5 Ways to Get Your Power Back After a Breakup | Stephanie Lyn Coaching

[@triplekids3]

I’m starting over at 56 years old left my narc husband of 33 years 8 weeks free now and I’m not going back ever

[@Refreshing_Words]

Wonderful news!!! You made it OUT! You can make it! Take your time and gain your strength. Remember to give yourself compassion. ❤️

[@taraelmegreen5527]

Good for you! Isn't it a wonderful feeling!?

[@chatbowsan4146]

@@kelseykuppykake5727 for real?

[@marydanatzi4423]

Me too

[@mmommo-hx4dx]

me too

[@meliholland]

I needed this. 9 days post break up with a dismissive avoidant narcissist and I’m so happy to be out of the cycle. I’m heartbroken but finding strength everyday to heal and recover.

[@loladedelano7481]

Keep going, you can handle it. Please don’t blame yourself for anything as a matter of fact you are a woman for walking away from a relationship that is not adding value to who you are. Remember hurt people hurt people. Take yourself out & have you a lovely weekend💜❤️💜

[@heidi1543]

Melanie Tonia is a Narcissist specialist she is excellent in healing of us unfortunate people who have suffered one emotional abuse domestic violence abuse

[@heidi1543]

Stephanie Thankyou very much for your helpful advice

[@kevingiles7435]

Meee tooo

[@justjynny]

same.

[@skbains86]

1.Patience & healing through the pain (Monitor your mind’s stories) 2.Patience with others who are not in your shoes & judge you 3.Rebuilding your life & be excited rather than fearful. Have a full life - abundance 4.Work on your boundaries (standards) 5. (let go ...)

[@marielaedgar8759]

Perfect to do list! Thank you!❤

[@jacqhill3895]

Well said

[@joannearroyo1152]

Husband of 22 years decided he didn’t want to be a family man anymore and just wanted his freedom and decided to move in with his mistress. In his mind it’s ok because he was “unhappy”. This is the hardest thing I’ve had to go thru

[@fj4731]

Hi Joanne ...I need women advice on Menopause and Mental trauma Depression and Panic attack... My gf broke up with me twice and for 3rd time all same reason she said i am the root cause of her mental craziness She having insomnia couldnt sleep at night , and affecting her mental health….should I pull away or show my love or care by initiating contact? She didn’t text me for 43days She also having problem with Neck Degeneration and back pain..she is in her Menopause age… Should I be more caring like a Beta or I should Dont care like Alpha to just respond only when she reach out She want to do her own thing and I wonder whether am I the part time bf or she only need me when she want to ? I tried to arrange appointment with Doctors…she rather go on her own but medicine or gynae or chiropractic couldnt help her …she blame me is the source of her Mental Stress by me wanting her to put more effort on our relationship she feel pressure till she break down telling me she need rest..i told her she need Love but she said she want peace and to heal on her own.. How to save the relationship with a gf having Menopause and Medical and Mental health ? Today is Day 43 No Contact She said if she miss me she will contact me

[@katethan17]

Hugss to us. 🫶

[@thatpoeticthug]

Something very similar happened to me. But gf monkey branch with a co worker like 8- 10 years younger she 30. And really felt so easily replaceable he have a 2 yr old now. But 7 months later she's still confused. I fall every time. I want u back love bombs and lots of family time then .... Ghost lol 😭🥲😁

[@_DawnStone_]

Separated and getting a divorce from a covert narcissist. This has got to be the hardest thing I have ever done. I have been so lost and devastated. So confused and seriously on a rollercoaster. Your videos are slowly helping me see some hope.

[@jayanna6718]

Hello do you need help why don’t you try dr oba he was the one that help me get my ex back

[@jayanna6718]

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[@georginaporter946]

@@jayanna6718 why would she want to go back or have him back. Dawn well done 👏

[@gregphillips6434]

Dawn, I share your experiences and feelings. I'm keeping all of us in prayer 🙏. Thanks for sharing 👍

[@gloriahorvath4929]

I’ve been out of a 28-year marriage with a narcissist for 6 wks. I will never go back even though I’m feeling everything you describe. They DO NOT change! I’m starting over at 52 years old. I will be praying for you.

[@kaylives]

The break up hurts so bad. I never wanna find myself in this place ever again. I never really put myself first before so this is oh so new to me so its sooo hard to do. Please pray for me I’d appreciate it. I miss the person and I hate that i do because they were so toxic towards me 😔

[@katiesexton2893]

🙏 like wise ! My ex broke up with me after I broke my 3 bones on foot waterskiing on his boat 😢 I can't drive it's my right foot and he is older and he treated me amazing then did a completely 180 it hurts I can't even walk

[@Jillisa2]

Ditto😢 you are not alone, but let's support each other and our self respect and empowerment ❤

[@jesawalker]

I recently started watching ALL your videos after my "husband" of 13 years left me again last month. I'm now getting weekly counseling and learning so much about myself. Your videos are so helpful to me. I feel like I'm going thru hell and I will never feel better again. I hate to say misery loves company but it does make me feel better to know I am not the only one who has gone thru a situation like this. Thank you for showing people like me that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and life can get better.

[@jeseniagalindez9120]

We are strong.

