totally agree with you... I hate those phrases too. People should know more about these things and social phobia issues. We should all try to let them know. Congratulations for having the courage to post this video! May God bless you:) I'm from Argentina

[@1hahnes]

Thank you so much for this video! I recognize myself far too well in most of these situations, especially the "are you anti-social" part. I actually used to tell myself that I didn't want to talk to people, even that I hated people, because it was easier than admitting that I *couldn't*. To make it a choice, somehow. I'm still struggling with my SA, often feeling terribly alone, but this video made me feel a little bit better and a lot less alone, so thank you ♥

[@CheezInspector]

It's wonderful that you're reaching out to educate others about SA. I wouldn't wait for others to try and understand you. I'd go ahead and tell the people you feel safe around, what's up. There's a lot of nobility and strength in saying, "I feel a little anxious right now, so I'm kind of quiet." That is a perfectly fine thing to do and you'll find most ppl are very understanding once you let them know this ... and you may even hear some ppl say they also feel anxious.

[@backiri]

Thank you for re-posting the video. Really helpful.

[@StLennyBruce]

Girl, I love your #5 monologue. You are so right and on the mark. You're just damned smart. It would be totally cool to hang out with some quiet and cool. You rock. Basically.

[@xxEmilyLynn]

"Don't be so shy!" -.-

[@chargHer1]

I have every anxiety disorder and panic disorder I respect you for posting videos about it all I liked and subscribed! :))

[@daveh.6063]

Thanks for sharing your video and experiences. I suffer the same things. It's always helpful to know there are others who deal with this too.

[@jacobmauk8975]

this video you made is great. im a social phobic and its good to know that someone understands the feelings about comments from other people about me having shyness/socialphobia.

[@pichuanimefan]

One time during pe class someone asked me if I had any friends :/ like why in the world would u ask such question

[@cwalke3408]

A girl I had a crush on once ask me that.

[@pichuanimefan]

cwalke3408 that sucks, if my crush asked me that I would probably lose interest in him >.

[@pichuanimefan]

and omg I did not expect my comment to get that many likes o.o

[@AF-cm1kg]

I loathe the fact that people have the guts to ask that. How can someone be so careless? They don't stop to think of your feelings. People can be so heartless.

[@pichuanimefan]

April Ford yeah people are pretty rude these days.. >.<

[@Picori_Kev1n]

Thank you for uploading this ^_^ I am always a shy/quiet person so thats never going to change.Most of the times, I don't like to talk much. Even if Im with a friend at school during class or break. If someone expect me to say something when I can't think of a word to say then I would go in a panic mode. It the reason why I like to avoid this as much as possible so I don't have to deal with it. I don't get why people dont like it when someone doesn't want to talk or join the conversation. I usually don't feel comfortable being around with people in public unless its a friend of mine or someone from my family. The more crowded it gets, the worst for me. I just feel better when Im alone where I can relax easily & don't worry about someone else. I would get offended easily if someone asked me "if I'm Antisocial" or "can you just be normal. I rather be myself than to pretend to be someone I'm not. I don't have to say anything if I don't want to. .

[@peterpanfan010]

i love this video. i've gotten every single one of these except "why can't you be normal?" (although i've probably gotten it in some other form) so relatable!

[@gingerpearce1730]

btw, good for u for putting urself out there. its increadible that u have to experience a fear of put ing urself in a social situation, yet have the bravery to give urself a voice, with ur own opinion... good for u :)

[@theextexianlibertarian3332]

I've had social anxiety for years, its really a shame because I was always the loud out going type till high school. I was bullied terribly and my home life was ruined by a cruel step father who loved nothing more than to make me feel unwanted, like a nuisance. I couldn't be myself at school or at home and that really did a number on me I guess. I'm 20 now and I'm in college trying to get over this feeling of like I'm some how wrong and shouldn't be there. It sounds like I'm bleeding emo but in all honesty im anything but. To those of you who feel the same way look around you, try to see if you can't find someone else who looks like there going through a similar situation. Having a friend in class or at work to depend on can make this issue seem much more manageable. Its tough but they will be glad you reached out to them!

