Anxiety: Hibernate, Adapt, or Migrate: Summer Beretsky at TEDxWilliamsport

[@nateisnotemo]

I see in the comments some people don't get her point. I think this is one of the best TED talks I've seen. I recently resigned from my job because I was falling into a deep whole, and left for a job that pays less, and is less prestigious. I was feeling like a bit of a failure like a lot of people would. Looking back now, I can see that at first I tried to adapt, then I hibernated, and then I had the courage to migrate. Her point is that it's ok to do what's best for you, when you feel like the world is telling you the right thing to do is the opposite.

[@k8h991]

nbroleur I totally agree.

[@GraveyardThought]

I am where you were then. Hru now?

[@nateisnotemo]

@@GraveyardThought Good, haven't regretted that decision since :)

[@AmbiencePT]

I used to take breaks at work just to lock myself in the toilet, catch my breath and try to stop all the shaking. Anxiety is a living hell ! Don't get yourself cornered like I did ! DO WHAT YOU LOVE, use nature for healing, slowly it will get better believe me...

[@Knaeben]

+AmbiencePT Thank you for sharing that.

[@auomazaret3126]

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[@wearabe8259]

My panic attacks are diffrent everytime, although usually they are triggered by something, i have had attacks while lying in bed trying to fall asleep. scariest thing ever! so glad i have not had one in public.. things are much better now!!! I have not had an attack in over 5 month snow… Here’s how => 60SecondPanicSolution9.blogspot.com ___

[@thebeveffect9325]

I also struggle with anxiety, and I am trying desperately to start up a global support group by writing my own thoughts and sharing them with anyone willing to read. You can visit my website at www.thebeveffect.com and check it out if you want! :)

[@gavinobarrera6588]

Reeder Joann

[@Spider_7_7]

There are LOTS of people who struggle with anxiety. Many of them suffer in silence, so you may not always know who is anxious or not.

[@CantWeedThis]

Especially when you have anxiety about the fact you have anxiety. And try you're hardest to hide it like a poker player.

[@toddebert7363]

@@CantWeedThis iinjjiniilniiinin

[@TheKrazyLobster]

She describes panic attacks with such precision and perfection... Wow. You're not alone, sister.

[@Bubbles_L]

No one was really supportive when I was no longer able to attend high school. Not many people really get it. I was litterally unable to function. At the beginning of the year I would try and try, telling myself that this year would be different than last. I wouldn't be a slacker like last year. but every year I gradually just shut down. My teachers could tell something was wrong but I never even understood it myself. I was just called lazy and undetermined. But I was absolutely exhausted. Even when I shut down and quit doing any work at school at all, I would still feel completely overwhelmed. I even struggle with online school. But I manage.

[@maximilian333]

good for you kid. schools can be unsupportive, toxic environments, especially if you are marginalized. I do believe that college can be so much better, and there is always the option of online college especially for freshman courses that transfer. Also, Yoga or meditation can be very empowering for people with anxiety/stress and that's a fact proven by medical science.

[@riddlescom]

Do a complete blood test work up. Test for vitamins. Hormones thyroid. Your neurotransmitters are what make you feel good. Your receptors are shut down. Find a good urologist. You can get well. Don't suffer. Find out. What's wrong. And treat it ....

[@ineedhelpinmath100]

Wow this is me. Never have I been able to relate this much to one comment.

[@maximilian333]

Chickylala the challenge is to hang on to your maverick spirit while grabbing enough of the training/skills you need along the way. College is easier than high school if you are self-directed. Whatever you study in college, get the basic courses in business especially math, accounting, marketing, and mgmt, in case you want to turn your passion (whether that's art, veterinary practice, singing, web design etc. into a real living later on. Because starving artists who can't sell, market, or manage a project... are a dime a dozen.

[@nirel3k]

thank u for sharing this somehow after reading this i felt less lonely

[@nightfire734]

It's crazy to hear her and see comments of so many people with similar situations, experiences, and thought processes. This gives me hope, I hope it did for you too reader.

[@PrincessAllie]

My favorite part of this is where she shared the "spill water on yourself" method for escaping uncomfortable situations. Thank you for this. I'm totally going to start using it. (horrendous social anxiety over here with me)

[@jessew6437]

Princess Allie ha ha yeah!

[@1moderntalking1]

I really feel for u. I have it too. U are not alone. Try find out what's driving your anxiety. Mine is my desire to please everyone, to be valued and having been constantly given instruction instead of affirmation from my mum.

[@lraejo]

This is the second time I am watching this video. The first time I watched this video, I had previously had a very bad panic attack at work, and it was awful just as Summer describes it. The sensations I felt led me to think I was having a heart attack or dying.. yes it's that intense. A few weeks later, I moved to California as planned with my boyfriend. I work at a large retail company, so I was transferring to a new store. For the first two months, things were great. Then all of a sudden, I had a more mild panic attack while trying to complete a transaction at the register. This time, I recognized what was happening, and had to politely ask another employee to finish the transaction because I could no longer focus and I needed to step away from the floor. From that day, my anxiety got worse, and worse at work. I started to dread going in there. I've worked for this company for almost three years and have mastered the register... so why now am I not able to ring someone out? All I can say is that when your body goes into panic, your brain is under siege and it is EXTREMELY hard to concentrate and focus on the task you are trying to complete. Something as easy as having a conversation, counting change, or, figuring out a transaction can be terribly difficult simply because you can't focus when your heart is beating out of your chest. I would have some good days, but now I was fearing doing returns, fearing taking someones cash, fear of having a rude customer which is part of the reason I believe my panic started because I work at a very expensive department store where customers tend to be very snobby at times. This is getting long, but I have not been to work in two weeks. I have tried CBT therapy with a workbook that I ordered where I'm supposed to write down my feelings etc. It did not help. I quit drinking coffee, joined a gym, tried self hypnosis, and the panic at work got worse. I would sit outside on a bench and cry. Currently, I am on a medical leave, and have started some medication, which bums me out. I have always been a normal, very fun and outgoing person my whole life until now. I've always worked with the public and loved talking to strangers. I even lived with two people in past that had anxiety and I just did not understand it. It's impossible to understand until you feel it. So, sitting here, not working, I remembered this video from two months ago, and I feel like I am going through exactly what Summer went through. I have been on Laprexo for two weeks. Has it helped? I'm not really sure because I haven't been at work, and haven't had panic outside work.. ever. So I think she has given me an answer here. Clearly, I am not being supported by my job anymore, and maybe it is time for me to migrate. I'm writing this as a long comment because for anyone that has anxiety at work, you are not alone. Anxiety can be a very "alone" feeling because you just want to be back to the old you. Thank you summer for this Ted talk. Good luck to everyone reading this.

