6 Signs You Have An Obsessive Love Style

Mania is a type of love that is described as a possessive or obsessive love that can lead to extreme jealousy and codependency. Mania is caused by an imbalance of love and insecurities by two people. But the good news is, even if you find yourself in one of the styles of love that Lee describes, you won’t stay there forever. People ebb and flow in and out of these styles of love. Now, let’s explore the signs you might be experiencing obsessive love.
Do you have an obsession with your crush, not love. We have a video on that too: • 7 Signs You're Obsesse...
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Firestone, L. (2017, February 14). Be Mine: Dealing with Possessiveness in a Relationship. Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201702/be-mine-dealing-possessiveness-in-relationship
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Hi everyone! How are you?

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[@calebwood7567]

Quite happy, thank you!

[@Ts1rka4]

Right now I'm fine, about to go out for a walk with friend.

[@stachu_2137]

Hi, I got a little worried finding out that I relate to every example of mania XD

[@calebwood7567]

@@Ts1rka4 Always nice. Enjoy!

[@ComicalRealm]

"Love is the most beautiful thing to have, the hardest thing to earn, and the most painful thing to lose" - Fred Flintstone

[@khalilahd.]

Wow. This is so true

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[@JanitorJim56]

“love is cure to all our pain” - John F. Kennedy

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[@Raghav-tx6ym]

0:36 Lack of concentration and focus. 1:10 Codependency. 1:56 You don’t feel good when you don’t get attention from your partner. 2:43 Extreme jealousy. 3:41 Extreme possessiveness. 4:33 Desperately needing your partner.

[@AlatOnDemand]

damn you beat me to it 😭

[@gokuscalves2102]

Thank you :)

[@midnightsarrow160]

Already know I got it cuz I heard abt it and started looking more into it and there's too many similarities Can't guarantee that I do but when I'm able to get to a psychiatrist without my mom then I'll confirm it for good --i unfortunately can't get my mom in on it cuz she wouldn't let me talk she kinda hugs the spotlight with these things--

[@melaniemartin4319]

Cohabitation...divorce!🤯🤯🤯

[@Lianna_Is_Me]

I kinda have all of them but not just for my partner and it's for a good reason! also I need help

[@khalilahd.]

I feel like you can quickly go from being in love to being dependent and obsessed with someone if you’re not careful. Great advice for those finding themselves doing these things 💛

[@goddosyourself7970]

lol imagine being like that.If you're that way then you deserve being in a toxic relationship.Inferior people deserve to be controlled.And if youre depwessed or have any other disorders youre essentially inferior and deserve to be the toy

[@pointysidedown]

I think love takes years to really grow and develop between people. Lust or obsession can happen in an instant, and it usually involves both partners projecting, instead of really understanding each other.

[@blackbullet4254]

Being obsessed doesn't mean you're not in love, especially if you have an amazing partner

[@DarkPrincessLisana]

What you said is definitely happening with me aftery marriage 🙂🙂 I think I am an obsessive partner, but I wasn't before. After my marriage, I've become one😥

[@lorenzomata3009]

@@pointysidedown love is love...

[@cringechannel8512]

Whoever's reading this, I pray that whatever your going through gets better and whatever your struggling with our worrying about is going to be fine and that everyone has a fantastic Easter! Amen.

[@Rexx2Byte]

tank you :D

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Ty

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Tysm

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[@krisdespacepope1551]

Im fine bro..... Thanks for checking tho.

[@clore6886]

This video has caused me to realize how scary getting into a relationship can truly be... Maybe I'm better off single lol

[@claireschweizer4765]

LOL I thought that too; I'm miserable either way but if I'm single I don't make other people miserable

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[@teegutta4689]

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[@pastaboiman06]

Same

[@fluoroantimonicacid4844]

Yeah I already decided that lol

[@wildfyah]

I KNEW IT!! Something felt off about how attached to someone I've been feeling lately

[@khalilahd.]

I hope you navigate your feelings well!

[@busisiwedlamini8101]

I thought I was the only one 👀

[@nonserviam.1574]

You literally spotted youself lol

[@KaliyahMitchell7]

No fkn really

[@wildfyah]

@@khalilahd. Hey thanks, sorting through them as we speak. I haven't been processing what I've been through at all. So starting there and coming forward. I'm really thankful for these videos. They help me in between therapy sessions.

[@Howhughes2013]

Healthy relationships seem to have a little bit of these issues already present. I think it’s important for both partners to come from a place of understanding and consistently assuring one another’s feelings.

[@10magicalfingers27]

Ikr

[@Psych2go]

These issues may always persists, it's all about how both sides approach them :)

[@SCARLETVAMPIREXX]

I know I can be obsessive in a relationship or with a crush, but It’s only because I can’t find my own self-worth, or value like it was mentioned in the video. I’m super dependent, and I really know I need to fix that. I feel like I just get too excited when I get a partner or crush, so it makes me overly obsessive. It could also be because 1. I don’t date too much or for too long, and 2. I’m only in middle school, so I’m probably not gonna be stable for a serious relationship anytime soon.

[@cococoffee2305]

Bro, don’t worry, because I relate so much too. Hopefully, this passes for the both of us with age and experience.

[@norapeace6526]

You’re in middle school? Wow 😳 You can really articulate yourself very well to be so young!!

[@megannzzz]

are we living the same life ?? im struggling with the same problem and in middle school as well😭

[@SacredFox]

You’ll be okay ❤️ I promise as you grow and work on what your sense of self is these things make sense a little more. I had such huge crushes in middle school! I found a diary a very good outlet for expression! A lot of people in middle school and high school still don’t have a sense of direction in life and that can change for them as it does for you. Allow yourself to feel crushes- thats okay! Use your attraction towards others as an indicator of what qualities you enjoy in others even if a relationship does not form from it! You got this ❤️

[@TrackerKid]

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[@paradox_himself]

Video idea: How to deal with narcissists, dark empaths and other types of those disorders in a community (like a workplace or school), rather than in a relationship

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I love this idea I would love to hear their insight!