[@cwalke3408]

I think the best response I had after one of these type of questions was "That's how I always been".

[@stu1195]

making this video is pretty out going imo.i couldnt do it without losing sleep.i find it hard to even post on facebook.good on you and thankyou for the video.you rock!

[@nadineboggon7346]

You made a great video!! Thank you for this, I have met a nice man on a dating site and we have tried to meet a few times but it never worked out. We have texted for a couple months and he had opened up and told me some personal things, when he saw that I was kind, patient and non-judgemental. He just recently told me he had anxiety about meeting people, even if he has talked to them online for yrs. and the longer it goes without meeting the worse it gets and he is desperate to meet me and get through that awkward part. He says he can tell that he will be fine with me once we meet. He said if he knows I'm on my way (he lives an hour away) by the time I get there or if he comes to me, he will be physically ill. So I offered to go to meet him completely unannounced and he loved the idea, because he would have no build up time to stress about. I just hope he opens the door when I get there. Thanks again for the video and I am super patient and would never say any of those horrible, rude things to him. I'm an empath who tends to be a little introverted and can feel for others.

[@alexandradeharo1839]

oh my i totally agree wit u i always get those comments and they jst make me feel worse than i already do and i think that this video really made me feel better knowing that someone meaning u understand hw it feels to have social anxiety disorder so im glad u made this video and that i found it

[@anilkchawla]

Thanks for the video. It was enlightening. We keep on doing the same mistakes which you said one should avoid. Have someone in family with similar problem, so it has been very useful. Thanks.

[@kizzywalsh7841]

I really like this video because it was obviously honest and unpretentious. I could see how you felt, and it was just as interesting as a sketch in vlogger's video.

[@adventuresinwanderland4786]

Hi :) I think you are SO brave to do these videos so big ups to you girl!! I go through so many of the same things. One thing I wanted to say to you about your point number 1 is that you weren't born with social anxiety. You are 'normal' in all the ways that anyone else is 'normal' (whatever 'normal' is lol). I think we socially anxious people probably started out very sensitive and along the way have been influenced by family (you said in another one of your videos that you have very different opinions from your parents - and I suspect you never felt ok to voice those properly to them?), events and other people in our lives. We worry and we are fearful but so are 'normal' people, they just worry about other things than we do. I just wanted to say try not to add to your difficulties by thinking that you were born different. You weren't, you have just ended up with your fears controlling you. You were born (and are) completely human and 'normal'!!! Be strong you will win xxx

[@adena539]

"you're too quiet" .. this is the comment that makes us feel even more out of place! I used to make an attempt at breaking out of my shell when someone would say that.. I ended up just making the situations awkward and/or embarrassing.. I still cringe and feel ashamed at those memories

[@chonsk8s4chore]

I can really relate to this video! It has always been the worst question, as you said, not only if were quiet in the first place is this going to be hard to answer, but it will send us to that negative thinking, where you get down on yourself for not being louder or more outgoing! Loved the video, and hope to hear some feedback! Thanks! :)

[@binp7863]

One time a complete stranger started talking to me and in the middle of the conversation he said, "You seem nervous--are you nervous?" Of course, I said no, but you know how it is with SA. Then later I'm thinking to myself, "WTH?!?!" If I seemed nervous, why would you ask me that--chances are I'm very aware that I'm nervous and you pointing it out will just make it worse. I hate it when people say any of those things to me.

[@u4u51]

well done for posting this. people who make those kind of comments are ignorant and dont understand.I always take pride in the fact that all the people ive met who have this are the nicest, most caring, non judgemental and understanding people youll ever meet. we shouldnt have to be the ones struggling to fit into society, society should be more like us.

[@talitaff1]

Great video! Btw, you're really cute! I've heard specially #5 and #4 a lot, and they piss me off so much. The wrost part is being too afraid to call on these kind of people, you know, tell them that that's not something appropriated to say and that they've hurt you. Usually I just smile and say "oh, that's just the way I am", but I wish I could tell them to stfu.

[@KathrynChung]

Thanks for making this video, I can definitely agree with about everything you said also being a SAD sufferer. Btw, you are extremely endearing and charismatic. :) Keep on being you.