[@ladeedaa1419]

That’s right, you’re not alone! KZbin has helped me so much, during this crippling time for me. Time and educating myself on self care/love and rebuilding who I’m meant to be, has been empowering. October 8th is when he dropped the bomb on me & I can’t wait for the day I can wake up without thinking of him first. Sending you good vibes💖

[@annachan8151]

It gets better. I promise ❤

[@chiarafinardi1387]

My husband left me after 17 years. I understand you completely and it's true, knowing that other women went through the same thing and survived, helps a lot.

[@lukuslukus5576]

Same situation, 15 yrs married to my best friend. She cheated on me out of the blue, got deeply involved sexually and emotionally with another man. Completely devastated my world. There's moments that I cant breath just thinking about the pain. I'm 8 months in and I am constantly searching for ways to make the pain stop. There is, strangely, comfort in knowing that we aren't alone in this struggle. Everyone says it gets better. I'm praying it does and trying to stay positive. Be strong, love yourself, hang in there, we can do this!

[@maryisabel2115]

I'm in agony, searching for strength through anywhere, thank y'all for sharing your stories

[@MyrsiniTheofanogianni]

Same here,its unbearable 😔

[@rmose5393]

I can relate

[@pokerfacelady9372]

My boyfriend and I were on/off for the past two years. I did love him but I couldn't have my boundaries violated and deal with his disrespect any longer. It made me into someone that I don't want to be. I am still awesome but we did break up today. I don't want to go back to him. I know that it could be hard but I really will be stronger. I wish us all the best including myself on this healing journey

[@melissafernandez582]

I’m sobbing as I watch this,,,, just in so much pain

[@prudencekinyua3553]

We'll get through this together..God still loves us..that's the most important thing.

[@67BillyJean]

Your not alone. I’m trying to live through this too. 30 yrs gone.

[@lauramoncada3787]

My husband led me on, lied and betrayed me. What I mean is all these videos are so very helpful. He never talked to me, refused to discuss issues. Ordered instead of asking, belittled, bullied, threatened to leave if I didn't do what he wanted, etc. While I was out of town he moved all his personal things out of our house and 3 hrs from getting home we spoke regular, no warning, no heads up. When I got home on a Sunday, he left a paper on the table letting me know he was filing for divorce. By Fri his lawyer called me go into the office to serve me divorce papers. Today is 8 days and feel he is still trying to railroad me into divorce to have final control. But...no can do, will take my time and will hire legal assistance.

[@robertwells7861]

Prayers❤

[@melodyschmidt1985]

I’m leaving a 15 year relationship with a man that I thought I knew?? I see the truth and have no doubts about leaving him behind. At one time he literally broke my spirit but God has strengthened me to end this nightmare!!

[@jacquelinem.2948]

I’m in the healing process. I stayed for as long as I did and it was more than enough. Never stay! Forgive yourself. Break ups happen for a reason. Embrace the process.

[@clementalex3543]

Hello do you need help to restore back your broken marriage/relationship, get/ reunite with your Ex, soulmate, specific person or banish third party from your relationship

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[@verliharlina7775]

Hi. I'm sorry you have to go through this pain. We are in the same boat, It's been 11 months since you posted, are you okay now?

[@NarcissismExposed]

Learning about the MO of the narcissist was a huge awakening but it was only until I looked at narcissism through a biblical perspective that I received my enlightenment and true healing.

[@GibranCastillo]

What biblical perspective? Kindly share it with us.

[@NarcissismExposed]

@@GibranCastillo I share everything that I’ve learned here. kzbin.info

[@JodyM2]

@@kelseykuppykake5727 report this person for SPAM I Did

[@leesteal4458]

If you like the biblical perspective, try videos from Rev. R.C. Blake and Tony Gaskin on the topic. In addition to this, Joel Osteen sermons strengthen me while I heal and work on getting over the hurt and feeling better about myself.

[@astridhanl4861]

It's soooo important to remember, that it takes however long it takes but you're moving forward. I know how it feels when U think your ex is getting over it faster (then U realize he's just distracting himself) or take notice that some of your friends don't wanna talk about it anymore - that again there's a bad week although you thought you're doing better.... You are. you're on your own timing, Noone knows your story, Noone know how long it takes. I highly advice get a therapist for moving through it ❤. A lot of friends won't understand, but it doesn't mean they don't love you.

[@F0reverblessed]

Indeed!! Ending any relationship, platonic and/or romantic, is tough! Nonetheless, it is a great time (in disguise) to rediscover yourself. To love yourself even more now that you see just how strong and capable you are. From a self love content creator to another- loved the tips you shared. Great video Stephanie! ❤️

[@terrygobson144]

70 years old and kept myself in counseling for years. The videos are priceless . Learning about narcissistic people helped me no what I was dealing with. Thank you!