[@MeemahSN]

Yes!

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yes!

[@igiem368]

While I like this type of video idea, I’d also love to see a complimentary video about how to cope with/stop being a narcissist.

[@IceKingToushiro]

Punch their face

[@isaiahvoss]

If you have obsessive love towards someone, take control of those feelings and tell your partner how you feel. Don't let your relationship go down hill by how you feel. It's how you handle those emotions. It's okay to accept failure or rejection to improve on how to act. When life leaves us blind, love keeps us kind. ❤

[@mikoswhackgameandstuffvids480]

I didn't have jealousy, I've been feeling obsessed with my friend for 5 years. And now, I am no longer obsessed. Guess my obsession was the friend and not actually me. Meaning that me being obsessed with her is the reason why I loved her so much. And now, I feel guilty for not feeling love anymore

[@christinesaddul6275]

What if you tell your partner how you feel, & they shame you? 😔😩😭

[@khalilahd.]

Great advice!

[@WoofFur]

@@christinesaddul6275 Then they’re not worth it. A true partner is there to help you change for the better, and if they can’t help you and shame you, then that’s not someone who loves you.

[@turtle-ot2qc]

@@christinesaddul6275 GIRL YOU DESERVE BETTER, please realise no body should ever treat you like that!

[@irispierce4238]

I used to be so incredibly codependent with my ex, but when they left I turned all that ‘love’ I had for them on myself and now a year later I think I’m in a much healthier mindset and can love and be loved in a much healthier way :)

[@randybudderknubs5152]

You're lucky. I still cry myself to sleep a year after.

[@naecher]

@@randybudderknubs5152 awh:( I’m sorry to hear about that ( ･᷄ὢ･᷅ ) Hopefully you’re blessed with another lover later on in life. Take care

[@irispierce4238]

@@randybudderknubs5152 oof felt, that’s valid. It’s been a year and I still miss them, but I don’t torture myself over it anymore. You deserve better as well. I wish you the best

[@emmaz3505]

That's how I felt and then I got into another relationship with an amazing guy but I have abandonment issues and tend to not voice my feelings or emotions out of fear of what they'll think even if I know they'll be understanding of my feelings

[@leonardo_mfs]

I'm happy for you, but how did you do it? I lost my 11 years girlfriend and best friend twice now (much because I have a lot of the symptoms shown in the video) and I'm unable to overcome it. Friends tell it's a matter of time and doing things for myself, but at the end of the day the loneliness and sad thoughts are agonyzing.

[@NamanyaAndi]

Things i learn about love is, my partner do have another things to do. She has her world, so do i/u. If u ever feel possessive on ur partner, distract it to something productive. For me it worked both for my productivity and my relationship 🥰

[@claireschweizer4765]

HAHAHA YOU SWEET, DARLING NUEROTYPICAL HAVE A WONDERFUL LIFE =D =D

[@Psych2go]

Facts! Self productivity and respect can be the answer to a lot of things :)

[@ravenvalor1470]

As someone who's been on the other side of this dynamic, it's not fun. Having someone be "your whole world" is not healthy for both parties.

[@sFlapperGirl]

I disagree on that calling your partner your whole world means that person is so special to you

[@lyricaldestruction603]

@@sFlapperGirl same, ppl don’t realize that true love is a game u can’t play unless u go all in, most won’t know this until it’s too late, its the same with a mother and child a lot of times tbh, there its okay but in relationships it isn’t, humanities logic is flawed more often than not

[@claireschweizer4765]

exhibit A of why I will never, ever have a healthy relationship =D

[@xcel4480]

@@sFlapperGirl I think the commenter means making them your whole world in unhealthy ways and not normal, romantic ones.

[@TheFighterbike]

@@sFlapperGirl It's really not healthy to have your partner be your whole world. People need time for themselves sometimes, people need space. Lately my gf has been acting a little obsessed like described in the video and it's really not fun. It geniunely makes me question our relationship's future.

[@lesyeuxdemari8361]

Oh, I accidentally watched this and realized I have 4 of the signs. We already talked about my emotions and he understood me. I've experienced traumatizing moments in life that made my mental and emotional health unstable, my boyfriend understands it and he promised that he'll give all his love to me as long as I love him too. I'm not extremely jealous or have extreme obsessiveness but I admit that I want his attention. We're on an ldr relationship and the only way we can communicate is through calls and chats that's why I want to know everything that happens to his everyday life. He'll be coming here soon and I can't wait🥰

[@nonserviam.1574]

Me too! I'll go to his place in 2 weeks... he's suffering so much because of the distance, he's getting more tired and loses more of his concentration day by day... it's most probably because of work too, but I can't help worrying. I hope seeing each other will cheer him up and I sincerely hope he's not gonna leave me anytime soon. 'Cause if he does, I'll literally crash him out of existence😀

[@iiii4271]

@@nonserviam.1574 “crash him out of existence” that’s a new one

[@nonserviam.1574]

@@iiii4271 Haha, sorry, I'm not English :")

[@phoebejoysuarez7104]

same :))

[@juliuscaesart]

Feelin’ personally attacked by this channel. Kidding, great content as always.

[@claireschweizer4765]

I feel both ways in that statement and it (the channel) being accurate seems to help my mental state decline even more =D

[@absentreverie]

i'm the same way with a close friend of mine. i keep a lot of jealousy to myself to help teach myself how to think rationally and keep myself from losing my composure. i have abandonment issues from past relationships and react to negative events based on past experiences and trauma. i'm extremely codependent, and i feel bad for having a hold on them the way i do. i am getting better at keeping our friendship transparent and open, but i still fear those moments. a lot of the stuff i do though is all out of genuine love for my friend. they mean the world to me and it's hard to think about losing contact with them permanently.