[@mzraparslan6622]

The best way,get up early in the morning,go for awalk ,summer breez and fresh air makes you feel better that is the best theraphy.Just try never give up .

[@anhihong]

Thank you for sharing this, I am recently suffering similar symptoms like yourself. I am still at the early stages, where I am getting checked out. Physical first, then will move onto mental side. I wanted to rule out any physical part of me thats causing this anxiety as I get back pain, especially around the shoulder blades and neck...then next thing, I get panicky and my heart races. I too was ignorant before, when I met people who suffer from this. I wouldn't say I trivialized the situation, but yes I never realized how much this impacts everyday quality of life. I feel hopeless at times, and reflecting on how bad I want to get back to myself again. I hope you find peace, I am still searching for mine. Good luck

[@anhihong]

Nicklas Sandum Thanks for your kind words Nick, appreciated it. My anxiety issues are only fairly recent. At 34yrs old, I have never previously experience any panic or anxiety attack. About a year ago, I had a accident in the bathroom, slipped and knocked myself unconscious. After some scans (MRI/CT) there was only a hairline fracture and some muscle spasm found in the spine. However I developed pulsatile Tinnitus from the head injury, When taking a 2nd MRI scan to check the ears, I had my 1st panic attacked (couldn't breathe, hyperventilating) inside the machine...and failed to complete the scan. Since then I had episodes where I feel claustrophobic, or get panicky when sitting down for too long (dentist, getting a haircut...) its been weird.

[@jeremyfoster4232]

Lydia Johnson Check out Hope and Help for Your Nerves by Claire Weeks. I know what you are going through.

[@breakthelimite]

+Nicklas Sandum thank you so much for your post, I too feel the same way and I'm grateful to read your post and find common ground :)

[@notsoseriousmoonlight]

Wow! I am stunned by her story. It's like she absolutely described my own situation. I've tried so damned hard to adapt, and nada. I'm in a non-supportive environment at work and other places. I've finally reached the point after 6 years of struggling with anxiety that I'm just too tired to fight anymore. I've finally hit the give up point. I haven't quit my job though. The real issue is control. I felt that I had no control of important areas of my life. In fact, I have had recurring dreams of driving a car from the passenger seat or the backseat... now I freaking GET the message! I have taken steps to start my own business, and I am so happy and excited! I know I have more personal work do, but I feel a new level of control that had been missing. Not sure how I will feel still facing my job, but now at least I understand. THANK YOU, Summer Beretsky!!!

[@kottefjun]

My panicattacks really kicked of after graduating collage, because I didn't see how I would be able to get a job. About 8 months later I was employed at an ad agency and the panic got better because I could take my mind of it. But slowly I started hating my workplace and It just felt completely useless and uninspiring for me. I could get panic attacks when getting of the train on my way to work. But I just powered through. I knew I should quit but I didn't see how any other job could be better. One time my stress level was so high I got all the symptoms of a stroke, loss of feel, not being able to talk properly, not being able to walk straight etc. I had to spend the night at the hospital, but luckily things got back to normal and I took a week of to clear my mind. After three years, the agency decided to close - and I saw it as my chance to get out. I wanted to freelance and to be my own boss. Some people told me I was to sensitive to freelance. And I was afraid that the uncertain life of a freelancer would bring a lot more panicattacks. But it didn't! I've survived my first year! I've worked as a photographer and just had a publisher accept my children's book. I achieved every goal I set out for this year. Your capable of anything, even with panic attacks! And above all, I think everyone who has them should talk openly about it so it doesn't stay as such a taboo subject.

[@gr3ypuq636]

Wow, good job!

[@NoobMaster-or2jf]

How's it going now? Have you been able to achieve happiness at last ?

[@demmdem105]

proud of you sm 👏🏻🌟

[@calliewright2946]

Hey, thanks for saying it's possible even *with* the panic attacks! I get scared sometimes that I'll never achieve my dreams because the anxiety will stop me, but then that just makes the anxiety worse and helps with ***nothing*** But I appreciate you saying "Yeah this can still be a problem but it doesn't have to stop you/define you.

[@polyglotcoach3193]

"There is a very small difference between a breakdown and a breakthrough : with a breakthrough you extract the value and use it to improve your life". Well that's an idea that can change a person's life. Thank you so much!

[@rivasmeredith]

This made me bawl my eyes out. First it was how accurately she described panic attacks and anxiety, then it was when she said, "you can not go on to do great things if you do not write your own script". I needed to watch this video and I will probably need to revisit it a hundred more times. It can make you feel so disheartened and alone to go through a mental disorder when your family or friends have no idea what it's like for you. This was so inspiring to hear someone's story of how they overcame the awful reality of anxiety.

[@chocoberry3844]

Yes. The worst part of it is people around you dont understand what it is to feel anxious , shaky, nervous, having palpitations and cold feet and that annoying nausea. It breaks my heart to know how poorly mental health is dealt with in my country.