[@jamesrichmond4897]

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[@ashleyluna5444]

I struggled so much with setting boundaries and sticking to them. I didn’t speak up enough, and even when I did it had to be curated in a way that didn’t upset him more. He never respected what I said about how I felt about his behavior. I am struggling right now with self blame and wondering why I let that all happen. I just found a journal I made 2 years ago in which I was writing about the hurtful things happening and my frustrations. 2 years ago! It never changed and only got worse. I was with an extremely manipulative narcissist and got so lost in trying to keep him happy I lost sight of keeping true to myself. I should have let him leave the 2nd time he threatened the relationship-- not waited for it to happen over and over and over until he did finally discard me. Now I’m left cleaning up this emotional mess and figuring out how to forgive and rebuild. Thankful for these videos to help keep things honest and in perspective ❤

[@BCHODOSH01]

Stephanie, i'm now on this journey of recovery after a four year abusive relationship. So true that you need to forgive and to be patient with yourself. Positive self talk, and starting to take care of yourself emotionally, physically,socially is the start of becoming a better , healthier you. When you get out of an abusive relationship you realize how much of you that you lost, that you neglected your feelings and needs.You put yourself on the back burner. Get back to your needs, feelings, what makes you happy, and put the work in to build a better you than you were that allowed you to get into that dysfunctional relationship. Thank you for another great video. Be well, take care.

[@lydia-sacredsong]

We stay so long because of the way ‘trauma bonding’ works. It has a powerful effect on brain chemistry. Especially in push-pull dynamics... it fires the reward centres and also creates a lot of cognitive dissonance. So we’re forgiven for being in a state of confusion/ justifying their behaviour/ getting addicted to the crumbs they feed us... (more so if you weren’t modelled healthy attachment with your care givers as a child).

[@aireltd1019]

He can help your relationship like he helped mine

[@lydia-sacredsong]

@@aireltd1019 I got out a month ago (but only because he left in the end I must admit). Yep, this is all helpful stuff!

[@aireltd1019]

Just contact Dr. Oss. he can restructure your relationship

[@felicitygrace5113]

Hmmm... sounds familiar. Thanks for putting it out there!

[@marielaedgar8759]

This is my life! Thank you for sharing!! Everyday is a little better, but after 23 yrs of marriage to a narcissist it's going to take a while! ❤

[@emilythesongbird2306]

'If you have a full life, you won't come from lack." Love this! These are great tips. Thanks so much! "Take it upon yourself to live that life you want to live." I'm so excited to rebuild my new life!

[@Elvira_Berzina]

Can I just say you are literally an angel who helped me get through a hard hard heartbreak honestly thank you ! God bless

[@bethanyfonseca1728]

Very difficult to forget abuse. Going forward is necessary and difficult but we all get there by grit and determination.

[@jadedm084]

It’s been 5 months and I don’t know where to begin with self love. Compassion and love was something I lacked from both parents. I can’t blame them. They’re a product of their generation. I’m sure they didn’t receive it either. My heart naturally craved what was missing and I tried to find it in someone else. 19 years invested and finally walked away because I didn’t get what I needed. There was love there, just not the kind I understood or needed. I needed me but I wasn’t there for myself. I became distracted with taking care of others and putting others first. It made me feel good, but it was a mask. It’s tough right now and I keep reminiscing about the past. Did I make a mistake? I need to move forward but not allowing myself to heal. It will get better. Just like I always tell everyone else, I need to start telling myself that everything WILL be okay. 😢

[@windysmith7367]

Stephanie, thank you. My relationship was short (2 years) but has been the most difficult to get over. It’s like 2 steps forward and 1 step backwards. We didn’t even live together but I fell really hard for him. Appreciate your guidance. 4 months out and completely no contact.

[@alanmcalister4124]

Wow same thing two year relationship with a control freak... 2 weeks no contact as of now. It is tough...What helps me is knowing I am not being thought about at all. They already have a new conquest to get that attention the new and shiney ... Best wishes for you.

[@verliharlina7775]

@@alanmcalister4124 Hi, we are in the same boat. I'm in 3 weeks no contact and it doesn't help me too much. Does it works for you?

[@HH-gv8mx]

Did you practice the no contact rule? My boyfriend of four years just left me. He went to work one day and just never came home. I was completely blindsided. I found out he quit his job and moved. I have no idea where he is and at the beginning when I was trying to text or call him, it was all gaslighting. I was so confused, blindsided, devastated… It’s just unimaginable that someone you thought you knew could do something so hurtful without reason. It’s hard for me not to text him but so easy for him to just vanish and then I e me out. 😢

[@verliharlina7775]

@@HH-gv8mx Hey, we have totally the same reason. My ex also left me around a month ago because he lost his job and needs to back to his country and never back anymore. I practicing the NC rule afterward, actually, I'm getting better because slowly I find myself and my feeling about him is a bit fade. I know at the begin is really difficult for you but believe me a time would be recovered all wounds

[@lornaelizabeth6290]

Boundaries are so hard when you start as you feel so guilty and fear losing people. And you will lose some people- but what I have learnt and starting to embody is that it’s ok to feel a bit of guilt- but I am doing this for me. And if people take your boundaries personally and project onto you the hurt- that’s on them and they have some healing to do! 🙏🏻

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[@SA-wg5oo]

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[@dianediane1245]

This video is so helpful! I think narcissistic abuse needs to be taught in schools and at home. It seems like the world tries to ignore it. Why? Thanks for all you do!❤

[@suigetsushark]

I have been watching you for the past 7 months after coming out of an...emotionally abusive relationship. I hate saying it was emotionally abusive because I try to convince myself that it wasn't that bad or bad as others have had it. But you videos have really helped me not only identify it as an emotionally abusive relationship, but also gave me the power to not be victimized by it. It's still a work in progress, but I have really learned to have patience and compassion with myself. I really really loved this person, but he didn't treat me with kindness and respect. Thank you for all the help :)

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[@Jenabelovedofjesus]

I self-parented today. Consciously! I heard your voice.