[@heyitschloe9224]

I’m currently struggling with this and I always try to hide my real emotions to prevent my friends from seeing it. It makes me feel awful, I feel bad for feeling the way that I do. Sorry I know this was random and not really helpful but it feels good to know I’m not the only one who feels this way, because it makes me feel so isolated.

[@Ranjita.P]

I am dealing with something similar too! Years and years of being abandoned by ones I truly considered best of friends. That really scars you you know. Somehow one friend stuck around but I’m realising that I deserve better. ( calling me her best friend when no one is present but completely denying having a best friend when asked by others and little things like this that questions your self worth) She’s helped me a lot through tough times and I’ve spoken to her about how I feel a bunch of times in the past but nothing has changed. But now for the first time I’ve drawn a boundary and I’m learning to enjoy solitude. Losing contact with her permanently scares me as well, let’s see where my feeling leads me XD Hope everything goes well for you ♾

[@crius5963]

Too late for me, now they're all gone

[@Ranjita.P]

@@crius5963 Feel you. But you can try to look at it as a clean slate for new people who’ll treat you right :’) Your time will come 💪🏻😌

[@maaoo]

I feel the same way about a friend of opposite gender She is my best friend We are too close platonically She is also obsessive i left a lot of things for her But now whenever she goes away or is with her other friends I feel bad and sometimes i get angry with her We care too too much for each other But we quarrel a lot on very little things What is this??

[@Jam_MG]

This is literally me. Every single box checked. I’ve been long aware of my feelings and I know how to recognize that I’m being too much. I don’t think I’ve ever gone too far. I always communicate as much as possible.

[@himaliaggarwal6956]

How to stop being obsessive.......it distrubes me mentally that I am thinking about him all the day🤯🤯🤯

[@lovebug7985]

I find this is definitely me, luckily not to the point of being possessive over the person. I’m so scared of losing people I love and I tend to obsessively love them and sacrifice a lot for them. I worry all the time that they don’t really love me and fear every second that they’ll leave me..

[@Psych2go]

And that's completely normal and human :)

[@OGEdgyUsername]

This is both heart breaking but an eye opener. I didn't believe I was obsessed, but I was checking off everything. I lost someone so important to me and I realized how I acted was toxic. I did pick up on these such as jealousy and always wanting to be with them 24/7. But after the relationship was over, I took the time to reflect on myself. I knew I struggled with an anxious attachment and feeling no self worth, but I never realized I was hurting them. I'm both sad the relationship is over but glad that I'm now seeing what I should do to improve myself. I'm willing to let go, not only to free him from my toxicity but to also to allow myself to take the steps to healing.

[@SemiOtterMatic4]

Anyone else gone down a rabbit hole of videos like this recently which actually help a lot with reflection and growth. I’ve been watching this type of stuff and I feel I can break down and pin point my emotions much better now and focus on just making memories with my partner. This is honestly a great way to educate people and help mature emotionally.

[@austejajurkynaite9719]

I've been suffering from codependency, but started getting better once we've gotten into a long distance relationship for 9 months. I started focusing more on myself and my social surroundings without the partner, but recently I've been feeling like codependency is trying to get a hold of me once more. So it's really a struggle and people shouldn't be afraid/embarrassed to talk about it with family/friends or a therapist

[@peabody23]

I’m literally going through the same thing. My boyfriend is in the Air Force and got stationed in the UK. We’ve been in a long distance relationship for about 7 months now. I’ve been dealing with some of these same symptoms but I’ve become self aware over the years so now I can stop myself from spiraling back into my bad place.

[@austejajurkynaite9719]

@@peabody23 Happy that you can ground yourself, stay strong!

[@Psych2go]

Yes!

[@loonthroughtheether271]

I can easily recognize the symptoms. I can stop myself from doing most of these things but how do you stop the constant thoughts that swim through your head? It's agonizing knowing you have this issue but can't stop your brain from going there anyway.

[@blaqproductions5997]

It honestly just takes time, sometimes you feel like you’re going crazy bc that person is in your thoughts a lot and it’s not even their fault. Your mind just likes them and you can’t imagine anything without em. You didn’t provide much context for your situation. Are you dating this person or is it a crush? What happened to me a month ago was just a crush.

[@senukuli]

Same, it gets really annoying...especially with a crush

[@MinouHime]

I have borderline personality disorder and experience this a lot in my relationship. I'm working on it, but it's been a constant struggle. fortunately my partner is very understanding of my BPD

[@haizelmary1656]

I have that too and lately I’ve been a mess. I wish it could just be easy not feeling abandoned and neglected even when I know I am not :(. I really want help, because my relationship means too much to me and my partner doesn’t deserve what I go through.

[@claireschweizer4765]

I'm not diagnosed but I'm convinced I have BPD as well, I am clingy to the point where it's disgusting and my feelings have not changed...I made sure I had a babysitter for friendship/security/companionship until I was 13 even though I could legally take care of myself by the time I was 7 years old. I would ask my parents to go out on dates so they'd have an excuse to hire one ... what's ironic is that we're still friends.

[@Kelis-melissa]

Mine wasn’t and broke up with me 2 weeks ago because of this 💔

[@Psych2go]

You will improve :)

[@VeronicaStorm98]

I have this love style and have been compared to a Yandere by my male peers. The truth is that I have Aspergers, have a fear of abandonment due to past failed friendships, get paranoid of not ruining the relationship, and tend to fixate on the person I love in a way that comes off as obsessive or outwardly posessive. I'm just tired of hurting emotionally all the time, and I want the person I end up with to always be there for me, to hold me in their arms and let me fully be myself and be vulnerable enough to cry around them, and validate me when I am struggling to love myself or when I can't deal with my emotions.