[@leafside]

I understand what youv said here so well. There is nothing worse that people calling attention to one's quietness, without realising what conflict that person is already going through. Something else that makes things worse is relating to OURSELVES as NOT normal... What's being normal? Part of my social anxiety is the pressure to be normal, to integrate like "normal" people do. And the weird thing is...so many people suffer from one form of social anxiety to another, but wev all got different ways of showing it, or...not showing it...That can be by being overly loud and in everyone's faces, to drinking or taking drugs excessively, to simply being quiet and more aloof. WE need to start taking it more easy on ourselves. Take the pressure off. And realise that we are not alone in feeling alone and cut off.

[@ThePurplenessness]

Oh my goodness...your thought processes are exactly like mine! Went to a therapist for the first time the other day and they said I thought too much. So there you go.

[@jjojjorge]

Typical clueless therapist. "Therapist"

[@jjojjorge]

RE4uk Wow !! Unholy psychological prejudice !! I just did !! Bad compound word =/

[@tsjasmine28]

Nice video, you are an out going person! for a social phobic, and that is coming from someone with social phobia, i know how hard it is to make videos, i haven't crossed that threshold yet, but i'm glad you did!

[@alght7]

I relate to mostly 4 and 5. You have a great sense of humor!

[@esterak7344]

Thank you for the video. Everything was explained perfectly. What a bright young lady! People don't understand how annoying and hurtful their comments can be. Why don’t we turn the tables on the insensitive person who asks such a stupid question. So next time they ask “why are you so quiet” we’ll come back with “funny, I always wanted to ask you why you never stop running your mouth. It’s dizzying hearing you talk all day….” I also hate it when people comment about how I get red. Ugh!

[@xoHaveFaith]

I can't really help this, but you're really pretty. You seem like a really cool person to be around (I know someone said this down in the comments down there but it's true) and I hope you've gotten better in the time it took me to find this video.

[@ashleymarler28]

I also hate it when people call me "the quiet one." It's like hello I have a name.

[@IlluminataX]

Thank you soooo much for making this video!

[@tripledoublegainz3612]

Lavendarskies, I too suffer from sa and I totally relate to this video. You are pretty and seem like a thoughtful, smart, sweet person and have a nice voice. It's a shame that in order to be 'normal' we are expected to talk a lot. I hate small talk and social gatherings. It all just seems so contrived to me. The most shallow waters are those that make the most noise ;) It took a lot of courage to post this video and you did a nice job :)

[@ryecatcher1366]

Then again some people are just insightful bullies. i.e .. sociapathic. Yet they lose out because they dont feel the same. I think you are great. Good for you to do this. Courage and insight.

[@norevelation]

I actually understand the way you interpret this video, and am willing to accept that. When I viewed the video, it flustered me because I do have a social phobia, and in this video she came off as expecting others should change the way they are so she could be comfortable. To me, that seems wrong, and I wouldn't expect others to change just because I can't accept the way they are, and they treat people. I appreciate you treating me like a person, though... everyone else makes me hate people more

[@stacyedwards35]

you explained things fine, you are bearing out faults we have and its hard... i like your video I feel the same way about all this... thank you for being brave!

[@cookiesxcream7495]

Im the quietest one in class.. I dont usually hang out with my classmates cause their personality is wierd and hard to get on (and bullies). Teachers love me the most the rest of the class, (teachers pet XD). I only hang out with one friend at a time in recess... and this video is soooo relatable.. My classmates kept saying those stuffs to me always. QwQ.....

[@rabbles9122]

(continues) Event though i may be insensitive in dealing with someone with SA, i do know it takes a lot of courage to make a video like this one and posting it in KZbin. You are helping a lot of people. Loved your cat too :) I'll take a look at your other videos. Thank you!