[@rosemiller5338]

Feels like I’m getting lectured by Alyssa Milano lol. 💕 But honestly, I’m feeling better already. In your last video you said, logic helps you heal, not emotion. And that makes so much sense. When I started to connect the dots logically, I felt better. Thank you!

[@donnatellax9513]

So glad I found u! Ur videos are always on the topic of what I’m needing at the time is crazy ! You have really helped me x

[@sierraG333]

I don’t want to focus on them and why they didn’t value me, led me on, wasted my time and then discarded me. I need to find a way to put it behind me and focus on doing healthy nurturing things for myself so I’m so rock solid that I never let someone like this into my life again.

[@JasmineFuller-ph3ij]

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[@lydiatreasure9876]

Why is it she always posts the exact thing I need at the exact time I need it?!

[@ricklopez4115]

I can tell you how you have helped me over the last month with these videos !!!! Literally was assaulted over the last month and barely realized what a narcissist is and has been doing to me for last 3 years. I’ve cried my damn eyes out watching these videos and can’t believe I never wanted to admit I married someone like that.

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@@jennyduhle5857 Why would I want to go back to a abuser, liar, and cheater ? God got me out so why would I go back

[@lisagoeke5025]

I know the feeling. What does it say about me that I married that kind of person . But you don't know what you don't know. I started church at 18 taught to be submissive wife. They don't teach you about these people. My parents were older and didn't know to tell me, they believed you stayed married for ever, even if it was abusive for them.

[@l.pmoonstone5067]

Great video! Would like to add something I do daily to get me through the post breakup with a malignant narcissistic. When I am feeling low and having thoughts of despair and anxiety, I pull my shoulder back, stand tall and SMILE! Even if you have to force it, PUT A HUGE SMILE ON YOUR FACE, and take a deep breathe, inhale and as you exhale think about all that toxicity your ex left you with and release it. Release that heavy feeling and stress and REMIND YOURSELF, YOU ARE SAFE.. You are free to finally be who you are! 💜💜💜💜

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[@mararamitchpeace]

"You can't judge yourself by who you were" FIRE BABY! 🔥

[@julieabbruzzese]

I finally had the strength to walk away from a narcissist. I know it’s what I had to do but am so angry and ashamed at myself for missing him and not leaving sooner 💔

[@kadiva3429]

I'M SO GLAD THAT I FOUND YOU. YOU ARE MY SOUL-COACH !!!

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[@foreignlovedreams]

Divorce or breakup is always difficult. Life seems to be gone. This is the end! Give yourself time to suffer - a week or two. And then there is only one life and it continues and there are still many adventures and discoveries ahead, new acquaintances, new people in your life. Everyone who meets us on the path of our life is for something: for experience, for friendship, for life... Live your life!

[@forrestgump2783]

This lady called Stephanie has become fairly pivotal to the present existence of a hideously underachieving mindbendingly overly sensitive confidence shattered mildly depressed cursed codependent. Having broken off from drowning in the codependency, to latching onto an avoidant in the separation process, selling out all my energy & personal worth just because of the lure of physical beauty has led to a place of emptiness & loneliness.. But, in spite of London in lockdown, I cling onto some hope in the form of these nourishing tutorials, trying to find gratitude for being alive & hoping for some future. Thank you

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[@joshuaanzalone2060]

Taking your power back means sticking with NO and no contact. I've taken my power back. Game over

[@happyspacecadet]

Monitoring my thoughts, I really hope I can pull this through after all the mean things he had said and for poorly treating me. And I hope, I can truly be more excited to rebuilding myself. 🙏 Thank you.

[@joem3226]

I am so grateful for your effort helping us understand and becoming the best version of ourselves. I was the empath in a 17 year marriage (now 53) with a covert female narcissist that also suffers from misophonia and anxiety - I never ran from it and loved her but it’s as you have taught me, her mask was slipping and my discard occurred in April of this year. My rough part is past and the corner I’ve turned (with your help) is that the discard was a GIFT. I’m smiling again, like who I have always been, and ready to accept the give of each day. thank you Stephanie.

[@brandonquijada2856]

All I can say is Thank you soooo much for your content. It has helped me to move on from an 18 year marriage to a narcissist. It all makes sense now.

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[@emmalachowicz8783]

I was stuck in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, 3.5 years of cheating and emotional abuse. I found your videos and have been building myself up for the past couple years. Was recently cheated on again, same exact scenario with a different guy. So so so thankful that I had built myself up enough to know I needed to leave this time. Thank u!!

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[@LauraAmanda8888]

5 weeks since I got away, it's getting easier. Thank you ❤️

[@garycordle5295]

Great video Stephanie,you need to ask yourself this,why would you let someone steel your happiness,and put up with these toxic demons,they don't care about you, that's the sad 😢 thing,but here's the good thing, there's so many people out here that will treat you so much better,and just walk away no contact, that's what you need to do and that's the best way to be away from these toxic demons,the trauma bond breaks and you feel so much better and you take your power back,be the 🌟 of your show and these little toxic demon 😈 s be a fan, that's the best revenge on them taking your life back with a smile 😁 I hope you the best in healing yourself, take care everyone and be blessed.