[@armanroyai6601]

I think personally that a healthy relationship truly just is something where both people in it are completely satisfied and able to function as a member of society.

[@wonderworld1189]

i don’t wanna self diagnose myself- but from all these reasons from this video i have obsessive love

[@tripslikejay]

this sorta reminds me of a person with borderline personality disorder and their favourite person, although an fp can be a platonic relationship like a friend or close family member, not always a romantic relationship with a partner. we dont exactly choose if it happens or with who, its just an unfortunate thing. (usually; it worked well for some people ive seen)

[@69centprominute12]

What do you mean with their favourite person? Is this a borderline thing?

[@shamelessoptimist8335]

@@69centprominute12 it’s a person that the person with BPD becomes overly attached to. They idealize them until feeling like they’ll abandon them and then they devalue and “split” from their fp.

[@ynaatienza5396]

Geez now I know this applied to me so much before. Im not even dating the person anymore and cut connection with them but they still affect my life so much still and I think about them when I shouldn’t. Their existence and our history is heavily affecting me still, I don’t know why I can’t just stop thinking about it normally.

[@Tunabreath2001]

I never knew this was a bad thing... My dream partner always would've been the same and I got upset when they didn't act as obsessed as I did. It really is my love style and I have been learning to be independent anyways but this video really opened my eyes... I wish I saw this earlier.....

[@Psych2go]

Better late than never!

[@iamnotaz]

I'll share my experience as someone who has been in this type of relationship. I must admit, I felt controlled. Constant control of where and who I am with, excessive jealousy and the need to be together made me not feel the same feelings anymore. I have found myself in situations where I was running away from any contact with anyone. I was just disappearing. It felt so wrong, but I thought it was the only solution for this to workout. And so my feelings for the person who once was "my whole world" have died out. I didn't understand their constant need to be close to me because I didn't feel the same way they did. It made me feel overwhelmed by guilt. And don't get me wrong, I loved that person, still do, but I saw that our relationship was becoming more and more toxic. It wasn't healthy for both of us and so we broke up. It was the best we could do, since it was too late. It was a year since then. We're just friends now. I think it's getting better, but it won't be the same as it was.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for sharing

[@Ghost-Soul666]

Here is my take on this: for one, one must question the factuality of what has caused one to be like this in this way? As many things as I am, such as a hopeless romantic, an empath, an INFJ-T, and so on, one of my biggest conflicts with love and with humanity, is the interactions and experiences one can endure and suffer through, which ultimately leads to one's own undoing. I am a male, and literally almost every single relationship I have ever been in, I have been cheated on, mentally and emotionally abused, taken advantage of, used, lied to, betrayed, and my partners (unfortunately) were extremely narcissistic and toxic. No one, on God's green Earth, can even fathom, just how isolated and invisible this makes me feel, what type of reality this puts me in. I don't want any of this to come off as negative or subjegated, but the truth of the matter is just all of that. The only reason (besides venting/ranting/wanting to be seen/heard) that I mention all of this, is because I can partially relate to a couple of these things the video discusses. But at the same time, just as some things can be there from the start, some things are made into being later on in life as well. I've never cheated on any partner ever point blank period. Not in any possible type of way, or aspect. And never have I ever laid my hands on a woman. But, one must consider what one must have been through to be the person that they are. *NOTE:* I am aware of some of the possible types of responses, be it constructive/destructive, positive/negative, and so on. I just want it to be known that I have no disregard for any person whomever agrees/disagrees, relates to/doesn't relate to this take of mine. I hope everyone has a safe and wonderful day/evening. 🌙👻

[@CrystaL-mu5zi]

I just want to say you're not alone. It's an isolating feeling to be in a relationship, of any kind, with a narcissist. With someone who cheats on you, or treats you badly. Whether it be a partner, a friend, a family member. Remember this though: Narcissistic people choose ones they view as easy to manipulate, to manipulate. That isn't necessarily a bad thing. It means you have a good heart, a kind soul. For those of us who have fallen in the traps before, sometimes it's easier to fall back into them. A cycle, of sorts. As for the video, I know what you mean. For some of these things, yes they are obsessive, or can come off that way, but for some of us there's deeply rooted reasons as for why we are the way we are. Things aren't always as they seem. Keep your chin up friend. 😊

[@Ghost-Soul666]

@@CrystaL-mu5zi That was beautiful, and thank you SO very much for being so understanding. And unfortunately, yes. It is a double-edged dagger of sorts. But thankfully, I know what to feel and what to look out for, but the flip-side of that, is that it forces me to always have such a guard drawn and a wall up. I'm open enough to observe, be observed, and to reciprocate interaction if it is introduced and I deem it positive and genuine enough. But past that is where the silver lining ends. I hate that there has to be a balance of things, noting the Principle of Polarity as a good example. I hate that as much as one can give so freely and out of innocent will, that there are those who only wish to seek and to gain out of their own corruption. I am just also super glad to know that you also understand as I referenced, the fact that in some way, shape, or form, that it affects us. However strongly, deeply, and/or even painfully. Just a molded vessel of what we are, as also of what we once was. We all are who we were then, just as much as we all are who we are now. Thank you for your words and your perception, I appreciate that so much.