[@CaitlinCooks]

You hit it right on point! Haha, I hear those 5 things ALL too often. So you're not alone in this...I can relate to everything you said....stay strong!!! :-)

[@kesharoseserbert12]

You explained everything very well. ;) I get those comments very often. I guess I'm really having the same problem. All this time I thought that I'm just shy not anti-social or social phobic. Looks like I was wrong. Great video, by the way. :)

[@WhenMelSings]

You just like spelled out my entire life. Thank you for making this! I subscribed. (:

[@georgyrum4]

hey great video, I hope things have gotten slightly better for you, number 4 was oh so true for me, some ppl can be so incensitve without thinking for just a second. Anyways keep up the vids :)

[@Tijopi11]

For me, the most annoying one is the gasp and sarcastic "IT SPEAKS?" comment after I finally choose to say something. I was waiting for an opening to say something through that entire exchange and also waiting to say something relevant/important because other forms of communication just aren't worth the effort. If I find the nerve to say something, I don't need a sarcastic comment following it that'll make me wish I hadn't said anything at all. And believe me, any sly words about my quiet nature, no matter how you phrase it, is nothing new to me (and YES my personality isn't a secret and telling me I'm shy isn't a revelation to me or anybody.)

[@Tijopi11]

***** Man I get that comment every time I meet someone new, no joke. I mean I don't want to be a jerk about it but I don't think people realize I've heard it several times. I guess I'm expected to be super outgoing and talkative to strangers but I'm just not like that? Some people just need to get to know their friends first before they can be that way with them- it takes time. Also thanks, I hope we can all find close friends like that someday if you havent already :)

[@katehennessey3619]

Thank you for this video 🥺💗

[@xraygirl29]

This was a great vid. I share many of the same feelings on the topics you discussed.

[@lapingocha5]

nice vid girl, i send you my good vibes from czech republic, i hope you get to overcome the social anxiety thing, i think you are doing a good job, :D

[@lauritzen93]

I get number 5 and 2 all the time! I actually got number 2 yesterday.. Again. I have just always been "the quiet girl".. It really sucks. Thanks for posting this, it really made me feel better :)

[@keith138]

thank you for this, 36 years and ive never heard someone else express how irritating things like 'don't be so quiet' are. being an introvert at all in this world is tough, even though probably half of us are. thank you again! much love!

[@AmberWerner90]

This is the most relatable youtube video I have ever watched. I am almost 25 years old and I've suffered social anxiety my entire life. Even at work as an adult the other day my boss said, "you really need to put yourself out there and speak up more you're TOO QUIET". I HATEE it. I've heard these exact comments my entire life. I think people need to mind their own business. Be yourself :)

[@girlpower148]

i can totally relate to everything you're saying, people need tor realise that people are quiet and not everyone has to be loud and expressive. Out of all five the one that upsets me the most is the one when people joke about it by saying 'eurgh do you ever shut up' or 'wow ... you're so loud please be quiet' it's so fucking disrespectful. Anyone who has this phobia please realise it's okay to be quiet just because some people may feel it's a negative doesn't mean it is.

[@MsSunnySideUP4U]

Hello, LavenderSkies1! I really enjoyed watching your video. It was very informative and it wonderful that you are so brave and wanting to help others with Social Anxiety. I found this for my sister because you both can relate a lot. I hope it helps her. :D

[@GaryFosterThrive]

Your 5 points are very valid ... As I help many people reduce their social anxiety a good tip to add on how to reduce or eliminate it is this. Work on building your self esteem whilst changing your locus of control from external to internal. One of the best ways to improve your self esteem is to take a few moments, 3 x per day to go through a list of 10 things you feel the most proud about in your life and immerse yourself in the positive feelings to get the insight into these experiences

[@theukeduke1116]

I would actually say that posting this is very outgoing. By your breathing I can tell that your very very nervous, but the fact that you went through with it shows a lot of control over your emotions. Keep it up!

[@sexyuglyx]

Thanks for this. It's nice to know others are like me out there :) You're really pretty by the way.

[@MrWilhelmer]

That´s a great video! Thanks for sharing it!

[@iloveperkins]

Hey great video! I identified with it and found it funny :D I got a couple of stupid awards too as a result of my social anxiety. One was for being the second most anti social person in my year group, and the 2nd was actually from a teacher for being the "strong and silent" person of my class. I tried to smile, but someone still asked me why I was grumpy. I mean what on earth!? How could they think that giving me an award for being quiet was something I'd love! I didn't keep the certificate!