[@AnneCH139]

+Meredith Rivas ... For any sort of Anxiety consider learning EFT, Faster EFT from some one you can relate to from you tube. Wear earphones and say words out loud (when you are on your own is best). You are tapping on Chinese Governor points. Recently I learnt about gut bacteria and how feeding the wrong bacteria with sugar and carbs amplifies emotional feelings. Consider also Qi-gong (breathing), Tai chi Chuan 24 form (for all organs & muscles in body). Once learnt it feels like a meditation in Motion. There are lots of good you tube Meditations e.g. Doreen Virtue and Deepak Chopras 21 day challenge.

[@DTA1313]

I've suffered from anxiety my whole life - anytime im in an environment where someone is going to look over my shoulder or give me a deadline, I have an underlying feeling of utter fear - even though I am quite confident and successful, and haven't failed at anything i've undertaken. The anxiety remains. I believe a lot of it has to do with the genetic make up of my mind & body as most pills and therapies never worked. The only thing that worked is to REMOVE the trigger of the panic, in whatever form. Blessed to have a mom who is a mental health specialist :) And a naturopathic healer! So she allowed me to make decisions like swapping schools or quitting jobs like it was a brave, good thing to do - because when you're not happy - you're not in the right place. She never even made it a big deal. Because, it isn't. Each one of us is so unique, and by squandering that potential and talent by sitting behind a desk everyday is ludicrous in my eyes. No one will understand what depression and anxiety feels like unless they've been through it, and suffer from it everyday. Simple things feel a million times harder, and making friends/lovers is a task that seems so monumentally bleak that its a lot of constantly feeling alone, or telling yourself you're not crazy, you're just different and highly sensitized.

[@AviAssayag]

I don't usually post comments on stuff, but I just HAD to THANK YOU FOR THIS. I really really do!

[@Zgembo121]

u should post more comments on stuff

[@breakthelimite]

When I first started getting anxiety attacks I really thought I was dying lol but that made me realized I wasn't happy and that made me pursue the reason why I was having anxiety attacks. I was trying to adapt so hard that i didn't put into account my emotional and physical health. I decided to start reading books like "as a man thinked" and "the meaning of life" ... Some tony Robbins videos helped too lol but all that made me take back control of my life... I use to work non stop, no sleep, and still buried in debt, I felt no progress. Until like i said I took control of my life again... I no longer have anxiety attacks . I changed my job, I go to school and I'm more conscious about my health :) I know that if I can do it there is definitely hope for most of us. I'm sorry I didn't write well enough but I hope that this could bring hope the same way listening to ppl who over cane helped me :)

[@taylorcaldwell2767]

Jonathan Gallardo what you wrote just gave me sooo much hope ❤️

[@INNO222]

She's right about support. One of the best resources for success in life in my very humble opinion.

[@NicoleJhaziel]

Amazing, it's crazy how a person can deliver such a message for your life without even knowing. thank you so much Summer.

[@thehonest14]

Nicole Romero Everyone who is reading this, only with meditation u will past anxiety , every day 5 min meditation for 3-4 months it will past, trust me , i have been with anxiety for 13 years ore more. tell other people too that is a cure with meditation (sorry for bad english) share please

[@artephius7]

Thank you, I listened to almost all of TED's. And I must say that was of great importance for people who have this kind of experience like panic disorder. As fear and anxiety feeds your panic, it feeds my depersonalization disorder. I think just people who were crushed by this life changing experiences of pain know what is to fear, and to want true freedom. This people who are ultra sensitive, have to finally admit that they dont fit. And search, calm down, and live the world that they are confortable in.

[@michellestaunton2264]

This young women has helped me this day!

[@chadrickwilson8587]

yes she did by the way I love you! :)

[@kathymyers7279]

Me too. The tingling!

[@stefannr1302]

Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven

[@Miruska5]

My anxiety started half a year ago when I was studying for my bachelor´s degree examination. When I was writing my thesis, I could not shake the feeling I have no idea what I´m writing about, that it´s a horrible thesis. Every time my counselor had some objections, told me to do it over, I felt really stupid. Slowly, I began to have trouble to get out of bed, I was scared to wake up, because I knew I had to work on my thesis + attend classes. I got nauseous, I was trembling and I was crying a lot. I started to have negative thoughts about myself, about my work, how I´m useless and how I will never finish the university. When the time came to study for my examination, I was blocked. I´ve visited a psychiatrist, she got me some pills, but the anxiety was still there. Pills just made me sleepy and the thought that you waste your time lying in bed increased the anxiety even more...But I had to go on, there was no way to quit. Nobody understood what was happening to me....The day of examination, I was so nervous I cried in front of my classmates and it was pretty embarrassing. But luckily, I´ve managed to collect myself and I´m happy to say I´ve obtained my degree :) However, my studies continue (master´s degree) and in 2 weeks I´m supposed to return to school. I was fine whole summer, without any anxiety. Now? That bastard is coming back again. I´m sure that school is my trigger, however, sometimes you have no way to escape that "bad environment" because your future depends on it and to quit school is something you cannot do without feeling pangs of conscience. These days I´m scared of everything- ruining my future, failing classes, to say something wrong, to be criticized and especially TO MAKE A MISTAKE. (sorry for my english and for a long comment)

[@Miruska5]

+No Racism Thank you, I am! :) Somehow, I managed to control my anxiety, it´s still not perfect and I´m fighting it, but I´m on my way. I hope that everyone in here is doing better as well :) Don´t lose hope!

[@astonmartinone100]

Can relate to you to an almost absolute degree. I am just starting my first year of college with diagnosed anxiety, tried paroxetine and all that good stuff. Just wanted to know, how have you been doing since the time you posted this? Any tips for a fellow anxiety pal?