[@CrystaL-mu5zi]

@@Ghost-Soul666 of course. 😊 I understand what you mean completely. Do you feel at times you're fighting yourself, because you want to be open and honest with people you interact with, but you shut yourself down because you're afraid of what could possibly happen as a result of doing that? Sometimes I catch myself trying to say something, and then I stop because I'm afraid it will be used against me in the future. It's a double-edged dagger for sure. I don't feel like I can genuinely be myself, for fear of how it will be received and used against me, but not being myself at times makes me feel like I don't really know who I am. Knowing what to look out for can be so beneficial. And yes, we are, as a whole, who we once were, and who we have become due to experience. Humans are adaptable, but that adaptability can come at a cost at times as well. Stay safe out there friend, there's always evil lurking in the corners, but don't let that evil leave a mark on your heart and soul. From an INFP-T, don't let the world make you lose your hope, despite how hard it can feel at times to hold on to it. 😊

[@Ghost-Soul666]

@@CrystaL-mu5zi Honestly yes, and it is crazy to me (in a good way) that someone else besides myself can relate to me on this. This is a gawky one, because I have an extremely well-settled and established sense of self as a whole and in general, but when it comes to getting close with a person, be it a friend or a partner or elsewhat, sometimes those lines that define sense of self can become a little blurred for me. Half of me tries to hold back from being fully authentic, but without negative substitution of those parts. While the other half of me tries to be as open as possible, but with full realization and awareness of the risks and consequences one must face if things go awry. It is a sense of living in fear, but striving in courage. I have held on to hope, what little I have left, because sadly and unfortunately, it at moments becomes unnervingly tempting to just say screw it and become completely cold and heartless and turn my light away from the world and its people. But... I just don't have it in me to be that way. Besides fighting with myself, that also comes with struggling with depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, and the loneliness. But I stay as strong as I can, thank you so much for your kind words and understanding. 😊

[@Ghost-Soul666]

@@jarodexists474 Oh my gosh! That is so crazy, I feel like I was reading a part of my life, heheh. So, I actually have Asperger's Syndrome, so that is established. But honestly, after reading all of this, yes it makes perfect sense, and yes, this is something I need to attempt to implement into my life and myself. I'm honestly at a loss for words, this hit so close to home and I needed this more than you'll ever know. Thank you so much, brave fellow human. 😭🖤🌙☺

[@videoforlife7086]

For a while, I did had an obsession, but try not letting it get out of hand, I even let my ex partner know. The more I admit to my feelings, the easier it seems to let them go...... although my partner wasn't really supportive (yeah he bought me stuff and was straight forward about things) but when it came to drama, instead of talking, he kept it hidden, talk to his friends (which how I know) and.... rarely told me anything.

[@pancakes46]

Ah I can relate. I've never been in a relationship before but I do find similar feelings as in the video with my crush. Things like needing others to value you to feel your own worth, putting others approval above my own, lose focus alot, a "tch" feeling in my brain when my crush is talking to someone else. Well it's that or I'm just really really lonely.

[@Psych2go]

Great insights!

[@PyroRat]

I hate that I do this, but, I think I found someone who actually doesn’t mind my obsessiveness over them, because we’ve been together for quite a few years now! They get it, they get that I need them close to me, they get that I can’t really function without them, they get that I’m obsessive, and they seem to find it sweet! It’s like they enjoy it, and are perfectly fine with it! And, at least I don’t get too overbearing, like I won’t check their messages or try to hack into their phone, because thats a little too far for me. They have social anxiety too, so having me around them all the time makes it easier for them. So yeah, I think I found my perfect person!

[@sreemoyeeroygosthipaty3697]

A lot of the characteristics listed here are considered romantic in a lot of movie tropes, especially the 6th point. Psych2go , you are right it leads us to feel drained. It was really comforting to know that these are actually signs of mania and not signs of how much you care about a person(as I have heard a lot of people idealized some of the behaviors you mentioned).

[@marzipanmango]

I felt this kind of obsession for my boyfriend for the first 6 months or so of our relationship. I just tried to ignore it and chalked it up to the honeymoon stage. Our relationship is much more normal and relaxed now :)

[@leonardo_mfs]

Except for extreme possessiveness, I see myself completely in this video. I just lost my 11 years partner, lover and best friend for the second time due to being much like it's shown. I drained her out so much that now I live with the weight of guilt constantly over me. My fears and insecurities took the best of me when I had no reason for them, and over time I've spiraled down into a depression that I'm already doing my best to overcome. I discovered this channel recently and I find your videos very helpful in recognizing the importance of mental health. Thank you and keep up the good work. You earned a new subscriber.

[@justaperson3425]

I really needed this video, couldn’t understand what’s happening. Thank you so much I’ve been watching this channel since 2016 helped me out a lot to understand myself and others more💕💕

[@sam1866]

This is literally me, except I don't actually act on these feelings

[@GiannaStoltz]

Congrats on 9 mil!! U guys deserve it

[@Nela..]

I really love ur calming voice ❤️ thank you for doing these videos

[@tyroe5002]

Dang, I wish this video came out a lot sooner it was so helpful for me. Thank you 🙏

[@KhoiruunisaRF]

Thank you for the reminder. Thanks to this list, I am able to re-evaluate again every time if our love is healthy or not. For me, and for the other person.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for watching!

[@AshantiH502]

I’m not even gonna lie, I’ve been feeling this way with my partner. I was just thinking and talking about this earlier but had no idea it was something explainable or that it was called, “Mania”. In a way, I’ve always been like this. But not having a father figure in my life and feeling abandoned and unloved by my father kinda sent me down this path. More so to look for love within another guy because of the lack of love I felt I was getting from him. Most of these signs I feel I can relate to. I relate to all of them except for the second one and the sixth one. I haven’t talked to him about it either which is not good. But I’ve been known to suppress my feelings because that’s all I’ve known for long. But it’s just something I need to continue to work on.

[@teegutta4689]

GOOD MORNING, FRIEND MY NAME IS TEE, JUST LOOKING FOR FRIENDS, WEAR ARE YOU FROM JUST ASKING. TEE FROM PHILLY. GOD BLESS EVERYONE. TEE 💋

[@Psych2go]

That's alright, good that reflection is coming through!

