6 Strategies to Conquer Codependence! |Shannon Petrovich LCSW

[@daviddolan4033]

I watched again and if I made mistakes I made the big ones!! I remain proud of me in spite of the Narc drama+. I was given one option after years of pain and finally shut down at a worn out 45 yrs old. My new job was stay at home dad (best I could be) and retirement was a hard one. My kids getting well into teens I came to be the adopted dad from the neighbourhood kids who nicknamed me Mr. D!!! This was the greatest help to me and my new distraction from my now gone nuts wife Narc. It allowed me to stay grounded and enjoy life which I look back as another layer of sanity protection that allowed me good times during the Narc crazy period. We do have choices and it is what we chose that as I experienced - give to people with no expectations and I would get 10x back in such unpredictable ways. A 6 year old would return to show she remembered 10 years later which still brings tears of joy years later...

[@amac2573]

Thanks David. Was inspirational to read.

[@leilanib9265]

Now my eyes are opened. Time to do the tough work. Thank you so much

[@tracigermano]

Wow you are gifted perfectly said and Perfect rhythm not to slow or fast

[@daviddolan4033]

You make good videos and then great thought prevoking ones!! Again I return as I think and process the messages contained within. Good on you Shannon!! Just to put my pennies on the table I very much lived my life as a non follower but one willing to do the hard work to gain personal satisfaction. Then came the children and the blooming of my EX the sick Narc which things would change for me and the kids too. What I hope to find in a partner that believes in honesty, integrity and honour which I believe in two way communication as my deal breaker. If I do this I have a chance to live my life to the fullest but felt proud in what I could accomplish with raising MY children, giving them their chances.

[@kellyleighread807]

If you are going to spend time alone. You should like yourself.

[@hoth1009]

I'm sure I wasnt codependent prior to a relationship with a narcissist. I love being on my own and am happy with me, therefore I have no idea why I turned into a wreck being with him, yet couldn't leave!?!

[@TherapistTalks]

Trauma bonding is a gradual process and a powerful thing. You may want to watch the two videos on Trauma Bonding; 10 questions to ask yourself, and Strategies to Get Free. Best to you, Shannon

[@mommabear5059]

Hoth 100 I totally get that. The difference between me and my life and behavior before the narc is like night and day. I often asked myself, “what did I do?”, “where did I make the wrong turn?”, “how did I get here?”, “how did I not see him for who he was?”

[@stanpuzio2877]

thank you so much for your videos!! you are truly a godsend in my life!!

[@TherapistTalks]

Thank you, Stan, glad these are helpful! Best to you, Shannon

[@midnightraiin4035]

i love Leo Buscaglia. thanks for bringing him up. i remember that line (a grape wanting to be a melon).

[@b52270]

Excellent!!!!

[@leeboriack8054]

Thank you for your videos and caring to share.

[@drgeraldinesanjay2139]

Thanks Shannon Very loving way to manage relationships

[@torrihoward9729]

Huge weight lifted off me especially as I begin enjoying spending time with me. Hour getting nails done, feet done, hair done, etc. Dinner with my self is amazing 😍

[@meera2531]

One of your best videos...all of your videos are succinct, to the point and detailed. You're a gift! ❤️

[@leilanib9265]

It struck me when you said “when you start to feel less than whole fill yourself up before regrouping” can you do a video expounding on identifying triggers to be cognizant of that make one slipback into codependency, fears etc and what that regrouping looks like? The challenges, and do you ever get to a place where you’re completely interdependent without having to mentally and emotionally work as hard at it?

[@daviddolan4033]

I see myself as a codependent with a strong twist. I have dealt with severe chronic pain with no complaint but my coping tool is displacing unreal pain over decades to make eternal sense of taking it for my children, my family. Doing it for others allowed me to keep my focus on why I deal with pain with a smile and appreciation for those in my life and around it too. My goal was to neber burden others with what I can do for myself no matter how difficult Not a good fit for my EX wife heavyweight Narc - at least the major ramping of abuse only took life in 2004 until my spell was obliterated untill 2010 and 5+ year divorce. (Don't divorce a sick woman Narc when the victim has dealt with a tough medical himself after a big accident.) Off point? Great advice all around and filling in the wide gaps we struggle to overcome even after saying, "Wish I never said I do so many years ago"....

[@torrihoward9729]

I agree 💯👊 The sickness is real and so is the struggle. After 18 years of marriage Time to let go and never look back. Even through the friends and family we both enjoyed being around... I deserve being WHOLE 💪🙏

[@daviddolan4033]

@@torrihoward9729 As you discover your real you - you will see common truths in people's comments. Why you are here is unknown but my 25 years is now 4 years post a five year divorce and today I learn a great deal of truth. Perception comes in many flavours which you will see when ready. Good chance your public time wasn't really all that real?? Like a show or facade put on by your once partner which sounds like you have begun what will be the hardest best journey of your life!!!

[@foxtrotA1]

Leo Buscaglia. Haven’t heard his name for awhile. The first self-help speaker! Well one of the first. Love your vids❤️🙏👍🏽

[@godzillamanstreb524]

Thank you, I am recovering from moderate CD - this video helps😃

[@Jam-m7m]

Thanks

[@jaycraford898]

I love you! Thank you

[@laraparks7018]

Thank you you're great

[@MediaEnslavedNation]

I wish you were my mom.

[@nancyworflar6109]

Do you have a video about what happens when a narrissant dates or they marry another narrissant? Could this happen, because I know they attract Empaths. Thank you🙏

[@TherapistTalks]

It doesn't happen as often because they want someone who will focus on them, but when they do, it's a circus to be sure. I've had a few couples like this in marriage counseling and it soon becomes clear there is no resolving anything since neither will ever acknowledge or own their part in any conflict. Best, Shannon

[@destinyandpurpose]

So is it possible to have NPD and be a codependent?

[@majalovric6920]

Yes...

[@AnikaDavidson]

Do you offer online counselling via Skype?

[@TherapistTalks]

Licensing regs say therapist has to be licensed in state they reside in AND the state the client resides in. I'm licensed in AZ and HI so residents in those states are only people I can see. Best, Shannon

[@AnikaDavidson]

@@TherapistTalks Thats too bad. It would be great if you could offer your services worldwide.Thanks for the youtube videos though!

[@lisarochwarg4707]

Once upon a time, codependence was mandatory for females in the US. It wasn't codependency; it was just the norm. Codependency made women "feminine."

[@TherapistTalks]

This is so true; the old psych hospitals were FULL of women who would not do what was expected, and they were often medicated and ECT'd into submission or simply kept there for decades. Best to you, Shannon