[@NazzChesini]

This is my day to day life at med school. It eats you away, and you become a shadow of yourself. I don't even know who I am anymore, but you simply can't quit. So I am powering through, I will graduate or die trying, there is no way out of this.

[@calliewright2946]

Also a student here, also dealing with anxiety, hardcore relate to what you say and super glad to hear you're pushing through! For me and friends who also have bad school/work anxiety, I think a lot of our issue is not actually school struggles, but severe perfectionism and difficulty seeing anything we do as good. That might be a place to start.... I'm hoping to work through that specifically myself. Noticing when it's perfectionism talking had already done a ton to help.

[@Miruska5]

@@calliewright2946 You are absolutely right! :) It's been six years already since I posted this comment and I am doing a lot better. Still, I cannot stop being hard on myself and being perfectionist at everything I do, but I don't get "heart attacks" anymore. We need to uderstand that people do not think about us that much as we think they are. We are the ones overanalyzing the situation, overthinking the consequences. World will not collapse just because we made a mistake, did not pass a class, did not reach our weigh goal, etc. Important thing is to try as hard as we can, without putting pressure on ourselves. I believe this is linked also to type of personality one has (I'm INFJ, lol :D ), the environment he/she lives in, so some people deal with it better than others. But it WILL get better, trust me :) I could not imagine surviving university and here I am! :) You will definitely pull through :)

[@shericewillis1006]

This TedTalk was amazing! Excellent message and great speaker. Kudos to her for not even needing the stool!

[@vivigesso3756]

Whats makes me feel awful is the fact about how she could be this way without anyone saying "Wow, you need some time off work." What a great world our corps. have created.

[@ThomasRogan19]

Thank you so much for this, this whole time I thought I was alone in feeling anxiety to this level. I'm struggling to leave my house, go to college, I'm losing all my friends and I'm becoming seriously unfit and I only blame myself. I'm usually very active with sports, very social and love people and I enjoy huge challenges, but for some unknown reason, this hit me bigger than it has in the past. I'm being driven insane because I know I'm not living up to my own capability and I can't find a way to get out of this stupid mess my brain is in. I CONSTANTLY feel sick to the point that I just sit in my bathroom, waiting to be sick but it never ever happens. Thank you for sharing your personal experience and you've given me hope that their is a way out to bigger and better things.

[@typsom]

as someone who has lived through this experience almost verbatim, it feels really good to know someone else on the planet understands

[@mori.kurogawa7936]

She's actually lucky that her body rebelled so violently against the situation. Others don't get to that necessary low point which pushed you away from an unhealthy environment. And they get stuck forever.

[@CrazyRachel1984]

Wow, I think I was supposed to find this video just now! That brought me to tears- I have had that almost exact experience. I have recently been confined to my home due to panic disorder for 4 months, and just finally considering the huge scary step to relocate or "migrate" and you just validated that choice for me! I didn't even know it but I have been going through the hibernate, acclimate or migrate... thank you So much for helping me decide!!!

[@CWilliamsPaul]

I think I was supposed to find this one right now as well. I literally just quit my Job 5 minutes before finding this video right now.... A decision I've struggled with for a while..

[@MsHeather47]

I hope things are going well for you both! I too am overcoming panic disorder as well as agoraphobia one day at a time. We can do it!

[@6u..]

it's comforting to know other people have similar experiences. funny you guys say you were supposed to find this video. i too, only a couple of days ago discovered that due to generalized anxiety disorder i spent most of my life in the hibernation mode. it was a life changing to discover why almost every single thing, action, thought was defined and ultimately determined by anxiety indoctrinated and ingrained in my childhood. and upon discovering that i realized i had no idea what it FEELS like to ENJOY even the most simple things. so i think, upon letting go of anxiety we are meant to replace it with enjoyment. it's of course impossible to completely eradicate stress out of your life as the only control we have is upon ourselves, but i believe that if we maximize positive emotions whenever possible even in the smallest ways it will be hugely benefit us. it's like she said - it's about gaining back control over your decisions that matters and focusing on what you CAN do as opposed to what you have no control over

[@rhsb553]

I have battled Anxiety & Depression over half of my life. A few years ago, I began having panic attacks - with no obvious triggers. Basically, this girl is telling my story - except I am still stuck in the job that is slowly sucking the life out of me. I would LOVE to quit, except I have nothing else lined up (not for lack of trying) and I can't afford to just walk away. (Rent, electricity and groceries don't get paid out of thin air.) I have no savings to fall back on, because I am living paycheck-to-paycheck. I am still trying and praying for the day that I can walk out of this horrible office for the last time, and go live a life that doesn't make me physically ill from stress, Anxiety & Depression. I want to not dread my drive to work - at least not as much as I do now.

[@misfire0027]

Panic attacks and depression in general are horrible. I had my first panic attack at 10 and have had them for 19 years now. No platitudes or good intentions can pull you out of it but if you'd like to try what I do then I hope it helps. I repeat to myself 'this feeling wont last' - it doesn't, you will laugh again trust me. Slow your heart rate by taking slow slow slow deep belly breaths. less oxygen- less excess blood flow - less cortisol (panic fuel) Keep going, it gets better.

[@kristenlarsen319]

Love this advice @misfire0027- I do the exact same, except I say "these are just sensations".

[@bradgotch]

Toni Spaulding I've been there and I'm lucky I was able to flee my situation after trying to make it work for 6months. I hope you can make a change I know what you're going through and I would not wish that on any one or anything.

[@clanmacbeth7057]

If you're still around I hope you are doing BETTER xxxx💜💜💜

[@christinadumas]

I just quit my job. I needed this. Thank you.

[@hadwel8509]

Spending time in nature and meditating will help to make you calm and grounded so that you can have some energy to face the world problems.