[@norapeace6526]

Isn’t everybody like this in the beginning of the talking stage with somebody that they like? I would think so even a little bit. I know I was like this with the last guy I talked to .. now we haven’t talked in 6 months and I still think about him daily 😪

[@kasumichanxx8390]

I totally understand this as I’m going thru something like this gotta love the KZbin system for video popping up cause this centered in whats going on

[@claireschweizer4765]

The last video you released on this subject I really watched and paid attention to. I then realized why so many people have been ghosting/leaving me on read for YEARS on end and I how I truly have no friends. I then procceeded to have an anxiety attack, my mom told me I was being too hard on myself but nearly HALF the behaviors in the video mentioned I strongly identified with, I have since vowed to ween myself of reaching out to people, and have given every single person in my life close to me permisson to leave with no explanation, I also learned that because of this I have no capability of ever establishing or keeping any healthy relationship be in romantic, platonic or otherwise. I have now felt more lonely than ever, do not speak to anyone unless I'm in public and haven't had access to a therapist in over two years. Thanks a whole, fucking lot Psych2go

[@jolliethejoy]

I'm the jealous type, although i often don't show it to my partner. I'm definitely not happy or proud about it. People call it "a sign of love" that's not true. Jealousy is just your insecurity, and sometimes jealousy causes you to restrain or hurt your partner. Please don't allow anyone to restrict or rule you, that's not love that's pure selfishness.

[@DOMOO9O]

thank you for making this 😭 i struggle with this all the time

[@goddessenergy4342]

Hello sweetheart never give up on the one you love...I know of a man who can attract back your ex .. He was the one who brought back my ex ever since I got back with my ex I have been enjoying my reunion with him......................

[@Galaxy-si9qm]

It definately hit me hard with the last one. I have so many panic attacks when my partner isnt around which he cant be around as much as I wish he could be. I really want to fix it but I dont know how to go about doing that. I know it could be the breaking point of either of us if I cant control my feelings and I absolutely dont want that because he is the love of my life. I know I can be way too clingy even though my boyfriend insists that Im not. I know he does get frustrated and stressed because Im stressed that he cant always be here with me. He is trying so hard to help but he just cant do it on his own so understanding the problem I have with research and videos like this helps out so much. Thank you for your awsome work.

[@hearts4blxndie777]

This is amazing I love your videos tysm for doing this!!! Have an amazing day/night!!!

[@freshmints6713]

michealllllll

[@hearts4blxndie777]

@@freshmints6713 YES

[@mjzone9633]

Emotional Maturity Level: 30 Depending on the situations I face in life, there are some things that I see myself as a work-in-progress. I'm still learning how to emotionally grow. But I do acknowledge my imperfections. I don't want to brag but it does take practice to hold myself accountable for mistakes I've done. Thank you Psych2Go for posting this quiz. Mrs Donna ❤️❤️

[@jokroast6912]

This felt good to watch

[@kongvang5359]

I used to be kind of like this. After my first relationship, I have started to self-analyze and change the way how I love and express myself in a more healthy and mature way.

[@mingmingze]

Thank you for this lesson☺️I really need it

[@Psych2go]

Happy to help! Did you relate to the video?

[@lijon3204]

I used to talk with a girl and she just stopped talking to me one day and we havent heared of each other for like 2 years... She was always the one and only person i liked and we never got together even tho we both used to like each other... And ive seen her recently and she just acts normal but kinda avoids talking to me... It been so long, it still hurts ...Idk what ive done...

[@DeRez19]

You are not alone. I had this one girl I used to eat breakfast with a lot and she stopped talking to me. I know why, though. I did not ask her out. I was not into her that way, and all this time she was giving me signs that she liked me but I did not pick any of them up. I was too dense. Now I feel like a boring anime MC but with like... no hair.

[@claireschweizer4765]

Run fast, run far

[@zadock6370]

If you really like her, even as just a friend, I recommend going out of your way and talking to her about why this is happening. ask her why she is avoiding you, did you do something wrong, is it on her? If it was me and someone did that to me, I would stop at little to nothing to figure out what is going on. if someone starts avoiding me or starts to ghost me for a long period of time with no explanation (granted I actually talk to this person regularly), I would go as far as to pester and spam that person until I get some sort of answer. I worry about my friend and I get fearful if I get no response for a long period of time. if I have done something to make someone not want to be around me, I would want to address this and fix it if possible. unlike most people who would rather run away from something like this to avoid awkwardness, and I am by far more stubborn than that. If something is bothering me or a problem arises, I would would dwell and tackle this issue head on until LONG after it is truely dealt with. If I don't, it will never leave my head. Never. running away from an issue only does me harm and I prefer to tackle it as soon as possible even if it does increase my anxiety. I am just wierd like that.

[@DiamondWisps]

this hit too close to home. had an issue for years. every relationship ended in heartbreak and perpetuated the cycle of fear of abandonment. we pinned down anxious attachment style as an issue but now it makes sense as it's more than just that. the fear of abandonment is just too heavy and with all our mental disorders it's nearly impossible to handle. our current partner has been an angel with the issue. Being the first person who could understand it and care abt it instead of pushing it to the sidelines just for it to worsen.

[@Psych2go]

Summarized beautifully :)

[@Zekes_life]

Honestly this is what I needed because I have been feeling kinda lost in my head and I wanted to know if I am obsessive. I want to change that cause it seems like it's ruining my relationship. I didn't really receive much love from my parents so when I got into a relationship I felt that it is something that I can't lose. It is so bad to the point where I don't know how to be myself around my partner. But I'm trying to be a better person not just to my partner but to myself as well.

[@betteralphaadvice1567]

You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”

[@theguardianslair529]

Im starting to think that u guys are stalking me, everytime im going through something u upload that very thing

[@Anankitapaul]

Love your videos!!