[@accountsdh5271]

Thank you! Stephanie, this really helped me to get back on track. I've been cheated on in multiple relationship and recently I've been struggling physically and mentally experiencing deep depression. I've been patient and followed your advice from your KZbin channel and now I feel that I back in my productive happy stage. One thing that I think really helps is to make dramatic changes in life and stick to it

[@ivanespinoza4594]

Patience- I gave all of it to my ex and you talk about it here- to have patience with myself. I think it is a fair statement to give myself the loving patience that I gave him because I am worthy of it. I am five months into NC and I will say my patience has been tested but I always go back to the reminder of how I was treated, of all the hopes and dreams that never transpired and then I thank God that He is giving me the patience to continue to press on, one day at a time. I have a choice and it is to know what love is and that starts with knowing how to love myself. God bless and don’t give up hope all who are reading this! 🤍🤍🤍

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Hello do you need help

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[@sharoncheek68]

Every video I have watched so far has been spot on and helped me so much!! Thank you so much for all you do and for posting these free videos. I am on my way to healing and learning self love and finding a better version of me. Thank you, Stephanie!!!❤

[@roadman14]

It's been 2 years in Aug that my ex called her lovers name in her sleep. Your videos have been spot on, I couldn't believe all the steps you talk about with living with a narcissist. Today I am a new person and getting stronger everyday. Thank you for your help.

[@MysticButterfly22]

Stephanie you are a healer and I love watching your videos. You have helped me so much on educating myself in Narcissistic & Toxic Relationships. I'm healing currently from two narcissistic parents and getting through my Co-depency recovery process. This video couldn't have come at a more perfect timing. Thank You for all you do.💕💕😘

[@universalseeker]

Stephanie it's important to use what we learn from these videos. Knowledge is power. Its how you use that power that makes a difference. Ty

[@justbeingchama2796]

Finding your videos 2years back was the best thing ever happened to me! I am feeling so great anf happy today because of you. Thanks a ton. Lots offf loveeee💝

[@marielaedgar8759]

I love the reference 'rebuild' BC I can see it's going to be work in progress for a while. I need to learn to be resourceful after 23 yrs of marriage. It's hard but your videos and people's success stories are wonderfully helpful. I don't feel so alone, so thank you so much everyone! I'm so grateful! Now I know I'm not going crazy and that narcissists are incredibly confusing and challenging to recover from! ❤

[@Separo1]

I wish you strength and patience with yourself and you will get through this. And it is hard even if the partner was not a narcissist. X

[@Autoworld_motors]

I love her videos great tips and good advice ❤

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Glad you like them!

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[@ericamedina4486]

LORD continue to bless your beautiful daughter learning every day

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[@rachell4417]

Worry, sadness, depression here! After 30 years. Looking fwd to the future. Thank you

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Good talk about breakup and it's true is not easy to go through this pain above all when you love the person who dated. But sometime you don't have the choice because relationship become toxic for you and her .anyway you can't avoid suffering the consequences because she was part of your daily life you share with her calling by phone or testing or chating and all that things change and you're in front of the reality of breakup .even after the breakup you wish inside your heart send her a message to take some news and it's hard to reject it.but the best thing to do is to keep in mind if you do that you add difficulty and confusion in your life and maybe you arouse pity .rebuilding your life and keep going is the best way to get your power and get strong your self esteem. Thank you RICHARD

[@kathleenpanlilio7799]

Stephanie THANK YOU. Having gone through all the BS all the Narcs had made me experience in my whole life and me- the doormat then- who just took everything in without complaints for the longest time..... until one day I knew better and snatched my power back... this video opened my eyes to finally look at myself in the mirror and say "I FORGIVE YOU."

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[@HalfGodHalfDevil2018]

Great videos, I've subscribed. I really need to hear that there is hope right now. Not for the lost marriage, I'd rather jump off a cliff than be back with that man again, but hope for that someday I'll not feel the pain he has caused this much. We were together for 20 years and I can't believe all the excuses I made for his behaviour. It's been about 3 months I've been out of the relationship now and I start to feel so much better until there is another bit of contact with him and it sends me downhill again. At least I have all my stuff I really want from the house now like things that belonged to my Grandma. Can't wait to get that divorce done and totally see the back of him. Thank you for the content you make and my heart goes out to all the other people in the comments.

[@cindyfawaz8019]

I am learning how to deal with someone that has mental problems and never respect the truth

[@taraelmegreen5527]

Left my violent and abusive spouse Nov 7, 20. Im SO glad I did this and I pray to get my life back someday. I miss having my own home, own bed, my kitties and yet so blessed by dear, gentle, kind and encouraging friends! Already filed and told him I WILL b finalizing things asap. Im not really worried about being alone, im just tired of bouncing from couch to couch. Im disabled but trying to jump back into career because I need to b able to care for me. Ty ty ty for all your help! God bless u for sharing....💖 #strugglingbutsafeinoklahoma

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[@anh-daotran5961]

Thanks for the advices and reminders! When you know it’s hurt but you gotta make a move to have your own peace. I have been so depressed and sad. I lost idk what to do..but I know time will give me a better answer.