[@DarinBrownlee]

thank you for the informative video. I think you did great! I enjoyed the video

[@kalinakredl2868]

I love your video. I can totally relate. I wish people would be more understanding and know how hurtful their comments and questions can be. I mean in face to face situations and online. I am glad you made this video. You are brave. I am disappointed with the people who wrote negative comments, though. You have no control over what they wrote.

[@chevibolbu]

Very true...i have gotten all of these comments all my life. I have come to realize that people who don't have social anxiety can really never understand what we go through. It's as simple as that. Even it you try to explain. But anyway great video.

[@weifanchen1136]

Your video comfort me! I hate people say "You're too quiet."and"Why don't you ever talk?" and after they say that I just feel more uncomfortable and more unconfident in that situation.

[@wholiddleolme476]

When someone says any of the above I now respond with "I'm having conversations with myself" that really gets them wondering, and while it's sometimes true and they usually think I'm being ridiculous, so they leave me alone. Mission accomplished! :)

[@talitaff1]

Haha that's such a great response! I'll start using it from now on! Like "Oh, you're so quiet!!!!!" "Well, not in my mind." / "Why don't you ever talk to anyone?" "Cause I'm too busy talking to myself."

[@wholiddleolme476]

Catty Idk LOL That'll get them thinking for sure! :)

[@laurenmungaray3912]

i do that to but sometimes i laugh at myself and people think am crazy and they leave me alone. well it worked yay!!!!

[@SuperAmzy1]

Thanks for that XD I am using that from now on... I'm already labelled the "weird" one so this will be hilarious! "I'm having conversations with the dead." Lol

[@Nyx666x]

I've gotten all of them before except number 3. Number 2 is probably the worse, because I've never had an answer to it. If I knew why I wasn't talking, like properly knew, then I would be talking, you know? It actually makes my anxiety worse and makes me feel really down. Like you said, it's even more annoying when you actually make an effort, and then you feel like what's the point. I feel exactly the same about that. Thanks for posting this video.

[@tomb.7647]

The problem, I think, is that so few pple know about Social Anxiety, they don't even know it's a disorder. Like, they think we are shy and quiet by choice. So we get all these stupid comments like "Why don't you talk?", "Come on, speak your mind!" or even worse "Don't be shy".. yeah, like I can stop being shy just like that, out of the blue. It takes a lot of time and effort to overcome it. Mostly with the help of specialists. I'm 30 yrs old and I'm still not done with it. It's painful, hurts every single day and hinders your social life. Thanks for putting up this video, I hope it'll get pple to understand what it is to be social phobic.

[@TopLobsters]

You talk so well and you're very beautiful. I can relate to everything you talk about also.

[@carlkitchen]

I do the 'Sure bud' head nod with the stupid grin when people say things like that to me. (Stupid look for a stupid question/statement) The worst one though is when people try to put the spotlight on me to talk like I'm being ignored. Like my worst nightmare.

[@micky22307]

Thanks for making this video, i really like it :)

[@Tampa0123456789]

Basically what she said is DON"T PUT US IN THE SPOTLIGHT. That's why i have started calling it Social Shame. We get embarrassed easily. Most people you will meet who have anxiety have Shame issues.

[@ChristieRogersvloggingcorner]

I agree with all of these things!! The things you mentioned usually happen to me and it's so annoying. -_- People always tell me to speak up, and that annoys me so much.

[@Bandaripad]

Woooooow just wow....so brave!! Thank you for this.... Luv it :3

[@beyourpetchannel]

Agree w/ all of these. One I get ALL the time that I HATE: "Why don't you smile. Life can't be all that bad", "Are you a sad person? I see sadness in your eyes" "Smile, it won't kill you". I guess it tend to have a flat affect expression a lot when in social situations because of the anxiety, my brain is all over the place just trying to deal with the anxiety of being around others so I tend to either have a lack of expression, or inappropriate response expressions. You're really pretty btw!

[@beerbunny123]

you are so STUNNING

[@sarenatheyanderegoth4282]

in sixth grade we got like... awards at the end of the year and I got "the quietest" and I was really disappointed because I wanted "the best artist"... I have social anxiety also btw