[@anartistcalledlucy9499]

Man, I'm struggling so hard at the moment with dealing with an obsessive crush I have.... And the worst fact is that it's on my teacher, shes so beautiful, and I absolutely love her even though I don't know much about her. I am depressed and stuggle with anxiety, and I depend on her for happinesses. I wish I wasn't a kid and so I could at least have a chance , but no. It's not right , and I don't know how to help myself anymore, it's only a matter of time before I can't take it anymore... , Thanks for reading all this if you made it to the end. You are a great person and I hope you are doing well x

[@elephas_unknown]

This whole video just described my whole love style, and also my partner in high school did this to me. I told her I wasn't a jealous type, but it got to the point where the roles got reversed and i got extremely jealous. Our whole relationship was so childish that things went really downhill. I was quite depressed and sad. They mostly manipulated me the whole time, and i was so blinded by it. I really thought my partner loved me, and they took advantage of me physically and emotionally. I get so infatuated with a person so easily, and it sooooo bad.

[@ashtondillard6906]

Welp since everyone else is venting their feelings I might as well give it a go. I was talking to this girl for a good month or so and really really liked her. Like this was the first time in years since I’ve connected with someone like this. I was just enjoying being there for her and coming over to her house and learning more about her. I would unconsciously spend a shit ton of money on her everywhere we went and ENJOYED doing it. It was like I was in a trance with her. That feeling quickly became negative tho as when we weren’t hanging out I would always expect a text or immediately text her when I get home(she is a hardcore introvert and needs time for herself without feeling obligated to reply to someone) whenever I wasn’t texting her and getting constant reassurance that we were all good I would have a panic attack. Eventually I straight up asked her if she thinks we are gonna work and she replied honestly she doesn’t think so and broke it off with me. I got super toxic and was trying my hardest to manipulate her to stay(Ik I sound like an asshole it was like hard to control what I was saying) she originally wanted me to stay in her life as a friend because she really liked me but after me acting like a toxic asshole she decided it would be best if we don’t talk at all at least until I change my clingy obsessive behavior. It all makes me deeply sad as I would say I was genuinely really good to her, I would bring her gifts, flowers, take her on dates, watch her fav movies with her etc but it all came to a end because I was self sabotaging the relationship because of my obsessiveness and not giving her breathing room. I have some mental shit I’m working through rn. It’s been a week since I talked to her. I’m probs gonna wait another 2 weeks before making contact again. I’m gonna take this time to make me more independent.

[@lefrenchshleep993]

ay i wish you luck mate. sorry you went through that. i went through something similar but not too similar just a week ago lmao. i hope it all works out for you.

[@ashtondillard6906]

@@lefrenchshleep993 thanks man

[@lefrenchshleep993]

@@ashtondillard6906 np lol

[@hank2586]

Hihii!! Another great video :DDD

[@mynamespeyton]

I have a crush on my best friend and I needed to know if the way I had a crush on her was healthy or not. Seeing this video I kinda got a reality check that shes allowed to have other friends and talk to people other than me. I just want to say thank you for making this video, I’m going to try to fix the way I feel so my feelings towards her are healthy. Maybe when I’m in the right headspace I can confess. Once again, thank you. :D

[@Valfheim]

I've never been part of a relationship, never even got as far as dating. But It I think it's likely I'd end up somewhat obsessive. controling or jealousy is an absolute no, but most of the others I feel like I'd be prone too. It's sort of what living so lonely for so long, and wanting a connection the whole time, does to you. Its hard to not see any sort of relationship, even if a new friendship, as something extremely important when you've had so little chances to be something to someone. You elevate them because to you, its extremely rare. I get the feeling that those things will end up in me going overboard if it ever does happen. In a desperate attempt to pull something back from the chronically lonely existence I've lived.

[@Ts1rka4]

Couldn't say better about myself. This description is so accurate.

[@NathalieLazo]

If you’re watching this, I pray everything works out for you! ~❤️Nat

[@giovannao.7073]

Thank you so much! I just needed to hear that!

[@Psych2go]

Glad it was helpful! Did you relate to the video?

[@giovannao.7073]

@@Psych2go I did. Sadly 😥

[@haaa8915]

Yk’know, the fact that all these points given from the video really work for me is one thing-- But the fact that’s with many videos in channel this is kinda scaring me. .-.

[@DailyDrivenProjects]

This explains a lot.... Just a month too late😭 it's ok tho I've found someone else and I'm glad you have me aware for her

[@whatsonurmind]

I’m obsessed. Sm. I love her.

[@doggowantssauce]

I feel like you precisely described my last relationship in the 6th type. My ex-gf had untreated anxiety, she felt extremely lonely in her life, and she had a lot of past wounds. As I tried to help her, she confessed her love and for three months we had a complicated relationship. While I tried to help her and convince her to seek help from a psychologist, she just became so attached to me that I literally couldn't find time to anything else without making her extremely upset. At the end of the 2nd month I felt drained to the point I was the one in need of seeking help from a psychologist. Our relationship ended in January, when I called her out for her behavior. She got offended and angry, and told me to never speak to her again...

[@yukitaboo39]

Man this KZbin channel of psych2go is really helpful gives me advice of how to handle anxiety stuff and stress emotional and all it’s really amazing how she talks about how to deal such things that’s why this channel of hers if she is a girl that is is really incredibly good this is gonna change my life especially since I have to live with my stress and anxiety a lot often

[@melaniemartin4319]

Why🌸🌸🌺🌺

[@yukitaboo39]

@@melaniemartin4319 well because I have anxiety which I get chest pain quite often these days

[@75julianne]

Also, look up Othello syndrome or morbid jealousy if you’re interested in this topic.

[@SanrioHorror]

I don’t think i quite meet the criteria for the obsessive love style but i have the potential if I’m not careful so this video definitely helps a lot.

[@jenna9231]

Wonderful video. Also, Calming voice.

[@_Alle_gator_]

I already knew I was obsessive over not only people I like but my friends. I've been trying to stop but it's pretty difficult to be honest.