[@rumimoves]

Acceptance is so important. Stop fighting. Yes, give up. Thank you Summer.

[@kevindavid7669]

That just made me even more anxious. Valuable information, sovereignty is important... but your anxiety is contagious.

[@dikshachakrarti1014]

Summer, this is a good piece and well done on taking control of your life. As a therapist I often see people suffering needlessly because they are (1) not given tools, and (2) not helped to elucidate their options. So much can be achieved by simply informing and empowering sufferers of anxiety and depression and staying around to support them through this tough time. Mastery, Autonomy and Purpose - absolute must haves for us all, sadly though too many people simply either hibernate or try and adapt, making their situation worse like you experienced and not too many people make the leap into migration. No single approach will help everyone but please don't give up trying to look for a management solution and no Summer, I am talking about continuing in the same vein hoping it will all change, but getting a better understanding of the condition of anxiety and seeing what options for management are available. Good luck.

[@jank3915]

It's very hard, if you can't find any kind of support. I was home bound for 6 years. I lost everything, now, people don't even believe me, that I have a college degree. how can you feel better about yourself. .....

[@raerae5306]

I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder 22 years ago. I suffered silently for 1 year before breaking down and telling my mother what was going on. I was sure I was losing my mind. I panicked when alone, or in crowds. I panicked at home and at work. Exposure therapy didn't work because there wasnt just 1 area of my life that suffered. Medication helped, but telling the people in my daily life helped the most. Don't be afraid to expose the panic. Panic is often anger and hurt that has gone too long unchecked. Be patient with yourself, kind to yourself, practice deep and methodical breathing techniques and gave it all head on.

[@lianafriedman6555]

At 6:40 she nails what a panic attack is. This talk is amazing.

[@coolnessa1]

That was a great speech. 'Migrate' was exactly how I reacted to a fearful situation. When I decided to quit what I was doing at the moment, I was terrified at the thought of it for many reasons. But guess what, it's the best decision I've made in my life and I feel alive again.

[@NJERI36]

Work in an environment that supports you to find Mastery, Autonomy and Purpose. If not, you'll be forced to get into survival mode, that is hibernate, adapt or migrate! Loved the authenticity of her sharing! It was like having coffee with a friend ❤️

[@lilavanill]

WARNING: really good explanation but also really triggering for People with anxiety!! AT 14:00 it all Comes together

[@safina57]

Although there are good ideas in this talk and I liked it, I think that like most other Ted talks, it tends to talk to middle-class/high class people. Or is it this Disney/American dream that you can do/be whatever you wanna be ? How can a poor mother of two kids leave her job ? How can a person with panic anxiety who relies financially on toxic people while they're trying to get better get away ? Some people never have the time nor the money or simply can't escape what's causing their panic attacks. What if you realized while quitting your job (I worked in a call center too and had the same symptoms) that actually everything around you causes you to panic ? Family, friends, lover, your financial situation, your physical health, and that it is going to be really hard to get out of it ? What can be done to help these people and not just the people who are "privileged" enough to have only one thing triggering their panic attacks ? Ideally, I think that the fact that money and work take so much places in everyone's lives is inherently toxic. We've replaced the animal fear of starving/being eaten by... the fear or starving (a reality for a lot of people)/being "eaten" by other, lawns, rents, bosses, family, friends... And this video doesn't address this issue.

[@kirstilike]

+Od'hana true

[@kirstilike]

+Od'hana yeh how did she pay her rent when she had her 'Breakthrough"?

[@lunedogg]

+Od'hana this is so true

[@Ronnie7X]

Well, it also doesn't address a guy trapped on an isolated island. One size does not fit all, special cases require special/creative solutions

[@karenshreeves1580]

+Ronnie McCera can u socialize ok over internet?

[@erin.benincasa9356]

Wow. First Panic attack at 19. Same as me. This really helped me realize i should not be ashamed about my decision to leave college and volunteer aboard for a year after developing panic disorder. Thanks.

[@harsha205]

it takes a lot of courage to talk in front of people...the last 4 mins were inspiring...ty

[@stephanieleigh9913]

It's insane how close her story is to mine. I worked in a call center.. hibernated, like she talked about, but was still miserable.. Tried desperately to be better but never felt like I was good at anything because it all kept changing. I started having panic attacks and dreaded work.. had a meeting with people (including the CEO) and had to leave because of a panic attack... took leave and then ended up quitting. I struggled with agoraphobia and was really having a hard time. I haven't really gotten to a point where I feel "better" yet, but I see progress and know eventually I will get there. The last line of this lecture is what really got me because I have been feeling so badly about how little I have done with my life compared to other people. "Write your own script. You can not do great things if someone else is writing your own script."

[@meg2231]

I have panic attacks and it rly makes me feel better to see someone with a panic disorder on a stage speaking in front of tons of people

[@SlippinJimmy4Life]

I have to wake up and work at the Merrill Lynch call center tomorrow. It is like some sort of purgatory or hell or something, exactly as you described only much worse, but I won't be able to leave for a while for financial reasons. Maybe I can just get a job telling people about how they should quit their call center jobs and be free, and TED will put me on stage and everything will work out. For the moment though I'm just going to go back to listening to Eckhart Tolle's voice lull me back to sleep so that I can wake up into that algorithmic nightmare you mentioned.

[@brbrhej]

This talk made me cry. Just in time. Thank you.

[@hulaluv11]

Thank you so much for this.. I'm actually on disability from a call center environment due to having panic attacks at the job.. I worked with that company for almost 15 years almost half of them with panic disorder and I can relate to everything that you said. I finally decide enough is enough and I let go of my position which was very very hard for me. I am now agoraphobic and struggle everyday. This gives me hope.