[@inbahome]

Thank you for this. I just ended a 4 yr relationship last week. The enforcing boundaries piece was so hard for me and once I focused more on my own joy and self love, I gained the courage to leave.

[@outtatheashez6636]

🙏☀️Thankyou So very much Stephanie for sharing all your amazing wisdom and insight!! Love your straightforwardness! I recently got out of a 6-year on and off situationship with what I'm seeing was a covert spiritual narcissist so it's been so helpful to listen to all of your different many topics as I'm making my way out of what was a total mind screw and rising above and healing myself and creating a whole new me that is taking care of my heart and not being codependent on somebody else 🙏 Off to the gym I go! 😀

[@les5472]

Hello Ms Stephanie, I've been in a Narcissistic relationship, for the first time in my 64 years. Emotionally Abusive, manipulative, Gaslighter, abusive, Promiscuity I believe. The woman's name was also Stephanie. This person got into my head. In the beginning, I recall how quiet she was, closely listening. She claims she's shy, I believed it might of be/been a ploy? I never knew of this type of person... Stephanie would always claim I had difficulties with grammar, my sentences structure, maybe shaming me for my ADD/ADHD I struggle with? I recall sharing my childhood hood drama with being labeled, etc. Not really realizing how I was setting myself up for all this bull? She never seemed to share much about herself? She has a strange family 👪? She has epilepsy. I'm told by friends "She did me the favor by ending thing's"!

[@rickjenbijarro9393]

That is so true I lost all that after this relationship and that is what I'm working on myself as of now thank you .

[@ms.aquarius4854]

You're speaking on everything I need to work on after a 16yr marriage. U have a new subscriber! 😍I love it

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[@ms.aquarius4854]

I dont want him back at all. l actually prayed for God to remove me from that situation. It was granted. The peace he's given me is one I never experienced. I jus need time to adjust it's been a while. This video gave me great advice. Being married to a narcissist for yrs was very unhealthy for me mentally & emotionally. I wouldnt dare disturb my life with him again.

[@magdakolasa8555]

I am so grateful to have stumbled upon your channel and your videos, you are keeping my head above water and i am incredibly grateful, thank-you.

[@Glitter504]

You’re simply AMAZING Stephanie!!! Left the narcissist few months back .. I’m Struggling but taking a day at a time we were together for almost 9 years !!!!

[@tracyschoeman8578]

I did not leave I ran away from him. I got a job in a BB. And starting over again. At 50

[@Brookevaughn52]

After 11 years I see everything and it makes me sick how I seriously stayed and kept going back so grossed out I’ve always been so strong I need a distraction I’m 50 don’t drive and physically I’ll , it’s going to take time but I feel the diva coming around the corner and she’s pissed off lol you get what I’m saying I hope

[@lindahawkins5205]

Thank you. Such honest, powerful and clear advice. Re: forgiveness of other..after dating a cruel, lying psychopath, sometimes the best you can do is radically accept the truth that this is the way they are. Forgiveness is such a big word for me and it has felt like guilting myself into letting something, emotions / flashbacks, go prematurely. All of which were present for me to learn from so that I didn't negate my own power and accept cruel behaviour from an other ever again. So radical acceptance and absolution, or pardoning/ dismissing the person, is the way that's worked for me. It came down to honoring my already violated sovereignty. I didn't want to do that to myself too. I love your shares. You're one smart lady!

[@jesscraghead475]

I'm so opened to your messages.Its a time in my life I needed this . I guess it's another way of self awareness.And take my owne invantory .Tryed to get bake with my wife after many years separated .And fell in to the same things.Got so happy being alone.I wanted .Me bake.thank you so much little sister.GBY

[@arielpereira7556]

I set a boundary and enforced it (it really is indeed hard) then beat myself up for not living out a fantasy of selfless love.... and stumbbled upon this video. Yeah, I did the right thing and I don't have to carry that image of love being self-sacrifice just because it was floating around in my head. And I don't have to feel guilty about enforcing a boundary that I had set very nicely and explicitly and repeatedly. It's okay to leave even though there were a lot of good things between us. And we don't have to hate each other to let go of the conflict and back away. I really needed some reassurance... who knew I'd find it on a KZbin video.

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[@mustafajuma9528]

Stephanie I just love you.. I just want to listen you over and over! You talk much sense and the more I listened your narcissistic abuse videos I keep illed.. thanks for that and May Almighty Allah protect and guide you to do more videos to educate the world of such abuse and how to handle them.

[@mikesteinmetz9363]

I love this perfect timing I just divorced a narcissistic woman that lies and cheats she didn't get everything she wanted I got some things out of the divorce she still stole things in mind which irritate the hell out of me but that's okay she can go sit in your crap and then life goes on for me I'm in a better place now and I'm happy cuz I don't have to put up with her

[@nicolewright9272]

I love your videos and they are helping me heal from a very toxic and abusive relationship. I'm so thankful for your caring and informative coaching for healthy selflove and mental wellness. Im taking it day by day and learning to forgive myself for staying.THANK YOU for helping so may of us who are working toward becoming a healthier version of ourselves.