[@claireschweizer4765]

yep

[@luxraygaming2300]

So, I feel almost every point of this video... but for my ex. I loved my ex girlfriend dearly, and I tried to do everything I could for her. Eventually, she decided to break up with me because I was honestly too obsessive with wanting to make her happy. My problem is I still feel this way, even though she's my ex... we've remained as friends since then, but I find myself feeling jealous when she has another partner... I've had crushes on other girls before, but none of them worked out for various reasons. It's been three years since we broke up, and I still regret all the mistakes I made. Sorry for the long read, I just wanted to try and warn some people to not be like me. Both people in a relationship need their own space. Try to remember that.

[@gabileogabilei594]

We have the same struggles, dude. We may not be able to change our past actions and the damage we inflicted to our past relationships, but we can still strive to become aa better partner to our future relationships. Cheers to a journey of growth!

[@luxraygaming2300]

@@gabileogabilei594 Cheers to you as well man, thanks for the kind words!

[@Dreidyn]

I have this and I lost the one i loved because of this... Thank you for making me aware

[@wisdomeziulo1137]

This video just described my life. I struggle with everything mentioned everyday of my life 😢

[@Sygmus6]

I’ve never dated and gotten so used to feeling unlikeable, the moment someone shows me affection I just know I’m gonna go full-on Yuri from Doki Doki Literature Club. Minus the unseemly parts (hopefully).

[@PyramidCrow]

I have the same problem

[@kedits2583]

I relate to a lot of these and now I just feel guilt.

[@GamesTutorials_]

You are in this moment the way you are in this moment by your past and present circumstances. You can't change it inmediately, so instead of feeling guilty try to walk progressively towards what you want to be

[@TheNonameHousehold]

Great video! I didn't even know what mania was or it's existence before this video 😁😶🤭

[@schiz70]

Always love your videos thank you for them

[@Psych2go]

Glad you like them :) Did you resonate with this video?

[@quietone610]

"My Fantasy [fantasy] has turned to madness [turned to madness], and all my goodness has turned to badness [turned to badness]. / My need to possess you has consumed my soul; / my life is trembling--I have no control." --Animotion

[@mukta4689]

Wow which song

[@quietone610]

This song is called "Obsession".

[@iluvcoffee.13]

Pysch2go, I have a video suggestion! Can you make a video of signs someone has a crush on you even though you don’t talk to them?

[@jamielaw4749]

Just assume they have a crush on you and go talk to them :)) or, if that's too scary, next time you see them, make eye contact and wave and smile confidently, so they know you were waving at them and it'd be rude if they don't wave back

[@iluvcoffee.13]

@@jamielaw4749 thank you! I’ll try that the next time I see them :D

[@kroxpert-w-6543]

This video is very helpful, I currently have to go through a breakup and this video let me really see what I did wrong

[@toxkys]

From how much I relate to this vid Yes, I do need my gf a lot and I always look up to her Knowing that I also has never had such a relationship like me and her have before I may be obsessed in many ways with her but I never am extremely or at all possessive of her or what she has going on with her life I let her have her own privacy when it's needed Let her eat, drink and do what she wants Let's her hang out with friends and more I never want to hold her against having a life with others I trust her with all my heart, she's an amazing person, My worries about her cheating on me and stuff are going down because of how much trust I'm gaining from her over the years.

[@mikoswhackgameandstuffvids480]

Some of this is me, with my friend, I've been obsessed with her for 5 years. But I was never jealous or co dependant. But some of the others was a mix. And I think to myself, am I her friend because I like her or it's just the obsession that's her friend. I'm over the obsession since a long time now but I feel guilty that I don't have love for her anymore. I guess the obsession was her friend.

[@anramsingh]

Yup, this is all true. I've ruined my relationship with my perfect girl because of all of the above!

[@warfu_]

Careful on not blaming yourselves if you ever get to that kind of loving because the cause can't be personality itself, but also the result of something else happening in your life. I was there. When the pandemic lockdown hit in 2020 and all my life spheres were destroyed, I attached too much to the last one remaining: my crush. Became codependent and obsessed to the point I got angry many times he wouldn't put attention to me because, well, he wasn't having a good time in lockdown too and I was too obsessed to see it. I realized about this by the start of 2021 and with communication, we've been exercising the distance I know I had to take and I still am up to this day in 2022. I'm not dependent anymore and I realized my problem is I needed to get back on my life spheres once again to start the habit of thinking about different things. I decided too that if I couldn't do it myself (I'm improving step by step though), I'd take therapy because I finally knew this was the reason.

[@kevplays9879]

Super awesome animation!!! So sad to see Yussie go .. :'(

[@thomaspowerlifting]

The video I’ve been looking for! This is definitely me. Any tips on how I can fix behaviors like this? It’s never gotten to the point where I’ve been abusive as I usually keep these feelings to myself but I don’t want it to ever get to that point. Any help is appreciated

[@jahoytodiesforahoy4615]

Unfortunately, its one of those things that just has to be managed and can't be cured. Therapy for the rest or majority of your life will help the most. Hope you find peace my friend.

[@Psych2go]

We can make a video about tips if you would like!

[@thomaspowerlifting]

@@Psych2go just saw this comment and thank u for the reply! Would love that, had a messy year and wanna change my bad habits. You guys are the reason I’m going into psychology btw, so thank you for making videos! All love

[@playlistoffans2725]

Smh why can't we all just find a person who's obsessive as well? 😒

[@Psych2go]

smh... hehe

[@nespon4877]

i haven’t watched it yet but i bet it’ll be cool!

[@patches1205]

Eyyy this is the earliest I've been in my life! How are you?

[@tasyafatihah661]

My bf : *taking a nap for 5 hours* Me : he don't love me anymore Being in a long distance relationship is hard 😭🙏