[@MsAngiesaurusRex]

This talk just changed my life. Thank you.

[@rachelgelin8857]

Thank you so so much Summer Beretsky! all I can say is thank you. For all the work you put into doing this and for being willing to share it with everyone no matter who they would be or how they'd receive it. Thank you !

[@snehabhat4876]

I've realised that mediation helps a lot when it comes to understanding yourself and reducing anxiety

[@sarahdurham9929]

Summer did an amazing job. I remember being overcome with similar issues throughout college- the panic attacks where exhausting.

[@artisanlocal2881]

As someone with panic disorder and agaroaphia. I get it. This video doesn't cause anxiousness it makes me remember what I came from. Burn out job. Fear of the grocery store. Just slowly making progress with CBT and meds. Slow but it is progress. I try to remember that one store and one hr of work is a step. Breathing exercises and positive outlook helps but it doesn't get rid of anxiety. It makes it bareable. I still have fear and flight on a regular basis but it is manageable. Don't give up. 2years later I can go outside. Work on my car. Go outside for a few hrs. Which is a gift from a few years ago.

[@testing1234547]

I really hope people become more aware and knowledgeable about things like this. I've had panic attacks and some rough patches that lasted for quite a long time. People need to realize people with these aren't always just "mentally weak". Sometimes it takes time and isn't as easy as "it's irrational, so get over it. There is nothing to fear". If someone fractured there leg, I'm sure no one would say "oh stop with the crutches, just walk already you wimp". Sometimes things take therapy, time and medication to fully get through. I am happy to see this woman coming out and being very open and upfront about it. The more people become aware of it the less individuals will feel afraid to come out and seek help due to how people will look at them and treat them.

[@oscarmahecha6795]

I suffer from a fear that causes me to panic without making a scene, its like I panic in the inside but I remain calm outside so no one can see, I am like this because no one but me can understand what I see because its made up situations that aren't real but could be and they're slowly manifesting, I felt this way since I was young but no one knows about my fear, not even I can understand why, its not something I can describe in simple terms but the closest way I can describe it would be a never ending loop of hopelessness and helplessness and my fear is actually becoming a reality slowly and although I felt it was inevitable, I want to find an exit out of the loop but I feel like no matter what happens I'll never get out and the more I get older and independent the more it gets worst because now I lost the dependence of my parents so I feel more alone instead of happier that I get to move on with my life like how I dreamed it would be and whether I give up or not, i dont see how i'll get any results :( and for some reason I felt like if I had a past life, myself would have also been in my position so if somehow knew I would be dieing soon I would not even be able to die peacefully because if I do get to be reborn I'll go through the same situation and if reincarnation does not exist than i would just lived a life of this unexplainable fear

[@mrmanq9517]

Try Primal scream therapy....it changed my life!

[@lvtbowman]

I loved her message! She explained anxiety perfectly. The neighborhood I live in is extremely high in crime and very non-conducive of positivity. I've over-mastered hibernating in the sense that I go to work, I go to school, I come home and mind my business. But lately hibernating hasn't been working. I refuse to adapt and my only chance of autonomy is to migrate...only...I don't have the finances to migrate. It is so frustrating. My anxiety has skyrocketed. Just the thought of spending money sends me through the roof, because just as everything else, it makes me feel like I'll never afford to get out of here.

[@roberthernandez5470]

I worked for a call center for 12 years and now have anxiety.

[@danpt2000]

Perhaps you should quit and find some quiet time with yourself, to find your center, regather yourself, connect with people who might understand your situation.

[@MarcoAntonio-by8yo]

I can't believe a youtube video has helped me decide my future path more than all the people I know combined, they don't understand so that's okay, thank you so much

[@chocoberry3844]

Superb !!! Anxiety & panic disorders really take one to the lowest ebb. I am proud of those who have overcome it. It can make your life go upside down for a reason not substantial enough for those who have never suffered with this..

[@TiaTurnbullnow]

This is awesome! Thank you so much for this talk Summer! HA HA ! I laughed so hard when you talked about the call center! I worked in a call center for three years! At the end I was begging my manager to just spend one day cleaning toilets instead! Ha ha! I love what you say about seeing how you fit or don't in an environment. I have forced myself to stay in environments that smash the life out of me due to conditioned programs about commitments and rescuing others at expense to my own experience and life. Thank you again! Very empowering!

[@candyflossbeige]

Totally describes how I felt when I graduated university. I hibernated and adapted. Migration was my way out. The speaker and Ted x good job!

[@clingingtoHim]

I love this! Giving up would have been staying and being miserable. She overcame and started a life that she loves!

[@abcdefgold]

this is so weird, I've been looking up videos about anxiety because last night I really worked myself up thinking I was having a stroke because my arm hurt and so did my leg on one side. I was shaking and crying and my hands felt all fuzzy and numb by the time I went to sleep. I'm 19 and also in university, such a relief to see there are other people with such similar problems. I still don't know what I have or how to deal with it, I hoped these videos would help, but it definitely feels like some sort of anxiety.

[@allisonpalmer1205]

Had my first in a university law exam a few days ago

[@ek1582]

You are not alone. And the treatment is kinda easy too :) ekeasy.wordpress.com/

[@barpoe1]

Well, don't go working in a call center.

[@maximilian333]

strokes in college aged students are very rare unless drugs are involved. Trips to the ER for an CT scan by people with anxiety or migraines are pretty common. I did it during nursing school when my face felt numb. It was a migraine prodrome, biggest migraine of my life. Felt stupid for going to the ER at 3AM but my face was numb on one side and we had just studied neurovascular diseases in school and final exam stress had clouded my judgment.

[@waggawaggaful]

When watching the person on stage almost having a panic attack triggers your panic attack....