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[@gurjitnahal6933]

I am going through this for the past 1 year one betrayal and disrespect after another….after each time breaking my heart, confidence and trust in this relationships he just simply asks me to put it behind me and move on in relationship. He just leaves n reappears making things more difficult and complicated. I am going through so much right now but working on my mental, emotional n physical strength.

[@lauramowforth5811]

Thankyou so much for your incredible advice.Minday Im finally divorcing a narcissist after 14 yrs of mental abuse moved out twice before already this is the third and final time.Cant pretend im not scared as i also have 2 children still at home but the horizon is alrwady looking beautiful so to reach that future you are helping me to take the final step.thankyou watching a video of yours a day!

[@MsNieshaBean]

Wow...just wow!! Thank you so much for this!!

[@lisadee7]

Just knowing i dont have to be emotionally abused and tortured by the soon to be ex husband is such a relief

[@THEHOLLYWOODBLANGOR]

WOW YESSS THE ACCURACY, FAR AS FAMILY NOT UNDERSTANDING OR BEING AS SENSITIVE TO YOUR EMOTIONS AND THAT YOUR HEART IS BROKEN! A CHALLENGE BUT YESSS IM TAKING ON MY TRIBULATIONS BY OUTLIVING AND WRITING MY POSITIVITY. NEW SUB. YOU ROCK, AND COVERED ALLOT OF ADVISE THAT I NEEDED TO HEAR, THANKS. LOVE THIS...XOXO

[@ericlee419]

It takes time but you will be better for it

[@jcp5890]

Love your mission! You have really helped me. I was married for 24 years with 4 kids in a good marriage for the first 10 to 15 years. The boys got bigger and started being bossy like the father. In other words I was stupid and what then men said went. I was told to shut the f*"$# up and just treated badly. HE HAD A WORK WIFE THAT HE TALKED TO ALL THE TIME ON THE PHONE AND WENT OUT TO EAT WITH ON THE CLOCK BUT IT WAS ONLY "WORK". ( I was a trusting idiot, should of realized when he wanted her a 2nd home right above our lake house!)The hubby started gas lighting me and called everything I did crazy. The final straw was when he tried to physically have me committed. Never so scared in my life. He told me to leave and I left. But somehow it is all my fault. I am living in excile, ghosted from my whole damn family. My 3 oldest children. Unbelievable! And they can kiss my happy ass. And I am a Christian and trust God but their behavior is unacceptable. They have a generational history of running off the mama's and turning the children against them so I should of saw it coming. I am focusing on healing and continue to "let them go". Love your advice and keep up the good work. My life doesn't suck and God isn't finished with me yet.

[@peterb9481]

I feel I am going through something a little similar to what you have said (as a man). I hope you are well and have a good and happy life. I am so sorry to hear of what you have written.

[@dianaschoen4485]

You story is much like mine. Feel free to fb message me. Perhaps we could compare notes and help each other. God Bless you. ❤️😊

[@itahayes6165]

I can identify with a lot of this too. I’m when we’re dealing with Narcissism we’re very likely codependent ourselves. Discovered author Pia Melody waiting for her book Facing codependency to arrive.

[@johnjosiah8839]

I feel like I want to & also not sure easier to stay 😊🙃

[@alcudiababe1]

I can answer this question because I've gone through it. I've gone through regular breakups and the one with my narcissist, with regular relationships when they end it hurts, it's painful, you know you're not supposed to call them but it's managable. When you go through a break up with a narcissist you have to work through trauma bonding what they've done to you and it is like an addiction to this person. They've programmed your mind just to think about them. I don't think my family ever realised how deep my psychological wounds were, there were things he did to me that even they don't know about, things he said, and I honest to God wish I'd stumbled onto a site like this years ago because I'd be able to go, OK, not crazy, look at all the support that's been given from everyone to each other and something like this would have really helped me and I'd have benefitted from. I mean, you have to understand my life, bullied from preschool, developed a stammer because of that, its a firm of anxiety. I never had attacks or nothing like that I have anxiety more now sometimes but back then I used to be able to hold things in so mom and my family never knew the damage he did and I described giving him up like giving up smoking and sometimes I'd call him, give in, just to hear his voice because that's what he did to me. He trauma bonded me, Im talking about that bond and I'd have intense dreams, where I'd be anxious in my dreams. You always see it in films where the victim wakes up in a sweat and breathing heavily - yes I breathed heavily but it would be all in my sleep because I'd be tired. I couldn't wake from it. I felt like I was climbing the walls and then he messed with me, telling me he'd be in places which we arranged to meet and then tell me I just missed him, he wasn't on this side of the road he was over on the other around the corner trying to get in my head and I'm thinking did I really miss him. Why didn't I see him? I'd go back and check it was mental torture so leaving a narcissistic abuse relationship messes with your head, he messed me up so badly I had no desire to hug one of my male friends after and each time this guy tried when I was venting when I was upset I couldn't allow him to cuddle me. I was a mess. I felt like I'd gone through some kind of trauma, some kind of operation you've had in the hospital and how that knocks you about a bit, it feels like you've gone through intensive surgary inside. You're relieved your not in the same place you were but your body feels diffrent like it's gone through a major change. So leaving a narcissist relationship is worse, plagued by intense dreams because all you can think about is them, they're constantly on your mind - there are stages you go through - looking back I probably needed professional help. I'd take a normal break up and handle that kind of breakup better than to get mixed up with another narcissist.