[@lbburgett]

As I am afflicted with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and PTSD, which is occasionally marked by panic attacks, I am very pleased to hear this talk. I also work an algorithmic job, as well, with a bunch of bureaucrats, and I do it because it pays better than most other jobs I could get, and because the benefits are excellent. I am more or less stuck here until my dream job could pay me as much as my real job. I identify with this woman on such a fundamental level in that regard. Thankfully, since my job is a governmental job under an elected official's jurisdiction, an elected official who I strongly support, and who wants to make our agency better serve the community with 21st Century ideas, I DO feel a sense of purpose in that my work--and my internal support of the Agency Head's goals--can make a better community for my daughter. I also keep in mind that, within the agency are places I can migrate if I get a bit of education behind me. That doesn't give me an immediate sense of autonomy, but gives me hope that eventually I can achieve some autonomy. Finally, because the Agency deals with issues near and dear to my heart, and also issues which I have studied and will continue to study, I feel I can achieve mastery, despite the fact that I am currently no more than a paper-pushing bureaucrat. Hope is helpful. Now, what should I do with my anxiety disorder at home? With a spirited child who demands much of my attention and a disorganized and unpredictable bipolar partner who also struggles with alcoholism? That's the sticky wicket in my life.

[@SGKeiana]

My family are the "Don't give up.", "Can people vs can't people", "There's no reason why you can't do something." type of people, and doctors always suggest exposure therapy, all of which I felt like were actually making my condition progress and worsen. I didn't even know I had a condition for a while, as it continued to swell up. It's so relieving to hear someone say that it's ok to simply decide if a situation is doing you more harm than good, it's not necessarily even giving up, it's just protecting yourself because if you don't, then who will? There is no reason why I can't do something, but sometimes there's reasons why I really shouldn't, and it's not about whether I can or can't, it's about whether I want to or not. I didn't have the backbone to stand up for myself, and I've gotten to the point that I'm simply tired of being worried about what other people think of me. Exposure therapy makes no sense to me, if I'm avoiding a situation already, I will just end up avoiding the doctor who keeps telling me to go put myself in danger-- they become part of the threat too. My whole life was already exposure, look what happened. Being able to gain my own control and stop letting people write my life is going to be what really sets me free...I'm still working on it, but that's my goal. I noticed how people in the comments are saying listening to her gave them anxiety...trust me, I sat here and nearly got triggered myself, I started crying and held the rest back as best I could, but only because I empathized with her so well. I can clearly tell her nerves have been put through the ringer. It was at least worth it to me to hear her out though, I don't have much support.

[@givepoetry]

Very good points (especially the tough call on whether it was panic or her heart telling her to quit) and I imagine this young lady will hone it, modify it, etc getting it down to like 7 minutes and then add the good changes that happened as she grew with the idea or "changing" her environment on will, like she did here; quitting the old 9-5 that does nothing for people inwardly if they do not like the job they have.

[@nicoler7700]

I relate to this so much. I manage with my panic disorder but I never completely feel like I'm "safe". This was very helpful.

[@kelseyb619]

I've been working at a call center and I relate to your story so much right now. I wish I had came across this video three years ago so I wouldn't have chosen to hibernate, then adapt, which lead to me having a breakdown/breakthrough last month. EXACTLY as you described. This gave me courage and hope. Thank you.

[@sssummer]

Kelsey, I’m so happy to see you’ve found the right track for yourself now. :) I pop into the comments section now and again and get super happy when people can relate!

[@matthewwoolhouse3829]

I just had a panic attack today at a call centre. That's how i ended up here watching this video. She described everything I feel. My heart is still racing but I really don't think it's for me. I need to Migrate.

[@Yadeehoo]

I've spent my whole life migrating. It's fun. But if you start doing this, the second you stop you might become depressed very fast.

[@Mockingbirdrye]

True ... but the second you give in panic could show up. One thing I question is how authentic one is at work. What if Summer had gone back and said I need this and this and this to work here? Empowering; not likely to work in a call center, but more likely to work in an environment that values her vivacity and intellect. Nonetheless, you gotta be you at work; that's your gift ... you. Jobs were made for people, not robots. The reason call centers are so unpopular is because they aren't competent, they don't listen and they don't care.

[@Knaeben]

That will only work until you are so old...

[@AngelaLeonsqrzy]

You can change the environment to make sure it supports you. That's the idea behind the mental health initiative I am starting at my school.

[@kirstenashley4289]

This actually belongs under the category of "adaptation" and is a good option in many cases, yes. Just like humans can't stand the extreme heat or cold, we adapted by building houses to live in and later made things even easier by creating AC/heaters later too. Adaptation is not just about changing yourself, it can be you changing your environment without "migrating" to another place. In a call center though, one person trying to 'adapt' in a strict system of rules and regulations where they can find anyone to replace you and don't care about you is not going to have a good chance at all unfortunately.

[@thelaughingfoxx]

My experience if working in a call center was 95% accurate to this. Suffered horrible panic attacks until my body was too ill to work in that environment. Did it for a year until I quit. Then I found the job that I hoped for. I fit in and love my life today. I suppose the lesson is: NEVER work in a call center. What an evil, controlling environment.

[@henryhomes]

Great! Wonder why we don't hear more applause or cheers during the recording.

[@ktback3700]

I think there were a lot of empty seats, maybe she wanted an empty auditorium for her anxiety to calm down.

[@Humansarewe]

Excellent work Summer. To those of us with anxiety, the apparent (subtle) inability to cope and the reality of trying to maintain sanity, this makes absolute sense. I know panic attacks very well and you were very articulate throughout. A+ By the Way I always maintain calmness with call center reps; I know how hard it is.

[@xuanchen6980]

I have panic attack many years ago. I did not understand what it was, I thought maybe because it is all my fault to feel that way, it is me to blame. I have to adjust and correct myself in order to fit in to the society. but I got it worse. now I start to address and take care my problems. hope I can help myself through this even through nobody can understand me. thanks a lot Summer Beretsky to speak out the problem I can hardly talk

[@Bluebird9]

Unfortunately, not everyone has these options and not everyone can afford themselves to leave their jobs.

[@frarfarf]

Aleka A. exactly, there are millions of terrible jobs out there, being worked by people who cant just quit.

[@marliadouglas7582]

I'm curious, do you experience anxiety or panic attacks?

[@Knaeben]

@Ethan Crowley Some musicians and actors say they were homeless just to be fashionable, not because they really were.

[@C63Bez]

@@frarfarf my grandpa was head of music at a prestigious school and he said that when he quit he felt an overwhelming sense of relief and the happiest he had in years.

[@NoobMaster-or2jf]

One of the most eye opening TED talks ever!

[@princessnugget2919]

Cheers to her for being able to do this! Anxiety is the worst.

[@AnneCH139]

For Anxiety of going to dentist I learnt EFT, Faster EFT from you tube. Wearing earphones makes it feel more personal and say words out loud (when you are on your own is best). You are tapping on Chinese Governor points. Recently I also learnt about gut bacteria and emotions on summit called FOOD MATTERS by James C. What has also helped is learning Qi-gong (breathing), Tai chi Chuan 24 form (for all organs & muscles in body). Once learnt it feels like a meditation in Motion. There are also lots of good you tube Meditations to listen too e.g. Doreen Virtue and Deepak Chopras 21 day challenge.

[@AngelaLeonsqrzy]

I am instituting a system of mental health mentors (people who have suffered from previous mental illnesses) and a group therapy elective at my school.

[@summerbukeavich8884]

+Angela Leon That sounds awesome, Angela! Good luck with your efforts!

[@AngelaLeonsqrzy]

Thanks :D

[@nateisnotemo]

Just watched this again, 5 years after I first watched it. Still helping me to do this day!

[@prewash501]

Excellent work on Anxiety great speaker !

[@Lyn3s]

oh my God. My mind is blown right now. I just clicked a random video that described exactly what I am living.

[@Joefest99]

I don't want to degrade the conversation to a low level but I have to say, by all rights she should have tremendous confidence. She is so damn adorable looking!

[@katastrofa12]

I can absolutely relate to the break-down vs break-through thinking!! She is simply right.

[@MarkReedman]

This affects more and more people. I think you've related your personal experiences in the best way possible. I'm sure it will help others. you've turned it into a positve overall. good on you. I wish you well.

[@TheAnxietyGuy1]

Now there's someone that would be perfect for the anxiety guy podcast. Great talk.

[@sssummer]

The Anxiety Guy Bahaha. Message me?

[@imansaleh822]

I suffered a lot of panic attacks and social phobia.. that I thought I had heart problems, I over stressed my body with thoughts.. I couldn't get out of bed for a while... I thought I was losing conscious and thought I was dying for a while.. el hamdullah I'm over that problem.. it was devastating..

[@geo865833]

Thank you, Summer. Everything about this talk is relevant, as it has been a life struggle. To top it all off... I start my first shift at a call center in a few hours. Through one week of training, I still don't feel prepared, and already think the exact same things you mentioned.

[@feelingoffbalance]

My mom disregarded her feelings and her well being and was self-sacrificing. What did I learn from her? That I am not worthy to be happy, to be well, that I should put others first and disregard my own feelings. My dad prized education above all. He spent his money to educate me. What did I learn from him? That I am not worthy of love if I don't have a PhD. He is an alco/workoholic and taught me to shun my feelings and live in anxiety and anger, because he lives like this. We lead by example.

[@sofichoc]

Loved it, it was like listening about what happened to me a year ago, and sometimes you feel alone with this condition... So thanks!

[@holyfoolishness]

thank you for sharing your break-through! this helps me to think differently about the `flight, flight or freeze `model.

[@hopelessable]

Thank you for sharing your problems and providing ways out. I just woke up with a mild panic attack. Listening to you has shown me the way to decide.I am living in a place that is far from the city and quite remote. Leaving this place is the only way out to get rid of my sicknesses. I have tried to adapt to the gentry around and it does not work at all, Right how I am in hibernation and waiting for the right time to migrate.

[@queencarter3048]

Good for you woman! You are a motivation to me, i suffer from a form of agoraphobia and this is what i will watch over and over untill i have the power to leave my house and not be afraid. Thank you! Peace&Love&Light ☮☯️🕉

[@lynettemiddleton9328]

Absolutely Perfect Talk! Delivery and Content! Exactly what I needed to hear! Insightful! Life-Changing! A Tour de Force! I have been blessed! Thank You!

[@Dark_Abyss375]

Thank you so much for this Summer. I am so relieved to hear someone speak exactly everything I’ve felt and dealt with for a long time now. I couldn’t relate to anyone so thank you so much ❤️

[@zeljkojelaca]

she is honest and smart one fine lady !

[@DanZhukovin]

Best way to combat anxiety: Binaurals, organic diet, exercise, full course of vitamins, hobbies, being busy

[@amberwalker513]

This was so spot on. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING YOUR STORY because I can relate to this on EVERY level. You ROCK!!!

[@Koray007]

This is the best ted talk i ever watched ! This is exactly what happened to me !!

[@anthonysowder1111]

Thanks so much for giving this great talk. Know that I'm not alone makes my panic disorder better

[@feelingoffbalance]

Maybe I'm overdramatising a little:-) But back to the point: what I wanted to say is that taking care of yourself is not selfish; if you are harming yourself, it's bound to affect those around you. Love and happiness are the most important things and I much rather be around people that are poor and happy rather than rich and miserable. Someone who's miserable is bound to make others miserable.