[@adalineproulx9773]

Wow this is so accurate 💗 I hope youre getting stronger 🤗

[@danetspeaks8708]

Wow your story is deep and resonates with my story. I’m wishing you the best 🙏🏾💙🙌🏽🥰

[@Chris-oz4gl]

Stephanie you are a life saver. I love your videos after my ex gf put me through a really bad breakup

[@jeffjacobs6980]

I am doing a rebuild for myself not for others. Things happened for me for a reason for me to be a better person. When she left me, that person died & a new me along with changes without her and focus on me has happened.

[@dzerhellema8131]

Patience and forgiveness. Very very helpfull!

[@Sheywh12]

STEPHANIE THANK YOU 🙏🏻. I lost my husband NPD on May 2, 2022 to Leukemia after a year and half battle for us both to survive this last year and half was hard..After a 31 year Marriage I wanted out so bad yet couldn’t understand when he passed why I was constantly crying so hard You just explained it to me so well Thank you I needed to hear that it was okay to be up and down at the same time..It’s like nothing I’ve ever experienced before..Painful he had to die grateful I’m not stressed out no more. Yes we go through a lot and yes patients the Lord is teaching me patients I’ve never been patient with myself being down for anytime Now I’ve been going on 3 months of this what I call yo yo mentality!! One minute your doing great the next minute your mourning his life and yours together The next your again so grateful the pain has stopped!! Since you don’t do any in grief if a NPD I guess I’ll watch your after break up videos to heal again I’ve watched you for 8 years just about now!! I’ve taught myself so much and yes 3 years ago I became aware of exactly what he was saying wasn’t about me it was actually all anoint him I also stopped and got quite and heard him repeat the same words over and over in each argument just like a child would I understood where he kept yelling at me competition He would say your always competing for the longest that and many other things I thought I was loosing it I’ve never ever competed for love or anything! I see now he was the one competing!! When I was able to see it was him against himself and yes if you get quite they will keep arguing with themselves while blaming you.. It breaks my heart how he got this way as I know the hell of a past that he lived in as a child..I guess that’s why I was still around till he took his last breath…Between you and the Bible I feel I can and will heal Although at the age of 57 almost 58 I’m not looking to go through this again Both marriages in my life and my Mom are enough for me for the rest of my life. If being with someone has to hurt this bad and all the things they lie and do financially to you and then you find out on their death bed It’s too much I never ever want to repeat this again!! I’ve had my fill!! So I’m fine in my own not looking for another partner period! Take Care Bless you thanks for all you do You have taught me so much and gotten me through so much in the last 8 years May God Bless you forever ♾ I’m so grateful to you for everything Sheila Whitehead AKA Marshella

[@davidbell8320]

3 weeks silence and now 1st week of breakup with text telling me it's my fault ffs, no mention of emotional abuse or vile and hurtful words thrown at me. hurt at start but then, it's my lucky escape, I'm 59 anf I am going to fibd someone who wants to love me. Im learning and will spot red flags. In future.

[@davidbell8320]

I am a little scared of not finding a nice person, but at least I won't have to suffer her abuse ever again

[@themadp]

You are my new favorite KZbinr. Thank you for the golden tokens of advice for true self sufficiency, personal growth, and success.

[@RippleDrop.]

One has to know and appreciate oneself lovingly, not egoisticly, to set realistic boundries. Not stating boundaries you feel you can't keep, deserve or use them to threat others into changing their behavior. Talking from experience. It's about me.

[@izawaniek2568]

I love everything you said here. Thank you so much for your help and support.

[@jmarrero3nmnm]

You are such a blessing! Your style, your approach and your delivery, I absolutely adore and gravitate to. Thank you for all of this free coaching and your time. You are changing lives for the better ❤️

[@annaalm18]

Great, thank you so much. I can't find the free guide to self parenting that you are talking about in 3:55 though (just the full course). Is there a link to the free guide or can anyone help please? Thank you!

[@ambieu5132]

After three years I was discarded by my narc ex that is also my coworker (big mistake!!) and within a couple of weeks he was dating a new coworker, who I thought was a friend. It’s so difficult seeing them and hearing them say they are getting married in a couple of months. Some days are harder than others. This is such a difficult journey for me. But I hold my head high and every day I choose me. She can have that broken man.

[@Nulady8008]

I never comment, but this spoke to me. I was in the same situation with a toxic ex for years and he was also my co-worker, but I ended up getting pregnant by him and he discarded me and I had to see him every day at work knowing the father of my child didn't give a crap about me or the baby and would walk past me at work. Long story, he is still around in and out of our lives 6 yrs later, but he has not changed, and has caused nothing but heartache. I am finally realizing I need to let go even if he is my child's father. I'm sorry you are dealing with this and I'm glad you had the strength to walk away and choose yourself.

[@ambieu5132]

@@Nulady8008 wow..I am so sorry. It must be so difficult to deal with him!!! Many many prayers for you!

[@MirandaBooher]

this is helpful, 5 months and i still feel paralyzed after leaving abusive 15 year relationship